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Virtue of what you guys are looking for, you don't look for an equal. So I'm not going to treat you like an equal, cuz that's not what you're looking for. You expect me to be better than you in every regard. I attract you, and then I'm going to listen to you bend over. It's like, "yes, baby, I listen to yourself." You want to see, "I am are you really?" Yeah, I think they all are, cuz that sounds crazy to me. Slow it down, slow. You want a man that's superior to you, but you want to be equal to him. Okay?
Do you think a man's standards and a woman's standards are the same when it comes to relationships? Yes or no? Yes or no? Let me make it simpler: yes or no? Yes. Yeah. You think men and women have the same standards in relationships? Do we look for the same thing in each other, like down to the basics? Yeah, like yeah, like a down basic list? Yes or no? Yes. What are the similarities then? Okay, well, you obviously want to be attracted to them. You obviously want them to have like a job and have like something going for them. You want them to have a good relationship with their family. You want them to like want the same things as you; like if you want a family in the future, you want them to have the same wants, you know what I mean? Like those are all basic. But are we attracted to the same things? Men and women, do we look for the same features in the opposite gender? Y'all be dumb. Y'like men are a little dumb, so like you guys, you guys have that like you guys have a little bit lower standards, like your wife, somebody that is like not wifeable, but like we really like want to like husband, like a husband, you know? Like we really want someone that is like… So men's standard, men have lower standards than women do, right? Yes. We have less standards. So then the guess answer is no. Okay, we don't have the same standards. Okay, what about you? Do you agree with that? The answer is no. Men and women don't have the same standard. The answer is no. Okay, what about you? No, no, no, no, no. Okay. Would it be fair to say that we have less standards than you guys do? Yeah. Okay. Would it be fair to say that the standards that we have, since we have less, matter more? No.
Okay, let's go through the numbers here. Women, let's say, have 10 different standards that they look for in a man. Men only have three, right? Wouldn't it make sense that those three standards that we have have a lot more weight than the 10 different standards you have? If you have 10 things, maybe if you get nine out of 10 you'll be happy, but with us it's like, okay, we only have three standards and you missed one; that's kind of a big problem. Yeah. Would you agree with that? Yeah, but your lip should be wider a little bit. Okay, thanks. Okay, should be wider, but okay. Do you agree with that? Agree. What about that? I agree. Yeah, agreed. Yeah, yeah. All right. What do you think is the biggest standard that men care about? If we had to pick one thing from our girlfriend, what's the number one thing that we need? All right, you know what? Like cleanliness, I guess, and like laziness. Laziness and cleanliness; like you can't be lazy or dirty, straight up. You think that's the number one thing guys want from a girl? Bro, if you are… if you… she has everything else, but the [ __ ] is dirty, like come on, [ __ ] [ __ ] dirty [ __ ]. Yeah, all day. Think is the number one thing that guys look for in a girl? The number one most paramount thing? This might be controversial… silence. Uh, okay. Okay, I like that. What about you? What do you think is the number one thing that guys look for in a girl? Respect, or like someone who listens. I would say… okay, so which one is it? Respect or… silence? Sorry, respect or… respect. Okay. How would they show that respect? Cuz respect is a very broad term. How would they actually personify it? Um, being respectful, actually, like hearing you out, listening. Okay, by listening. What about you? What do you think is the number one thing that men look for in girls? I think uh, a girl who like respects them. How would they show that respect? As in, like… let's say, let's say he pays all your bills and he handles everything he has to handle, right? For the woman to like uh, cook for him and do his laundry and all that. I think that's respectful. So house chores? Yeah, right. What about you? Um, I would just say like becoming like the perfect helpmate, um, just being available. I don't know. Interesting. Okay. What about you? I think mostly how a woman makes that man feel, because if that man has no… no peace, he ain't… he ain't staying. You can do everything in the book, but if there's no peace, he's not staying. He's going to go out the door. And how does she create peace then, in your opinion? I don't know. Just to each own. All right, crazy man. I was going to say that mothering nature… like you know, guys, they put on this hard show all day, and then they just want to be able to come home and like relax off with the girl. Interesting. Okay. Um, you guys, what's your standards? Are you going to… um, are you going to concede on any of your standards with men? Are you going to like, hey, if he's not… if it's not him [ __ ] that I want, I have my standards, I'm going to stick to my standards. Are you going to lower your standards? No. Nope. So I feel like men unravel themselves… since I'm asking you as a woman, not the guys… you have your standards, are you going to lower your stand… you shouldn't… you're not going to. Okay. What about you? Are you lowering your standards? Um, I'm going to sit here and probably be the most honest here on this podcast and let y'all know that women lower their standards… but are you going to? Yes, you will. I may, because I'm grown, I'm almost… I am, and I may because that's what women do. She don't look… it doesn't matter if I look it or not. Women lower their standards on a daily basis for men, period. Especially older… it doesn't have anything to do with my age, it just has… the women as human beings, we lower our standard, you know what I'm saying? It doesn't… but that's okay. You trying to rough up my feathers, baby. I'm very comfortable in my age. Tell them. Tell them. Yeah, Queen Chris. You have anything else you want to say? No, man. She a queen, man. Absolutely. That's Chris in it back there. What about you? Um, are you going to lower your standards ever? I have, and I will. All right. What about you? I have. Nope. Are you going to lower them more? No, not more. Okay. What does your man do? Know again. He said blue collar. Bro. Blue… cheating? No, no, no. You're not lowering. Okay. What about you? Are you standards? No. Nope. Okay. What about you? You lower your standards? I have before, but now… are you going to do it again? No. She's so young, so you know it's fine. It's really… and I asked all those questions to kind of get an idea of like where you lady stand, and it's very obvious that you guys don't know anything about men. The number one thing… yeah, you guys are [ __ ] clueless, with all due respect. And… and it's scary because you… some of you guys have boyfriends or guys that you're trying to have take you seriously. And I would say the number one thing that a man is interested in is you being a [ __ ]. Because if you're a [ __ ] and you go and have sex with another guy, that's the biggest problem. And having male friends allows that to potentially happen, because we're not stupid. We understand… I mean, I find it interesting how a lot of you don't have female friends. I have female friends. You don't. Yeah, you don't have… you don't have female friends, right? I do. I do. Yeah, but… or you guys speak negatively on them, but then you guys expect… you guys think it's so… that men want to have female friends. If you guys don't even want female friends, what makes you think we really want to have female friends? The only reason men have female friends is so that we can get sexual access to you guys, because the reality is that you guys are fairly useless in many things. You don't know how to attract women, is clearly shown. Neither can you. We showed that already. You guys aren't going to spend money on us a lot of the times. You guys don't identify with our problems. You guys don't understand our struggles. Hell, you guys don't even know what our standards are. You guys could even express it. It's reciprocating… that's where… that's where you're wrong. I'm going to explain that here in a second. That's where you're completely wrong, it's with what I… what you just said, but I'll explain that here in a second. So the number one thing that men look for is loyalty, not being a [ __ ]. Everything else comes from that: peace and food and subservient helpmate. All the other crap that you guys said, that's like second, third, fourth, fifth down the list, but if the girl's a [ __ ] and cheats on you, that's the biggest betrayal. Okay, that's number one. So a standard, right? Cuz like a lot of you guys said, well, oh, I don't think it's controlling or whatever it may be. I think that's a standard that a man has when he says, oh, I don't want you to have guy friends. That's a standard, just like you guys saying he needs to make this much money or be this… etc. Men and women are different, so our standards aren't going to be the same. You guys have a lot of standards that have to do with the man's ability to provide. Our standards are: is this girl going to be loyal? You having a guy friend shows a level of disloyalty, so that's a standard for a lot of men. But I find it interesting how girls will take men's standards and try to say it's controlling, but then if I say… but… but that's within your control. You can control if you have friends, right? But I can't control if I'm 6 ft tall. I can't control if I'm extremely good-looking or not, or have a certain jawline, or if I'm a certain skin color, because last time I checked, girls disqualify you on [ __ ] that you can't even control. Shoes… shoes… like… like some of that you can control, but a lot of it you can't control: your height, the way you look, [ __ ] like that. But when we tell girls, hey, we want you to curb certain behavior, you guys say that's controlling, but that isn't your control. So if we tell you, don't be a [ __ ] [ __ ], that's controlling. Don't have guy friends, that's controlling. No, it's a standard. And I think the higher status a man is, the more standards he's going to have. And here's the other thing too, cuz you said that you should be able to tell the guy to cut his girlfriends off… no. And the reason why is because men are leaders. We tell you what to do, not the other way around. I'll be damned if I let a woman boss me around and tell me what it is. Last I have to check… I have to be attractive to even get you in the first place, make a certain amount of money, have a certain level of confidence, rise through the ranks to become an attractive man. What the [ __ ] do I look like listening to someone who's inferior to me? And that's how I really do look at women. You guys are inferior to us in many degrees. That's why no one watches women's sports. That's why you guys are weaker than us. That's why you guys are shorter than us. It's why you guys make less money than us. It's the reality. Okay, women aren't inferior to men in many things. That's why you guys look for a man who's superior to you. You want a guy who's taller, makes more money, more charismatic, more charming, etc. If you really think about it, everything a woman looks for in a man is for someone that's better than her. So what the [ __ ] do I look like listening to you? Nothing is reciprocal in a male and female relationship. I tell you what it is, because that's my standard, and then you choose to adhere to it or not. And if you don't want to stick to it, then you're single. Yep. That… I don't know, but I just find it interesting that like girls think that you can dictate terms, like if you're with a guy and you can tell him to do something… he's a [ __ ]. Yeah. Oh [ __ ]. How? What do you mean? How? What do you mean? How you're submissive to your girl? How… how are you a [ __ ]? By definition, means you're… if you're submissive to your girl, you are a [ __ ]. You're a [ __ ]. You tell your man… own… yeah, you tell your man shave his beard… shaves his beard… you tell your man to get a new job… he gets a new job… is not being your [ __ ]. How is that being a [ __ ]? If you want better… I think there's limits… there's limits… like I'm not going to tell you do that, but like there's certain stuff like, hey, babe, you need to like do this… like for your… can you… you should… you should like… if you don't do it, I'm not going to like cut you off and like, oh my God, but like I'm giving you advice as your partner, not as a woman or as a man, like as your partner that I'm living my day-to-day life with you, I'm going to tell you you should do this, it will be better for you, but not like cut your hair off. So let's say you're giving your man some advice that you think is good, right? He can follow or… he can follow or not follow it, right? But we're just saying, for example… but let's say you say, okay, go do this XYZ, and he does everything that you say… what's that being…? That's not being a [ __ ]. So what is being a [ __ ]? So… no, no… the… so you're telling me… you're telling me if I'm telling my man something, he's a [ __ ] because he listens? Unrealistic. Multiple times. Unrealistic… ises… he compes… so hold on… hold on… you're telling your man XYZ to do all the time… let's… let's cut the… an example… how does that make him a [ __ ]? No, no, no. Cut the grass… cut the grass… cut… say example… cut his beard… cut work hours… take you out… first… I don't require that… have more of a realistic example… the man tells you what to do because he's the leader, he's the boss, but you're not going to tell me what to do every time… like what if my man… no… what if my man told me not to come here today… we're going to…ak you… you should come here… you should come… why come? He said… so cuz he [ __ ] said… I said so too. Okay, so do you think you and your man are equal? Men are… I mean, are you going to give me a reasoning? Yes, we're equal. If I… if I told him I feel like this, and he tells me I feel like this, it's equal. All right, go [ __ ], and then your… your bag will be outside when you come back. That's my house. If you… if you love your man, right, and you respect him… yeah, would you care what he wants you to do? Of course. So as a leader… for reciprocated… like I said, we'll take your opinion, but as a man, you got to do what you got to do, right? Yeah, but as a woman too, right? No, cuz men… Parise… are we equal in a marriage? You should be equal. Yeah. What do you mean? But you're not… the man is providing for you, right? No. So you got to become his… the man doesn't always provide… the man… are you guys 50/50 on your bills? 50/50? Yeah, we are. There you go. That's your answer. There's answer… that's why she… she does… so now he's better cuz he pays the bills… like what? No, but here's the thing. Okay, so women have an issue with understanding this, but let me explain it very nicely for you guys. So if you're responsible for something, that means you have authority over it. Uh-huh. So authority and responsibility go together. So if I'm responsible for taking care of you, right, and you're my girl, that means I have authority over you. I can tell you what to do, cuz I'm the leader and I'm responsible for you. But that makes you better… that makes you better… better… that's just your opinion… wrong… on God… wait… wait… wait… who… okay… huh… this is not my opinion, this is biological fact. Why do women… that men are better? No… what I'm telling you is that by virtue of you being a female, okay, and getting with a man, you look for traits and characteristics that are superior to your own. They're different. I give you an example: you want a man that's taller than you. You want a man that's stronger than you. You want a man that's smarter than you. You want a man that makes more money than you. You want a man that has more confidence than you, more ambitious than you, has more world experience than you. To me, that sounds like being better in every [ __ ] regard. So then you get with this man… find man that are both… no, they're not, because as the woman… and I'll tell you why… if I find a girl that's a doctor, guess what? She wants… she wants a guy that's a doctor that makes more than her… a surgeon… she wants a guy that's more experienced than her. So as women go… up the totem pole, they want a man that's higher than them every single time. So what I'm saying is that by a virtue of what you guys are looking for, you don't look for an equal. So I'm not going to treat you like an equal, cuz that's not what you're looking for. So you expect me to be better than you in every regard. I attract you, and then I'm going to listen to you bend over. It's… yes, baby, I guess listen to yourself. If you want to see, "I am are you really?" Yeah, I think they all are. That sounds crazy to me. Slow down, slow. You want a man that's superior to you, but you want to be equal to him in respect. Yes. But should you make more and provide and all this [ __ ] eventually? Yeah, but like if you're young, you're still like getting your [ __ ] together, then how do you… how should a woman still be there for you when you're still like coming up? He's better than you. I am… to… let me get this straight… he's better than you in every regard? No, he's not. I just said that… her… she's put… that's your dude. I'm not talking about your dude. I'm not talking about my dude either. We talk… dude… I'm talking about men in general. We're not talking about… I'm talking about men in general… like girls look for a guy that's better than them in like certain aspects, but the same… almost every aspect… but the same way that you're looking for a woman and you're like, I want my woman to have this and this and this… that stuff you don't have either… cuz… because we're different. What… good… that's my point too… we're not the same. We agreed… no, we don't… no, we don't… then you just disagree with me cuz I… I just said we agreed… what do you even know what you're arguing… what… B… but like… b… b… like I just got lost… my nail though… yeah, my nails though… my nails though… click clack… you just said… okay… that like women want someone like inferior… yeah, but like… again… there's certain stuff… women have… you ever had a… Dre… that are more inferior… I like that meme… that's my favorite meme… did you just hear yourself what you just said? Women want men that are more inferior… superior… superior… what's inferior… then the opposite… all right… superior… that you… you slow it down… you… are you… you… minutes ago… what the [ __ ] are you talking about? Oh [ __ ]… listen… y'are funny… for… wait… wait… wait… wait… but she's engaged… let's go back to what the [ __ ]… she's engaged… oh… why is that a question? See the… R… so what y'saying… because… what we've always said… women don't have to be competent to get attention from men, but men have to be competent to get attention from women. We are not the same. I'm telling you the truth. You don't know the difference between inferior and superior. You're not a competent individual. There… you got me… like I just said… I just said like… no… yeah, but that's my… that's precisely my point… women can get sexual access to men and get a relationship… in your case, get engaged… almost married… while being incompetent, versus… I guarantee your man probably knows how… you think men are… if I just didn't know that word… like how dumb do you think y'all are? Not you guys… as in… y'all… like men… men are so dumb… what the [ __ ]? Yes, men are stupid. I agree with you. But… but women can be dumber… we could all be stup… the point is this… if a man is stupid, he deals with consequences for that… he can't get girls… he can't make money… he becomes a loser… there's consequences of being a stupid guy, but there's no consequences of being a stupid girl… hence… you… you have a man right now and you're engaged… no… my… I could… tell me… I'm being… your IQ was… is easily double digits… no offense… yeah… fact… so… but you still are engaged… yep… so that's what I'm trying to say… women don't have to be competent to get a relationship… men do… well… well, she made it to being stupid, so I mean… for a second there… like… no, no… that's long-term [ __ ]… long-term… my [ __ ]… yo… okay… listen… listen… we… yeah… like… bro… holy… anyway… that was fun… for you… for you… thank you… I appreciate it… so anyway… this is why I genuinely don't think that anything is reciprocal between men and women. I think men dictate the terms, and then women choose if they want to stand alongside it. Now here's the thing: the more attractive the man, the better he is, the more terms he can have, and the stronger he can be with his standards. For example, I don't negotiate with women. I treat you guys… terrorist… I don't negotiate with y'all. This is what it is… we could tell… this is… this is what… what I expect… this is how you approach… so your girlfriend… you'll tell her… wait… wait… wait… I want to… give me a demonstration… like I want to go somewhere you don't want me to go… and [ __ ]… you're not going… I don't say that… I don't… here the thing… no seriously… like if it's someone like your woman… someone you actually cared about… whatever… sleep with every night… like how you be like… no… I mean… not… I mean… I know he's smart… she's smart enough… she's smart enough to not even ask or go to these places… we're asking about you guys… I just told you she's smart enough to know not even go to these places… she's proactive… she proactive… she understands, right?… that like… oh… what her man wants… this is probably not intelligent for me to go to a nightclub where there's going to be a bunch of drunk guys trying to get at me… how would she know that?… but… Fresh Martin… what… what precedence do you set in place for her to know… okay… that's a question… beginning of your dating… how do you… how do you nip that in the butt or like how do you like approach that for a woman to be like… okay… well I know my… wouldn't want this… well for one, I don't commit to a girl… uh… she's six months to a year… is like a vetting phase, right? So I'm not even going to give her the opportunity to be my girlfriend until like there's been a certain amount of time… then on top of that… she just knows… there's certain… guy… women know what guys they could play games with and which ones they can… they know… oh… this guy will get rid of me immediately… rules… this is… are my standards… you comply or… good for [ __ ]… by… and I think if we had more men like this that were willing to stand up to women's [ __ ], women would be happier, because the honesty is this: a woman without instruction is headed for destruction. You guys are terrible decision-makers. You guys do stupid [ __ ], and if we had more strong men out there saying, look, this is my standard, you can rise to it or not… I think more girls would be in line, but they don't. So that's why we have girls… be thoughts in their 20s… they try to find a guy… when they're in their 30s, they… you know… do stupid [ __ ], then they regret it later, etc., because men don't tell women the truth about anything. I agree. So that's what it is… true… so… uh… girls… whatever… I was your man, right? I said, baby… um… can I pay your bill? Right quick… like… can I pay the light bills? Like… you say [ __ ]… just pay it, right? So guys expect girls to be girls, and girls expect guys to be guys. So you wouldn't want your man to be like, oh, well, baby, can I pay the light bills? You want him to do that [ __ ] bro? Yep. So just be a female man? Yeah, I don't know what he said. I am. Thank you. That make sense? It… it doesn't honestly. All right. Chris, you did a shitty job. Let me do it. Yeah, for a man to… godam… bro… co-host… all right… look… it's very simple… let's say we're out at a club, right? And we walk out the club and some dude [ __ ] grabs your purse and runs away, right? Two scenarios: scenario A, I look at you and I say, hey, do you want me to chase him down and go get your purse back? Scenario B, I just go [ __ ] chase his ass down, beat him up, bring the purse back. You… which one did you prefer? B. So you shouldn't have to tell me to be a man, right? Right. No, we all know that. Thank you. So then if I tell you, be a [ __ ] lady… don't go to the club when you have a man… don't be a [ __ ]… don't post pictures… et… but why is it right that I have to [ __ ] tell you to be a lady? You guys don't expect us to… like… we're supposed to do what we're supposed to do… we're supposed to pay the bills, take care of you, etc… some [ __ ] pops off… I don't have to ask… should I be a man here and defend you? Like… no… I just do it… so why is it that I have to tell you, hey, I don't want you to have guy friends… hey, I don't want… want you to go to nightclubs… hey, I don't want you to do XYZ… why do we have to [ __ ] tell you guys to be ladies? Then on top of that, you guys have the audacity to give us an attitude or say you're controlling? No [ __ ]… I'm in control of my life… I don't want whores in my life… you can choose which one… you either have a relationship with a guy that you actually respect that isn't a [ __ ] or B… you go back to the streets and have all the guy friends you want… which one do you want? Right? You disappeared earlier? No, I didn't. All I said… all I said… and this… and this goes back… that's what I was saying before… see… the whole concept of reciprocation that you were trying to say… and you… who else was trying… you too… that's why nothing is reciprocal, because I had to put my life on a line to defend you. So what the [ __ ] do I look like listening to you and telling you, oh well, you know, I need to explain myself about having guy friends? It's my way or the highway, cuz my life's on the line. If your life's on the line, I'm going to protect you. I have to be willing to put my life on the line to protect you. So you're damn right I'm not going to explain myself to you. I don't explain myself to women because you guys are… subservient to me… you follow me… every single religion… it's the beginning of time… women are to be subservient to their man… they're supposed to follow their man… you are the aid… you are not the head… you follow what I say… and if you don't, then go back to the streets. And I think if we had more men like this that were willing to put their foot down with rambunctious stupid females, we'd be in a better position. Some of y'all need some [ __ ] guidance, no offense. And some of you guys… worse yet… have boyfriends… you guys need to fix your [ __ ] right [ __ ] now if you want to get taken seriously, because the reality is this… especially you… mis… engagement… like if you keep going down… I'm dead ass… you need to fix your attitude… CU… this not… I'm telling you right now… if you don't fix your attitude, y'all are going to get divorced. If you think you're equal to your men in any way, ladies, you're… you're [ __ ] in the head. And I'm telling you guys what men honestly think, but they might not tell you… maybe your guy's not strong enough to tell you… maybe he doesn't want to [ __ ] with the relationship… maybe he wants to just keep getting cheeks… I don't [ __ ] know… but if you listen to what I'm telling you all, you will be in a long-term relationship, and the guy will take you seriously. So I don't know… take whatever you want from that advice… it's up to you. Thank you. Well, you mean your… partial man… cuz not your man yet… okay… yeah… seriously… just… to… much… that like… I listen to my man… like… I never disagree… I'm just saying like… I do want to respect… but I'm about to be… I'm closer to… than anybody here… so I… oh [ __ ]… throw shade… okay… I'm not… but you threw it to me, so I'm just… like… that's not shade… sh… girls… y’… ladies… going to take that… for… I was conversation real quick… what? Sorry… a quick question… so if a woman… like you said you submit to your guy, right? But if the guy is not respectful to his woman… what happens then? Respectful in which way? Like… meaning… like… you know… treats her well… makes sure that she… you know… feels safe in the relationship… like if that is not being a part of his leadership… what does the woman do then? Leave… find another guy… she should leave… so… the wrong guy… and… and to be fair, sometimes you'll choose the wrong guy because you're not aware of what he needs to… done… for example… you're not proactive… how to move with your man… for what he wants… he'll leave… also… women are retards with picking guys… you guys pick the guy that's edgy and cool that doesn't give you any commitment… I mean… you guys… you guys pick the… the… as you guys call it… the [ __ ] boys or whatever… but that's… be… that's because women… like… you guys make really bad decisions when you're young and attractive… and that's why I think arranged marriages used to work for a long time, because your father or your brother would get involved and pick the best mate for you… for a long term… but the problem is that girls don't… he's boring… he's a square… I agree… I… he does have swag… blue… and then just add this point as well… let's say… the wrong guy, right?… all right… heartbreak happens… damn… this guy was a piece of [ __ ]… I'm move on… another bad guy… another heartbreak… more piece of [ __ ]… let's say you meet the right guy… like… damn… no… I don't trust guys anymore… so now he's going to have to deal with your [ __ ] from the past… and you lose him too… because that trauma from the past carries forth into your next relationship… so I'm saying like… choosing the right guy does have impact on your actual like psyche as well.