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This year, we're talking about 2025. I'm going to focus on these three big priorities. Why three? If you have more than three priorities, you don't have any. The tragedy is that at the beginning of the year, all people are super mega optimistic. When we work with long-term desires, we actually work with our future identity. This is especially true for health, prosperity, and relationships.
How do we make the three become reality so that they no longer remain just on paper? Very large components. Andi Seche is the founder of personal development in Romania. Since 1996, he has impacted thousands of people in his career through the 27 books written and over 3000 live events. He possesses the most advanced techniques and principles of organization and planning. Being an architect in education, you need to master these six elements with subject and predicate, i.e., to have motivation, a burning desire to do that, to have the right mentality, to know how to mobilize when you need to, to have the right supporters, the right method for your style, and the right environment.
You wouldn't work with one or two and then be upset that you got a quarter of the result or that you gave up. Let's ritualize the 10 minutes next year in such a way that you are extremely focused and projected into the future to who you want to become. Specifically, not what you want to achieve, but who you want to become. The reason why it's important to know what you want as a priority this year is that you want to meet at the end of the year the person you've become because you accomplished it.
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We are in 2025. Here we are at the beginning of the year. Everyone is curious: how do I organize my year? Maybe with new tools so that it doesn't remain the same eternal list written at the beginning of the year, stuck in a drawer and taken out at the end. Maybe if it's still found, that often it's not found.
The reason why it's important to know what you want as a priority this year is because you want to meet at the end of the year the person you became because you accomplished it. That's why at the end of the year, if you do this, you will be a better version of yourself. You are not yet that. What you really want is to meet yourself at the end of the year, that you managed to do what you set out to do, and you say, "Bravo to me." You say, "It's nice to meet you," and he says, "Come into my arms," and you become one with the same person.
I know it sounds psychopathic and so on, but it's very visual. So what you want is to meet the one you realized, not to meet the one you apologized to. This year was hard; I couldn't, I wasn't able, and so on.
Look, a tragedy that happens: the tragedy is that at the beginning of the year, all people are super mega optimistic. They just exploded fireworks above the Arc de Triomphe and say, "Hey, this year I'm going on a rocket, dad." Be careful. Look, I want to get to Everest. I'll get there in March.
When I compare the trajectory of January, February, March with December, I say, "Only if I'm Elon Musk's rocket can I still get there." So to feel good about myself, what do I do? Let it be good and Kilimanjaro. Again, I start with confidence.
Somewhere around April, it's May, and I need Elon Musk's rocket because otherwise, I have no chance of getting there. I say, "Let it be good and the Man peak," and I start in May with confidence. Somewhere around July, August, I need Elon Musk's rocket because I have no way from here in August to reach the peak.
I say, "Let it be that it's good and the other Polonic," and I keep it that way until I climb a sand dune behind the house and have a picnic with my friends and say, "That's it, that's all, boss." This expression kills me. I confess to you. That's all I could do.
When I hear, "That's all I could do," in my mind, it's like, "Brother, you could do that, not 'That's all I could do.'" The reason why you could do that is because you negotiated Everest the first time. Don't negotiate it. Use frustration because it's harder to scale.
It takes 10 times the energy to get there, but with this attitude, you may not reach Everest, but you will reach Kilimanjaro. Or at least the Man, but not the Man, a villa. You know that means don't reduce the goal just because the journey is harder than you have anticipated.
The way you do it is through ritual because at the end of 2025, you will be in a position to say, "Well, because we succeeded, 2026 will be better," and so on. At the end of 2026, and so on. Otherwise, at the end of 2025, you'll say, "It's downhill from here, brother."
Every time you experience failure and face it with a victim mentality, you turn into an excuse machine. Why not set high goals for yourself next year, I say? With all kinds of justifications: I've gotten old, the world is bad in the political, economic, social environment, and not what it needs to be, and so on.
Each of us, regardless of the external environment, can build an ecosystem around us of success, which may include going elsewhere, making your own bubble with the right people, etc. But we can build a successful ecosystem where, as I said earlier, we travel in accordance with our values and for the benefit of others.
The good news is that although we live in a world of technology and massive socio-political, economic, technological changes, there are some things that don't change, and these are human needs. These are the patterns, the patterns of functioning of the brain; these don't change that quickly.
So disruptive. And then I think we can very well rely on what we know for sure works, but we can come up with new tools or new ways or new interpretations of what works.
I'll come up today for the whole year 2025 with some refinement. What we've told you over time is that we've talked about goals, about journaling, about how to stay on task. But in the past year, I've discovered some new, more nuanced elements that I've put into practice.
I've applied them, and I can come and report that it works better. I tested them with my community, and I'm thrilled with the result. So we're going to reveal some secrets today.
Let's see, you've been curious when it comes to goals. Maybe the most important discovery in the last five or 10 years. And when I say discovery in quotes, it's that if there's an extremely clear image in your head of what you want, and it's loaded with emotion, and you talk positively about that image, at some point, your brain no longer differentiates between what you want or do you imagine what is real because it's the same circuits that we use.
The same circuits in the brain. This can't be done just on paper. Okay, I know what I have to do this year, and like you said earlier, I'm putting them in the drawer, and this is what happens.
Applying a principle that I recommend, and I want to be very specific: 1% of your time should be dedicated to connecting with your future self. 1% compared to a productive day is about 10 minutes. If you take this 10% into account.
But you know what to do in those 10 minutes? 10 minutes in such a way that you are extremely focused and projected into the future on who you want to become. Specifically, not what you want to achieve, but who you want to become.
I'll give you an example. In the morning, we do a 10-minute exercise in which we project ourselves into the future mentally. That is, I accompany people by telling them now, "Imagine yourself in the future. What do you see? What do you hear? What do you feel? Who are you with in three years? What do you do? What is your activity? Who do you accompany? What do you do? Conversations you carry, all kinds of detailed elements."
Then we make a return to the present from three years to two years, and again we anchor these images. What you see, what you hear, where you are, who you are with, what activities you do, what you like, how you enjoy it specifically.
What do you do specifically so that the person can visualize themselves? And then a year closer to the present, and then in three months, where you should be.
This process is called the Merlin factor. Legend has it that Merlin was a wizard at the court of King Arthur who had this characteristic: he didn't age; he rejuvenated. He had the ability to tell what was in the future to those he spoke to.
The problem is you have to do this ritualistically and often. Here too, people fail because it's not enough to do this once. When you do it once, the effect is, "Wow, I never thought about it. Wow, how interesting. Look, I saw those details. Look, I imagined I would be with so and so."
The secret is to do this until the image in your brain becomes so clear that it becomes more convincing than the image around you. You can sit in a damp studio in a corner if in your mind there is a villa that you draw in your head with great accuracy.
By doing this every day, at some point, you are imbued with that image so strongly that your mind says, "Well, where am I here now? It's temporary; it's a step I have to take from a studio to two rooms or from a studio to the land I'm going to build my villa."
Your mind starts building the scenario because you're anchored in the future. Once again, the trick is not whether your brain can do this or not; it can definitely. The question is, how often do you do it?
The more often you do it, the more anchored you are in that image in your brain, and the more you start to build your future in reality by taking steps. But you have to be anchored in that image in your brain.
I mentioned a little earlier that the objective has to be clear and it has to be charged with emotion. Yes, how do you make it clear? What exactly does this word clear mean? And the even more difficult question: how do you make it charge with emotion?
3D visualization means that you want to visualize far, often, and in detail. Far means three years is far for most people. There are the same people who have the ability to visualize 10 years in the future or imagine what the world will be like 15, 20 years in the future.
But most people, when they hear this thing, their minds break. They start coming with ironies to comment, "Get out of here with your nonsense. I don't know what I'm going to do tomorrow."
My answer is precisely because you don't know what you're going to do tomorrow, you need to push your time perspective further. You can't for 10 years. Okay, try two.
The secret I discovered is that it's not good to visualize for a single year, like most people do, namely at the end of the year or at the beginning of the year, like we are now. I say, "A, okay, it's the beginning of the year. I think about what I'm going to do by the end of the year."
But that's pure convention; it's a short time for big goals. In a year, you cannot transform yourself at the level of personal identity. In a year, you can achieve some goals, maybe some extra money, maybe run a certain distance, and so on, but you do not transform yourself in terms of identity.
That is, you do not transform yourself. To transform yourself as a person, my recommendation is 2, 3, 4, 5 years to project yourself far away.
This is the first D: project yourself far away. I do an exercise three months a year every morning, and now I'm in the middle of this exercise because I do the exercise at the end of the previous year, the beginning of the next year, for three months, about a month and a half.
In a month and a half, when I exercise in the morning for 10 minutes, as I said earlier, I take and write 10 wishes in a diary, which is my diary, like a little diary. The diary of becoming is called, and I have a version which is called the agenda to the entrepreneur.
I gave you as a gift, and to you too. Well, I'm writing those 10 wishes. Wishes are not objectives; wishes are images from the future charged with energy, with emotions.
"Wow, how cool would it be if I had a villa? I don't know what kind they are. Wow, how cool would that be if I were to travel? I don't know where. How cool would it be if I met this or that person or type of person? If I had access to this or that club? If I could run or do I don't know what kind of extreme physical activity?"
I write down these 10 wishes, but my fundamental rule is that none of them can be with a deadline of one year. It has to be at least 18 months, that is, a year and a half, or 24, or 36, or 48. I go on, including five years, without any embarrassment because it's my exercise.
What I know from psychology is that when doing this exercise, you allow yourself to have desires without justification, and this is an important nuance. I haven't said in any podcast this thing is very important: not to apologize or justify our desires.
Society educates us: you need this and that. Yes, but why? And if you are not very careful, you also ask yourself, "But really? But why? But does it fit? But is it okay? But is it acceptable to wish for this thing?"
And actually kill our creativity this way. Let yourself be carried away by the flow of wishes as if you were your own Santa Claus, so you can think far.
These two conditions must be met each day, minimum 30 days, but it's a minimum. It could be better 60 or even 90 days, and without justification.
That's the far portion. This means thinking far. I know it's not very sexy what I'm saying now. You know, "Bá, leave me alone, 30 days. But what time do I have to sit for 30 days with a pen in my hand to think about what I want?"
But I know exactly what I want. Do you write them down every day, the same ones, or every day different ones, or do you write them from memory?
That's a very good question, and that's the secret. The first time we write, we write some intellectualized things to think about what the colleague has, what the neighbor has, what others want, what is good to desire, what is fashionable to wish for.
I write those; there are some that are authentic, but because 10 is always 10, after three or four, which are the usual classic ones: more money, more friends, more health, more harmony in the house.
After those, others start to come that I haven't thought about very often, and I make a list from 10. The next day, my rule is that I never read the previous day, and I get down to writing.
The first two weeks usually, it's like this: "Well, but what did I want from myself yesterday? I don't know what I wanted from my life yesterday."
Here is a very important lesson. Stephen Covey, the late Stephen Covey, whose book was the first personal development book I read in 1995-96, you know that's when I started with him. He has a very cool quote: "Your goals will become part of you, and they will be easily realized when they are screwed into your consciousness."
We know that screws have steps, and that means that with each screwing in, another step goes deeper into your consciousness. It's the same with writing. Every page I write screws into my consciousness, makes that desire more mine, brings it closer to me.
But you know what happens if the next day I forget what it is? It probably wasn't very important. And then I'm still rummaging around. I say, "What? I could want it to be 10," and I'll find out.
After about two weeks, I'll start to remember them. I'll find that the words change. The words are no longer so academic, but I write with abbreviations. I write unusual words.
You know what you find out in three, four, five weeks? One, it stabilizes. The list becomes much more yours; it's more authentic and more asked.
How do we make ourselves feel? The answer is the following: I write. This does not happen the first weeks. Through week three, four, I write one, and because I sit at the same table with the same cup of coffee on the same chair, because it's important to be in the same place.
We're going to talk about the ritual. I wrote one, and what I do is I lean back slightly, breathe, and give myself between 15 and 20 seconds to do it. An image in the brain on that subject, and this element is fundamental; it is absolutely key.
In other words, I don't just write intellectually correct, calligraphic, and so on, but I lean back a little. It's important because when our gaze is oriented at approximately 20° up, the visual cortex is activated.
But I have to sit relaxed in the chair and look at approximately 20° upwards and defocused, meaning I don't look at a fixed point, but I look into the distance as if it were coming.
Another option is to do this with my eyes closed. When I do this, the image becomes more colorful, more vivid, more detailed, clearer, and more emotionally charged.
I say this after 27 years of studying neurolinguistics because my initial training was in neurolinguistic programming, lateral thinking, transactional analysis, and a few more systems that I practically use.
I brought to Romania, I started the personal development and seminar market in 1996, bringing the first trainers from outside and doing this out of passion, and then it became a business.
In these 27 years that I've been doing this work, the more I do it, the more it becomes clear that it works. The secret is not to change the working parameters; it is neurophysiology.
It is not psych pupu Buru Buru; it is neurophysiology. That is, it is scientifically explained. Why do upward-facing eyeballs simply work? You don't look; you direct your eyeballs upwards.
This neurophysiologically determines an activation of the visual cortex. I will visualize more easily, but that's not all. When you visualize, you have to visualize yourself in the image, and this is another extremely important element.
Understandable, Radu. Why? Because you can see a villa where you want to live your life and say, "This is the villa I want," and there are also very good chances that you will arrive at that villa as a tourist, but it will not be yours or that you will only have access to it for an hour and so on.
When you visualize yourself in that villa, neurophysiologically, you feel in your body the sensation and emotion of being an owner or a master or a person who has premium access to that place when he or she wants.
So I am some finesse elements that need to be done. I was saying that it is 3D, far, often, and in detail. The far part is that for many years, the often part is that every day, 30-90 days, and the detail part is this that I am describing to you now.
I need to persist on that image until it becomes clearer and clearer. Every day when I come back to that image, it becomes clearer.
I give one more element, Radu. Why is it very important to think far ahead? Because if you want something immediately and it doesn't come to you immediately, you get stressed.
If you want to choose the marathon in five days, and four days pass, and then you go to the marathon and you can't finish it, you get upset. Well, no, it doesn't work.
Instead, if it's in six months, for example, and you understand the mechanics to the point that you have to train every day, you have to get a trainer, and so on, not only will you be able to run the marathon, but you will do it in a way that allows you to want to, and the second marathon won't be as taxing.
No, it won't be so stressful. What is the lesson? Stress is inversely proportional to time. The longer the time, the less stress.
Now, you don't want the stress to be so low that you don't get going, but what we do is first we push the goal. We are in 2025. I write down my wishes for 2026, 2027, the ones I want, 28, 29.
Then from those 10 wishes, after 30-60 days, I select three priorities. I want to do one more recap to see if I understood. Yes, so I'm going to get my place that I need to establish and have every time.
If I move and live in a rented place, I select a place instead, but it has to be a place with light and preferably have a window so I can look out.
I start with desires that I have without judging myself, without being interested in anything. I write them as I feel like it, as I like it. I do this for 60-90 days.
Obviously, the list after 90 days will be different from the day before. 1, 2 stabilizes in about 20. For most people, in 20 days, the list stabilizes at least 30 days, with the mention I'm not allowed to look back.
I don't look back because if I look back, children from my younger and less experienced version of myself, you know, I want to look into the future, not back. Yes, exactly.
That's what I do, preferably every morning. I do this thing, and preferably for 10 minutes as a ritual. We'll get there, and at rituals, I took the first one. I lay down nicely on my back. My eyes are at 20°; they are closed.
I write it, I connect, and say, "Okay, this is how I want it to look." I don't stay longer than 20 seconds. I mean, it takes me 6 seconds to write one line. I don't usually write more than the wishes.
These are phrases between two, three words and 10 words maximum because after 20 days, you already know what you are referring to. You can write two, three lines, that two, three words.
Yes, in two, three words, already you know what you mean. But after that, you lean back slightly and visualize. This stage is very important.
Out of the 10, when I choose them, when I establish the three, in some years I've been doing this for 11 years, in some years after 30 days, I feel clarity. In other years, when I'm more stressed, I'm more confused.
I'm in a more tumultuous stage of life; I might need 60 days. Usually, after 60 days, I take the 10 and turn them into three annual goals.
How do I do this? Next, I have the 10, and I start writing them in order of importance that will have the greatest impact in my life if I focus on it this year.
I start writing them in order of importance, and after a week or two, often written in order of importance, I figure out which are the top three.
As well, in my mind, I write them in order of importance. When I write the 10, I start to have the problem of writing them in order of importance from number one to number 10.
You know, I don't do this from the beginning. At first, I throw them out there with a fork. But after 30, 40 days, I say, "But what's the order of importance? What's number one? What's number two? What's number three?"
That's how I end up selecting a long-term wish list, long in order of importance. Then I look at it and say, "If I were to focus on one this year, how do I turn this desire into a goal?"
Let's say one of my desires is to get a villa on the Côte d'Azur, one of the three. Yes, let's say that this is one of the desires: to buy a villa on the Côte d'Azur.
But this year, what do I do for the villa on the Côte d'Azur? I'm buying my villa this year. I might say, "Well, not that I don't have a budget."
Okay, so this year I have to make x tens of thousands or hundreds of thousands or that I put in an account for the villa on the Azores coast.
So the big objective that spans three years, I take it and segment it. You divide it into one year at a time, the same way like in the Merlin factor. I bring it into the present, but I start from the future.
I don't start from this year, "What do I want to do?" This distinction is very important, and I do the same with everything.
But I want to make an important clarification. When we work with new long-term desires, we are actually working with our future entity, who we want to become in the future.
It is very important to write wishes that when they happen, you kind of want to stay with their consequences your whole life because it is much more economical to think like that.
It is valid especially for health; it is valid for prosperity; it's valid in relationships; it's valid in career. But if you have a financial goal, what you actually want: do you want to reach, I don't know, 1 million and then lose it?
Or do you want to become the kind of person capable of making millions? Probably option two: you want to become the kind of person capable of making, managing, multiplying millions.
If we're talking about relationships, what do you want? Do you just want to get a relationship with someone? Or do you want to have the ability to communicate, empathize, harmonize so you can get multiple relationships of that kind and maintain them with skill?
Competently, the ones that are really right for you. All these examples converge to what? That's why you want to see yourself in the image. That's why you want to be friends with you from the future because you want to stay like you in the future.
Not you just want to touch to go back in the present or to return to the stage you are at now. You want to access that stage but to maintain it.
We are talking in perspective that it is good at some point to stabilize the identity. I want to become, and it stabilizes on about four major levels: health, relationships, career, and prosperity.
If you establish your clear identity in these four areas, I mean who you want to become, what league you want to play in, if you want. That's what you want to visualize.
But let me close the loop and finish this whole process. I have three annual priorities, and what I achieved is: so this year we're talking about 2025. I'm going to focus on these three big priorities.
Why three? As Jim Collins, one of the greatest business professors in the world, says very nicely, "If you have more than three priorities, you have none."
Well, people have many, 15, 20 on those lists. Yes, when you set a priority that transforms you as a person, you can have a very good opinion of yourself and say you can do this and that and that and that.
But look historically at the people around you, and you'll see how many managed to do 17 things at once and very well. Keep in mind that you only saw them on stage; you didn't see them behind the scenes.
I mean, you saw what they said about it to make it work. For example, not what happens in the back kitchen. The job might be a lot more disorganized than it seems.
Then three is enough so that you don't get bored doing just one and few enough so that you can juggle them all. I mean, in a year, days to be able to push them all forward, to be able to take care of all three.
This is another argument; it's an important argument. If you want to simplify your life and your life to be fulfilled but also simple at the same time, what I discovered is that I have six important life areas.
The six life areas roughly correspond to Maslow's needs. The six life areas are health, money, relationships, career, personal growth, and social contribution, which usually comes towards the end of life for most people.
But you can take care of three very, very focused, and those other three will happen somehow by themselves if these three are extraordinarily well taken care of.
These three have, which are these three out of the six? Well, the first have is health. Health is the gift that those who no longer have it appreciate very much.
There's a saying that a healthy person has 1000 desires; a sick person has only one. That's how it is. If you don't have enough vital energy and your body isn't feeling well, it's very difficult to take care of other things.
That's what I'm getting older about. We kept talking about what you want to do until the end of your life becomes crucial, vital. One of the priorities should be annual health care: the part of movement, nutrition, sports, muscle mass growth, etc.
Things that you do, things that concern you. Anyway, I congratulate you on this because these are habits that are hard to maintain. If you don't start them early, it's difficult to get started.
I don't know what great sport to do at 60. Yes, yes, not that it's impossible, but it's difficult. The second one is obviously the part of career.
But when I say career, I don't mean that you go to work. I mean identifying a professional area that meets the fundamental criteria for career success, which are: what I'm good at.
It's important. So a real-life lesson is that when choosing your career, you must meet four criteria: you have to like it so you won't be tempted to give up along the way, you have to be good at it so you have a standard to which you are paid, you have to be in demand so you don't get kicked out of the profession because there is no longer a market for something like that, and to be important, meaning to have meaning, to have significance, to say, "What am I doing? It's important? I really do something valuable for my fellow human beings, for the philosophy of life that I have."
Answer these four questions with high marks. High marks mean over seven. You have chosen a good career area; you are in the right place.
The third area to prioritize in life, if you want to be very structured, is energy, health, career, and relationships. Fulfilling relationships with the people around you vary from person to person.
One wants to strengthen their relationships with their friends in their brotherhood, become a club boss, whatever. Another wants children. Another wants marriage. Another wants the motorcycle club to grow, etc.
But interpersonal relationships are extremely, extremely important. If you have very concrete annual goals in these three areas, guess what's going to happen?
What's going to happen is the other three are going to start to kind of happen in your natural life. You have a very fulfilling career; you end up getting paid well, so the money part starts to manifest itself.
If you have very, very good relationships and you are always busy and you feel cared for and you have a nice home and you have nice friends and so on, at some point, you get the idea, "But let's help them too, these others."
If you have a very, very healthy and very good body, it means that you have developed a discipline and a certain level of character, which also means personal growth.
Returning to your original question: why three? Here are reasons why three: because it is a shortcut. I confess that I only discovered it in the last four years.
I always insisted on having six priorities in a year, that there are six important areas of life, and I found that I was getting a little carried away because it's very difficult to have six priorities in a year and even to make significant progress on them.
Instead, if you have three priorities that you don't give up, and you also have some of these elements of coloring life, then it will work. I strive to set these three goals per year as a priority: one for energy and health, one for career, and one for relationships.
In fact, Sigmund Freud warned us that Sigmund Freud had many contributions, some questionable, but some extraordinarily strong. One of them was that meaningful work and love of one's fellow man are the two fundamental pillars of human happiness.
More recently, Ray Dalio also says the same thing: meaningful work, meaningful relationships. Only these cannot be done by the sick man.
How do you know that those three are truly the things you need and they do not interfere with your egocentric desires but rather intervene in your area of development as a human being?
All the decisions you make, if you want to know that they are yours and not someone else's, need to be filtered through your system of values. What does it mean to know it, to have one, and to know it?
But what about me? It's my value system, and I love this subject. I find it extremely, extremely valuable and important. If we talked more about values and our children would learn about values, and adults would understand the power of values more clearly, it would solve a lot of problems.
So I'm going to take two real-life minutes to explain the values thing. What are values? First of all, a definition. They are life principles by which it is worth managing your journey through life.
Life principles mean this is how life should be. Values are important; they answer the question of what is important. But there is another part of the definition that is extremely relevant.
It's not just nice to haves, as the English would say, meaning it would be better if it were like this. They are not aspirations; they are principles that are so important to you that you are willing to defend them when values are violated.
Are they principles you want to live by? You live by and that you are willing to defend, not only would it be interesting to happen like that, not just declaratively, yes.
You know that those are your values by the way you behave when they are violated. And then I think the top two values are extremely important to understand and emphasize.
The first value that you have, I know there are all kinds of exercises on the internet: discover your values. I don't know if I did them all, but I did 90% of them.
What can I tell you? Teaching and doing coaching with top people, with entrepreneurs, with executives, is like this: the moment when you argued or fought for an idea of yours is the moment when you have the opportunity to find out your values.
You want to find out your values? Think about when you fought or when you gave in and what was the reason behind why you did that, and then you will know what your values are.
Not that it wouldn't be useful to do exercises where you have to choose from a list of 400 words those that you like. At most, it's just superficial.
But isn't it can define my identity? You just have to tell the truth; you have to be honest with yourself like that. But only when it's been violated can you know if it's really yours.
That's the litmus paper; that's the ultimate test. The ultimate test is not a quiz that you do on the internet; it's not a therapy or coaching session where you say, "My value is this and that."
You know where I got burned and where I understood this in entrepreneurship because many people will come to the interview, and you ask, "What is important to you in life? That's the principles that guide you, la la la la la."
And he tells you, but people don't differentiate between values and aspirations, and they're different things. Because you can admire someone and say, "Well, when I grow up, I want to be like this."
To be a brother, look at what character this man has. Be careful how he defends his values. What backbone he has, and so on. That's how I want to be a guide.
What you are not yet. I'm not saying that your future identity cannot be imbued with a set of values like the one you want or to the one you aspire to.
But you currently operate on your current set, not what you aspire to. Or you desire is a very fine nuance, very important. I repeat, they are principles that define you as a person.
I feel defined by the idea of freedom. I don't like the idea; freedom defines me, meaning I filter reality through the prism of how much freedom I get somewhere, depending on how much freedom I can get or not.
But for someone else, freedom is not very relevant; safety, for example, can be argued. Wait a minute; safety is a need; it's not a value.
We're getting into a philosophical polemic again, but the distinction is important. Needs are necessities; it's what we need to survive. Values are principles of life.
So it's important for us to feel fulfilled. Needs are about existence; values are about fulfillment. Now, back to your question about the values filter.
We know that it's about us when we've clarified our number one values. We know that the objective is about us when we've clarified our number one and number two values.
When what we do is not exclusive for our benefit, these two criteria. So for me, if my values are freedom and, respectively, excellence in what I do, that is improving performance, if you want.
If these are my values, any project I get into, any purchase I make, any partnership I enter into must leave me free enough and allow me to grow to a level of excellence and be able to not just be about me but to contribute to the greater good.
You do this podcast, Radu, and you are successful, and you have that interesting plaque there and so on. Super. I've known you for years, and I know that what you do, you don't do it exclusively because you want to look in the mirror and take a picture with that plate, but because it's also for the benefit of someone else.
Why is it important to understand this? Because all studies show that people who are very self-centered know what they are about, know what their value system is, but they care about others, help other people, have a social impact, contribute, and so on, they are happier.
That's what I learned from Professor Daniel David from Babeș-Bolyai. It's very good to have the clarified values. He calls them cardinal values; I call them core values.
He says, "But they must also be prosocial." Prosocial, exactly. That means it should not only be about you but also about others.
So to close the loop, how do I know that the annual objectives that I set are not because the neighbor has it and I go after it? If the neighbor has a blacksmith and I think I want it, I know because I did a process of conscience and I asked myself what my life principles are.
And usually, there are two. And how do I make it prosocial? What I'm getting into, so that it's not just me who benefits?
Okay, so out of the 10, I set three for myself. I'm going to run them through the values filter. The question about values, because the process of discovering your core values, as you call them, can take some time.
I mean, you have to find yourself in a position where you have to violate a value or defend it so you can say, "Yes, this is a value." "Yes, by then."
Because people will start making their list at the beginning of the year. How do they discover those values through which to manage to pass through a filter? Maybe not the final filter, but a filter that will take them closer to what they really want, not what they saw at the neighbor's.
A super short version: thanks for the challenge. Take a sheet of paper, write at the top of the sheet, "What is so important to me that I would pay for it?"
Then answer the question, "Why is it so important?" There are some very powerful questions that you can use. They are used in coaching processes. Usually, this is a question, and you take it and write and say, "Why is it so important?"
Everything that comes after "because" reads very carefully. What comes after "because" you say, "But why is it so important? Because I want freedom, because it inspires me."
Because he's looking for in those words. Don't search the internet for a list of 500 words; look at what you wrote in response to some good questions.
Another thing you're going to do is look in the past when your values were violated. When you weren't born yesterday, yes, who follows this podcast?
Then you look in the past, and what do you say? "Well, when someone pulled me out of the jump, it was the strongest and strongest." Write down three names and then say, "But what values were violated?"
Then that's very good. What exactly is M a M a mi? It tormented my soul to such an extent that it must have been as if some of my values were violated.
Because otherwise, if your values hadn't been violated, it means that anyone in a situation like that would have been destroyed or not. People react very differently to the behaviors of others.
Ask yourself something else: what partnerships or projects have I done in the past that were super mega cool, at least for a portion, the first two months, the first three months, the whole project?
Because again, you weren't born yesterday. If you're watching this podcast, you probably had some projects, some team activities that charged you.
They charged you very, very much, and you write person 1, 2, 3. To each, you say, "Yes, what was so important to me and was honored and nurtured in that collaboration?"
Bingo! I will write a few words, and among those words, you will say, "What are my values?" A man who writes this, what are his values?
You can work with a coach, with a therapist, with a friend, or with yourself. The next day, with a clear mind, after you wrote with Z, before I am interested, that's what I do until I define my three fundamental goals.
Because it's a period of 30, 60, or 90 days, I can't just sit around just describing it. That's why I start about 30 days in advance.
Yeah, yeah, okay. And how do I make some well-established objectives on paper that have been passed through a set of values and still turn them into action?
Because this is where something super mega important comes in, and I'm glad we're getting to this topic. I said from the beginning that I wanted to talk about rituals, but I'll go back to your first question.
You asked two questions: is there a shortcut for those who say, "The year has started. I don't have time for nonsense. Can I wait until February?" Yes, yes, yes, yes.
I learned this from Brian Tracy. I had the opportunity to interview Brian Tracy. Fortunately, I interviewed about 10 of these gurus in personal development for the simple fact that I started first on the Romanian market, as I was saying, in '95, '96.
Brian Tracy told me, "Hey, can you tell a man you have a bond with, who you have a relationship with, with whom you are connected? I mean, who trusts you?"
You have 30 seconds at your disposal. Write down the four most important objectives you have. I started the timer, wrote down, also because you took that person by surprise, and says, "Aoleu, if he doesn't finish the exercise, who knows what's happening?"
No longer has time to intervene with the logical, rational, intellectual aspect, the neighbor's goat, what should I want? I don't know what.
Give them of it in 30 seconds because the brain goes into gear very quickly, faster than sometimes faster than we like to think. That is, we say some things spontaneously, and you write them down.
You find that in 90% of cases, people will write the next four things: something about health, something about relationships, something about work, career, expertise, certifications, I don't know what, and some money.
For people who don't have the patience to write 10 wishes, I would say set these four goals too. Grab them, and in parallel, write those 10 wishes for 6 days.
Yes, yes, on 30 days. Attention: 30 days. At the beginning, 30 days is even better than 60 or 90.
In the first years, I only wrote 30. 30 days. I liked it so much after three years that I extended the process. But years of days, I taught in conference rooms on Zoom.
Write 30 days. Write 30 days. I say, "What do I do? I write more." But it works. In fact, in 20 days, the list is clarified, and in the next 10 days, three priorities are extracted.
I continue with visualization to start thinking about the plan: what would be the main, usually five or seven big moves that I make this year to get to the end of the year where I want to be?
Five, seven. So let's put it into practice. Yes, between five and seven.
So if we're going to put it into practice now, there are two very big components that I want to put on the table. I put it into practice. Yes, how do we make those three become a reality so it doesn't just stay on paper anymore?
The first component is ritualized, and the second component is planning or project management. What does ritualized mean? I start with this: like you write 10 minutes in the morning in a journal.
You can do this as a habit or as a ritual. What am I saying? Now it's a very, very, very new element that I taught for about 10 years in intuitive boot camp.
Last year at Harvard, the book came out that comes with the science behind it. Sometimes we speakers, trainers, creators of educational contexts have this privilege to teach some things and then let the science behind it come and explain that it's like Tony Robbins taught for many years that it's important to sit with your back straight and straighten your muscles and breathe and choose, and I don't know what's changing.
And after the state, that's when Amy Cady from Harvard came and said, "Yes, it's based on academic study." I've done it, and I've taught rituals, and there are hundreds of people who have received the explanations in the manual and the training on this subject.
But now I have the scientific basis in back. Also, at Harvard, a book called "The Ritual Effect" was published, which explains what it explains.
There is a fundamental difference between habits and rituals. A habit has these two characteristics: number one, it prevents you from consuming too much energy; it preserves energy.
Number two, you don't think when you do it. These two are the characteristics of the habit. When you wake up in the morning and brush your teeth, you don't necessarily think about the canine on the top left.
I have enough toothpaste on the toothbrush. I don't know what. Your mind can wander to, so you don't consume energy, but you don't give it either the significance of that behavior.
If you want to achieve a goal that is about your life, about who you are becoming, you want to maintain the motivation in the long term to achieve that.
As I was saying, you don't just want to choose the marathon; you want to be an athlete. You don't just want to make a million; you want to be a millionaire capable of managing millions.
You don't just want to be friends with someone; you want to maintain that friendship. For that, you want to do things repetitively, but you don't want to do them mindlessly, meaning without meaning and without energy consumption.
What does a ritual bring you? When you do that habit in a ritual system, it gives you energy. The habit does not consume your energy; the ritual adds energy.
The habit does not necessarily have meaning or significance; the ritual has meaning and significance. As a package, it has meaning, has extra motivation.
When you do it, every time you do it, you charge yourself. I'll give you a perfect example of how I applied this thing. For 20 or so years, I've been a professional speaker.
I've given over 3000 speeches in this career, both online and physically. Most of them physically because online has been around for a few years.
We used to tour the country in a spartan manner, meaning 12 cities in 12 days with car trips between them, organized by entire halls. The logistics trucks were going ahead, the team ahead.
I was resting in hotels, in cars. I was also older than I am now, without VAT, before I entered a gym. It could happen that you have a cold, you haven't slept, someone got angry at you, etc., meaning you're not in the right state.
Before each entrance to the hall, I had the claim to have a roll-up with the name of the event, and behind the roll-up, you have 1.20 of privacy in which I would do my ritual.
My ritual was quite simple. I had a card that I still have in my wallet that is rough on the corners like this and that, which said OPPOSITE. O means objective, which is your objective. P means presence. U means humor. S means strategy.
My ritual always had two components. The first component is that I went behind the roll-up, and like Tony Robbins, I moved, I straightened my back, I put a pen in my mouth so that it forced a smile to change my physiology, and I read the card.
I didn't read the card because I didn't know what it said. You know, I've done this hundreds of times. It's not that hard to remember four words.
I was reading the card because I was anchored in it, meaning when I read each word, I was like, "Well, I have a clear objective, what I want from these people."
I was answering in my brain that I want to connect with people; I want to serve them, etc. I am present. What does it mean that I am present?
It means that I feel my body; it means that I feel the atmosphere of the hall, that I know where I am. Sometimes, like at concerts, you have seen some artists who come to Bucharest and say, "Good evening, Budapest."
You know that means lack of presence. So objective, presence, strategy: I know what I want to say, I know the order, I have the slides ready, I checked the sound, I checked the temperature of the room, that people are in the room, that the introductory material is prepared, all that, and humor, which was actually the third letter very important to me.
Sometimes I open my cell phone in my ritual and read some jokes that I have on a list to put myself in a good mood. Maybe I don't always need this because maybe I slept well, maybe I achieved success in a previous city, and now I'm super strong and on top of things.
But the ritual puts me back in that professional state. When I was doing that, I wasn't mindless. It wasn't a habit without the mind present there. On the contrary, the mind was very present there and gave me energy.
Whereas with habits, the mind may not be there, and you don't lose energy. These are the fundamental differences between habits and rituals.
So if you want to transform yourself as a person into a better version, to become your next level version, 25080 x0, it's important to use the mechanics of the ritual, not to install habits.
Even if they're good habits, rituals are usually more complex than habits. Tying your shoelaces may be a habit, but the fact that you and your teammates in the locker room, at a certain point, you put on your gear, you high-five each other, and so on, that's a ritual.
Rituals are more complex, and very often, a ritual is built with four components. That's what I taught in a mastermind just recently together with our mutual friend Cristi Onețiu.
A ritual has the following four components: one, the specific behavior that you want to add to your arsenal. That is running, that is putting on the equipment, as I said earlier, that is writing in the journal, reading, learning to play the violin, any behavior.
There are three more components of anchor, very, very useful. If you want to install a ritual in your life, it is to have an object that is loaded with meaning, that has a certain color, that a certain shape that reminds you of something.
An anchor can be a picture of your family. An anchor can be a locket. Me, when I write a journal for myself, the anchor is the blue notebook.
I worked on that cover until it came out on my nose until I found a cover I like. I can't even write with my pixule.
Let, which is the anchor. For example, when you want to go to the gym, it differs from person to person. It's not always the same anchor, but it can be for some people.
It can be the moment when they put their watch on, this sports watch. I go to the gym with this one; I put that object on my anchor.
Anchor usually, it's good to be an object. In the neurolinguistic programming school, they say that anchor can be an image, it can be a gesture, and so on.
My recommendation for rituals is for the anchor to be an object that can have a visual component, but it's good to also have a kinesthetic component so you can get your hands on it.
That's why I said the watch. If you look at history, it's written in the book "The Ritual Effect." What I was talking about are all kinds of mega artists and famous people, writers, or pianists, and so on, who travel with an object, an amulet, something that puts them in the right state.
It is also important that the anchor often, but not always, be accompanied by a symbol. The cross is a symbol; the Omega sign is a symbol. Any letter can be a symbol, but it has to have meaning for you.
So it's the behavior, anchor, symbol, and something else very important: the state in which it begins, i.e., energy. The acronym is HOUSES: behavior, anchor, symbol, energy.
It is extremely important that you do not perform the ritual as to get energy at the end. You take care of the energy from the beginning.
For example, put on some music that puts you in a good mood, do five squats to increase your air volume, write a gratitude SMS to someone because that definitely puts you in a good mood.
So you do something to put you in a good mood. It's also called positive focus. Now, I don't want to sound very complicated because I didn't do all of these from the beginning.
You know what I'm saying? What is the complete recipe? The complete recipe is every time I want to initialize a ritual, I have to know what is the behavior that I want to become ritual, an anchor, a symbol, and something for energy, something that gives energy.
I do them all, and I do them by enough times until the simple fact that I see the anchor or remember the bowl or do something for energy leads me to that behavior.
But I repeat, it is different from habits because it gives me energy and because it is very significant. That is, it motivates me every time I do the ritual. I feel better and more convinced that I'm good.
How cool that I'm doing this thing super hard. Yes, I'm glad I'm doing this thing.
The ritual pillar, I'm moving on to the project management pillar. I know I'm a bit technical in what I'm doing. We're doing it now, but I hope that the pieces can be taken.
I mean, if everything is a podcast, maybe someone can take it and take the pieces because it's like a masterclass on what we're doing now.
Project management, from my point of view, for one of those three priorities, should be project management for one, for the second, for the third.
It depends. To understand that you can't achieve results with motivation alone, this is a myth. "Sir, you're not motivated enough. If you were motivated and it were important to you, you would do blah blah blah."
It's not like that, and it's demonstrable that it's not like that because what we call willpower or the power of will, the volitional force to get through the wall and so on, is dependent on the amount of sugar in the blood.
If you have low blood sugar, you have less willpower. What does this mean? It means, yes, it is an important component. You must have inner resources to do will and so on, but it fluctuates.
My favorite metaphor is the following: you are in a big car of 3-4 tons with lots of seats, not necessarily a van but an off-road car.
So you are with your whole family, and you are walking down the street, and it is the slippery road. You went out on a dirt road, and you sank into the mud in that dirt road because it had just rained.
The driver says, "Hey guys, bad luck, someone has to get out to push because the wheels are slipping." Now we know very well with this visual in mind that if they get out, let's say two people go to the back and start pushing, the result will be that you fill them with mud.
It's not that the car is getting out of there; it's 3-4 tons. To have a chance of getting out of there, you need everyone to get out, maybe including the driver, to push with one hand and turn the steering wheel with the other to have enough force to get the car out.
But I want to draw attention to the following aspect: in the first phase, when two get off, the other four stayed in the car. This means that the car doesn't only have 3-4 tons; it has 3 tons and 400 kg, 300 kg extra.
So the two who got off, even if there's all the goodwill in the world, the others who should either be allies are not neutral; they are burdens. They are harder to push, which is the idea.
The idea is that one of the six in the car is the motivation. It's like saying, "Well, motivation, you get down in the back and push."
Why did you get the car stuck in the mud? Because you are a tributary of your old habits. You are a tributary of your inertia. That is, you do what you used to do.
You do what you used to do before. You do what you are used to doing. You do what is like you want to become someone else, but you say, "I need motivation."
Only motivation is one-sixth of that equation. I wrote a book on this subject; it's called "The Mastery Formula." Now I'm writing the second edition because I've learned some things in the meantime, and now I'm giving the things I learned in addition, update.
So all six have to come down. All six forces have to work together to get the car out of the mud. That is to get you out of the scenery and put you on the road to go towards your better version.
The first is motivation, and internal. The second is the mindset or set of beliefs, and also internal. The third is mobilization, the ability to get up with your ass off the chair, i.e., literally to mobilize.
You know, that's what it's about. I can't mobilize this. It's a matter of physiology. Usually, it's not like being in the company.
You can't mobilize metaphorically, I'm talking. Yes, self-determined to simply get up, to have this drive, to have, as the Germans say, and it's worth understanding that these three components are internal, and you have absolute control over them.
It's just a matter of ritualizing. You can ritualize; you can ritualize; you can ritualize; you can ritualize all three. You need, if you want your new project to happen, absolutely all three.
No, you can't do it without one of them. Why? You can have the best motivation in the world. The motivation being corresponds to my values.
In my case, freedom, the value number gives me freedom. This thing, yes, I'll get on with it, great. But you might have bad beliefs: "I'm small, I'm incapable, I've never done it before, I won't succeed, I don't deserve, I can't."
Motivation is given by values; mentality is given by beliefs. You have good or bad beliefs about the subject. That is, you believe you can, you believe you can learn, you believe you will succeed, you believe you deserve, you believe you are the right age, the right height, the ability appropriate, appropriate context, etc.
Mobilization has to do with how you can generate energy within yourself to get out of inertia and get into getting out of your comfort zone.
As the popular saying goes, I don't like the term comfort zone at all because it's good to be in comfort; it sucks to be in complacency. That's another story.
Then you have to work on each one, and you can ritualize their motivation, for example. Well, maybe with the diary, maybe with a conversation in which you bring back to attention that it is your main value and that it is worth defending.
How ritualized beliefs? Well, especially, I mean you practice that you get up, that you move, that you start until it works for you.
I tell you a short story here: an entrepreneur comes to me in a coaching session and says, "Wow, I am such a loving person. I am so connected," and so on.
The man being mega overweight, so every time I have to do sports, well, if someone sends me a message or gives me a WhatsApp or gives me a phone call, well, it distracts me incredibly.
I call him; I get into a conversation with him, and we talk for half an hour, for an hour, an hour, and I feel good, and the other person feels good, and I help them, and I don't know what.
No, I can't do this with sports anymore. How do you help me with this thing? In my mind, it was, "Okay, so it's a matter of mobilization, isn't it?"
The issue is not something. The person is convinced that it is important to do sports. So the part of beliefs is there. The person values the idea of longevity, the idea of health, and so on, and it is a matter of mobilization.
And I told him, "Here is a simple rule: when you have to answer a phone that they're calling you right then, or you saw on your phone that if you look at your phone carefully, you'll find someone who sent you a WhatsApp."
No, I mean, it's easy. That's what you say. "Okay, perfect. Before I do this, my rule is that I answer immediately, but I do push-ups or flexions for 90 seconds. After 90 seconds, I go and answer."
This fundamental rule: every time you say, "I had to do sports," well, but I haven't had 90 seconds of push-ups or flexions for three months.
Do this thing; they got to about three minutes because the understanding was that it increases progressively. If it comes out 90 seconds, it goes to two minutes.
If it comes out two minutes, it goes to two and a half minutes. The man started doing two minutes. It seems a little, but maybe it's more than zero, and it starts to add up.
With this rule, that doesn't have to be very hard at first, but that can be improved along the way, you get where you need to be.
Okay, so these three components: reason, motivation, mentality, and mobilization can be ritualized in your life and are 100% in your control. That's the great part.
The other three are outside of you, and that's an important element. Understandable because the way I was teaching until now was, "Well, work with all six."
Now I say work primarily with the first three. They're internal, and they're in control. Yours. After that, move on to the next three and build the scaffold, if you want, the scaffolding that allows you not to slip, don't fail.
These three are like that: number one, members of your support team, your mastermind, or your support entourage, whatever the priority you have.
It's good to eliminate the people who drain your energy on the subject, denigrate you, make fun of you, tell you you won't succeed, roll your eyes when you try, you don't get the point, and bring some lawyers with you, as a friend of mine says.
Some trainers, some coaches, some mentors, some supporters, some experts who want you well, who want to help you. You put those who want you to succeed, and they have all the internal reasons too and external for you to succeed.
This is an external element, and you have to be very careful how you create that entourage because it's not that simple. It's not like when they say, "I don't tell anyone," or "I can handle it myself," and so on.
Because if you have selected the priorities correctly, then it is challenging. What are the chances of reaching the end if you don't tell anyone, if you skip this accountability step?
There are certain smaller, more minor things like controlling the beginning and end of the day that you have a chance of doing. You can do them by yourself, and that depends on your nature too.
If you are a very introverted person and you decide to read and you do it in the morning at 6:00 when you have woken up and the others in the house have not woken up yet, you can manage to install such a ritual in your life.
But if you increase the stake, the chances of succeeding on your own decrease greatly. The higher the stake and the more it is not just about you but about a field of forces around you.
You know that one thing is to read for half an hour a day, and another to do a reading marathon for four hours a day. If we take reading as an example, because you set out to read a book a day, then you need to have family members or people at the office help you, and so on.
Far to know that you have such a... even if it seems very individual. I move on to the fifth, penultimate, which is for many the first. Many people said, "This had to, brother, you tell me how."
In my opinion, it is not the first; it is the fifth. It is the method. Think diet. No, all diets work for all people.
The method means what is the way in which you can get what you want, what you desire, what you have set out for yourself in your style, in your style, because it's about you; it's about your life.
Not all diets fit all people; not all techniques fit all goals and all people. I'll give you a super simple example from the last book I published at the end of 2024.
It's called "VIP Business." I launched it and distributed it in so many places that coming, I just realized that I don't even have a copy left to show you, but I have one ready for the next time we meet.
There are three types of people; that's the thesis of the book: visionaries, implementers, and planners. Three styles are very important as a team to have all three styles represented.
Unfortunately or fortunately, a person can have two of these styles, but they can't really have the third. I say the short version from a 200-page book with a lot of scientific documentation.
But so for the viewing system, they are the people with ideas. They are creative; they believe that the future is important, and the unique approach to problems and solutions is important.
The implementers are hardworking; the team is working hard. What do we have to do? Come on, guys, get your shovels; we are doing it for them.
It is very important to complete it for them. It is important to finish what they started, to check off, to say what I did, and that, yes, for them, it is important to act and not to talk.
They have no patience to talk; talk; they are terrible in meetings; they ruin meetings. Their knees get banged under the tables.
And planners are perfect in meetings because they are the people who think about how things work here. Let's make a graph, an Excel, a planning, a calendar, and with organization, so that it is clear, organized, things placed in their place.
They have to have an agenda, to have a calendar, to have a budget, to make the job go well. Planning and organization, as the name suggests, if you are visionary, you will have a method of success.
Your method of success to stick to the project should, at each new milestone, as you get closer to the priority you set for yourself, something new has to happen.
Because visionaries are very good initiators and very enthusiastic at first and get bored in three days because another idea comes along.
This means that if you know yourself as a visionary, I am in this position because I know myself as a visionary, I am asking for some mechanisms to keep me on track.
Because I start at the beginning of the year and I say I want to do this project, and somewhere around March, a comes to me, a much better idea that that much better idea kills the idea that was good.
If I carried it through to the end with three months to complete it, and you're probably laughing because you're in the same style, if I had three months to complete it, I could build on.
But I got distracted, and then you need to get a coach, have someone come by your side to pull you by the sleeve, or in each new stage of the project, there should be something exciting, something changed, something new.
Come with a twist, with adjustment, with modification, with thinking out of the box, and this is a typical method for visionaries. But it's terrible for planners.
The planner is super happy if he has put on the calendar in a year. Not what happens from one month to the next; what happens in 365 days, every day about that topic, if it can be the same and nothing changes.
And for the implementer, planning, the idea of planning is nonsense. He needs a manager to plan for him and tell him, "Do," and it's done. Super happy because no one wants to think; wants to work.
And then the methods are different. The sixth element is environment, and I will explain what environment means in a very special and very detailed way for those who follow us.
Because if I say environment, people say, "Yes, we are in an environment." Okay, no, no, it's not like rituals. The environment has to be extraordinarily well defined.
Is it or is it not true that if I want to write a book, for example, and I can concentrate in peace, it wouldn't be good to write it when the neighbor is drilling into the wall?
This is an element environmental. If I'm writing a book, for example, and I see next to it a glass with my peripheral vision, a piece of paper, a pen, a bit of dust in the light here, the cat passes by there, my brain no longer works 100% for writing the book.
But it comes with an interrogation and says, "This mug, you still need this piece of paper. What are you looking for here?"
But did the cat eat the, etc., and then it takes away your energy and attention, and you start writing poorly because the environment is not set up in such a way that you can really concentrate.
There is a book of his, Cal Newport, called "Deep Work." Fix, that's what it's about. There are some great performers of our world. Carl Gustav Jung is one of them.
It's like he had built himself a kind of small fortress out of stone on the shore of a lake so he could go there to write and to study because it was the perfect environment for him.
But environment doesn't just mean the place; environment also means people. You have a child who wants to be a tennis champion, and everyone at school tells you, "Hey, he's really good at tennis; he's the best in school."
If you want them to perform well in tennis, everyone in the world of sports knows that they have to go to this or that academy. Where are other very talented kids?
And that means that parents, if they really want this, probably relocate from where they are in their city and go to the city where the Tennis Academy is.
So what? It changes the environment, and it's important to take these into account too. Now, I think I've driven some listeners crazy.
Leave me alone; I have to take into account 17 million things so I can do my thing. I have my comfortable life as I want it.
I have an answer: very simple. You want to become, or you want to achieve that. If you want to achieve, you don't need. But if you want to become a better version of yourself, you need to master these six elements with subject and predicate.
That is to have motivation, a burning desire to do that, to have the mentality appropriate, no excuses, to know how to mobilize when you need to, to have the right supporters, the appropriate method for your style, and the right environment.
You have these six; the car comes out of the mud easily. You wouldn't work with one or two and then get angry that you got a quarter of the result or that you gave up and said, "Let it go next year," and so on.
I wrote 27 books like that. You were talking a little earlier about the fact that each objective should be divided into seven chapters, five or seven steps.
How do you know how to divide them to objectively divide the seven chapters? Wonderful question. Do so: present state, desired state.
I am here; at the end of the year, I want to be there. I currently earn x per month; at the end of the year, I want to be at x + 7000 per month, let's say thousands of anything.
Do you want? I currently take 10,000 steps a day; by the end of the year, I want to take 12,000 steps a day. I currently take 30 minutes of activity, I don't know why, once every two days.
By the end of the year, I want to take an hour every two days. That is, calculate this date, and then what you do is draw a line between the two, the present and a year from now, and divide the line with some of those pencil separators and say 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, or 7.
Must be; you count odd, and usually, 5-7 is perfect. Why 5-7? Because 5-7 gives you a time not like this of like weeks or months because these are just some conventions, but it gives you some predictive steps that are odd.
Why? Because we want to send the message that it doesn't have to be mathematically divided equally every month. I don't want to give them even numbers because it's a very interesting thing in psychology.