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This year, we are talking about 2025. I will focus on these three big priorities. Why three? If you have more than three priorities, you have none.
The tragedy is that at the beginning of the year, all people are super mega optimistic. When we work with long-term desires, we actually work with our future identity. This is especially valid for health, prosperity, and relationships.
How do we make the three become a reality and no longer remain only on paper? Very large components. Andi Seche is the founder of personal development in Romania. Since 1996, he has impacted thousands of people in his career through his 27 books and over 3000 live events. He has the most advanced techniques and principles of organization and planning.
Being an architect in education, you need to master these six elements: motivation, burning desire to do it, the right mindset, knowing how to mobilize when you have to, the right supporters, the right method for your style, and the right environment.
Don't work with one or two and then get upset that you got a quarter of the result or that you gave up. Let's ritualize the 10 minutes next year in such a way that you are extremely focused and projected into the future at who you want to become, not specifically what you want to achieve.
Who do you want to become? Why is it important to know what you want as a priority this year? Do you want to meet at the end of the year the person you have become because you have fulfilled it before?
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Andi, we are in 2025. Here we are at the beginning of the year. Everyone is curious how to organize their year, maybe with new tools, so that it doesn't remain the same eternal list written at the beginning of the year, put in the drawer, and taken out at the end.
This year is because you want to meet at the end of the year the person you've become because you've accomplished it. That's why you want to meet at the end of the year. If you do this, you'll be a better version of yourself.
You're not yet what you really want. You want to meet the you who achieved, not the you who apologizes. This year was hard; I couldn't, I wasn't able, and so on.
Look, a tragedy happens. The tragedy is that at the beginning of the year, all the people are super mega optimistic. Fireworks just exploded above the Arc de Triomphe, and I say, "Guys, this year is rocket!"
I'm going, "Father, Son, careful! Look, that's where I want to get to, Everest. I get there in March." And when I compare the trajectory from January, February, March with December Everest, I say, "Well, only if I'm Elon Musk's rocket can I still get there."
So to feel good about what I'm doing, I leave that for Kilimanjaro. It's good, and I start again with confidence. And somewhere around April, it's May, and I need Elon Musk's rocket because otherwise, I have no chance of getting there.
I say, "Let it be good," and the top of the Man, and I start in May with trust. And somewhere around July and August, I need Elon Musk's rocket because I have no way from August to reach the top.
And I say, "Let it be that the Polish one is also good," and I keep it like that until I climb a sand dune behind the house and have a picnic with my friends. I say, "Bye, that's it, that's it, that's all it was, boss, and I'm done with this expression."
You could not. That's all you could. And the reason why you could so much is because you negotiated the first time Everest. Don't negotiate it. Use frustration because it's harder to increase the energy of 10 times to get there.
But with this attitude, maybe you won't reach Everest, but you will reach Kilimanjaro, or at least a man, but not a man, a villa. You know what I mean? Don't reduce the target just because the journey is harder than you anticipated.
And the way you do it is by ritual because at the end of 2025, you'll be in a position to say, "Hey, because we've made it, 2026 will be better," and so on. At the end of 2026, and so on.
Otherwise, at the end of 2025, you will say, "It's downhill from here, brother." Because every time you record a failure and meet it with a victim mentality, you turn into an excuse machine.
Why not set your goals high next year? I say, "With all kinds of justifications, I have grown old, the world is bad in the political, economic, social environment, not what is needed," and so on.
Each of us, regardless of the external environment, can build ourselves a successful ecosystem, which may include going somewhere else, making your own bubble with the right people, etc. But we can build ourselves a successful ecosystem where, as we said earlier, we travel in accordance with our values and for the benefit of others.
The good news, fortunately, is that although we live in a world of technology and massive social, political, economic, and technological changes, there are some things that do not change. These are human needs, the patterns, the patterns of operation of the brain. These don't change that fast, not that disruptive.
Then I think we can very well rely on what we know for sure works, but we can come up with new tools or new ways or new interpretations of what works.
I'll come today for the whole year 2025 with some refinements that we have told over time, that we have talked about goals, about journaling, about how to stay on task. But in the past year, I have discovered some new, more nuanced elements that I have put into practice.
I applied them, and I can come report that they work better. I also tested them with my community, and I'm happy with the result. So we're going to reveal some secrets today.
Let's see if you've been curious when it comes to goals. Maybe the most important discovery of the last five or ten years, and when I say discovery in quotation marks, is that if there's an extremely clear image in your head of what you want, and it's charged with emotion, and you talk positively about that image, your brain at a time no longer makes the difference between what you wish or imagine and what is real.
Because it's the same circuits we use, the same circuits in the brain. And that can't be done just on paper.
Done. I know what I have to do this year, and how do you? You said earlier, I put them in the drawer and let it happen. This is done by applying a principle that I recommend, and I want to be very specific: 1% of your time should be dedicated to connecting with your future self.
1% reported on a productive day is about 10 minutes. If you take into account this 10%, but you know what to do in those 10 minutes, do it in such a way that you are extremely focused and projected into the future to who you want to become.
Specifically, not what do you want to achieve, but who you want to become. I'll give you an example. In the morning, we do an exercise for 10 minutes in which we project ourselves into the future mentally.
I mean, I accompany people, telling them, "Now imagine in the future what you see, what you hear, what you feel, who you are with in three years' time."
Let's say, "What you do, what is your activity, who you accompany, what conversations you have, all kinds of detail elements."
And after that, we return to the present from three years to two years, and again we anchor these images. What you see, what you hear, where you are, who you are with, what activities you do, what you like, how you specifically enjoy what you do concretely so that the person can visualize.
And after that, a year closer to the present, and after that over three months, where should you be?
This is called the Merlin factor. Legend has it that Merlin was a wizard at the court of King Arthur. He had this characteristic: he did not age; he rejuvenated. He could tell what is in the future to those with.
The problem is that you have to do it ritually and often, and that's where people fail. Because it's not enough to do this exercise once. When you do it once, the effect is, "Wow, I never thought. Well, that's interesting. Look, I saw those details. Look, I imagined I'd be with so and so."
The secret is to do this until the image in your brain becomes so clear that it becomes more convincing than the image around you. You can sit in a studio apartment with a garden in a corner if, in your mind, there is a villa that you draw in your head very accurately.
Doing this every day, at some point, it impregnates you with that image so strongly that your mind says, "Bah, where am I here now? It's temporary. It's a step I have to take from the studio to two rooms or from the studio to the land on which I'm going to build my villa."
And so on, and your mind starts to build the scenario because you are anchored in the future.
Once again, the trick is not whether or not your brain can do it. For sure, the question is how often do you do it? The more often you do it, the more anchored you are in that image in your brain.
And that's how you start building your future in reality by taking steps. But you have to be anchored in that image in your brain.
You mentioned a little earlier that the goal must be clear and it must be charged with emotion. Yes, how do you make it clear? And what exactly does it mean, this clear word?
And the even more difficult question: how do you charge it with emotion? 3D visualization means that you want to visualize far, often, and in detail. Far means three years is far for most people.
There are some people who have the ability to visualize 10 years in the future or imagine how the world will be 15, 20 years in the future. But most people, when they hear this thing, their film breaks. They start coming with ironies to comment, "Go away with your nonsense. I don't know what I'm going to do tomorrow."
And my answer is precisely because you don't know what you're going to do tomorrow, you need to push your time perspective further. You can't 10 years? Okay, try two.
The secret I discovered is that it's not good to visualize a single year. How do most people do? Which is at the end of the year or at the beginning of the year. How are we now? I say, "A, okay, it's the beginning of the year. I'm thinking about what I'm going to do until the end of the year."
But that's just a convention. It's a short time for large goals. In a year, you cannot transform yourself at the level of personal identity.
In a year, you can reach some targets, maybe some extra money, maybe you can run a certain distance, and so on. But you do not change your identity.
To transform as a person, my recommendation is to project yourself far: 2, 3, 4, 5 years.
This is the first D: project yourself far. I do an exercise three months a year every morning, and now I am in the middle of this exercise because I exercise at the end of the previous year, the beginning of the next year for three months, about a month and a half.
When I exercise in the morning for 10 minutes, as I said earlier, I take and write 10 wishes in a diary, which is my little diary called "Becomings." I have a version called the "Entrepreneur's Diary," which I gave you as a gift too.
Well, I'm writing those 10 wishes. Wishes are not objectives; wishes are images from the future charged with energy and emotions.
"How cool would it be if I had a villa? I don't know which one they have. Wow, how cool would it be if I traveled? I don't know where. How cool would it be if I knew this or that person or type of person? If I had access to this club? If I could run or do, I don't know what physical activity from this extreme?"
And so on. I write these 10 wishes, but my fundamental rule is that none of them can have a deadline of one year. They must be at least 18 months, i.e., a year and a half, or 24, or 36, or 48.
I go for up to and including five years without any embarrassment because it's my exercise. But what I know from psychology is that by doing this exercise, you allow yourself to have desires without justification.
This is an important nuance. I have not said this in any podcast before. It is very important not to apologize or justify our desires. Society educates us: "You need this."
Yes, but why? And if you are not very careful, you also wonder yourself, "But really, why? But does it fall? But is it okay? But is it acceptable to want this thing?"
And we actually kill our creativity this way. Let yourself be carried away by the flow of desires as if you were your own Santa Claus so that you could think far.
These two conditions must be met every day for a minimum of 30 days. But it is a minimum; it could be better 60 or even 90 days, and without justification.
And that is the far part. This means to think far away. I know it's not very sexy what I'm saying now. You know, "Bah, leave me alone for 30 days."
But what do I have time to sit for 30 days with a pen in my hand to think about what I want? But I know exactly what I want.
Do you write the same ones every day, or do you write them from memory? The question is very good, and that's the secret.
The first time we write, we write something intellectualized to think about what the colleague has, what the neighbor has, what do others wish for, what is good to wish for, what is fashionable to wish for.
I write those; there are a few that are authentic. But because 10 is always 10, after three or four, I choose ordinary classics: more money, more friends, more health, more harmony in the house.
After those, others start to come that I didn't think about very often, and I make a list of 10. The next day, my rule is that I never read the previous day.
I start and write. The first two weeks, as a rule, it's like that. "Well, but what did I want from myself yesterday? That I no longer know what I wanted from my life yesterday."
And here is a very important lesson. Stephen Covey, the late Stephen Covey, whose book was the first personal development book I read in 1995-96, you know, that's when I started with him.
He has a very cool quote: "Your goals will become a part of you, and they will come true easily when they are screwed into your consciousness."
We know that screws have a step, and that means that with each thread, there is another step. It penetrates your consciousness deeper.
It's the same with writing. Every page I write screws into my consciousness that desire, makes it mine, brings it closer to me.
But you know what happens if the next day I forget which one it is? It probably wasn't very important.
And then I'm still scratching my head. I say, "What could I want to get 10?" And I notice after about two weeks that I start to remember them.
I will notice that the words change. The words are no longer so academic, but I write with abbreviations. I write words that I am not used to.
You know what you notice in three, four, five weeks? One stabilizes. The list becomes longer, more yours, more authentic.
And when asked how we make ourselves feel, the answer is the following: I write. This does not happen in the first weeks.
Through week three or four, I write one, and because I am sitting at the same table with the same window next to me, with the same cup of coffee on the same chair, it's important to be in the same place.
We're going to talk about the ritual. I wrote one, and what I do is I lean back slightly, I breathe, and I give myself between 15 and 20 seconds to make an image in my brain on that subject.
And this element is fundamental; it's absolutely key. In other words, I don't just write intellectually, calligraphically, and so on, but I lean back a bit.
It's important because when our gaze is directed to approximately 20° up, the visual cortex is activated. But we have to sit relaxed on the chair and look at approximately 20° up and defocused.
That is, I don't look at a fixed point, but I look at the dice as if another option would come.
Another option would be to do this with the eyes closed. When I do this, the image becomes more colorful, more vivid, more detailed, clearer, and more emotionally charged.
I say this after 27 years of studying neurolinguistics because my initial training was in neurolinguistic programming, lateral thinking, transactional analysis, and a few more systems that I basically brought to Romania.
I started the personal development and seminar market in 1996 by bringing the first trainers from outside and doing it out of passion, and then it became a business.
In these 27 years since I've been doing this, the more I do it, the clearer it becomes that it works. The secret is not to change the working parameters; it's neurophysiology.
It's not psych pupu Buru Buru; it's neurophysiology. I.e., it's scientifically explained why the globes simply work. Eyeballs directed upwards, no, you don't look, but you direct the eyeballs upwards.
This neurophysiologically causes an activation of the visual cortex. I will visualize more easily. But that's not all. When you visualize, you have to visualize yourself in the image.
And this is another extremely important element. Understandable, Radu, why? Because you can see a villa where you want to live your life and say, "This is the villa I want."
There are also very high chances of reaching that villa as a tourist, but not yours, or you only have access to it for an hour and so on.
When you visualize yourself in the said villa, neurophysiologically, you feel in your body the sensation and emotion of an owner or a master or a person who has premium access in that place when he or she wants.
So there are some elements of finesse that need to be done. As I said, it is 3D, far, often, and detailed.
The far part is that for many years, the frequent part is that every day, 30-90 days, and the detail part is what I am describing to you now.
I need to persist on that image until it becomes clearer every day. When I return to that image, it becomes clearer.
I give one more element, Radu. Why is it very important to think far? Because if you want something right away and you don't get it right away, you get stressed, and you don't believe anymore.
If you want to choose the marathon in five days, and four days pass, and after that, you go to the marathon and you can't finish it, you get upset. "Bah, it doesn't work, it doesn't work."
Change. If it's over six months, for example, and you understand the mechanics until then, that you have to train every day, that you have to get a coach, and so on, not only will you be able to run the marathon, but you will do it in a way that allows you to want it.
And the second marathon will not be so taxing; it will not be so stressful. What is the lesson? Stress is inversely proportional to time. The longer the time, the less the stress.
Now, you don't want the stress to be so small that you don't start anymore. But what we do first is that we push the objective.
In 2025, I write my wishes for 2026, 2027, the ones I want, 2028, 2029. And after that, from those 10 wishes, after 30-60 days, I select three priorities.
I want to recap once more to see if I understood. Yes, so I put myself nicely to take the place that I have to establish and have every time.
If I move and stay for rent, I select a place, but it must be a place with light and preferably have a window so I can look into the dice.
I start with the wishes I have without judging myself, without being interested in anything. I write them as I like, as I like. I do this for 60-90 days.
Obviously, the list after 90 days will be different compared to day 1 or 2. It stabilizes in about 20 days. For most people, it stabilizes in 20 days.
The list is a minimum of 30 days, with the mention I am not allowed to look back. I don't look back because if I look back, I copy from my younger version and less experienced.
You know, I want to look into the future, not back. Yes, exactly. This is what I do, preferably every morning.
I do this work, preferably for 10 minutes as a ritual. They closed it. I write, I connect, and say, "Okay, this is how I want it to look."
And I don't stay for more than 20 seconds. That is, it takes me six seconds to write because I write a single line. I don't usually write more wishes.
These are phrases between two, three words and 10 words maximum because after 20 days, you already know what you mean. You can write two, three lines, but two, three words, yes.
In two, three words, you already know what you mean. But after that, you lean back slightly and visualize.
And this stage of the 10 is very important when I choose them. When I establish the three, in some years, I have been doing this for 11 years.
In some years, after 30 days, it becomes clear to me. In other years, when I'm more stressed, I'm more confused, I'm in a more tumultuous stage of life, I might need 60 days.
Usually, after 60 days, I take the 10 and turn them into three annual goals. How do I do that? Next, I have the 10 and start writing them in order of importance that will have the biggest impact in my life if I focus on it this year.
I start writing them in order of importance, and after a week or two, often written in order of importance, I realize which are the top three.
Same from my mind. I write them in order of importance. When I write the 10, I start to have trouble writing them in order of importance from number one to number 10.
You know, I don't do that from the beginning. I throw them there with a fork. But after 30-40 days, I say, "But what is the order of importance? Which is number one? Which is number two? Which is number three?"
And I end up selecting in this way a list of long-term wishes in order of importance. And after that, I look at it and say, "If I were to focus this year on one, how do I turn this wish into a goal?"
Let's say one of my wishes is to buy a villa on the Côte d'Azur, one of the three. Yes, let's say that this is one of the wishes: to buy a villa on the Côte d'Azur.
But this year, what am I doing for the villa on the Côte d'Azur? I will buy the villa this year. I could say yes. No, that I don't have a budget.
Okay, so this year I have to make x tens of thousands or hundreds of thousands or that I put it in an account for the villa on the Côte d'Azur.
So the big objective that spans three beds for years, I take it and segment it. You divide by one year in part, just like in the Merlin factor.
I bring it to the present, but I start from the future. I want to make this distinction very important.
And I do the same with everything. Only I want to make an important clarification. When we work with long-term wishes, we are actually working with our future entity, who we want to become in the future.
It is very important to write wishes that, when they happen, you want to stay with their consequences all your life.
Because it is much more economical to think like this. It applies especially to health, prosperity, relationships, and your career.
But if you have a financial goal, what do you actually want? Do you want to achieve, I don't know, 1 million and then lose it? Or do you want to become the kind of person capable of making millions?
Probably option two. You want to become the kind of man capable of making and managing millions. If we're talking about relationships, what do you want?
Do you just want to get a relationship with someone? Or do you want to have the ability to communicate, empathize, harmonize, so that you can get multiple relationships of that kind and skillfully maintain those that are really right for you?
And all these examples converge. That's why you want to see yourself in the picture. That's why you want to make friends with your future self.
Because you want to stay like yourself in the future. You don't just want to reach back to the present or return to the stage you are at now.
You want to access that stage but also maintain it. We are talking in perspective that it's good at some point to stabilize the identity.
Well, I want to become, and it stabilizes on four big levels: health, relationships, career, and prosperity.
If you establish your clear identity on these four areas, I mean who do you want to become? What league do you want to play in? If you want, that's what you want to visualize.
But let me close the loop and finish this whole process. I have three annual priorities, and what I have achieved is like this: this year, we are talking about 2025.
I will focus on these three big priorities. Why three? As Jim Collins, one of the greatest business professors in the world, says very nicely, if you have more than three priorities, you don't have any.
Well, people have many, 15, 20 on those lists. Yes, when you set a priority that transforms you as a person, you can have a very good opinion of yourself and say you can do this and that and that and that.
But look historically at the people around you, and you will see how many have succeeded in doing 17 things at once and very well.
And keep in mind that you've only seen them on stage. You haven't seen them behind the scenes. I mean, you've seen what they say about doing well.
For example, not what happens in the back kitchen. It could be a lot more disorganized work than it seems.
And then three is enough so that you don't get bored doing only one and few enough so that you can juggle them all. I mean, in a year, you can push them all forward. You can take care of all three.
This is one argument. Another important argument: if you want to simplify your life and your life to be at the same time fulfilled but also simple, what I discovered is that there are six important areas of life.
The six areas of life correspond to human needs. The six areas of life are health, money, relationships, career, personal growth, and social contribution, which usually comes towards the end of life for most people.
But you can deal with three very, very focused, and the other three will happen somewhat by themselves if these three are extraordinarily well cared for.
These three have what? These three of the six. Well, the first one is health. Health is the gift that those who no longer have it appreciate very much.
There is also a saying that a healthy person has 1000 wishes; a sick person has only one. This is how it is. If you don't have enough vital energy and your body is not well, it is very difficult to take care of other things.
And this, as I get older, we keep talking. Why do you want to do until the end of life becomes crucial? Vital. One of the priorities should be annual health care: the part of movement, nutrition, sports, muscle mass increase, etc.
Things you do, things that concern you. Anyway, and you congratulate yourself for this because habits that are difficult to maintain, if you don't start them in time, are difficult to start doing.
I don't know what great sport at 60 years old. Yes, yes, yes, no, it's impossible, but it's difficult.
Second, obviously, it's the career part. But when I say career, I don't mean that you go to work. I mean to identify a professional area that meets the fundamental criteria for career success.
That sounds like what I'm good at. It's important. Such a real lesson is that when you choose your career, you have to meet four criteria: to like it, so you won't be tempted to give up along the way; you'll be good at it, to have a standard; you're paid to demand, so you won't be kicked out of the profession that there is no longer a market for such a thing; and for it to be important, i.e., to have meaning.
To have meaning to say what I do is important. I really do something valuable for my peers, for the philosophy of life that I would respond to.
If you answer these four questions with high marks, high marks mean more than seven, you have chosen a good career area. You are in the right place.
And the third area to prioritize in life, if you want to be very structured, is energy: health, career, and relationships. Fulfilling relationships with the people around them differ from person to person.
One wants to strengthen his relationships with his friends in his fraternity to become the head of whatever club. Another wants children. Another wants marriage. Another wants the motorcycle club to raise him, etc.
But interpersonal relationships are extremely, extremely important. And these three, if you have very concrete annual goals in these three areas, guess what will happen?
What will happen is that the other three will start to happen in your natural life. You have a career that is very fulfilling; you end up being well paid, so the money part starts to show.
If you have very, very good relationships and you are always busy and you feel taken care of and you have a nice home and you have nice friends and so on, at some point, you get an idea.
"Well, but let's help these others too." And if you have a very, very healthy and very good body, it means that you have developed a discipline and a certain level of character, which also means personal growth.
Going back to your original question: why three? Look at the reasons why three. Because it's a shortcut.
I confess that I discovered it only in the last four years. I always insisted on having six priorities in a year, that there are six important areas of life.
And I found that I kind of catch my ears because it's very difficult to have six priorities in a year and even make significant progress on them.
On the other hand, if you have three priorities that you don't give up on, and you still have some of these elements to color your life, then it will work.
I try to prioritize these three goals per year: one for energy and health, one for career, and one for relationships.
In fact, Sigmund Freud warned us that Sigmund Freud had many contributions, some questionable, but some extraordinarily strong. One of them was meaningful work and love of fellow human beings are the two fundamental pillars of human happiness.
Rei Dalio also says the same thing: meaningful work, meaningful relationships. Only these cannot be done by the sick man.
How do you know that the three are really the things you need and they don't interfere with your egocentric desires but rather they intervene in your area of development as a human being?
All the decisions you make, if you want to know that they are yours and not someone else's, need to be filtered through the system of your values.
What does it take to know it? To have one and let you know. Well, but what is my values system?
I love this topic. It seems extremely, extremely valuable and important. If we talked more about values and children, our children would learn about values, and adults would understand the power of values more clearly and solve a lot of problems.
So I'm going to take two real minutes to explain the thing about values. What are values? First of all, a definition: they are principles of life after which it is worth managing the journey through life.
Principles of life, that is, life should be like this because that is important. The values answer the question of what is important, but it is also a part of the extremely relevant definition, not just nice to have words, as the English would say.
I.e., it should be like that. They are not aspirations; they are principles so important to you that you are willing to defend them when they are violated.
Values are principles that you want to live by and that you are willing to defend. Not only would it be interesting to happen, not so just declarative.
And you know those are your values by the way you behave when they are violated.
And then I think the top two values are extremely important to understand and emphasize. The first value you have, I know there are all kinds of exercises on the internet: discover your values.
I don't know if I did them all, but I did 90% of them. And what can I tell you? Teaching and coaching and with top people, with entrepreneurs, with executives, that's when you have argued or you fought for an idea of yours.
It's the moment when you have the opportunity to find out your values. You want to find out your values? Think about when you fought or when you gave in.
What is the reason behind why you did that? And then you will know what your values are.
Not that it wouldn't be useful to do exercises where you have to choose from a list of 400 words the ones you like the most, but it's superficial.
But can't it define my identity? You just have to tell the truth. You have to be honest with yourself like that.
But only when it has been violated can you know if it is the real you. That is the litmus paper and the ultimate test.
The ultimate test is not a quiz you take on the internet. It is not a session of therapy or coaching in which you say, "My value is like this."
You know where I got stuck and where I understood this right in entrepreneurship. Because many people will come, including to the interview, and you ask, "What is important to you in life? What are the principles after which you guide yourself?"
La la la la la, and he tells you. But people don't differentiate between values and aspirations.
These are different things because you can admire someone and say, "Bah, when I grow up, that's how I want to be, bro. Look what character this man has."
Pay attention: how does he defend his values? What backbone does he have? And so on.
So I want to be a guide. What are you not yet? I am not saying that your future identity cannot be imbued with a set of values like the one you want or the one you aspire to.
But you are currently operating on your current set, not on what you aspire to or you want. It's a very fine nuance, very important.
And I repeat, there are principles that define you as a human being. I feel defined by the idea of freedom.
I don't like it; the idea of freedom defines me. I.e., I filter reality through the prism of how much freedom I get somewhere, depending on how much freedom I can get or not.
But for someone else, freedom is not very relevant; safety is relevant, for example. It can be argued, "Wait a minute, that safety is a need, not a value."
And we enter again into a philosophical polemic. But the distinction is important. Needs are needs; it is what we need to survive.
Values are principles of life. So it is important for us to feel fulfilled.
So needs are about existence; values are about fulfillment.
I now come back to your question about the values filter. We know that it is about us when we have clarified our number one values.
We know that the objective is about us when we have clarified values number one and number two. When what we do is not exclusively for our benefit, these two criteria.
So for me, if my values are freedom and excellence in what I do, that means I improve performance.
If you want, if these are my values, any project in which I bag, any purchase I make, any partnership I enter must leave me free enough and allow me to grow to a level of excellence.
And be able to not only be about me, contributing to the greater good. You do this podcast, Radu, and you are successful, and you have that interesting plate there and so on.
Super! I've known you for years, and I know that what you do, you don't do it exclusively because you want to look in the mirror and take a picture with that plate, but because it's also for the benefit of someone else.
Why is it important to understand this? Because all the studies show that people who are very self-centered know what they are about, know what their value system is, but care about others, help other people, have social impact, contribute, and so on, they are happier.
And this is what I learned from my teacher, Professor Daniel David from Babeș-Bolyai University. It is very good to have clarified values.
He calls them cardinal values; I call them core values. He says, "But they must also be prosocial."
And prosocial exactly means not to be only about you but also about others.
So to close the loop, how do I know that the annual goals I set for myself are not because the neighbor has, and I go after? If the neighbor has a garage and I think I want it, I know because I did a process of conscience and I asked myself, "What are my principles of life?"
And usually two. And how do I make it prosocial? What am I getting into? That is, not only myself benefiting.
Good, so out of the 10, I have set three. I go through them the values filter, the values question.
Because the process of discovering your core values, as you call them, can take some time. I mean, you have to find yourself in the position of violating a value or defending it in order to be able to say, "Yes, look, this is a value."
Yes, until then, because people will start making their list at the beginning of the year. Close to what? And they really want, not why they saw at the neighbor.
At a super short version, thanks for the challenge. It is to take a piece of paper, write in the head of the sheet, "What is so important to me that I would pay for it?"
And after that, to answer the question, "Why is it so important?" There are some very powerful questions that you can use. They are used in coaching processes.
Usually, this is a question, and you take and write and say, "Why is it so important?" And everything that follows for that, he reads very carefully.
What comes after? Because you say, "But why is it so important?" Because I want freedom, because he inspires me, because... and search in those words.
Don't search the internet for a list of 500 words; search in what you wrote in response to some good questions.
Another thing you're going to do is look back when your values were violated. When nobody was born yesterday, yeah, who's watching this podcast?
And then you look back and what do you say? "Oh, when did he take me out from the jump?"
It's the strongest and strongest someone, and write three names. And after that, you say, "But what values were violated then?"
This is very good. What exactly tormented my soul in such a state that I have to? My values were violated.
Because otherwise, if your values hadn't been violated, it means that anyone in a situation like that would have been destroyed, right?
People react very differently to the behavior of others. And you also wonder what partnerships or projects we've done.
Me, in the past, that were super mega cool, at least for a portion, the first two months, the first three months, the whole project.
Again, you weren't born yesterday because you're watching this podcast. So you probably had some projects, some team activities that loaded you very, very hard.
And you write the person, a person who collaborates, the person 1, 2, 3. And to each, you say, "Yes, what exactly was so important to me and was honored and nourished in that collaboration?"
Bingo! You are going to write a few words, and among those words, you're going to say, "What are my values?"
A man who writes this, what are his values? You can work with a coach, with a therapist, with a friend, or with yourself.
The next day, with a clear mind, after you wrote with Z before, I'm interested in what I do until I define my three fundamental mental goals.
Because it's a period of 30, 60, or 90 days. I can't just sit around just describing you. That's why I start about 30 days in advance.
Yes, yes, okay. And how do I do that from some well-established goals on paper passed through a set of values?
But to put them into action, because this is where super mega important comes in. And I'm glad we're reaching this topic.
I said from the beginning that I want to talk about rituals, but I'll go back to your first question. You asked, "Is there a shortcut for those who say, 'Well, the year has started. I don't have time for nonsense. Can I wait until February?'"
Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. I learned this from Brian Tracy. I had the opportunity to interview Brian Tracy.
Fortunately, I interviewed about 10 of these gurus in personal development for the simple fact that I started the first on the Romanian market, as I said, in '95, '96.
Brian Tracy told me, "Bro, you can tell a man with whom you have a bond, with whom you have relationships, with whom you have a connection, I mean who trusts you. Bro, you have 30 seconds at your disposal. Write the four most important goals you have."
I started the timer. I also wrote for that because you took that man by surprise.
And he says, "Aoleu, if he doesn't finish the exercise, who knows what happens? He doesn't have time to intervene with the logical, rational, intellectual aspect, the neighbor's goat, what should I want? I don't know what."
And they D from it in 30 seconds. Because the brain kicks into gear very quickly, faster than sometimes faster than we like to believe.
I mean, we say some things spontaneously, and you write them. What you find, you find that in 90% of cases, people will write the next four: something about health, something about relationships, something about job, career, expertise, certifications, I don't know what, and something about money.
For people who don't have the patience to write 10 wishes, I would also say set these four goals. Take hold of them and, in parallel, write down your 10 wishes for 30 days.
Yes, yes, for 30 days. Pay attention: 30 days at the beginning. 30 days is even better than 60 or 90.
In the first years, I only wrote 30. 30 days. I liked it so much after three years that I expanded the process.
But for years, I taught in conference rooms on Zoom: "Write 30 days. Write 30 days." I say, "What do I do? I write more."
But it actually works. In 20 days, the list is clarified, and in the next 10 days, three priorities are extracted.
And I continue with the visualization to start thinking about the plan: what would be the main five or seven big moves I'm making this year to get to where I want to be at the end of the year?
Five, seven. So let's go into practice. Yes, between five and seven.
So if we're going to go now into practice, there are two very big components that I want to put on the table. I have put them into practice.
Yes, how do we make the three become a reality so that they no longer remain only on paper? The first component is ritualized, and the second component is planning or project management.
What does ritualized mean? I start with this. As you write 10 minutes in the morning in a diary, you can do this as a habit or as a ritual.
What I am saying now is a very, very, very new element that I taught for about 10 years in intuitive boot camp.
Last year at Harvard, a book came out that comes with the science behind it. Sometimes we, the speakers, the trainers, the creators of the educational context, have the privilege to teach some things, and after that, let the science behind it come to you and explain that it is so.
Just like Tony Robbins taught for many years that it's important to sit with your back straight and straighten your muscles and breathe and choose, and I don't know what, the mood changes.
And after that, Amy Cady came from Harvard and said, "Yes, it is based on academic study."
I have also taught rituals, and there are hundreds of people who have also received the explanations in the manual and the training on this subject.
But now I have the scientific basis behind me. Also, at Harvard, a book appeared that it's called "The Ritual Effect."
What is it? When you do it, these two are the characteristics of the habit. When you wake up in the morning and brush your teeth, you don't necessarily think, "Now the upper left canine, I have enough paste on the brush."
I don't know what. Your mind can wander. So you don't consume energy, but you don't give it any meaning.
That behavior, if you want to achieve a goal that is about your life, about who you are becoming, you want to maintain long-term motivation to achieve that.
As I said, you don't just want to. You choose the marathon; you want to be an athlete. You don't just want to make a million; you want to be a millionaire capable of managing millions.
You don't just want to be friends with someone; you want to maintain that friendship. For that, you want to do some things repetitively, but you don't want to do them mindlessly, i.e., without meaning and without energy consumption.
What does a ritual bring you? When you do that habit in a ritual system, it gives you energy. The habit does not consume your energy; the ritual adds energy.
The habit does not necessarily have meaning or significance; the ritual has meaning and significance. In the package, it has meaning; it has additional motivation.
When you do it, every time you do it, you are charged. I will give you a perfect example of how I have applied this thing for 20 or so years.
I am a professional speaker. I have given over 3000 speeches in this career, both online and physically, mostly physically because online has been around for a few years.
At one time, I was doing tours around the country in a spartan way, i.e., 12 cities in 12 days, with travel by car between them, organized by entire halls.
The trucks with logistics went before the team. Before, I was resting in hotels by cars. I was also older without VAT than I am now.
Before entering a hall, it might happen that you catch a cold, don't be sleepy, someone angry, etc. That is, you are not in the right state.
And before each entrance to the hall, I had the claim to have a roll-up with the name of the event. Behind the roll-up, you have 1.20 privacy, in that I used to do my ritual.
My ritual was quite simple. I had a card that I still have in my wallet that I laundry around the corners like that, and that said opposite: O means objective, P means presence, U means humor, S means my strategy.
And the ritual always had two components. The first component is I would go behind the roll-up, and just like Tony Robbins, I would move.
I would straighten my back; I would put a pen in my mouth so it would force my smile, like to change my physiology.
And I was reading the card. I wasn't reading the card because I didn't know what was written on it. You realize I've done this thing hundreds of times.
It's not that hard to remember four words. I was reading the card because I was anchoring in it.
That is, when I was reading every word, I was answering in my brain, "This is what I want. I want to connect with people. I want to serve them," etc.
I am present. What does it mean that I am present? It means that I feel my body. It means that I feel the atmosphere of the hall, that I know where I am.
That sometimes, like at concerts, you have seen some artists who come to Bucharest and say, "Good evening, Budapest." You know why? This means lack of presence.
So objective, presence, strategy. I know what I mean. I know the order. I have the slides prepared. I checked the sound. I checked the room temperature, that the people are in the room, that I prepared the introductory stuff, all that.
And humor, which was actually the third letter, very important to me. Sometimes I open the mobile phone in my ritual, and I read some jokes that I have in a list to put me in a good mood.
Maybe I don't always need it. Maybe I slept well. Maybe I got success in a previous city, and now I'm super strong and on big horses.
But the ritual puts me back in that professional state. When I was doing that, it wasn't mindless.
It wasn't a habit without the mind present there. On the contrary, the mind was very present there, and it gave me energy.
And the fundamental differences between habits and rituals. So if you want to transform yourself as a person into a better version, become your next level version, it's important to use the mechanics of the ritual, not to install habits.
Even if good habits and rituals are usually more complex than habits. I.e., tying your shoelaces may be a habit, but the fact that you and your teammates in the locker room, at a certain point, you put on your equipment, you fight with high fives, and so on, that is a ritual.
Rituals are more complex, and very often, a ritual is built with four components. This is what I taught in a mastermind just recently together with our mutual friend Cristi Onețiu.
A ritual has the following four components: one, the specific behavior you want to add to your arsenal. That is running, that is getting in gear, as I said earlier, that is journaling, reading, learning to play the violin, whatever.
Yes, the behavior. There are three more components: an anchor, very, very useful. If you want to install a ritual in your life, it is to have an object that is loaded with meaning, that has a certain color, that a certain shape that reminds you of something.
An anchor can be a picture of your family. An anchor maybe it's a medallion. When I write a diary for myself, the anchor is the blue notebook that I worked on, that cover until it came off my nose until I found a cover that I like because I can't anymore.
And my little pen with which I write, which is the anchor. For example, when you want to go to sports, it differs from person to person.
And not always the same anchor, but it may be for some people, it may be the moment when they put on their sports watch.
This is the sports watch. I go to sport, pac! I put the object in question.
The anchor is usually good to be an object. In the neurolinguistic programming school, it says that the anchor can be an image, can be a gesture, and so on.
My recommendation is for rituals. The anchor should be an object, which can have a visual component, but it's good to have a kinesthetic component too, so you can put your hands on it.
That's why I said the watch. If you look in history, and that's written in the book "The Ritual Effect" that I was talking about, there are all kinds of mega artists and people, famous writers or pianists, and so on, who travel with an object, an amulet, or something that puts them in the right mood.
It is also important that the anchor is often, but not always accompanied by a symbol. The cross is a symbol. The Omega sign is a symbol.
Any letter can be a symbol, but it must have meanings for you. So it's the behavior, anchor, symbol, and something else very important: the state in which it starts, i.e., energy.
The acronym is CASE: behavior, anchor, symbol, energy. Energy is extremely important. You don't do the ritual to get energy at the end; you take care of the energy from the beginning.
Ritualized, when you enter the ritual, the energy is there. For example, you put on some music that puts you in a good mood. You do five squats to increase your air volume.
You write an SMS of gratitude to someone because that surely puts you in a good mood. So you do something to put you in a good mood.
It's also called positive focus. Now, I don't want to sound very complicated because I didn't do all of these from the beginning.
You know, I say, "What is the complete recipe?" And the complete recipe is every time I want to initiate a ritual, I have to know what is the behavior that I want to become a ritual, an anchor, a symbol, and something for energy.
I need to do them all, and I do them enough times until the simple fact that I see the anchor or remember the bowl or do something for energy leads me to that behavior.
But I repeat, it is different from habits because it gives me energy and because it is very meaningful. That is, it motivates me every time I do the ritual.
I feel better and more convinced that, "Bah, what's cool that I'm doing this thing? Super cool!"
Yes, I'm glad I'm doing that particular thing.
And the pillar of ritual, I'm moving to the pillar of project management. I know I sound a bit technical what I'm doing now, but I'm hoping that pieces can be taken.
I mean, if it's still a podcast, someone can take it and take the pieces because it's like a masterclass what we're doing now.
Project management, from my point of view, for one of those three priorities, it should be project management for one, for the second, for the third.
It's about understanding that you can't achieve results with motivation alone. This is a myth.
Sir, you are not motivated enough. If you were motivated and it was important to you, you would do blah blah blah. It's not like that, and demonstrably, it's not like that.
Because what we call willpower or the power of the will, the willpower to go through the wall to get and so on, is dependent on the amount of sugar in the blood.
If you have low blood sugar, you have less will. This, what does this mean? Yes, it's an important component.
You have to have the inner resources to make a will and so on, but it's fluctuating. My favorite metaphor is the following: you're with a big 3-4 ton car with lots of seats.
No, not necessarily a van, but an all-terrain vehicle. So you're with your whole family, and you're walking down the street, and the road is slippery.
You've gone out onto a field, and you've sunk into the mud in that field because it's just rained. The driver says, "Bye, brothers, bad luck. Someone has to get off to push."
The wheels are spinning. Now we know very well with this visual in mind that if two people get off, let's say they go to the back and start pushing, the result will be that they fill it with mud.
No, the car is getting out of there because it has 3-4 tons. To have a chance to get out of there, you need everyone to get off, maybe including the driver, to push with one hand and with the other to turn the wheel so that he has enough force to pull the car out.
But I want to draw attention to the following aspect. In the first phase, when two get off, the other four remain in the car.
This means that the car does not only have 3-4 tons; it has 3 tons and 400 kg, 300 kg more. So the two who came down, even if there is all the goodwill in the world, the others who should be their allies are not neutral.
They are burdens that are harder to remove. What is the idea? The idea is that one of the six people in the car is motivation.
It's like saying, "Yes, motivation, you get in the back and push." Why did you get the car stuck in the mud?
Because you are tributary to your old habits. You are tributary to your inertia. That is, you do what you used to do.
You do what you used to do before. You do what you used to do. You do what is like you. You want to become someone else, but you say, "I need motivation."
Only motivation is one-sixth of that equation. I wrote a book on this subject; it's called "The Mastery Formula."
Now I'm writing the second edition because I learned some things in the meantime, and now I'm giving you the things I learned in plus update.
So all six have to come down. All six forces have to work together to get the car out of the mud.
That is to get you out of the scenery and put you on the road to go to your better version. The first is motivation, and the second is internal, the mentality or the set of beliefs.
And still internal, and the third is mobilization, the ability to get your ass off the chair. That is literally to mobilize.
You know, it's about that. "B, I can't mobilize." This is usually a physiological issue.
It's not like being in a company. You can't mobilize metaphorically, I'm talking.
Yes, self-determined to simply get up, to have this start, to have, as the Germans say, "Anlauf."
It's worth understanding that these three components are internal, and you have absolute control over them. They are just things to ritualize.
You can ritualize; you can ritualize; you can ritualize. You need all three if you want your new project to happen. Absolutely all three.
No, you can't without one of them. Why? You can have the best motivation in the world. The motivation, being in line with my values, in my case, freedom, the number value, this thing gives me freedom.
Yes, I'm great. But you might have bad beliefs. "I'm small. I'm incapable. I've never done it before to succeed. I don't deserve it. I can't."
Motivation is given by values; mentality is given by beliefs. You have good or bad beliefs about the subject.
I mean, you think you can believe you can learn, believe you will succeed, believe that you deserve, you believe that you are the right age, the right height, the right ability, the right context, etc.
Mobilization has to do with how you can generate energy inside yourself to get out of inertia and get into, get out of the comfort zone.
How to say popularly, I don't like it at all, the term comfort zone, because it's good to be in comfort; it's bad to be in complacency. That's another story.
And then you have to work on each one, and you can ritualize their motivation, for example.
Well, maybe with the diary, maybe with a conversation in which brings back to attention that it is your main value and that it is worth defending.
How to ritualize beliefs? Well, especially, I mean, you practice that you get up, that you move, that you start until it works for you.
I tell you a short story here. An entrepreneur comes to me in a coaching session, and he says, "Well, I'm such a people-loving person. I'm so relatable and so on."
The man being mega overweight, that every time I have to do sports, well, if someone sends me a message or gives me a WhatsApp or gives me a bathroom phone, distracts me incredibly.
I call him; I enter into a conversation with him, and we talk for half an hour, an hour. I feel good, and the other person feels good, and I help them, and I don't know what.
And no, I can't do this anymore with sports. How do you help me with this thing? And in my mind, it was okay.
So it's a question of mobilization, not a question of something. The man is convinced that it is important to do sports.
So the part of beliefs is there. The man values the idea of longevity, the idea of health, and so on.
And a matter of mobilization. And I said to him, "Look at a simple rule. When you have to answer a phone that rings, you then, or you saw on the phone that if you look at the phone carefully, you will find someone who I sent her a WhatsApp."
No, I mean, it's easy. That's how you say, "Okay, perfect. Before I do this, my rule is that I answer immediately, but 90 seconds I do push-ups or push-ups like that."
And after 90 seconds, I go and answer. This fundamental rule, every time you say, "I had to do sports."
Well, I didn't have 90 seconds of push-ups or something like Flex. I've been doing this for three months. They reached about three minutes because the understanding was that it increases progressively.
If it comes out 90 seconds, it goes to two minutes. If it comes out two minutes, it goes to two and a half minutes.
And the man started to do two minutes. It seems a little, but somehow it is more than zero, and it starts to add up.
With this rule, which doesn't have to be very difficult at the beginning, but which can be improved along the way, you get where you need to go.
Good, so these three components: reason, motivation, mentality, and mobilization can be ritualized in your life and are 100% in your control. This is the cool part.
The other three are outside of you, and this is an important element. Understandable, because how do we teach?
Until now, it was bath work with all six. Now I say work primarily with the first three because they are internal and are your control.
After that, move on to the next three and build the scaffold, if you want, the scaffolding that allows you not to slip.
Don't you're wrong, and these three are the number one members of your support team, your mastermind, or your supporting entourage.
Whatever your priority is, it's good to eliminate people who take away your energy in relation to that subject, denigrate you, ridicule you, say you won't succeed, roll your eyes when you try, it doesn't work, etc.
And to bring with you, as a friend of mine says, some lawyers, some trainers, some coaches, some mentors, some supporters, some experts who want you well, who want to help you.
You put those who want you to succeed and have all the internal and external reasons for you to succeed. This is an external element, and you have to be very careful.
How do you create that entourage? Because it's not so simple. It's not like when she leaves that I don't tell anyone or I manage and so on.
Because if you've selected the priorities correctly, then it's challenging. What are the chances of reaching the end if you don't tell anyone?
If you jump this accountability step, it's certain smaller things like controlling the beginning and the end of the day that you are likely to do on your own.
And that also depends on your nature. If you are a very introverted person and you propose to read and do this in the morning at 6:00 when you woke up and the others in the house have not yet woken up, you can succeed in installing such a ritual in your life.
But if you increase the stake, the chances are very low that you will succeed on your own. The higher the stake and the more it is not only about you but about a field of forces around you.
You know that it is one thing to read for half an hour a day and another to do a reading marathon four hours a day.
If we take the example of reading because you have proposed to read a book a day, then you must help your family members or those at the office and so on to know that you have such a very individual.
I go to the fifth, the penultimate, which is the first for many. Many people said this, "Brother, you should tell me how."
In my opinion, it is not the first; it is the fifth. It is the method. Think diet. Not all diets work for all people.
And the method means what is the way in which you can get what you want, what you want, what you set out for in your style, in your style.
Because it's about you; it's about your life. Not all diets suit all people. Not all techniques fit all objectives and all people.
And I'll give a super simple example from the last book I published at the end of 2024. It's called "Business VIP."
I launched it and distributed it in so many places that coming here, I realized that I don't even have a copy left to come and show you.
But you have one ready for the next time we meet. There are three types of people. This is the thesis of the book: visionaries, implementers, and planners.
Three styles. It is very important that all three styles are represented in the team.
Unfortunately or fortunately, a man can have two of these styles, but he can't really have the third. I say the short version from a book of 200 pages with a lot of scientific documentation.
But so for system visions are the people with ideas, are creative, who believe that the future is important, and important is the unique approach to problems and solutions.
Implementers are the hard workers of the team. "Bă, what do we have to do? Come on, guys, put your hands on the shovels. We do it."
For them, it is very important to finish. It is important to finish what they started, to check off, to say what I did.
And yes, for them, it is important to act and not to talk. They have no patience to talk. They are terrible in meetings. They spoil the meetings.
Knees bang under the tables, and planners are perfect in meetings because they are the people who think, "See how things work here? Let's make a chart, an Excel, a planning, a calendar, and with the organization so that it is clear, organized, things placed in their place.
Let's have an agenda. Let's have a calendar. Let's have a budget. Let the work go well."
What's the name of it? If you're a visionary, you're going to have a success method. Your success method to stick to the project should every new milestone, as you get closer to the priority you set once a year, something new has to happen.
Because watching, they are very good initiators and very enthusiastic at the beginning, and they get bored in three days because another idea comes.
This means that if you know yourself to be a visionary, I am in this position because I know myself to be a visionary.
I ask for some mechanisms to keep me on track because I start at the beginning of the year and I say I want to do this project.
And somewhere around March, I get a much better idea that that much better idea kills the idea that was good.
And if I carried it through to the end with three months to complete it, I could build on it. But I'm distracted.
And then you need to get a coach to have someone come next to you and pull you by the sleeve or at every new stage of the project to be something exciting, something changed, something new to come up with a twist, with adjustment, with modification, with thinking out of the box.
And that's a typical method for viewers, but it's terrible for planners. The planner is super happy if he puts on the calendar in a year of days.
Not what happens from one month to another, what happens in 365 days. Every day in relation to that topic, if it can be the same and nothing changes.
And for the implementer, the planning, the idea of planning is nonsense. He needs a manager to plan for him and tell him to do, and he's super happy because he doesn't want to think; he wants to work.
And then the methods are different. And the sixth element is the environment.
And I will explain what does environment mean in a very special and very detailed way for those who follow us. Because if I say environment, people say, "Yes, we are in an environment."
Okay, no, no, it's not like rituals. The environment must be extraordinarily well defined.
Is it true or not that if I want to write a book, for example, and I can concentrate quietly, wouldn't it be good to write it when the neighbor is hammering the wall with a drill?
This is an environmental element. If I'm writing a book, for example, and I see a glass next to me with peripheral vision, a bottle of paper, a pen, a bit of dust in the light, here the cat passes by, there, my brain no longer works 100% for writing the book.
But it comes with a query and says, "This cup, you still need this piece of paper. What are you looking for here? But did the cat eat?"
Etc., and then it takes away your energy and focus, and you start writing poorly because the environment is not set up in such a way that you can really focus.
It's a book by Cal Newport; it's called "Deep Work." Fix. That's what it's about.
There are some big performers of our world. Carl Gustav Jung is one of them. It was as if he had built himself a kind of small stone fortress on the shore of a lake so that he could go there to write and study because it was a perfect environment for him.
But environment does not mean only the middle place; it also means people.
You have a child who wants to be a tennis champion, and they tell you, "Everyone at school is very good at tennis. He is the best in school."
If you want him to perform in tennis, everyone in the world of sports knows that he must be taken to his academy.
This is where other very talented children are, and this means that the parents, probably if they really want this, relocate from where they are in their city and go to the city where the tennis academy is.
This means they change what environment? The environment.
And it is important to take into account also these. Now I think I've driven some listeners crazy.
"Bah, leave me alone. I have to take into account 17 million things so I can make my life comfortable the way I want it."
I have a very simple answer: you want to become, or you want to get that. If you want to get, you don't need it.
But if you want to become your better version, you need to master these six elements with subject and predicate.
I.e., have motivation, burning desire to do that, have the right mindset, no excuses, know to mobilize when you have to, have the right supporters, the right method for your style, and the right environment.
If you have these six, the car gets out of the mud easily. You wouldn't work with one or two and then get upset that you have got a quarter of the result or that you gave up and said, "Let's go next year."
So, I wrote 27 books. A little earlier, you were talking about the fact that each goal should be divided into seven chapters, five or seven steps.
How do you know I divide objectively? Divide the seven chapters. Wonderful question. Do so: present state, desired state.
I am here at the end of the year. I want to be there. At the moment, I earn x per month. At the end of the year, I want to be at x + 7000 per month, let's say thousands of whatever you want.
At the moment, I do 10,000 steps a day. At the end of the year, I want to do 12,000 steps a day.
I, at the moment, do 30 minutes of activity, I don't know why, once every two days. At the end of the year, I want to do an hour once every two days.
That is, calculate this date. And after that, what you do is draw a line between the two present and a year from now and divide the line with some separators from those with the pencil.
And you say 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, or 7. Must be odd numbers, and usually, 5 or 7 is perfect.
Why 5 or 7? Because 5 or 7 gives you a time not of this type of weeks or months because these are just conventions, but it gives you some predictive steps that are odd.
Why? Because we want to convey the message that it doesn't have to be divided mathematically equally every month.
And I don't want to make them even because it's a very psychology thing. Interesting, the brain processes the even number on the pairing principle.
How many terminals do I have? Four. Aha! So the first two and the next two. Do you think?
Look like this. Or how many do I have? Eight. A, so four and four. The principle is called dice cluster or the bunch.
And then I want to eliminate this process of separation because I want to think evolutionarily and not Cartesian. That is, by division.
This is the reason why the teams that work well are 5, 7, 3, and not 4, 6, 8. Because four means two.
Eight pairs means maybe four pairs or another combination. Three pairs with three tres and do and so on.
And then that's the message. And I noticed, and I invite you all to try.
I take and make some boxes. We say it's a newer project, more ambiguous. I don't know. I want to try to do a business with coffee.
I never did. I give myself a year to make a cafe on the street corner. And I draw five boxes and say, "Box one, I