Transcription
These are the top five tactics that narcissists use in an argument. The first one is gaslighting. They'll claim that that never happened. You're remembering things wrong. Basically, they'll do everything they can to make you doubt your sanity so that they never have to face the truth.
The second tactic they'll use is deflection. Suddenly, the argument is no longer about the argument. It's about your tone. It's about the way you said something. It's about your your word choice. Anything but what's happening in the actual moment.
Number three is victim playing. When the narcissist starts losing the argument, they will find a way to slowly make it about you hurting them. And before you know it, the thing that you are mad at them about is somehow you apologizing to them for being mad in the first place.
Number four is projection. The narcissist will start accusing you of the exact same that they are doing all the time because after all, if the best defense is a better offense.
And number five, there's my favorite, the word salad. It's 10 minutes of circular nonsense and weeping and crazy chaos, emotional fluctuations, and a roller coaster of insanity that just leaves you mindfucked.