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The term “red pill” seems to take on whatever meaning the person who is using that term wants it to. In the media, this term has become conflated with misogyny, and I have a real problem with that because I think that just serves a narrative that they want to make. The truth of the matter is, “red pilled” means an enlightened view of the nature of women, at least in the context of relationships. I mean, obviously, on the, on the Matrix, it means something different, but in our world, “red pilled” means you have a better understanding, a clearer view of what the real nature of relationships with women is like.
In today’s video, I want to talk about that nature in general terms, of course. I mean, you’re always going to find exceptions, but this is just going to be a summary. I can’t go in depth on all these; I could spend an hour, perhaps, on each one, but I think it’s worth making a list of the characteristics that being “red pilled” helps you with in terms of your enlightened view of these relationships. So let’s talk about it.
The first thing that I think most men need to understand is that women have a form of math that they use to evaluate you from the moment that they meet you. It basically involves a combination of your physical attributes, in terms of how attractive you are, multiplied by the value you could potentially bring to their lives. So they aren’t just evaluating you solely on your personality and your good looks; they also need to know that you are capable of providing and supporting for them, providing for a family, supporting them in the event that they need it, um, raising children. All these factors go into play um as they are evaluating you.
Now, it’s tough to get past the first line of defense if you’re not very attractive, unless you’re very, very rich. So remember, they’re multiplying that times your attractiveness. So let’s say, on a scale of 10, you know, you’re like a four, and uh, the girl you’re approaching is an eight or a nine, so you’re clearly outclassed by her attractiveness, but you own a tech startup and you’re worth millions and millions of dollars—it might potentially be worth an awful lot more when Google or some big company buys you out—well, suddenly your attractive level gets multiplied by hundreds or thousands. I mean, so now you are off the charts attractive. Do you see what I mean? Money and resources play an extremely important role in a woman determining whether or not she wants to be with you, regardless of how kind, how nice, how poetic, how talented, even how good-looking you are. All of those things are a um a base for determining whether or not you’re eligible for a relationship, but your um ability to bring resources to the table—that’s a multiplier; that’s an enormous factor; it’s exponential; it’s orders of magnitude more important than how good-looking or how kind or any of that other crap you are. So keep that in mind because I think that when we’re kids, we’re growing up, we’re teenagers, like we’re just selling ourselves based on our uh our appearance and our personality and all that stuff, and it’s so much fun in high school and even in college to have that going for you, but when you get out into the big leagues, in the real world, those things are kind of important. I mean, it’s not like it’s not important, but um, at the end of the day, resources are the most attractive thing. So just be aware of that. So use that information to build your life accordingly. So if you’re not a cute guy, you better be rich. So work hard.
So we all know that women are extremely emotional beings, and as a result, we have a preconceived idea of what that means. Sometimes I think men think that women’s emotionality, their emotional nature, is a vulnerability that they have, and in some ways it is, but in other ways it’s um it’s like a weapon. So if you approach a woman, say, in a dating situation, and you try to appeal to her emotions, say, with your story, your trauma, whatever crap you had in your life that you’re trying to use as a place to bond with her, um, you may think that that emotional um approach is going to benefit you, but it won’t. So women like emotions in themselves, and they even can honor emotions in other women, but um men do not get the same bonus points for being emotional. Um, um, sure, they will tell you that it’s uh it’s okay to be emotional, to cry, to express yourself in these emotional ways, but each time you do that, you are undermining your masculinity in her eyes, and you become less and less a reliable provider. So just know that, just know that’s the truth. They’re not going to tell you that, but that is the absolute truth. So you’re going to have to really um be guarded about your emotions when you’re around them. Just because they’re emotional beings doesn’t mean you should be an emotional being.
On the other side of emotions, women are pulled around by their emotions, and what I mean by that is they um they use their emotions like sensors to determine the state of their life and the world, and if they are getting negative feedback through their emotional sensors, they believe that things are going poorly, or that they have a problem, or that there’s a crisis at hand. And um men don’t see the world that way. Men see emotions more as a um a barometer, a feedback loop, not necessarily a destination. So women see emotions as a uh a state of being, while men see emotions more as a um, you know, like a uh like reading a meter or something, like, like this is what’s happening right now, and that’s the difference; that’s the significant difference. Men realize that thoughts are the origin of emotions, not the other way around. So, so long as you can control your thoughts and maintain a rational head about yourself, you can direct yourself in places that you want to go. Women do not seem to have that ability, and it’s a big mistake that men make; they think that women think the way we do, and they just don’t. They get into an emotional state, and it is that, whatever that is—if they’re sad and depressed, that’s just the way the world is; there’s it’s sad and depressed; there is nothing they can do. You know, they’re going to come to you and say, “What do I do?” And you can tell them, “Well, just change your thoughts,” and you might as well be speaking, you know, Latin to them; they have no idea what you’re talking about. So emotions are a big deal, and you need to be aware of how they play a role with relationships.
The next thing you need to be aware of is that um women—this kind of plays off the emotional thing too—but women see relationships, at its core, from a transactional place. So don’t get mistaken in thinking that um her um emotional attachment to you has any real depth to it; like it’s not the same. So men get into relationships from an emotional place; we, when we fall in love, we give our hearts to a woman; it’s a sincere emotional thing; it’s pretty straightforward; it’s honest; there’s, you know, we’re not, we’re not playing games with that. Women see the relationship much more transactionally. Again, going back to my earlier um statement about women’s math, you know, that how is how it all plays together; that’s how it comes together in terms of whether or not you’re going to be um around for a very long time. So she might love you, but if you’re lacking the resources, then that love has a limit. You know, she’s going to, she’s going to um uh love you a lot less if it turns out that tech startup goes bankrupt. You know, that’s, that’s not going to work out for her; she’s going to be on the lookout for another guy. Now, she will never say this; women know this is evil behavior; they’ll never going to admit to this, but it is the truth; trust me. This is the way they behave. Cuz what’s going to happen?
All right, let’s go through the tech startup thing just real quick; I’m taking way too much time on this anyway. So, so your tech startup goes bust; you’re sad; you’re depressed; you’re trying to figure yourself out; she’s thinking, “Oh my God, he’s not the same guy; he’s somebody completely different; I can’t think that I love this guy anymore; what am I even doing with this man? How is it I even in this situation? This is not the guy that I fell in love with.” Those are the kinds of words you’re going to hear. Yeah, you’re not the guy; you’re not the, you’re not the same checkbook; you’re not the same bank statement. Um, the fact that you’re sad and depressed, that your life’s work has gone down the drain, is beside the point. You know, that’s, that’s not what she’s focused on; she’s focused on how it affects her bottom line. Now I know that sounds evil and mean, and it’s general, but I’m telling you that’s very, very, very frequently the case where women will say, “Nope, you’re not the guy I fell in love with,” so I am using that rationale to walk away from the show because you’re broke. That’s, that’s what she’s going to say.
Modern women are entitled by default. If you go back a 100 or 200 years, everybody had a particular gender role to play, and we’ll get into gender roles in a minute, but everyone’s um value to society was clear. Today, and over the last 50 years, because of feminism um and female advocacy for feminism, there is a lot of confusion about the actual, you know, um value that women are bringing to society and what they expect. So we have done a really good job of holding women up on a pedestal as a society, and we’ve determined that they are um emotionally intelligent; they are enlightened in a thoughtful way; they are nurturing, and they are kind, and they’ve got all these wonderful, wonderful characteristics, but really what we’re doing with this is we are just reading into this what isn’t actually there; we’re just seeing something that we want to see. Now I’m saying this in a general way; I know that there are women who can meet all these criteria; I know there, there are, there’s some wonderful women in the world, and I’m not doubting that for a second, but generally speaking, because as a society we hold them in such high regard, we have been lying to these poor girls, and now they think, like they believe they’re billing; they think that they are like little celebrities, and they are um entitled to more than their share; that you must treat them in a particular way in order for them to be satisfied or happy with the relationship. So you must um give them the uh freedom to have the masculine role in their lives, so to have a career and do all that stuff and to hold masculine positions and to be masculine in many different ways, but at the same time um you’ve also got to treat them like a woman; you’ve got to treat them like the feminine; you’ve got to be protective; you’ve got to be thoughtful; you’ve got to be kind; you’ve got to be courteous; you’ve got, you can’t treat them like your guy friends; they would not, they would not like that; no, no, you can’t do that. So you’ve got this weird situation where you’ve got this being who is kind of both genders and genderless at the same time, and some women will get very offended if you open doors for them, while others will get very offended if you don’t. Yeah, some women will be very offended if you don’t make a move on them; some of them will be very offended if you do. There’s no way to know what’s the right thing to do, so you’ve got to play all, you got to play like full court press all the time; you got to play every angle or you’re going to get into trouble.
The entitlement comes, going back to what we were saying before about the um the finances; yeah, they feel entitled to those resources; they think that because they have given you the right to their body, that they have offered you a little slice of Heaven in the bedroom, that now you owe them financial resources, that you owe them a uh a return on that investment that they’ve made, and of course that is, that’s insane; that’s just insane. It’s like I said, it’s no longer a relational relationship; it’s not one based on your personality and her personality, your common interest; it’s not based on your emotional connections to one another; it’s not any of that stuff; it’s the um the transactional nature of the relationship. You get all that; you get that sensation of having this nurturing, loving, kind relationship with a woman who will be very physically um gratifying for you and very emotionally gratifying for you and really scratch a lot of itches that men just typically have, but you had better hold up your end of the bargain as a man and be um financially secure and capable of supporting her no matter what.
Let’s just touch on gender roles really quickly because obviously that’s a huge problem these days. Um, with feminism, it’s becoming much more difficult for women to know what their gender role is, what society’s expectation is of them as a as a woman. So there’s a lot of confusion about what they should be doing. Women look outward for validation, and we’ll talk more about that later, but they are constantly looking outside of themselves to see if they’re on the right track; are they doing the right thing? And it’s, and they need that validation; it’s very, very common. I’m not busting on them for this; I just know that this is the way they are. And so when society is saying to women that they should be, you know, um a professional, career-oriented woman, they, they want to comply with that, with that expectation, but at the same time they’ve got this um natural instinct, this um maternal draw to be a mom, to, to, to do that as well. Well, the problem is is that each of these roles requires an enormous amount of energy; this is not something that you can do part-time here and part-time there. So if you’re going to be a career-focused woman and you’re going to drive that, that um that part of your life, you’re probably going to have to either delay being a mom or not do that because, like I said, the two require a lot. If you try doing both at the same time, you’re going to fail your expectations at both. Let me just say that again: if a woman tries to be a mom and tries to put a career—I mean, really, not just a job, but a career where it requires, you know, when you’re, when you’re in a high-paying job and you’re a career-oriented person—um, you are on the clock all the time; like you have to be available to um, you know, deal with crises, to uh manage customer demands, uh be there for your boss, whatever; there’s all these things that you’ve got to do in order to be seen as a career person; you are dedicated to this, this path. Well, that just isn’t conducive to being a mother; like you just can’t do that. And this, the opposite is true too; if you’re dedicating your life to a baby, to raising a child, well, you’ve got to be there and available and on your toes all the time; like you have to dedicate an awful lot of your life to that. This is not one of those situations where you can have it all, and the concept and the idea that women can have it all is the worst idea ever put forward by the feminist movement because it is patently untrue; it’s just not possible for the vast majority of women, if any. I’m not sure that any woman has ever done this adequately.
So gender confusion is a significant problem with women; just be aware of it. They don’t know what they are to do with their lives; they’re looking externally for this validation, and at some point, if you decide to have a long-term relationship with a woman, you’re going to have to build that concept into your understanding of them, so that when they come to you for advice, as they will, because they’re looking for external validation, just know that they need to pick one or the other. And if finances are an issue and you’re living in an area where it’s very expensive, you’re going to have to change your lifestyle in order to accommodate being a family man, if that’s your goal. You’re going to have to find a place where it’s less expensive to live; you can, you know, remotely work, whatever; I don’t know, start a business, but you’re not going to be able to um have a working um career-oriented woman in the household and trying to raise a family at the same time; it’s just not going to work.
Fear plays a much bigger role in the lives of women than it does in the lives of men, which is kind of weird because men are more oftentimes the victims of violent crimes, or any kind of crimes for that matter, than women are, although if you were to read the news, newspapers, you would swear that women were always the victims, and it’s just not the case. Um, but fear plays a significant role, not only in terms of their physical bodies and getting harmed, you know, by rape or some terrible crime like that, but um just in their day-to-day lives. Um, their nature is to um have a heightened awareness for potential danger. Um, you think back and, you know, when we were living in more primitive times, um women were unable to defend themselves, say, from animals or from, you know, potential threats, and so they had to be extremely um aware of potential dangers. Well, now we live in a society where there are not nearly as many potential dangers, but that fear mechanism is turned on all the time, and the problem with that is they will see danger where there is none. Let me just say that again because it’s really critical: they will see problems; they will see danger; they will see threats where there is no threat. And where this frequently comes up is um it can come up in your finances; it can come up in your relationship. You know, if things are not going perfectly in your relationship, she may see that as a threat, as a danger to her, and she may react in as if it’s a threat. So she may take actions that are um not coherent; they’re not, they’re not what you would expect; they would not follow from your perspective that this is an ordinary or natural thing to do under these conditions, but because your, you know, your tech startup went bankrupt and now you’re a little depressed and you’re not feeling good about yourself and your money, your bank account’s taking a hit, well, she may see that whole situation as a threat to her well-being, and she may take um drastic action to preserve herself because that is the way they are programmed; that’s just the way they are. This is not a personality thing; I’m not beating up on them; this is just um ancestrally, genetically, instinctually what they do; they just behave this way. So you’re going to have to make sure that if you get any sense that she is in a place where she is feeling threatened, you’ve got to do everything you can to um make her feel secure because if you don’t, she’s going to react; she’s going to do something stupid; guaranteed; happens all the time.
Another offshoot of fear that women have is fear of missing out, FOMO, and I know that sounds like it’s just some kind of an internet meme, but no, it’s, it’s much more than that. Um, when a woman observes other women living a lifestyle that is better than theirs on a consistent basis, um, that’s going to elicit that fear of missing out; like there’s somebody out there doing something, living a more fulfilling life than they are, and they really have a difficult time with that. I’m not sure if that’s jealousy or envy or what that is, but it’s something along those lines, and that fear of missing out is a powerful motivator in a lot of women. So be aware that in a relationship, especially if you’re in a marriage—God forbid—but if you’re in a marriage and uh your wife has that “keeping up with the Joneses” kind of approach to life, where, you know, every time the neighbors do something with their yard, you’ve got to do something with your yard; if they’re buying a new car, you got to get a new car; their kids are going to certain schools, your kids got to go to certain schools—if you’re seeing that kind of behavior, that’s a huge, huge danger sign, but that is something that is very common with women; that is not common with men. I mean, I’m sure some men are like that, but I haven’t known any. I mean, for the most part, maybe with cars, maybe, maybe, maybe with girlfriends, maybe, but as men get older, that kind of stuff fades away; it’s not something that we um we are uh drawn to.
Or we're we're picked off by we're not just we don't have that level of envy; at least not that I do. I, I, I can't remember meeting a guy or knowing a guy that had that kind of problem. Most guys kind of accept where they are. Like I have quite a few friends that are way richer than me, like way, way, way richer than me. I have a friend who, um, was like that tech startup guy, you know, and he's got hundreds of millions of dollars. I mean, he's rich like God rich, you know, that kind of rich. Um, and uh, yeah, I uh, I don't have any jealousy. Like we hang out; he's a good guy. We, I don't even, I don't even see the money thing. You, I mean, I do, but like when we're talking, we're hanging out, that's not an issue, except that maybe he's paying for the meal, you know. But aside from that, yeah, there's nothing like that, you know. There's no uh, there are no um, I don't, I'm not envious of him. I, I, I, I'm glad he was successful, you know. I'm glad that he did it; I admire him, you know. He's a guy that I really admire, but I don't, I'm not like, "Oh man, I wish I got to do all that now," you know. No, I just think, well, if he could do it, I could do it too, you know, just a little bit of luck and hard work, who knows. But women don't see it that way; they're like, "Oh, no, I got to have that, that's my life; I need that life," and if you're the guy that's providing her a life that isn't that life, oh, you're going to hear about it; you're going to know, I guarantee it.
Over the last decade or so, women have started to take over, not just um, primary and secondary education, but also post-secondary education, college, and um, research, and they are starting to play a larger and larger role in those, those fields. To find out what the impact of that, that would be, some uh, searchers wanted to do a survey and ask men and women in postsecondary education—talking about PhDs, people who are professors at colleges, who are doing research, all that stuff—a series of questions to get a sense of how um, research institutions and universities might be changing with this cultural change, with more women being in places of authority. And as they have taken over—I think that they occupy like 59% of the, of the teaching roles in universities now—so what they found out was one of the key factors they found out was is that men were more interested in empirical evidence and outcomes, regardless of the social impact of that information. So what that means is if they did a research and they found something that would be disturbing to society as a whole, you know, um, like for example, you know, it's hard to say, I, I don't want to get too crazy with it, but let's say, you know, that um, there is no genetic cause for certain behaviors like homosexuality or transgender behaviors or something like that, and uh, they published a big study on that, let's just say that as a true, as a fact—um, that that's the way they approached it. Now this is all hypothetical. Well, women would take that same information and make a a determination that this would not fit into the social justice um, of our society, and so they would suppress that information because they would be afraid that it would have a negative impact on those people who identify in that way, while the men were not interested in whether or not it would impact other people one way or the other; they just wanted to put the facts forward, regardless of the outcome, while the women wanted to um, suppress certain facts that didn't fit into their vision of what social justice is. So I found that very, very interesting, and I think it's important to understand because it gives us some insight into the way women think when it comes to reality. They want to shape reality to fit their vision of um, a just world and society, regardless of whether or not it's true, and that's really important because it means that truth is secondary to what they believe should be, and that's the way they see the world, period. They see the world the way it should be or the way they want it to be, not the, the way that it actually is, and when those two concepts collide, it creates an enormous amount of conflict. So just be aware of that. Women have this belief that there's a social justice and a right way that the world should be, and if it doesn't fit their conceived, preconceived idea of that, they're going to have a real tough time with it; they're going to reject it out of hand, or they're going to try to suppress that information or push it aside and act like it doesn't exist, and of course that's just not a rational way to live, you know. I mean, it's just irrational. And this video is already getting a lot longer than I expected it to be; I could talk probably for like 30 minutes on each one of these topics, but um, yeah, I, I will avoid that. Um, let me see here, where's that one?
So we talked about this before: women seek validation; they are outward-looking for feedback about their life, and this goes back to their emotions and the way they um, sense the status of their world. They use their emotions to get feedback from the way things are happening, but they see, see this emotional state as one that is permanent or one that has substance to it, and it's not something that's transient. And um, as a result, like in their jobs and their careers and their lives, they're constantly looking outside of themselves for validation, and that means they're constantly looking outside of themselves for um, fulfillment and satisfaction and even happiness in their lives. This becomes a problem in relationships because it's impossible for another person, for one person to make another person happy, but that is not logic that works in a woman's mind. Women believe that because you're married to them, that you are their person, you are that primary relationship in their lives, that it is your responsibility to make sure they are happy. I know they would never admit to that, but I'm telling you that's the fact. They want you to make sure that they're happy; you should always be checking on their level of happiness, and if they're experiencing some level of unhappiness or distress in their lives, it now kind of becomes your problem; you have to do something about it. And if you don't, and that unhappiness and distress continues for any length of time, you're going to be single, I guarantee it, because you're not doing your job; you're not making her happy. This is impossible—to make another person happy, especially a woman. So, so you got to watch for that. Now there are women that don't have that; there are some that don't, so I want to make sure I'm clear about that. I know there are some women that are very self-sustaining, and they can do that, but a lot of young women, especially these days, you know, they are, you know, fear of missing out, and that external validation, it all comes down to, "I need to be happy, and if I'm not happy, something's wrong, and that means it's probably you because it couldn't possibly be me." So just prepare yourself.
So some anthropologist, I don't know, 30 or 40, 50 years ago, came up with the concept that um, men were polygamous because um, one man would have many mates. Now they inferred that this polygamous nature was something that was a choice, that these men were doing this by choice, that they were obviously driven by their hormones and their need to just screw everything in, in sight. But when you think about um, ancient cultures and how disease and um, disasters and, you know, wild animals and all that stuff, and women aren't very good at uh, taking care of themselves, they're not very physically strong, and they can certainly get themselves into bad situations, and um, they need to be protected. Well, men are out hunting, and of course that's a very dangerous business too, so it's very easy to see how you might end up with more women than men; you might end up in a situation where the tribe or the, the community only has say five or six men; it maybe has 30 or 40 women because all the other men got killed in hunting trips or trying to save women or doing whatever. Um, so then it would be in the interest of the community as a whole for those men to be polygamous, to take on responsibility for more women than just the one. Um, and I think the where the anthropologists kind of get it wrong is that um, this is just some kind of a um, a sex thing, a hormonal thing, a a drive to, to procreate, and I would suggest that it's more than that, that when a man takes honorable relationship with a woman today or, you know, 10,000 years ago, there is some kind of a um, I don't know, especially back then, that man was responsible for her; he had to take care of her; he had to make sure that she ate and that his offspring were taken care of. So it was a big responsibility, being polygamous; it was not an easy job. I don't know how guys do it. I've, you know, they talk about guys cheating, and I don't know how a man can do that. How would you have more than one woman in your life at one time? Oh my God, you got to have AI or something managing your schedule and your phone and everything else, not to mention your frame of mind. Oh my God, how with the whining and moaning and bitching you get from one woman, why would you want to do that with two or three? Anyway, anyway, the idea from this concept this anthropologist came up with, that men are polygamist, that men are more likely to cheat, nothing could be further from the truth. Women are 100% as likely to cheat as men, I guarantee it. Now their cheating occurs in much more subtle ways. So, for example, if uh, your woman, your wife, your girlfriend, whatever, has lots of guy friends and her life, oh, do not think that's not something that is, something she's setting up the next line of defense; she's looking for a backup plan, an insurance policy, just in case you don't work out. Because yeah, she doesn't want to be stuck taking care of herself; she does, she needs to have somebody in her life to help with um, keeping her happy and letting her be entitled. So yeah, if you don't work out, she needs Plan B and Plan C, and those guys are there because women are always setting up the next one. Now we can argue as to whether or not that is cheating, but I think it definitely fits the definition. Now she may not be having sex with that guy, but she's creating an emotional bond with that guy, um, and she is not 100% being dedicated and loyal to you. So if that's the case, then I would say that is absolutely cheating. Now if she goes so far as to have sex with him or whatever and have a relationship, then obviously that's cheating, but um, like if a man cheats and he has sex with a woman on a one-off, say on a business trip or something like that, he has no designs to have a relationship with this woman; like he's, it's just a physical thing—completely different experience. She's setting up Plan B for her life. Tell me which is worse, Plan B for your life or one-night stand? Anyway, I guess we could debate that one, but I, I definitely think that uh, women are way bigger cheaters than men, way bigger cheaters.
All right, we're getting close to the end here. So marriage. Marriage is a social contract that has outlived its utility. Marriage was designed so that men would be legally bound to care for women at a time when women were unable to care for themselves, period. It forced a man to be legally responsible, not just for the, the woman, but for any offspring that they might have, that he, that the law would stand behind that contract and make sure that man did everything in his power to uphold that family. Well, we don't live in that time anymore. Women have all the skills, abilities, and opportunities to get jobs as men do; they just do. So the contract of marriage that we have right now, that we are using, was designed hundreds of years ago, and it has not been updated at all, if maybe a little, but very, very little since then. So you're still under the same obligation to provide for this woman, from the Law's eyes, that you would have been if she were just some uneducated uh, nanny for your kids and concubine for yourself. I mean, that's basically what they were a couple hundred years ago. So we live in a different world now. Women can get jobs; they can get educated; they can earn money; they have all the same opportunities, at least as many opportunities as men do, yet the law says that if you as a man get married to a woman and have a family with her, after a period of time—in most states it's around 10 years—you're going to have to pay her a portion of your income and split property with her, and that might have go on for the rest of your life, like that may be an obligation that you have from now on. How is that good? How is that fair? How does that make any sense at all? This isn't, you know, 1825; it's 2025. Why are we using these laws from hundreds of years ago to dictate the um, the ways our, our relationships are, are resolved? Why do we have this process that points to men in a society where men and women have equal opportunities? Why is it that men have this responsibility pushed on them, and their lives are thus um, severely handicapped from that point forward? So if a man goes to a divorce after 10 or 20 years of marriage and he has to pay a significant portion of his income to his ex-wife because she earned less money than he did during this time or his less earning ability than he does, um, how is that equal? How is that equal? There are women right now, for the first time in a long time, in, in history, I think, where they are being stuck paying alimony to men in some cases, and they don't like it, just FYI; they don't like it any more than you do. So marriage is a contract that has outlived its purpose, and it is not one that I would recommend to anyone under most circumstances. It would have to be a very, very special relationship with a very, very special person under very special conditions, but for the vast majority of men, I would say that you probably should avoid legal entanglements with your relationships. Doesn't mean you shouldn't have relationships; I'm all for having relationships. I think relationships are valuable; they are critical to our personal growth and, and they're fun, but the minute you get the courts involved, that's going to suck. Like if you imagine if that applied to best friends, you know, it's like your, your best friend from college, you have to sign a contract that you're going to be his best friend forever. Well, the guy turned into a drug addict or an alcoholic or something like that, you know, so you don't hang out; you moved to the other side of the country, but nope, you got this contract now; you got to take care of him; he's got to take care of you. That would be stupid; why would you do that? Nobody would do that. Don't do that; don't do it. Do not get into a marriage; I just strongly recommend that you don't. Anyway, you guys, I'm talking way longer than I expected. It is freezing cold out here today; I was hoping it would be nice, but it's not. Anyway, I'll see you in the next video. Um, please like and subscribe if you like the video. Um, I'll see you in the next one, and uh, please share this with someone if you think they are getting ready to get married or they need some advice on women, and uh, for the rest of you, stay healthy, and if you can, stay single.