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What is the philosophy of human life itself? What is its purpose, its logic? >> What kind of people were your parents, what kind of mother raised you? What kind of father raised you? >> Those who are sick with cancer. But you want to live too. Because we loved the candle, it was mainly our right. >> Were you by their side? >> Of course. May the truths be honored. >> My father once told Sobirjon aka to Melisa, if Sobirjonar says yes, do you wash your mouth and nose in the morning? Yes, I wash like that. If you cross your legs, it will be a mountain. >> Lightly >> you are left as if you are eight years younger than your father. But up to eight years >> they must have slept twice >> they slept twice through the Holy Quran. After six daughters. >> After six daughters >> children asked for from God. >> Yes. Such a prayer from the bottom >> The value of time with Rano Mumova. >> Assalamu alaykum, my dears. We are very pleased to meet you through the next issue of our "Value of Time" podcast today. Brother Qor. Welcome, thank you very much for accepting our greetings, sparing your time and visiting us without saying no. >> Bismillahir rohmanir rohim. Alhamdulillah vassalatu vassalomu ala rasulillah vaa alihi vahi vumf bimaamtanaimna mafuna vaidna ilman. I thank you for the invitation because invitations like this do not arise on their own, unless it is not our person. Or if we are aware of the teachings of Sharia from Allah, we are invited. The main purpose of inviting people like us is not only life experience but also awareness of divine teachings, awareness of our religion, of course, will be taken into account. This means, in fact, it is a desire for Allah. It means love for Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, it means seeking truth, and it means striving for Allah's pleasure. From this perspective, we are often shy to accept invitations like this. However, our responsibility before Allah stops us from speaking. Because in reality, a person should inform others about the knowledge that Allah has revealed, the truth that Allah has revealed, by their own free will, by their own initiative. If Allah has given knowledge to those who have been given knowledge, and has given them the understanding of that knowledge, then demand that they convey it. Because knowledge is more than just information. It is being aware of something. Knowledge is the transmission of that understanding, especially if it is related to divine knowledge, with its light. >> We intend to benefit from your knowledge and learning as much as possible, without wasting time. In preparation for this program, I reviewed many of your interviews. I watched many of your conversations. It even became Fajr. The sun rose. My first question to you is, today, a topic on social media is on my lips, and I wouldn't be wrong to say so. If a person loves themselves, respects themselves, values themselves, that is, if they prioritize their own needs, doesn't this lead to selfishness or arrogance? Because why am I asking this question? Let me say again, in the direction of modern psychology, respecting oneself, valuing oneself is becoming a hot topic. Won't this become a sign of selfishness, arrogance, ego? I want to know your opinion on this matter. >> We need to clarify one thing. What is the philosophy of human life itself? What is its purpose, its logic? That is, how does a Muslim or an intelligent person evaluate human life and how do they imagine it? What is its past, what is its future, and what is the purpose of this life? Once this is clarified, other things will fall into place on their own. If you look at the lifestyle of many of our people, their words are different, their thoughts are different, their actions are different, that is, they live contradictory lives. When does success actually happen? Whichever ideology it adheres to, whichever ideology it belongs to. Striving for a clear goal and other plans. Having the entire lifestyle directed towards that single goal is considered one of the secrets of success. What is the purpose of life? The belief of a believing Muslim is that not only Muslims, but all divine teachings teach this truth. Allah breathed a soul into man. When He formed the body of Adam (peace be upon him), He breathed a soul into it. A soul is breathed into every child of man when they are four months old in their mother's womb. Man himself is that soul, this body is this material body. It is a mold worn by the soul to live in this material life. When he dies, why do we remember souls? He himself is that soul. When we say the soul of your deceased parents, your father's soul, after your father dies, something appears. Your father himself, his soul is that soul that walked in his body when he was alive. Now that his body has returned to the earth, only his soul remains. Saying the soul of my mother, the soul of my father means your father himself, your mother herself, only their benefits in this material world are limited, and they only receive spiritual benefits. One of those spiritual benefits is through prayer. For example, remembrance, recitation, and so on. The soul that is created before a person living in the material world comes into this world. The souls of all people from Adam (peace be upon him) until the Day of Judgment were created. Man says within his soul, says from his heart. If someone does evil, he says, it will return from Allah, his God also says. You will see, you will see the reward for evil. Where does he say that? The soul says that. A person who understands those truths, then human life is a test, this world is a world. If this belief is set correctly, clearly, then doing good and doing evil will all fall into place. >> Valuing oneself, respecting oneself. >> Now, the second point, in Islamic Sharia, there is exactly this approach. Respecting oneself, taking care of oneself, but not in the sense of "only think of yourself." For example, even some companions became so devoted to worship that they did not sleep at night, and when they were worshipping, the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: Your Lord has a right over you. Your family has a right over you. Your body has a right over you. That is, a person taking care of themselves, giving themselves a break, and taking care of themselves is considered the right of the body for which they will be accountable to Allah. How beautiful. That is, honoring, valuing oneself, respecting oneself. >> Respecting oneself means, there is a second rule. Many people do not understand this. The second rule is that Allah says, "If you do good, you do good to yourselves." When a person does good to someone, they think, "I am doing good." They are doing good to themselves. Why is charity commanded? Why is zakat, for example, given to the rich? You should have less money when you give money to someone. But why does it increase? There is another truth. Materialists, those who worship matter, see this in life. But they do not acknowledge it clearly. However, in human life, man is not just matter. World. That is wrong. So much. This is the ideology of many people today, it has become materialistic. There is a spiritual life behind matter. Man knows it himself. Even without God, without religion, he knows it. That's why he lights a fire for the deceased. Why does he light a fire? He knows that the souls of the deceased feel. Why does he try to immortalize it? The heart knows. There is a spiritual life. Man sees many examples of that spiritual life in his life. The reward for the evil you do returns immediately. The harm done to others returns to them. The laws of material life are not like this. It does not come out with material evidence. There are spiritual laws here. Therefore, a Muslim should know that there are spiritual laws in the world. There are material laws, there are spiritual laws. A person who does not follow material laws will suffer materially. For example, if he does not take care of his physical health, he will surely get sick, and so on. That is a material law. Now there are spiritual laws. Spiritual laws also work. They work whether you want them to or not. They work whether you want them to or not. One of those spiritual laws is that if a person does good, good will return to them. It returns in this world. In the hereafter, if done with faith, it will never be in vain. Therefore, when a person does good, they should not forget that there are spiritual laws in addition to material laws. There are some examples of this. For example, in charity, according to material law, money should decrease. The economy should go backwards. Your business should go backwards. You should suffer losses. It is said like this. However, you see in life that there are some millionaires who are dealing with one sum for one sum, who do not know any calculation, but >> there are such things >> some of them, with sincerity, with good intentions, Allah has given them a way to become rich. I have heard from many people who have given charity, they say, "What we gave has returned twofold, fivefold." If you ask what is the reason, it is the spiritual law, it is in the intention. >> Even if he is a non-believer, he gets the same result, so there is a saying by a Chinese economist. When asked what needs to be done for business development, he said that first it needs to be organized, it needs to be orderly, and so on, and then the eighth or tenth rule is that there must be a charity box. Then he said, I cannot explain these eight or nine points, but if there is a charity box, then business will run. Why? The spiritual law of the world is mentioned in hadiths, for example, "Heal your sick with charity." There is also a hadith that says, "Heal with medicine." But there is also a hadith that says, "Heal the sick with charity." "Allah has appointed a cure for every disease, find it." This is one hadith. Another hadith is, "Heal the sick with charity." According to material law, you find medicine. You take medicine. According to spiritual law, you get healing for the sick with charity. There are many examples in life, many have seen that when a sick person gives charity, they get better. So there is a spiritual law. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala himself has revealed these spiritual laws through the teachings He has sent down. Islam, that is, the knowledge revealed by Allah, teaches laws that man cannot find with his intellect, experience, and material measurements. According to this, if a person does good to someone, it will not be in vain. First, it strengthens his conscience and soul. If necessary, it helps his physical health. Good returns to him. Now, the return of that good can also be explained a little by spiritual law. For example, it can also be explained materially. Spiritual laws. For example, giving charity, zakat. A person who gives charity is not burning it, not pouring it into the water. They are presenting it to society, right? If that charity is given to society, the poor person gets money, right? For example, the rich give zakat. The poor get money. What do they do with that money? A needy person will not burn it. They will buy bread, rice, build a house. They will buy a car. Now, from whom will they buy the car? From the rich. From whom will they buy rice? From the merchant. That merchant's business will run. This happens on its own. The material explanation of this spiritual law is that the good done returns to oneself. If he had kept the money, the merchant would not have bought anything from him, and trade would not have run. The flow of money from the rich to the poor in society brings profit back to the rich. Or if you do good to someone, good will return to you. If you show kindness, kindness will return. Those who have reached the end of the philosophy of "think of yourself, think of yourself" have ended up like this. What happened? They ended up with dogs and cats. In Spain, in France, in Spain, there are more cats than dogs. Why? They need affection. They grew up thinking only of themselves. Now, no one will show them affection. Social relationships have been broken. There is nothing left between father and child. Japan too. What is the consequence? The consequence is a demographic decline of terrible proportions. Recently, there was news from Japan that 9 million houses are empty, 9 million houses without owners. Can you find a house without an owner in Uzbekistan? If necessary, there are eight gas stoves in every house. There are 9 million houses without owners. That is, there is no one. I went and saw it myself, how much we walked in Tokyo. We walked for an hour and a half, two hours. >> No heirs. >> No heirs either. We walked for an hour and a half, two hours in Tokyo. Now, it is more developed than our cities, perhaps a province, but it is more developed than our cities, in terms of infrastructure, everything is in place. We are passing through neighborhoods. The hosts who brought us say, "No one lives in these houses." They say you can buy it for 152, two-story houses for eight hours. Why? Because there is no one. The city is empty. This is not an exaggeration, it is something that happens in real life. They cannot correct people's ideology to stop this. Germany is also like this. In Germany, there are currently 2 million job vacancies. Factories. We are not providing jobs for people now. Yes, their jobs are there. There are no people. Why? Because this is the consequence of such selfishness. Therefore, a Muslim should not think. That is, Muslims and others can think about how I will live, how to do it right. Allah has shown Muslims how to live. Where is happiness? What is his happiness? Everything is shown. If a person only does those things, it is for their own benefit. It is not for Allah's benefit. For example, the entire humanity, in Sahih Muslim, there is a hadith that says, if the entire humanity were to have the heart of the most wicked, the most unfortunate person in the world, it would not cause as much harm to Allah's dominion as taking water with a needle. That is, it is equal to nothing. If the entire humanity were to have the heart of the most righteous person, the most pious person of the age, it would not add as much as throwing a needle of water into Allah's dominion. That is, the advice given to us, entrusted to us, told to us, is only for our own benefit. To discuss it is like discussing the advice given by a loving father. The father did it knowingly, the mother did it knowingly, saying, "This is beneficial for you." Why did you say that? He does what he knows. He goes and says, "Dad was right, Mom was right." Now, if the teachings revealed by Allah's knowledge are like the father's and mother's wisdom and experience, what will they be like? Therefore, if a believing Muslim acts according to those advices, instructions, and values, it is enough for himself. This is beneficial in life. Now, if he lives for his own benefit, how will he, for example, attain paradise? Paradise is not for deeds. Because the benefit of all the deeds commanded by Allah is in this world itself. >> Man sees it in this world. >> Of course, he sees it and lives with it. Paradise is only for belief. It is for believing that Allah commanded it, and it is beneficial. Therefore, if he believes, he will enter paradise in the end. Why? Because belief is what leads to paradise, and the benefit of deeds is in this world itself. Then, another law, this spiritual law we are talking about, is like a material law. Whoever follows it will get the result. Whether he is a Muslim, whether he is of the right religion, or of another religion, it doesn't matter. Those laws are that there are spiritual laws in the world. If a person does good, it returns to them. It benefits them. Therefore, the Quran says, "If you do good, you do good to yourselves, and if you do evil, you do evil to yourselves." Whoever does a good deed, he does it for himself, and if he does evil, he does it for himself. Therefore, there should be a measure. A person should pay attention to himself. He should respect himself. He should take care of himself. But not to the extent of selfishness, arrogance, trampling on the rights of others, forgetting the good done to others. There should be balance in everything. Wherever the balance is broken, harm comes to a person from that broken place. If you do not follow economic rules and only sit at home and worship, the balance will be broken and peace will be lost. However, if you are stingy, the harm caused by stinginess will also come. If you get too attached to the material world, you will be struck spiritually, and so on. That is, there should be balance. And another issue, does a person take care of himself, does he take care of his body, does he love himself? What does it mean to love oneself? This is also a confusing statement. If a person loves himself, he should first think about his hereafter, not just this world. If he stakes everything for a life of 30 days, 30 years, 50 years, and then loses his eternal life, he is not loving himself at all. For a Muslim, the standard is different. They think only of this world. However, whether they believe it or not, we believe the hereafter is the truth. At this point, there is another thing: whatever a person does for himself, whatever he takes care of, his intention should be good. Taking care of his body is good for fulfilling its rights, for living a healthy life, for doing more good deeds, for striving for good deeds, for worship, for remembrance. It is possible to take care of oneself with good intentions. For example, a person even adorns himself, puts on perfume, spreads fragrance, adorns himself. Some do it for pride. Some do it to prove their superiority over others. All of these are considered pride, arrogance, sin. But the same thing can be done with a different intention. For example, the purpose of wearing perfume, spreading fragrance, is not to prove your superiority, but so that no one is bothered by you. On the contrary, let others be pleased by you, let good come from you. That is, if you give someone your perfume, you have done them a good deed. Because they will be happy. They will benefit from it. We spread fragrance. The intention is to spread fragrance to others. Not to prove your superiority. You are wearing beautiful clothes, and the purpose of wearing beautiful clothes is to bring joy to the eyes of others. Not to show them that I am superior, but that when they see me in torn, dirty clothes, they should not be sad. Let their eyes be pleased when they see me in clean, beautiful clothes. Or Allah loves beauty. And because of that, I love beauty. It is possible to do the same things with such an intention. Now, with this good intention, a person turns this simple act into worship. He receives reward from this simple act. He raises his level in the hereafter from this simple act. Another truth that a believing Muslim should have is that in this material world, the scholars of Ahl al-Sunnah affirm this. I want to emphasize this at a time when materialism is strong. Paradise and hell have been created. It is not something that will happen after the Day of Judgment. It exists. Humanity is now discovering planets and saying there is this galaxy, that galaxy, and so on. Man's eyes can see and reach, but the world has no end. Allah says in the Quran, "We built the sky, and We are expanding it." Now scientists see the world, the sky is moving away, expanding. That is, the world is limitless like this. Now, the One who created such a limitless world. Allah says in the Quran, "Paradise is larger than the earth and sky." Just imagine. The width of the earth is larger than the sky. Its height will be even greater. It will be infinite. He has also created hell, and He has created paradise. It exists. Whether you and I believe it or not, it exists. There are proofs. There are reports. Whoever lives in this world is either buying paradise or buying hell. The choice is theirs. If you want to live in a comfortable, pleasant place for 30 years, 50 years, you will spend your earnings for at least 20 years to build a house to live in for 30-50 years. Now look at this situation. A single earthquake can destroy it, a flood can wash it away. In America, 40-50 million houses were washed away. Now, if something like this can be washed away in a day, and you stake your entire 30-70 years of life on it. What kind of life is this? At this point, I must say one thing. Now, if a Muslim's faith is like this, it is problematic, isn't it? Where will the prosperity of this world remain? Where will progress remain? Some people will have the devil's whispers saying, "Should we live in a corner just for the hereafter?" This is a devilish thought. Scholars say that the hereafter makes the world prosperous. But the worry of the world makes the world miserable. The oppressions, wars, destructions in the world are not caused by anyone worrying about the hereafter. They are caused by the worry of the world. The worry of the world makes it haram. Brothers envy each other, betray each other. The worry of the world makes two colleagues undermine each other, break each other. The worry of the world makes two rich people envy each other, two officials fight each other. They break each other's power. The worry of the world makes two kings wage war on each other's countries, destroy each other's lands. The worry of the world is better for progress, better for creating opportunities. A believing Muslim should define his relationship with the world in this way. >> Brother, as I am talking to you now, I am convinced once again that you are among the scholars who can enter people's hearts through words with your knowledge and learning. There are many knowledgeable people. But not everyone can open their hearts and penetrate them with the power, might, and magic of your words. This is perhaps a grace given by God. Because many people can say, for example, lectures are given from morning till night, right? After coming out of an institute or elsewhere, if you ask what you learned, we hear words like "I don't know, I don't remember." My question is, the need for acquiring knowledge today, that is, the interest in acquiring knowledge and raising children with good upbringing, has become a demand of the times. This is great, it has been happening until now. But today, if you look, wherever there is a textbook, training, or anything else, the conversations of scholars, everywhere there are listeners. It would be like this in concert halls. This is of course joyful. And every parent is giving their child to a teacher. They are sending them to the best schools to be educated. Someone's child is fulfilling their parents' wish by acquiring this knowledge. But someone's child is not receiving this knowledge, this upbringing. The situation shows that it depends on whether the teacher is giving the knowledge or whether the school has created the conditions. Because the family environment plays a very big role, doesn't it? And my question to you at this point is, in what kind of family should a child grow up, what values should a family have, so that the parents' wish can be fulfilled? Why am I asking this question? What kind of people were your parents, that not only from one family, but the dream of many parents is to make their child a Hafiz. You memorized the Quran at the age of 13. Not only you, but your brother Qor aka is also among the scholars. What were your mother's qualities, what kind of mother raised you? What kind of father raised you? >> May Allah's mercy be upon them. Our parents were children of a scholarly family themselves. My father graduated from school with a silver medal. My mother graduated from school with a gold medal. That is, they were excellent in school knowledge, and their parents were people of the Quran, people of virtue, and they gave that education and upbringing to their children. At the same time, they also made them study other sciences necessary for their time, and they studied well. My father was a very knowledgeable person, he was very interested in literature, and he himself was a poet, he would recite poetry spontaneously, and even then, the meter and rhyme would be in place. My mother graduated from school with a gold medal. She used to say, "I memorized the Quran eight times," but she always completed the Quran. My parents have many virtues. If I count them, there are many. The conversation will be long, perhaps. My father was a Hafiz of the Quran. He studied for a period at the Bukhara madrasa. His father and grandfather were judges. Therefore, there were scholarly conversations and gatherings in that house, and they grew up in that environment. That's why they grew up like they were raised in a madrasa. Most importantly, they had excellent character and morals, they were people of classical morals, and the family was like that, that is, it preserved its true self, it had classical morals, because my uncles also have such qualities. Such a beautiful desire to do good to others, to make others happy, is the greatest goal. They never harmed anyone, they only swallowed any harm, but they never harmed anyone. They were raised with such morals. I think the greatest achievement was in a person's character. >> Even though you were left as if you were eight years old by your father. But up to eight years >> they slept twice >> they slept twice. The Holy Quran >> My father had a chronic illness. He was often sick. But even then, he sat and taught all six of my sisters. We, as boys, had dreams, and that's why we held on tightly. >> After six daughters >> After six daughters >> children asked for from God. Such a prayer from the bottom. My father's mother was very virtuous, a wonderful person. When you talked to her once, she left a good impression. She was a woman of such beautiful morals. I say their lives, their words, their lifestyles should be made into a movie, people should learn from them. Their relationship with people, their modesty, their chastity, their devotion are indescribable. >> Let's write it as a book. All of them >> If you give me some words, I will write it all down for you in a book. >> That book will be very blessed. My father served his mother more than his children. He served everyone, but he stayed with his father. Because he stayed with his father, he was very kind. When you watched their relationship with their parents, my uncles' and my father's relationship with their mother, their sweet words, finding the sweetest words to say to their mother, showing her the most respect, the most beautiful things, they were raised like that. That's why children are loved. My father loved them very much. Or among the children, he was the only son, so he prayed a lot for that child. He would fall asleep while praying. He said, "It's not right not to give you a son." You give two. >> Were the descendants twins? >> Yes, but two of my aunts are twins. Now, in short, our elder was praying, and there is a lot to say about prayer. If one prayer is answered, a lot can be accomplished. Now, the answer to that prayer is from the servant, and the answer is from Allah. Now, coming to my father himself, my father had very beautiful morals. He was very eloquent. And he was a very sincere person. He also valued kinship and connection very much. I know that he used to take us children with him every week. At least one day a week, for the sake of kinship. It must have been more than that. This day, this week, to my uncle's house, to my aunt's house, to my uncle's house, to my aunt's house, to my aunt's cousin's house, to my sister's relatives, to my mother's relatives, we would go every week. That's why our relatives, among our relatives, now this is not to brag, but the service to parents. Many of our relatives, especially distant relatives, do not know them. But we know them. Why do we know them? Because our parents used to take us to those distant relatives. For the sake of kinship. They would also inquire about them. Let alone holidays. Now, inquiring about them, they themselves were imams in the mosque, they were very firm in prayer. My father once reprimanded us. He reprimanded us. The words he said to encourage us to pray. We used to pray when we were six years old. My father once said, "We slept late one night." We were young. My father had a dream. He said, "I have missed praying Witr once in my life." I overslept and missed Witr. Then I fell into filth in my dream. When I woke up, I realized I had become impure, he told us. That is, he was very devoted to prayer. He passed away on the day of Eid. >> On the day of Eid. >> He passed away on the day of Eid al-Fitr. >> Even then, the doctor said you cannot fast. Now, from a fiqh perspective, it is wrong. From a fiqh perspective, one should not fast. "I have not missed a single day of fasting since I became conscious, I will fast," he said. >> Are you ashamed before Allah? >> "I am ashamed before Allah that at this age, I should not fast," he said. He said exactly that. Yahyoqorda is there now, he told it. When my father was working and being treated in Khorezm, I went to see him. It was the middle of Ramadan. He was just drinking water. The treatment method was like that. Even in front of the doctors, he was asked, "If it is sahar, can I take water with me, or should I not measure the sahar?" "No, you can only drink salty water," they said. He had gone complaining of eye problems, and they said, "You have to drink this salty water." He had to drink a lot of it. Late at night, if it was Eid al-Fitr on May 6th, and fasting came in April, that is, when the days were long, not in winter. My father asked, "Can I not drink anything else?" They said, "No." "Okay, I will drink this, but I want iftar and sahar," he said. He fasted. Yahya Qordalar saw that he was fasting. He went to see him with Abhakim Qorakam. Then, Qorida, a peer, now he is old, my father is also Yahyoqori, both of them are Y Qord. Yahyoqorda said, "In Sharia, it is permitted. You can fast without any problem, especially since you are a traveler. You can fast in Khorezm." Then my father said, "I have not missed a single day of fasting until this age. Now, at this age, I am ashamed before Allah not to fast." He said, "Whatever happens, it is destiny." Then, indeed, he became unconscious for one day. He became unconscious. Then he fell into a coma and was put on a ventilator. In short, his life was like this, and then on the day of Arafah, he was brought from Tashkent to Andijan. We came to see my father in Tashkent. It was May 1st, a public holiday. It was very difficult for the doctors. Relatives tried hard here. Then we saw my father. He was lying in a coma and said, "I am 58, death is 58." My aunts said so. Calculating the time, my father had turned 58 in Hijri calendar. When we put the tombstone and looked, the number was 1058. My father, we saw him without knowing this. He was fine here. Then, after he became unconscious here again, on the day of Arafah, he was taken to Andijan. He passed away on Eid. The funeral prayers were read at noon. He was a very charming person from this side too. Whoever talked to him remembered him. My father had such morals that my uncles and his friends wanted to join his gatherings. They wished to sit in the company of those people. Now, if his companions are not there, they do not gather. If my father is not there, they do not gather. If Yahya is not there, there is no point in gathering. For example, if my uncle Karamatulloh is not there, they will gather when Karimatulloh comes. To such an extent, the blessing of the gathering was such a wonderful, charming person. Then he firmly held onto his piety and morals. He went through difficult times then, the times of the oppressive regime. But even then, he did not abandon the Quran, he did not abandon his education. We, in our time, now many things have appeared. But in the previous times, he did not stop teaching his children in his own family. >> In which interview did you recall that your mother made you memorize the Quran by playing and singing? >> Yes, like that. She would put us on her lap. You >> My father had such a teaching, that is, to explain religion easily and interestingly, to make it attractive, in accordance with the true Sunnah. We had a neighbor, I have mentioned him in a couple of places. He was working as a policeman. His name was Sobirjon aka. May Allah have mercy on him. He was a good person. My father once told Sobirjon aka, Melisa, if Sobirjon says yes, do you wash your mouth and nose in the morning? Yes, I wash like that. He said. If you cross your legs, you can perform ablution. >> Look, it's easy, if you cross your legs, you can perform ablution. Perform ablution, and you will be in a state of ablution. The neighbors also say, "When Uncle Khol comes, it's like the neighborhood is illuminated." It's like light has come. With such character and worship, his radiance was such that my father had a daily portion of the Quran. Then my father was a very organized person. For example, he had physical exercise every morning. Everything was organized. What about us? Our lessons were also organized. That is, he had that regularity every day. Now, after my father passed away, but honestly, my father laid the foundation and did a lot of hard work, but my mother built on top of it. Our mother was a very noble person. Even now, when relatives or friends remember her, they only remember her with goodness and with tears in their eyes. Because my mother had such a quality, just like my father. That is, they were very good at doing good to others, but the unique quality of our mother was that she never got tired of doing good to others. She never expected anything in return. She never spoke about the good she did to anyone. She never expected anything in return. Then another quality was that she could do good even to evil. We were young then, my brother and I. We would get angry. Why do you say this to them, why do you do that to them? We would object. She would say, "It's your business, it's not mine." She would do what she thought was right. But she was doing the right thing. >> Brother Qor, I apologize for interrupting your speech, but in one of our conversations, you said that when we memorized the Quran, our mother did not spoil us and put us on her head. Even then, she would >> discipline us, sternly >> words. Until the end, until the end, once or twice, she would say, "Alhamdulillah, you have become so good," and I would thank Allah. This is not to praise us, but other people would only criticize us. Not in the sense of belittling, but "You are doing this at this age, you are a Hafiz, yet you are so careless?" And so on, such reprimands would occur. Now, my mother herself had a beautiful perfection. My mother's father, Habibullah Hajji, was a great mystic and Sharia scholar of his time, and also a Hafiz of the Quran. Even at the age of 85, he completed the Quran in the Jame Mosque. He completed the Quran once every week. Many of my mother's teachings came from that grandfather. That grandfather also had such a quality. That is, the father, the grandfather, also lived doing good to the entire people of Andijan. He never expected anything in return for any good deed. You are also very generous. My mother also had that upbringing. My mother, may she rest in peace, was very generous, very diligent, very courageous. As they say, she had the courage to challenge four men. I never knew her to sleep in the morning. She was always awake in the morning, and when she woke us up for Fajr, my mother would be doing her duties. She had her daily recitations. She would complete the Quran many times. Then she would read Tafsir a lot. Before, there was the Tafsir of Oltonto'i. A Turkish Tafsir. She would read that. Then, when Tafsir al-Jalayn came out, she added that too. She translated the meanings of Allah. That Tafsir of Oltonto'i is a single volume Turkish Tafsir. Her Turkish literacy was very good. She read it many times with her companions, finishing it. She would read it from top to bottom. In those days, there were not many books, only a few religious books. She would finish it and start again from the top. She would often make us sit and listen to her. She would read the Tafsir of Oltonto'i. The language, you know, is old Uzbek, very sweet. She would read it with great pleasure. Sometimes a couple of companions would accompany her, and sometimes she would read it herself. She would often make us sit and read. That is, she was very eager to complete the Quran, to read its Tafsir. She would say, "Read, read." When she enjoyed it, she would enjoy it. In this way, my mother also taught us Turkish literacy. We learned Turkish literacy from our mother. We learned the Quran from our father. We learned Turkish literacy from our mother. And my mother would get blessings for us from anyone she met. >> Today, I want to talk to you about a topic that is relevant among women, dedicated to facial care. I will tell you where I am now. You might be thinking, what kind of device is this? This is a facial diagnostic device. Now, girls, I have visited Faraq Karimova, an international scientific and practical specialist on this topic. Her store, dear ones. Faraq Karimova has been striving, being interested in the beauty industry for 11 years, contributing to its development. She lived in Korea for seven years and thoroughly studied this field. She brought Faraq K Beauty organic and halal products to Uzbekistan. And Faraq, what is the main topic women approach you with? >> They mainly approach me with skin problems, such as acne, scars, and dark spots left by acne. They also approach me with skin whitening. And the most common problem they face is that they don't know which cream or which ingredient to use. They come with this problem, and we do our best to approach each of them professionally and individually. >> You approach them individually. Faraq, what makes your approach different from other companies? >> First of all, it is that I have written my scientific dissertation, that is, my understanding of ingredients. And besides that, we approach the trend not with ingredients, but scientifically and systematically. We find solutions with a system. Our main goal is that every product of ours should work and give results. This is our highest goal. I myself have made a promise. Every woman should feel that her face is a beautiful gift from Allah, and bring her closer to Allah. This is my greatest mission. >> Dear women, if you also want to learn more about facial care, I definitely recommend this young lady to you. You can contact Haraq Kompyuter company. We will leave the address and phone numbers. >> There are no poor people, there are many people who have nothing. When we were young, our father would take the money he earned and take us to visit relatives, elderly people. At that time, money, let's say, in today's language, they were not rich, they just lived day by day. But if they had a little extra money, they would say, "Let's go," and take us to visit relatives, and say, "Hasanxon's money is for Husxon, pray for her." They would set it aside specifically for prayer. Then, when we started earning money, they would force us. They would say, "Give money, bring it here, you have to give this much to Falonchi, this much to Pursonchi," and then they would order us. But we remember our childhood. My mother also used to take us, for example, to the elderly scholars, the Quran teachers, when they were old, to the otin oylars. She used to take us to the podsheyals. We were children, we were not at an age where women would avoid us. She would bring us and ask for prayers. At that time, we were young children and did not earn money. But when giving money, she would say, "This is for Hasanxon, this is for Husxon. Pray separately." But we did not do that for the sake of reading. They received many prayers from the grandfather. One day, the grandfather said to my mother, "I am praying for the children, it will be easy for them." My mother often says, "My father prayed for you, he said you will learn easily. If you study, it will be easy." Then I told my mother, "Since we have become conscious, I have never done that." She said, "You have already finished the job with the higher power. You have prayed and received the prayer, and then you went to work, you went to study." >> So, your love for knowledge was from childhood. >> Yes, in our house, there were no books to read. >> Whatever book there was, whether it was literature or something else, an encyclopedia, you know, there were books. We read all of them. We loved to read. My mother herself, in her bookishness, would take any book that came out.

He would buy and bring it. Back then, there weren't many tafsir books like there are now. The copy of Tafsir Hilol, which had reached the fifth volume, had a green cover. It was printed from Baqara, then from Ahzab, then from Baqara again. The first part, before it was divided into six volumes, had each surah printed separately. When it came out in the market, I saw it, and they would buy and bring it.

We used to read ourselves. When we went to school, we could read the newspaper freely.

>> You went to school, and the letters came out easily.

>> Yes, easily. That's why we only got fives in school. There was no such thing as a two. Generally, in any subject, we would get a full five. Because there was such an environment in our home. Our older sisters all studied well in school. They were all very bright. We didn't have any events at school. In short, our parents had a great desire for knowledge, a great love for knowledge, and I would recommend it to many. We ourselves try to follow it. The first is to pray to Allah with sincerity. These are the greatest things they did. The second is to be eager to do good to people.

>> Brother Qori, in the family...

>> Well, you just said in your previous question that people only think about themselves.

>> Yes.

>> Not everything gets done by just thinking about oneself. Sometimes you do good to people. Allah will reward you himself. You cannot reward yourself and find a reward from Allah. You take care of yourself, show yourself kindness, respect yourself, but you cannot give what Allah gives. But when you do good to someone else, Allah gives. So, doing good to someone else is doing good to yourself. The reward is from Allah, in this world and the hereafter. I think my mother's many achievements are due to this. That pure intention, that pure intention to do good to people. Even at home, for example, there wouldn't be meat. We lived with difficulty, for example, with meat. Even when we were struggling to earn money, we would give a lot in charity. If someone came to visit and we happened to have a kilo or two or three kilos of meat, if they had a few coins in their hand, they would run out, buy some, and add four more dishes, call the neighbors, and have a feast. Three or four days before she passed away, she had put aside five tayuts. In those hours, she distributed everything and finished it, saying, "Now I am at peace." She left nothing behind. In those last days, my mother acknowledged the blessings Allah had given her, saying, "Alhamdulillah, I lived well. Now you know, it's hard for life to continue."

>> From what age?

>> She was 61 years old. She was 60 years old. She said, "Look, Allah did not put the love of this world in my heart." I am not saying I want to win someone's heart or anything like that. I am thankful for this. She lived truly like this.

>> What did she die from?

>> Herself.

>> She was ill.

>> She had cancer, oncological cancer.

>> But she wanted to live. Because we loved her very much, and she was righteous towards us.

>> Were you by her side?

>> Of course. May her grave be filled with light. Qori, your mother, what qualities did she have? First of all, a person is a person, irreplaceable. A person is unique. Everyone is different. Of course, my mother had many qualities. I wish all women, not just my wife, had all the qualities my mother had. Such nobility, such generosity, such strength in worship, in service to the people, and especially in her relationship with my father's relatives. Their connection remained even after my father's passing.

>> It was preserved.

>> Not only preserved, but it increased. Many people, for example, after their father dies, might become closer to their mother's relatives. We had a close relationship with my father's relatives. And with my mother's relatives, of course. But my mother had such a strong idea that she would do everything so that the children wouldn't feel the absence of their father. She did everything she could so they wouldn't feel fatherless. And at the same time, she had wonderful worship and remembrance, and she was a great reciter of poetry. We learned some verses by listening to my mother. She often recited verses by Majzuriy domla.

>> When you are raising your children, do you ever feel like you are becoming like your father, or do you notice any of your father's qualities in yourself?

>> They say so. Relatives say, "You are becoming like your father," "Your father's words are similar," "Your father's actions are similar." It happens, but I can't be exactly like my father. There are some things I lack, some qualities I haven't inherited.

>> Humor.

>> You said humor.

>> When you were talking about your father's humor just now, I wanted to say this. I didn't want to interrupt you. You have these things too. Therefore, Allah gives every person good qualities. But a person also acquires virtues and morals. A person acquires good qualities themselves. In that sense, especially the wise approach to raising children, or the belief in prayer. The sincerity towards prayer. Their eagerness to receive prayers from people. Reliance on Allah. To be in worship and prayer with utmost humility. My mother never slept in the morning; she was always active. She became unwell only in her last days. But when she was healthy, she was very strong. She was always awake early in the morning. As far as I know, most people sleep until late these days. Even though the blessings of the day, the acceptance of prayers, all virtues are in the morning.

>> In the morning.

>> In the morning. Muslims are lagging behind, while non-believers are acting. Now, for them...

>> Muslims are the opposite. Go to Europe, I was surprised. In Japan too. Especially in Europe, if you are up at six, people start going out. From seven, they start opening shops, and even go to work. They start their active day early in the morning. There's no one on the streets after eight. We have hadiths that emphasize this very thing. Work in the morning, rest in the evening. Because to be energetic in the morning, you need to rest early. There is blessing in the morning. All Muslim countries do the opposite of what is shown in this hadith. They stay up until late at night and then sleep.

>> This is not just in Uzbekistan.

>> Arabs, among us.

>> It's like that in Arab countries too.

>> That's why they don't develop. I am telling you, whoever follows the spiritual and material laws of the world will get results. It's just believing in the hereafter. Because of faith, but in this world, whoever does something gets their reward. So, for example, I would recommend waking up early. My father used to wake us up from the age of five or six and take us to the morning prayer.

>> Now mothers feel sorry for their children.

>> They say, "Let them sleep."

>> Let them sleep.

>> I don't know. He would consider my physical needs and so on, but we would sleep during the day. They would let us sleep at school too. Let sleep be sufficient. But after the body has rested a bit, after the body has rested, one can sleep after performing remembrance and worship in the morning. For example, now there is school in the middle of the day. Because there is school, they sleep in the morning. At least when it's up to them to work after school, they should get used to waking up early and so on, like the people of other developed countries, and working in the morning. Society as a whole should get used to it. No, society... If it's 11 o'clock, it's not like that in the provinces. It's more like that in the capital. If you call at 10, the phone barely goes through. If you call at 11, they have just woken up. They will say, "Let me get ready," and hang up. It's noon, it's already afternoon. This is a wrong way of life. I also advise women to wake up early, do remembrance early, and bless their children. Every day, my mother would prepare herbal tea for us, some natural remedies. She would prepare herbal teas, bless them, and give them to us. She would give us honey tea and herbal tea. We wouldn't go out to the street. I couldn't go out without drinking tea. I had to at least have honey tea and go out. We would be going somewhere, for example. But even then, she had such principles, such habits. There are many things like this. The upbringing school of our ancestors was very rich in achievements and important rules. It must be preserved and restored. Instead of that, we are abandoning our values and getting caught up in some meaningless things. This is a mistake. The consequences will not be delayed. The bad consequences that others are seeing in this world have already begun, they have arrived. This will only increase and multiply if we do not correct ourselves. Therefore, I would advise our women to be firm in worship, sincerity, and prayer, not to despair, to be a personal example, to be early risers, and especially to pay attention to literature. If their language is sweet, it will have a very good effect on the language of children, on the children's language. Because the first thing a child hears is the mother's words, the mother's language shapes the child's language. Mothers' tongues should be chaste, delicate, and sweet.

>> Our main textbooks are now providing knowledge to mothers on this topic. This subject...

>> It doesn't happen on its own. It doesn't happen on its own; it happens with literature. That is, it comes from reading works rich in words. It comes from participating in such conversations.

>> Yes, brother. When the topic of women is opened, I found it necessary to ask you a question. Our religion, which is countless and praiseworthy, is such a beautiful religion that it has placed women in their rightful place, cherished and honored them. But today, women's responsibilities are being emphasized more than men's, and I don't know if little knowledge is given about women's rights, or if women consider it so. Taking advantage of this opportunity, could you give us some knowledge about the rights of our women? A woman once said somewhere, "We are doing very well for women, we are influencing them very well. But please tell us about our rights too."

>> Yes.

>> There are necessary things to be said in this regard. There is a hadith from the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) that says, "Only a base, ignoble person disrespects his wife." His last testaments were also to do good to women and treat them well. "And I warn you concerning the two weak ones: women and orphans." We try to enter paradise by showing kindness to orphans. The woman next to you is also weak, she needs the same kindness, the same compassion. In Islam, women are honored first and foremost as mothers. When it is said that paradise is under the feet of mothers, no one can say anything more than that. Under the feet of the mother, meaning, Hazrat Ayyub says, the feet of mothers are the gardens of paradise, the meadows of paradise. The dust of their feet is the interpretation of that hadith. Scholars have said this: why is it said "under the feet of mothers"? For example, it is not said "the father's satisfaction is Allah's satisfaction." There is a hadith that says, "The satisfaction of parents is the satisfaction of Allah." There is also a hadith that combines it with the father. It is said that parents are on a hill, and the key to paradise is under their feet. But in the hadith "under the feet of mothers," there is a depiction that paradise is under the mother's feet. It is a wonderful description in the hadith. Its meaning is that they are so humble.

>> How much more status do you need?

>> We have been so humble to our mothers. But Satan doesn't just watch; he whispers. He tries to justify disrespecting mothers. Here are Satan and the ego. If I tell you, one of the biggest mistakes in modern ideology is not recognizing the existence of one's ego and Satan, who are enemies to humans. Therefore, what follows from this? If there is no concept that the ego exists and has bad desires, a person will try to justify all their desires. They will try to fulfill them. But humans have bad desires. If there were no bad desires, there would be no crime in the world. There would be no evil in the world. Who is doing all the evil in the world? Humans are doing it. Not a single animal or angel is doing it. Humans are doing it. Humans have evil within them. The ego commands evil. When one gives this up, one has no control. The second mistake is not recognizing the existence of Satan. Satan, for example, you have an enemy. When is your enemy at ease? When you believe that enemy does not exist. When you believe he is not an enemy but a friend. The biggest trick of the enemy is this: in modern thinking, the idea has emerged that one should try to justify whatever comes to mind, accept it, acknowledge it, and promote it. Therefore, they call any idea that comes to their mind knowledge. They call everything a child. But religion warns that whatever comes to your mind can be from the Most Merciful, or from Satan. It can be right, or it can be wrong. Not everything that comes to mind is right. The understanding that Satan interferes and instills bad thoughts in the mind saves a person from many mistakes. Now, what is the relationship between Satan and the ego? The ego has desires for both evil and good. Now, the ego's desire for evil, and the human's striving for good within the ego, are in opposition to each other. There will be pressure on it in society. Regarding the fulfillment of that evil. At this point, Satan justifies the ego's desire. He brings the idea that you are doing the right thing, you are not doing it in vain. Your mother spoke correctly, your father made a mistake, so you have no choice but to act against him. The Quran says that Satan's main job is to beautify things for the disbelievers and the transgressors. His work itself is not beautiful; he makes it look beautiful. When a person understands these truths, their thinking will be in the right place. They will not justify everything they do. They will not try to fulfill all their desires. The thought that it might be wrong, it might be from Satan, will stop them from many mistakes. In this sense, in the treatment of women, whether it is a mother, a sister, a wife, or a daughter, trying to justify everything that comes to mind, all that the ego desires, is the beginning of this mistake. Here, a person should think, what right do I have? How much right do I have? For example, with your child, I am raising my child, feeding them, educating them, but I do not have 100% right over them. They are an individual person, they have their own rights, their own inviolable space. For example, in Islam, there is a beautiful relationship. Hazrat Baxtiyor also wrote about it in the book "Family." In Islam, obedience to parents and doing good are commanded, and a wife is commanded to obey her husband. But all of this is within the scope of Allah's pleasure. Because Allah Almighty commanded it, you have this obedience in your nature. There is love for parents. But where that obedience goes beyond limits, Sharia becomes your criterion. It shows you where you should not obey. It says you obey elsewhere. Or this is a lesson for parents too. You have no right to burden your child with everything just because they are your child. For example, some parents complain about their children. Even if it is difficult for some people to accept, the questions that come to us reveal the inner world of society. "I see my mother's betrayal often, can I tell people?" For example, the mother forces the child not to tell. For example, you saw it, you won't tell. Fathers sometimes bring debt from outside, eat and drink, and make the children suffer. Do parents have the right to do these things or not? No, of course not. Who sets these boundaries? If you leave it to humans, they will never feel wronged; they will always think they are right. At this point, Allah's justice, the just Sharia, says that even if you are a parent, it is wrong to harm your child's body or property. A wife's obedience to her husband is also like this. It is necessary not to harm her body, religion, or property. When there is harm to her religion or body, obedience is nullified. And when it comes to Allah, obedience to Allah is nullified. If your body or property is harmed, sometimes Sharia rulings are limited. For example, if fasting harms your body, when it harms your body, Allah's command is withdrawn. When does the servant's command withdraw? Or, for example, if you fear the enemy, you pray in the car. You don't have to get down. You should get down and prostrate and pray. But if you can't, there is danger to your body, for example. It's the same when there is danger to your property. For example, one of the companions was praying, and his camel ran away. He broke his prayer and ran to catch the camel. The followers around were surprised and said, "Did you break your prayer for a camel?" Then he said, "Allah has commanded us to protect and guard property." I can pray again. If the camel runs away, I will find it later, as I am on a journey. Do you see? He broke his prayer to protect his property. He can pray again. So, there is protection of property. In our religion, the protection of property is alongside the protection of life. That is, it is not permissible to order something that harms the child's, wife's, body, or religion. It is not permissible to order something forbidden. It is not permissible to force someone to do something forbidden. In general, no one, not even in-laws or a husband. However, sometimes life is not like that. For example, your father or mother, or your wife and husband, you may not be able to do what is right. In such cases, you look for a way out of the situation with the least harm, while protecting your religion and body. If you cannot solve the problem, if solving it is not in your hands, then you take the necessary measures to escape the problem with the lesser of two evils. Sometimes divorce is necessary, sometimes patience is necessary. Sometimes divorce is not beneficial, sometimes there is hope. If you expect things to get better, there is hope for improvement. What can be said? It is a personal matter, an individual matter. It is discussed separately in every family, in every person's life. It is better for you to be patient in this situation. It is better for you to get divorced in this situation. It is better for you to do this in this situation. Such recommendations can be given to each person separately. However, what men should know is that a man's leadership over a woman is in the sense of responsibility. In reality, there is leadership in faith, leadership in institutions, leadership in society. Leader does not mean he can order whatever he wants and do whatever he pleases. It is not 100% absolute truth. He can also make mistakes. A husband can also make mistakes. The important thing here is responsibility, that is, the responsibility of managing an institution, society, and family. This is a responsibility for the man. It is true that a woman's obedience to him is necessary for the stability of society. And the permission given to a man to raise his children is for the stability, prosperity, and development of the family, not for his own selfish desires. That is a mistaken way of thinking. For example, in some families, parents grew up in a certain era, in a certain environment, with fixed wrong worldviews. They force the child, saying, "You will be like us." Even though the child is more knowledgeable and understanding than the parents, and is saying the right thing. The solutions to fix life are in their hands, on their side. In such cases, while respecting the parents, the child's needs are prioritized. Because life is dynamic. There are laws of life, you cannot escape them. For example, a young man asks, "My son is interested in something," he says, "He is interested in studying," he says. "My father doesn't approve," he says. "My father wants me to do our profession," he says. "My son has neither desire nor ability for it," he says. Now, he says, "If I stop my son from this education, my father will have his way," he says. "If I do what my father says, I will be deprived of education," he says. "What should I do?" Now, may Allah grant his father a long life. For example, if he lives for 10 years, he will ruin the child. The grandchild, right? After 10 years, or after five years, it is too late to get an education. When its time has passed, it is gone. At that point, the father will have ruined his child's future. What should the father do in such a situation? He should create an environment for his son with tact and wisdom, without offending his own father. If the father's demand is wrong, if the father's demand is wrong. This is related to knowledge. If you leave it to people, everyone will justify their own opinion. If it is proven with knowledge that the father's demand is wrong, then the son, who is raising his child, should fulfill his father's rights and make him happy. He should not neglect his child's rights either. He should give each right holder their due. Or, for example, men, in the question you asked, women themselves are often the cause of much oppression against women. Mothers-in-law, for example, or sisters-in-law. In some matters between women, this is also the love of this world. Men become victims of quarrels arising from the love of this world.

>> What is a woman entitled to demand from her husband?

>> She is entitled to demand obligatory maintenance and good treatment.

>> But good treatment is measured by each person's own standard. For example, some women may have a higher expectation even if you treat them very well.

>> But they say that if the man spoils her, she will get used to it. For example, you cannot please everyone. For example, it's the same with children. If you say something, the man will just lie down. We don't...

>> This idea exists among men: "If I pay too much attention to my wife, she will get used to it."

>> It happens. Do you know why? Men who are afraid of being controlled, if they are standing firmly on their own feet, might think that if she gets used to it, the wife might think of herself. Maybe she will make a mistake if she gets used to it, maybe she will become careless with the children. But this, for example, if we are not deviating from what I am saying now, for example, a man must please his mother, serve her, but if his wife is upset with him, perhaps due to youth or other reasons, such situations occur. These are things that happen in life. At such times, a man cannot oppress his wife in order to please his mother. The mother should not trample on her daughter-in-law's rights either; she should guide her. She should get her mother's approval and win her heart. This is what we call modern jihad. That is, at this point, a man needs tact. Sometimes he needs to be a diplomat. I am surprised by some people. Young men are like small children. They tell everything to their mother and their wife. They tell this person what that person said, and that person what this person said. They say, "My wife said this about you today." Some people think this is loyalty and sincerity. That is wrong. If there is a quarrel between your two sons, between your two children, it is wrong for you to tell everything to both of them. No, you tell the younger one, "Your older brother loves you, you misunderstand." You tell the younger one, "Your older brother has never hated you. You misunderstand." What will happen if you then tell the older brother, "Your younger brother is angry with you today"? This will be foolishness. Will you call this hypocrisy to your child? Or, for example, are you being tactful? Will you call this hypocrisy? Sharia allows lying to reconcile two believers. It is permissible to lie. It does not cause harm. So, men should also tell their wives, "My mother loves you very much," or tell their mothers, "Your daughter-in-law respects you very much, loves you very much, and sees you as her own mother."

>> It's not always necessary to say it.

>> It's not always necessary to say it. For example, sometimes a person can convey more meaning by remaining silent than by speaking. One can teach many things through silence. For example, some men don't have the gift of speech. They don't have the words. At least let them be silent, let them not break things, at least they should know how to listen. A woman's biggest problem is needing someone to listen to her. That's why they go to psychologists. When we went to Japan, people were holding a piece of paper with money written on it, saying "this much per hour." What are they doing? They said they just listen. They sit and listen, cry, hug, and send them away. They pay money for this. I said, if we could earn money like this, we would take Yasabo. How many people's problems would we listen to? A man should listen. In summary, what I want to say here is that it is not right for a man to oppress his wife while fulfilling his mother's rights, or to hurt his mother while protecting his wife. At this point, he needs knowledge, understanding, and tact. But unfortunately, many of our young men have very narrow thinking. They are like small children. A person who is 25 years old talks like a child. They say very rightful things for themselves, but they lack common sense. Why? Because their upbringing is like that, they have grown up far from education. They turn a problem that can be solved with a few sweet words into a quarrel. Therefore, a man should be fair, whether it is between his mother and his wife, or between two neighbors. Allah Almighty has commanded justice. Justice does not mean uniformity. It means giving everyone their due. Similarly, in the relationship between father and child, between brothers, justice should prevail everywhere. In the treatment of our women, men should not oppress their wives by taking their father's side, or oppress others by taking their wife's side. This is due to ignorance and lack of tact, and they should guard against it. When it comes to showing kindness to girls and women, I want to emphasize. The meaning is repeated many times in hadiths: one should be hospitable to girls. One should treat girls with compassion. One should be gentle so that their nature is not spoiled. So that they grow up to be accomplished women. Often, the lack of affection for girls during their childhood, or conversely, can lead to them becoming very accomplished people. Sometimes it's the opposite. Someone who didn't receive affection, who didn't have affection at home, who had quarrels, becomes aggressive. They cannot give love to their husband, they cannot give love to their children. They become a loveless person. Therefore, when we say this, some people say, "They are bringing religion into this again." But there is no other solution in the world. If a person learns the teachings of Islam, they can correct all their shortcomings. In their relationship with their wife, in their relationship with their husband, everything has been shown by Allah Almighty, both inside and out, as a cure. Here, I will mention one more truth, one aspect. People try to correct their morals, to solve societal problems, in their own ways. The human spirit itself, but in its negative aspect, it is the ego. If you call it by another name, it is the heart. If you centralize it, it is the heart. The root of all problems in society is in the heart. All problems. When the heart is nurtured, society will be corrected. But you ask, who is nurturing the heart? Who is paying attention to it? The Sufi masters of the past. Why did everyone go to them and become their disciples? Because they were engaged in nurturing the heart. The root of all crime, all evil, is in the heart. Whether it is the issue of obedience to the husband, the issue of kindness and compassion to the wife, the issue of justice, the relationship with parents, human relationships. Only when the egos are purified will society be healthy. If the egos are not purified, society will never be a healthy society. Other efforts, for example, this ego is such that the nurturing of the ego causes illness. It's like a virus. Until that virus is destroyed, it will keep coming out of the ears, eyes, neck, nose. The root of societal ills is in the heart. Until these are treated in the hearts, aggression and crime will arise in society. In family relationships too, the main problem is the heart. If the upbringing of character, the upbringing of morals, is beautiful, then 99% of family relationships will be resolved. Material problems may remain to some extent. Morals are a much bigger concept than most people think. That is, morals mean a person's inner world. We often judge people by their external appearance and adapt to material life, and we judge people by their external appearance. Or we judge them by their actions, their dealings, their superficial mistakes in speech. The real root is in the heart. The Sufi masters are precisely the healers of this. What do people understand by Sufism? That they wear a cloak and a turban, and if they are very generous, they eat rice every day. They have Tahajjud, worship. Sufism is not just some personal worship. Sufism is correcting the root of life. Purification, a pure heart, pure intention, a clean garment, a clean body, a pure spirit – this is Sufism. Some actions like visiting shrines, some attention to clothing are just superficial actions. They are not the essence of Sufism. The essence of Sufism is the upbringing of a perfect human being. Our society desperately needs this. Not just our society, the whole world needs it. Look at our ancestors. With Islam and these concepts, they reached great heights and possessed great power. The Mongols, who came from the desert, were transformed into great scholars and conquerors of Islam. There are also Crusaders who became Muslims. Most of them later converted to Islam. Most of the Mongols also became Muslims. If you ask by whose hand they became Muslims, it was mostly at the hands of Sufi masters. Why is this so? Family is not just about being born from the same lineage. Brothers are born from the same lineage, but they don't know each other. Is that a family? A father and son don't see each other for 10 years. Is that a family? They have just multiplied like animals. A family is when people know each other, are close to each other. They have mercy on each other. If you go to America, your brother will welcome you. If you go to Japan, your brother will welcome you. If your brother has a job here, you will help him. That is a family. A father shows affection. Parents show affection to their children. Then it becomes a family. This family system has almost reached a state of collapse in those countries that consider themselves developed. In Spain, some Spaniards who hold onto that value live in remote areas and preserve their families. But in cities, the family has almost collapsed. In Sweden, a reporter was interviewing men aged 30 to 35. When asked if they were married, most said no. Even more interestingly, when asked if they wanted to get married, most said they hadn't thought about it yet. They are 30, 35, 40, and they haven't thought about it yet. They won't think about it later. In England, a student said, "We have friends, classmates. We talk, and we say, 'We'll just get a foreigner.'" They have no intention of having children. "Our parents did the same, we will do the same." Why? Because the value of family is gone. Now, the solution to this, the origin of these problems, is the philosophy of Western thinkers themselves. We are seeing the results. The philosophy of loving yourself above all else and placing too much emphasis on the material world has led to this situation. We are seeing this with our own eyes now. Now, how to overcome it? A person must conclude for themselves. In Germany, I had a long conversation with a female scholar named Gulbin, through translation, of course. She was German. She said, "Our Western society is currently in the grip of two major problems: one is the collapse of the family system, and the other is the decline of morals." She said, "The collapse of the family and the decline of morals are the biggest problems in our society." But she said, "I believe the only solution is the religion of Islam." I said, "You have your own religion, Christianity. Christianity is actually an ancient form of Islam, just distorted and spread in Europe." You have Christianity, and it also has instructions on morals, etiquette, etc. Especially regarding family, the commandments are almost the same in all Abrahamic religions. I said this, and the woman said, "Islam is the only one that has remained true to its principles today. No other religion."

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>> This is exactly what we want to say. That is, so that others do not repeat the mistakes of others, we have such a great teaching, a great history, a great future. We can be a source of salvation for others. Just as our ancestors, the Mongols and Crusaders, were honored with Islam and became conquerors of the world, we can save other parts of humanity with this spirituality. We can do good to other societies in this regard. We should have this kind of thinking, and everyone needs it today. Even in Japan, Japanese scientists themselves said, "We need Islam in intention." But they said, "It is difficult for people to understand," because they have become too materialistic. People believe in superstitions. They believe in innovations and superstitions, and they seek salvation from them. They are either godless or not materialistic. Most people have a religion, that is, they believe in divine powers. But they don't have a religion of practice. The solution to the destruction and calamities in those societies is in our hands, as Muslims. Our ancestors were pioneers in these matters. There is a letter written by Shahrxon, the grandson of Amir Temur, to the Chinese emperor, inviting him to Islam. He wrote, "Most of your population needs these things. We are striving for this." It is a very long letter.

>> What was the answer?

>> I don't know the answer, but he wrote such a letter. That is, the Timurids, our ancestors, understood this great teaching, valued it, and were able to share this goodness with others. Today, whether it is our family relationships, women's rights, or child-rearing, the solution lies in all of this. People are wandering around, and I am surprised. And at this point, if you allow me, I would like to recommend the book "Happy Family" by Sheikh Muhammad Sodiq Muhammad Yusuf to our viewers. Because in this book, Brother Qori, brother, all the knowledge is gathered. What do you say about this book, Brother Qori? Of course, Hazrat himself often says that we, as believing Muslims, our happiness in family life, whether it is in child-rearing or in our mutual relationships, is that our relationships and our life path are shown by Allah. Allah Almighty has shown us the way, and all that remains is for us to act upon it. Hazrat often says this, may Allah have mercy on him. Indeed, the solution is in everything. We just need to acknowledge and accept it.

>> Alhamdulillah. We have a very beautiful religion.

>> Now, another unlimited advantage of Islam. You know the evil of sin, but you do it. For example, Hazrat often tells stories. These are also Hazrat's stories. I recently read a report, he said. Every year, 3 million people die from alcohol worldwide. 3 million people die from alcohol every year. In no war in the world do 3 million people die, I think. There hasn't been such a loss since World War II. Right? But 3 million people die from alcohol.

>> The world is thinking.

>> The world is thinking. These are not the ones who fought with their wives after drinking, quarreled with their children, and are lying sick. Those are not counted. They are still to be counted. Those who have drunk are still there. But he said, the main control of a person is in their heart. If the heart is not corrected, even the accountant who writes that 3 million people are dying will also drink. They know. They say people are dying, they say it, and they drink. Why? Because most of a person's decisions are made by the heart, they think the mind makes them. Some people, very intelligent people, do this and that. Put aside your great intellect. What about your heart? If the heart is bad, the intellect cannot show it the right way. Because, according to psychology experts, humans make 70% of decisions with their heart, with their feelings. The intellect works only 30%. They say, "I am doing this with my intellect." The intellect only tries to justify the decision of the feeling. The heart has already made the decision. Now, what is the achievement of moral education in Islamic teachings? What is the skill of Sufi masters? They explain beautiful morals and introduce bad morals, but before that, they work on the heart. They purify the heart. They purify the heart with remembrance, asceticism, contemplation, and knowledge. Then it becomes easy for them to turn away from immorality. It becomes easy for them to do noble deeds. But other teachings besides Islam just go around in circles. They say, "You should do this, you should do that," and they speak intelligently, but they cannot reach the heart, which is in control. This teaching is with us. It exists. I don't understand the logic behind one thing. We are living in the 21st century. Well, does the 21st century mean the beginning of the world, the first century? No.

>> Time is passing.

>> Perhaps you are counting 5000 years, 7000 years before our era, 2000 years. What is the significance? What does the era mean? The year Jesus Christ was born, that's all. The year of birth. Humanity has not changed. I tell you with confidence. Humanity has not changed. Nothing has changed. Only the times have changed. No, no, nothing has changed. Only people's lifestyles and worldviews have changed. For example, 3000 years ago, even then, some advanced civilizations considered themselves superior and looked down on others. At that time, they looked at other societies with military power with strength. Only some tools change. That's all. Instead of a cart, a motor vehicle. Instead of rowing with oars, you drive with a motor. Humans do not change. Their envy remains. Their faith, their disbelief, everything remains. Nothing.

>> Brother, look. So much time has passed. But I know that you recite the verses of Alisher Navoi with a special affection, and your ability to recite them is very beautiful. Which truths of centuries ago have survived to this day? Can you recite any of Alisher Navoi's verses that you love from your heart?

>> I love to recite all of Navoi's verses. But there is a wonderful stanza related to today's topic. Hazrat Navoi says: "Zamona ahli emaslar atolariga shabih, er zamona musobeh alalga haris hislat." Navoi says that today's youth are not like their fathers.

>> In that era.

>> The most interesting thing is, I read in a book. The writings of the Pharaohs, the hieroglyphs, have inscriptions like this: "The times have changed, the youth have gone astray." You yourself have seen it. We are living in different times now. We should live differently. It's not like that. The color of the wall is not blue, it used to be white. Now it is brown. The wall is still there. The ceiling used to be 10 meters high, now it has reached 4 meters. It is falling back to 3 meters. When it is difficult to hear, nothing changes. That's why a person, a human, does not change. This human, since Adam (peace be upon him), this human, their worldview expands, they learn about the world, but their inner world is different. They still need to cultivate their envy, work on their faith, their morals. They do not change. Therefore, for example, can a young man who knows mathematics very well be unfaithful to his parents? Is it possible? It is possible. It is happening. He spends his life with computers. He has nothing to do with his father and mother. For example, our tasks increase, life...

Our style is this, only, meaning, some elements around us change, that's all. You look at the world from a hilltop and then down. It's okay. Today's program is about the value of time, and time means life. If it were possible to turn back time, what regret would you have that you would say, "I would have done that"? "I have many regrets. In our youth, I tell my children, grandchildren, and students now. In our youth, our understanding of knowledge was very simple compared to today in the society we lived in. With school knowledge, there were no computers at that time. Now, learning computers has become a big field. For example, but we were among the first to use computers in Andijan. At that time, when those long-backed computers came, we were among the first to use them. But when we were school-aged, at that time, if we consider the modern knowledge, sciences, and new fields of science in the world today, for example, there was no knowledge at all in the field of computers. Therefore, there was no idea that such knowledge should be learned. If we consider Islamic sciences, in Islamic sciences, there was no concept of the boundless knowledge we imagine today in the society we lived in. Secondly, not to waste the energy of youth. We say we are busy now, but still. But youth does not have energy, tranquility, and comfort. Worries will always increase, relationships will become complicated. There is no responsibility in youth. Now you have responsibilities. If there is a funeral, you have to go. You have to go to a wedding. There are relationships. You have to work and earn money. Youth has no worries. If you lie down and have time at home, you should study. In other words, would you say, "Instead of buying this car with my money, I could have bought a bigger car"? I bought an old car, and with this money, I could have gotten a car that is 10 times better and more fuel-efficient. We made similar mistakes in the past. Why? Because in our youth, our understanding of knowledge, our understanding of Islamic sciences today, was not present in the society we live in. Even though the environment we lived in, in the case of Uzbekistan, was the most knowledgeable society. But looking from today's perspective, for example, there was no understanding of recitation. Today, I want to tell the youth that we did not manage. Now, as much as we can, learning what we have learned, as they say, "From the cradle to the grave, we strive for knowledge." Imam Ahmad says, "We go to the grave with ink." A believer's life is like this, learning until the end. But there is a great opportunity for the youth. For example, if we are 40 years old now, let's say, if someone from 10 to 40 years old, for 30 years, obtains knowledge in a systematic, methodological way, I don't know what kind of scholar they will become. They can achieve something very great. I wish for that myself. If you could turn back your youth, what would you do? If you could turn back my youth, I would learn all the knowledge one by one, as much as I could, in an orderly manner. First, I would learn one thing and become an expert, then learn the next, and so on. Secondly, if youth were to return, to serve parents. Well, we didn't serve our father much. We served our mother as much as we could. But then, raising children, we realized that our service was insufficient. If youth were to return, doing good to parents, serving them, this is also a regret for us. But now, for those who have parents, there is an opportunity. If they take advantage of this blessing by pleasing their parents, making them happy, and receiving their prayers, then we can say to our youth. Whether we call it a caravan or a recommendation, this is what I want to tell the youth: to hold firmly to knowledge and to be strong in serving parents, especially parents, not to offend them, to value them, and to try to reciprocate their efforts. This is a recommendation for every young person. A very beautiful regret, a very beautiful recommendation for our youth, God willing. We know that our Lord does nothing without good, and what event happened in your life that, at that time, you might have felt pain or sadness, but when the time came, you saw the good in that event and said, "It turned out to be good"? Can you tell us about such an event? Perhaps, through the event you have shared, our dear viewers will find answers to some of their life issues. Similar things have happened many times. But because it is related to personal life, it is more inconvenient to talk about. At the time of this event, we were hurt. Then its benefit was seen, it had wisdom. I even think, if my father were alive, in a way, if my father were here, we would have had more opportunities for upbringing and education. We wouldn't have had to rush to earn money. Perhaps my father would have had dreams. My elder sister at home, my father, had books in a chest, which are still there. He would dream and say that he reads them. Perhaps in this sense, we would have had more opportunities to study more, and these thoughts always come to mind. However, God's destiny separated us from our father early, perhaps we gained more from that. We grew up. Those who grow up without a father often take on responsibility earlier. They grow up earlier. Their worldview expands earlier. They gain strength earlier. In short. Perhaps that's why Allah, the Most High, destined the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, to grow up without parents. Allah's wisdom. Allah's wisdom. For example, in one aspect, you are deprived, and in another aspect, it is Allah's destiny, so perhaps there is good in it. Now, regarding our personal lives, for example, in some matters, we tried to do it this way and that, and it didn't work out, but it turned out to be good. I can give one example, which is acceptable to tell. We were very eager to study abroad. But against our wishes, we ended up in Tashkent. We entered the madrasah under natural circumstances, against our will. We tried to enter the madrasah before that, three or four years earlier, but it wasn't destined at that time. Then we thought, "We won't go to the madrasah anymore, we will study abroad." The dream of studying in Egypt arose, and then that dream remained, and we entered the madrasah in Tashkent. And I say that studying in that madrasah was better than going abroad. One of its biggest achievements is that we became a student of Hazrat. We benefited from him, from his knowledge and upbringing. If we had gone abroad, he did not have a long life, perhaps it would not have been destined. We wanted to go abroad and study with other great sheikhs. But studying with Hazrat, studying here in the madrasah, I say without hesitation, Alhamdulillah, it was better in every aspect. Therefore, one must entrust matters to Allah, the Most High. You also make an effort, but you must always rely on Him and surrender to Him. You should not just rely 100% and say it's done. No, sometimes it happens like this. You ask for good, you strive. Even if things happen against your will, they will be for your benefit. I am telling you, while we were dreaming of other things, other opportunities arose than we thought, and in the end, it turned out to be good. Similar to this. Because it is difficult to find a scholar and mentor like Hazrat in the world. Especially within the conditions of our country, our people, our customs, our own education certainly has great advantages. Thank you, Brother Qor. I enjoyed it so much, it was like reading a book. I have gained a lot of knowledge now. Thank you very much, Brother Qor, for coming. May your life be long, and may we all, and all our compatriots, be blessed to benefit from your knowledge. And we express our special gratitude to Sent Stage, who closely assisted us in the filming process of this podcast. This book, "Happy Family," by Sheikh Muhammad Sodiq Muhammad Yusuf, published by Hilol Nashr, can be purchased from every bookstore in Uzbekistan, God willing. Here you will find all the information that interests you and, God willing, will lead you towards a happy family. We recommend it to everyone. My dear ones, if you liked our podcast, and if you have the intention to share today's knowledge with someone, please send it, press like, and in the comments, God willing, if any of Brother Qor's thoughts or knowledge have touched your heart, please leave them in the comments, we will be very happy, and I truly hope that during this program, your time was not wasted. Be well. New day, new opportunities, pleasant conversations, happy childhood, harmony with nature. Joy in every moment. Golden Lake, a place of tranquility, the value of time. Rano Muminova L.