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I don't know who needs to hear this, but if you have a good man in your life, hold on to him. And what I mean by "good man" is not a man who's perfect, but a man who is hardworking and willing to do anything to make you happy.
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Welcome to The Wall In. Today's video, we'll see women wondering why men don't approach them, also why dates nowadays are a failure, how they ruin love for everyone. We invite you to hit that like button. Let's support the movement. Subscribe to the channel. That's the only contribution we ask from you guys. Add your grain of sand to the movement. Leave your experience in the comments for any man who needs it. And without further introduction, let's begin.
Women need to start making the first move. If anyone wants to be in a relationship, that's absolutely what has to happen. It just has to happen. Guys, in the comments, back me up on this. We have told men for years that their masculinity is toxic. Some men, as they got interested in dating, that's literally all they know is to stay away from women, is to not bother them, and definitely don't approach them. So, there is nothing wrong with a woman approaching a man. That shows confidence. And you know what? I don't even know if this stat is true. I didn't do much research into this, but I did see that 86% of women who make the first move end up married. So, I mean, come on. That's pretty good. I mean, I don't even care if that's not even a true statistic. Let's run with that. But guys, back me up in the comments. Say, "Yeah, you would love that," or, "Women, say, 'Yeah, I made the first move and I'm now engaged, married, whatever.'" I'm telling you, that's just the way it's got to be. You don't have to like it. I mean, I'm sure guys didn't like when they were being called, when their masculinity, when their whole being was called toxic. They didn't like that. So, start making the first move. And again, you don't have to like it. You don't have to like having to make the first move. You could still have a traditional relationship after that. This is just getting you in a damn relationship. And as far as you know, not liking things, I do things every day that I don't like to do, but it makes me a better person, gets me to my goals. So, these are just f--
Women make the first move. Women don't make the first move because they fear rejection. Women don't know how to tolerate rejection like men do. We've been rejected for years, and honestly, after a while, you get used to it. It's part of being a man. But before, it was just simple rejection, nothing more. Today, it's a harassment accusation. As a man watching video after video of women talking about toxic masculinity, saying that even a man breathing is a red flag, that only men with certain qualities can approach them. Women talked badly about men until we ended up with this mess. Women made their beds, now they have to lie in them. Chivalry is dead to the point that we don't do any of that anymore. Want a date? Then you approach. Want a fancy dinner? Pay half. Open your own door. We don't give flowers. We're tired of being the chivalrous type for women who don't appreciate anything you do for them. So, learn to make the first move. The era of the soft boys has arrived. Drizzle, drizzle.
Why men don't approach women anymore. So, historically, women have always waited for men to make the first move. "Is he going to go in for the kiss? Is he going to hold my hand?" But now, whenever I talk to my friends about their dating history, all I hear them talking about is, "Oh, he hasn't made a move. He's not doing anything. We're not moving forward." So, on the flip side of this, this normally ends up in men feeling like they're getting ghosted or that there's just being told there's no spark. And from what I'm hearing from a lot of my clients, it's not because that you're not attracted to her. It's more about fearing that you're either going to get rejected, maybe you're going to get turned down, you know, slapped in the face when you go for that first move, or even worse, like getting in trouble with the law. So, you need to ask yourself, does this sound like you? The truth is, you probably missed that golden opportunity to create that spark, and she likely was giving you signals that you just didn't quite catch. And why doesn't she make the move to kiss that man? Oh, right. You'll surely say, "He's the man. He should make the first move." But don't you advocate for equality? Oh, right. That only works when it's convenient for you. Because if you like him, how hard is it to go give him a kiss? As I said, you reap what you sow. It's not that men stop being masculine or are afraid to make a move because of women. It's because they're afraid of a false accusation. In a country where even with evidence, a man still has to prove his innocence, how can you not be insecure about doing something that might make a woman uncomfortable? When a woman only has to accuse you of something and you end up spending months in jail while the case is investigated. Today, a man carrying a phone with a camera to record everything might be the only way to avoid having his life ruined.
Oh, this one's going to ruffle some feathers, but I'm going to be completely honest. So, what I'd like to know in this dating world for people like over 50, like, have men just kind of given up with the trying to date and the, the courting and the, and all that? The short and sweet answer to your question is, yes. Yes, they have. They've given up. They're done. They're walking away. Is it so bad out there like that you guys have just given up? No. Bad doesn't even begin to cover it. Toxic. We could start with that, because like, everybody I talk to says they go out on a date, and if the guy is buying dinner, then by the end of the night, he's saying, "Well, like, if I buy dinner, then I expect to have sex." And there it is. Everybody you talk to. My gut feeling is, and I think it's obvious, everybody means women, not men. Women. And you're making assumptions based on what women are telling other women men are thinking, instead of listening to men. First of all, as if [ __ ] like that ain't happening. And there's that toxicity I mentioned earlier. As if your assumption is that that's what all men are thinking and wanting. That's not the reality, but that's what you're working from. That's the premise. So why would any man, a good man, ever put himself in that position? When the first response you're going to have is, "As if." Are there Chads out there? Guys who would do that? Sure. There are, but they're few and far between. But that doesn't matter. What matters is you're going to apply that label to every single man. And then, of course, there's the other side of it. There's women who try and sleep with men on the first date, but we don't talk about them. We label all men. But if you mention even one woman, it's, "But, but, but, it's not us. It's not fair to label all of us like that." It's a huge double standard. And speaking of double standards, okay, now if you put on your profile, "I am not interested in a relationship, and if I buy you dinner, I would like to have sex at the end of the evening." Hey, good on you. Seriously. You actually think guys would do that? Some guys might not. The guys you want? Or is it because the guys that would do that, they're the ones with the six-figure incomes, the six-pack abs, the 6-inch, you know what? And they do that because they can, because they know women will respond to that. The average decent guy, the ones you claim you want, the ones you reject out of hand because they don't fit the sixes, they're not going to post something like that because that's not their expectation. "Oh, I love puppies and picnics in the park." And then you take somebody to dinner and you pull that [ __ ]. Well, you know what? You're just a dumbass. And there's the final clue for you. You assume that all guys are like that. So therefore, all men are dumbasses. Why would any man want to date someone who thinks that way? That would be pure insanity on his part. It's why men are walking away. They're done. Not just over 50, but at any age. She described a classic Chad, a man who brings nothing to the table except his seed. If she described one of those men who always has women at his feet, who will get action on the first date, she says it's always the man who suggests intimacy. But with those six-figure, six-pack guys in the top 20%, it's the women who try to take them to bed to see if he'll stay with them. But remember, my friend, only children, women, and animals receive unconditional love. Men are measured by the same standard. Because a minority of men receive sex on the first date, now it means all men are toxic. Instead of evaluating what types she's trying to pursue, because unfortunately, Chad won't go out unless he gets something in return. One thing these men don't do is pay for free dinners.
What happened to men pursuing girls? Are we really asking this question? When was the pivotal moment that a man chose to not go after a girl anymore or put in any effort? I don't think there was a pivotal moment. However, there's been lots of little moments that have added up to a large awakening of a lot of men in regards to whether or not it's worth it to chase women. Seems like guys can just put the bare minimum and not even really put an effort anymore. They don't really care to. Well, what's considered to be the bare minimum seems to change on a daily basis. So how can anyone truly know what the bare minimum even is? They're like, "Why don't girls just go and make the first move and make the effort?" That's an excellent question, indeed. Why don't they? It's become a thing now. It's like role reversal where they expect girls to be making the first moves, yearning for a guy and chasing him. I imagine that happened somewhere around the same time that a lot of women were indicating to men that they want them to leave them alone. So, in a lot of cases, they got exactly what they asked for. That is, I feel like the downfall of why it's so hard to meet someone, 'cause men don't put an effort anymore. Don't care to put an effort. But why should they? When the possible benefits of pursuing a woman are often far outweighed by the risk that they undertake in pursuing those same women. It's honestly just not worth it for a lot of men to pursue women, especially when so many women want to be seen as independent and left alone.
Totally agree with her. I love this woman's message. But as I said, they made their bed, now they have to lie in it. You wanted peace for men to stay away. Now that you've got what you asked for, you feel scared because you don't know how to live without men's attention. Now you're afraid of rejection. But what you fear most is losing the privileges men gave you when they pursued you. Of course, there's the typical woman who was taken on trips, given gifts, had expensive dinners paid for, and was given iPhones. She received princess treatment from simps without giving anything in return or doing anything for those men. Now she sees that her pretty face isn't yielding results, as men have moved on from her, and she panics. Adding to this, as years go by, she needs to secure a beta provider for long-term financial security. And above all, there's the fear of the wall, because we all know the wall doesn't forgive.
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This is why men don't pursue women anymore. Because so many men are on dating apps nowadays, it has given them this illusion of an unlimited choice in women. So when men go out to bars or restaurants, they're not pursuing women anymore because they know that when they go home, they will have the backup of the dating app. If only dating apps worked that way for men. They actually worked like that for women, because the reality is, men could swipe all day, swiping like on all of those women, and he is lucky to get one or two matches. Men stop pursuing women because us ladies told them to stop. We complained every single time a man has approached us. We have done things like give him our boyfriend's number, or yell at him, or overall show that we're bothered by him approaching. And a lot of men want to respect, respect our boundaries, want us to feel comfortable. So for the majority of men, the potential of making us uncomfortable is not worth it to them. So they're not going to even bother approaching us. Men also don't want to pursue us if we're not going to make any effort in return. And that point is just a waste of time, and he could spend that time pursuing his hobbies or building his career. I've never believed in a woman with purple hair, but she's right about what she said. The majority, better said, 80% of men barely receive any attention from women. Only 20% of men get all the benefits. That's why those Facebook groups like "Are We Dating the Same Guy?" were invented because women were all dating the same Chad over and over again. And that's due to women's selection. Another thing is, most women used to say they didn't go to bars or restaurants because men wouldn't leave them alone and let them enjoy their girls' night out. Now that men aren't approaching them, aren't paying for their food or buying them free drinks, they complain that they're not masculine men because they can't go out and drink for free like they used to. Seeing these complaints from women makes me realize that men are changing. They know they have to value themselves and not give away their attention to a woman just because she has a pretty face and a bad attitude. Value yourself, men, because you're worth a lot. Don't take these beautiful things that I've got.
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Welcome to The Wall In. Today's video, we will see a woman crying because her boyfriend left her. We will hear her story and how she seeks sympathy from other women on the internet. We will also see the reaction of an older woman and her response to the video. On The Wall, we want to invite you to smash that like button. Support the movement and subscribe to the channel. That's the only contribution we ask from you, man. Add your grain of sand to the movement and share your experience in the comments for any man who might need it. Without further ado, let's get started.
Do any of the girlies out there have any tips for, uh, how to handle a breakup when you're 26 years old and you just, that was the person that you wanted everything with? How do you, how do you move on? How do you, like, how do you know there's going to be someone else? Went like, everything that you wanted in the person you had. Social media where coup therapy becomes public entertainment. Why talk to your ex when you can share intimate details and hope the crowd sides with you? Why did he leave you? The real question is, who wants to be with a woman who shares everything on TikTok, even her breakup, just to go viral and seek sympathy? I don't know if it's just me, but it seems to be a trend among modern women to post their tears expecting other women to join their cause. Instead of thinking about why the relationship ended, they use the classic tactic: blame the man and receive virtual pats on the back. Who needs self-criticism when you can be the heroine of your own digital drama? They seek to talk about the ex-partner so that other hateful women start giving their humble opinions like vipers. They tell her everything she wants to hear, except that she might have done something wrong, because as we all know, it must be the man's fault. Then a group of hurt women appear sharing their stories where the man is also the villain. Just check the comments left by some women. Comment one: "If you love the wrong person this much, just imagine how much you'll love the right one. Stop it. Get some help." Comment two: "Don't let your boyfriend keep you from your husband. My mom, no. God, please, no." Comment three: "Babe, I'm 30. 5 to 6 months since we broke up. I was going to marry him. We were going to have kids. It hurts the most unbelievable hurt. Honestly, I went to therapy. Not the most affordable."
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Comment four: "My ex called off our wedding the month before and turned my world upside down. I was about to turn 26. I cannot explain how much better my life is now in every imaginable way."
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Comment five: "Angel, thank you for sharing this vulnerable moment. It's normal to feel scared at first. Try your best to breathe, compose your thoughts about what just happened, write them down 100 times, then slowly start thinking about life moving forward. Be patient with yourself. One small step at a time. One day at a time." Cocaine is a hell of a drug. I have tried to literally read every single comment that I've gotten, and people have been sending me like the nicest messages, and I swear every single time I read something, I just cry. Um, but honestly, thank you to like, literally everyone who has, like, that's Frankie. Um, but thank you to everyone who has literally just shared their advice or just like shared the fact that they've gone through the same pain because it, I know I'm not alone, but it just makes me feel a lot less lonely. I just want to add the fact that my ex was a great guy. Like, it may not have worked out between us, you know, either unfortunately or maybe fortunately. Um, but he gave me some of the greatest memories for the past two years, and you know, I'm, I'm going to make more with someone else, and I'm going to feel okay about that soon and in the future. And I hope if anyone is going through a breakup, that they come across that last video and just read all the wonderful comments.
As I said, they just want sympathy. These videos seem as authentic to me as a $3 bill. They go viral faster than a rumor in a gossip room because women love to share and comment. But if he was such a great guy, why did he leave you? Maybe you weren't such a good woman after all. Women, I've always said, are addicted to attention. Let's be honest. When a man is left, the last thing he does is record himself crying to seek sympathy. The man suffers in silence. The woman, on the other hand, wants the entire breakup narrative to revolve around her. She plays the victim while painting the man as the villain. This way, she gets friends and family on her side, and boy, do they succeed. There are men who even lose friends because of women who lie and make them look like abusers. But of course, she already has her army of supporters on the internet, women who back her up as if it's their mission. Soon we will see these women clash with harsh reality, because the wall doesn't forgive.
Have any tips for, uh, how to handle a breakup? Celebrate. You've just been given the greatest gift you could ever get from a man. You're 26, you are beautiful, and you don't want anything to do with somebody who does not wholly want you. Having lived two of your lifetimes, I and many of other women my age would say that we have been there before. We've done exactly what you've done. And if you're willing to hear me out, I've got some great advice. The first thing is, do not take him back if he comes back to you. I don't care what he has to offer or say. Do not give him a second opportunity to dump you. I don't know him, and I'm not going to dog him, but if he goes out and takes a lap and then discovers that maybe you were awesome, he might try to come back. Non-starter. Because as life progresses, he is going to continue to have that mentality. And it may be when you're married with two kids, and he sees something that he thinks is better and decides to take a lap. Second, focus on you so hard that you are blind to all other men. Girlies, in grief, are vulnerable, and the wrong kind of men can smell that from a mile away. Predators look for prey. And if you're looking or feeling broken, somebody who feels like they need to be a fixer or who likes to take advantage of people when they are weak will find you. So, turn that spigot off. None. Third is, find your girlies. This is really like the number one most important thing for you to do, like, right away. And a girl's only girli thing is the best. If you have girlfriends, this is the time that you would go to the ones that you trust and have conversations about where you're at. It could be your bestie, it could be your sister, it could be your mom. And if you don't have any of that, find a local ladies-only club, a gardening club, a book club, a stitch and [ __ ] anything will do. I mean, it should be something that you enjoy doing, right? And if what you were doing was spending time with your man and doing the things that he liked to do, sit and reflect for a moment on whether or not you were doing what you wanted to do. And if it wasn't that, you know, figure some things out, like what do you really like? What's your favorite stuff? But keep it to a girl's only thing, because again, you might want to say things that you're going to feel like you can't in front of men, and those other women there will speak more freely to you. Next is your career. Are you still in college? Did you choose to go like a regular job path? Do you work from home? Like, what is it that you're doing for your career? And if you're in job mode right now and you haven't switched to career mode, look at what it is that you might want to track for. Keep working until you figure that out. But now is the time to like, really laser focus on figuring that out without being influenced by some guy who, you know, is looking for resources. If he was the same age as you, there's a really good chance that he just left the nest and really misses the things that his mom used to do for him, and you probably were filling that role, or maybe you stopped filling that role, and that's why he bailed. But it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter why he said he wanted to break up. Somebody once said to me, um, "If I'm fired, just say you're fired. I don't want a reason because does it matter?"
See what I told you? The vipers show up on their own, ready to give their humble, poisonous advice. Because of course, the worst enemy of a woman is another woman. And women who ended up miserable love to share their misery as if it were a gift. Remember, the girl said he was a good man. This other woman doesn't know the reasons for the breakup, but already paints the guy as an abuser. He's probably a mama's boy who will come back when you're happy. They tell you to watch out for predators, focus on yourself, and stay away from men. All the perfect advice to end up alone, bitter, and with a cat. Their other great advice: hang out only with women. Sure, go on a girls' trip to Miami, because we all know the wild things that happen there. A group of single women, none of whom can keep a man, is definitely the best place to learn about long-term relationships. Instead of asking her father, brothers, or male friends for advice on what she might have done wrong, this girl prefers the single ladies' club. The relationship may have ended by mutual agreement, but according to this woman, that man was ruining her life. But let's see the next part.
They could give you 10 reasons, and it, it doesn't matter, and there's a chance that it could be a lie anyway. So, spare yourself. Remember that in time, the painful things about somebody fade away, and only the good stuff remains. You only remember the good. You don't remember the bad, like that he dumped you. And you need to know that the good times were good because of you, not necessarily because of him. You are experiencing joy within yourself. You were feeling fulfilled. You were having a great moment. You were generating those feelings inside of yourself within a certain environment. Nobody can make you feel a certain way. Only you can make yourself feel that way. Which means you can make yourself feel that way again, even right now, if you wanted to. I know it doesn't seem like it. From a scientific perspective, it's good to remember that men's prefrontal cortexes do not even finish developing until they're in their mid to late 20s. So, technically, he wasn't there yet. I mean, I guess if he was your same age, and everyone knows this, but as your mom, I have to say that fresh air, plenty of water, and good sleep are imperative for you to move forward in any kind of like healthy emotional way. Ruminating and doom scrolling are going to keep you up all night long. Somatic stretching, yoga, Pilates, uh, meditation, a float tank, awesome. A sauna, if you like heat. Anything that helps alter your physiology a little bit will keep your lymph moving and your digestive system moving, your mind clear. It's like a hormone, cortisol, etc., dump. And that's what the plenty of water is so important for. Journaling is so fantastic. Do it with a pen and paper, like write it out. And my favorite tip that I ever learned about journaling is to end it with some really strong positive things. The thing that I like most about myself. What did I accomplish today? Even if it was just taking a shower, pat yourself on the back for that. Some days are just really hard. Make a playlist of your favorite upbeat songs and dance by yourself in your living room in front of a mirror, if you want. Even better, I wish I would have done this in my 20s, but in my 40s, I stood in front of my full-length mirror without anything on and looked at myself for a really, really, really long time. And after I cried, I started loving my body. I started loving myself in a whole new way. No one will ever affect me with regard to my body ever again. If you're not a calendar type person, at least put a few things in your phone calendar with reminders. It could be outings with your girlies, that would be awesome, but even if it's too hard, like if you're too depressed to do that, even just put in there, like, brushing your teeth, washing your face. Take a big breath in as fast as you can and try to blow it out through your mouth as slowly as you possibly can. My Tai Chi teacher taught me to breathe in and then breathe out five times longer than I breathed in. So I use my heartbeat to count three heartbeats to breathe it in and nine heartbeats to breathe it out. Sometimes I make it to 12 or 15 all the way out, like to where your diaphragm starts to push up. It does stuff to you, your body physiologically, very good stuff. And it won't keep you any longer. You can DM me if you feel like you need to. But the last thing you need to know is that there are millions of women just like you that have been through this that will tell you that you're going to be okay. You're going to be better than okay. That this is not a bad thing that has happened. It's actually a really good thing for you. You're not alone, and we're here for you. We're here for all of it.
And one thing I agree with her: if she stands in front of the mirror naked, even I start to cry. Women's advice is always the same: heal, live life, be free. The bad man is gone. But you never hear anything about taking responsibility for their actions. What did she do wrong? What could she have done better? Reflect on the difficult moments in the relationship. Think about what could have been done differently, or remember some warning from the man, because believe me, there surely were some. But of course, that message doesn't sell. The one that sells is the bad man is to blame, everyone against the abuser, and you, woman, have no responsibility apparently in the relationship. She was just an innocent bystander. As I said, taking responsibility for a woman is like Kryptonite. If that woman, with all the sympathy she receives, doesn't give the reasons for the breakup, I'm sure it's her fault. Who knows? Maybe she cheated, or simply stopped being attractive to him. Maybe he got a job out of state. Remember, she herself said he was a good man. But as I said, that message doesn't sell. The one that sells is the woman as Little Red Riding Hood and the man is the Big Bad Wolf, because misery loves company.
Dam. How's your dating life going? It isn't. You haven't been on any dates? No. Met anybody? No. Are you even on dating apps? No. Plan on getting on dating apps? No. So you're just happy being single? No. Do you have a will to live? No.
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Welcome to The Wall In. Today's video, we will discuss why women are asking where the nice guys are, why men have given up on them, and the reasons for leaving the dating scene. We want to invite you to smash that like button. Let's support the movement. Subscribe to the channel. That's the only contribution we ask from you, man. Add your grain of sand to the movement. Leave us your experience in the comments for any man who needs it. And without further introduction, let's get started.
I often get asked, "Where are all the good guys?" "There are no more good guys out there." "Good guys don't exist." This is becoming a bit of a theme lately. Now, as a psychotherapist, I can confirm that there are many great guys out there. I've had them sat in my office, and I have worked with them. The problem is, the great guys, the good, kind, authentic guys tend to get caught up in toxic relationships, often with narcissists. So, these guys are difficult to track down because they've often been pinned down and they've been so abused that they're not able to get out of that relationship and understand and get into a healthy relationship. These guys do exist, but sometimes, ladies, you've just got to be patient.
The nice guys realized that relationships with you aren't worth it. Many were ignored, mistreated, some sent to the friend zone. Others were in relationships with abusive, narcissistic women who only entered these men's lives to turn them upside down. So, what ended up happening is that many men completely gave up on dating and on playing this game that is designed for them to never win, where men are demanded more and more each day to be with a woman who offers nothing. Women who spend their youth dating Chads, men who bring nothing to the table but their seed. Women who, after giving their love to the public, believe they deserve a good man. Women who don't have a high economic status but still demand that a man earns six figures, be 6 feet tall, and have a six-pack to date a woman who, at best, is average. That's why there are almost no good men, because you have managed to make them an endangered species.
Where did all the good men go? Oh, they're at work, or in their car commuting to work, or they might be on their lunch from work, or they're sleeping from doing so much work. Finally, they could be trapped in the nothing box and staring off blankly into the distance as a subconscious distraction from the perilous dread of work. The average man will spend at least one-third of his life at work. See, we, as a society, majoritively, about three quarters of us, in fact, are still telling men that in order to be valued, they should be able to provide for an entire family on their own, despite the fact that seven out of 10 wives now earn as much or more than their husbands. So, to answer the question, "Where is the good men?" with facts, they're spending most of their time burning themselves down at both ends, desperately trying to please people who don't actually need their money as much as they say they do. So, I wonder, I really have this theory, if we were more vocal and expressive in valuing men for their presence, for simply being available for us, for being who they are, like we expect people to do for us, you know, instead of constantly telling them that it was better when they just went to war and sent home a paycheck, and maybe we'd actually have a chance at getting to meet those men. But more importantly, if we removed these superficial standards, maybe they'd have a chance to meet themselves.
There's a saying that goes, "When a man makes more money, he dreams of giving the best to his woman." But when a woman makes money, she feels she no longer needs a man. That's the hypergamy of these beings of light. Women who, even when earning more money than men, still demand that the man spends more. Because remember, with them, your money is ours, but their money is theirs. This is why I say that everything a man brings to a relationship is tangible. It has value. What a woman brings to the table, or wants to bring, is intangible and has no value. And you know what's ironic? Women constantly speak ill of being housewives when they get married and are not housewives, but working wives. It's not like their money goes towards improving things for both. The money they earn goes to their personal savings account for when they end things with you. Because even when earning their own money, they expect the man to take care of everything. Because of course, you're the man, you have to be the provider. Oh, it's not toxic masculinity when you have to support her. Which is why more and more we're entering the era of the soft guys. Drizzle, drizzle.
For you, miss, where have all the good men gone? Do you want to know where they went? They have retreated to their HES. Do you want to know why? Because the good men are the ones that have put in so much effort and had women trash them for putting in the effort. They've had women take advantage of them because they want to be a gentleman. They want to open the doors. They want to pay for your dinner, and you just expect that that is supposed to happen. The idea that you should have multiple men pandering after you just to see which one is the best is atrocious. And this is coming from someone who very clearly wants traditional values in a man and in a relationship, but I am not going to be ignorant to the idea that I'm going to have to contribute something to that relationship too. I am going to have to put in the effort as well. I'm going to have to be able to communicate and have conversation and be really comfortable with who I am. But at the same time, understand that if I want a man to be comfortable with himself, I am going to have to allow him the ability to feel comfortable when he is in my presence. None of this, "Oh, well, you have to do this and you need to do that, and if you don't handle this, then I'm out." Do I have expectations? Of course, I have expectations. My expectations are rooted in having morals and values and being a gentleman and understanding what that means. That means that I am not taking advantage of them just so that I can get a date.
As a man, my advice to other men is that your top priority should always be yourself. That's why I always say, build yourself first. If you're a young man in your 20s to 35, build your garden first, then go for a flower. Because I see many go for the flower and end up with neither the garden nor the flower, losing both. What I mean is, many men enter abusive relationships early, don't manage to start a family with that woman, and also fail to build assets, ending up destroyed. That's why I always say, being a good man is being an abused man, because you end up with a woman who was left by a Chad, who comes with a lot of traumas and wants to take them all out on you. Because all women want traditional men when they themselves are not traditional. That's why when you are a man who has his own house, car, good job, an optimal physical condition, you can choose. Go for the woman who qualifies best with you. Make her invest in the relationship and put an effort to be with you. Don't desperately go for a woman who offers you nothing but ends up making your life hell. So, play your cards right, man.
If you are interested in a man who is considered a nice guy, be careful. Here's why. There is a major, major difference in a nice guy versus a good guy. The nice guys, 99% of the time, their personality is fake so that they can get something that they want. You will notice common characteristics in them: saying yes all the time, being super easygoing, never setting boundaries or speaking their mind. Even if they are not trying to get something out of you, what will happen is resentment will build up in them, and they will hate you and be angry at you for them not being able to speak their mind and say what they need. A good guy, this is the type of guy that you want to go for. He is the one who is led by his integrity, by his values, and his morals. He is genuinely a good man. You will notice characteristics about him: he has no problem setting boundaries, he speaks his mind, he has self-respect and self-love. He is able to love you fully. Do not date a nice guy. Instead, choose a good guy.
She is comparing a simp to a high-value man. A simp is someone who puts a woman on a pedestal, doing whatever the queen says, always trailing behind her because instead of being a partner, he becomes more of her fan. That's why he always ends up in the friend zone or at the bottom of the list of women who go for Chads or high-value men. That's why you often see simps marrying single mothers, women who probably ignored them before getting involved with their child's father. Now that they have no other options, they give the simp a chance. Brothers, don't be that man. Now, the high-value man, or nice guy, whom she described as a green flag, is a masculine man who knows how to set boundaries, who knows how to draw red lines for a woman. He tells her, "If you do these things and disrespect me, you're out." He's the man who, when the woman gets stubborn and tries to manipulate him, says, "There's the door." He's the man who takes care of his woman, treats her with respect, but insists on equality. He's not her fan or her pushover. He's her man or husband. These are the men women don't leave because they command respect, and women love a man with authority. Good men exist. They are out there. And I need you to realize that if you put out the energy of "every man is a manipulator, a cheater, a POS," so on and so forth, if you put that energy out there, you are going to attract men that are those kinds of people. I think it's safe to say that almost every woman I've ever met, including myself, has been cheated on and treated poorly by a man. However, that should not change your perception of the man that you want to attract into your life. Do the healing work. Focus on bettering yourself and nurturing yourself again and getting back on your feet. But also put the energy out there that there is a man out there that is going to love you the way that you deserve, treat you the way that you deserve, and see your worth. And never let any other man have the opportunity to even come into your life. These men exist, and they are out there. But again, if you are continuously saying all these negative things, you're just going to attract negative. And don't get me wrong, there are plenty of men out there that might not be the best kind of guy, but you should see the warning signs and say, "Okay, I know when to get out of this. I know when not to get too attached, and I could end that relationship or end whatever before it gets too serious."
As someone who is single, I am so hopeful for the man that I meet because I know my values, I know my morals, I know what I have to offer and what I bring to the table, and I know that there's going to be a man that sees me one day and is going to be like, "I don't want any other man to come into your life or even be able to talk to you because I need you in my life. I want you in my life. I see that you bring value to my life, and I see potential future with you, and I want to explore that." I know that that's coming. And I think by having this mindset, I will attract that man. So, do the work. Do the healing work. Be alone for a bit. I've been alone for almost two years. It's fine. It's good to have those moments alone. But now I know what I deserve. Now I know what I'm willing to tolerate. I know the red flags. I know the warning signs. I know what I deserve, and I know how to treat a man. And when you know that, how do you lose? How could you lose? Because the right man will never give you up. The right man will never let you go. And if he does, he's not the right guy.
Have you ever noticed that the ones who say "all men are bad," "good men don't exist," are usually the women who, first of all, are always going out with Chads? These are women with disastrous divorces or some dating coach trying to sell a course on how to get a man when she doesn't have one herself. They are always the ones who label men as bad, as if it seems 90%, if not 100%, of men are bad. There will never be a good man in their eyes. Now, why do women blame everything on men when they are the ones who choose the men they want to be with? A woman typically, before the age of 30, has more than 10 men who try to win her over. Out of those, I can assure you that five to six are good men. But she goes for the jerks, then goes for casual encounters. When her life is a mess because of her own choices, she blames men, saying there are no good men left. But when a decent man tries to win her over, he's seen as boring, or a simp, or unattractive, and there's a long list of things he lacks. So, who is really to blame here? The one who chooses, or the choice?
I am absolutely convinced that men don't actually want relationships. Like, men want their lives as is. They want to go about their day exactly as it is, do whatever they would normally do, and just want somebody there when it's convenient for them, or, you know, for the things they want to do. Like, I'm convinced me. I'm [Music] wrong.
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I am absolutely convinced that men don't actually want relationships. Like, I think you're right. I think most men don't want a relationship. They want three things: they want a sex doll in the bedroom, someone who has just enough experience but not so much experience that it hurts her little feelings and triggers her insecurity. And of course, men want a mommy, someone who's going to fold their laundry and clean the kitchen and make them, you know, dinner and lunch, 'cause they're too [ __ ] incompetent.
to make a [ __ ] sandwich themselves. And of course, to wipe their asses for them, because men like this do not wipe their own asses. And they want a trophy. They want someone they can dust off the shelf, show around when they want, and then put back on the shelf to stay quiet until the next time. Men don't want an equal partner. These men don't want a relationship. Because these men, as sad as it is to say, they don't actually like women. It's pathetic. And this is bacon. These simps think that by telling women what they want to hear, women will pay attention to them, not realizing that women prefer a masculine man over a graling s. And we don't want sex dolls, just women who treat us with respect, who appreciate what a man brings to the home, women who understand that we are equals, not their fathers, as modern women like to call their provider man. It's ironic that when men become everything women say they want, what ends up happening is that the women cheat on them. So it's not that men want a trophy. They want a woman who knows how to connect with her feminine side, who brings feminine energy into the home, and doesn't turn a man's life into a living hell. Where are the men who would wake up just so they could be the man who wakes up next to you? Well, I'm sorry, s, to have to break it to you, but those men, they've already woken up, and they've left. Because you see, men have now realized there's no real benefit to waking up next to you. We've seen that while you demand, demand, demand things from us, you offer little to nothing in return, at least not anything we can't already get without involving ourselves in a relationship with you. And on top of that, for decades now, y'all told us you didn't want us. Y'all told us you didn't need us. We heard you, and now we're off making a better life for ourselves, one that doesn't involve you. Would we like to have a great relationship? Sure, who wouldn't? But men have finally figured out that the risk simply isn't worth the reward anymore. And now that you guys have figured out that we figured it out, well, now you're wondering, where did all the men go?
And then there's this, like, where are the men who would walk 500 miles? And I would walk 500 miles. Now you know why I was never the lead singer in any of the bands I was in, anyway. Last I knew, they were raking in the royalty still from that song they created 30 years ago that I still can't get out of my head. Absolutely, they seed the seeds of resentment and abuse towards men, and guess what? Now they have to reap what they've sown. Men are expected to meet a long list of demands, from being six feet tall, earning six figures, coming from a good family, to having a house or a car, and being a professional, just to date a woman who, at best, is average. The only thing she offers is her presence, which she has likely offered to to other men, giving you something used after hitting the wall. And seeing that this man prefers to go for a younger woman, she gets angry and wonders where all the good men have gone. Those men stayed in the past where you left them when you decided to go for Chad, a man who brings nothing to the table except his seed. And then walk another 500 miles for a total of a thousand, just to fall down at your door. No, I'm sorry to disappoint you, but there's no way in hell I'm singing that god-awful song to you. All kidding aside, the point I want to make is that women often want men to meet the expectations of things they hear in songs or see in the movies. As I frequently call it, they're searching for that perfect Disneyland Prince, the one that doesn't actually exist, but yet they all think does, and that they deserve. Men see it for what it is: an expectation of perfection, something no one can achieve. And knowing that, why would they enter into a relationship with someone who expects that of them? Someone who actually believes a man should walk 500, a thousand, even a million miles just to be with them. Men are done playing these silly little games, ladies. Life is not a rom-com or some romantic song. Life is, well, life. And the completely unrealistic expectations that you've all set now, oh wait, sorry, the higher standards have reached a level of absurdity that men look at it and go, yeah, no more. We're done. Especially when they realize that they're not going to get anything returned, no matter how hard they work to woo you over. Where are they at? Well, to wrap this up, where they're at is sitting home or hanging out with their buds, playing video games, playing guitar, enjoying life, no longer having to deal with the drama, no longer having to deal with the financial drain of expensive dates only to get ghosted shortly thereafter, no longer dealing with the ridiculous expectations, oh sorry, higher standards that you've all set. Ladies, I'm sorry to tell you, but men didn't create this situation. You did. But men have now seen it for what it is, and they're done in walking away. And the really sad part is, they ain't coming back anytime soon. And you know what's sad about all this? The men who bought into the Disney Narrative of Happily Ever After, who were everything she asked for, only to realize that the only thing they got was a woman who cheats on them for being too good. We're tired of these games where one gives and gets nothing in return, where a man works 25 or more years for his family, and when he's nearing retirement, the woman asks for a divorce. Men who were that great Disney guy see how the woman to take all their assets in the divorce, tarnishes their image by saying he was abusive. Women who falsely accused men to leave them on the street and take their children away. No more. The abuse ends now. I would rather invest my money in myself than give it to a woman who won't appreciate anything I do for her. Let them hit the wall, because the wall doesn't forgive.
If you are panicking over the fact that you are still single and you are starting to have this nagging fear that you are going to be single forever and you're going to die alone, then listen up. When I was 29, I was single as a pringle, single as can be. There was not a man in sight to date. When I was 30, all in the year of being 30, I got engaged, married, and pregnant with my first baby. Now, here's the thing. When I was 29, I hit a breaking point where I was like, I can't keep going the way that I'm going. What was I doing? I was dating emotionally damaged guys. But yet at the same time, I was saying, oh, I want to settle down, I want to have a lot of babies. But yet I'm dating guys who clearly cannot give me what I wanted. I had no self-worth. I was basically chasing after guys to give me this feeling of SE of self-worth. And then I decided that enough was enough. I mean, I had worked on myself a lot up until that point, but I still had a ways to go. And so I did an intensive inner self makeover. I fixed my mindset and the faulty beliefs. I rewrote the story that I had created in my head, the story that a lot of you may have created in your heads about not being good enough, not being worthy, the guys that I want are never going to want me, I'm going to scare every scare away whatever it is I want, and on and on it goes. I fixed it. And I got to a place where I said out loud, to two people, I have come as far as I can go as a single person. I am self-actualized. I'm confident. I have self-worth. I love myself. I love my life. Any more personal growth is going to happen in a relationship. Right after that, I reconnected with an ex-boyfriend who I had wanted for 11 years. We weaved in and out of each other's lives. He never had a desire to date me. All of a sudden, he was overcome with this desire to date me. By our third date, he knew he was going to marry me, and the rest is history. The reason I'm sharing this with you is that when you do that inner work, the change can happen so fast. And if you want to have that inner makeover, if you want to know the step-by-step guide, I actually have a live course that is launching June 1st. So check that out. Join me. I want to help you get there. Uh, all the information is in my profile. If you have any questions, leave them below or DM me, and I hope to see you there.
In short, you got tired of dating Chads. Once you turned 30, you realized that Chad wasn't going to commit to you. To avoid wasting more time, you changed your entire game plan to go after a beta provider who would offer long-term financial security. Because when you hear a woman say, "I had to work a lot on myself," it just means she stopped dating men who only provided good times in bed and now claims to be ready for commitment. She now thinks she deserves a good man or a beta provider. I don't know how a man feels when he hears that he was chosen because he was the safe option, not the one she liked the most. This is what most women want to do: enjoy their youth with a Chad and secure their financial future later with a beta provider, while saying they now have high standards when they're hitting the wall.
What happened to men pursuing girls? When was the pivotal moment that a man chose to not go after a girl anymore and put in any effort? It seems like guys can just put the bare minimum and not even really put an effort anymore. They don't really care to, or they're like, "Why don't girls just go and make the first move and make the effort?" When did it become a thing? Now it's like reversal where they expect girls to be making the first moves, yearning for a guy and chasing him. That is, I feel like the downfall of why it's so hard to meet someone, cuz men don't put an effort in. There's plenty of pivotal moments. How about when a woman called a man weak for opening her car door? Or the time that men pursued women on dating apps, and him saying, "Hey, how are you?" wasn't good enough? How about the pivotal moment when a man is looking out into the open and happens to glance in a woman's direction, and somehow he's undressing her with his eyes? Or how about the moment when women considered everything the bare minimum and nothing is ever good enough? Or what about the pivotal moment where men have to fix everything in a relationship to make it work, and women have to simply exist? Or how about the time there was a study done that said 80% of women find men unattractive? So why would they try anymore? Or the pivotal moment where men can be accused of SA or grape at any given moment by accident, just because a woman is pissed off because she was rejected? Or what about the pivotal moment that women have constantly told men that they're so undesirable that they would rather pick a bear over a human being, as if men don't have feelings? Or how about the pivotal moment that every single man that ever chased a woman was considered a s, and women simply didn't respect them or want to be with them because they're chasing and they're trying too hard? What about the pivotal Al moment when the nice guy gets left because he's not toxic enough? Or what about the pivotal moment where men can't even simply be respectful without it being considered creepy or too friendly? Or what about the time that women decided that not even Cheesecake Factory was good enough for a first date, that they didn't want to get to know men for who they are, they wanted to know how much money they made and their status? And I don't know about you, but that doesn't sound worth chasing. Okay, bye. Woman, you deserve a beer. It couldn't have been said better. There's nothing more to add here but to say, you made the bed you're lying in today. You wanted to be independent, to be left alone, and now you're getting what you asked for. We gave you the last drop of chivalry we had left. That's how good we are. So I hope you sleep well in the bed you made, because the wall doesn't forgive.
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