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Hello.
Hi.
How are you?
I'm fine. Can I not be on camera?
Uh, no.
It's fine. It's fine.
You got to be on You got to be on Instagram.
How [clears throat] old are you?
I am 37.
All right. What's the What's the What's the question of the comment?
Um, your question was, "Am I
What are y'all holding out for?
Party of one."
Yeah. What What are women holding out for?
I don't know. Um, I I was married and divorced. I didn't hold out, but um I wouldn't say that I'm holding out today. I just after listening to you, I don't see any hope in anything.
What do you mean?
I mean, I don't know. I feel like my market value is not as high as it used to be prior to marriage. I have two children. I'm divorced.
It's not as high as it used to be.
Yeah.
Well, that's I mean, any thing that ages and gets used decreases. So, I mean that's expected though, right?
Correct.
Okay. Go ahead.
Expected though. So,
Huh?
What' you say?
I said divorce wasn't expected. So, I wasn't, you know, planning on the decline, but um I guess I'm a party of one now and I don't know like how it works or what a divorce. My husband did.
Uh, why' you guys split?
Because I didn't know how to be a wife.
Okay.
I wasn't taught.
Okay. So, is that a more accurate reason why you feel like there's no hope?
Yeah.
So, it's not the declining sexual marketplace value or the divorce. It's you.
I think it's a combination. I mean, now that I'm learning, I mean, I've learned a lot since the divorce,
I feel like with the knowledge that I have,
I don't know if there's anything out there that would accommodate
anything out there that what
anything that would accommodate my situation. I mean, you know, who wants to take care of someone else's kids and you know, do
Mary? No, probably watching. [laughter]
Yeah. Why not go back to him?
I've tried. He doesn't
Why do you Why do you think that is?
I don't think he's seen a change in me.
What's the name of your therapist?
Kevin Sam. No, I'm just kidding. I don't have one. You know what that is?
What's that?
The world's smallest violin playing My Heart Bleeds for You. I mean, what do you want us to say, ma'am? I mean, you were you're married and you honest and said, "He divorced me because I didn't know how to be a husband." Then you but then you go to the market say I don't think there's any hope because of declining sexual marketplace value that happens for everybody for all women in particular it doesn't necessarily happen for all men but yeah our value decreases too but then you don't know who will accommodate your situation yeah the man you started your situation with but why doesn't he want you back because you ain't done nothing
I wouldn't say that I think I
I I think I I mean I have gone to therapy. I am not in active therapy. But
how long what's the longest continuous time you've been in therapy?
So during the marriage closest to the divorce I was in therapy for the last two years trying to you know rectify the marriage.
No no you oneonone by yourself
was I was alone with that. I was alone in that. Um
so when you were when you were in your marriage
correct therapy by yourself.
Correct. when I saw things were going, you know, hectic, I I knew that I was doing wrong. I knew that I had a part to play and I sought therapy. Um, and the therapist kept telling me to get a divorce and I didn't like that.
Is that a Was that your therapist male or female?
A female.
Yeah. To the church. went I went to the church after that and sought the therapy through like counsel through the church um like through min ministerial counsel and stuff
that worked out a little better but by then it was it was just too late I didn't actually you know go through with full therapy had already too much water was under the bridge and it was already over
what do you mean it was already over
I guess he had already had enough of everything. I mean, I I I stayed home with the boys. I raised the kids. You know, I did the
What did he want you to do?
Shut up.
Why didn't you do that?
Honestly, hindsight is 2020. Um, I don't know why I didn't do that. At the time, I didn't know why. I mean, now looking back, I was stupid. I was angry. I you know I didn't read all the stuff that I now and I'm I've been like hooked on Shahara Zad Ali for the last five years and and you and a lot of other you know people that talk about these types of things and the anger inside of us at times that we get from our moms and and their anger. Um, so I I learned a lot, but when it was time to get him back, I mean, he's it it's it was been too long. Been five years, you know, he's in and out of different relationships. And then, of course, the divorce battle, right? That was
But is it he's gone on or you haven't done enough work? I I maybe both, but I I've been trying. I mean, I've I've been five years. I moved on and I and the thing is I'm scared of the market, right? So, I'm scared to I haven't gone back because I don't think that there's anything out there. I believe in marriage. I believe in the oneness.
The market's out there, The market's out there, but the market's going to ask the same questions I'm asking.
I don't know. What did you think you were going to get? I mean I mean I mean when you were when you were being when you're in your marriage and being the way you were. What did you what were you fighting for?
You know what? I don't know. I just saw my mom do it. I did what I saw her do.
Your mom was married?
No, she just fought with all of her boyfriends and fought with us. And I I
Who has custody of the boys?
I do. How old is the youngest?
Eight.
How often do they see their father?
Not often at all.
Why?
He says he's not financially stable to see them or take them because I take all his money after the divorce. So, he blames me for that. But I offer I I ask I beg him.
Hold on.
And he doesn't. What state are you in?
Pennsylvania.
You get child support?
I do.
Cut off the child support.
How will I be able to help take care of the kids?
See,
I I need that.
Okay. Cut off the child support and give have actual joint custody with your ex-husband. Straight up joint. Three and a half days with you or four days with you. Three days with him, three days with you, four days with him. No child support. Listen, that would send a damn sure close signal that you're on trying to actually do something different. It would also give your boys more time with the man they need to be with, their father. If he's saying the money is draining him, well, uh, ma'am, cut the child support off. Move in good faith. How will it hurt your boys if you cut child support and you actually have joint physical custody with your with their father to where now the reason for the money is gone because he has to pay for them when they're with him. You have to pay for them when they're with you. So there's no need for the money. How does it hurt the boys? I understand what you're saying. It doesn't hurt them at all. But what he if he doesn't have a place to live, where would he take them half of the time?
So he lives in his car.
He live on somebody couch.
Are you getting child support every month?
Yeah. So, he's on somebody's couch.
I didn't ask him to do that.
I I just I didn't say you asked her to do it, but I just want you to understand that from the man's standpoint, ain't nobody going to have shed one tear because you were with a man and you said it. And now after the marriage, you getting the money. And I don't want to get too deep into it, but is what's more important? Having a a functioning relationship with your ex and having your boys with their father and having some semblance of a family or this cold war.
I just feel like Kevin didn't ask for. I begged him to stay. I promised. I I went to therapy.
No, no, no. See, you can beg him to stay, but I asked you the first thing. What was the name of your therapist? And the problem is he hasn't seen enough change. If you let's just imagine this happens. Let's just let me let me use my Thanos powers here, shall we? Let me use my Thanos powers. Hello, Eric. Hey, this is me. Yeah. Um, you know, I want to do something. The boys don't see you that often and I know you're in a you're in this way and you and you say it's on me because I I get the money. So, here here's my here's what I want to do. I went down to the court and I actually terminated the support order. I terminated the support order and I want to have joint custody, joint physical custody with the boys. I give you about 90 days to get yourself together to where you have a place to where the boys can come over there. So, you should be able to do that with the money you get. There's there's videos on YouTube right here with the women who have cut off support, cut off the child support and been a help helpful to the ex-husband and now they're in a better position. How does it hurt the boys?
It doesn't hurt them at all, Kevin.
So, do you not do you not think if you cut the support off, do you think he wouldn't do you think he What do you think he would do?
I think he wouldn't because So, we I think I think that nothing would change.
So, do you think if you cut the child support that he would not see the boys?
Correct. We were separated for five years and three
So, let me stop you right here. I want you to stop you right here.
Yes, sir. You want to get back with a man who you said if you cut the child support off, hey, you keep the money and still not see the boys.
Correct.
So why you want to get back with a man with such low character if that's what you really believe in?
I believe I I literally believed in the sanctity of marriage.
That's not what I asked. I asked why would you want to get back with a man? Because see, there's fear here. And I'm trying to understand why you want to go back to this man. If you're saying, "I'm dealing with a man. If I cut the child support off and offer him to joint custody, he'd just take the money and still be out of his boy's life." You don't. So, you don't think very highly of him.
I don't. But I still love I mean, I'm married. Like, I think that that means something. I mean, I love I love my brother. He may not the best person in the world, but I love him. Do you hear what you just said? [clears throat]
God damn it. [sighs and gasps]
God.
And I want you to think about what I'm about to say.
You're in charge of raising two boys. You don't think very highly of their father.
I don't tell them that.
You do. You know when your children is sick, even without them telling you? Do you know when something's wrong with one of your children just by looking at them?
Yeah.
Why? Because you raised them and they're around you. Guess what? We know our mamas just like they know us. I don't know why the hell y'all think just because you don't say nothing, we don't know. Can I say something? So, we were separated for five years. Three out of the five years, I asked for no child support. I asked for nothing. He told me I asked him for money for food. He said, "Put me on child support." That's what he said.
I don't care. Let me tell you why I don't care. Because there's three sides to every story. Yours, his, and the truth. I don't give a [ __ ] about who shot John. You said that you Why you want to get back with him? I'm trying to understand why you want to get back with a man that you don't think very highly of.
because I I I I was told that I'm supposed to stay with one husband until dead. That's what I was told. And I believe he may be a piece of crap, but
Whoa, whoa, whoa.
Hold on. Wait a goddamn MINUTE, MAN.
I DON'T I DON'T MEAN OH MY GOSH.
Wait a goddamn minute.
It's hypothetically.
There is no hypothetical. I don't do that over here.
I'm so sorry. run that [ __ ] on some feminist channel. Don't come call your ex-husband and the man that you created life with a piece of crap.
I'm sorry. I did not mean it.
The internet is forever. What do you think?
I didn't mean it like that. I meant like
Oh, you meant it in a nice way.
No, no. I just meant it in a liketically.
Stop. Stop. When you're the dick, stop, dating. What do you think it's like to live with you?
Probably not easy, not fun. Some good stuff, but
So, do you think if you're around somebody who's difficult or not easy to live with that they have an impact on your psyche?
Of course.
Do you think he doesn't love his voice? I never said that.
So, do you think it do you think it bothers him not to be around his sons?
I can't answer that.
Yes, you can. And you will.
Do I think it doesn't bother him that he's not around his sons?
Nobody stopping him from being around the
Don't ask.
Yes, I'm sure it bothers him. it will bother.
Okay, this is everything we've talked about so far has been about you. You're the chaotic center of all of this. And if the world was balanced, he should have custody of those boys. Prior to 1945, he would have had custody.
I'm not opposed to custody. But then you'd be paying child support.
He asked for it at one point of time and his living situation, he gave it back. He
Okay, ma'am. Here's what I I mean, I Here's the thing. There's always going to be, like I said, the market is what it is. And the market's going to look at how you handle your why'd you quit your last job? Did you quit or were you fired? Who's your former employee? If this if if your marriage is a job, you're not talking very highly in your job. So, I'm stuck on the fact that you say he doesn't see his boys, not because he doesn't love him, cuz he said you taking all the money. You said he's living on the couch, so he doesn't have a residence.
That's what he said. This is he's telling me he couldn't take the kids. He can't take them overnight because of my financial situation.
So,
he doesn't have a residence,
have anywhere to live or have anywhere.
What happens when the boys ask where the daddies? When they say they want to see your dad,
they don't anymore. But when they used to, I would call him, tell him, "Come get the kids. The kids is asking for you. They're outside." You know, we live in a neighborhood where they could play outside. He could come by. Does he have does he not? So, but he does have a job.
He does.
Is he paying more than $1,000 a month in child support?
He is
more than $1,500 a month.
No, he was.
In what state?
Pennsylvania. It was included with alimony. So, I got
support. Yeah.
How long were you on, man? about 10 years.
Why'd you take Alan?
The That's a lot, but the marital settlement agreement provided some uh provided some benefits.
Did you work during the marriage?
I did not.
And for my critics in the track, I want you guys to ask yourself a question. Men don't typ M men don't typically file divorce.
I did not file for divorce and I
I said men don't typically file for divorce and then you're getting alimony and child support. All right end of the day ma'am. Um, yeah, I can see why you talking about the market. I don't know who want to deal with this in the market either. But I'm not really concerned about your dating life. I'm asking about the boys. They don't see their dad. Um, you're saying that he says he doesn't see him because of the money, but I'm saying the two adults need to get the [ __ ] together to where the kids can see both of y'all.
I agree. I call I
And if money Okay. And if money and I'm saying I asked a critical question. If you cut the support off, do you think he would see the boys? And you said no. You need to answer the question of why you think that is. Because why don't you think he would see them?
Because he's done it in the past. Three whole years. Whole years of not seeing the kids. No child support. Have all his money. No alimony. I I
Was he where was he at?
He was right up the street, less than a couple miles away. He worked. He you know, he had his fun. I didn't bother them. I went and got a job. I I went and provided. I I kept the house. I kept the mortgage. I kept the mortgage paid, didn't ask for anything. It wasn't until I lost my job or I had to cut back.
So you worked So you worked So you worked So you didn't work during the marriage,
correct?
Did you guys have did you guys have financial pressures in the marriage?
No, not at all.
Did he has he changed jobs
since we when we were married? He had a steady job.
Been divorced. He's gone through plenty of lots of different jobs.
What was his profession?
Uh social work.
Okay.
He was a social worker. He worked in law enforcement. He could do that. He has a bachelor's degree in social work, but he worked.
But does he have any substance abuse problems?
Not at all.
So he was steadily employed. You were a housewife. Yep.
But post divorce, now you're a working woman.
Correct. And right, wrong, or indifferent. All this is preferable to just getting along with your husband.
I tried.
Okay. You went to counseling. But I'm always ly when I hear women go to counseling by themselves. You went to counseling by yourself. You went to then you went to Christian counseling. But at the end of the day, he divorced you for irreconcilable differences. I don't know why he divorced me. I never read the papers. I never signed them. I
You didn't ask him.
Um divorce the divor I don't even know what the divorce decree said.
Was there another woman?
There were plenty of those.
No. No. When he did he leave you for another woman?
I don't think so.
Well, he's still a social worker when he left you.
Yeah. So when he divorced you, he was making money.
Yes. Uh after the divorce,
no.
When he when he filed for divorce or whatever, he was still earning.
Correct.
Right. And the order is set likely on his previous earnings, not his current earnings.
Correct. you and you haven't modified that.
So that the the court did it because he wofully like acted out in court and got himself thrown in jail which is why he lost the job. So the judge held him to that earning his contempt of court.
The judge can't you? So you didn't basically So you're saying it's the judge
the I I know the judge can only the judge can hold him earning capacity.
I can't
you can you can you can ma'am the judge can't make somebody child support is an agreement between you two. You can you can decide to go cut child support off tomorrow. You can decide to go get $1 in child support.
All right. But you asked if he had an earning capacity and who held
and I'm saying that he was earning one thing at once and then he lost his job and he's earning less but his his income his child support is still set at his previous earning level.
Correct.
If it were Don't you think it would be fair to lower that to match his current if he's saying money is an issue?
I mean we're we I sacrificed to send we sent him to school for him to have this degree so that he I'm the one with the high school education. So why should he get lower to my income? [laughter]
I just I don't think that that WOULD BE FAIR.
WOW.
HE HAS
Y'ALL heard it. You heard it.
An X amount of dollar and he's choosing not to.
Ma'am, so you think he So did he do you think he chose to make less money? You think he's just out? You think he's happier making less money?
I know for a fact he chose to make less money.
Oh my god. All right. I don't know. You know what? My [ __ ] media is going all over.
I'm telling you.
No, no, no, no, no, I'm I'm kind of done. I'm kind of done, ma'am. So, you want us to believe that a man chooses to go make less money? For what? For what, Print? Why? What would be the reason a man chooses to make less money?
Because he thought, like you're saying, that the court would lower the amount and they didn't. So you want us you want me to believe that the support order was set at one thing, but he decided to say, "You know what? I don't want to make $70,000 a year. I want to make 40 so I can pay less child support."
No, he decided to curse out the judge and get thrown into jail.
I didn't say anything about him and the judge. I said, "The job, I don't give a [ __ ] about the court." Because here's the funny thing. I want you guys to understand if you've never been to family court, you don't understand how adversarial it is for men. And the thing is there's your side, his side of truth. I'm saying why would a man making X decide to make less than X? What does that do to his What does that do to his standard of living? Increase it or decrease it?
Again, only thing I could think.
What would that do? Increase it or decrease it?
Decrease it. Of course.
So, you think he's decreasing his standard of living so he can pay decreased child support?
That's the only thing I could come up with.
That makes logical sense. That makes no sense. Men don't decrease their earnings to pay less child support.
So why wouldn't he work a job that he the same type of job he was working when we were married?
Because that's not how that always works. I look man, that's not how it always works. And that's the problem. Modific in the family court system, modifications go one way up. It is rare that a man gets a modification down even when he loses a job. I know cuz I couldn't get one. I know because I know many men who couldn't get one. I know cuz when I started in family court and was men's groups that men can lose jobs, the economy takes a dip. the the sectors are gone, but the they tell you to go get three jobs because they make money off of it. The family court system makes money off of it. And ma'am, if he's making if money is at the issue and you're really talking about trying to uh move with this man in good faith, you're getting alimony. You're getting child support setting with his previous income was. And your theory is, well, he did all this to to because of his attitude despite the judge. That's beautiful when the judge is on your side. I don't give a [ __ ] that he cussed out the judge, man. That that let's say that happened. You could still say that's your daddy. He had a bad day. Whatever. I don't want to lower it down. Or do you But what you said was why should I do that? I'm I So I've already put him through I did this for him. So child supports to pay you back for putting him through school.
No.
See, child support becomes all kind of [ __ ] for women. I asked you why not modify it and I said why don't you do well why don't ma'am that's what you said
I said he went to school he has a degree he's the one that that that's been was making all the money
and it was industries change he's not making all the money
the industry changed because he quit his job when you quit a job no one fired you quit your job so what do I say when when you you you continue to quit jobs when you see that they're garnishing the maximum allowable amount which is 55% in the state of
55%. God damn.
55%
you're quitting your job to work. However,
I want you guys to understand
my I hope y'all were able to listen to all of this because I know y'all were like, "Oh, he's so but it is all coming out. This is what men have been reduced to."
I didn't.
Ma'am, at the end of the day, I keep asking about your boys. This is between you and him. What about the boys? Can you put Can he put his [ __ ] to the side and you put your [ __ ] to the side so the boys can have a relationship with both the mother and the father? I don't give a [ __ ] about you or him. How about them? Who shot John and who hurt who and who did what at prom? I don't give two [ __ ] about. So, if I take him off of child support for 90 days or six months and he still doesn't get it together, then I do I put him back on then at that point, how long do I
Why are you going in? I want to know why you don't think he's going to I want you guys to understand where the question comes from. It's a bad faith question. And this is why family court is so jacked up.
Making giving women leverage and access to future earnings for past relationships is crazy.
But he's done it. You assuming he's going to do the worst.
He's done it before. I'm only
And some of you, ma'am,
if the time you talk about this [ __ ] ma'am, is when you were married, you were doing the worst.
All right. Well, if
No. No. All right. No. All right. Cuz you said you still wanted to get back with this man. You still want to It's all on It's all alive, man. Anybody can hear it.
It's fine. I But if I'm held to my resume, why is he not held to his? If his
I don't give a [ __ ] about your resume and his resume. What about the boys?
That's what I'm saying.
No, no, no, no, no. And see, the thing is, man, you keep going back. Well, what if he doesn't do it? So, how about this? How about this then? Just like you wanted him to give you good faith, grace, and good faith, grace, and some mercy that you had change and give you another shot because you've done the work, right?
Because I've asked for.
Excuse me. Do the same for him. Give him the benefit of that. Stop. You want him to give you the benefit of the doubt, you give him the benefit of the doubt.
What's How's that hurt you? How does it hurt you
financially? It would hurt me because I
the same money in the household. I need the money.
We're not Okay. Did I It hurts you financially for how long?
I have no idea. That's the fear.
That's what I said. I just
joint custody. Joint custody. It means he has the boys. You have the boys. See, this is why I go to this selfish party of one thing. To you, this sounds right. And to me, I'm trying to figure out how can the boys end up having a relationship with the mother and father and how can y'all get to some point of possibly uh a new resolution, but it's going to take you experiencing some setback, too. You want him to give you a shot to give you the benefit of the doubt that you've changed and you that would show a different thing because a woman right here doesn't I can see why he probably don't believe anything's changed cuz what have you done? You've gone to some therapy. Therapy men don't therapy is supposed to go to an action. It's supposed to do something to soften your heart to give you some grace some to understand some empathy to understand where people are coming from. Well, he lost his job. Well, he quit his job and he cussed out this. Okay. So, we're supposed to listen to your issues and your drama, but men can't have any. We're just supposed to keep out here steady performing D. And that's what I want you guys to understand. We are tools. We're utilities. We're not supposed to feel. We're not supposed to think. You can't make no mistakes, but they can make mistakes. And at the end of the day, ma'am, you're raising two boys.
Guys, before you proceed with the rest of the C, I just want to chip in some more. We all know and we all will agree as men that this lady is lying right here. She's just trying to damage this man's image. That's what she's trying to do. Tell me how someone will be paying everything around $1,500 in child support and alimony and he's sleeping in someone's couch. This is not this just not true. These are the things they say to damage black men's image on the media. This is not true. And she's making it look like is the man that is a piece of crap or something like that. And that's not the case. This woman is just in for the money because when Kevin Samuel spoke about joint custody, she kept her mouth shut for some time and she was processing what she say in order to make it look like this man can't even afford joint custody and which is not true because this lady whatever you guys will think about Kevin Samuels and especially I'm talking about the females that thinks Kevin Samuels kind of like hate women or something like that. Whatever you think about him, think of it this way that this lady is trying to justify why is it that this man is supposed to be paying child support. And she's saying the man quit his job. He might even be having some physical problems that you might not know. And he wouldn't disclose it to you. Men don't like to talk out their problems. And if his physical conditions is not supporting the current work that she he's doing definitely he can quit it and try to look for something that will suit you know I'm not trying to look for some excuse but as a human being you have to always have it. I mean don't just tell me a man is just going to quit his job just because he don't want to be paying high child support or something and with that his living status is going to be in shambles. Who would do that? Who in his right senses would do something like that? If you were telling me if he change his job or if he quit his job and to pay less child support, he's still going to be earning or still going to be making the same amount of income that he makes for himself. That one I could have said, okay, it makes sense. But this man is just a great guy, right? Because given the fact that she herself admitted that she made a mistake, she didn't know how to shut up and all those things that everything that she started the video is kind of different from when Kevin Samuel started pressing her and you just realize that this lady is just in for the money and probably this lady is not working $1,500 a month. this lady probably is living off of this money and she just don't want to cut it off so that she will start to work or something and probably she's not working. She even stated it that she's not working. So she's living off of such money and why are you expecting her to quit it or to cut it off? She's not going to do it. We all know she's not going to do it and she don't give a [ __ ] about the children's best interest. She don't I mean she don't have the children's best interest at heart because of the statistics that we have. If you have your kids best interest, you will fight for them to be in their father's life. But hey, it's all about a bag, man. That's black women for you. Let's continue with the content, guys. Black women is always about a bag. They go get a girl. Let's continue.
You're raising two boys and how they view themselves is going to be directly tied to how you view men. how you view their father, how you interact with men, whether you like it or not. So
I love their father and I
This is love. This is why I say I don't give a [ __ ] about your love, people. This is what I mean. This is why I say I don't give a [ __ ] about your love. Respect. You love them, but you don't respect it. Because soon as I said, why don't you come to him with an offering? I'm going to uh pause child, I'm going to give you joint custody and cut off child support. So, we split the boys 5050 and we come up with a new way of doing this. And I'mma give you some time to get yourself up there because you said 90 days. I'm not asking for you, but you automatically go to, well, what if he [ __ ] me? You mean like you [ __ ] him?
I didn't [ __ ] him, Kevin.
Uhuh. With your attitude. You said you I'm talking about in a marriage. You said how not being a good wife.
Unbeknownst to me, I didn't know.
Doesn't matter unbeknownst to not that the outcome is the same.
All right. But it wasn't deliberate. It wasn't something that I did deliberate.
You're still going back to the fact, man. Okay. You're still going back to the fact you didn't do it. Okay, fine. Do something different.
All right.
But you know what? Never mind. That's why we started where we we we end, man. It's about, you know, and that's cool.
No,
the therapy. What's the outcome that's different? Because if you can't have a different beginning with the man you started a family with, you can at least get to where you have mutual respect, you can at least get to the point to where the kids don't feel the tension because I don't care about your dating life or his. I'm talking about those boys. That's why the black community is in a position. How what are the boys seeing? How the boys and the hard hearts of far too many women regarding their interpersonal relationship with the men? I don't give a [ __ ] about the relationship with me. I care about the boys. You want to have a shy out here in the in the market. They going to want to know how'd you deal with your ex? How how how your boys coming along?
Yeah, I'm not in the market. I'm not I've never I haven't tested.
It doesn't matter. That's my point is you said you fear the market because there's no You don't feel like there's any hope. There is not hope.
There should not be hope for this kind of stuff.
You're right. You're right.
Like you said, I didn't plan on the divorce. I didn't plan on the divorce. Well, if you didn't plan on the divorce,
but you did the behaviors and you're like, well, unbeknownst to me, the man didn't divorce you after an argument. One argument. This was prolonged. But then you walked away from the marriage where you're a housewife. You got alimony and child support. His financial position has changed. And what you've told us is he's changed his financial position. Damn near on purpose.
He quit his job.
Damn near on purpose. And his purpose was changing his financial position was to pay less child support. Makes absolutely no sense.
Why would he quit his job, Kevin?
Ma'am, I don't know why somebody would quit their job to pay less child support. That means he has less money. And that's the point. And the fact of the matter, you still trying to make it. This is how you think of him. Fine. That's why I'm going to let it keep playing. Keep playing. Keep playing. You're coming at this from a negative standpoint. He did it to to pay less child support. That also means he has less money to live on too, right? Less quality of life, less free money. Right.
Right.
Uh-huh. How's that benefited?
I mean, I don't know. He was He's not He wasn't paying.
It doesn't benefit him. That's the point. He didn't all get further and further in behind in child support to where they garnish you for the maximum amount. The state's coming after you not. And the only person who can turn this [ __ ] off is you. Cuz the judge ain't going to do it. The family court system ain't going to do it because they make money off of it. And if if he is being some if he's telling you the reason I'm here because I'm under the financial worthless and men don't want to feel worthless in front of their boys. So a lot of times they feel like they're doing their sons a favor by not being around because they don't want to show a poor representation of a man. And if you can have do anything to help fix that for your sons, you might want to consider that. But you got to get out of your way first. But the world ain't going to tell you this. The world is going to tell you, "No, girl, you right and so forth. Uhuh. You gonna get the sister course and the high five and all the women, but at the end of the day, your boys is sitting around not even asking for their daddy no more. What's the cost of all that? How much that going to cost? How much therapy is that going to cost? Something to think about. There are no easy solutions in human interactions. But you can turn this off. And if it works out in a negative, you can always turn it back on, can't you? Right.
Go find out.
Have a good one.
Thanks, Kevin.
I'm telling y'all folks, the family court system is one that is not in favor of men.
And guys, that brings us to the end of today's video. Thanks for watching. More respect on the legend Kevin. I'm your dude. Fantastic. very analytical and the fact that he's always able to answer these live calls and be able to analyze this within a short period of time to be able to press these women with questions is something that is topnotch. It's something that require high level of intelligence and live experience is something that I think probably help Kevin S. I think these things that he speaks about is the fact that he has experienced certain things if not the same but kind of similar and he's always able to use that to make his argument right and with the statistics that he learned the statistics so much to the point that he's always able to use stars to back his argument and that is something that made him stand out. So big up to him. And if you want to support this work that we're doing, head over to Kevin Samuel's original channel and make sure you support that. When you support Kevin's original channel, he's supporting this work, this intelligence, this masterpieces that you are seeing on a daily basis on this platform is the works of Kevin Samuels. He did it. Great job. Great guy. And the videos carry so much knowledge that we should not allow it die. And that's why we're reviewing it. And big ups to you guys for also being able to pull out these videos because like it or not, it's the fact that we all work together as a community, keeping it alive. We're reviewing, you're watching, and that makes it great. And big up to you, like I said, now talking about this lady right here in this video. To those of you that Austin [ __ ] and Samuel women hater or misogynist or something like that, you got to pay attention to these type of videos. We're talking about someone raising two boys and per the status that is being put out there. Boys raised from single mom's home always end up tend to end up in prisons. Right? If you're a black woman watching, you should be thinking of, okay, I want black men to be masculine. I want black men to be responsible. So if you are looking for something like that, then why should we be supporting someone that is trying to wreck a black man? Because like it or not, when these boys are being grown into something else and they are not the kind of men that you will be proud of to be leading the black community or to be marrying your daughters or whatever the case is, I think you should have a problem with that than having a problem with some like Kevin Samuels that is about changing the black space and this lady says something like she haven't tested the market out before and that's not true. She tested it out and it burnt her several times. Let's be honest, this female that is about money telling you that she has been single for quite a while now and she haven't tested. That's not true. That's not true. It's not true. She has tethered it out and it has burnt her and she's trying to make it look like, oh, I'm just sitting there waiting whether or not my husband will give you a shot again and probably he's watching this because she thinks that probably she he come across something like this then let me just make it look like oh I'm not out there I'm just hoping whether we could get back or something. That's not true. This lady has started it, tested it and it has burned her several times and she just she I mean she has learned the hard way that men wouldn't want to because she stated that oh uh who want to take another man's case who want to take care of another man's case? It's probably something that one of these men told her or something like that and that is why she's just looking to get back with someone that she don't have any type of respect for. This guy is great guy. I mean he's a great person. If he's not a great person, tell me why this lady is just driving to doing whatever she can do to be with him. The only problem is she don't want to take off the money from him so that he'll be able to you know see something different from when they were married because that's the best thing that could send this man a signal that okay you're a changed person or something like that but no you're just thinking of oh how will I be able to why don't you get a job for yourself if the youngest is eight you can get a job for yourself right so I mean Well, black women always about a bag and it is something that is wrecking them. It's something that is, you know, um robbing them from just being who they're supposed to be and impact the black community, right? They always about a bag. Go get a bag though. 37 single, two boys raising, probably going to die alone. Guys, catch you in the next episode. And if you enjoyed it, make sure you're supporting Kevin Sam channel. He's the man behind this job and he's the man behind this gas fishing. Catch you in the next episode. I'm out.
You're raising two boys and how they view themselves is going to be directly tied to how you view men. how you view their father, how you interact with men, whether you like it or not. So
I love their father and I
This is love. This is why I say I don't give a [ __ ] about your love, people. This is what I mean. This is why I say I don't give a [ __ ] about your love. Respect. You love them, but you don't respect it. Because soon as I said, why don't you come to him with an offering? I'm going to uh pause child, I'm going to give you joint custody and cut off child support. So, we split the boys 5050 and we come up with a new way of doing this. And I'mma give you some time to get yourself up there because you said 90 days. I'm not asking for you, but you automatically go to, well, what if he [ __ ] me? You mean like you [ __ ] him?
I didn't [ __ ] him, Kevin.
Uhuh. With your attitude. You said you I'm talking about in a marriage. You said how not being a good wife.
Unbeknownst to me, I didn't know.
Doesn't matter unbeknownst to not that the outcome is the same.
All right. But it wasn't deliberate. It wasn't something that I did deliberate.
You're still going back to the fact, man. Okay. You're still going back to the fact you didn't do it. Okay, fine. Do something different.
All right.
But you know what? Never mind. That's why we started where we we we end, man. It's about, you know, and that's cool.
No,
the therapy. What's the outcome that's different? Because if you can't have a different beginning with the man you started a family with, you can at least get to where you have mutual respect, you can at least get to the point to where the kids don't feel the tension because I don't care about your dating life or his. I'm talking about those boys. That's why the black community is in a position. How what are the boys seeing? How the boys and the hard hearts of far too many women regarding their interpersonal relationship with the men? I don't give a [ __ ] about the relationship with me. I care about the boys. You want to have a shy out here in the in the market. They going to want to know how'd you deal with your ex? How how how your boys coming along?
Yeah, I'm not in the market. I'm not I've never I haven't tested.
It doesn't matter. That's my point is you said you fear the market because there's no You don't feel like there's any hope. There is not hope.
There should not be hope for this kind of stuff.
You're right. You're right.
Like you said, I didn't plan on the divorce. I didn't plan on the divorce. Well, if you didn't plan on the divorce,
but you did the behaviors and you're like, well, unbeknownst to me, the man didn't divorce you after an argument. One argument. This was prolonged. But then you walked away from the marriage where you're a housewife. You got alimony and child support. His financial position has changed. And what you've told us is he's changed his financial position. Damn near on purpose.
He quit his job.
Damn near on purpose. And his purpose was changing his financial position was to pay less child support. Makes absolutely no sense.
Why would he quit his job, Kevin?
Ma'am, I don't know why somebody would quit their job to pay less child support. That means he has less money. And that's the point. And the fact of the matter, you still trying to make it. This is how you think of him. Fine. That's why I'm going to let it keep playing. Keep playing. Keep playing. You're coming at this from a negative standpoint. He did it to to pay less child support. That also means he has less money to live on too, right? Less quality of life, less free money. Right.
Right.
Uh-huh. How's that benefited?
I mean, I don't know. He was He's not He wasn't paying.
It doesn't benefit him. That's the point. He didn't all get further and further in behind in child support to where they garnish you for the maximum amount. The state's coming after you not. And the only person who can turn this [ __ ] off is you. Cuz the judge ain't going to do it. The family court system ain't going to do it because they make money off of it. And if if he is being some if he's telling you the reason I'm here because I'm under the financial worthless and men don't want to feel worthless in front of their boys. So a lot of times they feel like they're doing their sons a favor by not being around because they don't want to show a poor representation of a man. And if you can have do anything to help fix that for your sons, you might want to consider that. But you got to get out of your way first. But the world ain't going to tell you this. The world is going to tell you, "No, girl, you right and so forth. Uhuh. You gonna get the sister course and the high five and all the women, but at the end of the day, your boys is sitting around not even asking for their daddy no more. What's the cost of all that? How much that going to cost? How much therapy is that going to cost? Something to think about. There are no easy solutions in human interactions. But you can turn this off. And if it works out in a negative, you can always turn it back on, can't you? Right.
Go find out.
Have a good one.
Thanks, Kevin.
I'm telling y'all folks, the family court system is one that is not in favor of men.
And guys, that brings us to the end of today's video. Thanks for watching. More respect on the legend Kevin. I'm your dude. Fantastic. very analytical and the fact that he's always able to answer these live calls and be able to analyze this within a short period of time to be able to press these women with questions is something that is topnotch. It's something that require high level of intelligence and live experience is something that I think probably help Kevin S. I think these things that he speaks about is the fact that he has experienced certain things if not the same but kind of similar and he's always able to use that to make his argument right and with the statistics that he learned the statistics so much to the point that he's always able to use stars to back his argument and that is something that made him stand out. So big up to him. And if you want to support this work that we're doing, head over to Kevin Samuel's original channel and make sure you support that. When you support Kevin's original channel, he's supporting this work, this intelligence, this masterpieces that you are seeing on a daily basis on this platform is the works of Kevin Samuels. He did it. Great job. Great guy. And the videos carry so much knowledge that we should not allow it die. And that's why we're reviewing it. And big ups to you guys for also being able to pull out these videos because like it or not, it's the fact that we all work together as a community, keeping it alive. We're reviewing, you're watching, and that makes it great. And big up to you, like I said, now talking about this lady right here in this video. To those of you that Austin [ __ ] and Samuel women hater or misogynist or something like that, you got to pay attention to these type of videos. We're talking about someone raising two boys and per the status that is being put out there. Boys raised from single mom's home always end up tend to end up in prisons. Right? If you're a black woman watching, you should be thinking of, okay, I want black men to be masculine. I want black men to be responsible. So if you are looking for something like that, then why should we be supporting someone that is trying to wreck a black man? Because like it or not, when these boys are being grown into something else and they are not the kind of men that you will be proud of to be leading the black community or to be marrying your daughters or whatever the case is, I think you should have a problem with that than having a problem with some like Kevin Samuels that is about changing the black space and this lady says something like she haven't tested the market out before and that's not true. She tested it out and it burnt her several times. Let's be honest, this female that is about money telling you that she has been single for quite a while now and she haven't tested. That's not true. That's not true. It's not true. She has tethered it out and it has burnt her and she's trying to make it look like, oh, I'm just sitting there waiting whether or not my husband will give you a shot again and probably he's watching this because she thinks that probably she he come across something like this then let me just make it look like oh I'm not out there I'm just hoping whether we could get back or something. That's not true. This lady has started it, tested it and it has burned her several times and she just she I mean she has learned the hard way that men wouldn't want to because she stated that oh uh who want to take another man's case who want to take care of another man's case? It's probably something that one of these men told her or something like that and that is why she's just looking to get back with someone that she don't have any type of respect for. This guy is great guy. I mean he's a great person. If he's not a great person, tell me why this lady is just driving to doing whatever she can do to be with him. The only problem is she don't want to take off the money from him so that he'll be able to you know see something different from when they were married because that's the best thing that could send this man a signal that okay you're a changed person or something like that but no you're just thinking of oh how will I be able to why don't you get a job for yourself if the youngest is eight you can get a job for yourself right so I mean Well, black women always about a bag and it is something that is wrecking them. It's something that is, you know, um robbing them from just being who they're supposed to be and impact the black community, right? They always about a bag. Go get a bag though. 37 single, two boys raising, probably going to die alone. Guys, catch you in the next episode. And if you enjoyed it, make sure you're supporting Kevin Sam channel. He's the man behind this job and he's the man behind this gas fishing. Catch you in the next episode. I'm out.