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I find this so fascinating. Of all the content that I do, I probably enjoy this content the most. I do because it is the epiphany of women discovering they had it all. They were masters of their universe. They had the adoration and attention and love of everybody. And they just kept throwing it away until it was too late. And now another feminist is crying about it because she's hit the wall and the men have evaporated.
Um, from the New York Times, men, where have you gone? Please come back. I'm 53 years old and you're not paying attention to me anymore. And but I also noticed there aren't any men anywhere else either. What is going on? And this is why the patriarchy always wins. Now what do I mean by the patriarchy always wins is that for hundreds thousands of years uh men have kind of ruled society and society worked out wonderful. Now the women will say oh or the feminists rather will say ah it didn't work out so well for us. You held us down. Did we though? Did we though? Because I'm going to I'm going to talk about in in the second part of this video uh the Amish. Because the Amish do they have it right? I'm going to present it as a question. I'll let you answer it because we see a lot of the positives, but I think after you hear how the Amish live and versus how we live today, I think you'll say, you know what, somewhere right in the middle around the 1940s and50s was perfect. I think you'll agree with me on that one, but we'll talk about this secondary.
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From the New York Times and I stole this from uh archive web archive because screw the New York Times and they're1 or$2 dollars a month. You your writing is not even good enough to get that from me. Men, where have you gone? Oh, please come back after we chased you out of society and dating and marriage and child rearing and all the things. Please, please, where are you? Now, like all women, she writes this very flowery and like she's I don't know. She want she's a wannabe Harley Quinn romance novel writer but she sucks so she can't write books so she writes for the New York Times instead. So this is fl very flowery and written very storyesque. I'll try to thin it out a little bit for us so we don't all die of diabetes halfway through this. So many men have retreated from intimacy hiding behind firewalls filters curated personas dabbling and scrolling. We miss you.
Okay. You didn't want us for in intimacy anymore. You want us for either A being a provider or B being Chad Thunderstroke that you can sleep with. That's it. It's you guys that broke down all that. And why are we hiding and creating personas? Cuz you don't want us to be our authentic selves. If we are, you call us toxic. You toxic masculinity. H you're too aggressive. You're all the things. So now we just don't bother with you anymore.
Uh that night that night marked something. Not a heartbreak, but an unveiling, a sense of what I might have been experiencing wasn't just personal misalignment. It was something broader, cultural, a slow vanishing of presence. So now, this is not a picture of her. I was like, is this the Asian-l looking dude here? Is this the writer? But it's not, but this is what most feminists look like. So, I could see why you might be confused. Uh, so she says, "Well, it's not just me. I'm going to restaurants with friends. I'm going out with women." and we're going to these nice restaurants, places you might see dates where it's kind of romantic, and it's just a bunch of women hanging out, having drinks, maybe a couple of gay dudes. She gets into that later. The whole point is the guys aren't showing up. The guys that, and I I talk about this a billion times, so I'm just going to make a statement and move on. We're not going to go deep into this. The guys that could get the women, they're now smashing without the dates. the guys that had struggled to get the women, they're not going on dates anymore because the women they want are smashing the other guys. It's it's on it's online dating and all that crap.
What I came to understand in exact terms, what cues that to tempt the average 18 to 36y old man, what drew him in, what kept him coming back, it wasn't intimacy. It wasn't it was access to stimulation. Clean, fast, frictionless. Not frictionless. You need a little bit of friction to get to the happy place. I'm just saying you do need a little bit of friction. Why do men do candlelight dinners and playing romantic guitar and wooing women and reading poetry to them? Okay, we're going back to like the 1800s now. Why did guys or even early 1900s? Why did guys do that? Cuz they wanted to get in the panties. You know what I'm saying? They wanted to sleep with women. And when women said, "No, you must take me out and give me flowers and sweet talk me and put a ring on my finger and maybe then before marriage, but at one point in time marriage, then you can get in. You can get in the no square." You know what I'm saying? So guys said, "Okay, well, if that's the deal, and that's really what I want, I will do this." Men don't have to do that anymore. We don't have to do that. You can go on, you can swipe, you can go on certain websites and just rent a woman for $300 to $500 an hour or an evening or whatever. And who made those rules? You made those rules. You did, ladies. You change the rules. We're playing by your rules.
Uh, she said there was emotional vacancy behind it. Correct. That's how men are. Men are not traditionally romantic. We pretend to be overly romantic so we can get in the fun place. If a man is overly romantic, he's he's probably gay. Uh, she says, "I'm 54. I'm 54 years old. I've been dating since the mid 80s. I've been married. I've been a mother. I gotten divorced. I've had many relationships, long and short. I remember when part of the male culture involved showing up uh with a woman or up with a woman to signal something. Status, success, desiraability. Women were once signifiers of value even to other men. It wasn't always healthy, says the feminist, but it meant that men had to show up and put in some effort."
So, she says, you know, women were once signifiers of value even to other men, right? Because at one point in time, you had value to men, whether it was for your looks, for your uh desire to sleep with a man. I mean, I'm I'm, you know, I'm pretty sure that all Leonardo DiCaprio's girlfriends are not, you know, cooking him dinners and being a maid around the house. They're probably enjoying his yachts and he's probably enjoying, you know, little one-on-one time, playing hide the snake, and so they each have value. But when women complain about, I don't men just want us to sleep with them. I don't want to do that. Men just want us for our bodies. Men don't appreciate us for this. Men don't like it. Well, you don't have any value anymore. Now you've just become a liability. Now you just come be have become an anchor around a man's neck because he's trying to sail his ship and you're just dragging us down.
Uh the dynamic has quietly collapsed. We've moved into an era where many men no longer seek women to impress other men. Well, we don't need to or to connect across a difference. No, there's no connecting with you anymore. They perform elsewhere alone. They've filtered us out. Ding ding ding. What do we have for Johnny? We don't need you anymore. Women keep thinking men want what women want. Women want strong, successful, powerful, tall, masculine, lots of money, uh, intelligent leader of men. Men do not want any of that from a woman. We want quiet, demure, soft, sweet, shy, and a demon in the bedroom. Princess in the streets, hellcat in the sheets, right? But women women will not listen to us when we say that. And so now when we've just filtered them out, we're not okay. No, no, thank you.
I recently experienced a flicker of possibility with James. We met on Rya, the dating app or Rhea, the dating app. Uh tension and blah blah blah. And she said, I finally named what I wanted. I texted him with clear simple I want attraction. I have I want an invitation to explore what's possible. I invited leaving the door open and he never rep He never replied. He never replied. He follows my Instagram stories. He still, you know, follows what I write, but he never replied. And there's thousands of James', and I've known dozens. Why would James need to step through the door to your inner heart when he can open the front door, shag you in the lobby, and then leave? That's That's really what she's talking about. She goes out with these men. She's taken by them. She She sleeps with them, goes on a date, sleeps with them, and then the guy's like, "I'm done." She's like, "Come into my inner sanctimony." And he's like, "No, I wiped my I wiped my pecker off on your sanctimony on the way out the door after shagging you. Have a nice day." Oh, my sanctimonies. I mean, what do you what do these women think? They do not understand men whatsoever, especially not masculine men. And she says she's known dozens over the years of men like this. And she says, "I've been in long and in short relationships." Yes. But when when a man can get what he wants in a short relationship, why would he stick around?
If a man falls in love with a woman, if a man dates a woman and he gets to know the woman and he likes her and he finds her interesting and she's funny and she's sincere and she's genuine and she treats him well and she cares for him by maybe cooking or or whatever, that man will fall in love with that woman and say, "I want to guard this woman. I want to own this woman. I want to protect this woman. I want this woman to be a part of my life." When a woman when a guy just meets a woman, does she think the bedroom is that good that a guy's like, "Wow." Actually, it is true that if a guy finds a good a woman that's really good in the bedroom, even if she's incredibly annoying and drives him crazy, he will date her for a few months until even then that man says, "Man, she's awesome in the bedroom, but I can't put up with this anymore. I gotta go." Right? So, even the crazy crazy ones, if if the magic schoolhouse is fun to play in, they'll hang around for a little while, but there's a lot of guys that won't. And but when you're it's just a one night thing or whatever, why would the guy got what he wanted these and the women think, well, this is what I want. I just want hookup culture. Okay, but when you're done with hookup culture, when you're tired of it and you want to find that man, he's still participating in hookup culture. he will never probably leave that hookup culture because he's a winner. So, while you're enjoying that market and you've created that market, you ruin it for all other women, including yourself one day.
Ironically, uh she says, it's not about blaming men. Holy crap. Did a feminist just say it's not about blaming men? There must be there there must be something in here. So, here's what I'll say. You are missed not just by me but by the world you once helped shape. Holy frittatus. Men are missed not by you but by society and by the world. What is happening right now? She says we remember you. The version of you that lingered at the table that laughed from the chest that asked questions and waited for the answers that touched without taking. That listened that really listened when a woman spoke. Oh, you want a blue pill simp is what you're saying when she says, "I miss the men that were romantic, the men that that you know touched or caressed without taking the man that really listened to us when a woman spoke." When she says that specifically, she's talking about the blue pills now. She's talking about the the the feminist aligned men. She's talking about them. She's talking about the blue pill simps. She's talking about the guys that were willing to jump through the hoops and be romantic and take her even though she has a high body count and date her even though she's divorced with kids and date her even though she's 54. She's talking about the blue pillars. Now she's talking about the the weak men, the wimpy men are now walking away. That's incredible. When the men that once would have d jumped through hoops and danced around the feminist fire saying all praise the holy women when those guys are thinning out and going away. Yeah, you women do have a problem now men don't have a problem cuz either those bluepilled simps are saying you know what the juice isn't worth the squeeze or I've I've jumped through the hoops for years. I still end up getting divorced. I still still end up use losing child custody. You still end up calling me toxic. or whatever else. Nothing will please you. I'm out. Now, that may not mean that he's, you know, a red pill conservative. Now, maybe he still goes to protests against Tesla and, you know, would have joke voted twice for Kamala Harris if he could have, but even he's saying, you know what, the market's just broken, dude. And it's not working for me anymore. I played the game and the game's not working.
Anyway, she says, you're not gone, but your presence is thinning. in restaurants, in friendships, in the show, in the slow rituals of romantic emergence. Even the blue pillars aren't trying to date anymore. You've retreated not into malice, but in something softer and harder all at once. Avoidance, exhaustion, and disrepair. I actually think she's accurate on that. Now, even blue pill simps are avoiding women. Um, you know, we've recently had the trend going around on Twitter and or X and other places where they call it black fatigue, right? It it's the it's the spuring out of of people in in society and and and doing crimes or just acting a fool. And they they call it black exhaustion or black fatigue. And there is an exhaustion for this in dating, too. It's it's all of this is so tiring. All of this is so annoying. I I just I don't want it anymore. You know, better to have a peaceful home uh than be under the roof with a quarrelome woman. And yes, men are in disrepair. And every time time we try to do something that repairs ourselves, like having a men's space, uh having men's sanctuary, feminists and the equality women come in and try to destroy it.
Uh she says, "Maybe no one taught you how to stay. Why would we stay? It's not worth it. Maybe you tried once and it hurt. Yes. Maybe the world told you your role was to provide, to perform, and to perfect. To protect, and never to feel. That's where you got it wrong. Again, she doesn't understand men. We were told to provide, to perform, and to protect. And she says, "And maybe you were told to never feel." No, it's the opposite. In many cases, men feel deeper and stronger than women do. There are sources on this. There are studies on this. Men are usually more distraught and take longer to heal up than after a breakup, after getting cheated on, after getting divorced. Men are slower to love and and and men are certainly slower to change their love to a new direction. Women are can do it very quickly and in many cases much easier than men. It's men that actually feel more and I I've done videos on this. Men feel more. So, we did try it once and it hurt and we tried to protect and perform and to serve and to provide and be good men and then we got hurt. And it's it's not that we weren't taught to never feel, it's that we felt so deeply, you know, I remember I remember after my first real relationship that went south and and it probably the first person I really truly loved and that was my first wife. Now, my m mistake, my my my love was misguided. It was a mistake. But the love was genuine. What I wanted from the relationship was genuine, even if it was for completely the wrong person, you know, and I own that. That's on me. I I I I gave myself to somebody that was undeserving. And I think a lot of men accidentally do that. So, that's on me. It wasn't her fault. She didn't really change. She was always the awful person she was in the beginning. It's just I didn't see it because she was very beautiful and you know the other things you like when you're a 21-year-old man. But after that I remember saying to myself and and I I remember it clear as day. I said I would rather be alone the rest of my life to feel this pain again. You know I remember how bad when you really love somebody and they really hurt you. There is a point in time where you say, "I'd rather be alone than to ever feel like this again." Now, over time, that pain does fade. And over time, you can even laugh about it because you say, "Oh boy, I was just a youthful person and and I really was into it until you feel that pain again for a second time." And then you say, "Oh my gosh, it wasn't just youthful exuberance. It wasn't me just picking a wrong woman." Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they have different plans than you have. And when you were all in and they ended up going all out and then you feel that pain for a second time. And and some people may learn on their first time. I don't think many people do because they say, "I was just that one person." And then the second time happens and then you start guarding yourself a little bit. Then you start putting those walls up around the heart. Then you start saying, "Okay, I got to be careful. I can't do this again." And and so you love a little bit less. You love a little deeper. You make the person that you are in a relationship with jump through a few more hoops. Then if it happens to you after that, that's when you're like, "Fuck it. I'm done. I'm done with this." And I I don't know if many of you guys out there can say it was two, it was three, it was one. How many it was? Some of you guys I know are on like nine. No, I haven't found my right one yet, but I'm going for it. For me, I think it was about three in total across the span of my life. Two I married and divorced, and then the one after that, that was my never again. So, never again. And and I this I say this because I know a lot of men out there that will date still. I'm one of them. Like, I have no problems dating. I'd have no problems getting a girlfriend. I have no problems with with interacting with women. I have I have none of that. But you never get me the same way that I gave myself earlier. It's a different type of love. I think when you're young, it's a uh it's kind of a needy love. It's a I want to love her so much so she loves me so much. And it's equal deep love. And then as you get older, you realize as a man it's not how any of this works. You know that the game doesn't work that way. that really uh you need to love differently as a man and less. Quite frankly, you need m love much much less and in a much different way as a man. And only when you love like that can a woman still have desire for you because she knows if she up, you're out the blink of an eye. Okay? And then when a woman realizes that, then if she acts the fool, you walk away with no heartbreak. You're like, "Well, she's like the rest of them. Off I go into the sunset. I'll be fine." And if she doesn't mess up, she realizes, well, she's probably with somebody that's dating down to be with her. And yes, men, all men have to date down. It's just the way of the world. And maybe she's up in looks, but you're up in money or power or success or something. There there's always got to be an imbalance and always has to be the men is better. And you know who says this, of course, is the women. The women are the ones that admit this the most because they won't date down. They admit they won't date down. So even the women agree with me. So, stuff it, feminists.
Uh, she says, anyway, oh, I stopped moving my mouse, so it shut off. You know, this is why I don't get battery powered mice. I got to go back to a wired one. There we go. She said, "But here's what's real. We never needed you to be perfect." That's a lie. That's not what you say. You need us to be perfect. I just did a video on this where women are the the dating trend now where women are saying, "Well, he forgot to bring me one of his grandma's cookies." He told me about he forgot to wish me luck on the first day of work. Uh he forgot to mention my birthday. That was 5 days ago, even though we've only been on two dates. I broke I preemptively broke up with him. That was a New York Post article I just did last week. Yes, you do expect perfection. Oh, I was born this way. I was born and I only grew to the tender height of 5'6. There's nothing I can do about it, but I'm a sweet guy and I work real hard and I'll treat you well. And no, he needs to be 6' tall. Okay, that's you're needing a guy to be perfect. Uh, we just needed you to be with us. Not above, not muted, not masked, just with. No, because you're divorced. You've admitted to dating dozens of men, some short, some long-term relationship. Why didn't you keep any of them around? You know, you had a choice. I'm sure you had a choice. I'm sure these dozens of men that went out with you, many of them probably would have liked to be with you. You didn't want a man to be with you because you're 54 and you're single. They they they never come to this epiphany until dating gets hard. That's why, you know, my favorite Jana Hawking over at uh uh I don't who does she write for right now? New York Post uh EU do a Aussie some Aussie site, whatever. She's she's the next one. She's going to be writing these stories. I give it five or 10 years as things sag off and the wrinkles show up and then I'll be here at at the tender age of 60 or 65 laughing my ass off at Jana because now she'll be 54 and no one wants her and she'll say where have all the good men gone. It happens every time but only when it's too late.
Uh she says you can still come back not by becoming someone else by remembering what connection feels like when it's honest and slow when it's earned and messy and sacred. You want a boyfriend lady. You want a man. You want a provider and he's gone. They're gone. It's too late. I'm just reading all this because it's funny how women basically she's writing, "Dear God, I'm desperate and all the men are gone. Where have all the good men gone? That's what she's writing, but she's doing it in a Harley Quinn romance novel pres way. We're asking for presence, for courage, for breath and eye contact, and the ability to say, "I'm here. I don't know how to do this perfectly, but I want to try." We don't want to try. We don't care. You're 54. You're divorced. High body count. children. Where were you at 24 looking for the romantic man that would love you and protect you and provide for you? You didn't care then. You were 24. Lots of people wanted to bang you then. Lots of people wanted to take you out to dinner. It was the high life. It's gone now. Tough Come back. Please come back. Not with flowers or fireworks, but with willingness, with your whole beautiful imperfect heart. We're still here and we haven't stopped hoping. Too little, too late, lady.
I find this so fascinating. Of all the content that I do, I probably enjoy this content the most. I do because it is the epiphany of women discovering they had it all. They were masters of their universe. They had the adoration and attention and love of everybody. And they just kept throwing it away until it was too late. And now another feminist is crying about it because she's hit the wall and the men have evaporated. I love these. I just love these because now we are the men that are called misogynistic. We're the men called toxic. We're the men called being called the awful people as we scream at the 20year-old women, the young 30-year-old women. Please stop. Be reasonable. There are great men out here that will love you. Please stop chasing the Chads. Please stop sleeping around. Please stop becoming fat or feminist or all the other things men hate. Please fix yourselves now. 20s, no. 30s, no. Oh, your patriarchy toxic 40s. I'll get a bluepilled feminist man. My standards have risen. My I have high standards now. 50s. Where are all the good men time? And we're the ones telling them we're the only ones being honest with them. They won't do it. They won't do it.
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