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Most men overcomplicate their interactions with women. This leads to second-guessing, overanalyzing, logical thinking, and boring interactions where you're stuck in your head. The conversation just fizzles out, and the girl then says, "I have to get going. Bye now." Never again.
I'm going to break down a live interaction so I can show you guys a simple yet effective structure for how you can run your interactions with women without overcomplicating it. No cheesy, gimmicky tactics. This is going to be a very simple, smooth, natural, easy structure that you could follow to start landing dates with women. Let's go.
"Hey, excuse me."
"Hi."
"No, I just want to say, I just want to say really quickly, I thought you looked cute with the all white."
"Oh, thank you. It's my uni."
"It's your what?"
"My D uniform."
So, I start out the interaction by just saying, "Hey, excuse me. Really quickly, I just wanted to say I thought you looked really cute with the all white on." Just talking about her outfit. She's just wearing all white clothes. And so, this is a very easy open. Even if you have approach anxiety, even if you're afraid to display intent, you don't even need to have a whole interaction here. You can just practice saying that line. You can say, "Hey, excuse me. I have to get going, but can I just say really quickly, I thought you looked really cute today with the blank outfit on. Have a good day. Take care." And you could literally leave at that point if that's the level you're at. And that is a struggle or challenge, I encourage you to just start doing that. Start getting comfortable displaying intent because if the girl doesn't respond positively, or she just says thank you, you can always just walk away.
But in this case, I'm actually going for it a little bit more. So I say that, the girl then responds, and this happens.
"My dub uniform."
"Oh, your job uniform? Oh, [ __ ] did you just get out of work or what?"
"Yeah."
"I can tell. You look so relieved."
"Yeah, of course. You're just like sitting here relaxing, smoking your cigarette, like you had a long week or what?"
And so, she comes back and says, "Yeah, it's actually my job outfit." And so, all I do at that point is I start making observations about the girl. So, once you've opened, one of the easiest things you can do is just make observations. So I said, "Oh, yeah, I can tell because you looked so relieved." Meaning she's relieved that she's out of work. "I saw you sitting here lounging back, smiling, smoking your cigarette. Did you have a long week or what?" And so, all I did was I made an observation and then I asked her a new question. Nothing crazy, no push pull, no crazy tactics here. I just confidently displayed intent, made an observation about her, and then asked her a question. That's where we're at right now.
"I'm so tired."
"Oh, no, I can tell in the eyes a little bit. It's funny because you..."
"What's your name?"
"I'm Kyle."
"Kyle. Uh, you, yeah, what is that?"
"I'm from Argentina."
"Oh, you're from Argentina? Oh, [ __ ] you attract the birds. That's awesome. Yeah, what's all this?"
"Just goad and know."
"Uh, I, I see that."
So then I keep the conversation going by just making more observations. She said, "Yeah, I actually worked a lot." And I said, "Yeah, I could tell because I could see in your eyes. It's kind of like this." So I'm just making an observation that she she looks a little tired, a little sleepy, she might be a little overworked. But I took it as an easy opportunity to deliver it in a slightly more flirtatious way, just by getting in a little bit closer since she's responding positively. And then I look deep in her eyes and I just made an observation about her eyes. I then pointed out the tattoos that I saw on her arm, and we're getting into an interaction. And that, honestly guys, is the main skill set to open and get into a conversation. It's being able to talk slowly, to not ask so many yes or no questions back to back to back in like an interview way, but rather to talk slow with a smile and to make a new observation and to make the conversation about the girl. If you can do that in a relaxed, confident manner, a lot of the time that is all that's needed to actually get into that first minute of the interaction.
Now, if you're someone who's not approaching that much, or you can't display intent, or you're not flirting, or you're not consistently getting into at least that one to two-minute mark in your interactions, I can help you fast-track that process. You can click the link down below to work with me directly. Let's get into the next clip.
"I understand that. I, I know a little bit about tattoos."
"Oh, yeah, I see. I meant the pattern because you have the same one on your leg."
"Uh, this one, I asked my tattoo artist to like draw whatever she wants and do it. It looks fresh. Uh, it has like a year."
"Yeah, got you. Yeah, nice. That's what's up. Thank you. Yeah, yeah."
"So, I mean, honestly, I was going to meet some friends in a couple minutes, but I just, I thought you looked cute, so I was like, I need to come over at least say what's up. Thank you. And then I know you're kind of just like lounging back, so what are you going home after this, or what are you doing to meet a friend right now?"
"Um, and I'm busy, but I, I can't. You want to give me your Instagram? Whatever IG, or do you use WhatsApp or what do you have?"
"WhatsApp."
"Yeah."
And so, all I really did was I showed a second level of intent and then I asked her what she's up to right now. And solely because of my vibe, my confidence, my ability to talk slow and relax and hold good eye contact while smiling while I'm talking to her at a close distance, all of these reasons gets the girl to say, "Yeah, let's keep in touch. Do you have Instagram?" And so we actually end up exchanging WhatsApp phone numbers right here in the conversation.
"What are you doing with your friend? You going shopping? You hanging out or what are you doing?"
"I don't know. She asked me to wait her for her. I don't know if she fought with her both friend, that's why she needs, she needs you to, yeah, keep her company."
"Yeah, exactly. That's why I'm not to like say yes to the, but well, that that means you're caring and you're a good friend."
"Okay. Uh, sorry, that's my Grandma. She's..."
"Oh, Grandma's on the phone?"
"Yeah, but if you want to AB, okay, just shoot me a text."
"She say she's ugly, right? Can she understand or no?"
"No, she l..."
"Oh, she can't hear anything I'm saying?"
"Oh, damn. Okay. She talks only in English."
"All right, cool. Kyle is your name?"
"Yeah, it's, you're right. Yeah, Kyle. I'll text you, Kyle. You could put like that."
"No, you had to write the first time. K-Y-L-E. Like that. Like this guy from South Park?"
"Exactly. Don't, don't correlate me with that guy, but yeah, that's me too."
"What do you, how long are you going to be with your friend?"
"I, I really don't know. I don't know if we still here or I really, I just wait because I'm meeting up with some friends at least for a little bit. But if you're going to be, I'm going to tell her, uh, if she said like she wants to hung out, I text you."
"Cool. Sounds good. We'll talk soon."
"All right. All right. Take care."
And so, the last minute of this interaction is basically just us exchanging phone numbers, reconfirming our names that we know each other's names, and then just talking a little bit about what she has going on for the rest of the day, what I'm going to be doing, and possibly coordinating the next meetup.
Now, this entire interaction was a little bit over three minutes, and in my opinion, that is on the low end of how long you want to run an interaction. I wanted to keep this interaction short just for the sake of this video to show you a very simple structure. Also, keep in mind, she is on the phone. She's literally on a FaceTime with her grandma, so she's not just going to rudely ignore her grandma for an extended period of time and just keep talking to me. So, because of the situation, I did end the interaction earlier than I typically would. But I would say that on the minimum end, you should be running at least a three-minute interaction. But if you have time and the girl's free, you could take the same structure and just stretch out the conversation to four, five, seven, ten plus minutes. The more that you guys can get to know each other while you're keeping it a little fun and flirty, it will actually build up comfort and connection and increase the likelihood that this will actually convert into a date.
Now, for the sake of this video, I just wanted to show you a simple, very easy structure. There was no disqualification, push-pull, hypothetical scenarios, flirting in the negative, all these different tactics that you can use. And yes, those tactics are good, but if you can't even run a foundational, baseline interaction, then none of that means anything. So I wanted to show this to you guys so you could just keep it simple and effective. You open confidently, you display intent, you make observations about the girl, you avoid crazy interview mode with very short answers and you barely talking. You talk nice and slow with a smile. You carry the conversation for a little bit. At some point, you can inject a second level of flirtatiousness or intent into the interaction. And then, beyond two minutes, going into every minute, you can actually just move towards a close. You can figure out what she has planned, when you're free, go for a phone number, and then you could try to set up a date.
And so, this is a very simple yet effective structure that when done properly in a confident way can actually lead to phone numbers that can lead to dates. Now, if you're struggling at any point in this process, you're either not approaching enough, or you're not good with your conversation skills, you're not good with your flirting, or you're not carrying the conversation long enough to the point where you're getting phone numbers that can actually lead to dates. I can help you with this whole process if you want to to work with me directly to actually master this process so you can have the abundant dating life that you want. Click the button down below, fill out an application for an opportunity to work with me directly. That's all for this video, guys. I'll see you in the next one. Peace out.