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Sex Party with your host Dustin Ribka. Hello and welcome to Sex Party. I'm your host, Dustin Ribka. My guest this week is adult star Alicia Vera. Alicia just did two gang bangs within a week's time. One was a 15-man gang bang, one was a 12-man gang bang. Uh, she used to be very conservative and very prude, so how did she find her here in porn? She's also married. Uh, she also also also has a very unique origin story about how she got into this work. It will all make sense, I promise. Alisia talks about some past trauma, uh, and some terrible things that happened with an ex, but how it all sort of led her here to this place. She also is a sex toy addict. We talk about her favorite sex toys, what she recommends. Her marriage is thriving, and it has a lot to do with the work she is doing. So without further ado, I know you're intrigued. Please enjoy my conversation with Alicia Vera.
This week's conversation. Alicia Vera, welcome to Sex Party. Um, the viewers will not, or listeners, or audience members, I never know what to call them. We'll just call them the partygoers, right? Uh, they're probably not aware that that you and I had an interview about a month ago. Sometimes, once in a while, because I don't do enough on this podcast, which is not true, um, but I guest host another podcast. You were a guest. I felt like the Sex Party audience really deserved Alicia Vera because I think your story is awesome. I think you're awesome. So you're here. You're here on Sex Party. But for the people who didn't catch that interview, they don't know what I'm talking about. They don't know who you are. They live under a rock during rehab, what, whatever, right? Uh, could you take, take a moment?
Yeah, it does. You know, it's, it's normal. Rehab is not bad. Come on, y'all. No, it helps. Totally. So for the people, the people who don't know you, they've never seen your face, they've never heard your, uh, voice, they've never experienced your work. Could you take a minute, uh, talk about who you are and what it is that you do?
Yeah, yeah. So I'm an actress. Um, I didn't start out that way. I was a very prude, nice, sweet girl, very sweet. It was basically good girl gone bad, and that's pretty much the truth. Like, that's just how it works. Um, yeah, yeah. It was after I got married. So I, I am happily married. Um, we've been together since 2021, and, uh, I love what I do. I love my career. I love everything evolving around my life. Everything. Nothing but good things have happened to me, and I'm very grateful for that. I love to sing. I love to dance. I haven't done any of the like, the stripping stuff yet. It'd be kind of fun to do some of some of that, just to try it out, but I don't know if I'd be good at it.
Well, I mean, I mean, I think you have put your mind to a lot of things and and and you seem to be incredibly successful. So why not? Why not stripping and singing and dancing and, I mean, go for it, you know?
Yeah, I was kind of thinking like a whole burlesque show, actually. So yeah. And I feel like, like I live here in Chicago, and my girlfriend and I go, uh, we just went to a burlesque show, like, in a speakeasy behind some secret door, and it's so much fun. You still get, like, the horniness and like the titties and like [ __ ] being thrown around and money and whatever, but there's like a level of like mystery, intrigue to it. So I feel like you could, you could probably have a rockin' burlesque show for sure.
Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. I'd kill it if I, I just got to put it together and practice because I don't know what the hell I'm doing on stage.
So well, yeah, but I think, you know, one go-round, you'll be like, I got this. This is [ __ ]. You know, um, yeah, yeah. And and you know, trial by fire, right? I mean, this podcast is still after two years, it's a trial by fire. So you just kind of do the damn thing. Yeah. So you're right at home. Um, okay, so adult actress, and and we'll totally get to your origins because I think that's fascinating. I know the story, they don't, but they will. Um, what kind of adult actress are you? Like, what kind of scenes? How hardcore is it? Did, like, like currently, what are you, what kind of things are you doing? How long have you been in the industry? Are we doing DP's and gang bangs and all these things yet, or is it more like you're kind of like building as you as you go along?
Yeah, so, um, I actually, my first scene started as an anal one. And, um, which it was, it was more along the lines of hardcore, but it was roleplay. And roleplay is my specialty. I love everything about it. Um, I love, I, I can't necessarily say I love like taboo, but I love being the stepmom. So that's kind of my jam. Okay. Yeah. But I love, um, I love gang bangs. And in fact, just like in the last week, I flew to Arizona and I did one, and then I flew to Austin like four days later and I did another one there too. So wow. Okay. So so two gang bangs within a week, right?
Um, how, how many guys in, in each, in each gang bang?
So the one in Arizona was, oh gosh, approximately 15, probably maybe more, maybe a couple more. Yeah. Okay. Okay. And then the one in Austin, the one in Austin was about 12. Okay. So this is like, not five, because people are like, anything below five is, uh, is not considered a gang bang. Anything five and up is a gang bang. That's like the unofficial rules that that I've been told, right? Um, but you're like, I mean, 15 plus 12 plus, I mean, those are real deal. So, to have sex with 30 people in a week, I mean, are you sore? Are you icing? Is there a secret?
Let me just tell you this. So in Arizona, um, one guy was so big. I mean, we're, we're talking, I thought he could pass for near, like, I don't know if you know Dread, but he was so big. He started r, I mean, he started slow, but then he progressed and got, you know, stronger and stronger. And it got to the point that the whole table like started moving, and it was moving into the actual glory hole because it was all connected. I'm like, oh my God, I literally thought my vagina was coming out of my mouth. Oh, wow. Wow. So crazy. Yeah. Yeah. No, I mean, that's, okay, so, okay. And then you mentioned glory hole. So this is like a, do you start in the glory hole and they take you like, oh, or is it like you're, they're behind the, is like a glory hole gang bang, right? Which we should explain, like, what that, I mean, if you don't know what a glory hole is, guys, Google it. But the quick definition is like, you go to a room, there's holes in the wall, and [ __ ] come out, and then you do stuff with them, right?
Um, I would hope anybody, I mean, you know, I'm not shaming anybody if they don't know what it is. So, so the Arizona one, this is, was a glory hole gang, right?
Uh-huh. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. It, it was both combo. Yeah. Yeah. No, that's awesome. That's awesome.
Um, and so, okay, he was, he was, he was banging you so hard that you thought your vagina was coming out of your mouth?
Yes, literally. He, he's like, do you want more? And I'm like, no, God, get the [ __ ] off of me. Next. Yeah. Yeah. Next. He was last, actually. So it just saved my life because my vagina was so painful. I got into the shower. So my therapy is basically, you take a boric acid, you pop it up your vagina, you go hop in the shower, and you sit down, and you scooch down, like literally like laying back, and you let the water pressure come down and just like, just inhale your vagina. And it just, yeah.
Okay, so what did you, what are you putting in your vagina? Because this is something we, I have not heard of yet on the show, really.
It's boric acid. So boric acid basically, I mean, it's so toxic, it could obviously kill a cockroach. So, you know, you can't obviously eat it. But you can, they're little tablets, just like a regular supplement pill, and you take it and you shove it up your vagina as far as it can go. And there's some discharge from it, but it can, it prevents bacterial vaginosis, um, it can help with, uh, yeast infections and all that. So it keeps everything at bay. It's your, your flora, just helps keep the pH balanced. So.
Oh, nice. See, insider tip. We, we're getting the real, the real deal. Um, and that, and that's so, that's like an extra step that you do to abate any, uh, STI or like, uh, does what? So I would imagine if they're coming inside you, which I don't know they are yet because I haven't asked that question, um, that it would, that it would take care of that issue as well.
I mean, boric acid, it helps a lot. You, you douche too. So, I'll do a water douche and I'll just cleanse my whole vagina out, especially if, you know, I've had like, what, I mean, this sounds crazy, but like, you know, 10 guys like coming in my vagina, you know, you got to clean that out. So that's what I do, and it's, and it's really good. And I also take doxycycline. So it's a, it's a prescription, and I'm sure you know what that is. Yeah. Yeah. A lot of people use it for their acne, but if you take, uh, 500 milligrams before a shoot and 500 milligrams like 12 hours later after the shoot, um, it can prevent up to like 90 to 99% rate of of like chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, the generic ones. So, yeah.
No, it's powerful stuff. And I have heard that one. I've heard that, uh, it's funny. I had like a [ __ ] cut or something that somehow I like showed my doctor and he's like, that doesn't, what, what did you do? And I'm like, I don't know. I was drinking. And he's like, okay, we're gonna put you on doxycycline. I'm like, wait, that's like the porn star thing. And he just like looked at me. That's hilarious. Yeah. I'm like, sorry, I'm a sex podcaster. I know these terms or whatever. And he's like, whatever. Here's your prescription. Try not to drink so much. Oh, oh, my God. I'm surprised you didn't ask me about that.
Yeah, you would think they, they normally do. It's usually like a lot of like, um, like when the internet guy comes over, you know, like, what are you using it for? I'm like, um, well, there's this sign in the other room that says Sex Party. And on the wall, or like, if, if someone likes, like is coming to do like maintenance or something, they're like, it's a podcast. Just, it's okay, you know. And they're like, oh, can I take a picture in front of it? I'm like, sure. Um, but yeah, no. So at these, at these gang bangs, it's the world of like, it's so weird to me that like, and I'm sure you have tons to say, just how lovely on one end people are with sex and horniness and whatever, and then on the other end, they're like, crazy. Like, they're so negative. And it's, there's no balance ever. I feel like there's not, there's not ever any balance. Especially with those kinds of shoots, because they're like, oh, that's so nasty. Like, are you sure they're tested? And you know, a lot of it, it's, it's with the glory hole, it's supposed to be the, the random man that shows up and he's just thrown his dick through the wall. That's not really, I mean, yes, it is, but they're, they're obviously tested, so they're, they're clean. They, you know, I won't work with them if they're, if they haven't been tested, and they, they do strict protocols. So they'll do blood, and they also have one the day of as well, and they, they, it's like drops from the urine or whatever. So yeah, they're screened really well.
And then we, we always come up against this, and you know, people refuse to sort of like accept this as fact, but if you, one, if you're going to date or have sex with a sex worker, porn star, adult film actress, actor, one, the sex is probably going to be a lot better than someone you just would pick up at the [ __ ] pub. Number one. Correct. Yeah. Number two, they're some of the safest people in the world because you guys are constantly getting tested. And I think people just don't want to accept that. I don't understand. Yeah. If I was, you know, going to get my car fixed, I wouldn't go to somebody who hasn't been certified in six, six years and doesn't know what they're doing, right?
That's a good, that is a good analogy. Because you see all of these men and women going to the bars, and how do you know where that man, if, if he wasn't just in an orgy and then he goes to the bar and he gets horny again and he's, he wants to [ __ ] you, and you're like, oh my God, he's so hot. You get drunk, you don't remember. I mean, it, it's, it's a vicious cycle, but it happens. And and but wouldn't you want to be with someone who you knew was actually tested properly? So yeah. And like who knew how to [ __ ] give a [ __ ] or go down on on someone's [ __ ] or something like what the [ __ ]?
Oh, hell yeah. Yes. Okay. So, okay. So the gang bangs, right? Because I feel like there's a lot of unanswered questions here that I need to to to get on the table. One, there, at at the end, is it a mixture of them like coming inside you, coming on your face? Is that?
Yeah. So, so basically, how it starts. So when I get there, I end up doing this, um, massage thing. So I'll put gloves on and it's kind of like a more dominant, per se. And the guy gets like hooked up into the chair, so he's restrained by his hands, he can't move. And I'll like kind of taunt him and tease him. And then I'll get on top of him, and then he ends up cream pieing me. And I'll do maybe two or three of those when I first get there. And then there's a break. Then you go to the glory hole. The glory hole is set up in two parts typically because most people can't handle that many dicks at one time. So, and and the influx of, you know, when men can show up and have their lunch breaks and whatnot. So I'll go through like six in one, one session. And that is a mixture of coming in my mouth, on my face, on my tits, and my [ __ ]. Um, I don't typically do much anal, um, because it can get kind of like messy, but I don't, I don't really mess with that too much. But, um, and then it's the gang bang. So after that.
Okay. So that's awesome. First of all, uh, two, uh, I mean, sounds like a gauntlet. So [ __ ] round of applause there. You're, you're knocking that. I mean, and the, I mean, [ __ ] two in a week. That's, I have not heard two gang bangs within a seven to 10 day period yet on the show. So, oh, if we, if we give Sex Party Awards, you'll, that one's yours. I'll, I'll figure it out. Um, but I mean, that's like rockstar [ __ ]. So that's amazing. Um, what, I mean, besides the, you know, to relax, right? I mean, are you icing your [ __ ]? Are you like getting massage? Like, how do you, how do you relax from that?
Right? Um, honestly, I need to, like, I get so horny from lots of [ __ ] inside of me. So for me, therapeutically, I just need to be calm. I need to get the water from the shower and I just like drench my vagina. And I'll sit there for like five or 10 minutes, just letting the water hit my vagina and clean it out. And it's like lukewarm, so I don't use burning hot, obviously. But then I'll lay down and I just, yeah, just masturbate. And I'm just like, or, you know, I have my husband and I'm like, we go to, we got to relieve this [ __ ] out of there. Yeah. Yeah.
Well, and that's the other thing too, is like, you may, you may come during a gang bang or a porn scene, but it's probably not as enjoyable because you still have to maintain this sort of, you're working, uh, you need to like, make sure the scene proceeds or whatever. Um, and and I've had a couple other adult, you know, stars on the show, and and they're like, yeah, I have come during, but more than likely, it's after. So, is that what happens with you? Do you come during the scenes, or is it more, more after?
Every time, yeah. I'll usually, um, so like the glory hole is kind of hard to do that because you're going back and forth, you know, you got to [ __ ] here, you got to [ __ ] there, you know, I mean, it's, it's hard to kind of maintain that. But like in the gang bang, that is when there's kind of an opportunity for me to do something like that. Um, and I have before. So it, it's just, yeah, it gets tiring after a while, and you're like, oh my God, I don't know if I can come. But for women, there is a scientific study. The more tired a woman is, the hornier she gets. And that is a fact.
Wow. See, no wonder my girlfriend keeps asking me to have sex with her while she's sleeping. This is, I mean, yes, see, it works. Yeah. And and I've talked about this on the show before, too, but like, is that something that you are into too with your husband? Like, hey, just, just have at it when I'm, while I'm asleep?
Yes. I [ __ ] love that [ __ ]. It's like, and I don't know what it is. It's a stigma with women and the dominance of a man doing it. It, it's honestly, it's kind of like a fantasy of, you know, like taking advantage. I don't know if I can say that word, but.
Yeah, I know you can. Non-consensual.
Yeah, yeah. Rape fantasy. And we all crave that. Every woman craves that fantasy. I don't know why. Um, yeah. And and that's, and we talk about that all the time. I actually had a, uh, a sex therapist on, uh, Dr. Botcheva Marcus. She, and she had this incredible theory where she was like, the reason is because you women want to be desired, right? And what's like, what's more desirable in its darkest way than someone who cannot control themselves if you're just lying there, right? And like they break. Yeah. And so I definitely think that plays into it. And you know, my girlfriend and I have roleplayed [ __ ] like that too, and that's fun, but we haven't got to the sleeping thing yet. Um, because I keep, I'm like, H, I want to, but usually even if I'm like, you know, brush your back when I come into bed, you're kind of like, H, you know, so.
Oh, just do it. She wants that. She wants to complain and whine and moan. Don't give her a choice and just do it. And she's, she's technically, you know, submitting to that. There is nothing sexier than that. A woman wants you to, and she's already consented to it. She wants you to. So just do the damn thing. Even if she complains, just do it. Just tonight, when you go home, your ass better be laying her while she's sleeping.
Well, I will. You know, I, I will. I'll take it from a pro. And we'll, we'll just knock that one out. And we'll just proceed. We'll proceed from there and see where it goes. Yeah. Yeah. You're like, proceed with caution. I don't know. See, I'm in, I'm pretty dominant, and that's like my thing. And she's pretty submissive, so that's her thing. So it's like, it's a very good match in that way. Um, yeah, we'll, we'll figure it out and report back for sure.
Um, I want to ask you now, like, like going backwards, right? More about your origin story because this is fascinating. Now that we sort of have these, uh, double gang bangs on the table and and some amazing details and, uh, tons of cum everywhere and whatever. Now we're going to go back to like what you said in the beginning, and again, like I have the vantage of knowing your a bit of your origin story. We can talk about it more in depth. So, um, you said on this podcast already that you were sort of prude, um, sort of stuck up around sex. That's the part I want to tackle first, and then I'm gonna go into how you became who you are today.
Okay, cool. So, yeah, I grew up very conservative. And, you know, what's so funny is that I don't think, like, as far as my mom, God, I love her so much, but I think she was always the partying type. So I kind of, I think that it was always something instilled with her to, you know, go out and have fun and and, um, whatnot. But I wasn't brought up that way. I was brought up kind of like on my dad's side, where he believes in a, you know, a true monogamous relationship. You don't have sex till you're married. You don't, I mean, obviously it didn't happen that way, but I did have, I waited to have sex until I was 18 to the guy that I thought I was going to be with forever. And it didn't turn out that way. Although I thought it was going to, but it didn't. Um, super, super Catholic girl. You know, I never did anything wrong. I did everything by the Bible. And, you know, going through all that, I'm like, man, I'm doing everything right, but I always felt like everything was crumbling over me. I always felt like everything bad was happening around me while I was just striving to be the best person I could be in the world, right? Like, I'm just doing so good. I'm living by the Bible, right? And after my relationship, um, I was with him for about six years. And after that ended, I kind of went out and just started like lightly dating. But I was having a lot more fun. I was going to the bars and clubs and flirting and all that. But I was still pretty good, pretty prude, super, super stuck up. I mean, nobody could, nobody could get to me. They, they would, they, yeah, I was known as the prude girl growing up. It was just really bad. But I ran into a guy that, um, I started dating in Kansas City, and he was basically relocating to Texas for some unknown reason. He said it was for job work, whatever. And I ended up moving for him on a whim. This was like so quick. It, I mean, within, within like a month, he's like, you, you want to move with me? And I'm like, what? I'm like, we just started dating. And I listened to my mom. I, I mean, love her. I love you. Sorry if you see this, but it's true. You did. She did pressure me to try it out. She's like, you should, you know, try it out and see what happens. I'm like, okay. So I gave up my whole life there. And I, the day after I moved in, I found out he was birthing a child in a hospital. So it was not good.
But wow. Yeah. Wow. Really bad. Really bad. Yeah. That sounds like some serious, um, drama.
So, okay, two questions. Sure. One, one, uh, when, when you were, were like prude and like prissy and like nobody can touch this, you're never going to hit this, like, whatever, right? I mean, were you, and religious and all the things, all those years, were you deep down just like, insanely horny? Like, I wish I, or whatever? Or like, because I feel like, did you have that sex drive in you? Or, um, were you having like crazy fantasies about gang bangs or whatever it was like during that, but you just chose to sort of be prude?
And no. So you see, I was always simple. Like, I always had this basic mentality with sex. It was more erotic. I think it was more like, I'm, I'm so submissive at that stage of my life where I just wanted the guy just to do whatever he wanted to me, right? And that was the guy that I was with. And so I think that was the only thing that really turned me on was that he just kind of did what he wanted when he wanted, right? Kind of, kind of thing. And I loved that. I loved that. But he wasn't like super, you know, like hardcore or anything. Um, it was just soft. It was erotic. And it was passionate. And that's stuff that really turns me on. I, I do love, love that when he gets what he wants, but he's super passionate and sexy with it, and he can tease and all of that. Love that. Yeah.
Okay. And then so, and the second question is, if you were so picky, we'll call it, uh, what was it about this guy that you [ __ ] like, could you, do you know? Like, have you been able to identify what it was about him that made you move from Kansas City to Texas?
So that guy, um, was, um, I think it was just the charm. I think it was literally his charm that persuaded me. And I think it was this feeling of newness and change, which was exciting for me, and to take a risk. I love risk. And that's something that should be careful with sometimes, but, but I, I loved the idea. And I'm glad I did because now I'm married with the guy that I met from Texas. So, you know, okay. It's, yeah, it's, um, yeah, I don't know. I don't know what dream. I wasn't even attracted to that guy. That guy wasn't even anything to me. I don't know what it was. No idea.
Yeah. Well, we all have those weird [ __ ] things. I remember in college, I was like, I [ __ ], I was, I was dating someone like really, really good-looking and whatever. And then I cheated on her and like broke up with the girlfriend. And it was like with this girl who like, I mean, she just wasn't as good-looking, we'll say that. And people like, what's wrong with you? I'm like, I don't know, [ __ ]. I don't know. I don't [ __ ] whatever. I'm just doing what I'm doing what my, uh, penis and brain are planning for me to do. Just leave me alone, right?
Um, yeah, I mean, we all have that. I think. And maybe, I don't know, and you can answer this, but I, I can't obviously. But do you think like during that time where you were single after the six-year relationship and before the Texas move, right? You think you were getting approached like in the bars and clubs like by a bunch of like lame dudes who had no confidence and so you just kind of needed like somebody who was interested but not too much, kind of to approach you and nobody ever did?
You know, it's funny that you say that. I actually got approached by like, well-known men. Um, and and the weirdest thing is, I just, I thought that they were, maybe it was their ego or something. I didn't like it. Um, maybe it was just too cocky. Like there was one guy that played baseball for the Chicago, um, the White, White, White Sox, Lucas Harold. He played for him at the time. And he was at the bar there at Power and Light District or, I'm sorry, he was in Kansas City at that time. But yeah, he played for them. And he like hit on me and it didn't work out. But, um, there was just a couple other guys. I, I don't know why I didn't find interest in them. I have no idea.
No, that's interesting. Yeah. I, I mean, because I think a lot of women are into that, right? But I, I just think it, like, if you're famous or like a [ __ ] athlete or whatever. But some women are like, no, you're not real. That's, you're not really telling me anything I don't know already. And it's not true, like what you're saying, you just want to do all these things and whatever [ __ ] you. So I feel like there's two camps with that. But, but I do feel like an approach where you, you're sort of like there and you're like, willing to have a conversation, but you're also willing to be like, hey, have a nice night. I feel like that's always attractive to women for some reason, where you sort of leave like, you're, you're having a thing, right? And the woman's like, oh [ __ ], he's gonna ask for my goddamn number. I'm like, you just don't. And you're like, well, cheers, you know, have a good night. And then you go back to your friends. The woman's like, what the [ __ ]? Now I got to go over there. Like, it's like a [ __ ] magnet thing. Yeah. Yeah. Go ahead, buy my drinks all you want. I don't give a [ __ ]. I'm not going back with you, buddy.
Yeah. No, no. It's crazy. Um, okay, so, so then you're in Texas and, you know, the dude that you're with with is birthing a child and he's a dud. And so we move on from him. And then you meet, I'm assuming you meet who you're married to now?
Yes. Yeah. Yeah. I, I went through a lot of trauma with that guy. He, I mean, it was near death. I, I mean, I, I don't want to really link all that info, but I mean, if you want to hear about it. Yeah. He pulled a gun to my head and basically asked why I should be living. And I used his son as fuel. And I don't know what, what kept him from pulling that trigger, but he didn't do it. And then he like fell to the ground and started foaming at the mouth. It was [ __ ] weird. Just wild. Yeah. Yeah.
Okay, bombshell. Uh, first of all, you can, you can share whatever you like here and what, whatever you're comfortable with. If there's something you're not comfortable with, just don't share it or say you're not comfortable, whatever. Um, okay, so he, he pulls a gun on you and so clear. And then falls to the ground foaming. First of all, sorry about a [ __ ] horrible experience that you had, obviously. He was on drugs and not mentally well, I'm assuming.
Um, so I found out he was doing drugs. He was apparently bringing his dealer into the house, and I never knew that. But I, I suspected something was weird. I'm so oblivious, you know, I, I just, I was never gathering any of that info. So like someone could actually do that to you, you know? But yeah, he was bringing his dealer in. And then one day I found, um, his cocaine stash in his son's cabinet when I was putting his bottles away. It was paper plate at the top. And I'm like, oh, what's this? You know, I'm just being stupid. And I just grab it. And all this white powder comes falling all over my head. And I'm like, what the [ __ ] is this? And I mean, it was literally everywhere. And I called him immediately. Stupid. I shouldn't have done that. And I did. And he like freaked out. And he goes, um, I'm on my way right now. And I'm like, okay, that's not good. And then he comes home. And he goes, you know, that's over $1,000. I'm like, of what? What is this? And I'm naive to drugs. I don't know anything about drugs. Never smoked a cigarette. I've done one little edible, that's it. And he's like, that's, he's like, you weren't supposed to know about that. And I'm like, well, why would you go hide it in your son's bottle cabinet? Like, I'm practically raising your kid. And then that's when it all kind of spiraled. He started choking me. He would hold me up to the wall, spit in my face, spit in my face. He threw me around like a basketball. I mean, it was just really, really, really nasty. Really nasty.
Wow. Yeah. Well, so again, sorry to [ __ ] hear hear that horrible [ __ ]. Um, but I appreciate you sharing it because I think people, you know, may have a similar situation or have a friend who has a similar situation, and then they hear you, and you got out of it. How did you get out of it?
Well, uh, [ __ ] brat balls. One day he went to work because he was a project manager for a construction company. And I was, I literally locked myself in the bathroom and sat on the ground and had a laptop out. And I was looking up gigs on [ __ ] Craigslist. Like I found this lady out of the blue. And she was like, sure, you could come over and do an interview, blah, blah, blah. And I said, well, I am looking to see if you had, you know, room and board where I could, where I could pay you for a room or whatever, because I didn't know how else to make it work. I'm just desperate at this point, right? So I go to her house. She opens the door. She lives on the lake. I mean, the water was just like glistening. And she was decked out in like white and gold clothes. And she's from, you know, Pakistan. I mean, just beautiful. She looked like my mom. Even I, I was just, I started crying. And she goes, why are you crying? And I'm like, you're saving my life right now. And we sat down. And she goes, what's, you know, she's like, this is, I mean, it was the most awkward conversation. And she goes, you know what I am? And I said, no, what? And she goes, I'm a spiritual healer. And I was like, oh, I was like, numb. Like, just tingles everywhere. And I'm like, you're saving my life right now. And that's when I got into spiritual healing. She took me on. I went back to the house. I packed my bags up. When he came home, he got really weird with me. Somehow knew I was up to something because he goes, where were you? And I said, what do you mean? And he goes, well, I know you were gone. And I think he had me like GPS tracked or something. So, fu. Yeah. Yeah. It was not good. And I just had told him that I went for a drive and, um, went to go get groceries or something. And the next day, the next day I raced and packed up everything I could. I didn't care if I left stuff behind because the guy would probably kill me, right? And, uh, he saw that I was leaving the house because 10 minutes later after I left, he goes, he, he sent me a text and he goes, where are you going? And I said, I'm leaving. And he goes, no, you [ __ ] aren't. And he, uh, he like raced home, I guess. I wasn't there, obviously. I left. He calls me yelling and screaming saying he was going to call the police because I was stealing his pillows.
Okay. Yeah. That seems, um, not, uh, not all there. No. But I did file a restraining order on him, and the cops were called and everything. So I mean, he's, he was not, he's not allowed to be near me. So it's all good. Good.
Yeah. No, that's [ __ ] awesome. Um, so I mean, just a little button on that, uh, piece of the story, right? Like, what advice would you give for other women who are in similar situations right now?
If you think you're guilty of something when you're absolutely innocent, and you think that you're going to be harmed, and they, he tells you you're not allowed to leave, you're not allowed to call the cops, you're not allowed to do anything. Do not ever listen to anything someone like that says. You do what your gut tells you to do. You get the hell out of there.
Yeah. No, thank you for that. Yeah. You leave. Yeah. Yep. And don't look back either. Do not let him get back into your life. Block his email, block his number, block every bit of access from him because he will find a way to contact you. If it's through, and especially like with social media now, technology is so advanced that you, you know, you can make fake profiles, you anything. File a restraining order, get rid of them. Don't ever look back because someone like that is so narcissistic. Women crave those kinds of bad boys. They want someone to chase them. Do not, do not let him chase you. Yeah. Walk away. Especially with a [ __ ] hatchet or a gun. You don't want to be chased that way unless it's like some consent roleplay you're doing and the gun's not loaded. But this is a little different.
Like, you're so right. And I think a lot of women do end up in in narcissistic patterns and and with with with men because it's that cycle that we always talk about, right? Like they, they need whatever, or they crave domination, or, or, uh, to be demeaned in a certain way. But it's like, hey, I don't want to be harmed. And then you wind up in that thing. And I'm glad that you led the advice with, don't believe you're guilty of something you haven't done, because it's like, only someone who's been, you know, abused in the way you have in that way would [ __ ] know to give that advice. So that's like brilliant. And I, I totally appreciate that.
Of course. Thank you.
Um, so, okay, you, so how do you meet your husband? Because I think this is where the story takes a really fun turn. Um, and it's very, like, different than how most people enter the adult industry. So how did you meet your husband?
Yeah, so I was kind of doing me. I was working for the spiritual healer, and I was her executive assistant. I was with her for about five to six years. I started going to a gym and just doing me, you know, I'd never look up at people. I always had my hat on, you know, and I'd look down and just void everyone else out. And one day I was walking through the gym by where the weights were, and I look up and this beautiful, beautiful [ __ ] Italian man's just staring at me in the face. And I'm like, holy [ __ ]. You know, like, all I could do was like, barely grin. I'm like, you know, like I didn't, I didn't smile hardly, you know, I'm just like, oh my God, like, hi. And then he kind of like looked at me and smiled. And then I walked off. Right. Well, a little bit later, I got on the, um, what's that machine where you take your legs out, the leg abductor machine? And I'm sitting there, you know, minding my own business, just jamming, chilling, you know. And all of a sudden, I get this tap on my arm. And my legs are like widespread, you know, like wide as an eagle. And I look up and he's like looking at me. And I'm like, yeah, can I help you? And he's like, you know, the machine next to me, he's like, is that, is that, are you using that? And I'm like, do I look like I'm using that? So he sits down and we start talking, just about, you know, like, who you are, where you from, blah, blah, blah, this and that. Um, everything's good. He didn't give me his number. And I'm like, why did he not ask me for my number? You know? And I'm sitting here, I'm like, and I'm not one, I was never taught to give my phone number out. So go, I'll be damned if I'm giving my number to anybody. We go into the sauna later. And he ends up going in there. And I, I didn't know he would be in there. We start, you know, we're just kind of looking at each other. And he's sitting away from me in the, you know, it's a big dry sauna. And I'm just looking at him smiling. And all of a sudden, he walks out and he's walking the other way. And I'm, you know, just, I kind of followed him out. And I was like, are you going to ask me for my number? And he goes, well, I'm glad you asked. And I'm like, please give me your number. And so he, he gave me his number. And then the next day, we talked on the phone for like eight hours straight. We fell asleep talking to each other on the phone. I mean, crazy. And then a week later, we're jumping out of an airplane together, skydiving.
So wow. Well, he, so he broke the cardinal rule of like, don't hit on women at the gym. And it worked. It worked. It worked. Yeah. Yeah.
So you know that rule, it's a guy's rule, right?
Mhm. Yeah. Don't even like look. I always wear a hat and [ __ ] and like, you know, I used to sneak a peek, but like, you know, like [ __ ] uh, uh, I mean, you have to like be like classy about it. You can't like eyeball and whatever. But in under no circumstances, even when women would like ask me, I'd be like, what do you, you know, like, yeah, I'm on what, like you said, like, yeah, I'm on this machine. What the [ __ ]? Um, but yeah, that's like the cardinal rule. Like, don't look. Don't [ __ ]. You know, if you're going to look, be quick about it. Don't be an a-hole. But like, under no circumstances do you [ __ ] approach a woman who's working out, especially with her [ __ ] legs open on a machine in front of a mirror.
Yeah. Yeah. I mean, there are so many contradictions in this episode that I love. That I love that. Like, you're the prude and now you're like this rocking gang bang porn star. Uh, you never give your number out and then you're [ __ ] whatever. Um, okay, so, so how long was it until until you guys were like, together, married, serious? Like, how long?
So we started dating basically right after that first date. Um, we, we obviously [ __ ] that night. I mean, you know, you're like flying in the air, you gotta get all that oxygen out, you know? So, um, we started, we dated for the first was like, year and a half. And then we moved in. We moved in together and tried, wanted to see, you know, is this going to work? And so we lived together for two years. And he ended up proposing during those two years. And, uh, we got married in 2021. So we were together, we started dating in 2018. And he proposed, uh, year, what was like, yeah, a year before we got married. So.
Wow. Okay. So that, that, that seems normal. I mean, that seems like, you know, it's not impulsive or whatever. Um, going back to the first date, you jumped out of a plane for the first date. Uh-huh. What a power move. This guy is a [ __ ] G. This is awesome. And you know what's funny? I invited him to go with me.
Oh, okay. So you're the G in this situation.
Okay. I'm a [ __ ] G. [ __ ]. Yeah, there you go. Round of applause there. That was.
Was he like, oh, maybe I don't know? Or was he like, oh, no, I'll do it?
He didn't even hesitate. He goes, yeah, I'll go. And I don't know if he ever thought about doing that. You know, he weighed like 230 pounds, so he was like, almost at the max weight limit. So they had to like tack on another $100 because he weighed so much. That's amazing.
Okay. So you guys skydive. You bang. How was the sex the first, the first time?
Oh, [ __ ] awesome. Like, yeah, probably literally one of the best orgasms I've ever had. The best orgasm I've ever had. I'll never forget that day. It was amazing.
So do you think it was because there was this buildup? Or, or was it because that, like, there was a buildup from the and
Then the the jumping out of a [ __ ] airplane or combination that made the so good. I think it was a combo and not not only, um, I didn't mention that when I was with the spiritual healer, I was, um, jotting down a list of things that I wanted in a man. And it is so crazy how spirituality works. It is insane. I wrote down everything: Italian, Catholic, dark hair, you know, he's muscular, tan. I mean, everything under the sun that's what I wanted. And he just shows up. And it was like, what the [ __ ]? Like, you didn't know that could exist? But he had every line item. I had like over a hundred things on my Law of Attraction list that I wanted in a man, and he just comes out of the blue. So, yeah, it, it worked.
Yeah, of course. You had a hundred items on your your Must List. That's awesome. Yeah, more power to you. Um, okay, so then you guys are married. This is the part, this is where we take a left turn a bit, which is a, it's a great left turn. Uh, so why don't you tell, like, how long were you married before this moment happened where he, he, you know, suggested something or whatever?
Honestly, probably a couple weeks. I mean, it wasn't, it wasn't long after he, we were just playing. We were in the guest bedroom on the floor playing with each other and just having fun. And I don't even know, I think we were looking at porn or something on the phone. And all of a sudden he goes, you know, it would be so hot to see you suck another guy's [ __ ]. I'm like, are you on [ __ ] drugs? I'm like, like who are you? Like, who does that? Who says that? And, you know, I'm not used to that because I'm so prude. Like, I never had a guy that would ever say anything like that ever. You know, that was the worst thing you could say, honestly. He's like, no, really. I think it would be so sexy to see you do that. And I'm like, really? Like, what? I mean, I, I guess we can try it. I'm like, I've never thought about, you know, I'm like, I've never thought about doing that. But I mean, maybe, you know, I don't know if I would be good at it, but I'm give it a shot.
So we got on like Tinder and all kinds of weird different apps and we started engaging with people. Uh, but we never met them because we both got a little weird and scared. And then one day I was looking through an article because I'm like, where can we find the best [ __ ]? You know, like, where do you get just someone who just wants to [ __ ] play? You know, like, I, I don't even know where to find that at. And there's all these people everywhere, right? And, uh, I saw something about like a sexy jobs forum. I'm like, what? What's that? So I started searching. And I mean, it's like one of the biggest porn outlets for finding work, okay? And so I'm seeing dollar signs, sex dollar signs. I'm like, oh my God, I think we got a business here. You know, like, I mean, you know, you're like, money and sex, like, what [ __ ] is better than that? So I'm like, I think I'm going to, I think I'm going to do the shoot. He goes, he goes, what? A shoot? What do you mean? And so I'm like, you know, describing what that was in the article. And I'm like, well, this guy says he could hook me up with, you know, like a $2,000 gig and it would only take this amount of time. And he goes, wow. He's like, you should go do that. I'm like, okay. So I got, I got signed up and I literally went and got tested. And I'm, I'm like, I didn't even know what to do with testing. It was so foreign to me. But I went out and I rocked that scene like I was a pro. My very first time.
That's crazy. No, yeah, that's a, that's amazing. I mean, so it went from like, what? No? Like, kind of like this. So your, like, your prudish walls just crumbled that quickly because you were turned on or you were interested or just someone had never done that? Or what do you think made you sort of go from no way, psycho, it's like, oh [ __ ], yeah, let's look, let's look around on Tinder? Like, where did that, had that, had that always been inside you? Do you think you just, no one knew how to type in like, get in there or what?
Well, you know, and that's where I go back to that conversation piece about my mom. I think there's something instilled within me, this this inner like, let's have fun, you know? I want to explore, have fun with people. But I wanted to be able to do it consensually. I mean, I never thought about doing it, but I mean, hell, you know, and it makes him happy too. Like, he enjoys that and he gets turned on by it. And if I can make my man turned on and I still get to go, you know, [ __ ] other [ __ ], I mean, why wouldn't you do it? You know? So, yeah.
And get [ __ ] paid for it too. Yeah. And get paid for it on top of it. Yes. Yeah. Well, and and that's that's what's so cool. It's like the more that this podcast progresses, we do find out like that some of that, some of the biggest, most incredible like hacks with polyamory or non-monogamy is that you, you bring in professionals, whether that's porn stars or sex workers, because that way the emotional weirdness piece, like that you would get from Tinder or the risk of that, right? There's that word again, risk, right? That, um, that, uh, that's not there when you're working with pros. You can kind of feel a little more comfortable that, yeah, this person's a porn star, this person is, um, a sex worker. Uh, so what, what did you do in that first scene? What was that like?
It was so natural. I mean, when I walked in, I met the producer, I met the talent, and both of them were so cordial, so nice and respectful. They told me exactly what I was going to be doing. And, um, it was exactly as they said. I, I, you know, came in, it was like an interview style. They asked me some questions, asked me about my marriage. And they're like, oh, you know, this is your very first scene. And it was, it was my very first scene. It wasn't made up. And, um, I ended up, you know, it was pretty much full-on anal, and it was awesome. I mean, I was like, wow, like I didn't know my, you know, I was capable to be that flexible and that, you know, just able to move that much, but I did. So wow.
Okay, so was it with one guy? Two guys?
It was with one guy. And, um, he wasn't like super, super big or anything, so it made it, made it very smooth and kosher for me. Yeah.
So key question here, did you keep the wedding ring on or take it off for the scene?
I kept it on. Okay. Yeah.
See, this is, this is a whole other level because there now there's like, there is porn out there where like the woman will put the ring like up to her face and take the [ __ ] and all of that, and that's like sort of sort of a kink or whatever. Were you doing some of that stuff? Was it, they kind of keyed in on that?
Yeah, I think they came on the ring. See? Yeah.
And that's what, that's what, how did that feel like? Was it like a huge turn-on?
It was, it was a rush of excitement. And I think that it was so, I think I was just ready in anticipation to go tell my husband like, oh my God, I can't wait to go tell him and show off, you know, what just happened because I knew he enjoyed that too. So for me, it was a big rush. Yeah. I think it got me turned on for sure. Yeah. Yeah.
Because it's like such a forbidden kind of like, like way over the top, like horny thing. Um, and and I think that's awesome. Um, and and you, you're, you're starting to see it pop up a lot more now in in mainstream porn. Yeah. Um, and it's like a fantasy and and the whole thing. So then when the scene comes out, do you guys watch it together? How does he get to experience the pleasure of you being with with other men? Does it just hearing about it? Is it you sort of telling him while you're having sex? Or does he watch the scenes?
So we've progressed. So when we first started, it was actually getting the footage and he would watch it. And I was too scared because I'm like, I'm not [ __ ] watching myself [ __ ] like, who does that? And so it freaked me out and I'm like, I don't want to watch it. But he would watch it and I'm like, you can go masturbate to that because I'm not watching that right now. Well, I've gotten more comfortable with it. So sometimes I'll, I'll get the footage from wherever or even if it's like a collab or whatever. And I'll, I'll get the footage and we'll sit down together and watch it. And I've even had like collabs where I've called him and he doesn't know I'm actually calling him. Like, truly, like my, one of my glory hole scenes I did, I called him while I was sucking a black [ __ ] and I was like, hey babe. And he's like, hey. You know, and I'm like, I'm sucking a nice big fat juicy [ __ ] right now and it's a BBC. And he's like, I mean, you should just watch it. It's [ __ ] hilarious. His reaction. It was so good.
Well, that's what's amazing about that is we all watch that and get off to that thinking that that is, knowing that that's fake, we're pretending it's real. And in this case, it's actually [ __ ] real. I love this. This is amazing. Um, okay. And so has there ever been any hiccups? Like where he's like, oh, that's too far. Don't do that. I'm now I'm mad. Or or has it all been like, kind of horny and and lovely?
It's been horny and lovely. And we know boundaries. We talk about boundaries. So if there's ever like, we, especially now because he knows that like, there's a chance I might call. And so he's like, well, if you do, you know, this is my dos and don'ts. But he has his guard's pretty down. I mean, he, he will do or let me say pretty much anything. And it turns him on. Pretty much the dirtier the better. Yeah.
No, that's that's amazing. And for you, like as a, as a, a female, a feminine being, like, is it easy for you to see the masculinity in that vulnerability that he has? Because I think people miss this. This is like, if you look at popular culture and like the dumb [ __ ] memes and, you know, there's a difference between a guy who is like in the corner crying and is a cuck, like, you know, a cuckold, right? And and if that's your thing, respect, do it, whatever. There's a difference between being a cuckold guy and then being a man who like loves and appreciates and like jerks off and, you know, to his woman wife getting [ __ ] by a bunch of dudes, the rings getting cummed on. There is a masculinity to that. So is that like a turn-on for you that he was doing it in a masculine way? Like if he was saying like, I'd rather sit in the corner and cry while you did it, like that wouldn't, I'm assuming for you, that wouldn't be that much of a of a turn-on, right?
No, and he wouldn't do that. But he would go in the corner and stroke that and get excited and just love that. Just that eroticism, just the chemistry. And and it turns him on. I mean, it really does. And I don't see, I, I mean, I see the, the cuck side of it, but I also see how confident he is in his own skin. And that that is sexy because you're like, wow, he's, he allows that. Like, what? Like, you know, it's crazy, but it's, it is great. It is amazing. I'm, I'm beside myself, honestly.
No, yeah, it sounds like it. Um, but yeah, I mean, I mean, and good for you. And and I think that that's, this is sort of the kind of stuff that I love to dig around in with people like you that are open and and smart having these, um, these experiences because there, I think there is a masculinity to there's something about seeing someone that you're, that obviously you love them and you're with them, but like seeing someone who your partner who makes you, uh, really horny and you're really attracted to them, seeing them as a man then overpowered, right? Whether it's in your head, in a roleplay scenario, or for you in real life, seeing them just overtaken. There is like a really horny masculine side to that. And I think no one is talking about that. So I really appreciate you indulging in that because that's very, very rarely is that illuminated. It's always like, oh, the dude's a [ __ ] and he sucks and he's a [ __ ] and like, whatever. And like, that's not the old, that's not the only case, guys. No, it's not. Especially if there was, um, if you had a niche for watching that kind of horn. Like growing up, I always, I, I watched that stuff. Like, you know, the, the stranger comes and barges in on the boyfriend and girlfriend and the girlfriend gets taken and used, you know, I mean, I start thinking about things like that and that [ __ ] turns me on. I love that stuff. So, yeah.
Yeah, when it's planned. Okay. So when you were like prude and prissy, you were watching [ __ ] non-consensual porn?
Okay, we just discovered that here towards the end. Yes, I did. Yes, I did. But I also, like, when I first started watching it, it was all HBO [ __ ]. So it was like, all soft erotic porn, you know? And like, I would masturbate. Um, and I always was horny, but the weird thing was like, I wouldn't try to express it publicly or with someone else. It was like, I always hid. And it was what got me excited. Like, I would always hide or in my room or during weird hours or, you know, like, I even remember taking a [ __ ]. Like, this is so bizarre, but I think every woman when she was, you know, back in her youthful days would have done this. She gets a stuffed animal, right? And she tries to like, rock on it or whatever. It's such a thing. Like women do it. I'm sure you've heard of that before.
Yeah, yeah. I feel like I've heard of, you know, on the show, around the show, in my personal life, like when women are like coming into that horniness, right? Where it's like really overwhelming, that's like, what can I, you know, shove in my [ __ ] [ __ ] to [ __ ]? Let's see what it, you know? Because we're, we're just at the, and this will go right into the next, second to last piece of the show, right? But like, we're sort of in this, this zone where in the last 10, maybe 15 years, sex toys have become more sophisticated, more elegant, whatever. But before that, yeah, you had vibrators and dildos and Adam and Eve and all these things. But a couple years before that, you're sort of stuck in this thing that if you're, if you're growing up and you're not 18 yet, and or even if you were, and you're like a woman and you're horny, what the [ __ ]? You? I mean, nobody. Now it's like, go buy a bullet at Walgreens, go buy [ __ ] uh, double-sided, whatever. And you can get whatever you want from these websites, boom, discreetly packaged. But before, you know, you're rocking on the stuffed animal. You know, I don't, I don't blame. Yeah, I don't, I don't blame. I mean, as a man, I've done far [ __ ] weird, weirder [ __ ] than that. I've put my dick in places that when I was young, that I look back now, I'm like, I was [ __ ] crazy. No, I was just [ __ ] horny and there was no outlet for it, you know? We do some crazy [ __ ] [ __ ]. Like, I, I mean, seriously, you know, that that's how I started though. It was rocking on air. And I don't know what it was with the air. Some, something just bizarre. It wasn't even like hardly touching, which is the strangest thing. But, you know, I've, I've, I've had a cucumber, all kinds of [ __ ] up there. I mean, it's just [ __ ] nuts. Yeah.
Well, okay, speaking of sex, uh, toys, right? Um, I know from the last episode that I did on the other podcast, you're a sex toy addict. Okay. Um, or, you know, that's how it was [ __ ] written when I, when I read it. But like, what, what are some of your favorite sex toys? Is there anything new that you're loving? Like, how, how much, um, because there's a lot of like, uh, the little tongue things, what with the, whatever. And so what are you into? What would you recommend? What are we loving? What are we not liking?
Oh, you can never get enough of the Hitachi. So that will always and forever be one of the best favorites ever. Um, there is this new thing. It's kind of like, it's kind of shaped similar to a dildo, but it's pink and it's long, but it, it moves. So it moves around in your vagina and it just swirls and you can, you know, make it go fast or whatever. And I love that thing coupled with a butt plug that is, um, vibrating. So it, you know, obviously stick it up your ass and let it go vibrating. Yeah.
Yeah. No, and the, see, that's, that's another pro move is like the double or sometimes even like triple quad you grabbing different things you have laid out. I feel like people who are doing that are really in touch with what they're into and aren't afraid to order something that's swirling around inside. But for some people, like that, you know, I don't know, maybe they're, they, they're conservative, you know, on the outside. What would you recommend? Like starting with, like a little bullet thing that's like, you know, or do you just recommend like, [ __ ] that just go in for the kill?
Oh, no, you want to start off slow so you kind of can explore with your, with your body and understand what stimulates you because some people like things deep within. You know, I mean, you see some big name women and they can't get off unless there's a triple-sized dick inside of them, right? I mean, and then others, they, they prefer the stimulation that's outside of the vagina. So, so kind of just play and discover with what works for you. I would start with a basic, like, medium-sized or even smaller dildo or even a vibrating one. And, um, a just standard Hitachi vibrator like that you just put on your vagina because most women are stimulated through the, um, the clitoris, which sits on the outside. Like, so you're just going to want to play around. Yeah.
Much for sure. And you and your husband, are you using sex toys together when you guys are hooking up?
Yeah, we do. Oh, yeah. Another pro move. I mean, I feel like this needs to be normalized too, because if you're a dude and you're not welcoming the sex toys into the room, into the bed with you, you're making a big mistake. You got to have them because you can only do so much normal sex. I mean, you know, I mean, I'm sure there's a million different [ __ ] crazy ass pretzel positions you can get into, but I mean, let's just face the facts. You're gonna get bored and you're gonna want to explore with other [ __ ]. So why wouldn't you?
Yeah, no, it's a ton. It's a ton of fun too. Uh, my girlfriend and I are constantly, I'm, I've bought her more than she's had in her whole life. And I'm like, hey, this new [ __ ] thing I found or whatever. Um, and I, it's so beneficial. It's like on every level, like pleasure, but also like connection. Mentally, you can talk about it afterwards. It's really [ __ ] great. I, so I, I think it's awesome you guys are doing that.
Um, here at the end, okay, let's say there's a woman out there. She, you know, she's watching gang bang porn, DP, whatever it is, right? The [ __ ] ski mask guy coming in the window or whatever. Um, she, she's married, she's single, doesn't matter. But she wants to explore some of those more hardcore fantasies. Maybe it's gang bangs, maybe it's like two guys at once, maybe it's just a different dude. Um, whether she's married or she's single or she's has a boyfriend, like, could you give some sort of, um, advice? Uh, I mean, because your husband brought it to you, but how, how do, how do they bring it to themselves and their partners if they want more other people to be involved? What kind of advice would you give?
Sure, sure. So for, for the woman, I mean, obviously, it's always open communication. That's one of the hardest things in a relationship to do stuff like that. Um, most people don't know even, they don't know the first thing of how to talk to their spouse or their partner, you know, or whatever it is. But, um, I, I would first and foremost, um, you know, in my opinion, I would sexually please them first. I would, I would have sex and have fun. And then afterwards, when they're calm and they've already had any erection or orgasm or whatever it is, sit down and and calmly say, you know, that is so much fun. Maybe we should add some more. And you'd be like, you know, if it catches them off guard, why are they? Because you're already in the act and you just got finished. So it would be fun to talk about openly something like that. That is the perfect time to engage in that kind of conversation, to be honest with you.
Yeah, no, that's, that's a, yeah, I mean, and then, and then you can sort of like gauge where the [ __ ] if they're going to get mad and maybe I back back off or like try something else or, yeah. Yeah. And, and if, if they're not interested, you could just, I mean, have a, just a light discussion and say, you know, I, I love, I love exploring with you and I love everything that we do together. And you can say no to this. That is perfectly fine. Just, just throwing it out there for ideas. Or if, if you're into it, you know, would, would you be interested in another girl or another guy? Or I don't know, [ __ ]. I don't know what you want. But, you know, if that's something you're into, you know, sure. Yeah. Just, just a light start conversation. Yeah. Yeah.
No, I love that. Um, okay, so wonderful advice all around. Valuable episode. Um, here at the end, so before, before you sort of leave, right? This time, I have a feeling you'll be back on the show. So nobody worry, right? Just don't get, don't get upset, uh, just yet. But like, what's coming up next for you? What kind of, I mean, you just did two gang bangs in a week. So what are we going to space and having upside down pineapple cake sex or what's going on?
That is so [ __ ] hilarious because that gang bang was alien-based, baby. It was like painted with purple circles everywhere. That is funny that you said that. I had no knowledge of that. Wait, are the guys dressed like aliens having sex with you?
Yeah, they were. They were painted like, they didn't wear any mask or anything, but they were literally painted like a full-out alien, like green everywhere. And it was just [ __ ] crazy.
So you were like, someone being abducted by aliens and getting gangbanged?
I was the queen. Yeah, it was me and another girl, and we both got completely gangbanged. It was nuts.
That's crazy. That is nuts. Um, so when do those scenes drop? And like, what are you, what are you shooting next that you're excited about?
Um, so I'm really, really, um, I'm really pumped to get back in with, um, Perv City. I'm going to do an intergenerational scene. And it's going to be, uh, March 22nd that I'm doing that. Okay. Sounds really exciting. And then the, the talent is, um, Isaiah Maxwell. So it'll be really fun. Yeah.
Know that that's awesome. Um, when, when, when are the gangbang scenes available for people to go check out?
So I think the guy in Arizona was going to be dropping it this week or next week. So it will be coming very quickly. Um, the other one, I think probably a month turnaround time will be when it drops. Okay. I think so. Yeah.
Well, Alicia Vera, thank you so much for being on Sex Party. Guys, she's getting gangbanged by aliens. Alicia, tell them, tell these, hi, aliens. Tell these crazy partygoing people who, who their jaws are on the floor, but they're like, this was a really good episode. Um, where can they find you on social? Where can they find if you have an OnlyFans? We didn't even get to it. So that's something for the next episode. Where can they find all your stuff? Where can they give you bunches, bunches of Honey Bunches of Vats? No, where can they give you, uh, bunches of money?
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Amazing. Everything will be linked in the notes below. Thank you so much for showing up, being your full self, and having fun with me on Sex Party. I, I can't wait to have you back. So, you know, we'll have to schedule that like ASAP.
Okay, let's do it. Love it. Amazing. Thank you. Thank you. Talk soon.
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