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Oh, the table part. Yeah. So, that's wild. So, I had this uh longer-term coaching client a couple months ago and um he was not having the best of luck with his online dating. We did a couple tweaks here and there to fix it and he's got some much better results now.
But one of the things that was really funny was this dialogue back and forth where um you know this guy he was talking to said something to him along the lines of um what was it? um you know, you're smart, you're educated, you're handsome, you're tall, you have a good job, you bring a lot to the table, something blah blah blah. And then he tongue and cheek, you know, he shouldn't have, you know, responded with, "Okay, well, what do you bring to the table?" You know, and that's where you can start to go offside, but I think, you know, if you're not really into a chick, who cares, you know, she doesn't like what you have to say. It's kind of the attitude that most guys at that level have.
Anyway, she ended up reporting him and he got blocked off the dating app because of it. But she came back with something along the lines of, "Well, I'm I'm I'm thoughtful." You know, like when you ask her like, "What do you bring to the table?" Dude is rich, tall, jacked, handsome. You know, you go right down the list like the six is all the stuff that the women want want. And you know, she comes back with, "Well, I'm thoughtful. I'm considerate. I'm smart." You know, basic [ __ ] Like basic [ __ ] [ __ ] Um but that's but that's the level of of of disconnect that exists. It is what it is. You guys enjoying the show. Let's go to the painful truth.
Now, I always get flack when I correct women explain that men don't want a boss girl or that beautiful women aren't the prize. It's the high value men that are putting the dent in the universe who are the prize. Beautiful women are reasonably common, but the top shelf men that they all want and are chasing on dating apps certainly aren't. There's lots of pretty girls out there. Um, most of them aren't on dating apps. Most of them you'll find on Instagram. You'll find them at your gym. You'll find them at a hot yoga studio. You'll find them in large urban centers. You'll find them on yachts. You'll find them, you know, I can keep going right down the list. They're out there. Um, they usually don't need dating apps to to be around guys or successful wealthy guys. Um, but there's a lot more beautiful women than what there are topshelf men really is what we're driving at here.
However, it's Becky's disconnect from the reality of what men want and her impossibly high standards for a man that keeps her single, lonely, and perpetually angry. Her own solopsism prevents her from seeing the flaws in her thinking. Inner reflection isn't a skill that's in her wheelhouse. If you're unfamiliar with the term solopypsism, it's been thrown around a lot for years, especially in the man swamp. Um, it's women's inability to see past their own noses. They kind of live in their own head. They don't see things from outside perspectives the way that uh guys can or to the extent that guys can. At least I can put it that way. When Becky settles, let's keep moving through here.
At some point, Becky eventually does settle and she makes concessions when she realizes that she can't have it all. This is where [ __ ] starts to get really serious, by the way. Uh she makes concessions when she realizes that she can't have it all. This is when things can go very badly for the pluggedin beta men that she hooks her wagon to. You don't want to be this guy. This is why you need to know what Becky looks like so that you're careful, gentlemen.
You see, Becky hits a phase in her life, usually in her 30s, where she can no longer ignore her biological imperative, shouting at her about having kids. She desperately wants to have those kids. But when she doesn't, but what she doesn't really want to be a hands-on mother, she just wants to pop them out, take a few weeks off on maternity leave, drop them off at a daycare center, and then keep climbing the corporate ladder. Sometimes Becky cooks up crazy ideas like not even carrying her own children, using a surrogate instead or insisting that she skip natural child birth completely, use sorry, skip natural child birth completely and use a C-section because she's too posh to push.
You talk to any of these doctors that deliver babies, they they have a a joke where they go around saying that a lot of these women today are too posh to push. They don't want to bother with the child birth. They don't want to uh be inconvenience. It's C-section or even worse, they want to pay a surrogate to carry the child for them so they don't ruin their body, have to take time off work and all that sort of stuff. And it's beyond me where the idea is cooked up in women's minds that it is smart to go and have a child and then drop it off at a daycare center and let random strangers that you don't know who are usually getting paid minimum wage to look after your prodigy, your DNA, your offspring, your children. Just it just it just blows my mind. It's insane to me that that is so common. But let's carry on.
She wants to be a bride with all the wedding day glitz and glam. She just doesn't want to be a loving and caring wife or even a mother. She wants all the rewards and social praise for all of this, but without any of the accountability that comes with it. You know, you see a lot of there's there's some clout to be had for women today with social media moms, like the social media moms where they have two or three kids and they're like the mom boss or the mommy blogger or something like that. Um, and I think when women move from the party years phase, when they start to realize that their sexual market value, their beauty, and their level of attractiveness is on the decline, that they that they switch over to mom mode. Um, and this is where the plugged in beta males get destroyed, which we're going to explain a little bit. Uh, she wants all the Okay, social praise.
So, when Becky finds her equal partner, quote unquote, he often isn't her first, second, or even third choice. He is merely just a quote unquote good enough fit. He is usually a beta chump plugged into society's comforting lies who will unwittingly go through the very slow and soul sucking process of betatization through a thousand concessions during the time he spends with Becky, the boss girl who has it all. I talked about betization through the through a thousand concessions in my first book. It's just stamping everything. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. She wants this. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. And guys will all It's not a question if a man will go through betatization. It's a question of to what extent. All men. I wrote the book on this [ __ ] and even I c have to catch myself. All men will go through betatization. It's just to what extent. Most guys get destroyed. Like in the video that I showed you early on at the opening. Um, there's uh there's a pretty good example with and again you know it's all a skit and a play but that dork is basically the plugged in beta male that she hitches her wagon to um and then he takes care of things you know. Um, yeah let's keep going.
Uh, she complains to her friends around her that he, we're talking about the plugged in beta, that he is not quite tall enough, not quite handsome enough, not quite rich enough, not quite competent enough, not quite good enough in bed, but she's run out of time and therefore out of options. After after all, every guy that she's pined for or even pursued diligently in the past just didn't want to commit to her. So, settling is what she often now has to do. After the months leading up to the big fancy wedding, the brutal dieting to squeeze herself into decent shape so she can get into her dress for wedding photographs and the engagement and the honeymoon, uh, two weeks in an exotic location so she can just get all the pictures she needs for social media clout. You see this all the time, guys. Don't tell me you're missing this on social media. You see it. Um, and an extravagant home purchase with a large mortgage that they can barely afford. Becky might eventually get pregnant, assuming her husband's testosterone levels haven't tanked over the preceding years of nagging.
Fast forward a few years, Becky now has her kids out of the way. She's put on more weight. By the way, um, women on average, I was listening to another audio book today as I was going for my stroll. Uh, Dr. Warren Ferrell, uh, why men are the way they are, I think it's called. Um, and it's just a conversation back and forth, and I heard somewhere in there that women on average gain about 15 pounds after the wedding. Remarkable. Anyway, uh eventually get pregnant. Fast forward a few years, she has her kids out of the way. She's put on some more weight and become all about the kids, even when it's not about the kids. She henpexs her husband into a complete happy wife, happy life beta male. She stops being sexually intimate with him on a regular basis, sometimes only using it as a weapon to get what she wants. He starts googling, "How do I get my wife to [ __ ] me?"
Becky lacks any self-awareness. By the way, guys, if you want to have a laugh, go like search on Reddit for uh married men that are on the platform Reddit talking to each other about why their wives aren't banging them. That like the conversation back and forth. And by the way, it's not just the wives not banging the husbands. There's even some husbands that aren't banging the wives, too. Uh, which must be an awful circumstance because I can't imagine a scenario where a guy would just not want to bang. Um, like I guess women just get that unattractive after a while when you're in close proximity. By the way, proximity, familiarity, and exclusivity is another chapter in the book which I will be covering as well. Just get the book, guys. It's it's honestly I know that the that the sequel never does as well as the original, but in my opinion, the five years that I put into the sequel, it's a far better book. It's far more complete. Uh, the people that I know that have read it have all said that it's a freaking masterpiece. So, grab yourself a copy. The holidays are coming. Get one for your brother. Get one for your dad. Get one for your nephew. Get one for your son. Um, it's it's actually written to be a little bit more mainstream, you know, the first one, too. So, it's not going to ruffle as many feathers, but the two do go better hand in hand. Anyway, uh, she's got the kids out of the way. How do I get my wife to bang me?
Becky lacks any self-awareness. She often blames hormones or her baby weight. Uh or she claims uh he doesn't do enough chores around the house to make her want sex. That's called chore play, by the way. So, three times a year or so ends up being the frequency if he's quote unquote lucky enough. Becky closes her eyes, assumes a starfish position. Very reluctantly, she grants her husband sexual access. Yet, she used to enthusiastically give that access. Sorry. Yet she used to enthusiastically give that access to her first true love, Chad, Tyrone, and so on and so forth. No, no less than three or four times in one night after the foam cannon party in Cancun when she was 22.
It's usually at this point that she watches a film, something like Eat, Pray, Love. If you haven't seen it, uh it's often quoted. It's for a reason. Uh the film Eat, Pray, Love, uh she has a conversation with her girlfriends and does what many Buck Beckies what many Beckys do when they've gotten together with other divorced friends. She files for divorce by announcing something that sounds like, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you. I want a divorce." She thinks she'll find a much better man at this point. A high value man that will want her very average looks now and worn out body. And who will want to take on the burden of raising Sorry. and who will also want to take on the burden of raising another man's children as if they were his own. Don't ever be that man. For more on why smart men Don't marry, read my first book.
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