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Hey y'all, sprinkle sprinkle! How are y'all this afternoon? I just thought I'd pop on real quick. This is not going to be a super long video 'cause I do have somewhere else to be, but I might, maybe, maybe come back on later.
We're going to be talking about the secret to main character energy 'cause some of y'all are asking me, you know, over and over, "How do you get? How do you get main character energy?" The best way to get main character energy is to envision your life as if you're a character in a book or a character in your own movie, and you are the starring or lead role, okay? So you have to imagine yourself as the lead role in your own movie. This is the secret to main character energy.
Now, the lead role in any book or movie or story always has to capture the audience's attention in some form or fashion. Either their story, their looks, their, you know, their character, their personality, whatever it is, you need to be capturing or captivating, okay? So if you have a feature, play up your best features. You know what I mean? You're you're cap- you're captivating your audience as a main charac- as the main character of your life. So you need to have something captivating about yourself. It could be your voice, it could be your looks, it could be your wardrobe, it could be how you speak, you know, whatever. But you need to be captivating in some form or fashion in order to have main character syndrome.
"You said main character syndrome is a flex though. It's it's embarrassing." What do you mean? It's not a flex. If you want to blend into the background of the wall, then great, be the wallflower. But in every great story, there's always a main character and a wallflower. Which one do you want to be? Okay, so you cho- you choose. Blending in into the background, it's, you know, it's good for some people. But if you want that main character confidence and that main character energy, you're going to have to be the main character of your life. It's your life. Why aren't you the main character? That's what I'm teaching.
So many people walk around in their own lives living as an extra, living as a side character. You are the main character of your own life. If you're not, then who's? Who is the main character of your life? And this is where the confidence comes in, because if you're giving too much energy and too much attention to someone else, they are the main character of your life. So not only are they the main character of their own life, they're also the main character of your life. And what does that make you? You see? So that's why I teach main character energy.
Y'all always want to make some type of level of confidence or genius, some type of disorder. Because people that don't have it naturally want to label things all the time, and that's where y'all all went wrong, okay? Y'all always trying to label something. "Oh, that's personality disorder." "Oh, that's main character syndrome." Oh, okay. Well, then just go sit back and watch, sprinkle sprinkle, okay? Go sit back and watch as the wild, the wallflower. Because some of y'all will tell y'allselves anything to not do, do too much. And I'm sick of it. And people need to also get sick of it and start living their best lives again, okay? 'Cause back in the day, we didn't have none of that stupid stuff. People just said, "Look, I'm the main character. Deal with it or not. My way or the highway. You, you in or you out." It wasn't. Y'all too soft in this generation. That's why y'all get stepped on like doormats and walked over and left looking crazy with the label.
Okay, hold on. I got to get my little coffee up. Yeah, y'all stop all of that analyzing crap. Analyze some money. Analyze some main character energy, okay? Sprinkle sprinkle.
He said, "Period." He said, "Doing exactly her tactics will end up signing a business contract." Sprinkle sprinkle. Exactly. Y'all, y'all need to be the main character, not the side character, not the extra.
"Provided ghosts are you and you ignored him and stayed unbothered, he came back and obsessed." Why are men like this? Because they always want what they can't have. Don't y'all haven't y'all figured it out by now? 'Cause I keep trying to tell y'all, if pick-mishes, men don't like pick-mishes unless they need free shelter. That's the only reason that they will want to be around. Yes, unless they can use a pick-bisha. Okay, thank you. Thank you, Louisa. Sprinkle sprinkle. Yeah, men will become obsessed when you stop bothering, when you become the main character of your own life and you stop bothering with them.
Another secret to being a main character is to not care what people think. When you don't care what people think, they have no effect on your main character energy whatsoever because you're going to continue to be the main character that you are and do what you going to do because that's who you are, okay? You're not, you don't need anybody else's permission. You don't need to figure out anything. You already know who you are, and that's who you're going to be, and that's what the world is going to accept, whether they like it or not. That's literally main character energy, okay?
Okay, well, let me see what this is. Thank you, Tinky Winky. "He's the most introvert person you've ever met. He goes to a job and home. How am I going to make him chase after me? He's rich but also has zero interest in any hobbies. He has nothing to talk about." He likes money. Man, talk about money. If all he does is work, which is business, and go home, he likes money. He likes to make money. He don't like- He doesn't like. His hobby is literally making money. So, I mean, if you can talk to him about maybe like, you know, "I've been thinking about starting a business. What, what, what do you think?" Like, he'd probably be on board to talk to you about that 'cause rich people like to teach other people how to get money, especially if that's what their passion is, making money. And just going home, he's already probably done everything. So you can- you got to appeal to his uh, you know, his mental side where, you know, he likes to earn money. So talk about money. Talk about his job. Then he'll want to spend more time with you if he can talk about his interests, which is himself, his job, and his money.
Okay, sprinkle sprinkle. I'm, I'm kind of like that too. Like, if you ain't talking about money, I don't want to talk to you either. Sprinkle. What we going to talk about? You ain't- If we're not talking about money, makeup, and how much money we going to make, or how much money we got, or how much money we going to get from somebody else, what are we talking about? Okay? There's not that many deep spiritual people out there in the world that ain't crazy. So what we f- to talk about anyway?
I'm getting ready to go. Hold on. I got to take. Hey, are y'all on the way? All right, I'll text it to you. No, I'll text it to you. All right, bye. Oh, is it thundering? It's th- It's thundering here. But you, I mean, if y'all want to chance it, okay? I, I'll text it to you right now. Bye. Anyway, sprinkle sprinkle. Hold on. Yeah, I'm have to go in a few. Mhm.
"Said there's not that many deep spiritual people that's not crazy." Social. Yeah. So like, what are we going to talk about? Most people only want to talk about themselves, their own interests, or how they can benefit. So stick to those things, and that's like main character stuff anyway. Mhm. Sprinkle sprinkle.
"You said, 'What, what to say when a man says he's been burned before by giving a girl money?'" What to say? Well, I'm sorry you don't have no money to give. You know, think about this. A man gives money. Man gives money because they want to, okay? You can't get burned if you're willingly giving a woman money. You're not going to get burnt. You just don't want to do it anymore because you ain't got it no more, you know what I'm saying? Sprinkle sprinkle.
A man knows that's the only way he's going to impress a woman unless he can get up and do, you know, 80 push-ups and and flex his muscle and change some oil and and mow some gr- like, how else is a man supposed to impress a woman besides giving her money or providing for her? What can he do? There's nothing he can do but give money, you know? What can he do? How are we supposed? Are we supposed to just laugh at his dumb jokes that aren't funny? That's not impressive. Are we supposed to listen to him talk and half the time he's wrong about everything he's saying? That's not impressive. Where is the money? Main character energy. Don't sit there and like waste time. If, if a man talking about, "I've been bribed before," then 'cause you're boring and all you had was your money and you don't even want to give that. Come on now. Most of the reason that women are even in relationships with men are because of their money. They don't really like you. If they did, you know, you still have to have money to take care of them. So either way, you got to come off that money. Either way, you got to come off up off the money. Whether they like you or not, that's just a given. Period. If they like you, they'll treat you nice. If they don't like you, they'll get the money and try to find reasons not to deal with you, you know what I'm saying? So if you, if you got burned because the woman didn't really like you and all she liked was your money, well, perhaps you need to work on yourself 'cause the money ain't the problem, okay? Half these men don't realize without their money, nobody would even want to deal with them because their personalities, their, um, whatever is not what, you know, what's coveted. Sprinkle sprinkle. Thank you, Tiky Wiki. So if all you got is your money, be happy you got that 'cause everything else ain't working for you, sir. That's what you need to tell them.
All right, men should thrive. Men should be thriving, protective, and providing. They're, they can't impress us any other way. What? What other way are they going to impress us? Okay, okay, Shira.
"A 40-year-old lady told you that you're old-fashioned even though when on dates I tell my standards and one of them is that I don't date and thus their provider." Good, ma'am. That's a good standard. Sprinkle sprinkle. Whether it's old or not, it still brings in money, okay? Sprinkle sprinkle.
"Is there anything I would do if I were 18 again?" Girl, I was having the time of my life when I was 18. Sprinkle sprinkle. "Hang out in richer areas." There you go. You see, y'all women always want men to have it together while they are young. I, yeah, go for older men. That's what I always say. Men aren't- No one's going to have it fully together when they're young unless they're very responsible, and most men that are that age aren't very responsible, you know? So go get the older ones. Uh-huh. And a lot of people say, "Shira teaches to go date old men." Well, go date the young ones then and come back and tell me about it, okay? Y'all go have fun getting pregnant by Brokies still living with their mama. Y'all have a good day. Yes, go date older men that have an actual address that pays taxes, you know, that has money, that has a career, that has savings, 401k, possibly an AARP. I don't care. Y'all want to go date Ray Ray down the street, borrow $20 from his mama every week, every day? Fine. Go do it. If y'all want to date men y'all's own age and then be worried about who they're liking on Instagram? Fine. Go do it. I never tell y'all anything and y'all, you know, that's going to hurt you, but then you're going to come back and complain about your own choices. Shira, my man has-" "How old is he then?" "Why are you dating him? He too young." You know, here my 20-something-year-old man is looking at women on Instagram, okay? And what's he supposed to be doing? Taking a nap in the middle of the day and letting you spend his credit card that has no limit? Oh, wait. He's too young for that. I forgot. Sprinkle sprinkle. Well, that's up to you, ma'am. Do what you got to do. You said they want to learn the hard way. Mhm. And by the time they learn, it's too late. They already stuck with somebody that can't do nothing for them and got to sit there and deal with it, okay? I'm trying to tell y'all from the start. Sprinkle sprinkle. Mhm.
If you don't want to date old men, then don't date them. You don't got to marry them. You can go out with them a few times, get your car fixed, do this, do that, and then be out. You don't have to sleep with them. Y'all think everything is all or nothing. That's the problem with women. It's, it's either all or nothing with y'all. Y'all don't, y'all don't think like, "Okay, for a few weeks, I'mma go out to dinner with this old, old, old dude and all my problems are going to be solved, and then I'm on to the next." That's what they do to y'all on them dating websites. That's why every time y'all come in here, y'all are about, "Oh, I went out two, three times with this dude and he ghosted me." Why don't y'all do the same thing to them, but get their money with it, okay? Learn from y'all's mistakes. Learn from the people in these comments. Y'all are doing everything backwards. Y'all ain't got to marry them. Y'all ain't even got to sleep with them. Y'all just got to get their money and then be out. Just like they got to sit across the table from you looking like they can pull something young and only pay for three dinners. Ma'am, you're upping their status just by going out with them.
"A lady you talk to asking men on dates to provide is old-fashioned and you want it, you won't find it in this day." Is she right? No, she's not right. She's probably unable to do it herself. Sprinkle sprinkle. And I don't know where you live, but you know it, I don't know where you live. It's different in different areas. For over here, you can find a man to paint any day. Sprinkle sprinkle. I was about, I was out and about today. You know, the man was trying to give me eye contact. He could have paid for everything. I don't know. It's not, it's not hard. Just, just do what you got to do. Sprinkle sprinkle.
Anyway, see, all I hear in the comments, there are a lot of self-defeating things in the comments. Main character energy, they don't see obstacles, they only see solutions, okay? Especially if they're a, you know, a main character that's winning. Y'all got to stop looking at the negative side of things and just go get it, okay? It's out there if you want it. People sense when you're doubtful and negative. They know they can play on that. And people sense when you're positive and optimistic. And the only way to get your attention is to give you what you want. You know, your man is providing, but for you, but be micro-cheating and flirting. Now I leveled up and see what your man interested in. Me? Should I ditch you? Girl, you should have both, both until you tired of that one, then go on, move on to the next. Sprinkle sprinkle.
"You're 19, model, slim, and pretty. You smile and dress modest, yet men seem too scared of me. Is it getting exhausting?" Maybe they think you're too much and they will never be able to keep you or attain you or make you happy. You got to find somebody that actually can afford you with the same type of ego, you know what I mean? With a high ego, who can afford you. You need to be trying to date millionaires. Go to the rich, rich, rich side of town. Not the regular rich, but go to like gala's, go to parties, mingle with millionaires and billionaires, okay? Sprinkle sprinkle. Thank you, Miss Jennifer, for the super sticker. Sprinkle sprinkle. You got to get up there on the higher level where men aren't going to be intimidated by you 'cause all the women that they attract look like you, okay? Sprinkle sprinkle.
Okay, I'm not going to be over on here for long. I said I said that. Okay, so another thing about main character energy, they don't believe the doubters, they don't believe the haters, they just keep going and prove everyone wrong. That's the whole point of a movie main character, you know? They always come out there on top. They always prove a point. They always do these things. They don't sit there and listen to naysayers and, you know, they're like, "Whatever, I'm the main character, I do what I want." So just make sure you keep that type of attitude, and that's what's, that's what's going to happen to you. If you keep doubting yourself and listening to other people that are doubting, everything that, that's where y'all belong together, doubting and just doubting and never getting anywhere. Think about it. Main character energy does not care what other people think, okay? They just don't.
"How do we act if he wants to lower your allowance for two months because of money problem?" Get another one. You're supposed to have two anyway. Sprinkle sprinkle. If you don't have two, then that's why you're asking this question. Time. Sprinkle sprinkle. Got you need a backup, ma'am. It's the same like when you have a, when you have a car, don't you got a spare tire? Mhm. There you go. Same thing. Backup. Or you should have already been started your business with the money that he's already given you in the past, and you should have your own streams of income by now, okay? Sprinkle sprinkle. Thank you, Elizabeth. I appreciate that. Thank you, JFK.
"You spent 5K on what?" "Spent 5K on boyfriend 'cause he said to warn him beforehand." Huh? "Oh, you spent 5K on your boyfriend's credit card?" Good for you, ma'am. Sprinkle sprinkle. Hope you feel good. Appreciate that. Appreciate that.
Okay, time. Yeah, I'm, I got to go in a few minutes, y'all. So you let me, let me know if y'all got something real quick that y'all want to throw in there 'cause I'm going to be wrapping this up real soon. But I might be back on later, okay? So don't be too sad. I might be back on this evening, okay? Mhm.
He said, "How to deal with jealous, controlling boyfriend?" "Deal with another man." Sprinkle sprinkle. Ghost that one and get the, get the next one, baby. There's no reason you should be dealing with anybody controlling and jealous. That's called like, you know, that's not even, that's not even freedom. You're not free, okay? If you allow someone, just because he says he's your boyfriend, to control you, ain't got no ring, ain't got no marriage license, I'm sure he don't pay 100% of all your bills. So why would you let a fool be jealous and controlling over you that hasn't contributed much to your life at all? You know what I mean? Y'all let them do that 'cause y'all think it's cute. It ain't cute. And if they're, if they're not doing the most, they can't talk. They can't tell you nothing, you know? You should just laugh at them whenever they try to say stuff like, "I still have a-" This is what you tell them. Because I know I'm not 100% sure, but this is what you tell them. "You still got a-" "Do you still have a car note?" "If you still got a car note, like, I still got a car note. I still got my own last name. I still got this, and I still got that." Who are you talking to? All right, I would laugh in their face too. Mercedes, I'll be like, "Do it again so I can record it." Because that's how hilarious it is. You can't. Y'all are allowing that. If a man ever fixed his mouth to say something crazy to me, I would literally record it and be laughing at him, okay? Sprinkle sprinkle. Because that's just crazy. You can't, you can't talk to nobody like that unless they allow you to. Mhm. Yes.
"Moving to Arizona next month and plan to drop by Texas after you settled in. Where are the ranchers and farmers?" And girl, look it up. There's thousands of ranches in Texas. Just look up riches ranch and go there. Ranches, richest ranch owners, and there you go. Put it on your, put it on your, uh, your maps, okay? Be like on Yellowstone, just break down in front of the, the richest ranch. Sprinkle sprinkle.
"You said, 'Will people get jealous if you start being that main character?' Who cares, ma'am? You're the main character. Why do you care what extras and side characters think? It's your movie." Sprinkle sprinkle. That's one of the, that's one of the things about being a main character. You don't care what other people think. You just going to do what you do. Either they accept it or they don't. That's it. Stop thinking about so much what other people think. If you, if you have to check about what other people think, you're not even being who you are. You're being who they want you to be. Think about it.
"Level up advice for a 20-year-old in nursing school." Uh, don't date broke. Sprinkle sprinkle. Date people that make more money than you in the future. Don't date broke. All right, all right. Yeah, that's it. That's my advice for a lot of women.
"How do you do main character without being arrogant?" How do you do main character without arrogant? You're not arrogant. Only the people that see you as arrogant don't have the same level of confidence, and y'all aren't going to make it anyway, baby. Sprinkle sprinkle. Hang around people that have the same main character energy, the same level of confidence in order to be themselves. If you have to lower yourselves for other people because they think you're arrogant, their self-esteem is low anyway. They're already jealous of you. It's time to move on, okay? Sprinkle sprinkle. Thank you, Alandra.
"Can you speak more on communication? When they say you need to communicate or tell them to, that means you need to spell out everything 'cause they're stupid." Sprinkle sprinkle. Okay. It's, it's instead of saying, "Hey, I'm really stupid and dumb and I can't set, uh, catch social clues. You're going to have to spill everything out to me 'cause I'm that stupid." That's what they're telling you. That something is wrong with them, and you got to do more in order for them to understand you, okay? Sprinkle sprinkle.
"What income streams do you recommend starting?" Any ones that you're passionate about, that you're going to do without getting tired of, and that you will continuously invest in. So that's up to you, okay? Mhm. Anything that AI can't do or take over. There you go. All right. So like, if someone says, "Oh, you're just arrogant." It's like, "Well, I'm sorry your confidence and your level of confidence and self-esteem is not on the same as mine. Sorry if I come off across as arrogant. Maybe you're just a little bit insecure or just automatically start acting stupid and dumb." I'm sorry. Is this better? Tell me one of those jokes again so I can pretend they're funny and laugh. A lot of times men don't even like who you really are. That's why sometimes you got to fake playing dumb 'cause they don't like certain types of women. They don't like women who know their value and worth. So sometimes you got to use reverse psychology on people and still be the main character and act like everything is their idea when you're literally planting the seeds and just using power of suggestion. So either way, whatever, whatever you're good at, just play, just play the game according to what's best for you, okay? 'Cause some people, they can't pull off playing dumb, so they have to like use reverse psychology and sarcasm a little bit. Sprinkle sprinkle. So depending on who you're dealing with and who you are, that's you're just going to have to figure it out. Mhm. Sprinkle sprinkle.
Yeah, and no matter what, uh, as a main character, you need to always stay leveling up and representing, okay? You got to keep going. Um, you, you know, most main characters have some type of story or purpose or something that they represent, some type of archetype. So you also need to find that, okay? And after a while, it's going to be so easy, you're not even, you're not even going to be able to, you know, live life as a background character anymore. You're always going to be the main character everywhere you go, no matter what, okay?
"Don't want to be a nurse or purse." Okay. "You said late 50s female, don't want to be a nurse or purse." Okay, ma'am, then take care of your looks and go get you a man that's in good health that's that's older. Sprinkle sprinkle. He might be your nurse. Sprink sprinkle. Find a man that's in good health that's older. Usually they'll be at the gym, they'll be at, you know, places where people serve healthy meals and healthy foods, you know, they'll be playing, you know, some tennis or they'll be like doing pickleball or some type of golf or something. Go out where men are actually doing something physical and older. You don't have to be nobody's nurse 'cause they probably going to live longer than you. Sparkle. All right, the key if you don't want to be a nurse is to find healthy old man, okay?
"Your provider is being clingy since we moved in together, being passive aggressive. I'm not entertaining it, but it sucks. He's 47." Girl, he's my age. You're 28. What to do? Okay, uh, he's too young. 47 in his mind, he's 37. Honestly, I wouldn't even be at home. You said he's being clingy, then you need to have some business, you know what I mean? You got to have something to do so that he can't be clingy. You know, like, let me tell you a secret, he's not going to be clingy if you keep finding stuff to do. So for example, you know, if you're like, you know what, "We should decorate. Redecorate. Yes, we need some new rugs. We need some new that. Oh my gosh, you know what? I feel like we, I need some plants for the, you know, the yard or whatever. Let's go to Home Depot." Like, just start staying busy so he's less clingy on you. If you're going to sit around and watch TV all day or lay around in the house or, you know, he always wants to go somewhere with you, it's because you're doing stuff that he's, you know, not repelled by. So you need to do stuff that repels him away from you, like wanting to spend money, wanting to go shopping, wanting to redecorate. You got to find some business that he's not interested in, and he will not cling to you, okay? Sprinkle sprinkle. All right.
He said, "On ethos strikes again." You got to find some business that he's not going to want to be a part of. He said, "Give him a project." Yeah, you can give him a project or repel him with things that he's not going to want to be clinging with.
"What if he's 74 and separated, currently working on his, but wants to date me and takes me places? How do I lock it down?" Girl, what 74-year-old man do you know is in divorce court, ma'am? He's been telling that lie since he was 50. Do you really believe that? Sprinkle sprinkle.
"Okay, a man at work wants you while he has a girlfriend." Won't pay. Oh, he can want all he wants. Don't mean you going to do nothing. Sprinkle sprinkle. And especially he ain't giving you nothing. What? What's the point? You're 24.
"How do you navigate dating rich men and making rich friends when I come from broke lifestyle trauma and chaos?" Well, first of all, stop telling people that. That's number one. Number one, stop telling people that because why do we need to know? Nobody cares. That's number one. Number two is learn by people watching, by learning etiquette, by doing whatever you need to do, and then put yourself in the environment, okay? Put in the work and stop telling everybody your business. Sprinkle sprinkle.
"Okay, you read my whole level up book in one go today. Loved it. Thank you, Shira." Thank you, ma'am. Sprinkle sprinkle. I appreciate it. Y'all can get the other ones. There's like eight more and they're longer, but I appreciate that. That was the intro one. Yeah, never tell people about your trauma. Never tell people about any of that other stuff. Why? Why do they need to know? What are they going to do? Go back in time and fix it? Yeah. So get the money and stop telling people your business. That's so true. Mhm.
"You said, 'Why do so many rich men make their wives work?'" They don't make their wives work. Their work, their wives probably, if they do make their wives work, it's because they don't really want them around much, so they could do something else, or their wives probably want to work to stay away from them. Either way. Sprinkle sprinkle.
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