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You are not losing him because you do too little; you are actually losing him because you do too much. If you ever try to win your man back or even get him hooked in the first place by doing too much, by going over and beyond just to please him, yet he doesn't react and in fact it pushes him away even more, then sit down and watch this video. Your over-giving is actually the reason that he does not want you. Trust me, ladies, after watching this video, you will understand why and you will never over-give again.
Hi guys, it's you and Amaya, welcome back to my channel. I miss you guys so much. I'm so happy you're back in my channel and since part one, y'all loved it, y'all went crazy. It has so many comments, so many different perspectives. I thought I need to do a part two on this topic and dive a little deeper into it. And also guys, I wanted to mention that if you need more personalized help in becoming the dream woman, then my coaching's are for you. And also, it makes me so happy. I just want to thank every one of you that had a coaching with me. You guys make me so, so, so happy. I love you. I love every one of you. And also, your messages make me so happy. Like, literally, there's nothing in this world that could make me happier than this.
So guys, in this video, since it's part two, we're going to dive deeper into the topic. And if you haven't watched part one, then go and watch it. And by the end of this video, I will leak some comments that I loved under my last video and I'm going to say something about it. So watch until the end.
All right guys, in this video, I will teach you how to do nothing. I will teach you how to do exactly nothing. If you think that in this video I'm going to teach you how to do little, little, little, no, I'm going to teach you how to do nothing at all. So first of all, let me explain something to you that I you need to know. I already explained it in my last video, but let me explain it again, okay?
So let's say you meet a man, he likes you, he puts in a lot of effort to make you happy and you see it, you notice it. You notice how much effort he's giving into the relationship. So his energy level is here. This is how much energy and effort he's giving into the relationship. And this is you. You are here and he's here. And you see how much effort he's putting in. You see how much he's doing for you. You see how many flowers he got you. You see how many dates you went with him. So you might think, okay, let me increase it a little bit. Let me increase it more and more until you are here at his level. And all of a sudden, he sees it and he goes down, down, down, down until there is nothing left. And now you're here going crazy, going insane because you think, why am I doing so much? Now he's doing nothing? What is wrong? And then you think, okay, you know what? I'm going to do more and more and more. But the more you do, the less he's going to do. And now your relationship, your talking stage is over because he's doing nothing anymore. Then you're here, you're sitting, you're thinking, oh my god, I'm thinking about the old beautiful times where he used to put so much effort into the relationship and I loved, I loved it so much. Like I missed it. I actually missed it so much. Just know that this is the minute that you know you have to move on from somebody.
So once you understand the energy levels, we can work with that. Understand that the less you do, the more he is going to do. So number one reason why you, you lady watching this video, should do nothing in a relationship, you should do nothing with this man or for this man is because it reveals the true cards. So you don't lose. It's a win-win for you. Many ladies asked me under my last video, okay, let's say I do nothing and then all of a sudden he does do nothing as well. He's just going to look for another woman and forget about me and ghost me. Then I lost him. The answer is no, honey, you did not lose him. It actually just revealed who he was because as a matter of fact, a man who ghosts you because you don't put in enough effort and he's a man and he ghosts you, that means that man had never any serious intentions with you. That man was just here to have some fun and move on. So you don't lose at all.
Second scenario would be he's putting a lot of effort and you're doing nothing and he sees it, he acknowledges it. And because he acknowledges it and his ego might be a little hurt, he's going to do more, more, more, more. And you can increase your level a little bit as well. But as a matter of fact, your balance should always look like that. You always want to stay here and he should always stay here.
Number two, why you as a woman should always do nothing is because the power of the choice. As a matter of fact, choice for a man is essential. Everything that he does for you has to be his own choice. Leading into the relationship or even marrying you, it has to feel like it was his choice. Whatever he feels like it's not my choice anymore, it's like it was just like given to me like just like that or I just got into it, he will not like it. He will resent it. And as a matter of fact, men are the pursuers. They are the ones pursuing you, not the other way around, okay?
So let's say you have a man in your life right now. Right now, you are seeing him once a week, every Friday and he calls you every other day at 8:00 p.m. It goes on like this for three weeks. Or let's say four weeks. All of the sudden you started to realize, wow, I really like this man. Actually, I want to see him more often. Actually, I want him to call me more. Then you start to think, hmm, I might just like text him, okay? I might just like text him something. You go on, you text him. Hey, why don't we see each other more often? Hey, why don't you call me more often? It's so off. Like, what is wrong with you? Congratulations because that is the minute you ruined it. I'm going to tell you why. Now it feels like, okay, it's not my choice anymore. I do not want it anymore. That's what he thinks. With his ego, that is what he thinks. I don't want it anymore because it's not my choice anymore. Now it's another task. She's another task. I only have tasks in my life. I have nothing to desire. I don't want it anymore. And that is key. They want you to be his desire and his desire should not be a complaint or someone nagging or someone pushing him to do something because then now it feels like a task.
So what you want to do is nothing. If you want to see him more often, you do nothing. Okay, you do nothing. You wait until he steps up and he actually wants to see you more. As a matter of fact, whether he wants to see you once a week or twice a week, it's always his choice. He will see you as much as he wants to and he will text you as much as he wants you and he will call you as much as he wants to. So if he's only calling you once a week, that is how much he wants to call you. If he's calling you every single day, that is how much he wants to call you. And you as a woman, you want to do nothing. You will sit back and observe, okay, how much does he actually want to call me? How much does he actually want to see me? As a matter of fact, whenever you meet a man, whenever you meet someone, in the beginning, most of the times it's like that. You will not see this person that often. It could increase and it could not. And if it increases, that's how you know he likes you. If it does not increase, that is how you know he's just wasting your time because he doesn't like you that much. So as a woman, you will do nothing, okay? You will not call him, you will not text him, you will not push him to see you more. You will do nothing.
Also, do not advise anything by actually not advising it. It could look like that. Hey, so I know we just saw each other like yesterday, but I just wanted to let you know that on Friday I don't have any work, you know, it's my day off, so I just wanted to let you know that. Do not do something like that. Also, do not do something like that. Hey, I just wanted to let you know that right now I'm near your office and I just wanted to let you know, like I'm just drinking a coffee here. Do not do anything like that. Not in any kind. You do nothing.
Number three, I want you to stop posting stories on Instagram or I don't know, Facebook, Snapchat, whatever you use. You think, okay, I'm just like going to put on a nice outfit, do my makeup, do my hair, put on a nice Instagram song above it and just post it and see how he reacts. He knows. Okay, he knows 100% that you are posting that story for him. He knows 100% you're doing all that for him, okay? Number one reason why you should never do that. First of all, you will seem desperate. Second of all, his ego will be pushed until skyrocket. Now he feels like, "Okay, she's already that much into me. Like I'm not going to I'm going to stop putting in effort actually. Like I can tell she's just she's doing all that, posting all the stories just to get my reaction. Oh, I'm not going to do that." And even if you do not post any stories for him or to get any reaction, sometimes they still do think that you actually did all that just to get his reaction. So if you're in a talking stage with someone, I advise you either do not add them on Instagram or Facebook or anything that you use or you will decrease your posting so you don't post as much anymore.
Reason number four why you as a woman you should do nothing for a man is because when men don't get their way, that is the minute they will start to respect you. And they will start to fall for you. So I have a story on that, okay? Let's call this woman Grace. Her name is Grace and she is dating John right now. They have been dating for like four weeks. And after the fourth date, he did something so special for her. He took her to the most special dinner. He bought her a nice gift. He bought her roses. And by the end of the night, they had a beautiful walk. And they kissed for the first time. Now John and Grace's date has come to an end and now she's going home and he's going home. And John thinks, "Hmm, you know, I did so much for her. I expect a reaction of her. I do know what is coming right now." So John is expecting her to get attached and to go crazy over him and to start calling him and texting all the time and like just being all up over his face. That is what he expects because that is what he has seen all the time. That is what he has been through all the time. That is what he expects. But Grace on the other hand, she goes home. She continues with her life. Next day, 8:00 a.m. she has a Pilates class. After that, she's going to work. She's not calling him. She's not texting. She's not doing anything. In fact, she almost forgot about the date. She says, "Yeah, it was a really nice date." And she moves on just like that with her own life. All of a sudden, John starts to notice something. "Why is she not calling and texting me? Why is she so weird? Why is she so distant? Why does she act like she doesn't care? Am I not enough? Was that not enough? That's impossible. Every single woman in my life fell for it." He starts to go crazy. He starts to chase you down the hill. That is what he is starting to do because he sees, "Okay, all his effort doesn't do anything. All his effort is not making this woman attached. Oh my god, I have to do more." And that is exactly, my dear, why you as a woman you will always do nothing. Could not be easier, right?
As a matter of fact, men know what they need to do to get women hooked. They know all the tricks. They know what women fall for. They know that we love flowers and beautiful nice dinner dates. But because they know that, we as women we have to be smarter and actually remain detached all the time until we see and notice that this man, he's actually worth it.
Now let's move on to my favorite part, the comment section. One girl is saying, "It feels so exhausting." So doing nothing feels so exhausting? Doing nothing is a jackpot for us women. We don't have to do anything. Nothing at all. Could it be easier? I swear, if men could switch their places with us, they 100% would. 1,000% would.
And now my favorite one. "As a man, I'm telling you right now, if you follow what this woman is saying along with the others in this comment section, you will end up with a man, if any at all, that does not care about you at all. Despite what he gives you, you'll have nothing but a transactional relationship."
Now this man has probably seen my video. He was sitting in his bedroom. He has seen it and he was like, "Oh my god, what does she mean? What does she mean women shouldn't do anything at all? I might be actually in danger because now I can't use any woman anymore. Oh my god, I have to comment something so that these women don't listen to her because otherwise I will be left with nothing. There's not going to be a single woman left in this world that I can use or harvest her energy. That's really dangerous. That might be a nightmare for me."
So yes, guys, this is a perfect example of what I have told you in my first video that man will test you and man will complain to you and tell you all the things just to make you put in more efforts. But as a matter of fact, it's a test for you as a woman. If he complains, remember, say yes, acknowledge his feelings, acknowledge how he feels and tell him that. And the next day you will move on doing nothing. Never ever listen to what these men say to you because men will tell you do this, do this, do that. But that is not what they actually want. They want a woman who is hard to get. They want a woman they have to invest in. They just know that it will require a lot of effort for them. But they know as a matter of fact, they will fall for a woman like that.
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