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Number five, they will be protective of your life. This one is very important. They would be protective of your life, your health, and your interests. A true friend must be protective of your life. A true friend must be protective of your health. Always watch out.
This is one of the ways fathers will know their true children. They will know the children that really love them. This is one of the ways parents will know the children that really love them. They will be protective of your life, your health, and your interests. They are very sensitive to your state of health.
In Exodus 18 verse 18, you see Moses' father-in-law telling Moses, "Easy to read version says, 'It is too much work for you to do alone. You cannot do this job by yourself. It wears you out. It wears you out and it makes the people tired.'" They can never hear or see anything that is damaging or dangerous to your interests and keep it to themselves. That is why any time people are talking about someone they know you really love, and they are talking negatively about that person, when you come in, when you come close to them, they stop talking because they know you will certainly inform that person. They know you will certainly inform that person. And talk less of when they are even planning to do damage to that person or cause that person harm. They can never say it in your presence because they know you really love that and as such, you would tell him.
Number six, there are seven of them. Number six, genuine friends are those that are honest and sincere in their feelings and actions towards you. Too many fake relationships and unfortunately, [Music] the fake friends are the ones that had that have the sweetest tongue. [Music] The people that love you so much and may not be saying it all the time. They may not be saying it all the time.
Genuine friends are honest and sincere in their feelings and actions towards you. In your absence, they speak about you the same way they would have done in your presence. So they don't gossip about you when behind you and or join others to malign your name. [Music] But when you are around, or someone very close to you is around, they won't say what they will say in other places. In your prayers, in your absence, they won't act in this. They will act in the same way that they would have done if you are physically present. They will not betray you, no matter the enticement, no matter the offer. They will not betray you. They always proudly identify with you, even when you are under serious criticism. They would always proudly identify with you.
A true friend is sincere and real, not double-faced, not deceptive in their supposed feelings or actions towards you. For instance, Judas even kissed Jesus Christ on the day he executed his plot of betrayal. He gave the hell, they all, the elders of the you know, of the Pharisees, and said he gave them a sign that this is the way you will know the one that is Jesus. This is the way you know my master. As you are coming, I will go towards him and I will kiss him. That's the way you know the particular person that is Jesus. And this is quite symbolic that there are many people that may even give us signs of so much love and affection, but in their heart, it's a different agenda. I pray that God will deliver you from our friendly friends in the name of Jesus. Whatever they say or do for you is based on their good thoughts and goodwill towards you, not out of flattery, not out of eye service.
Lastly, the seventh attribute of a genuine friend is that some, not all, not all genuine friends have this, but any, any friend that has this seventh attribute is a genuine friend. And if you are single, and that person you know is also single, that can be a very, very good marriage material for you. And who are these people? Some friends may even have a soft spot for you. A soft spot for you. This issue of a soft spot is a deep mystery, very powerful, very powerful. To have a soft spot for someone means to be empathetic towards that person, to be supportive and compassionate consistently towards that particular person, more than you do for other people. Sometimes it could be for a particular child. Sometimes it could be towards a particular sibling. Sometimes it could be towards a particular friend. When you truly have a soft spot for a particular person, there are seven signs you will know. [Music]
One, you will express prolonged patience with that person. Prolonged patience. Prolonged visions. [Music]
Number two, you would express a lot of understanding with that person. Most of the time, you will be the one coming up with excuses [Music] on behalf of that person. You will be the one coming up with excuses that, you know, I, I think I believe this may be the reason why this is happening, even without the person saying it. You, you come up with excuses on behalf of that person. You show a lot of understanding. What, what others will harshly and quickly react to from that person, no, no, no. You are, you are very, very slow to react.
Number three, you will express a lot of tolerance towards the person's errors or mistakes or shortcomings. A lot of tolerance. And you see where you will know that this is really a soft spot. Even the things that you don't tolerate from other people, you will tolerate it from this particular person. [Music] Things you don't tolerate from other people, you will tolerate it from someone you have a soft spot for. [Music]
Please listen to this last part very well because the Holy Spirit is revealing certain things to you. The Holy Spirit is opening your eyes to see the value of someone in your life. [Music] The real value of a particular, are some people in your life. And these are people that genuinely have a soft spot for you. They will show prolonged tolerance. [Music] Some people can, you know, there's tolerance from the realm of magnitude. So something very, very severe, they will tolerate it. Then there's also tolerance over a prolonged period of time. They will show prolonged tolerance of whatever it is, maybe it's your error, your mistakes, your shortcomings.
Number four, someone with whom you have a soft spot for, you will show repeated forgiveness. Repeated, not just forgiveness. Forgiveness is on the ordinary level of friendship. Repeated forgiveness of that person's mistake, of that person's offense. So if someone can do something bad to you, and that's the end of that relationship, you never had a soft spot for that person. You never had a soft spot. When you have a soft spot for, you will forgive that person over and over. In fact, you may even sometimes say it is over, only for you, on your own, to go back and have a clear mind towards that person. [Music] Repeated forgiveness of that person's mistake, offense, repeated pattern of that person's mistake, repeated pattern of the person's offense is a sign that some, that person that has forgiven you repeatedly has a soft spot for you. If it's your husband, love him more. If he's your wife, love her more. Honor her. Stand with her. Whoever that person is, those are gifts from God to you in the realm of relationship.
Number five, the first, fifth sign of a soft spot is repeated reconciliation with that person. There are things that will happen, and instantly, it is so serious that you just have to stay away. The things that happen, and you see people, friends keeping malice, no longer reaching out to one another. But when one of the two has a soft spot for the other, there'll be reconciliation, and it will happen over and over, over and over. [Music] And people that you have told that, ah, no, no, no, no, it's over with that man, it's over with that man, they'll be surprised to see the two of you together. You'll be surprised to see the two of you together.
And then number six, you would refuse to permanently desert the person. You will refuse. The love you have deep in your heart cannot allow you to permanently desert that person. Your conscience will not. It's not so much of conscience now because, uh, you, you have, you have enough reasons to cut off that person permanently. So it's not so much of conscience. It's actually deep-seated love, which is what we are looking at in the realm of a soft spot. You will refuse to permanently desert the person. You will refuse to permanently abandon the person, despite a prolonged period of challenges. You will still patiently stay with him or her. The person has been going through challenges. You will patiently stay with him or her, despite a prolonged period of unrealized expectations. You will stay patiently stay with him, stay with her, stay with him, stay with her. Praise the Lord. When somebody has a soft spot for you, they will stay, even in the midst of unrealized expectations. They will still patiently stay with you or stay with whoever is in that context.
And the seventh sign of a soft spot is that you will willingly care more, do more, and give more to him or her than you would do for other persons in the same, in the same context as that person. For instance, a child that you give more to, you care more for, you easily pardon for things that you don't tolerate from other children. Mommy or Daddy, you have a soft spot for that child. Could be a sibling, it could be a friend, it could be, you know, you care more for that person. You do more, you give more to that person than you would do for any other person in that same context.
So the question is, is have you been exhibiting these seven tendencies towards a particular person for a long time? If yes, then it means you have a soft spot and sincere love for that person. And two, is there anyone that has been exhibiting these seven tendencies towards you? [Music] You?