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Walk the straight line. Do everything right.
Look at it. Hold on. Wait, wait, wait.
Right. Everything right. Right. Everything right.
You saying something wrong with her? Something wrong with her. So you saying step outside of right to right to try to find what's wrong with her?
I'm saying step outside of right because right is not the most effective solution. Granted, it's one solution, right? But it's not getting you the maximum on your investment fall. This [ __ ] Keep going. Keep going. This is some [ __ ] Ah, take me back to paradise, baby. Listen, I woke up this morning. I woke up this morning like, damn it. I'm supposed to be feeling some of the sand beneath my toes. Y'all understand me, right? Like, going to go get my breakfast, go down to the beach, pick up my $2 smoothie. All right. That's That's what I'm supposed to be doing. Okay. Well, for right now, we got to get back to the work. All jokes aside, well, half jokes aside, cuz I'm I'm I'm realer than a $2 bill. Thank you guys. Thank you guys for the love, for the support, for the respect during my time off, during my sabbatical. I had no idea my travel vlogs of just me just walking through the street and just talking my ish was going to do the amount of numbers. But bump the numbers. It's the weight of the comments in the comments section. It's your guys's particular story understanding of what I am feeling or was feeling is your current reality. You get it? Okay. But thank you guys. Taking off time like that, being a content creator, it feels like a death sentence for a channel, especially of a channel of my size. but also to know that I've created a community. Whether you be a part of the MT army or a part of the MTRS, a community that rides for me, a community that loves me, a community that wants what's best for me, irrespective of the value that they get from the channel to create something like that means the absolute world to me. So, I'll be remiss not to say thank you in one of my first videos back.
Now, if you're not on the live stream side of the algorithm, you haven't seen that I I live streamed a couple days ago, okay? If you haven't seen it, go back over there, take a look at the live stream. I said a lot of thank yous on that live stream and it actually made me think I got to do more live streams on this channel because the energy that I was feeling, it's a lot better of an energy than even doing like just me talking in front of the camera and then looking after the fact at, you know, video performance or the comments or something like that. But being able to communicate to you guys one-on-one is just a different energy. So, be on the lookout. Maybe I'll do a lot more uh live streams and maybe I'll reactivate the red cup talk. Nevertheless, oh, also shout out to everybody who's picking up Viral to Value. I've taken my system, my content system, and how it is that I do this and I put it into curriculum format and they're currently flying off the shelf like hotcakes on an Easter Sunday. So, if you want to know how it is that I do all of this to generate between $50 and $100,000 per month and copy my system, link down description box down below. But anyway, guys, we got to get back up into the content. And I don't know how much longer I'll be doing content like this. So, let's appreciate this communication as it's still here. But I wanted to get back up into this Hitman Holla. Okay. Before I went up on my sabbatical, I did content on his new podcast. He does a podcast with his wife and they were going through a little bit relationship struggles. Now, there's a newer snippet from a different podcast where they talked about a specific situation and I wanted to get back up into it to continue to have this conversation. So, let's do that right now. You guys know how much I love breaking down these podcast conversations. So, how appropriate of a first video back in the normal studio. So, let's get active on this one. Without further ado, now listen. We got to let the beat build for a second. All right, it's going to take a second for this to ramp up. It's going to give us a lot of context, but let's get after it.
Like, if you hide stuff, you can't be yourself front of your partner. I don't think it'll ever work.
Oh [ __ ] that's
Will it work?
I don't think it'll work.
How long we been together?
10 years.
We work.
But we don't communicate.
Uhuh.
What?
That's a growth area.
That's a grow. What we do?
We argue
and he hold grudges.
What we argue about?
his ego.
See, look my ego. PEOPLE THINK I GOT AND I'M NOT EVEN THAT'S WHAT I be saying. I don't even have no ego. That is crazy.
Super.
You think You think I got ego?
Mhm.
That's crazy.
Absolutely.
Why do you feel like
I'm on your side, brother? You good?
Do I got an ego sentiment?
Yeah, you do.
Why do you think I want to hear your side? looking in. Why do you feel like he has an ego?
Well, I think most men who lead well have egos. Sure.
And I know that he leads well cuz you've been with him for 10 years. And you're very smitten and all in love. I'm sitting here watching it.
That means that his leadership is good. Sure. Most she be talking on this [ __ ] Girl, where you been, girl? Where you going? Where you going, honey? A lot of women use ego as a pjorative to control you. Just FYI. But let's keep listening.
Yeah. But it's important for a man to be able to recognize that about himself because
okay,
you know, ego is directly connected to pride and pride comes right before the fall.
This [ __ ] Keep going. Keep going. So, it's important it's important for him to, you know, control his his ego when it comes to his leadership and his woman cuz he'll get more out of her and she'll want to [ __ ] him in more spontaneous places.
What? What?
Come on, Jay.
I don't know how we just we just got to that to the sexual component, but nevertheless, she does have a bit of a point as a man. If you're a leader in a relationship and you're with a woman who truly wants you to lead, with great power comes great responsibility. That's why I always try to push on this channel being a man of high moral character and high integrity. That's why I never push cheating on this channel cuz I think that you should be as truthful as what you possibly can within that. Okay. So, she has slight point. But let's just continue on listening.
COME ON, J. COME ON. WHAT'S UP? What's up, girl? Come on. They got to fix their audio. What
you got to say about that?
She I mean she said it perfectly.
I can't even piggy back off of that.
That's it.
For real.
That's it. We really So this is the type of story we already about little petty. Like now only thing we having a problem with is we just had a newborn. Well, he's
Oh, congratulations.
He's going to be nine months. So her life changed more than mine.
Pay attention. And I say that because, you know, I'm still on the road. I'm still going to she in the house a little more. You know, first she used to be the hard.
Now she nurturing, can't leave this and that. So her days are just kind of feeling caged in what you say you feeling at home. And
well, you're the bread winner.
Like you out having fun and I'm in the house stuck with the baby. You know what I'm saying? So now it's kind of like
signed up for
what? You thought you was going to be outside?
I'm there too though. I'm helping, you know. So we just getting into it. She's just kind of
Okay.
Just trying to maneuver through the new mommy life.
Sure.
Every day.
Watch the body language.
You say that.
Mhm.
Okay.
But we be good a
but we don't communicate at all.
I mean technically that was just a communication. to y'all.
He's telling y'all, but
it's we get into it over the smallest thing and we don't know how to talk things.
What things?
So, we go days because of him without talking and then we don't come back and talk about it. We just brush it under the table. My problem with right now is out of 10 years
she hasn't worked
hasn't been cheated on. No woman came to her as a woman other baby. No other girlfriend. She got multiple cars, houses, ring baby. I did I don't go out. I don't club. I don't I do everything. I'm not saying I'm perfect,
okay?
But I do everything as best I can.
You lead effectively and I do it proudly. That's my baby. Yep.
So today, you know, nine months, my son, nine months, I haven't went nowhere. Been in the house with her. Only time I leave is to work, right?
Mhm.
I haven't went nowhere. My birthday March 29th.
Mhm.
Took a guy trip to Miami where I do every year with my homies. March 19th through the 23rd. First time kicking it since my son been born. Today she's just you out in Miami having fun. I'm stuck in the house with my son and that triggered me really bad because I take care of family. I take care of home. I don't do nothing. My first time going out and she throw it in my face. I feel like that's disrespectful. You do everything to provide peace and you still saying help her find peace.
You're doing everything that you think should provide her peace, but you've got to dig a little bit more into what she needs to have more peace. Because again, you're approaching it with logic. But people will die behind their convictions.
Oh, this is where this is where I lose my [ __ ] God damn it. You understand me? This is where I lose it. My G's. Effectively, what she's saying is is that no, no matter how much you are a provider, that you are a protector, no matter how much that you are a quality man, it may not be good enough. No matter how much that she don't have to think about the hard things in life, no matter how good of a job to create a center or a space that she can be soft, it doesn't matter. At the point that her emotions get involved, she sees one inch forward and two inches back. Irrespective of the things that you have done to create a space for her to live an easy and or a soft life, bump your logic. Bump how this doesn't make sense. bump accuracy within the conversation because you don't stand up on business and you allow her tumultuous emotions to over encumber pure logic and reasoning. You will put yourself to a subservient position. But not only that, he married this young lady 10 years ago. So there's really nothing that he can do at this particular junction. He lost the leverage. But because he has lost the leverage and because he's gotten to a space where he won't address or he'll kick the can instead of communicating, standing up on business and addressing the issues, it's reared its head in this ugly little way. For the young ladies that are listening to this, you must understand the conundrum that this puts men into, especially successful men. Because no matter how hard that we've lived the life previously, no matter how much talents that we've garnered previously, in order to derive value from the marketplace of what we did, at a moment's notice, you will prioritize your emotions. Unless you're a young young lady that has great emotional control, which is one of the top five things that every man should be looking for if he wants to be serious with a young lady, she will prioritize your emotions in a situation. And even if it doesn't make sense, you're going to say it. But she's been saying it so long and so often the Hitman Holla that he just he just wants to ignore it. He wants his peace and that's why they they don't communicate about it. But let's see how they respond.
What they believe people people
Hold on. Hold on. I forgot what she said right before
die behind their convictions. What they believe. Yeah.
People people are not going to change just because
you laid out all the facts and the statistics. Like you're you supposed to you're right.
Okay.
How about that? He is
right.
Where does that get you?
But that's the point though.
She's not changing.
She's not changing.
Bend on this.
She not bending.
So just help her.
But as a
you got she ain't going to change. She not going to bet. Now listen. Meanwhile, if this was flipped on the other side of the coin and if they were having a conversation where the man felt slighted by something, if the man like all of the conversation would be how the man has to change. Tell me, how does this make sense? It doesn't. When it's the woman that's incorrect, the sister code will stop by nothing in order to coddle her within her position and how the man can change. But when it's the man that's incorrect, you're a bad man. You're not a real man. You're gay. Ain't your mama black or whatever else is the explanation that they have to shame him into changing something. You understand how that works? But here's the thing. She said it. What are you going to do about it? You already married her. You lost your leverage, man. So
then you're going to keep
I'm not going to leave wrong. You're going to keep losing wrong.
But she's not happy.
Keep burning your hand in the oven.
She's not happy in these areas.
What are she? That's what the
That's what we got to get to when we not on the camera.
It's about her happiness. 10 years.
Not his nice ring on your thing.
Come on.
Yeah. Nice everything.
So he led her correct. I'm saying our time. This is You know what I'm
And the young lady even admitted that he led her correct. This one was instituting the idea of an ego as a pjorative. That's in effect to control him from his thoughts, opinions, and feelings in a situation. Hope y'all paying attention.
I'm not questioning his leadership. I'm questioning ideas that need a little bit more growth. So that
she's not questioning the leadership. She wants you to fold underneath the weight of her emotions. you guys can have a even more successful next 10 years at a higher level.
I understand.
Happy wife, happy life, baby.
And that I totally agree. But when you say the other areas, that's what I'm saying. I don't know the
we don't have enough time to to do
we really do that part right now thing. I want to hear this
because like I said, but that's why men run. That's why a lot of men run from
Yes.
cuz a lot of men feel like they can do everything. And there's somebody sitting right here telling me do more.
No, I'm not telling you to do what I'm telling you to do different.
But what what's different? I mean,
just the areas in in inside of the areas of growth because there's no there's no change that happens inside of the comfort curve. There's no growth there. Nothing inside of the the way that you've been doing it. There's no growth there. Nothing happens inside.
This is insane of a comfort curve. That means you have to step outside of the comfort curve.
What?
It's not comfortable.
Gotta be perfect.
See, the [ __ ] is is that like, yo, my G's. What this young brother is doing right here, y'all know. So, this is what I always talk about. This is what I always talk about. as dudes in order to get along with some you have to almost to a degree conform to their complete and utter [ __ ] They just describe him being a good man. But now you must get out your comfort zone in order to understand how to make her feel more happy than what she is previously. Bump everything that you've done. Bump all of the success. Bump all of the talent. Bump all of that. Her emotions just make her feel a little bit off. So now you as a man have to figure out how to pick up the damn pieces. Bump that. Bump that baby. When you watch content like this and you watch in real time how the sister code will stand up to their monuments of [ __ ] and then you also cross reference this with the current divorce rate which is initiated most of the time by women. you begin to understand how they infuse the woman that is going through the they never hold them accountable and then somehow it's always the man's fault. But the thing is is that as the man you're put in front of the family court system and more often than not because you are the bread winner, you are the one that will lose at the end of this. Do not let a divorce lawyer get anywhere near her because there's a business associated with that that will then promote her of making that decision. The whole thing is rigged, baby.
Exactly. Cuz you said step outside the curve.
I didn't say I didn't I'm not talking about perfection as a per I'm talking about.
Look, he's like Yeah, that's what she means.
A curve.
So my man over here on the right is like Yeah, that's that's exactly what she means.
So basically do this. Walk the straight line. Do everything right.
Look at it.
Oh no. Wait, wait, wait.
Everything right.
Right. Everything right.
You saying something wrong with her?
Something wrong with her.
So you're saying step outside of right
to right
to try to find what's wrong with her.
I'm saying step outside of right because right is not the most effective solution. Granted, it's one solution, right? But it's not getting you the maximum on your investment. What? So try something different. Try something different so that you get more out of it. That way next year when it's your birthday, you get to go to Brazil for 2 weeks and when you get home, she's [ __ ]
But you see that though?
Ready.
Nothing is ever good enough.
I just I want to be honest real quick. It'll never be enough. Like you guys be like, "Oh my god, no matter what I do, it's never it will never be." Like realistically speaking, from a woman to a man, it'll never be enough. And I I think that we need to stop taking that so personal. There is a survival skill that women have to where if a problem gets solved, a woman is looking for the next problem. Now, you as a man, y'all be wanting to solve the problems, but a woman, she's very detailed. She's looking for [ __ ] She's looking for [ __ ] wrong. Women are always looking for things that are wrong.
Forever be a pedestal for her emotional manipulation. Forever be a walking path for her delusions. Delusions of grandeur. She cannot be chastised because there's something that you are doing incorrect. This is absolutely absurd. And my G's as well. When you're vetting these young ladies, always take a look at their friend group. always have because they will lie to you if they're of bad nature and bad spirit. And I'm not saying all women, all women, all women, okay? But they will lie to you about the content of their character. Their resume won't match their actions. And if you're too deep in it, okay? And if you can't see it yourself, get outside of her and make sure that you meet the home girls. Because once you cross reference how the home girls operate, if you know she got home girls that are cheaters, you know that she got home girls that have this weird logic or they always are coddling the emotions that of [ __ ] that just don't make sense. That's all of the information that you know that you need to know rather
with peace
with the way things go for 10 years. I should be that should already happen because it ain't I put like this
10 years
and he still has to prove himself more.
I disagree.
Gave her a baby, married her.
I disagree.
I think I think you can make some adjustments to your thinking and that is where change will occur inside of your thinking. Not with the stuff you're nailing, but just inside of your growth areas. Sounds like you're being a little bit stubborn because you're right, you know. Should he adjust his all the way or should
I
She's not saying for the young lady to adjust. It's only him. I wonder why that is.
Say all the way.
Cuz you're saying adjust his. But you're not saying y'all should adjust it together. Exactly. 100% on him.
Thank you. That's all I'm saying.
That's not what I'm saying. But she's she's she's she's making the home. She's the one that's making sure that you've got peace and that you don't gr say she making that peace. Rear arguing.
Okay. So, what I'm suggesting is that you make adjustments in the areas
that piss her off even though it may not be com. No, you can keep doing it this way. It's just not going to get you.
So, how about justice?
She's not going to do that.
How about she not get pissed off? Oh, cuz she's not going to do that. So, that's okay. Because basically what you're telling me is it's all right for her to be wrong and not make adjustments. But me who doing borderline everything right still make adjustments. That don't make sense. I'm just saying like that don't make sense. That's all I'm saying. If I was cheating, right, let's say about cheating, you'll be like maybe if you stop cheating, she'll be happy. You know, we're not cheating, right? If I was beating on her, you'll be like, stop beating on her. maybe all this stuff we do. But since you can't say none of that stuff, I want to know what exactly I need to stop doing if I'm providing a nice home for her, providing safety, providing um food and money and all that life and all this stuff. What can I do? You keep saying make adjustments.
Shout out to the athletes out there. This is like your coach telling me you're the best shooter on the team and your coach telling you shoot better. Ah, but coach, like you know what I'm saying? What exactly do I need to work on? Right? Like I'm already doing A PRETTY GOOD SHOOT BETTER, MOTHER. YEAH. SHOOT. SHOOT BETTER. OKAY. But is it like something in my follow through? Is it like is it the height that I'm jumping as I'm shoot? Shoot better. Just do better. All right. You shooting fe 7 75% from field goal range. We need you at 99%. Baby, shoot better.
I don't That's that's all I'm asking. adjusting
your your empathy, your communication, your ability to put yourself into her shoes inside of those areas, okay, where she does not feel comforted, where she feels uncomfortable. That way, you can lead her
to where you are because you're there already. lead her to where you are to this right place. Take her on the journey so that she can get it. So step inside of her shoes. Be more compassion, compassionate and understanding to what she's feeling cuz you keep coming to the table with what you're feeling, your facts, your logic, your data. And you guys are just going to keep bumping heads because you just want her to bend on this. But it's how she how she feels.
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. These chicks are conditioned to date other chicks, but they're heterosexual, so they want to date men. That's really what it is. That's really what it is. It's almost like also too because of the generations of loss of fathers in the household, they don't know how to treat men because they've not watched fathers. They've not been around fathers. And this is what happens when you get decades or generations of fatherless households. You get women that teach men how to operate like women in relationships and they'll never give credence to how a man should operate in a relationship. That's why I get so scared of the newest generation, even even my current generation, even past generations of young boys turning into men because this is what they listen to. Forever be more empathetic. Forever be more patient. forever be even though the data of how it is that he conducts himself as a man is some real man [ __ ] and he can't understand of what he contributes why does he get A BAD DEAL BACK why can he not get ever loving peace backport bros I understand y'all let me not do that conversation right now
you want somebody to lead right
but if I'm trying to lead you and you're not following
I'm telling telling you exactly what to do.
Oh god. No, you're not.
To change.
Be a be a softer man.
From a following.
Yeah. Like speaking from a follower because you want somebody to
put me in this room.
I'm speaking I'm speaking from a perspective of being a woman but also thinking like a man, you know? Like I like a man though.
You can't think or be a man. Y'all just
I'm doing the the best that I can with the information.
You are. That's the only thing we going to always disconnect because that's basically what's going on is okay, you're doing 99.9% things right.
Do it's steady.
It's not do more. It's different.
It's more which is more.
No, cuz the things that you're doing that are uncomfortable.
You can just that time that it takes for you to do those things, you could fill that space with something that's going to connect better with her.
So why can't she do that with him? So if she knew how he
Oh god, I forgot how to zoom in on Mac if I remembered. Hold on.
So why see why can't she do that with him?
I see the hamster just that hamster is just on that damn hamster wheel at 1,000 miles per hour right now. Just running in goddamn circles. You heard with that crazy inhale in as as the brain begins to spin in a circle of how he has to do all of the changing, but she can just not do a goddamn thing. Let's hear hopefully after the long break we can hear something that makes sense.
So if she knew how he was, which been like this since she met you,
so why can't she find a way to grab it?
She's not going to be happy. But if you do if if you make these adjustments just on leading her differently in these areas, then you guys both get to be happy. But if you if you say, "I'm just going to continuously give the facts, the statistics. This is why this makes sense. I'm a good man. I'm loyal. I'm this. I'm that." If you continue to just constantly run that narrative, she's gonna stay in this uncomfortable place. You're not going to get the maximum result.
Yeah. Uh, okay. I don't know what just happened, but let me just say this. This I cuz I think I said this in my first video. This is why I think you guys should get a relationship therapist. That's a man. Do not get no woman relationship therapist. Okay? Get a male. Get a black male relationship therapist. One of which you can talk about these different communication glitches that y'all have because I don't want to see y'all get I don't want to see none of and I want to see you happy as a G. I I want to see you happy as a G. Okay. Having these type of conversations in podcast format for us to go through and No, no, no, no, no. This is not going to help. I don't know if y'all just doing this for content. Maybe y'all playing the situation up, you know, to a degree. I just don't understand at this stage in the game how you would allow not only her to be saying these things in podcast format, but to have the home girls trying to uh coach you through their layers of trauma in [ __ ] Y'all need to go in a private setting, have conversations with a male relationship co, excuse me, a male relationship therapist, which means that they have some designation or certification or degrees behind their name to talk about this. Okay? Because what happens is is that when you get into an environment between you and her in the relationship and it's mostly just y'all just talking about [ __ ] You kicking can the can down the road. You're not really follow up on the situation because as a man you prioritize peace. What happens is that you create an environment where gaslighting can be rife. Okay? You create an environment where you'll never feel as though you're good enough as a man. Right? She will, whether it be instinctually or what have you, always put the carrot farther enough in front of you to see it, but never enough to grab it and eat the fruits of the labor. Okay? You have to be able to nip these things into the bud. And if you can get in an environment where there's a third party that's trained to talk to people, right, where she can't deflect, she can't move the goalpost, okay? She can't uh you talk for three minutes about something that really important to you and really matters and she takes the last 10 seconds of that and then runs forward with it. She can't talk about how uh the tone of your voice is not enabling her to hear whatever it is that they do, all the manipulation and gaslighting techniques that they do. You have to get in front of a professional to talk through these different things because talking about it with these the sister code behemoths, okay? Ain't going to do nothing but give her the energy that she needs to substantiate emotional [ __ ]
He's going to stay in this uncomfortable place. You're not going to get the maximum result.
Okay.
The right thing is going to make
Okay. I don't know what happened.
That's was that's why I just It's hard. I'm sorry.
We going to have to go to the next thing.
Okay. Answer that for me.
Don't break it.
Okay,
that's why.
It's not right or wrong if y'all are on the same team and you just
I feel you, my G.
But the right or wrong.
It ain't about right or wrong though. But this is the thing though. Like women say they want all the things that [ __ ] is naming and y'all still saying that ain't enough.
It's not good enough.
How do y'all not
cuz you must stay on business.
Continually grow and get better. Cinnamon will have things that sometimes will piss you off that she'll need to work on. Right now you have that she would like studio of women.
So, we all just have to when those times come be like, "Okay, I'm I'm not doing what my man wants right now. What can I do better? Okay, I'm not doing what my woman wants right now. What can I do better?" So, like,
he needs male support. It's just we always have to continually try to get better and we're always going to miscommunicate. It's human nature.
But what can he do better? Like, how do we get better?
Tell him.
But y'all only telling me to adjust,
right?
That's fair. We we can we right now it is a lot about you. So, that you are right. Like it's it's not just you though. It's in in a partnership. It's always both people at different times. Sometimes like you might be really killing it. Other times S's really killing it and she doesn't feel like you're killing it. That's just like human nature. But it's not just you. It just feels like getting in this conversation,
right? But if if you if you just happen to just try a couple of different strategies, then
she will make the adjustments that you need is what I'm saying. She will. She will make the adjustments that you need because you're giving her peace in these areas. But you have to kind of bend first. You got to take her hand and say, "Okay, babe."
Are they in a relationship? That might
I don't want you to hurt in these places anymore. I don't want you to feel pain in these places anymore. So
pain and hurt is
it's crazy.
And this [ __ ] this [ __ ] triggered me so bad. These words are just so crazy to me. I know you don't mean it.
No, she means it.
3 4 hours out the day, 3 4 days a week, but she could get into a routine like go to the gym.
Have a moment for her though.
I've been begging her to do that.
I know. But listen, but that's the thing too though. I asked her go to the gym. I asked you been asking y'all to go to the gym.
Mental health.
Yeah.
Ask do yoga,
do Pilates, do something. She don't feel like she got the time. I feel like
she has the time.
The time that you have to come.
She has one child to the gym. When you do it, that's part of your job. You have to do this.
Yeah. That's what I do every day. Yeah. But that's why
that could also make us sit back and be kind of resentful like he gets to have this time with the NI.
Mhm. But but also though, we we was real with each other. We gonna stop Jay. I'm sorry. I was real. But I told her from the jump when we get this baby the first
change
this what comes with it though. I think that we got to realize it but son 9 months this is just life. This is a mom
like and I'm not saying it's f what but this is seven needs you more than ever right now. Like I
it ain't like I was I'm just out kicking it.
Bro, bro, you're not going crazy. I know because of the environment that you're currently in. You feel like you're going crazy. You are not going crazy. It doesn't make sense for clear purpose and as well as clear reason. They will for forever give her an allowance based off of her emotions, but they will give you no allowances because all of them have a low-key barometer hate for men. Don't you understand that? Well, apparently you don't. Apparently you don't. But I do.
I'm gone because I'm at the gym or you know what I'm saying? They don't appreciate that. And it's just these words that be triggering pain and hurt. Like what is she pain and hurt for?
Come on.
Pain is when she somebody walked over her say, "Oh, this son, this boy is your is he got another child."
That's pain to you.
Pain to her.
That No, that's pain.
Doesn't mean it's right or wrong.
That No, that's pain. Nothing I do to her is pain.
No, you're a really incredible man.
So, stop pain. I don't understand pain.
I don't feel hurt by just life changing. And that's why but that's why men Well, she's talking pain. No, I'm not talking about woman. I'm talking about
like when you say grab her hand like I don't want you feel pain and hurt no more
internal as a woman
from me though. No, that's it. It's not about you.
It feels.
So that mean it's nothing I can adjust to if it's if it ain't me. It's nothing I can do to adjust to fix that if it ain't me.
Ding ding ding ding ding.
Like if you know the stove is hot but you burn yourself. It doesn't take away from the fact that it hurts when you burn yourself.
Exactly.
It's still painful regardless.
If I'm pulling you away, if I'm pulling you away from the stove,
but you still walking back to the stove to burn yourself, what do I need to adjust?
Date them or them.
Okay. Okay. Yo yo, this is this is for all my G's out there that you know what I'm saying? If you find yourself in a situation, hold on, let me get this back up to the normal screen. You finding yourself in the situations that just don't make sense. They don't make sense because they don't. Okay, I listen and I know I was particularly, you know, hard on this one, right? Like, and the thing is that I appreciate them for uploading content like this because it gives us the opportunity to really assess a real relationship that is going through some real things. I know there's going to be some women that's down up in there that's going to be talking about, yo, but you know, postpartum and all these different types of things, and I get it, but at what point can we not snap the chalk outside of her hormones or like her mental health, you know, and she takes it upon herself to own a degree of what he is experiencing, what he's going through. I think that it's very important that you look at it from both sides of the coin. How do you give him advice for him to be more empathetic? But y'all are not empathetic towards him. Y'all are not listening to him. You're not hearing him and what he's going through. But it's incumbent that the man feels the stress in the situation. It's necessary that the man fixes the situation. He wants her to be more active. He wants her to go to the gym. And he gives the runway to be able to do that. They need couples therapy and she probably needs one-on-one therapy. uh as well because there's probably some there's probably a lot more that's going on underneath uh the engine here that has to be taken a look at and as well as diagnosed. It's just so sad to see a young man that obviously is doing a good job but is being told that he's not with words such as pain. You got to understand what this does to us as men when we do as much as we can to love as hard as what we can and we get words described as pain. Questions, comments, concerns. Y'ALL ALREADY KNOW WHAT TO DO video and reviews@gmail.com. Man, this was a hell of a video back. I should have done a live stream for this. I don't know. Maybe I'll think about it for the next time out. But I appreciate you guys for continuing to come back. I appreciate you guys for continuing on rocking with me. Let me know what you think down in the comments section down below. You agree with the things that I'm saying? Do you disagree with the things that I'm saying? Write it down in the comment box and let's have a real conversation about it. Last but not least, virtovalue.com. Copy my system of how I created all of this, baby. All right, link to it down in the description box down below. There's a video up there that explains everything. Soup the nuts. And if anything, I will see you guys remarkably soon. Until next time, peace. First dirt ads like we in charge capital like steel bars like here we are here we are mediocre tutorial reviews like comment share my views come up and I do step in my black shoes he break it down yeah it's empty check out the sign when it's empty no one put it down like it's to y'all.