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Men didn't suddenly become lazy and commitment phobic. No, there was something else that has suddenly changed.
Everyone, including women, were told that feminism would liberate women. But here's the twist. Did it liberate women or has it actually liberated men? Because women were told that they don't need anyone. Men were quietly released from the role that they had been stuck in for generations. While women were told that they were gaining independence, men gained something else, freedom.
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Modern women have become hyperindependent and financially liberated thanks to modern feminism. Women were told from a young age that they can and should do everything on their own and that they don't need men. That men are kind of extra or an option. And from this masculine energy, many women are now stepping into leading energy and not only in career but also in relationship with men. They are leading the pursuit because that is what leading means, right? It is the 21st century. A woman can do whatever she likes. That means if she wants something that she can go after it, including a man.
And while on the surface this does look like freedom, financial freedom, relational freedom, occupational freedom, you can buy your own home, you can make your own money, you can live your life and build your life without needing a man. But the real question is, is it actual freedom that women got? Or are modern women now trapped in the same hustle and grind as men used to be for centuries, fully responsible of their own finances and their own survival without a man being there to step in and take some of the load away from them.
And in all honesty, this is exactly the position that men used to be in for generations. Men were expected to hustle and grind because they had a family to look after. They had a wife and kids that were reliant on them. And of course, women also had a full-time job. It wasn't easy for women either. I mean, if you have to birth and take care of five plus children, that is a full-time job. But it did give women a other type of freedom that women in this day and age do not have. The freedom to stay in their feminine soft energy. The freedom to nurture, to create, to be playful and soft within the masculine structure. And by masculine structure, I mean the framework that the man provides in the relationship with a woman.
But here comes feminism framing the masculine structure that a man wants to provide as masculine control. It trained women to believe that if a man provides or a woman doesn't have her own finances or her own life in track that she is being entrapped by the man. Not been replaced with freedom. It's not freedom that women got. We have replaced the feminine essence of women. Femininity, nurturing, flow with rigidity, with stress and with women being more and more in their masculine energy. And what is this leading to? Women giving their most important, valuable, and fertile years to the economic system. And now women are realizing that once you have all of this in place that is supposedly giving you freedom like a mortgage, like finances, like a career, it is actually not giving you freedom because it is locking you down.
And here's the true entrapment. It was never men. It was the economic system that are now requiring women to have careers, to contribute to the economy via careers, via work, via hustling and grinding. And women are now more and more starting to realize that once you are in this, once you're locked in, it is really hard to get out and get back to your feminine energy.
Now, you might wonder where did this shift happen? Because women are told over and over again that they do not need men, that they should not rely on men. Men are taking the message. Men are being told over and over again by women that leading, that providing, that giving structure to her life is impeding on her independence, that it's control, that it's oppressive, and that it's male dominant. And what do men reply? Okay, fine. If you do not want masculine structure, if you do not want me to provide, if you don't want my care, if you do not want me to help you fall back into your feminine energy and actually be a woman and feel good about that, then sort it out yourself.
And this is exactly how feminism has liberated men more than it has liberated women. Men in our day and age no longer have to build their lives around providing for a woman because modern women don't want a man to do that for them. So men no longer have the financial responsibility of running the relationship of securing the relationship. And because women are thinking and saying that they can do everything themselves, men are now liberated from the responsibility of framing and structuring and looking after the relationship.
And what can men do now? They have the freedom to do whatever they like. They can travel. They can invest in themselves. They can invest in the markets. They can pay off their mortgage. They can do whatever they like with the money that they make because it's all for themsel. They can live their lives worry-f free without having to worry about another person.
Another thing that this great flip has caused is that many women are so independent that they don't expect men to step up anymore because they don't want men to step up. So they don't expect commitment from men. And what is the result of that? that women in our day and age have extremely low boundaries when it comes to intimacy with men. And if you give a man everything without him having to work for it, why would he ever commit? Highly successful independent women are sleeping with men on the first, second, or third date because this is sexual liberation and she can do whatever she likes with her body. On top of that, they give men the whole full girlfriend experience without the man actually having to commit and provide for her. So men are getting the warmth, the nurturing, the care from a woman without him having to invest in the relationship or take responsibility for the relationship. Again, ladies, why would a man commit if you're already giving him everything without him having to do anything for it?
And this is not about men being bad. No, I mean if someone offers you good stuff for free, you would take it, right? This is about women not enforcing boundaries, not having selfrespect and understanding that you have to hold your own frame and set boundaries with men as in what you expect from men before you give something of your own value in return, which is your love, which is your care, and which is your nurturing. But so many women are following this independent woman narrative and I can do whatever I want and I don't need a man so I don't need commitment so I can sleep with whoever I want until you're 30 or 40 and you're alone and you're childless because no man wanted to commit to you because you gave your body and everything away for free.
And listen ladies, I am not shaming you. I'm not guilt tripping you because I have been there and it took me a while to take that lesson as well. But I'm here to wake you up to make you realize that there's actually power in your femininity, in your feminine presence, in your nurturing, kind, soft energy that you can provide for a man. And this took me a long time to understand, but please get this. Men build the framework of the relationship. They build the house. And you as a woman fill it with your feminine energy, with your softness, with your kindness. And that is of a lot of value to a man. So learn to become soft. Learn to be feminine in relationship with a man. Because a man is not looking for another construction worker. He is looking for a woman. A woman who will make the structure that he built his home where he can come home to rest, to be with you in your soft feminine energy.
But the real tragedy of modern dating and modern women and hyperindependent women is that women have lost this warm, nurturing, and soft sight that men so desire from a woman. Because of feminism, women have lost the capability and the ability to be a woman. And men, they've lost nothing. They have actually gained freedom because men can now live their free lives without having to provide, without having to form a relationship, without having to form structure. And this all the while women are stuck and chained to the economic system that tells them if you want to be liberated you got to work you got to have a career and you got to make your money and no you don't need any man because imagine if all women would realize that no this is not the way a woman should be and I want to be in my feminine energy and I want a man to lead. We would lose a lot of women in the workforce and that is bad for the economy. Of course, I'm not saying that you should not have a job, but I don't believe that a woman should hustle and grind full-time in a job that is tiring her out, that is disconnecting her from her feminine energy. Women should do jobs that are nurturing, that are creative, that create beauty and playfulness in the world. They shouldn't do some kind of finance office job. And I wish more women would understand this. This is not the way to be for a woman. And it's unhealthy.
So ladies, please understand that more and more women are ending up childless, resentful because they were promised golden molehills and independence. But what they really found is loneliness, is depression, is exhaustion. And don't get me wrong, it is not because women are incapable of running careers and and running businesses and doing the hustle and grind, but it is because women are disconnecting from their core essence of femininity of being a woman. Men don't want another man. There's plenty of men in the world. They love to provide. They love to provide structure for the people and women that they care for. So, let men be that structure. and you learn to rest into your feminine essence and allow a man to be that structure for you.
Again, men don't want relationships with masculine women. If they would, they would be gay, right? If they want to date a man, if you're looking for a man, a masculine man, husband material, you need to learn to be in your warm, feminine, flowy, [snorts] creative, receptive essence. And that is in every woman. But so many women have lost it. As I mentioned before, men are looking for a woman who can fill up the home that they built with her feminine energy, with her creativity, with her softness, with her playfulness. They're not looking for a woman who wants to control him and and treats him like a little boy that needs to be managed and trained.
And listen, ladies, I am super independent. I run my own business. I have been an actor for years. So, I know what it is to hustle and grind, but I had to learn to not do this with men. When I am with a man, I allow him to lead. I trust him to lead. I let him be the man. When I am with a masculine man, I feel that I can finally let go of control and that he will take the lead and I trust him in that. This is where the attraction lives between men and women. This is where the connection lies and this is where polarity lies between the masculine and feminine energies.
I'm sorry to tell you this, but feminism didn't liberate women, it liberated men and it chained women. And until women understand that independence without polarity breaks intimacy and it makes men keep choosing for freedom, for solitude and for disconnection from women. And ladies, please understand, it is not because men don't want love. Men do want love. Men want wives. Men want femininity. And men know very well that love without femininity, without a woman's softness, isn't love. It is disruption.
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