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Hello everyone, welcome back to the book club. Today, I want to share with you a book that I finished reading and found incredibly inspiring and exceptionally fitting. Its Chinese title is "I'm Invincible," and its original English title is "Can't Hurt Me." The author, David Goggins, his life can be said to be a true legend that crawled back up from the deepest part of hell. In today's world, we've heard too much "Chicken Soup for the Soul," teaching us to think positively, love ourselves, and embrace imperfections. But this book doesn't teach us how to escape suffering; instead, it teaches you how to actively embrace suffering, turning it into a powerful weapon. Using his personal experiences, he tells us that humanity's greatest enemy has never been external circumstances or other people, but rather the voice in our own hearts that constantly makes excuses. He says that most people, throughout their entire lives, only utilize about 40% of their true potential. Today, I want to delve deeply into his mindset with everyone, to see how he transformed from a societal failure into a truly invincible strongman, and how we can apply his extreme and practical mindset tools to our own lives to break through the limitations we set for ourselves.
To understand how subversive Goggins' mindset is, we must first deeply understand what kind of childhood he experienced. He always says that his life's starting hand was so bad it was practically on the ground, with no hope of improvement. He grew up in a seemingly glamorous and affluent middle-class neighborhood called "Heaven," but inside his home was a literal hell. His father, a man named Terrance, was an extremely violent and controlling demon. Goggins uses a lot of space in the book to describe that kind of fear. He says his father would take out a belt for any trivial matter, like a few cents, and beat him and his mother severely. He still remembers one time when he couldn't bear to watch his father beat his mother, so he jumped on his father's back to stop him. The result was an even more brutal beating, leaving his entire back bruised and unable to heal for days.
Besides domestic violence, he also had to face severe racism. As a minority Black person, he was verbally abused with racial slurs at school every day and even received death threats. He developed severe learning disabilities and social anxiety. He would stutter when speaking, and due to extreme stress, he lost hair and developed white patches on his skin. To survive, to avoid being looked down upon, the only skill he learned at school was to cheat by peeking at answers. He managed to graduate from middle school, but his actual academic ability was only at the level of three to four years of study.
His adult life did not improve; instead, he fell even deeper. He left home, but the trauma from his childhood continued to follow him. He worked many odd jobs. His last job was at a pest control company. His work involved driving to different restaurants in the early morning hours, while everyone was asleep, to spray insecticides and deal with dead rats and cockroaches. He says one time, while in the ceiling of a restaurant, a swarm of cockroaches fell down on his head and shoulders within seconds, like a waterfall. At that time, his weight had reached nearly 136 kilograms, which is almost 300 pounds. His life at that time was surrounded by obesity and despair. He felt numb about everything, believing he would only be a societal failure in this life. He used food to numb himself, eating eight breakfast burritos, scrambled eggs, half a pound of bacon, and two large bowls of noodles for breakfast – a portion for a giant. He turned himself into a monstrous figure because he felt that if he was big enough, no one would dare bully him. But deep down, he knew he was a self-abandoned person.
The turning point that led him to become a member of the elite special forces happened on an ordinary early morning. He finished work and returned home, eating in front of the TV. He happened to see a documentary about the Navy SEALs' Hell Week. He watched the trainees struggling in the icy, bone-chilling seawater, carrying heavy logs and running to exhaustion. They endured torture unimaginable to ordinary people. But in their eyes, he saw something he had never possessed: a sense of purpose and an unbreakable will. They weren't doing it for money or fame; they were doing it to challenge human limits, to live, to become the best warriors. In that moment, it was like being struck by lightning. He suddenly woke up. He looked at his own obese body and then at the men on the television. He asked himself, "Why can they do it and I can't?" He realized that he had been living in a self-made prison, using his childhood misfortunes as an excuse to avoid all real challenges. He decided he no longer wanted to be a failure; he wanted to become a SEAL.
This goal was a joke in anyone's eyes. At that time, the Navy's weight limit was 87 kilograms, and he weighed 136 kilograms. He had to lose a full 48 kilograms, over 100 pounds, in less than three months. Everyone told him it was impossible, but Goggins accepted this impossible mission. To achieve this seemingly impossible goal, Goggins developed his first and most core mindset tool, called the "Mirror." This concept sounds simple, but its execution requires immense courage and brutal honesty. Every day, he would stand in front of the mirror and engage in an extremely brutal self-dialogue. He didn't gently encourage himself; instead, he used the harshest and most insulting words to attack his weaknesses. He would look at the fat, lazy self in the mirror and yell at him, "You fat slob! You're a failure! How many more people have you fooled? You're nothing but trash! Do you really think the Navy SEALs will recruit you?" His purpose was not to bring himself down but to shatter all his excuses with the cruelest reality, forcing himself to admit how much of a failure he was.
After that, he would write his goals on sticky notes. For example, "Lose one pound this week," "Train for two hours every day," "No more junk food." Then, he would cover the entire mirror with these sticky notes. Every day, when he woke up, brushed his teeth, and got dressed, he had to face these goals, face the imperfect self in the mirror that needed to change. He says this process made him feel exposed and brought him astonishing motivation. His training plan could be described as waking up at 4:30 AM, then getting on the exercise bike for an hour while studying. After that, he would swim for two hours, and then go to the gym for hellish circuit training. Every movement was meticulously executed. After completing his training, he would return to the exercise bike for another two hours. His entire day's meal consisted of a small piece of chicken breast and a small portion of vegetables. After eating, he would cycle for another two hours before going to sleep. He repeated this extreme schedule every day.
During this process, he not only had to fight physical fatigue but also psychological demons. But he used the goals on the mirror to suppress these voices. As a result, in less than three months, he truly went from 136 kilograms to 86 kilograms, successfully losing over 100 pounds, and he also met the military's physical fitness standards, officially earning his ticket to participate in the selection. His actions demonstrated that this tool could transform an ordinary person into a warrior with extreme willpower.
Successfully losing weight was only the first step in a long journey. The real hell was the Navy SEAL selection training, especially the terrifying Hell Week. Hell Week lasted for five and a half consecutive days, a total of 130 hours. The trainees were allowed almost no sleep and had to constantly undergo extreme physical and mental torture. For example, they would soak in icy, stinging seawater for hours, carry heavy logs and rubber boats for miles, and constantly perform drills. The dropout rate was extremely high, with usually only about one-third of the people able to endure it. During this process of pushing people to the brink of collapse, Goggins discovered his second extremely important mindset tool, which he calls the "40% Rule." He discovered that when our minds tell us, "I can't take it anymore, I've reached my limit, I have to give up," this is actually an illusion. At that moment, our bodies are only using about 40% of their potential. The reason we want to stop is not because our bodies are truly incapable, but because our minds have an internal governor, just like a car engine's governor. Its function is to protect us, to get us back to a safe and comfortable state as quickly as possible, and to avoid injury.
Goggins says that once you understand this principle, you can engage in a psychological battle with yourself. So, the next time you feel you've reached your limit and want to give up, you can tell yourself, "Ah, this is just my mind tricking me. This is only 40%. I still have plenty left. I still have 60% of my strength unutilized." Then, you rely on these words to force yourself to persevere for another 10%. He says this process is like constantly pushing your pain threshold upwards. Every time you successfully break through this psychological barrier, your limits will be redefined, and your willpower will become stronger. He uses his first run as an example. At that time, he weighed 300 pounds and felt like he was dying after running 400 meters. But he remembered the Navy SEALs on TV and forced himself to keep going for a little longer. As a result, he discovered that he could actually keep going. He says all human growth happens in this process of breakthrough. As long as you are willing to constantly challenge this psychological barrier, you will discover that your potential far exceeds your imagination. This rule is not only applicable to physical training but also to work, study, and even interpersonal relationships. When you feel overwhelmed and want to give up on a project, you actually have a lot of untapped potential. However, relying solely on willpower is not enough. When you are truly in a state of extreme pain and exhaustion, you need a more concrete and powerful mental weapon to support you. Thus, Goggins invented his third, and one of his most useful tools, called the "Cookie Jar."
The "Cookie Jar" is a psychological concept. Goggins tells us to consider all past experiences of successfully overcoming difficulties and challenging situations as delicious cookies in a jar. These cookies can be anything, for example, successfully passing an important exam, completing a difficult work project, quitting a bad habit, or even just a time when you felt it was very hard but you persevered to the end. For Goggins, his cookie jar is filled with many extreme cookies, such as losing 100 pounds in three months – that's the "100-pound cookie." Overcoming a childhood filled with discrimination and catching up from an elementary school level to a high school level – that's the "education cookie." The function of this cookie jar is that when you encounter extreme difficulties in reality, such as being immersed in icy water during Hell Week and about to lose consciousness, or running a marathon and feeling like your legs are about to break, and you feel you can't go on and want to give up, you need to open this cookie jar in your mind. You open the jar, reach in, take out a cookie, and slowly savor it. You are not just recalling an event; you need to re-experience the feeling of victory and pride from overcoming that difficulty. You need to remind yourself, "I managed to handle something that difficult, so what is this current suffering? I can do anything." Goggins says this method can instantly provide you with immense mental energy, like Popeye eating spinach, allowing you to find a reason to keep going in the darkest and most hopeless moments. He uses his first 100-mile ultra-marathon as an example. At that time, he participated without any training. Midway through the race, he lost consciousness, his feet were broken, and every step felt like walking on broken glass. In that most painful moment, he constantly drew strength from his cookie jar. He went through Hell Week three times and participated in the selection three times before succeeding. He recalls how cold and painful it was, but he ultimately endured it, relying on these cookies. He finally reached the finish line with broken bones. The power of this tool lies in its complete personalization. Your experiences are the source of your strength.
Goggins' mindset is called "harvesting the souls of your opponents." This concept is not about killing people but is a tactical advantage in the mental realm. He says that in any competitive environment, whether it's...
You are facing an instructor who wants to beat you, a boss who looks down on you, or an opponent who wants to defeat you. When the other party puts pressure on you, wants to make you uncomfortable, and wants to watch you break down, you cannot retreat. Instead, you must perform even better than they expect, even to the point of showing that you enjoy the suffering. When the other party discovers that the weapon they used to grind you is completely ineffective, or even makes you stronger, their spirit will be utterly destroyed. Psychologically, you have already won.
In hellish states, they perfectly enacted this. They made them adults on a cold beach, constantly lifting and lowering the successful inflatable boat, wanting to watch them break down and give up. When everyone was exhausted, their movements like robots about to run out of power, the golden man instead felt this was an opportunity. He not only didn't beat his teammates, but said, "We don't just have to lift it, we have to throw this damn boat into the sky, to show these instructors who we are." As a result, he suddenly became like a surge, using all his strength to throw it into the air again, while shouting. The instructors who originally expected to watch someone give up were terrified on the spot, completely not understanding why these people, on the verge of collapse, could still erupt with such powerful strength. It was as if at that moment, they had harvested the souls of the instructors. They transformed the instructors' pain into their own fuel, completely reversing the situation of this psychological battle.
The key to this mindset is that you must show your strongest side when the other party least expects it. When everyone expects you to give up, you must accelerate and work even harder. This psychological impact on the opponent, this method is not only used in the military, but also in everyday life. When your boss gives you a difficult project and wants to see you fail, you not only have to complete it, but over-complete it, doing it many times better than expected. When they see your results, they will no longer look down on you.
A person's life is not a fairy tale. He has experienced many painful failures. For example, his first attempt at a pull-up record was broadcast on national television. Due to insufficient preparation and on-site issues, he failed in front of tens of thousands of spectators. But his attitude towards failure is also something we should learn from. He developed his fourth important tool, called a debriefing report. This concept originates from the military. After every mission, whether successful or failed, the military conducts a debriefing to analyze the entire process. He applied this to his own life. After every failure, he would not dwell on it, but would take out a piece of paper and write down the entire failure process.
His debriefing report has several steps. First, he would write down all the things that went well. He said that even in a failed process, there are always positive aspects. Acknowledging these parts can help you maintain motivation. Second, he would honestly list the areas where mistakes were made, and they had to be written very specifically. For example, in the pull-up attempt, he wrote about insufficient preparation, wasting a lot of energy, incorrect nutritional supplements, only drinking carbohydrates, which affected his focus. He would dissect the failure as if dissecting a corpse, making it clear. Third, and most importantly, based on the problems identified, he would formulate a detailed improvement plan to prepare for the next attempt. For example, he would write about preparing solid food and covering all windows during the competition. He failed twice in his attempt to break the human body's pull-up record, but each time he conducted an extremely detailed debriefing report, constantly adjusting his strategy, equipment, and even the competition venue. He moved from a public television station to a little-known gym. His gloves and bandages were all improved. In his next attempt, he was finally well-prepared and successfully broke the world record, performing 4030 pull-ups in 17 hours. For him, failure was never the end, but a precious gift, because failure is the clearest and most direct path to success. Only by continuously analyzing failures can you find the way to success. This attitude towards failure made him someone who cannot be provoked.
There is another core concept in Jin's story, which he calls becoming extraordinary among the ordinary. This concept states that when you have worked hard to become a member of an elite unit, a senior executive in a large company, or an expert in a professional field, your biggest enemy at this stage is yourself. Many people relax at this stage, feeling they have arrived and begin to enjoy the fruits of their labor. But strong people are not satisfied with mediocrity. They will continue to find ways to stand out in the elite group, becoming the elite among the elite.
Using his own experience as an example, after becoming a SEAL, he found that many teammates, although strong, would go drinking and relax after work, and would not train themselves further. He would continue to wake up at 4 AM to train. During holidays, he would participate in ultramarathons. He even volunteered to attend the military's most arduous cavalry school, becoming one of the very few soldiers to possess both SEAL and cavalry qualifications. His actions made many teammates think he was a weirdo and didn't fit in, but his philosophy was that excellence is not a destination, but a continuous process. You cannot rest on yesterday's achievements. You must strive for your position every day as if it were the first day.
To achieve this life of continuous progress, Jin valued his fifth tool: time management. He opposed the common excuse of "no time." He said that a day has 24 hours. Even if you work 8 hours a day and sleep 8 hours, you still have plenty of time. The problem is that we waste too much time on trivial matters, such as watching TV. He suggested using a week to transform your time. In the first week, you only need to record what you do every day, at what time, and for how long. You must honestly write it down, and you will find that you have wasted a lot of time. In the second week, based on the records from the first week, you should design an optimal schedule, dividing the day into 15 to 30-minute time blocks, assigning specific tasks to each block, and then working diligently during work time and thoroughly relaxing during rest time. In the third week, fine-tune your schedule to make it a habit that can be maintained long-term.
Jin himself is an extreme example of time management. When he was a SEAL, he would wake up at 4 AM, run more than ten kilometers, and then cycle 40 kilometers to work. After work, he would swim for an hour, then cycle 40 kilometers home. After returning home, he still had time to train. He treated his life as a never-ending championship race, and time was his tactic to win the competition.
In summary, this book is actually about teaching us how to face the inner demons of life. Jin's life is the best proof. It proves that no matter how bad your starting point is, or how little talent you have, as long as you have an unparalleled determination to face suffering and train your mind, you can overcome any seemingly insurmountable difficulty and reshape your life. The principles he proposed, such as the "mindset of suffering" and "debriefing reports," are very practical tools that can be immediately applied in our daily lives. Whether your goal is to lose weight or overcome a psychological shadow that has been bothering you, these methods can provide you with powerful strength.
Jin's core message is: stop avoiding, stop making excuses for yourself. Actively seek out things that make you uncomfortable and cause you pain. Transform pain into fuel, because only on the other side of suffering can you find a stronger, more complete, and truer self. Jin is not a perfect hero. He is full of flaws, even some eccentricities, but it is precisely because of this that his story is so shocking and powerful. Because he proved that an ordinary person, or even someone worse than ordinary, can achieve the extraordinary if they are willing to put in the effort to fight their inner demons. Finally, he leaves us with one more question. When you face a huge challenge, and everyone says you can't do it, you can ask yourself: "What if I could?" This question may open up a world you never imagined.
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