Transiting Venus to Natal Mars

All right, so when we're looking at Venus transits to Mars, we're looking at the give and the take, the passive and the aggressive, and how well what we are giving is being received, and how well what someone else is giving is being received by us. So, the, um, the, uh, way that we satisfy and experience satisfaction is a huge thing when we have Venus-Mars transits, and they do have a direct effect on the type of and quality of current, the current state of relationship that we find ourselves in.

So, if we are in a relationship, these transits are going to contribute to the give and the take, or the restructuring of that, or sometimes conflict that is a result of, uh, give and take being out of balance. And other times, depending on the relationship is going well, with Venus-Mars transits is something that is, um, s-punctuating the good things that are already going on there in terms of correct give and take, satisfaction, and the giving of that satisfaction.

So, and we have the conjunction from Venus to Mars. We'll get this every year. This is a very good transit for most people. It does often signify the beginning of a new sexual relationship. Doesn't have to be a sexual relationship, but typically it is because it does represent, uh, passion and pleasure, Mars being the passion and Venus being the pleasure. But sometimes we can develop more social or friendship relationships under this transit. Not typical. So, if you're looking to start a new relationship, this is one of the prime transits to put yourself in the position to be able to do that. That means you go somewhere where the people are that you find to be what you are attracted to. You put yourself in a situation, a condition where you can have a meeting with somebody.

When we have Venus transits to Mars and we're hoping to start a new relationship, if we're sitting at home and watching TV, we're not going to have a lot of chances to, uh, to meet new people because we are not putting ourselves in that position. Fortunately, though, this is a transit that has this favoring social activity. If you're as introverted as I am, or as most of the people are in this particular group, is I that most of us are probably INFJs or INFPs, um, you may have to find something to do to make the most out of this transit. If you're very extroverted, you're probably going to have something to do. You're probably going to have invitations, uh, things that are that are set up for you. But, uh, for most of us, we do end up doing something social, even if we plan it or not. So, make the most of it by being conscious about it. If you find that you don't have something going on, have something going on.

We are very amorous under this particular transit. We look for somebody to get with. If we aren't with somebody already, we are, um, very intent on finding an outlet for personal and sexual and physical satisfaction. So, we're more open to beginning relationships because, frankly, we're horny. As when we have this conjunction, I mean, we are just really distracted about what it is that we don't already have in terms of satisfaction, romantic satisfaction. So, our bit of a cat in heat. Not a transit, though, that is known for scandals, for dissatisfaction. Uh, this is not one of those Victorian transits that we've talked about previously with, uh, Venus or was the sun opposite to Venus. There's a, there's a few, um, you know, where we can out a bit. This is not one that is known for bad effects because we are not indiscriminant. We're horny. This holistically as we should be, as we tend to do with conjunctions. So, we are softening Mars, we're bringing refinement to Mars.

When we have the conjunction from Venus to Mars, this is a very creative day. This is a day where we are usually out enjoying ourselves. We might be enjoying music. Um, not so much as when we have Sun to Venus. Those are concert days. It's so interesting to see that the music and live performances and concerts and, um, you know, melodious events that we will attend, they just happen to come upon those days. And we have Sun-Venus transits. Good dates happen when we have Venus-Mars transits. Uh, I met the last boyfriend I had, the archaeologist, the day that Venus was conjunct to Mars. These are significant timers when it comes to potentially, uh, consequential relationships. But not all of the relationships that we begin under Venus-Mars transits are very consequential. I would say that the most consequential and, um, potentially the longest lasting relationships are begun under Venus-Saturn transits, which are not the sexiest, but we do have longevity there. Longevity may or may not be there. May or may not be there with Venus conjunct to Mars. Um, we're happy to be with other people on this day and this week. We're happy to have things going on. It is an exciting time. We can spend money on ourselves, but it is not known for the kind of excess that we with a Venus-Venus transit or a Venus-Sun transit or a Sun-Venus transit. We're not going to go into debt. Relationships through interaction with other people.

Do you want to come up here? Come up if you want. Through, um, partnership. And although we are, uh, more expressive when it comes to our feelings and our love nature, this isn't a transit where we are, uh, you, extremely selfish. We aren't insistent. We do want to express ourselves, but it's not, not at a cost to something else. So, there really isn't a lot of consequences that will come as a result of the conjunction, negative consequences. Um, yeah, the ego drive of Mars is so helped along by the need to get along of Venus. So, whatever selfishness exists within us, and this can be helpful too. We have a very selfishly placed Mars when Venus comes to conjunct Mars. We make a good aspect to that Mars. We're in a position where it's easier to go outside of ourselves.

You've got a big tick. Let me look at it just a second. When I see a tick, I just cannot leave it alone. I may have to get a pair of tweezers for this one. That thing is embedded. I just loved picking ticks so much. Um, there is a good one. Uh, all right. So, for a relationship to be extremely long-lasting, for it to be extremely significant, you would want to look for supporting transits that come along at the same time. Um, outer planet transits. We can look at that. We could look at Jupiter transits. There's a few that would be supporting something that is that is long-lasting, particularly if you're having a Saturn transit to, uh, to Mars and then you may have Venus come to town too. Yeah, these, uh, can be years that we start relationships that are very, very significant. Most of the time, because it's a yearly transit, we're not going to start a highly significant relationship every year. Um, so you would want to look at, uh, what other influences are currently there.

Stop. Go. She's covered. All right. So, let's look at the sextile between Venus and Mars. Also a very, very good transit. We do want to be with others. Um, we're very cooperative under this particular sextile. Favors do come easier to us because we are willing to, uh, do for others in ways that is reflected back to us as, you know, generous, uh, return. Stop it. Generous return on our, uh, the things that we're doing for others. Um, relationship building, friendship building, super easy under this transit. Um, we are very keen to get with others on this day. All of these transits are intensely social. We are not feeling like a cat in heat like we are with the Venus-Mars conjunction. That is something that really does have our libido and our need to relate to somebody front and center. This is more, uh, wanting to be involved in activities with others. We're looking to party. It's easy for us to, uh, throw a party and expect success under this particular sextile because we are interested in the common people around us, and that's reflected back in what and how people feel. We make people feel good. We feel good when we have Venus-Mars transit, and so we want to pay that back. We want others to feel good. These are unselfish days of the year. Um, if you want to get something from somebody, this is a good transit to set yourself up for that. You'll find that with sextiles that, uh, it, it is a favorable day to ask for favors, and you'll see that with Sun-V-A sextiles, Venus being a sextiles, Mars V-A sextiles in transit. It feels like people are coming out of the woodwork to give us things or pay us back or to, to offer us things. Again, it's the energy that we are putting out. We are signaling that we are cooperative, and so we're well-liked. When you're well-liked, people will do so many things for you.

So, there are more financial opportunities that can arise at this sextile. Um, we can invest in somebody or something that it, it where we aren't alone. There's some kind of, [Music] uh, agreement. There's some kind of, uh, input. So, is something similar to like, uh, when my brother approached my parents here and said, "Hey, I have this financial opportunity and it to invest in a solar company," and, uh, you know, "I'm doing it," and then a couple of people, you know, from his wife's family are also doing it, and I offered this to my parents. Worked out really well. You know, they get this check for another thousand a month that they didn't get before. It's things like that. And it may seem like a smaller thing. It's like, yeah, we're not going to get rich quick, but it is steady, and it's reliable, and it contributes, uh, it contributes to the quality of our life. So, I love sextiles. I do. I love them in the natal chart. I love them in transit. They are not loud aspects or transits, but you have to look at it like the sextile is the quiet, it's a sneaker wave. That's what it is. It's a wave that, uh, we don't realize that at the time is actually starting something quite significant in our life.

I'm going to go heat this up one second. See what the sex farmer gave me for Valentine's Day. I am dressed, but I'm freezing, so I put my robe over my clothes. Sort of dressed. All right. So, that brings us to the square between Venus and Mars, where we are very horny. We are very much on the lookout for somebody that we can get with. If we're not with somebody already, it is a transit that does inspire some amount of selfishness to come to the surface. So, whatever selfishness exists in our relationship, that tends to be something that we are confronted with. How are we going to balance the give and the take? It can be confrontational, and that we can ourselves, you know, confront somebody because they are not giving us the opportunity for an adequate sexual outlet, like they're blocking our ability to mate. Or we could have a partner, usually it's us, but sometimes it can be a partner that brings something to us and says, "You know, I'm not, not really feeling like I'm getting out what I'm putting in," or "I may be needing more from you," or "I'm really feeling like the, you know, the amount of activity is just not working for me." And it can be something that's not sexually related. That it often is, but it, it cannot, it could be something that's more just generally relationship related, like, uh, you've been in a relationship for a while, and say your partner comes to you and says, "You know, I really don't love it that you're the one who determines when we're going to get together," or "You're the one who determines when we're going to go on vacation," or it's things having to do with proper cooperation, and we are having to rebalance.

So, it's not a happy transit, and that we're going to have to, uh, they're going to have to expend some amount of energy. A lot of times, Venus transits are more about, you know, being laxidasical or lazy or enjoying ourselves for the sake of enjoyment, but we do have to expend some amount of energy here in order to solve a conflict or to come to some kind of agreement. If the relationship is going well, this is not going to show significant problems. Opposition too, if we're in a relationship and the relationship is going well. Uh, Cecilia had to get some help from an expert. I get it. I once had my six-year-old son come and fix something for me on the computer because he knew what to do. So, there's a, uh, yeah, there's a give of the take that has to be reestablished at the square, and we're probably going to feel a bit irked by that. And we have to be compromising, and we might be, we might be with the square because we want to get our need met. What's the need with Venus and Mars? The need to breed. And how do we get there by pleasing the other person in such a way where they actually allow us to breed with them? Or what I call dry breeding to do after age 45 because that ain't going nowhere. So, it's a time of, uh, reconnecting, making ourselves happy again, making the other happy again. And we may have to do something that makes us unhappy in order to make the other person happy. But it's not a terribly, terribly deep cutting kind of transit where we're going to look back 15 years from now and be like, "I had to give up my horse to get you to like me again." It's not there. Nothing that's like really, really huge. But it is a day of the.

Before we move on, if we start a relationship under the Venus-Mars square, it does tend to be marked with more selfishness. It tends to be marked with issues related to needing to rebalance the give and the take. That we don't see that when we start relationships under the conjunction. That seems to be pretty good. We generally will not start as many, or as significant sexual relationships under the, the sextile. And actually, the sextile is something that supports already ongoing relationships. When we get to the square, we are dealing with, uh, acting in a way where we were feeling, if we did start a relationship, we were feeling a bit thirsty, when feeling a bit thirsty and a bit horny and a bit bit desperate. We don't always make the best decisions because we're like, you know, "Anybody will do," or "You know, you might traditionally be a little short for me, but you know what? Yeah, okay. Okay, I'll go for it. I got to do something, something to relieve this amount of tension." So, with the square, with the opposition, if we aren't in an existing relationship, we may not make the best choice because the impatience of our position influences very heavily. It is so we'll decide to be with.

Okay, the transit of Venus to Mars. All right, before I get into that, I'm going to get a little bit more coffee and I'm going to get something to wipe my eye because it keeps leaking. For all righty. Trine from Venus to Mars. Very good transit. Recently had this one. This is one to look forward to because, uh, pretty much all of our relationships go very, very well. Doesn't matter if they're romantic, family, it doesn't matter. All of our relationships are, they're working for us because we are very willing to forgive, we're very willing to understand, we're very, very willing to balance the give and the take. We're not coming from a selfish position. We are not overly horny. We're not thirsty or desperate. So, we might start a new relationship under this trine. It's not famous for it, but it can happen. And if it does happen, it tends to be a very good, balanced, um, you know, well-managed relationship when it comes to the give and the take. The expectation of satisfaction is fulfilled under this trine. Um, both of us are agreeable. Both of us are concerned that the other person be able to enjoy themselves and get out of the relationship what it is that they want and need. Um, we do want to get with somebody. It isn't that we don't feel the need to, to breed or connect. It's just not up in our throat. And so we make much better decisions about who.

Up in our throat. Ah, I didn't mean it that way. I, I guess maybe down in our throat. Sorry, I can't help it. All right. So, there's a, there's a, a good idea of what we can and should get, and it's worth, it's worthy of our current concept of self-esteem. That's what Venus is. And when it's trying to Mars, we attract, you know, really balanced, worthy partners. It's very easy to act on our own objectives under this trine and expect that other people aren't going to be offended by that. So, we can be appropriately selfish, and other people are like, "Yeah, that's, that works. That's, that's good for you. That's good for me." Um, very different from the square, where our selfishness can definitely bring reactions from others that are not the, the best reactions. Um, others appreciate when we focus on ourselves at the trine because we're not doing it in such a way that we're cutting them out. So, we are, um, appreciative of ourselves. Others are appreciative of us as well, and we're equally appreciative of others. Um, a relationship that does start under the trine can be very stable. It can be something that is even a long-term relationship. Again, just like with the conjunction of Venus to Mars, look at other transits that are going to be supportive of that. Outer planet transits, um, at the time that you're having this trine from Venus to Mars, are we also having significant Sun transit to Venus or, um, or Mars? Just to Venus. Uh, it, it can show us what, uh, is probably going to be, um, you know, something that begins out of a very good frame of mind and continues. There is no bad. Usually, there's no bad end. When we start a relationship under this trine, and the relationship, it does end, it's usually something that's characterized by a great deal of agreement and wisdom and mutual appreciation of each other, even though you may go your separate ways. Um, there really isn't bitterness. At the conjunction either, if we start a new relationship with the conjunction, that it ends. There is at the square and the opposition. We can feel very much like, you know, "You promised to be something and you didn't deliver," or, um, "You just have a general conflict when it comes to ending things because it's going to be marked by conflict, the relationship to some degree, because that is the attitude that has started out of, that's the foundation that it came out of." See, all of these transits that begin relationships, they begin a certain type of relationship because that's the genesis of it is where we're at attitudinally when we begin that relationship. That's the foundation of it. That's why the rest of the relationship really looks very much like this. So, that's the root. So, you don't get a rose that grows out of the root of an oak tree, you know? So, we're planting roots here at these particular, uh, transits that begin relationships, and it's showing that out of that particular root is going to be a particular type of plant. So, if we want the best opportunities, it's probably best not to begin or plan to begin significant relationships when we have the difficult aspects because that is going to mark the entire progress, the, the entirety of the relationship.

Now, if you do begin a relationship under one of the difficult transits, occasionally we have have the opportunity for a restart under one of these easy transits. Um, so if we've broken up, if there's been a separation, if we just haven't seen each other for a while, if there is a reset, that can happen. It is wonderful to make that occur or to plan for that to occur under the easy transit. So, say we did start a confrontational relationship at the square, and we, you know, things aren't going so well, if there's a breakup or separation or something, or there's a gap time, it's to start again at the trine because you are coming at it, or the other person is coming at it, from a very different vantage point, and the input, the root is going to be very different. The trine, if you have a chance to start a relationship under the trine or restart a relationship under the trine, do it.

So, this brings us to the inconjunction, which I usually do not talk about, but it's one I have been paying attention to this year. So, I think that I have this year and last year. I think I have enough, I think I'm confident enough in my information to teach it, but keep in mind that you're getting ideas out of my head, and there is not a massive amount of consensus here. Uh, so I might be wrong. I don't think so, or else I wouldn't bring it up, but I always keep that in mind that Jewel can be wrong about. So, when we have the inconjunction from Venus to Mars, we're having a major period of rebalancing where one of us is giving and offering more in order to come to some kind of an agreement. So, we ourselves, if we're starting a new relationship, um, under this transit, it might be marked with us being particularly acquiescing or caving or giving, um, at a timing of this one in regards to myself. It's something that's going to, during a period of, uh, oh, what is the word? Forgiveness. And it can be something where we're seeking forgiveness and giving to get that. It could also be something where somebody's seeking forgiveness for from us, and they are giving to us significantly to get that. So, we always have a massive imbalance between give and take with an inconjunction, always. And with this inconjunction, can be feeling like, [Music] um, I'm having to put out a lot in order to get back what I need. So, we're having to pay 100% in order to make up and maybe get 50% back. It is a relationship that can show, it's a transit that can show relationships that begin are something that can be very depleting, depending on what the relationship is. For most of us, a relationship that begins is going to be depleting.

Now, if we have an ongoing relationship and then we have this inconjunction, it's something that can force a massive rebalance because we do have that imbalance in give and take. Sometimes that's necessary in order for us to feel like, um, we've given or taken enough to feel justified in going forward in a relation or making changes in a relationship. Just looking at this one in regards [Music] to s. So, we do have that desire for peace, the desire for harmony, and we are looking to go well out of our comfort zone to achieve that. Now, whether that's good for us or bad for us is going to depend on what's going on. [Music] Um, yeah, looking back, the day I met up with the sex farmer and, um, we had our major rebalancing where he gave, gave, gave, gave, gave because I was abusing the out of him because I thought he was a piece of. It turned out I was wrong, and I had embarrassed myself quite badly with a massive misunderstanding. And it was the day that he had that inconjunction that we met up in Jacksonville, and he was able to explain himself to me, and I forgave him. Depending on what's happening going forward. So, it is, it is a transit that inspires forgiveness. Can also be a transit, though, that takes something away from us personally. We give too much. So, look at his situation. Perhaps I, let's see if I was somebody that maybe wanted to take, take, take from him. He may not have been in the best situation because he would have set himself up, you know, to be somebody who was giving, giving, giving to somebody that was willing to just take, take, take and not give back. So, we can have those types of dynamics. Um, we have to make sure that who it is that we are ingratiating ourselves to. So, usually what will happen, but this inconjunction, we have to ingratiate ourselves to someone, or someone else to ingratiate themselves to us. Just make sure that you're doing it with the right person and for the right reasons, because we can make very bad decisions sometimes with this conjunction, and other times these will be very selfless decisions where we come out completely out of our ego, that's Mars, completely out of our ego in order to receive or give some forgiveness.

All right. So, that brings us to the opposition. With the opposition, we are dealing with potential significant conflicts. If we're in a sexual relationship and the give and the take is off, or the satisfaction is off, one of us is receiving or giving more than the other, we're going to see a head-head happen. And, um, it does force a rebalancing in the give and take and the receiving. Uh, we may find that somebody denies us something in order to get us to pay in what we need to pay in. And it could be us that's like, "You know what? You ain't getting none tonight because you ain't been treating me so well," and we get them to give back or pay in or to rebalance in a way that, uh, makes sense to us. We're very creative. We're easily stimulated. This is a horny transit. This is a transit where if we don't have a relationship, we may be looking for one because our feelings of needing to be satisfied are very much on the surface. We don't always make the best decisions regarding new partners because we are kind of thirsty, feel a little desperate, little horny. It's best to date. It's best to start relationships from a place of abundance, and we may not feel that with this opposition. It can be one that produces, at least in traditional astrology, uh, some scandalous results or behavior. Doesn't seem to be as bad as with Sun-Venus or Venus-Sun transits for most people. Um, but we can be a bit of a cat in heat for a week or so with this opposition. Um, we are more easily irritated. Others around us are more easily irritated, and that is an expression of that frustrated sexual energy. It does not have a ready outlet. When Mars is frustrated, we cut ourselves on accident. We get into accidents. It's general frustration. It's because we, we have not gotten that, that, that tension out of us. It's, it's going to find little ways and expressing itself. Be gay that day. It's not going to be that bad where we do something as completely out of the ordinary, or if you're a gay person, you're not going to be straight that day. It's not. So, it's, it's not so exotic that we will do things that are completely out of our, our vein of normality, but it does stretch the limit of what we were, you would be particularly attracted to.

So, a relationship begun under this opposition usually is going to be with somebody that's stretching the boundary of what we usually would invite or bring into our life. Um, there can be some conflicts, um, you know, regarding the, the non-sexual partners in our life, the social partners, the friends in our life. This can be the week where they confront us and they're like, "You know what? You could be a better friend to me," or we can confront them and say, "You know what? I could be getting more out of this relationship with you." Um, sometimes we can have a pretty darn good reset when it comes to reestablishing the give and the take. Sometimes can break up under this opposition, friendships and romantic relationships. They can break up, but you have to look at outer planet transits to see if that is more or less likely, particularly for having a Venus or a, I'm sorry, a Saturn, Uranus, or a, a Pluto transit to, to Venus, uh, or of Mars, um, actually to Mars in our chart that can contribute to this. The breakups because we already have that self-assertion lesson going on. If we're having a transit to Mars, then Venus comes to town. Um, this is a time for completing projects that we began under the conjunction, creative projects. Sometimes this will be when a relationship that we began under the conjunction does come to an end, a more shorter-term relationship. Um, I don't think that's the most common expression of it, but sometimes can happen because actually under the conjunction, we begin pretty selfless. You know, we can, um, at the square, if we start a relationship, much, much more likely to break up under the opposition, and that would be a shorter, shorter-term, like a matter of months relationship. Not an uncommon thing to see us, uh, break up at the opposition if we begin something at the square because it was began, um, more at a conflict-oriented time in our life. Now we're at another conflict-oriented time. Uh, yeah, finishing whatever projects we have, finishing, you know, we've been working on a book, we've been working on a piece of music, we've been working on a piece of art. The opposition is a wonderful time to finish that because it is the signaling that it's ready to be released, it's ready to go public, it's ready for outside eyes or appreciation. Um, so you, you really just want to go into this looking at, do we have sufficient room to sexually express ourselves within a relationship? And if we don't, then we can probably expect conflict. If we're already pretty satisfied with what we've got, this is going to be a pretty darn good transit. The opposition of Venus to Mars, it can be something that brings passion to the surface where we are both actually very much like the conjunction, satisfied. So, have to look at what do, what do you have going into it? If it's already good, it's going to get better. If it's already bad, expect some conflicts that could make it better, though. But it could show us the stress point, or you have a breakup. So, there's, there's two possibilities. If we're going into it with conflict already, and two, if you're going into a relationship, if you have conflict in your relationship and you're going into this opposition, it can make it easy to break up. You know, it's especially if it's something you've been on the fence about, like, you know, "I don't know, this is kind of a, it's kind of a filler relationship. I don't think, you know, this is the lasting forever." It'd be easier for us to explain ourselves or have somebody else explain to us under this opposition, like, "You know, it was good while it lasted, but I don't know that it's something that's the end all be all for me." Um, you know, we can both agree to that, say, "Yeah, yeah, you know, thanks for the dick in, but it's time to move on." So, we may have relationships that were not meant for forever. Uh, yeah, it's sometimes coming to a pretty agreeable end under this opposition.

All right. So, we have any questions about any of that today?