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Alrighty, guys. Welcome back to the channel. I'm your host, Gman. Today, we're talking about divorce, the mistakes that men make. This guy here, M George is his channel. I'm going to link his original video in the video description for you guys to go and watch it if you don't want to listen to me rant and carry on through it. He's made every mistake in the book. He's been married four times. He's going to tell us what happened each of those times. Let's jump into it.
to somebody about uh I I've been wanting to do this for some time about what the divorce uh has meant to me. It hurts to know that you don't mean all that much and you're easily replaceable because she had my replacement lined up before I was even out the door.
"How's that for a starting an opening prologue to his video?" This is what a lot of guys will really struggle with, or just about every guy will really struggle with this. You'll be um sitting in your house. You've just had the rug pulled out from under you. It could only be a week, two weeks, even a matter of days. You're there, you can't even eat. You've got the fog of war around your head. You're walking around like a husk of a man because your whole life has been upended which which to you felt very suddenly. But for her, as this dude just rightfully said, she's already had her foot out the door the whole time for the last 12 18 months planning the exit and during that process is also lined up another guy to go to. Very common.
But one thing that guys really think is going to happen is that they're going to think that because they're feeling down, they're feeling depressed. They're sitting in the house by themselves. They're unable to eat. Your stomach's twisting, thinking about what she might be doing. She might be out with another guy going on dates, whatever it might be. You think that she's having the same thoughts. She couldn't give two [ __ ] about you. She could not give two shits. And that is one of the biggest red pills a lot of guys get given to them and shoved down their throat is that no matter what you did, no matter how long you did it for, you are easily replaceable, discarded, abandoned, forgotten. Like none of those things you ever did mattered.
What are some of those things? A lot of men will put their wives through university or pay some sort of tuition or help them out with something, setting up a business, doing something or providing them with a really good lifestyle. You know, the guy wants a traditional life and traditional wife and he goes out to work, breaks his back for the family, but he's got the wife barefoot and pregnant at home and looking after kids. He's given her that lifestyle. You know, you'll see in those memes that they have on the Facebook or whatever and it has shows a man with dirty, cracked, broken, bleeding hands and and then it shows in in the next picture to the side of it some very clean feminine women hands. And it says, "I work and make my hands like this so her hands can be like that." And then guys, realize there's no thanks for that. You know what your thanks is? You know what your thanks is? Getting ruthlessly separated on and then ultimately divorced and going through the family court system. That's what your thanks is for that.
And guys will say, "No, G, man, you're so bitter and negative and nasty and my my life's going well. My girlfriend's going, "Oh, well, it won't happen to me. It must have been you. You must have a small [ __ ] or whatever it might be." You're talking nonsense until it happens to you. I've had numerous guys who I've talked to over the years and maybe said some of these things. No, I don't do that anymore. I don't talk this stuff anymore to people. It's not You can't help anyone. People I've said I might have dropped a few of these things to in the past and they shut me down or whatever and then five years later they pop up in my life. Oh yeah, I remember you telling me that and that's exactly what happened. Do you want to catch up for a beer? I need someone to talk to. And that's fine. always happy to talk to somebody, but you can't help people. People don't want to hear it.
But anyway, it is the most ruthless experience a man will go through. And that treachery stays with a man for years, if not forever. You're just not going to forget it. You're not going to forget it. And and what do you mean by treachery? I'm not saying it's because the relationship ended. Relationships end. It's how in most cases, cuz some guys do get out unscathed. I think it would be a small portion. Most men are going to have the legal system used against them to cause maximum damage when that woman wants to leave. And she's going to have no issues doing that, ruining your financial future, your mental health, and in turn your physical health as you might go and rely on vices to try and cope with the stress of what's happening in your life. I don't give two shits. couldn't care in the slightest. That is the biggest pill that men get shoved down their throat. Now, do they swallow it or some spit it out? Let's keep going.
I've been married four times. And uh the first one I was just very young, 19 years old, but uh I had a baby coming, so you know, I felt obligated. Uh and I thought I was in love, too. But uh that quickly didn't work out because I was young and dumb and just couldn't even wipe my own butt. But uh in any case that led to a divorce. That one hurt because I was just left high and dry. And uh the girl the girl I love didn't love me and uh you know actually I loved my baby and wanted to be a good dad. So yeah, when I was 19 uh I got divorced. Uh she left me and divorced me. So I guess it it all depends on uh who's doing the who's doing the divorcing. And most of the time, most of the time it's going to be women leaving men because most men have too much invested. And even though they might think about it, fantasize about it, um they'll have in the back of their mind, things are going to get better. I'm not going to make a rash decision. And they live that life for 30, 40 years until they die if they stay married. Most men are like, you know what? I don't want to lose the house. I don't want to lose everything that I've worked for, broken my back for from since I was in my early 20s to when men are maybe in their 40s, 50s, 60s, and even older than that. Like, you know what? I made a choice. I made the commitment. I've got integrity. I said good times and bad. I knew it wasn't going to be perfect, so I'm going to stick around. Women don't have that. Women don't have that at all. There's no honor system. There's no value system for the majority of them. I'm not going to say all because painting everyone with the same brush isn't right, but most guys will be able to tell you a story of either someone they know or either themselves that have been absolutely just shafted by women. And that's one thing that I've noticed in life. Everyone I know, every man that I know who has had a horrible experience uh in their life, a really challenging time, whether it be financial, mental health, combination of both, stress, anxiety, is generally due to a woman leaving them when they're at their most vulnerable or out of nowhere ruthlessly. Because that's the biggest shock. Divorce is up there with one of the biggest stresses in life. Just I think below the death of a very close loved one. And it's the death of a life that you're mourning. It isn't because a woman has left. It's the death of everything you believed in and of your safe world theory. Everything you've been taught and programmed your whole life turns out to be a complete lie. And that's what you have to grapple with. And that's why a lot of guys end up here because they want information. They want to learn. But women don't care. They don't care what you've done. They don't care that you've sacrificed. If they're not happy, they're going to go. And you know what they're going to do? They're going to use the law to the full advantage to extract as much money as possible on the way out. And people say, "No, G man, you're so ruthless about money. Life is about money. It's about love. And you need to trust people and all this." Yeah. To see how much it's about [ __ ] love. When you're down at the solicitor's office, you're down at the family court offices or you're starting to get letters from their solicitors, threatening ones into your emails inbox, and you open them up, there's no love there, demanding money in a response by ex date. Otherwise, you're going to court. Yeah, it's all about love. Yeah. Okay. Well, you're going to find out quicksmart there was no love there at the end. Maybe at the start. Maybe they believe what they said when they said made all those promises, but those um those promises are only going to be tied to their emotions. And if their emotions change, well, out the window those promises go and any sense of human decency.
And uh who's getting divorced on? Um let's see. I guess I've always been the one that got divorced on. And so many times that is the way it is. Uh these women just uh leave us high and dry because uh we don't meet their needs anymore or maybe we never did or I'm sure we did at one point briefly or else they wouldn't have married us but uh they quickly realized that uh they could do better I suppose. So anyway that happened to me a couple of times. So anyway that was the first time when I was 19 quickly got divorced. marriage lasted, you know, I don't know, six months or something like that, some ridiculous. But, uh, in any case, uh, the second time was, I don't know, maybe three, four, five years later, um, believe it or not, I married, uh, don't ever do this, men. Don't ever marry a um, a table dancer. one of those uh male male entertainer thing. Well, ladies, um I don't know what the hell she wanted, but uh she reeled me in and uh I don't know. I was still young and dumb, you know, like maybe 25 or something like that. 26, 27, I don't know. Still young and dumb. And uh that didn't work out. That was less than a year, uh or something somewhere around there. But that one didn't hurt too much because I knew she was kind of crazy. So, uh, separating from her didn't didn't hurt too much. I think it was a good thing. I think she just used me because, uh, she, uh, it was weird, man. She, uh, she had a little boy and he was he was young, little couple, maybe two years old, very innocent, you know, young and innocent. But, uh, the the father of that child committed suicide. He was like in the army and he committed suicide. And I think it was over her because uh she uh you know wanted to leave him or divorce him.
"Far out dude like could you you've gotten yourself into any more of a bad situation after already getting divorced, raped, and getting your guts ripped out by a woman that you had a kid with?" So what does he do? He goes into a second one with a army wife, a military wife who has tortured a dude to the point of ending his own life and also has a small 2-year-old baby boy that he has to take on as his own. And he goes and signs up to the deal. Oh, I think she was using me. Of course she was. most of them will use you. That's that's a very hard thing to accept.
He committed suicide. So this baby uh she it was her and this little baby and she was in San Anton. We were in San Antonio and I guess she wanted to move.
There's one story actually that reminded me of. There was a woman who I went on a few dates with. She seemed really nice and really well put together and she was telling me this story um of how she was divorced and after the divorce or she separated the guy that went divorced yet and had only been married a short term. I'm talking maybe I think it was a matter of months and she's decided that she wants to eat Pray Love already. She would have been maybe late 20s at that time. She was like talking about disgust. She was talking about her ex in disgust. Still husband but separated because he was so down and out over the situation and depressed with where his life had ended up and how the relationship had ended up that he couldn't get out of bed to go to work and he lost his job. Uh, and then she had to go over to his house because he was threatening to end himself and he'd done harm to himself with a blade. She was talking to me about this guy like he was the biggest [ __ ] we'd ever. It's like you caused that. I'm thinking, "Oh my gosh, thanks for telling me that story. You've just you've just saved me a bit of pain."
talking about this guy whose life she's literally ruined and he felt there was no other way out because of his depression that he was going to go and end it and she's telling me that like he's a complete [ __ ] getting ruthless moved to Houston so she needed somebody to help her move I guess. So she just uh picked me up and decided to marry me. Um so that was the second time and then the third time uh it hurt. Yeah, it it it did hurt. But uh so um we had been married like 12 years and she was the mother of uh my two children. I have a boy and a girl. My girl's u 18. My boy is about to be 20. So uh we'd have been divorced, I don't know, 12, 13 years now. But they were still young. Uh maybe like uh four or five. One of them was four or five. The little girl was like four or five and the boy was out of seven or so. But uh she uh got unsatisfied with me as a husband. And uh you know, granted, I'll give it to her. You know, I wasn't really excelling in life, but uh I wasn't doing bad things either. I wasn't cheating on her. I wasn't going into debt, gambling. I wasn't using a lot of drugs or I smoked some marijuana. She didn't like that too much. But uh mostly because uh you know it just marijuana slowed me down is what it did is it uh kind of it was like going through life with an anchor attached to your heels or something because it just drags you down. Um marijuana is not going to cause you to turn into a heroin addict. It's not it's not a gateway drug, but it's going to keep you from being all that you can be. And that's what it did for me. And anyway, um I guess she didn't like that I was not being all that I could be and uh was looking for something more.
There we go. And it's a story as old as time, isn't it? So what? She's got a four and a fiveyear-old kid and yet granted this guy's a pthead, right? Not perfect. So I'm not going to give and say he's completely innocent, but because he wasn't excelling and giving her what all the things that she wanted or what she felt she deserved, but why can't she do it for herself? Why can't she help? He gets kicked. He gets his ass kicked out. Third divorce and he's not done yet. And so what? She's got a four and a 5year-old. And this is a story of Bumble Hinge and Tinder. Anywhere say over 35 years old. Every single second woman on there is going to be a single mother with children under five years old. One or more looking for their person. They got like a one-year-old kid, a 2-year-old toddler looking for their person. And it's like, "How about you put it all back in a box? When do you go look after your kid and stop trying to palm your kid off so you can go out and [ __ ] bloss off the internet?" It's [ __ ] The internet's just full of them. I wonder if this guy's learned because it doesn't sound like he's really learned too much.
She ended up meeting somebody that she worked with and hooked up with him. And I tell you, I wasn't out of the house a week before she was talking to him and maybe out of the house. I was out of the house two weeks and he was in the house, you know, so it was pretty ridiculous. It was pretty obvious that she had him lined up before I ever left the house. So, uh, anyway, truth be known, um, she got some payback or I got some payback. Uh, she got what, uh, some would say she had coming to her. I know she's not going to like it when she watches this, but uh the truth is is I felt like she did me wrong to some extent and she got burned by this guy. Uh this guy got her pregnant. They had a baby and [ __ ] her over good. You know, uh good. Why should he feel bad or why should she get mad that he said that? That's what happens. They leave these dudes who for all intents and purposes, you're a bit boring, bit of a dork, you know, not not super exciting, doesn't get the tingles going. They go for other guys after they've left that dude and they get [ __ ] over for years and years on end. Most of them don't ever get a second marriage or third marriage or whatever they thought they were going to get when I decided to get rid of the dude in the first place. So good. I'm glad she got [ __ ] over. I don't feel good for the kid though. That's another kid brought into the world without a father around or a structured family. She's gone and she probably see she's probably out there saying woe is me and all this. Why this happened to me? You've literally just gone and dumped a husband who you had two small kids with to go and get [ __ ] by some guy off the internet or wherever you met him and get [ __ ] over and dropped like a piece of [ __ ] like you dropped your husband. Good.
It was real important for him to chase [ __ ] and get new [ __ ] all the time. So he did that uh while he was with her and of course she didn't like that. So that didn't work out. But they had a little boy. She had a little boy after this after that. And uh she loves that little boy. He's a good little boy. So no harm there. U that divorce hurt me because uh because I was replaced so easily, you know, because she had me uh she had somebody else lined up before I was even out the door. That's what hurt mostly. and the fact that uh she was the mother of my children and you know I just felt like I was kind of [ __ ] on a little bit.
"[ __ ] on a little bit, dude. She [ __ ] you off. Kicked your ass to the curb and was already [ __ ] another guy probably before the before the body was cold. The body of the relationship was cold. [ __ ] over a little bit. This is such a common story. The guy gets ended up has his life upended. he's kicked out of the house or the police are called and things are said to get him out of his own house, she can stay there and has BS coming over smashing her guts in in the house that he's stay still paying for and is banned from. That sounds extreme. Come on, Gman. That sounds a bit out there. This stuff happens. I have guys emailing me and telling me this stuff all the time. Not just making it up. I know these women just completely discarding men, treating them like trash. It's transactional for the most part. It really is. And that's why as you get older, as you get more experienced women, you can't look at them the same way. The more you learn, the more you see, the more you experience yourself in your day-to-day life, just how volatile and how a lot of them just can never be kept happy. they're never satisfied. The love, that state of maybe peace or bliss you are in with them at that particular point in time, that's all temporary. The best I've always talked about this, but the best the best time you're ever going to have with women is the first 6 to 12 months. Downhill from there, absolutely downhill from there. Not saying it all goes bad, but that's the peak. Sex, uh, they're very interested in you. They want to get to know you. the endorphins and chemicals in their brain make them just want to see you all the time and you could do no wrong. And then when eventually once those chemicals subside out of the brain and out of the system and you've gone and made a stupid decision to get married or knock her up, whatever it might be, while you have the um the dopamine running through your brain and your ball sack, then you're left holding your [ __ ] because you're getting no sex and you've got a woman you're stuck with who realizes she doesn't really like you that much. She thinks she's made a mistake. She's settled, hence getting dropped on your ass, thinking that there's someone better out there, some magic man out there who's just going to be better. It's a story as old as time. I know I'm ranting today. That's why you're here.
But uh maybe I had it coming because I wasn't being all that I could be. I knew that we had issues. I knew that we probably weren't made to be together. Uh we were very different. She was not a bad person and she's not a bad person today. You know, she's been a good mom to our children. Um she she went through so many bad things when she was a young a girl. Um you know, early um adults. So she hang on, she's not a bad person. Hang on. So you're making excuses for her. It's a full blue pill white knight mindset that these older guys have as well. Women can do no wrong and there's no agency and life just happens to them, right? Poor women. She literally ruined your life, bud. When you had two young children with her, kicked your ass out and was banging some other guy before your [ __ ] stuff was moved. Probably moved out of the house. Yeah, she wasn't a bad person. No, no, she's a good woman cuz she was good to the kid and she So, she should be good to the kid. That's her baby. Late teen, early adult, you know, she started having babies very young. So she started learning some serious life lessons very young and she did you know she made a lot of mistakes and so did I, you know, but she uh she learned a lot very early in life uh by um stumbling and those lessons stayed with her and um she has passed those lessons on to our children and so have I. I did the same. I made a lot of mistakes early in life and uh they stung me and they stayed with me uh throughout. I still carry uh all those mistakes and lessons with me. And I tell you what, I have shared them with my children and they're so good right now. They're they're such good kids. They don't do stupid things like we did. And I like to think to a large extent it's because, you know, we shared our mistakes, our lessons. We shared it with our kids. not once, not twice, but I mean, we've told them a million times about our mistakes and how it made us feel and how it slowed us down in life as adults and stuff and how we still carry around these uh these guilt, guilt from our mistakes and wasted time and regrets this, regrets that. But anyway, um we we passed all this on to our children and I think they're the better for it. They're still young. Young enough to be doing stupid things. And they're not. You know, they're not doing everything that we feel like they should either, but they're not doing a bunch of stupid stuff that's going to bite them and uh that they're going to have to carry around for years and years. Anyway, so we're I'm proud of the kids, you know. She is, too. And uh don't get me wrong, you know. Um she's she's she's a good she's a good uh person. She's a good mom. Uh yeah. Uh she [ __ ] me over. Uh so I thought maybe I don't think so so much then but and now but I did then.
And it hurt you know because uh like I said. Thing is at the time it's the worst thing ever. I remember I went through it and I'll stop here and talk about a personal experience when I went through it. I thought my life was ending. Uh I just bought a house um that I was very much overextended with. She promised me that she was going to help pay for it and we're going to have this perfect existence. We just started getting settled into this house and all of a sudden she just wanted [ __ ] out. She never really told me why, but you know, would have been too too it wasn't fun. Um, she has to pay a mortgage and go to work every day and come home and save save because we bought this house that was probably too expensive or it was too expensive. and she decided she just didn't want to be there anymore. But I didn't see it coming even though that she was not being nice for quite a while leading up to it. I've experienced all these things too. Living with someone who just doesn't like you basically doesn't want to talk to you, want something to do with you. Dead bedroom already. And then they pulled the pin. I came home from work one night and she had u walked out the door. Uh she hadn't told me that she was moving out. She had taken a lot of her things with her and that hit me like a ton of bricks at that particular time. That was over eight years ago. That's almost 9 years ago now. So, it's a very long time ago. But I still remember it. I'll never forget that. Walking into the house, I walked up the driveway and something just felt off. And I opened the house, it was dark and it just felt empty and my heart sank. I was like, "Yep." Cuz we've been fighting a little bit like, "Yep, she's left." I said, "I'm in trouble now. This is going to be bad." And I remember just for that six months uh the six months period from from from that day up until going through all the [ __ ] with the family court and all that happened pretty quick actually which I'm thankful for. But going through and doing all that financial settlement and not knowing where you're going to keep your house, you're not going to keep your house. You know, can you you know is you what's going to happen? Where you going to end up? You don't know what's going to happen. You're afraid of where life is going to drop. I never forget that. And then forget that 6 months and then probably for two years after that I was pretty pissed off about it. Not her leaving but the situation that I was put in. I had to do things I didn't want to do to to eventually buy her out of that property that she never contributed to in the first place. Had to pay her out a bunch of money and you know story as old as time for something that they didn't even help with.
So anyway, looking on now after all those years later, you can look back and I can say actually I'm really glad that h I'm actually glad that happened. She did me a favor. I should buy her a bottle of wine. And I don't say that being nasty. I don't hate her. I have no contact with her and I don't want to. But I don't hate her. It it one thing that that situation taught me and I think it teaches a lot of men is how resilient as a man you can be and what you're going to have to go through and some of the big challenges in life. If you can deal with that and try and remain somewhat levelheaded you can go through anything in life everything else is child's play compared to that situation. As I said, looking back now from, you know, coming up to 10 years, really, nine years, best thing that ever happened in my life is better than what I thought it would be. I've exceeded my own expectations. Life's good. But yeah, at that time when you're in that red pill rage as well, you're going through it. You're pissed off. You don't know why things happened or exactly why it happened and you're looking for information and you just feel angry and lied to and abandoned and discarded and robbed like that. All those things happen at once. Like it's pretty [ __ ] As I said with with divorces, I would never wish it on any man. I think it's the most horrible thing you can go through. And it's not I think for some men it'll be losing the love of their life, so to speak, the real plugged in guys. But it's more I think it's more the death of a lie if you really think about it. For me, it was like a death of a lie. I was living a life that was just a lie. It was based on lies. Societal programming and lies. And you realize that. I think that's what you you mourn and what you really have to deal with coming to terms with reality.
Anyway, some guys never learn. They go and do it two, three, four, five times like this guy. Okay, I'm going to shut up now. I'm going to play this out and we'll call it there. I I didn't really have all my [ __ ] together and I wasn't being all that I could be. So, uh when I left the house, uh I was hurting, you know. I I didn't have a lot of money or income uh or skills or education. Point is is I wasn't making a lot of money, you know, and then I was on my own. I had to go get an apartment and feed myself and pay child support and everything, you know. It it was hard. There was a time in my life that that I struggled. Uh but uh you know I I I I bounced back and you know I'm in a completely different place now but uh it took some doing and some time and a lot of blood, sweat and tears.
"Yeah, that's awesome. That shows to show you grit and the persistence and perseverance of men and our will to dig ourselves out of big [ __ ] holes sometimes." One thing that a lot of men do is they get themselves out of that hole into a very good position and they go and do it again. They forget about what they went through. It becomes a foggy memory, a bad memory. The the blue pill starts coming back. You swallow the blue pill again. You spit out everything you learned, everything you went through or that horrible situation. You put it down to life experience. You go out on the dating market. You get a long-term girlfriend. You move them in. And then you you're [ __ ] back where where you were. I've had guys email me and say, "Fuck, man. You're all right." I let my guard down, let somebody in, and I'm getting treated just as bad, if not worse, than what I was by the wife. But I was lonely, and I thought I'd learned the game. I thought I was an alpha dog. I thought I was this red pill legend. And end up getting [ __ ] over again.
Yes. Tears. Men, I cry. Does that make me a [ __ ] So be it. I'll be a [ __ ] I just wanted to talk to somebody about uh I I've been wanting to do this for some time about what the divorce uh has meant to me. And it hurt too. Uh another thing, it hurt because of the children. Um the first one hurt because there was a child involved. And uh oh gosh, I go into that more detail. That's a whole different story on its own. But the second one, no, it was nothing. The stripper, nothing. because I knew um that divorce needed to happen. The marriage should have never it didn't even need to happen. I could have helped her moved. I could have helped her move to Houston without marrying her. Um I don't know why we got married. That was just silly. Uh and um the last divorce I've been through, of course, there was children involved. They were a little bit older. Uh that one hurt even more because they were a little bit older and they were old enough to know, um daddy's not in the house no more. Daddy's moving out. He's packing up his stuff. Um, he's living somewhere else. They were old enough to tell me. Um, they didn't want this. They didn't want daddy to go away. They loved me and they could tell me that and uh they they could cry because I was leaving. And gosh, seeing all that, hearing it from the kids, seeing it, that just talk about pulling some heartstrings, that made me cry, too. That hurt the [ __ ] out of me because I could see it was hurting my kids and nobody wants to see their kids hurting.
So, uh uh that's why that divorce hurt more that and I felt like she was [ __ ] on me. Absolutely. Uh and u ultimately it was because I knew that uh she had somebody she had me replaced, you know, and that's that hurt, you know. It hurts to know that you don't mean all that much and you're easily replaceable.
There you go. That's the life of a man. I'm going to leave it there, guys. Share your experiences in the uh in the comments. And if you're interested in supporting the channel further or want to get into contact with me either for a chat or via email, the links are in the video description or the pinned comment. Appreciate you guys spending 32 minutes with me. I'll leave it there. See you tomorrow.