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In this video, I'm going to explain to you how to actually text girls, step by step—a full guide. So get your notebooks out, get your pen and paper out. This is how you're going to text women to get the results that you want. I've done several live streams looking at guys' text messages with women, and you guys are doing this completely wrong. This is how you need to text women: it needs to be clear and abundant. This is the right way to text women.
Number one: the setup. I like to set things up to give myself maximum results. I don't believe in guessing. I don't believe in hoping. I don't believe in throwing [ __ ] at the wall and hoping it sticks. I like to have a proven formula that works—a proven form that has worked for me and has worked for countless dudes. Is the setup. What the [ __ ] does that mean? You need to not get a girl's number until she agrees to a date. So there's no going—there's going to be no exchange of contacts until she's agreed to a date. Doesn't matter if I met her in person, doesn't matter if I met her at the grocery store, doesn't matter if I met her on Instagram—wherever you meet the girl, you do not get her number until she agrees to a date. Why is this so important? This is how you weed out all the girls who are going to give you their number and waste your damn time. Guys, numbers mean nothing. How many numbers have you gotten that got nowhere? See, us guys, we're logical, right? We think, oh well, she gave me her number, that means she likes me, right? Because I wouldn't give my number to a girl I don't like. Women will give you their number to get you out of their face. They will give you their number to get some free attention from you. They have no intentions of ever meeting you. They have no intentions of ever going out with you. Women are passive-aggressive a lot of the times; they are not going to just say no. They're going to just say, "Oh, okay, here's my number." They're going to give you the number, and then when you text her, she never responds. She'll give you the wrong number. She'll tell you, "Yeah, definitely, yeah, let's just change numbers," and then boom, you try—you try to set the date over the phone, and now she's like, "What happened?" She's like, "I thought you gave me your number. You want to go out?" "Nope." She starts giving you excuses after excuses after excuses. This is because she was never interested. So the setup is to only get women's numbers who have agreed to a date. This does not mean that now this is guaranteed she's going to go out with you. This means that you're now going to weed out the girls who are never planning on ever doing anything with you to begin with. If you meet her in person, if you meet her on Instagram, wherever you meet her, you're going to say, "Hey, we should do this another time. We should go bowling some other time. We should go shoot pool, uh, some other time. We should go do this some other time." "Okay, great, that sounds good." That's when you—you exchange numbers. You get her number. You don't give her your number like a little child and think that she's going to text you, because she won't. You take her number, but you only take her number when she agrees to a date. You're going to save so much time, so much energy wasting trying to chitchat with girls. This is what gets you guys frustrated—meaningless conversations that go nowhere with women. I'm trying to help you not make these mistakes.
Number two: no emojis or acronyms. Guys, stop with the LOLs. LOL LOL LOL. Man, I was reviewing an article—I was reviewing a guy's message, and he had LOL after every word. Like, what? Do you talk—do you even talk like this? You're diminishing your words. You look like a little girl, bro. You're a grown man. I can't take any grown man seriously that talks in LOLs and hahaha and LMAO. Are you a teenage boy? Are you a teenage girl? Are you a grown man? Why can't you speak clearly? Say what you have to say without saying LOL and hahaha, without using acronyms. You're an adult male; act like it. Don't succumb to what society is doing. Don't succumb to what these simps are doing. Act like a damn man. I used to be the guy that would do LOLs and all this nonsense. I would never do that [ __ ] again, because I realized, man, this [ __ ] diminishes my words. I just come across—how can you be taken seriously with anything you say if there's a LOL behind it, if there's a hahaha behind it, if there's a LMAO behind it? It seems like you're trying to soften your message so you can be better accepted. That's what it is. You—you—you soften everything you say, so you—because you're so—so scared, you don't want people to look at it the wrong way. I don't give a damn how you look at how I'm texting you. I'm a man; I'm going to text like a man. I don't text like a girl or a little child. Say what you have to say without having to put acronyms of LOL. Say what you say; mean what you say. A woman is going to have a lot of respect for you when she—she doesn't feel like, "LOL, like, what is this? A dude? Oh, this is a girl."
Number three: don't play her game. Guys, when women are not interested in you, what do they do? They take four hours to respond, a day to respond, three days to respond. Don't play her game. The moment you notice a girl is taking an excessive amount of time to respond, block her. Here's why: she has shown you her interest clear as day. This girl takes 20 hours to respond, a day to respond. She has shown you how she feels about you. She doesn't—she has shown you how much she cares about you. She doesn't—she doesn't care. Okay, so now what's going to happen? One, you keep being a simp and play this game with her where you're taking 20 hours to respond. Well, guess what? She doesn't really give a [ __ ]. You can take as long as you want to respond. She has no interest in you anyways, so you can take as long as you want to respond. You can take 3 years to [ __ ] respond. She never liked you; she never will. It ain't going to raise [ __ ] [ __ ]. I keep telling y'all, stop trying to raise interest and worry about raising yourself. I ain't raising a goddamn interest. I'm improving myself as a man, and I'm only dealing with girls that want to deal with me. I ain't raising an ounce of [ __ ] interest. If you don't like me, kick rocks. So either you're going to keep being a simp, play this game with her, text back late—and I've actually advised guys to do this [ __ ] in the past. Forgive me if I ever told you to do this stupid ass [ __ ]; it's dumb. Don't you ever do it. Don't you ever play this game where you're texting a girl 20 hours back, 4 hours back. "Oh, she took four hours; I'm going to take eight hours." She took—I don't give a [ __ ]; I'm going to block you. Peace of mind, baby. That's the first thing that can happen. The second thing that can happen is you say you stop responding, but you don't leave her blocked. What's going to happen? She's going to come back and waste your time in the future, and you're going to be frustrated. She's never going to act right. What these kind of girls will do, guys, they'll see that you're not really pursuing them like that; they'll come back in the future and test the waters. She still wants to see if you're the fool. Yeah, a lot of the times when these girls come back, it ain't because they want to—they want to smash all of a sudden. They want to see how stupid you still are. She came back to waste your [ __ ] time. I don't let women in my life that don't want to be in my life stay in my life. You show me low interest; I block you. She—she takes 5 hours to respond; block her. You got my permission; block her. She doesn't want you; she's playing games with you. She—she doesn't—she doesn't value your time. She thinks that she can play these stupid games with you. Focus on raising you, bro, and you'll—you'll deal with girls who won't take that long to respond. What you allow is what the universe will keep giving you. The less BS I tolerate, the less BS is given to me. Since I don't tolerate women who play games with me, I tend to not attract women who play games with me. Funny how that works, right? The more girls I chitchat with and play and talk to who are playing these dumbass games, it seems like the more of them I get. No, thank you; block.
Number four: stop trying so hard to be witty. Another thing I'm seeing with guys when I'm doing these articles is that, guys, you're trying to make an impression through text. You're trying to sound smart. You're making these slick jokes, and some of these girls—their IQs are—uh—room temperature level. They don't understand what you mean. So please cut it out. There's no need to try to seem witty with room temperature IQ. Just straightforward, bro. Don't be trying to be witty and—and make slick remarks. Quit that. It actually comes across like you're trying too hard. The more witty and funny you're trying to be in a slick way, she thinks that you're trying to impress her. Like I said, we don't impress—impress anything over here. If—if you're listening to Fitex Feelers, I—my goal is not to maximize the amount of sex you get, the amount of—of—of lays you get—none of that [ __ ]. My goal is to maximize you as a man, maximize your entire life, and women is just a part of it. I want my guys to be attracting high-quality, feminine, cooperative women. So we're focusing the rest of our time improving ourselves, building our careers, building our businesses, building our physiques—everything else. I don't got time to be dealing with low-interest girls. No, thank you. Don't be—don't be trying to be witty. If you notice the girl isn't—isn't following the program, just stop responding. If she plays that game of taking that long to respond, just block her.
Number five: you're then going to offer two dates of when you're available. So you've gotten the number because she agreed to a date. You're not trying to be witty. You're not using emojis. You're not playing her game. She's texting back relatively fair; she ain't taking hours to respond to every message. This doesn't mean she's got to respond every second, but she ain't taking that long to respond either. You're—you're now going to offer her two dates. Why is this important? Like I told you, this is a guide; follow this [ __ ] guide. Why this is important is you're now going to gauge her interest even more, and you're not going to put it like you're thirsty to see her. You're telling her your availability. "Hey, I'm free Thursday or Monday. Which one of those days work for you for our date?" That's exactly how you say it, bro, just like that. "Hey, I'm free this day or this day. Which one of those days work for you for our date?" She gives you any—"Oh, those days don't work for me," without a follow-up—don't stop responding. And you will notice, as well, another key indicator of low interest is if she picks the further date. Let's say it's Monday, and I say, "Hey, I'm free this coming Thursday or the following Monday. My schedule is like that for real," and you shouldn't be—you shouldn't be available two days in a row. The days you offer women should—should be spaced out by at least 2 days. So when I give a girl two days that I'm available, I—I'm paying attention to which day she's picking. Why? Because the higher her interest, the faster she wants to see me. This doesn't mean that every single girl is going to be available that first day I offer, but the highest-interest ones tend to make it work. They don't want to wait that long to see me. They don't want to wait for 5 days; they want to see me as quick as possible. When a woman picks the further date that you give her of the two, expect her to flake. This—this is what's going to happen when you give her those two dates. Either she's the kind of girl you want to deal with; she's high interest; she's not here to play games; she's probably going to pick one of those two dates, preferably the one that's closer. You know, okay, she's actually [ __ ] with me. If she tells you, "Oh, can I get back to you?" Don't stop—stop responding. If she tells you, "Oh, those two days don't work for me. Um, next week is kind of busy. Can I talk to you next year?" Stop responding. If she doesn't give you a date when she's available when you offer her two dates, she's not interested; leave her alone. And if she picks the—the—the further date, expect her to flake. She's on the lower-interest side. Everything I'm telling you guys—guys—is to weed out the low-interest girls, weed out the nonsense, weed out the games, weed out the [ __ ]. I don't got time for that. Like I said, I'm trying to maximize you as a man. I got a lot of [ __ ] to do, bro. I got a business to run, team to help, students to coach, uh, gym to go to, girls I'm already dealing with. I don't got time to be playing games with no girl. If you don't want to [ __ ] with me, no problem; I'm going to keep working on myself to find a girl who does. I'm not sweating you. That's the mentality you should have. Even if you don't have the rotation and the abundance that I have right now, believe that you can get that today. Believe that you can get the same abundance. The abundance isn't going to come just because you did some work; it's going to come with the mindset you have to be before you become. You have to believe what you are—what you are and what you can be before you become that. You're not going to get abundance, make a whole bunch of money, and now you're in abundance. You have to believe in abundance; act in abundance.
Number six: don't use filler text. Now that you've offered her two dates and she's picked a date—preferably the one closer—right, there's no need for you to keep chitchatting about nothing. There's no need for you to use filler text. You don't want to talk to the girl about nothing. You don't want to be chitchatting about nothing. A lot of girls will try to do this. You set the—you—you tell her, okay, she picks the date, and then you're like, "Okay, cool," and then what? She'd be like, "Oh, okay, so tell me what you're up to today," or some—I want you to use this line right here whenever—whenever you set the date and a woman wants to still chitchat about nothing. Use this line: "Hey, I don't want us to ruin the mystery when we see each other in person. We can talk as much as we want. I'm not going to be one of those dudes that's going to be texting you all day about nothing. I'm not going to ruin the mystery," which—which will make her bored with you before the date. The point of the date is to get to know each other. It's no point of us chitchatting over the phone to get to know each other. The date we've set is to get to know each other. This is how you text women; this is how you do it. This is the most efficient way. And lastly, is don't give her the address of the date till the day of the date. So she's agreed to the date; you're not going to fill a text. If she tries to chitchat, you're going to tell her, "Hey, baby," "Hey, sweetheart"—I'm just—I'm just giving you examples. Like, "Hey, um, let's not—let's not destroy the mystery over a text. When we see each other in person, we're going to get to know each other better." Say it just like that: "Let's not destroy the mystery over text. When we get to know each other, we can get to know each other and talk as much as we want." You're now going to tell her, "I'm going to send you the address." Let's say she picks Tuesday; I'm going to send you the address Tuesday morning. This way, she can't be like, "Oh, you haven't talked to me in all week, so I didn't think that you were going to…" blah, blah, blah. We ain't going to fill a text. I'm not going to be chitchatting about nothing the day—the day. I'm going to send you the address. Women who are not full of games, women who are legitimately interested in you—if you follow this seven-step guide, I guarantee you the—the quality of women that you're going to be going out with is going to be extremely high. You're going to be going out with girls who have real genuine interest in you. It's going to be way easier for you to sleep with them, not because they're easier, but they like you; they want to spend time with you. They're not going to be a pain in the ass; they're not going to be a pain in the ass; they're not going to be difficult to be around. You're going to enjoy going on dates with these girls. The date you should take her on is not a dinner date. Don't take her—don't take her to nothing you don't enjoy. Pick something that you like to do. I prefer something like bowling, shooting pool—something that I like to do. I love pool; I love bowling; I love—I love that kind of stuff. I enjoy it. Topgolf is my favorite date. If you want to go on a date—first date—in my opinion, Topgolf is my favorite date. When I moved to Miami, guys, I said I want to be close to the nearest Topgolf, and it is—is right behind me, because I love that date. I—I—I enjoy playing it; it's fun to me, and it's—it's interactive. I can teach the girl; it's fun, right? I like to do things that I enjoy doing. So pick whatever you like to do with good logistics and—and you follow this seven-step method, the seven-step guide, the girl you're going to be going out with—you're not going to have a problem with her. She's going to be fun to be around, and you can start building a relationship with this kind of girl. This is how you text women, all right? Like, comment, subscribe, share the video. I'll get back with you guys next time.