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I am, you know, like, I'm no longer worthy or I have >> You are, your price has to go down. Um, it doesn't mean you can't find love, it just means you have to provide value to a guy outside of sex, 'cause the sex ain't that great at 40, you know.
What's up, guys? Welcome to my reaction series. So, today we're reacting to what women do bad, and that is cope. A lot of times women can't, uh, we can't deal with the reality of taking an hour or poor decision. Um, and so instead of taking accountability, learning from our mistakes, changing our ways, we just double down and, um, get better at, uh, coping. And so today, I, I think the reason women have such big, uh, birthday celebrations is because we're coping, um, about getting older. Like, it's actually, we're making a big celebration because we aren't looking forward to it at all, and so we just have to cope. So, today we're going to do this one. Okay.
>> And I realized that it, it wasn't the age >> So, this is, um, uh, okay, we're going to do all of the women that are 40, uh, barring on like J-Lo or anything, are going to be sixes or below, just 'cause they're 40, right? Um, for a 40-year-old, she's attractive, but she's going to be five, six range.
>> age. I was just grieving. I was grieving the life that I thought I should have had. Just why didn't I go on like a linear pattern that I feel like other people go on where things kind of happen to them in a certain set way?
>> Okay, yeah, she wasn't good-looking enough or likable enough to lock down the men that she wanted, and now she's just being really sad. Also, um, this is my Ninja Creami, if anyone cares. Um,
>> way, and they, they don't have to go through the pain of the mistakes that they've. I do have two older boys, two older stepchildren. They're
>> Okay, yeah. So, she took an L because she's a single mother. And now she's going to go out and date with two boys. Cooked, you're done. Uh, you got, you should go 70 or something.
>> 20 and 21. And it's in my face [laughter] how much privilege they have and all the things that are kind of paid for, paved for them. That I never have, I had to figure out a lot of things myself, which required me to fall and and pick myself back up and lots of learn.
>> Incredible, the lack of self-awareness. You have your tits out, which obviously brings you a lot of, a lot of favors, right? And you're just going to gaslight. That's kind of what women do best.
>> Turning 40 this year was like a mirror in my face, which was like, did I have to go through all of that? Could have things have been easier for >> Yeah, obviously you could have made better decisions, but we all know that we won't and we don't. So, we're going to move on. And next, we got this lady right here.
>> life lessons I learned in my 30s. We'll get into skincare, life, relationships. Where do I start with number one? Probably
>> know if I want your skincare. You look kind of weird.
>> best piece of advice I learned, and it took me a decade to learn. Peace is priceless over passion.
>> Okay, so I am too tired to date men I can't control.
>> I promise you. I learned this because I was dating this guy last summer and
>> Oh, no. You learned, you learned this at 39? Oh my god, you're done.
>> triggering my anxious attachment and nervous system. I'd be through an air >> Anxious attachment is controlling attachment. It's I want to control other people's behavior. Like if they stay in my life or not.
>> Or or when I'd be on a plane for hours, I'd just be thinking about it, rereading our texts. We broke up, and then since then, I like laugh when I travel, and I'm like, "Wow, this plane ride is just so peaceful. I'm not thinking and going over this [ __ ]" And I just realized that peace is truly a better feeling. Too, becoming yourself is actually a lot quieter and slower. It's a process where you start just making these little micro movements and then you look back and you're like, oh, yeah, okay, I think I like know who I am now. But it's not just like I know who I am. Literally no way to be in the moment and to feel like you know who you are. It's just a reflection of all these little things.
>> Yeah, know who I am, that just means I hoard enough that I need to take a break and quote unquote find myself, which means find bad decisions, you know.
>> Did that happen to you? Your career can really start mid to late 30s, not in the beginning of your 30s. Being bold and adventurous at 30 is
>> Be there for yourself, [ __ ].
>> actually the ideal time. It's not too late. I moved to New York by myself, single at 30. My whole life started because of that decision. But being bold at 30, I think it's really a good time to just do something crazy. Move to a new city. Get out of a relationship you're not happy with. Find a new friend group if you're not happy. Be bold because you're still so young.
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>> Piggybacking on that, number four. If you do not believe in yourself, you will be stuck at the end of the decade regretting it, okay? I have a friend that didn't believe in herself, never made big, bold decisions, never moved away, and at the end of her 30s, I do not think she was where she wanted to be. But being where you want to be sometimes takes very bold, scary decisions. When you're 30, you can always redo a lot of it. But be bold because you're going to regret it at the end of the day.
>> Yeah, she's saying divorce your husbands, [ __ ], leave.
>> Okay, if you don't. Trust the detour, it will always lead you into the direction you're supposed to go. Always aim to make your own money, do not depend on a relationship or your family, even people that have it set for their family, I have seen so many issues where then all of a sudden it wasn't. So, never depend on that.
>> That's one that took me a while.
>> That's not bad advice.
>> But say yes to activities that are going to propel you forward.
>> Say yes to useless activities that all of your girlfriends invite you to, 'cause sometimes you'll get to bang Chad.
>> Pardon?
>> And don't just party. By mid to late 30s, I started saying no a lot more because I wanted to feel good on a Saturday morning and I wanted to be productive during the weekend. Weird, because before I was like, let's make mac and cheese and just watch TV all day. Stop being a yes woman. Piggybacking on that, drinking is overrated every weekend. It's not a good look.
>> I learned that by like 21. Where have you been, lady? Took you till 40?
>> So are drugs. Controversial, but meeting timelines and having kids at 30 is a lot more sacrificial than you think. You will never regret waiting an extra few years.
>> Well, it depends if you have endometriosis or not, huh?
>> Have those years to yourself, and I can ask almost every friend. Most of my friends are in their late 30s, early 40s, and they all wish that they just had a little bit more time to themselves.
>> god, how much time do you need?
>> If you're not meeting the timelines that you wanted to, it's okay because your future you is thanking you. Do the beauty things that make you happy, but always keep it natural. You want people to
>> You do not look natural.
>> barely detected. Lastly, surround yourself by friends that lift you up and that you respect.
>> Okay, let's see who's next. Who, who, what's the next cope? All right, let's see this lady.
>> Hi everybody. It is Dasha here.
>> Oh, the music.
>> And I am coming on here because I feel like I need to talk about this being, uh, vulnerable and open about me turning 40. Turning 40 into something
>> Okay, this is a fat woman.
>> and I'm clearly having a lot of feelings about it. I have never in my life felt this way about a number, ever in my life. Like this is the first time that I'm [music] like there is so much coming up around being 40 and I, I, I've had a hard [music] time even saying 40. Like I, I, my brain is not computing. I think because I've always been the young, youngest one. I'm the youngest in my family. Um, and I was just, I'm just, I'm just a baby. I'm just a baby. I'm blessed and grateful to see another year and and to see 40. Um, there's just so much coming up for me. Finding a partner, found, or will I have a baby ever? Um, all [music] these things with babies and I go, um, youngest one, I'm the youngest in my family. [music] Um, and I was just so just, I'm just a baby. I'm just a baby.
>> You're not just a baby.
>> I'm blessed and grateful to see another year and and to see [music] 40. Um, there's just so much coming up for me. Finding a partner, which I haven't yet found, or
>> It's not going to happen.
>> will I have a baby ever?
>> You're going to have to lose 50 lb first.
>> Um, baby, probably not.
>> Um, all these things [music] with babies
>> Might as well just do IVF.
>> and I would love to have a kid one day and, you know, I Women in my family have had children older, but there is, [music] you know, women do have a little bit of a timeline and a body clock. So, these things are starting to really get to me a little bit. Like where I'm at in my life career-wise and what do I, what do I do and how do I feel like I've, you know, been doing so far and just, I don't know. Like all this stuff is coming up, which is good. Like I need to really look at it and I feel like a lot of women have, uh, told me that the 40s are just like, 40s are amazing and you just really
>> Yeah, they're all coping in the comments. Think she looks like she's in her 20s. Uh, no, she doesn't.
>> sit in yourself and you get really clear and you know what you want and what you don't want and all these things. Like I [music] do feel like they said that about the 30s, too. Um, but maybe I would love to, you know, get into my [music] I don't give a fuckness a bit more in my 40s. So,
>> to [ __ ] around because now Here's the thing, young women, people are watching all the time. So, if they [ __ ], it doesn't go undetected because people are always watching them. Old women, no one really cares about, so you can [ __ ] pretty hard and no one's going to give an F.
>> That's, that is exciting. Also, know that I don't look 40, which is like, what does 40 look like? Who knows? I mean, when you were little and you thought about 40, that was like ancient, right? Um, and I still play roles, like I, I literally just played a university student. So, what, I don't know. I'm just going to get my Gabrielle Union on again, but yeah, there's a lot of things around the industry and women
>> Okay, yeah, she's cooked. All right, let's see who's next. Uh, this other woman. Not probably the best looking 40-year-old maybe yet.
>> Um, for, you know,
>> Well, it looks very plastic. Um, none of, yeah, maybe the first one was the best looking. I don't know. Uh, these are all probably upper, you know, for a 40-year-old woman, but just not great. They should go for 60 something.
>> my fellow 35-year-old plus, um, ladies because
>> [sighs]
>> I turned 40 last week. And I pretty much spent the last few months of 2024 dreading my birthday. Because I
>> We all dread our birthdays. I don't, I don't understand why women celebrate it. I don't want any attention drawn to it.
>> bought into the whole concept that it's like I am, you know, like, I'm no longer worthy or I have
>> You are. Your price has to go down. Um, it doesn't mean you can't find love. It just means you have to provide value to a guy outside of sex, 'cause the sex ain't that great at 40, you know.
>> no value or no man's ever going to want me because technically we're told that once a woman
>> it's just going to be harder.
>> is 40, you're expired.
>> I mean, um, more like 30, but I guess I'm almost 30. So, let's see. Yeah, let's go with 40, ladies.
>> And I just want to let you know that it's not so bad. Um, yeah, like it's, I, I, it's like I didn't want, it's, it's actually really sad and really, yeah, I just, like, it's tragic that that's how I lived my last few months before my 40th was feeling horrible about myself. Like, it's almost like the day was going to come and something horrible was going to happen to me. And I got to tell you
>> This girl's saying your 40s are the best years. I'm 55 and I still feel like I'm kind of in my prime.
>> [sighs]
>> This is such cope. All the women in the comments, cope, cope, cope, cope. We all wish we were as hot as we were at 18. There's nothing like 18-year-old punani. The world is just at your fingertips.
>> nothing from one day to the next, nothing's changed.
>> from one day
>> And then you have to go through all this work just to somewhat compete with it when you're older, and it's like, uh.
>> to the next, nothing's changed. And I, I think we need to start normalizing the beauty and the grace that comes from just aging as a woman.
>> [clears throat]
>> You know, I think it's okay to not
>> the ugliness that comes from aging. We got to normalize that we get uglier the older we get. Um, maybe if you get, if you're fat and you get thinner, that's an exception, but usually not, so.
>> be 20 anymore or 30. And if
>> I've had enough of this woman's cope. Let's see who's next. Uh-oh.
>> Same month, I'm turning 40, and of course I woke up this morning with these
>> Yeah, gray hair.
>> Oh, intense lower back and hip pain. Like, I genuinely cannot stand up straight. This is, this is
>> a pretty good body for 40. She could still get a man.
>> This is where we
>> Dye your hair. Dye your hair, honey.
>> we are right now.
>> You got to dye it brown or blonde.
>> Makes sense, because it is the first day of pride, and therefore nothing shall be straight. Um, [ __ ]. Yeah, um, aging comes for us all, so.
>> Yeah, it does. Okay, let's see who's next.
>> This is my birthday.
>> Everyone, so a lot of you didn't believe that I was 40. So, I had a video where I speak about getting my hair fixed and my skin fixed and my tits fixed, and all you guys cared about was
>> she was the best-looking one.
>> that I said that I was 40, you didn't believe me. So, I've taken the filter off. So, now you can see. This is
>> My filler, that filler does not look good.
>> 40-year-old skin, and I have had Botox injected into my head, Dysport since I was 26 years old, and now I'm 40. So,
>> [ __ ] I got to get on it.
>> I hope that with the filter off, you can clearly see we've got some, we've got a muscle pulling down that side of my face. Um, yeah, you can clearly see that I have a bit more of an aged skin than what that filter
>> Yeah, the TikTok does make you look so much younger. So much younger when she was real. All right, guys, so let me know what you think in the comments. Um, which 40-year-old did you find the most attractive? I think the last girl was the best-looking. Um, let me know in the comments. Like the video and subscribe to the channel. I love you. Thanks for watching, and I'll see you next time.