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I guess I expect more than I'm getting.
Expect. You're using a very particular word. You're not saying I long for. You're saying I expect, which means that sets up Rod to fail.
Okay. Okay.
You expect and then the person fails you.
Mhm.
So that's already a dynamic that is toxic for the two of you because then I get a response. But what does he expect? If you were expecting, what does he expect?
I don't know what I I I don't know what I want.
That's important.
I don't I'm not sure what I want.
You know you're disappointed, right?
And none of you even know what's missing.
Not Not even close.
You don't know what you want. You don't know what is expected. Both of you just know it fails.
Correct.
Meaning there's nothing there really. This is like some cover up for something else. But the reason I sometimes choose to avoid these conversations is maybe because they're difficult and dare I say anything about finances and that's it. That's you know it's not
Hold on.
Okay. Sorry.
There's a lot of pressure on me if you wanted me I want it myself. It's not bad to kind of you know be more successful for a second.
But when you deliver it with that, you know, jab, it feels
it feels what?
It feels
what? What does it feel?
It feels like a jab.
But I'm asking you not to manifesting right now. I mean, you get
it's not I'm not I'm really not.
Okay.
Well, you sound angry.
Okay.
You sound frustrated.
You
because I feel it. Okay. Okay. Because
you do not sound like you want to hear what it feels like.
I do want to hear it.
So,
do something with your demeanor that invites that.
You just witnessed it. She triggers so quickly.
Did you see what I did?
Yeah, you did. Absolutely.
You can do that.
We need to tackle our issues.
What does that mean? We need to talk about our finances. We need to get help and figure out what we need to do together.
Do you want to try talking about finances? Sure. Go ahead.
We know the answer. We need to make more income. That's the answer. We can't cut back on anything cuz there's not nothing to cut back on. We need to bring in more. There are things you spend on I don't and it's another x amount here, another x amount there. And we don't have conversations about that. All of a sudden, I say, "Wow, $700 out in the bank. Where'd that go?"
What are you talking about? You went to get your eyes tested last couple weeks ago and you spent $700.
But you know it's once a year that I go and I get my eyes checked. I'm not going to justify that. I'm not.
And this is where I get angry cuz this is where like that that's the conversation we're having.
It just came up. It wasn't even it wasn't conscious. I wasn't.
What conversation do you want to be having?
You wanted to talk about money and it was conversation about money. It just
So why didn't you talk to me about it then? Why did you have to wait? Like if there's something bothering you. So, if you want Rod to talk to you more, you have to make the conversations inviting. Okay?
If you're going to keep being angry, you're not going to have that thing you want.