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Today we're talking about lasting longer. And if you want to know how to perform better, you need to learn about erectile control. And here's the truth that might surprise you. Everybody can last longer in bed. The person who has a genetic predisposition to premature eat or the person who has had it their whole life. These super simple frameworks that I will discuss in this video will at least double how long you last. If you're one, it will take you to two. If you're five, it will take you to 10. And after watching this, you will approach intimacy differently and get a wildly different outcome.
By the way, I'm Paulo Tot. I'm a certified herbalist and nutritionist. And I've helped many men perform better through coaching my bestselling books, my videos, and even my events that I do. And honestly, I do this all day long. So, if this is something you want to see more of, be sure to subscribe, like this video, and join the community.
Now, when you think about lasting longer, you probably imagine mental distractions. And this is where you think about something else during intimacy to last for longer, whether it's your grandma, whether it's your dog or whatever it might be. But this is not even close to the best technique. And it can be a distraction distracting you from what's actually happened. Meaning your arousal levels might be slightly lower. And depending on your cause, you actually want to be more aroused, not less. And this might appear counterintuitive, but generally for most men, the root cause of not lasting longer is not actually being overly aroused. It's the opposite. Being not switched on enough. And when men are nervous, we have anxiety or performance anxiety or we've had past previous bad experiences, we just tend to want to rush things. And similar to when people are nervous, people tend to speak faster. When people are anxious, people tend to walk faster. It's sort of a similar sort of thing. And according to research, if men just took their time and engaged in substantive five minus one play, do the math. So if you don't know what that means, look in the comments, it can significantly increase their duration. So it's not that you're over aroused per se, is that perhaps you're not aroused enough. And this excitement essentially comes from relaxation. I'll go into why this is important later on in this video, but as a starting point, you need to be familiar with this chart. And this chart is called your actual response chart. And it shows the differences in excitement levels between someone with normal ejaculation and someone with premature ejaculation. We need to understand what excitement means and what arousal means cuz they sound similar, but they're not the same. Excitement is psychological. So, it's mental. And you compare this to arousal. And arousal is more physical. You can be highly excited mentally, but not physically aroused. So essentially that's the main difference and looking at this chart the main difference between normal and premature is the stages or the time taken to go from these stages and if you look at the initial stages you look you'll notice that if your buildup is slower this leads to gradual activation of the parasympathetic nervous system. So that's more stable and controlled hardons which is essentially the foundation of lasting longer. So more often than not, excitement comes first and then the physical response and this creates a loop. But also one can spike without the other. You can have a lot of excitement but not fully aroused or you can be too aroused and this can lead to your body wanting to finish quickly which is this reflex of ejaculation. But each of these are manageable and we're going to break these down. So stick with this video. A lot of key gems will be dropped. So getting better at slowing things down is a foundation. But there are many other gamechanging tips that I believe all men should know. It should be like common knowledge and I'm I'm fighting for that. So like this video to support that mission.
For example, ejaculation is a spinal reflex. And for men with PE, this is closely linked to sensory overload. So in if the input into the penis or your senses rises too quick or too sharply, the brain can't hold back the reaction and your reflex fires. And there are some positions that will reduce this direct stimulation to your penis and your glands. And this includes the spoon. This includes on top. Whereas positions like the dog or the mission one might over stimulate and push your excitement levels and arousal levels too quickly. So if I was you, I would do these riskier positions. Maybe slightly later on after you get more relaxed, more into a groove, more into a rhythm. But the first that I would start in, I would avoid those, right? I would avoid going deep. I would avoid higher friction. I would avoid going too fast. I want to be slow and controlled. I would rather use my hips, which allows for more smooth back and forth motion. And using your hips also reduces potential friction as opposed to that usual back and forth. Also, don't be afraid to stand up, but use those standing up positions because that standing up motion can decrease your hyper sensitivity. So yeah, try standing. And this reducing your sensation in the penis directly ties into this video sponsor and I'm very very excited by this one. This video is sponsored by Ida Godard. If you've been dealing with finishing too fast, especially when excitement rises too quickly, Ida Guard is a natural way to help slow down everything without using drugs, without using chemicals, without using numbing agents. It's all natural delay spray designed specifically for premature ejaculation. And the formula includes herbs that I talk about regularly on this channel and that's why this in itself excites me. It includes herbs like cyan, maneri, marinda or ficialis. And these are botanicals traditionally used to help balance sexual energy, modulate arousal and help support stamina. And it works fast. It only needs 15 minutes for it to kick in. But you can also apply hours before you need it and it will stay effective. So whether you want to prepare ahead of time or need something quick and reliable and gives you element of flexibility, I guard is helping a lot of men. They have over 10,000 men subscribed to this product and over 150 reviews on their website and this is a strong sign that it works. I've given it to a few friends who've given me some positive feedback, too. So if you want your guard, go to their website, use my code poll 10 to get 10% off your order or click the link in my description. So get involved.
Now back to the video. Even if mentally you want to last for longer, the body can override your intentions if your sensory load is too high. And this cream is one way to go around controlling your body. But there's other great ways, too. And one of the things I talk about on this channel cuz it's severely underrated is is breathing. And this is slow, deep diaphragmatic breathing. And this and this activates your parasympathetic nervous system. The part which is the rest and engage. And why this works is that it lowers your adrenaline. It reduces mental excitement. It relaxes the pelvic floor muscles. And it slows down the buildup of emission fluid. This is like you getting to the point of no return. And also it helps increase your awareness of your levels of arousal. Something we'll discuss slightly later on in this video. But something you can do during the act is to try box breathing. Is to try deep inhales. And when excitement is too high, you can take a deep breath all the way down to your diaphragm. fill out your whole diaphragm and also clench your pelvic floors. And this will reset your levels of excitement. You can see as you're peeking on the chart I showed you earlier, you can slightly bring it down ever so further. So you're slightly away from the point of no return.
Other key things that help in combination with this is herbs. So as a herbalist, I can't go a video without speaking about herbs. And one of the herbs that is useful for helping to control this is is ashwagandha. And asagandanda is an adaptogenic herb that helps reduce stress in the body. And this reduces the the fight orflight response within the body. And essentially PE and your fight orflight response are closely linked because they're both managed by the same system which is your parasympathetic nervous system. And this is responsible for your stress reactions. Anxiety and stress trigger your fight orflight response essentially flooding the body with hormones and activating your nervous system which also controls your ejaculation. And this stress response can therefore cause a person to ejaculate prematurely. Another herb that is beneficial here is rodia rosio. This is an aphrodesiac herb. One of the big herbs I speak about on my aphrodesiac video. Other herbs is things like sistanche is things like rishi mushrooms is things like holy basil. These herbs you can take in teas in powders in pill form. Um, I've got most of these herbs just in their natural form and I brew them as tea, not just because it helps with blood flow and things down there, but it also helps me stay in shape. Like everything in the body is correlated.
One comment that I get sometimes is how genetics play a role. And honestly, genetics contribute 20 to 40% of the variability in how long you last, but it does not determine it. The factors that play a role is that your psychological factors, your phys your physical factors. And one key factor here is your mind body awareness skill. Learning your arousal levels. And some people have to literally map this out on a scale and count. That's how you get your mind to fully understand everything that's happening within the body. So let's map it out. Let's do it together. If we map our arousal levels on a scale of 0 to 10, let's call 10 the point of no return. When you get this point, you know that it's peak for you. It's going to fly. Not all the time. If you have mastery levels of erectile control, you can actually get past this point, experience the big O, and then still carry on with penetration. It's insane. Um, I've got a video where I speak about the levels of erectile mastery. If you click the eye, you can get involved in that. And I've also got the webinar where I'll be discussing this further. If you click in the description, apply for your place, and I'm going to break this down in detail how you can achieve this level of erectile mastery. It's going to be a game changer. Super excited about that. It's all the stuff that I've really been learning for the last 15 years. all the stuff that I've helped men do over time, but just in one webinar as well. So, yeah, get involved. There's things we can't really discuss on YouTube. Link in description and get involved.
Cool. So, mapping it out. If we look at the early parts of this girl, let's put 0 to three as the warm up. This is where you're starting slow. This is where you're starting controlled. Nothing's too crazy at this point. Even if you're a 3se secondond PE gap. This is at the point where you're slowly entering your deep breathing to help relax yourself. And you're at a point where you're insert, right? And you might have elements of peing. You're using deep breathing. You're using um kenching of your pelvic floor to help reduce your excitement levels at this point. But everything at this point is slightly controlled. Right. You got the level four to six where you're getting a bit more comfortable. You're inside the initial anxiety of not being able to get hard on and get in is reduced. So you're a lot more comfortable at this point. And seven to eight is where you're close to the point of no return. And then eight is like danger zone. you're getting very close. You know that you're maybe one bump, two bumps, or whatever away. Like you know how far you are cuz over time you understood where you are on that scale and how close you are to the point of no return. And then this is the point where you're doing things to help reduce your levels of of arousal. Whether it's like starting and stopping, whether it's edging, whether it's deep breathing, whether it's slowing things down, whether it's clenching the pelvic floor, whether it's changing position, whether it's like things like kaza. If you don't know what kaza is, just Google it. the word is on the screen. And this will help you stay in this safer zone of under eight for longer and give you a better indication of how you're doing and awareness of what you're doing.
Everything I've discussed in this video will at least double your time in the field. There's so much more that I want to discuss, but I can't on YouTube. And that's why I really want you guys to get involved in this webinar. Click the link in my description, put your email in, apply, fill out the form. It's a short form, but it's a I can't take everybody for the webinar cuz I want to share some intimate tips with people and I want to be sure that it's a right fit for us both. So, click in the description, apply, get involved in this guard spray, use port 10 for 10% off, and yeah, guys, stay strong in the battlefield, last for long. You can't let these people knock you out in the first round. You need to be getting for a minute. So, that's that for this video. Look out for more videos like this. Subscribe, click on my face, and also get my herb guide, which will give you more indication of how herbs can utilize to benefit the body. And click here to watch this video on how to stay hard in the field. See you guys in the next one. Peace.