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It's time for women to wake up. Men are done protecting your feelings. You say there are no good men, that men find you intimidating, that long-term relationships are not a good deal for women. These are all lies. Stop lying. Stop blaming men. The problem is you. You know the real reason why you're still single. That's why you're terrified. And you should be because you know what it reveals. In this video, we're going to expose your lies and finally tell men the truth.
>> I'm so overweight. Like, when is it going to be my turn? What did I do wrong? I just feel like I'm never going to find the person if I even have a person. [snorts]
>> One of the things that haunts me because I'm 36 and I have I'm single is what the hell is wrong with me? 90% of my nights are literally just me sitting in front of my TV or on my phone or reading. This is the setup. This is my dinner. It's just me and my dog, of course. Y'all, I've been single a hot minute because let me tell you, I've been on all the apps. I've been outside. I've been wearing it on my forehead that I'm single telling everybody hook me up with somebody. But I don't know. I'm losing hope, y'all.
>> It's difficult that you're no one's priority. Like there isn't there aren't really people checking up on me in the same way as if you have someone to come home to. I don't have a partner. I've been single for at least like what almost like 4 years. And it's just so difficult because you realize that you have to be your own night and shining armor. That there's no one coming to save you. That there's no one really is there for you. Like you just you're alone.
>> I get it. Being single when you don't want to be sucks. And when you see women crying because they're lonely, it's easy to feel sorry for them. And of course, it's fine to feel compassion on an individual level. But before you allow your heartstrings to get pulled too hard on the collective level on the behalf of all women, I want you to just stop for a second and pause and consider how much effort modern women have put into trying to convince you that they don't need a man, that being single is empowering, that this is their choice. A quick look at websites like Bold that give dating advice to women, you're going to find articles like this. Why are so many smart, gorgeous women single? It's almost an epidemic. Late bloomer Tik Tok is making women feel a lot better about being single in their 30s. 12 surprising reasons women are choosing to stay single. Look at the happy images of women beautiful, glowing, happy, single. This is the image that they're selling. And in case you're curious what those 12 reasons were, I've posted them here for you to look at. But, you know, they're all the same. Women are single because they want their freedom, their independence. They're prioritizing their well-being. This is the myth, right? That women are always amazing. And if [clears throat] they haven't found a man, that's fine. They're still amazing. The very notion that women in this culture might be single due to some flaw that they have is incomprehensible. Women are perfect and any suggestion that they're not is highly offensive. Yeah. Why are you single?
>> Oh, okay. We'll still ask and then we'll go.
>> Okay. All right. All right.
>> Why is that a popping question? [laughter]
>> The reason why that's a a popping question is because it implies in some subtle way that the woman herself might be responsible and have the answer as to why she's still single. But in the feminist religion, that's blasphemy. In modern feminism, there are only three acceptable reasons why a woman is still single. Number one, because long-term relationships are a bad deal for women. Number two, men just aren't good enough. And number three, of course, men find her intimidating. The reason why these three explanations are acceptable is because they glorify the woman and they demonize the man. Of course, it's a complete lie. All three of these are myths, propaganda. They have no basis in reality. That's what I'm going to do in this video. I'm going to expose these lies and more importantly, I'm going to show you the truth that these lies have been hiding. But first, let me tell you another truth, which is that taking care of your skin with quality products and a simple skincare routine is the easiest thing that you can do to improve your appearance. Very little effort, huge reward. And that's why I'm grateful to Tee Hanley for sponsoring this video. If you want to look young, healthy, fresh, so much of it comes down to your skin, and it's really not that difficult to make a big improvement. Tee Hanley is a company made specifically for men. They know that men want products that are effective and simple to use. And their starter box comes with everything that you need. Your AM cream, your PM cream, your facial scrub, and your daily moisturizer. The box also comes with an instruction card that tells you how much of which cream and at what time of the day to apply. It's so easy. And if you live inside the US, they'll even ship it directly to your door for free. Men love and trust this product. There's a reason they have over 16,000 five-star reviews. And if you're not satisfied, they offer their handsome guarantee. They'll refund your purchase, no questions asked. If you sign up using my link, you'll get 40% off your first box, plus a free gift valued at $20. Plus, if you sign up as a member, you're going to get an additional 20% off for life. Don't delay. The new year is fast approaching. If you want to start it off with healthy habits that are good for you, you want 2026 to be the year of youngl looking skin, then get started today. Click on the link below. All right, back to the video.
I will personally Venmo $20 to the first person that names a man that deserves the woman he has. $20
>> me. I deserve my partner. She deserves me. We love each other. I bring massive benefit to her life and the same from her to me. So, I want my $20.
You wonder how she could be so confident promising money on such [laughter] a flimsy foundation. But you realize this is just the party line, isn't it? That all women just because they are women are amazing by default. Just as a law of nature, women are incredible and no man could possibly deserve his woman. For such a mainstream and widespread view, it is incredibly sexist, not to mention delusional. and it often finds its expression in the three reasons why women give for why they're still single. Let's debunk these one at a time, starting with this one. The notion that long-term relationships are not a good deal for women. There is this ridiculous propaganda that exists that says that long-term relationships are for the benefit of men but not for women. Like it's some kind of exploitative relationship. But let's review who's actually getting the better deal here. In a long-term relationship, a woman is allowed the full spectrum of emotional expression. That's just the privilege of her womanhood. The man, of course, must contain his emotions and remain stoic and never steal the emotional spotlight from her. And of course, gender equality means that 50% of household domestic duties need to be performed by the man. Of course, it has to be this way. It's the modern age. This has to be about equality. And yet there is no equivalent expectation of gender equality when it comes to financial contributions. The man is still seen as the provider. Equality in the areas that benefit her, but never to her detriment. And of course, sex only ever happens on her timeline. And if she decides that she no longer wants sex to be part of her marriage, then he's powerless. Of course, he can't force her, thank God. But he's also not allowed to step outside of the relationship. And many wives ban their husbands from even watching pornography. She holds his sexuality by the balls. Not literally, quite sadly. But he has no power in this situation, no recourse because she has the full protection of the state if she decides to dissolve the marriage. Our legal institutions are going to take her side in any domestic dispute that arises. Despite the fact that in non-rescrocal partner violence, 70% of the time it is the woman, not the man, who is abusive physically. But that doesn't matter because she lives under the privilege of our feminist society. Which means that if she decides to call it quits, she can be very confident that she's going to receive custody of the children, 50% of the assets, and ongoing financial provision. These women claim that long-term relationships are not a good deal for women. And yet, it is difficult to find a double standard that does not fall in their direction.
So, let's look at excuse number two. It really is so hard to meet a man that you really like. And I hear this from a lot of women, too. For like a beautiful, well-rounded woman. It's just not that easy. Like, there's not many there's not many great options of men. Just really seems like there's some disparity of like there being a lot of really great available women and there's just really not many great available men. I don't know particularly why, but I'm not interested in hearing men in the comments. I will say that right now because men love to like comment some weird every single time. I'm sorry. [laughter] Don't you just love it when [snorts] women are unintentionally hilarious? Like, they're so confused about men and yet they ban men from giving any feedback, from having a voice. I don't have any sympathy for her confusion because if she allowed men to comment, I am extremely confident that they would tell her the truth. They would clear this whole thing up and tell her what she actually needs to hear, which is that her standards are impossible. She is standing on a pillar of delusion looking around her and thinking, "Why aren't there any men on my level?" Truly, I don't think that many women have actually stopped to think about the fact that what they're looking for in a man is actually impossible. I want a man who's strong and who leads, but also lets me get my way. I want a man who's vulnerable and emotional, but also stoic and contains his emotions the moment that I need him to be strong. I want a man who thinks that I'm the most beautiful woman in the entire world, but also if I get fat, then he needs to still love me for who I am on the inside. It's so weird. Women have this long list of things that they think that they are entitled to from a man that they're obviously never going to get. But instead of taking responsibility for their delusional expectations, the blame still goes on men. Men are the issue. Men aren't good enough. Despite the fact that there is a much more obvious explanation right at hand.
>> Oh my god, dating so hard in the city. All men are trash. All men are garbage. Blah blah blah. It's like, do you think if you've been dating and you're in your late 30s and every man has had an issue with you or not wanted you, do you think at some point the common denominator might be you? Maybe you're the problem. Maybe it's not like the what the 4.5 billion men on the planet.
Which brings us to the third excuse. And very soon I'm going to reveal the truth. Let's just quickly debunk this one. Men find me intimidating. It is a fascinating twist of logic. No man wants me, but it's not because of my lack of attractive qualities. No, he doesn't want me because I have a surplus of awesomeness. Of course, that has to be it. I'm just I'm just so impressive. I'm just so amazing. That's the real issue.
>> Are you single, Phoebe?
>> Yeah.
>> Why do you think that is?
>> Because I'm too good for everyone, honestly.
>> So, you think no man can handle you?
>> Yeah, they're too intimidated.
>> Intimidated by you?
>> Yeah.
>> Why do you think that is?
>> Just the full package.
>> Oh, god. You've got these women out there saying like all these men, they're intimidated by me. They don't want me because I'm I'm too smart. I'm too confident. I make too much money. That has to be the reason why I'm single. I sometimes wonder how women would respond if an extremely feminine and emotional man claimed that the reason that he was single is because women are intimidated by him. You know, they're threatened by how sensitive and in touch with his feelings he is. They would think that he is delusional. It's like, "No, dude. We're not threatened by your femininity. We're just not attracted to it. We're heterosexual women. We like men who act like men. We are attracted to masculinity." That would be obvious to every woman. And yet, so many women display a baffling lack of self-awareness in their claim that men are intimidated by their confidence and their ambition. That's not it. Those are great traits. We welcome them. It's just that as straight men, we like women. We are attracted to femininity. And what you call confidence is not the feminine grace and self- assuredness that we are attracted to. Your version of confidence reads like masculine aggression, and it's really off-putting. So, let's just all stop pretending, okay? Long-term relationships are a good deal for women. There are plenty of good men, and men are not intimidated by your masculinity. We're just not attracted to it. So, drop the nonsense. Forget all these excuses. Nobody's buying it. Let's talk about the truth. If you're a single woman, are you ready to hear this? Because the reason that you're single is always going to be one or a combination of the following explanations. Number one, you are ugly. Sorry, I don't know what to say. Some humans are ugly and men want to date women who are pretty. Number two, you are overweight. Men want to date women who are thin and healthy. Number three, you are old. I know you've told yourself that your maturity and experience makes up for the fact that you're no longer 21, but it doesn't. Men are attracted to women in their early 20s because they're beautiful. They have many years of fertility in front of them. If you're still single in your 30s, you waited too long. Number four, you slept around too much. Men have a protective instinct of disgust that prevents them from committing to women who have been promiscuous. It is an evolutionary instinct inside every single man that serves a very important purpose, protecting them against paternity fraud. Men are not impressed by your high body count. We're not grateful that you have experience. We find it gross. Number five, you're too emotional. Most men enjoy some emotionality on women. It can be feminine and endearing. It can make us feel protective and even help us get in touch with our own emotions. But if you lack any capacity for self-regulation, you blame your emotions on men, or you don't have the capacity to override your emotional experience with rationality, then you've crossed the line from, "Ah, these emotions are cute," to, "You're crazy, and I don't want to deal with this." Number six, you're lazy. If you expect a man to contribute to a relationship, but you're not willing to make an equal contribution, you expect that as a woman you're just going to get served like a queen, then most men are going to overlook you. You'll stay single. Laziness and selfishness are not attractive to men. Men have [clears throat] a very keen sense of justice, of balance to determine what's fair, and if the arrangement that you're proposing is unequal, most men are not going to want to take part in that. Number seven, your personality sucks. You might be beautiful on the outside, but if you're rude, disrespectful, you complain all the time, you're never satisfied, then your good looks are not going to make up for the fact that dayto-day it's just an unpleasant experience to be around you. And number eight, you don't want children. I'm aware that feminism is running this weird experiment where it's trying to channel women's natural mothering instincts into all these different avenues, social causes or materialism or whatever. Understand, men aren't running that experiment. Most men are still in touch with their biology. They feel that instinct. They want to reproduce. They want to provide for a family. They want to have a legacy. And they feel calm and reassured when they see a woman respond positively to babies that makes them attractive in the man's eyes. It's a wonderful thing to hear a woman express a desire to have children. And if you don't have that, then you're just not appealing as a partner. To be brutally honest, what's really the point of you? like go live your life, you know, search for your individual happiness, but with regards to a partnership for a man who wants children, why would he ever consider you? Mostly, he's vetting women based on their capacity to be good mothers. You don't even want to be a mother. Why is it a mystery that you're still single?
Now, I understand if you're a single woman, that might not have been easy to listen to. You know, you don't like being single. And the explanation that it's just men's fault and that men are terrible, that's a lot more comforting. But I'm telling you, that's not the truth. that's not the reason that you're single. I urge you to trust me because believe it or not, I actually have your best interests at heart. You may not agree with me, but in my mind, I am 100% an ally of women. I want you to be happy. I want you to find fulfillment in a good relationship with a good man. But in order for you to achieve that, you can't choose short-term comfort. Instead, you need to choose short-term pain. Because yes, it's going to be painful to confront the truth, the real reasons why you're still single, but at least then you can grieve. You can make some changes, and then you've got a chance at some long-term happiness. You have so much more control than you probably realize because everything I mentioned in that list, you have the power to change, except for age. But the other stuff, you can lose weight, you can improve your appearance, you can change your priorities, fix your personality, rediscover your femininity. Your feminist friends, they want you to stay miserable. They're going to warn you against surrendering to the patriarchy. They're going to moan. They're going to complain. Let them. Let them wallow in their own misery. Let them spend their lives blaming men instead of taking accountability while you engage in some self-improvement, some self-reflection. You find a good man and you live a happy life. Cut those women out. Trust me, you're not losing anything. If you make changes in these areas, I guarantee you will become attractive to men. Highquality men will want to be with you. You'll have choices, options, because women with these positive traits are embarrassingly rare. So, you'll be very desirable. You pick a good man, you'll have a happy life.
Now, I have one more Tik Tok clip that I want to play.
>> It's not okay to talk about previous traumas in relationships.
>> So, listen, it's okay to talk about those traumas, especially if you are dating. It's okay to be upfront about that. But understand, just because you are transparent don't mean I want with you afterwards. And I'm going to be honest with you, it is within No. No. That's the problem. People think that just because you are honest about your red flags and traumas that you got to stick there. Have you guys seen this? This attitude from women is like, "Yeah, I've been through some stuff. My life's been hard. Yeah, I'm kind of a bitch." At least I'm honest and upfront about it. That should be enough. What do you do with that? As somebody who had a challenging childhood myself, I feel immediate compassion for any individual who's been through some trauma. But just because I have compassion for you does not mean I'm going to excuse your behavior. In my life, I never believed that the difficult stuff that I went through made me entitled to things from other people. I knew that I had some baggage and that it was a deficiency, essentially a mark against me. But that didn't make me angrily demand acceptance and approval from the people around me. What it spurred me to do was engage in very intense self-growth to overcome those challenges to turn them into strengths. That way, when I spoke about what I'd been through with any potential partner, I would be able to demonstrate that this is not a negative. This is a plus. Look at the lessons I've learned, the experience I've gained, the wisdom. My message [clears throat] to women is that you're not responsible for the terrible things that happened to you when you were young. But you are responsible for how you choose to deal with that pain as an adult. So, men, do not allow women to guilt trip you. Just because they've been honest about what they've been through does not mean that you owe them some kind of commitment. It might sound insensitive, but you are absolutely entitled to take a woman's trauma into account when deciding whether or not to marry her. The mistake that so many women make is that they think whether or not a man should commit to them should depend entirely upon her as an individual. But that's not it. He's going to take into account the whole circumstances of her life. Her past, her plans for the future, her environment, her family. It's all relevant. Morally speaking, it can get confusing because what I'm saying here runs counter to a lot of different narratives we've heard in society. And I want to do a full breakdown. I want to demystify all of this. It's quite a nuanced discussion. It might be a tough video for some people to watch. It might be quite confronting. But if you'd like to keep watching this video, you'd like to see that discussion, then you can do so by signing up to my Patreon. That's where I post the full length versions of all of my videos. I post them in advance. You get early access as well. If you'd like to see that, please come and join my Patreon. Hundreds and hundreds of videos, heaps of exclusive content. It's very affordable and it's a great way to support me and my