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These guys don't want a real woman. They want a fantasy rather than actually deal with a real human being and what comes with that. >> [snorts] >> And I am done. I'm done.
What happens next is so revealing because so far this is pretty standard stuff from a modern woman. You know, she's single, she's alone, you know, it's all men's fault and she posted on social media expecting a whole bunch of sympathy, but she didn't get any. Instead, she got a comment section filled with men who give her the male perspective on all of this. They point out her blind spots. They encourage her to take accountability. And how does she respond? Does she engage with any of the points that they make?
So, I got over 3,000 comments. Let's take a poll and see how many guys out here are actually datable. How many of you live at home with your mommy? You don't know how to do anything for yourself cuz you're a giant child. How many of you are hiding behind a computer every day and playing video games for hours? How many of you are fat slobs? You want double D's. You don't care about morals. You do better. Grow up and get ready to get called out. >>
You see this so often with modern women when they feel threatened intellectually or they're called out on their blatant sexism, they don't argue the point, they attack the person. Parade feminism as an equality movement when it's not. It's whole foundation and basis is centered around anti-male rhetoric and man-hating. And bigotry towards men and sexism towards men and misandry. >>
Why does that matter to you? What What do you mean? What Hold on. What >> Was someone very cruel to you? >> Yeah, this sounds like you somebody hurt you or you're like >> Wait. What Or you're like >> How would you >> Cuz why why do you care? Hold on. Why would I Cuz you care so much. The way you're talking about it is like it's lighting a fire in you. That like >> Wait. Wait. Wait. Hold on. Wait. Wait. Hold on.
We live in a society where the dominant cultural force is a hate group. Why do you care? Yeah, what's wrong with you? Do you understand that these women are not dumb? This strategy is smart. They treat your arguments as evidence of a moral defect. They lay the trap and men just walk right in. They get all flustered and confused and then suddenly all of your data, your facts, your logic, it's wasted. Nothing that you say is any longer in service of making an intellectual point. Now it's all used to justify why you're not morally defective. But as soon as you're explaining yourself, you've already lost.
>> I think we're done trying to convince you. Literally, nobody agrees with you, so that's fine. If that's your deal Literally, nobody. How's it wrong for a man to not want to die for a woman? Explain it to me. And maybe Give me >> It's not wrong. It's weak. It's It's morally unacceptable. It's morally reprehensible. >>
Do you see the difference between the masculine and the feminine style? The masculine keeps trying to appeal to logic. Explain this. Make this make sense. But the feminine positions itself above that. You're a bad person and no one agrees with you. Women believe they're the arbiters of morality in a lot of ways and they're quick to say that makes you a bad person if you do something they dislike or they disagree with, whereas men we're just a lot more straightforward. We're a lot more objective and logical. >>
Yeah, but logic won't win if women are playing a different game where they start out victorious because of their assumed moral superiority. It's absolutely genius. It's dishonest and manipulative and lacks integrity, but it's smart. It's very effective. There's a reason why feminism has been the dominant cultural force for however many decades. But how do they do it? What is the actual architecture of this strategy? That's what I'm going to cover in this video.
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Okay, back to the video. Imagine a woman emotionally and righteously begins a conversation with you by saying, "How can you not support feminism?" Straight away, you can feel the judgment and the condescension. You feel attacked and so it's natural that your instinct is going to be defensive. But understand this, if you buy into her frame and give your de facto approval of the paradigm that she's created where she is the moral authority, then it doesn't matter how logical or evidence-based your arguments are going to be. At the end of the day, you're still a defendant who's trying to prove that you're not guilty while she gets to sit there as the judge. Very rarely do facts resolve a moral accusation and women know this and they weaponize it with devastating effectiveness. I'm telling you, you cannot dismiss feminism and just think, "Oh, it's dumb. It's illogical. You know, we've got to ignore it." No, do not underestimate your enemy. Men need to wake up and actually study the architecture of what made feminism victorious. I want you to watch this next video with a different lens than you would ordinarily use. I don't want you to pay attention to the logical fallacies in her argument and try not to react to how overt and outrageous her sexism against men is. Instead, pay attention to the strategy that she's employing and ask yourself, "Why is this style effective? Why does it work?"
>> You men are struggling. You opted out and you numbed. You leaned into your porn addiction. You never emotionally evolved. You never developed any type of emotional skills to cope with all of the pain, all of the shame, all of the inadequacy that you feel. You kept getting lonelier and lonelier. Women built emotional skills to deal with your abuse and now look what happened is we have out-evolved you and women are done. We are not the ones that are lonely. You are. All right, let's get to it. Let's examine what she did because it's what all feminists do. At any point in that video, did you get the impression that she was attempting to convince anybody of anything? That she was arguing a point? That she was making a case or presenting facts? No, that's not how she talks. She's not making a point, she's making a judgment. Every single sentence is a judgment.
Consider this video that I'm making right now and all the videos that I've made where I lay out a premise, I explain the logical reasoning, I bring up facts and evidence. It's a way that we show respect to each other as men because I'm not going to make statements and then just assume you'll agree with me or morally condemn you if you don't. I understand that you have no obligation to agree with the points that I'm making. So, it's my duty to convince you, to make my case. And there's a sort of like a quality there, like it's quite mutual, but in some senses I'm kind of in the supplicant role because I'm the one who's trying to convince you of something. But by watching, you're also showing me dignity and respect, essentially saying, "Alexander, you're somebody whose point of view deserves to be listened to." I love it. I think it's beautiful. I love communicating with men like this. It's much nicer than this, right? So, let's get into detail. Let's examine the feminist strategy. First of all, assume the moral position, never argue for it. A feminist woman is going to enter into a conversation as though her ethical superiority is just established fact. That's the first thing. The next thing is to reframe any disagreement as defect. If a man disagrees with anything you say, just treat that as proof of how misogynistic he is. Next, you want to personalize his position while universalizing yours. Both this woman and this woman employed this strategy. Frame his viewpoint as though it comes from toxicity and ego and privilege and make sure that you present your viewpoint as though it represents morality and justice. The next piece is to monopolize victimhood. Claim all of the suffering for yourself and concede none. Women are victims of everything, men are victims of nothing. And even if men are suffering, they're just suffering cuz of the patriarchy. And lastly, make your preferred reality the default. This one is absolutely essential. You never want to openly present your highly selective feminist interpretation of data and history as a feminist interpretation. No, you need to hide that label. You want to present it as though it's just a neutral fact. It's boring even, just something to be taken for granted. It's not even worth noticing. Any man who would challenge that is just stupid. He's He's missing something that's completely obvious.
How is it that my way is always wrong and you correct me on how I should communicate? I don't know both. >> know why your way is always wrong. That's a good question. Like if I say, "Hey, that annoys me." You tell me, "Hey, that's okay that it annoys me, but you should have said it this way and not it this way." I feel like that's effective marriage communication. I like then. This makes no sense. Like my The way I do things is the way I do things. And it's wrong.
This guy is like so many men. He has identified that something's wrong. He knows there's a double standard. He can sense how unequal and unfair the arrangement is. And his questions make logical sense. But what I'm trying to explain to you in this video is that doesn't matter. I'm telling you this enemy cannot be defeated using logic. What use is a sword if your opponent is made of water? My tactical recommendation is that men need to become proficient at using the exact same strategies that women do. Not all the time, not even most of the time. We have to hold on to our masculine integrity, but think about it. What better way to understand the battle strategies of an enemy than employing them yourself, learning them from the inside out? You've got to try it at least once. Let go of logic and facts and just moralize and judge people. It's going to feel so weird the first time that you do it. And in part two of this video, I give a demonstration so you can see how weird it is. It feels manipulative and intellectually dishonest and just like completely at odds with your integrity, but I really recommend push through your discomfort. Try it at least once. Because once you do that, once you argue like a feminist for the first time, you're going to learn so much about the way that they operate. And if you practice this skill, you may find that there are times in your life when it is appropriate to use it. You're being exploited or shamed or talked over and it's all completely unjust. And so you say, "Fuck it." >> [laughter] >> You want to play? Let's play. So you stop being defensive. You're not apologetic. Instead, you are aggressive. You are morally righteous. Don't be afraid of claiming the ethical high ground. It's rightfully yours. The issues raised by men's rights activists are based on facts and evidence. Feminism is based on feelings and a narrative of perpetual victimhood and a constant shifting of the goal posts. You are in the morally superior position. So don't be afraid to claim it. If there's a woman saying that she's a feminist because she's against division, call her out on it. Act morally outraged. Make her justify it. No. Men are the oppressors. So yeah, y'all can take that little mansplaining yet a little discrimination cuz y'all Oh, I got something now. Right. Feminism is what's [ __ ] everything up. If you think I'm divisive, step foot in a feminist studies class and tell me that's not divisive. How you got this girl here saying that men are oppressors and women are oppressed. How's that not divisive? You tell me. Are men the oppressors? Yes or no? Yes. Ah. Thank you for proving my point. You think men are the oppressors and women are the oppressed. How is this not divisive?
I want to be clear. I don't expect or even encourage men to ever become comfortable arguing aggressively with women. I think it's weird. I think it's fundamentally unnatural. But what else is there to do now that women have stepped into the arena? They've picked up the weapons. How long do you hide behind a shield begging and whimpering saying, "Please don't hurt me." Wouldn't it be fascinating if we had a generation of men with some actual hair on their balls instead of walking around like little [ __ ] who are scared of losing the approval of women while they spout like hateful sexist feminist nonsense? And instead of the cultural norm of women saying, "How can you not support feminism? What's wrong with you?" Instead, we had men acting morally disgusted. "You're a feminist? How can you support a hate group? What's the matter with you? Don't you care about equality? Don't you care about domestic violence? Don't you care about reproductive rights?" And the women are terrified of how morally judgmental you're being. And they say, "Yes, of course I do. I support all of those." And you say, "If you want equality, how can you support feminism? What about child custody? What about the military draft? What about equal sentencing? If you care about domestic violence as an issue, how can you support a movement that suppresses and manipulates the data on male victims? Under feminist laws, men have literally zero reproductive rights. And yet you still support this hate movement? What is your excuse? How the [ __ ] do you justify that?
I apologize. I'm sorry. I know it's not pleasant to listen to. That's why we generally don't talk like this. It's weird. It's gross. It's got nothing to do with evidence. It's just feelings and judgment. I feel dirty speaking like this, honestly. It goes against every value that I have. They really are just the worst kind of conversations. Just this empty moral posturing. Like you you you just prove to me that you're not a bad person. I [ __ ] hate it. Every time I hear it, I instantly just want to start making like logical arguments. Let's go fact check it. Let's go see what the data says. I I don't like shaming people. I like convincing people. But do you want to know the really sad truth? Is that in terms of impact, that morally judgmental conversation, even though it's completely lacking in substance, that's going to make a greater impact on the psyche of a woman in the aftermath. The feeling that she has being subject to that kind of judgment is going to stick with her so much more strongly than any facts or figures that you could present. In a week's time, she's not going to remember the evidence that you pulled up on your phone. But she will remember the feeling that she had when you implied that she was a bad person and she felt like she had to justify herself. That feeling will terrify her. The reason why feminist women employ this strategy is because they know first hand how devastatingly effective it can be when it's used against them. I have no moral principle that I can point to when encouraging men to develop and sometimes use this skill. It's probably immoral, but what I'm defending it is on the basis of utility. If you accuse a woman of being a bad person, of not living up to basic standards of morality, that will stick with her. That's going to make an impact. And maybe, just maybe, that experience is going to be unpleasant enough for her that the next time she does hear a logical argument being expressed, she listens. Maybe she'll try and understand where you're coming from and learn about the reality of the situation. She's got much more incentive now because it was so unpleasant, the social shaming that she received beforehand, that she doesn't want that to happen again. You know, for her now, for the first time, holding on to feminist values now carries a significant social cost. And maybe she doesn't want to pay it. Maybe she doesn't believe it. Maybe she never did. She just did what every other woman in the culture was doing. She was just following the herd. She did not want to risk social disapproval from the group. But now, for the first time, she's forced to choose because there's social disapproval either way she goes. And if that's the case, then maybe the scales are finally balanced enough that what's going to decide which way she goes, which way it tips, maybe that will be evidence. Maybe that will be logic. Maybe that will be an integrity-based approach to the application of moral principles. Only time will tell, but it is an untested path so far. And maybe it's worth trying. Maybe some of you guys who have attempted this before in the real world can let us know in the comments section if it had any success. Because if it does work, then this might be a legitimate path back to some sanity.
Okay, let's recap what we've covered so far. We've talked about how women argue using moral condemnation and judgment. How feminist women assume the authority position. We looked at the architecture of their strategies and how men can learn to employ those same tactics. In part two, I want to give a demonstration of what this actually looks like in practice, as well as some tips on how to employ this tactic in real conversations. You can watch part two for free right now by signing up to my 7-day free trial on Patreon. Click on the link in the description box below and I'll see you over there.