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What's up, fellas? Had another loyal Patron supporter that asked me a very good question. He wanted me to explain how to get a one-sided relationship. Basically, he wants to know how can you get her to not see nobody else while you're dating other women. So, he asked me, "How do I actually go about approaching that?"
You know, I had to think about it for a second, guys, because like I tell y'all guys, I just move organically. Everything with me is not a strategy, it's just everything just uh kind of happens naturally, right? Naturally, right? Like when you guys walk, you don't think, "Put one foot in front of the other." You just walk. It's natural, right? When you start talking, you don't like, "Wait a minute, when I want to say my 't-w,' bring my tongue to the top of my..." You don't think. You just talk, right? It's just natural, right? So when I'm interacting with women, sometimes I don't even actually think about stuff as a strategy. So when he had to ask me, I had to think about, "Yeah, how the hell do I go about approaching that situation?" And I had to actually think about it. It's not actually a conversation that you have. You know, you don't sit down and say, "Hey, listen here, baby, this is how this going to be. I'm going to [ __ ] other [ __ ] and you going to be committed to me." Woo, that kind of rhymes too. Damn, that was pretty good. I'd put that on a shirt. You know, it'd be some [ __ ] Ms. Put that on a shirt. You put it on a shirt, sons of [ __ ]. Nobody buy the [ __ ]. So you don't trick me with that goddamn. Put it on the shirt, [ __ ]. All right, but anyway, um, getting back to it. So it's actually not a conversation that you actually sit down with a woman and actually have. It just kind of organically happens, all right?
So the first thing, guys, how this organically happens is you build an attachment, all right? So you get her to really, really, really like you, right? You build an emotional attachment. Y'all guys, I got several videos on how to build an uh emotional attachment, right? So it it takes a little period of time. You got to pass all her tests, all this other type of [ __ ], right? You got to know how to make her chase you, right? She got to view you as an alpha, okay? You're not going to get this from a woman who views you as a beta, unless, unless you're a naive beta male provider, right? I mean, a non-naive beta provider, which means that you provide for the woman, she don't love you, you know, she don't love you, but there's some providing there, okay? That's a non-naive uh. I know his name ain't supposed to be said. Now, so I'm just going to say the D guy, right? He's the best one off the top of my head who comes to my mind, right? Um, I guess Hugh Hefner would be one also, um, if he was still alive, but uh, the D guy starts with a D, all right? He was the one with Cassie. I ain't going to say his name. I'm not going to say his damn name no more, but he, he strikes me off the top of my head as a non-naive beta male provider, right? Right off the top. Right. Uh, naive beta provider would be somebody like Kevin Hart, who marries a woman who obviously, anybody can see, a blind man can see, Ray Charles can see, views him as a beta male provider, right? But he goes and marries her, right? So that's why I call it naive beta male provider, okay? So yes, as a non-naive beta man provider, she would go for it because you're paying. You're paying her, right? You're paying. You, you, you are overcompensating, so she turns a blind eye, okay? Uh, as far as all y'all guys who would talk [ __ ] and say, "Well, ain't that woman probably sleeping around with somebody else and all this other [ __ ]?" Guys, we don't worry about that because that can happen in a monogamous relationship or a marriage, right? So we don't get off into all the what-ifs. "Well, she could do this. What she can do that?" If you married, [ __ ], okay? She can do that if you married. I just watched an episode of Unsolved Mysteries where the woman was married to a dude, and she basically, uh, what was the [ __ ] name? Y'all guys can look the damn [ __ ] up. His name was, um, I just watched the episode this morning. I can't think of his goddamn name, but I just watched the [ __ ] [ __ ] on TV this morning or whatever the [ __ ] that Pluto one, one of them free uh apps. And she married a dude, he always thought that was his daughter, and then come to find out later, the mama just married him because, you know, uh, the family wanted that, but that wasn't even his child. And so after he died, the father died, the non-biological father died, the mother told the daughter, and the daughter goes and finds the real daddy. You see what I'm saying? This, so we, we not finna get off into all that [ __ ]. I wish I could think of the dude name because I actually looked him up. He, he dead now, but I actually looked him up too, uh, to see if he was still alive, and he was dead. All but anyway, so we don't get off into that. "Well, she probably [ __ ] somebody else." Your wife probably [ __ ] somebody else. Your girlfriend probably [ __ ] somebody else, all right? The chick I've been dealing with all these years probably [ __ ] somebody else. We all go by what we catch. I'm not going to be walking around with binoculars in a bush trying to catch no woman and putting goddamn tags on a car and all this other [ __ ] to catch a woman cheating, hiring private investigators like it's Richard Gere in that movie *Unfaithful*. I'm not going to be doing all that [ __ ], guys, all right? So we don't get off into all that, okay?
But number one, you got to build an attachment. Two, guys, you got to provide great value. Now, um, I just did the love language video on my Patreon, so y'all guys know how to provide this value, um, but basically, guys, to sum it up, you got to make it worth a while. So basically, this providing value allows you to get it into the investment part. So basically, what you have, guys, is you have an attachment, right? A woman cares about you, but in the back of a woman's head, she has to know value or not. I'm getting older. If women were like [ __ ] Superman, where they just stayed the same [ __ ] age, then obviously women wouldn't really care about this [ __ ] that much. But guys, I understand that everybody, y'all guys want to know. What this reminds me of? This reminds me of the goddamn running back in the NFL. Been doing a lot of sports analogies lately, right? And what y'all guys always see from that running back? Once he get about 26, 27, he always holds out for a great contract. You want to know why? Because running backs know they got an infinite amount of time to max their earning potential. They're not quarterbacks. They can't play to that 43 like [ __ ] Tom Brady. They know that. Running backs know, "Hey, Emmitt Smith is one in a million. I'm probably not going to play [ __ ] 15 years, 16 years like [ __ ] Emmitt Smith." The average running back knows that, "Hey man, after 7 years, 8 years, these teams be looking to cut your ass." So what you see from every running back? They don't care how much they love the franchise. The guy in Pittsburgh, [ __ ], the guy in Dallas, um, y'all guys know that I can't think. I'm talking my head. Uh, uh, Ezekiel Elliott, y'all guys know the running back who played at Pittsburgh up there with Rothlisberger, not not Jerome B, the one after him. He held out and ended up going to Buffalo or some goddamn. Well, you see this over and over and over again from running backs. It happens for a lot of players, but specifically running backs, because they only can take so many tackles. So if you get that from running backs who know, "Hey man, I'm 26, 27 years old. I ain't got too much time left. I can't be sitting here trying to be loyal to a franchise while I'm getting older, getting more wear and tear on my body, and then when I ain't worth [ __ ], they going to cut my ass with no [ __ ] problem. I ain't going to lose a win of sleep over it." You see that all the time. Women have the same clock in their head, guys. They know, "Wait a minute, I'm getting older. I'm, I'm getting older." And you want to know what made me think women even see this [ __ ] more now? Social media. It used to be once upon a time, you could be delusional and kind of forget you aging, right? You can kind of forget, "Man, I'm, girl, you still look good." Because you know when you look in the mirror, you see something different than what's in reality, right? When you look in a mirror, you see what you want to see. Them pictures tell you the truth. I heard a saying somebody said, you know why we look different when we look in the mirror than when we look on pictures? I think it was a director said this [ __ ] on TV. I heard him say it. He said, "Because the mirror is what we want to see. The, the picture or the video is reality." And that's true. So when you go on Facebook and you see a picture that you took in 2012 and you look at a picture in 2024, oh, you see a [ __ ] difference. So you know the quality of man that you're able to attract is going down every [ __ ] year. So attachment or not, this is why a lot of you guys got to understand this. Why I've always told you guys, attachment or not, most women are going to bail at some point. They're going to do just what the running back does. "No, hey, I can't do this [ __ ] forever. This [ __ ] going to waste all my good years and then cut my ass." So you have to provide value and at least get it to that investment stage. I would say that's at least a year. Now, once you get it to that year, the woman got to deal with that sunken cost fallacy [ __ ] where she's all in, so to speak. You see that on Shark Tank a lot where you see they want to find out how invested in the business you are. If you go on Shark Tank and you tell them, [ __ ], "Yeah, I'm still working 40 hours a week at my day job." Day out. They want to know you all in. You quit your job? You maxed out all your credit cards? You sold all your goddamn stock? They want to know you all in because they know it's going to be harder for you to quit. You still working your goddamn day job? You only got [ __ ] 20 grand invested. That's easy to walk away from. A woman who's been with you for three years, I'm not saying she won't walk away, but it's damn sure a lot harder. Y'all guys understand what I'm saying? So the better the experiences you provide, the stronger the attachment you can make it to that invested stage. When you make it to that investment stage, it's harder to walk away from something you invested so much in.
Okay, next, guys, pay like you weigh, guys. This is a high-value man's lifestyle. This is not for a $30,000 a year construction worker who damn sweeps all day on the construction yard. This is not for you, buddy. This is not for you. This is a high-value man's lifestyle for a [ __ ] reason. Now, a lot of you guys going to say, "Well, I make $30,000 a year and I [ __ ] clinic [ __ ]. You cheating." What I'm trying to teach, guys, is how not to cheat. We don't cheat. I ain't got time for the stress of ducking and dodging. I don't got time for that. When I tell y'all this, guys, this right here, this lifestyle, the reason I do it like this, guys, cheating is stressful. Lying is stressful. Do y'all guys understand that? So we out here building empires and [ __ ]. We got to deal with, uh, customers. We got to deal with all type of [ __ ]. The last thing I got to do is want to worry about is ducking and dodging and all this other [ __ ], man. I don't have time for it, guys. If you want to do that, yeah, you can [ __ ] a bunch of [ __ ]. I [ __ ] a bunch of [ __ ] in the basement. Now, understand, I was the fun. To y'all guys want to. I'm going to get off a little rant. Y'all want to know one of the the worst things I hate about being high value? Why I always got to be considered boyfriend material, man? I ain't nothing, guys. I ain't us never deal with none of this [ __ ] in the basement [ __ ] that looked at me and say, "He fine." I never had a girl in the basement press me for a relationship. They just said, "Oh, he cute. He jacked. Let me suck his dick." I never had none of this. Soon as you guys get high value, everybody want a commitment. "Hey, man, man, guys, by the last three or four years, I meet girls on the first [ __ ] date and these [ __ ] asking me what's my opinion on marriage." This [ __ ] is sickening. Makes my dick itch. If I have one more conversation about some goddamn, "What's your opinion on marriage?" No. Why? I had this conversation in the basement. Nobody asked me about no goddamn marriage in when I was in the goddamn basement. I'm sick of it. But getting back to my point, this is, this is a, this is a high-value man's lifestyle, guys. So you might have to go above and beyond to get that compensation for her to, to turn a blind eye, you understand, guys? So number one, she builds the attachment that makes her close all the other guys off. Y'all guys understand that, right? When the woman builds an attachment, she don't want to open her legs to another man. So that's number one. You ain't said nothing, she just automatically closes herself off. Two, you provide experiences, right? Provide value to her life, get it to the invested stage. Three, you pay like you [ __ ] weigh it. It's a reason why this is not. You guys listen. You want a woman to just [ __ ] you while you got a rotational three chicks and then you want to take her to a Cracker Barrel? You serious? You want a woman to not [ __ ] nobody else, let you waste her prime years, and you take her to the park? You want a woman to close off to everybody else? Don't she, don't see nobody else? You wasting all her good three, four, five prime years, hell, even a year or two for a coach back, guys. You got to pay like you weigh. That's why this is a high-value man's lifestyle. If you're going to want a woman, listen, I will [ __ ] Oprah. I will bearb back. I'm not going to do it for cheap. So if you want this, you got to go to nice restaurants. You got to get good. This don't go in debt. You know what you can afford. But like I said, it's a reason why this is a high-value man's lifestyle. That's a reason why poor people did crack and rich people did powder. What did Whitney Houston tell y'all last? Listen here, honey. I don't do crack. Crack is cheap. People who had money did powder. People who were poor did crack. This is not a crack man's lifestyle. This is a powder man's lifestyle. I'm not saying I'm just doing the, please don't do no drugs, guys. I'm just drawing a correlation. You don't get no participation trophy here. You can be broke and cheat, or you can be broke and have a rotation of women because they don't see you as, um, boyfriend material, right? The problem is with those chicks is they typically don't close themselves off because they don't build an attachment to you because they emotionally don't invest in you because they don't consider you that. So like the bad boys when we talking about them and stuff like this here, what y'all guys see them? They fun time. Now, maybe you see some of the younger girls get invested in them and stuff like this, but once a woman hit 28, 29 years old, those dudes just become a bust me baby, that's it. Women stop emotionally investing in them because they start thinking more of a provider, right? So when I was in the basement, the women I'm quite sure was [ __ ] other dudes, and I was not in a position to be able to provide for, like, to to offer a certain lifestyle to get a woman to close off to it. Didn't matter if I, the women didn't even consider me like that, guys, to be quite honest with you. The women never asked the questions I get now. You could tell that I'm successful. I never got none of this back in the day. I never got none of these questions back in the day. The audacity of these [ __ ] punishing me for being successful. I don't get fun boy booty no more. I get husband material booty, which means for all y'all guys wondering what that mean, that means I get a bunch of goddamn marriage questions and relationship. And when was I never got none of that in the [ __ ] basement? It pisses me off.
And lastly, guys, see no evil, hear no evil. And what that means, guys, is this here. You don't actually tell a woman, "Hey, I'm seeing other women." You know, in the Italian mafia, the guys don't tell their wives, "Hey, I'm going to get ready to go to my goomah's house." They don't do that. They don't tell them that. It's just assumed. So you don't blatantly tell a woman, "Hey, uh, last night I was with another one of my [ __ ]." You don't talk about that type of stuff. She closes herself off to other men, and you do your thing. The what tells this, guys, is that you're not in a committed relationship. That says everything. If you want to be with just her, you will be in a committed relationship. If a team didn't want to trade you, they would give you a no-trade clause. If a team wants to keep the no-trade clause, what the [ __ ] does that tell you? Now, the team is not going to tell you, "Hey, uh, we want to trade you or we might trade you." The fact that they didn't give you the no-trade clause tells you that they're open to trading you. See, you don't always got to blankly say [ __ ], guys. A non-commitment means just that. He's probably seeing other people or he's open to it. Me not giving you, me being a team not giving you a no-trade clause, what does that tell you? I want to trade. I might, I, I might trade you if something good comes along. So that don't mean as a man that just because you're in a non-committal relationship that you're seeing other people. It just means that I want to be open to it. So you don't actually tell her. The non-commitment does the talking for you. If I don't give you the commitment, then that tells you I want to see other people. For all you guys who back in the day, um, so back in the day, one thing was, you get tired of going to the club and then you start pressuring a girl for a relationship, right? Because you want to lock her ass down. And a woman tell you, trying to slow you down, like, "Well, hold on, let's take our time." This, that, and the other. I know that [ __ ] sounds crazy now, right? But that's how it used to be back in the day, right? You find a fine girl that you like, man, I want, I want her to be my girl. So you start want to know, push up on her for a commitment, right? And the woman would slow you down. And now, me being older, I realized why she wanted to slow you down. Not saying that I want outside dick, I just want to be open to the opportunity that I can get outside dick. So that's how you get a one-sided monogamous relationship, guys, okay? That's how it's done. You don't actually have the conversation. Your actions, the fact that you don't commit, says everything. But to get it to that point, you got to provide a lot of value. The attachment closes her off to other men. You provide value, you get it to the investment stage. Once you get it to the invested stage, now you got to provide even better value. Got to pay like you weigh. This is not, it's not a broke man lifestyle. Hey, guys, stop wanting to get a [ __ ] participation trophy just because you breathe out. Don't mean, listen, just because you feel like you're entitled to go stay at the Four Seasons for the weekend if you can't afford it, you can't afford it. If you want a Rolls-Royce, it don't mean [ __ ]. If you can't afford it, you can't expect a woman that's attractive to be in a one-sided relationship with you for some goddamn Ruby Tuesday's. The way it is, I'm sorry. I don't know what to tell you. Now, you can have 20 [ __ ]. Right? You can have 20 [ __ ]. Either cheating or they just look at you as fun time. I had that. But the question was, he wanted a one-sided monogamous relationship. That's what the question was. Anybody can have 20 [ __ ]. They [ __ ] either, uh, cheating or the woman is sleeping with other dudes. He wanted a one-sided monogamous relationship, and this is how it's done. All right, guys, I'll get back with you guys later.