Stop "Proving Yourself" and You Can Have It All

Most people believe that they have to prove themselves, defend themselves, and conquer in order to get ahead in life. But what if I told you you actually need to stop trying to prove yourself, realize that you have nothing to defend and nothing to conquer? And that the more you come out of this egoic game, which is what all of this is, and move more into your heart, move more into higher consciousness, higher vibration, the more the things that you want, the good things in life, start to come into your life in a much more simple and easy way.

The ego game is a complete trap. It's like being on a hamster wheel where you have to continually prove yourself, defend, and conquer over and over again. Once you've proven yourself once and you feel like you've won, you'll notice that you have to keep going around and around and again and prove yourself time and time and time again or defend yourself time and time again or seemingly have to conquer something or someone else to continually get ahead. You'll always be subjected to or at the whims of other people's opinions that will continually get to you, which leads you to wanting to prove, defend, or conquer in order to show them.

However, this is a false path. This is the ego path. And this is not the pathway that you would choose for yourself if you removed all of the outside noise. It is not the pathway you would choose for yourself if you were choosing from a much deeper place or for what you actually came here to do. Usually, it is a path that has been influenced by the opinions of other people around you. Whether it's being your teachers, authority, what you were programmed to do since you were younger, um different peers, your parents, but it's usually not a path that's really true to you, but you feel like you need to do again to satisfy one of these where your true path when you actually pursue this.

Not only do the things you actually want start coming into your life more easily and effortlessly, and when we say the things that you want, we could be talking about um an abundance of finances. Maybe that's something you really desire at a deep level. It could be expanded and better health. It could be just a completely new outlook on life where you see the good in everything and more and more good comes in or an amazing relationship or relationships. It doesn't matter what it is. It starts to be drawn in and you start care uh caring less or not at all about the opinion of other people who are trying to prove or have you prove, defend or conquer simply because they're coming from that perspective. And when you start doing this, tuning in to more of here, the high consciousness, the higher levels of frequency and vibration, you rise above anyone who's trying to come from this level of energy and knock you off your true path. And you allow yourself to stay on your true path for what you actually came here to do. for what it is your heart truly desires. Not what you think you desire from the head or from the ego that may tell you, hey, you need to make millions of dollars or billions of dollars, yet you're not exactly sure why you have that belief or, hey, you need to go, you know, conquer this thing or do this thing or prove to this person. None of those are coming from that deep place.

And ultimately when it comes to these two pathways cuz you can travel down either and it's not necessarily right or wrong, better or worse, but there are different consequences to each. Going down the ego path almost always leads to suffering. It almost always falls apart at some point and you get tired of rolling or running on the hamster wheel of life over and over and over and over again. It leads to burnout. It leads to complications in other uh parts of your life. Whether it's health, whether it is relationships, whether it is the financial stuff that you're holding up on a pedestal, crumbling down and then not knowing what to do. Whereas this path attracts, it's joyful, it's high conscious, while also allowing you to have the things that you actually want. And that might seem far-fetched to you because we're so used to traveling down this path that most people don't know what it feels like to go down this one where you don't have to suffer your way to success, where you don't have to work yourself to the bone in order to have financial stability or to do something that you're passionate about or to get ahead in life. None of that is necessary when you go down the true path.

And so today we're going to dive deep into how this works and how you can start engaging on this one. The path of the heart, the path that the true you wants to go down and to turn your back on the ego path that most likely hasn't been serving you up until this point and has mostly led to suffering and giving into other people's opinions or whatever else. These two are completely different realities. They are like living a completely different life. And so if that sounds good to you, that's what we're going to jump into. Again, we're going to go over more ideas on how this works so you have a framework to work with. And then we're going to go over the practicality so you know exactly how to apply this in a very real way. So it's not just this nebulous up in the cloud esoteric stuff, but something you can bring down into your life here on Earth and actually use to start doing this more effectively.

So, let's talk a little bit more about why proving yourself kind of repels what it is you actually want or you have to work incredibly hard to get anything if you do it that way, which is unnecessary by the way and comes with complications. Versus when you stop trying to prove yourself and you just get into what we can say is the heart and follow that pathway, which is usually so much more easy and effortless because now you're going not against resistance. It's kind of like the difference between swinging swimming up a stream when you're looking to prove yourself versus allowing the stream to carry you and having the power of the stream at your back or we'll say river at your back to make it you know you might not a stream you might be just stuck there right but you have a river and it's at your back versus swimming up against it. When you try and swim up against the stream or the river of life it's very powerful that flow. And so you're essentially fighting life. And when you're fighting life in order to get the things that you desire, the things you're trying to get, it becomes very difficult because life's actually trying to take you in a different direction. And it's following the cues of the deeper part of yourself, your soul, your heart. So it's only trying to take you where it is actually at a deep level you want to go that you at a deeper, higher conscious level want to go and you're essentially resisting this. Whereas if we learn how to stop trying to prove ourselves, defend, conquer all this and get more in the heart, we work with the river co-creatively, co-operatively, and it becomes a much easier game.

So, what I want you to have as a framework um is one I've mentioned a little bit ago, but this is called the to me, by me, through me framework. And this comes from someone named Michael Beckwith, who is an amazing teacher. I believe it comes from his book Life Visioning. I might be where he first mentioned it. He might have mentioned it before that, but I'm pretty sure it's also in that book. I read it uh a while ago. But and there's one other called as me, but we it's not important for what we're talking about today. As me is kind of like oneness, wholeness. It's not really an experience within duality. And we are dualistic beings, at least as we're humans. So, it's not something we need to explore too much right now. As a mentor of mine um would say, if you find yourself in asmi most of the time, expect a bus to come and take you out of the game of the human game because you've graduated. You're you're on to the next. It's not why you're it's not what you're here to play in this game of life in this form, right? But we have these other three to me, by me, and through me. And these are all games we can play in this in this human game, right? This is all games that we can decide. And these represent different levels of consciousness. And I will relate them to different levels of consciousness on what's called the Hawking scale. So you have an idea of where where each one is.

Now the ego primarily functions from these two levels and that's to me and by me. Now to me you can essentially think of as someone going life happens to me right. So this ultimately is victim consciousness. This is the victim right? This is the person who thinks why always me. This is the person that blames absolutely everything for the most part on something outside of them, on someone else, on a certain situation, on whatever else. Life happens to me. I have no control. I am just a poor little thing being thrown about by the storms and winds of life who can't do anything about it. This is the tumi level of consciousness and this is the lowest level of consciousness that you can find yourself in. Now this level of consciousness uh is basically things like guilt, shame, apathy and fear. These are some of the predominant levels of consciousness or emotion that someone who is in to me will experience. And if we pop up the Hawking scale of consciousness, you can see that they are the lower levels of consciousness.

Now, as we move up in consciousness, again, it's still with the ego, but it's actually an upgrade to go to what's next called by me. Notice that anytime you go up in this consciousness scale, it actually has more energy to it. So, for example, um guilt and shame are the lowest, but if you go up to, let's say, apathy, which is a little higher, it's actually still better off than being in guilt or shame. If you go up to fear, yeah, this is not a great consciousness level to exist at for long periods of time, but it is an upgrade from guilt and shame and an upgrade from apathy, right? And and as you keep going, it's better and better and better. So, as we go to buy me from to me, it is still an upgrade. So, that's what this is. It's an upgrade knowing that it's still an increase in energy and you're heading in the right direction. However, it is by me that a lot of people get stuck at because this is where a lot of this urge to prove, defend and conquer comes from. Now, defend a lot of times is in to me. It shows up in by me as well. But the proving one shows up a lot in by me. Right? Now, by me you can think of in the same way that to me is life happens to me. By me is life happens by me. Me and myself alone by me. This is the person who says, you know, if life knocks me down, I'm going to get back up, which isn't a necessarily bad saying, but they take it as a way of I'm going to fight life. And this is that river analogy I gave a little earlier. This is trying to swim against the current of life. I'm going to I'm going to do it no matter what life throws at me. Rather than recognizing that life is actually trying to assist you. And once you expand your awareness and get to higher levels of state and consciousness, you start to recognize that life is actually one big feedback mechanism that really is trying to help you. Even the so-called bad stuff is just trying to show you and get your attention or it's just a cause and effect from certain things you were doing in the past. And so by me is an upgraded state, but it is a kind of fight, hustle, and grind state. And this is the state that a lot of people think is the highest. The highest level that basically you can be in when you're in by me is pride. And there might be some arguments where you could be a little higher and still kind of be in by me, but essentially by me is like the highest the king of the king by me is more or less pride. Now pride is 175 on the Hawking scale and it is basically the last state of consciousness that exists here but exists in also what is called I believe a catabolic state. I sometimes get anabolic and catabolic mixed up but a catabolic state which means life destroying. So essentially anything from pride below breaks you down. It has what's called high entropy and entropy is simply a scientific jargon word that means breakdown. So when you are in these two states of to me and by me, you are in some degree a level of breakdown or high entropy or a catabolic uh uh state. And so it is life destroying to be in these states. And that's why even when you're in pride and it feels a lot better than when you're in guilt and shame. This is why a lot of people find themselves there if they do because hustling and grinding feels a lot better, infinitely better than being in guilt or shame or apathy or those lower states of being. However, once you get to this buy me place, there is an upgrade from there. And once you hustling and grinding and you're feeling burned out or whatever, but you know it's better than going back to TUMI which again you may have not known that's what that was a thing we uh gave it as a designation or some people gave it as a designation but you understood that I don't want you back in guilt or shame you know you're kind of trying to avoid that right so by me feels a lot better but it's still not great right that's when we move into the upgrade of through me.

Now keep in mind that these to me again and by me are in lower conscious emotions it's lower consciousness like I said life destroying high entropy. When we're in the heart or through me, we're in what's called higher conscious consciousness. Now, this is courage or above on that scale. And this is low entropy. This is where less breakdown happens. This is where anabolic states exist. This is why people who live from this state have an abundance of energy because literally the higher you go on this hawking scale, you can look at the energetic log part of this, the more energy you have at your disposal. And we're not just talking physical energy here, right? We're talking about your connection to source. We're talking about your connection to all that is, right? Which will also help your physical energy quite a bit when you connect to this. And so higher conscious states lead to less entropy, so less breakdown. This means less stress, less anxiety. Um, you know, these kinds of things can't really survive in these higher states of consciousness because the environment you're in energetically doesn't have room for these kinds of afflictions where when you're in the ego and you're in by me or to me or lower consciousness, it absolutely does. Again in to me and by me. This is where the proving yourself and defending yourself and conquering comes into play. In through me you know you have nothing to prove. You have nothing to defend and you have nothing to conquer. You understand that these higher states don't need you to justify them. They require zero justification. They are they just are right where the lower states constantly need your validation. Constantly need your attention to keep going. Right? This is why hustling and grinding you have to keep hustling and grinding. Because if you stop hustling and grinding, whatever you built from that place will start to deteriorate because it needs constant energy where when you're in power or you're in through me, that's not the case. You just connect to this place and the energy is there if that makes sense. Right? And so this is where we want to get to. And again, we're going to go over how to do this um in this through me state.

Now there's many reasons why we want to do this but we'll keep it you know we could talk about this from a higher conscious level. We could talk about this from this is closer to what you truly are. We could talk about how the system God source wants you to increase your consciousness because it also expands the system and it helps collective consciousness. But we're going to look at this more from what you will gain individually by doing this. Right? The more that you increase your consciousness. So the more you're not trying to prove, defend, conquer anything, and you're just in this more through me state, the more magnetic you become, the more attractive, not in just a physical sense. You probably become that too maybe, but also in a manifestation sense, also in your ability to create, also in your ability to attract the things you want. They start coming in easier and more effortless. Now, when you haven't experienced this yet or haven't experienced it too much yet, this can seem pretty far-fetched, but I've seen it happen too many times for myself, my clients that I work with, either at a high level or in my monthly group, to not know this to be the case, and I've never seen it not work for those who have genuinely committed to getting into through me, staying there, and doing the work and trusting the process of doing that. I have never seen it not work where they have just become more magnetic where these things that they want whether it's more finances whether it's better health whether it's healing you know whatever it is and maybe we'll pop some on screen when I'm saying that so people getting better financial amounts through doing this um healing certain things relationships whatever else it is start coming in and the magical thing about it and is so perplexing to so many people when they experience this is they didn't work harder to gain those things a lot of times they're working less in the traditional sense. They didn't go out and make it happen. It kind of just came to them, right? And this is what begins to happen because when you're in a through me state and you have so much more energy that you are then becoming this magnetic, things start to find their way in. Now, is it you won't do any work? No. Don't think I'm saying you're going to sit on the sofa, sit on your chair, and meditate things into your life. That's not what I'm saying. But what I am saying is when you get in this state and you're working with life rather than against it, when you know and for some of you this might sound silly for others you will understand what I'm saying. But you know that you live in a friendly universe that actually has your back which is what you will experience in through me. You understand that when you just cooperate with it, when you co-create with it, when you don't need to do it all yourself and you're not a victim, you're a beautiful amazing divine being that came here to create. When you step into the fact that you live in a friendly universe that's actually trying to help you and that the closer you get to it through raising your consciousness, the closer you get to its pure energy, right, the higher you get on that scale and you're more in this through me. Again, what is the this is life happens to me. Life happens by me. Life happens through me. You are cooperating and coordinating with life, with the universe, with God, taking the intuitive steps, moving in the direction of non-resistance. When you are in these stages, you're almost always pushing up against life. You are almost always in resistance. And again, if you push up against life, life pushes back, right? There will be a level of balance and harmony to that. But if you're working with life and you're going down the river and life's like we're going left here and we're going right and it feels good to you. It's and from your intuition you're taking the action and everything else. Watch the magic start to pile up in your life to the point where you start to recognize that it's not magic. This is just natural law. These are just natural occurrences playing out. Just natural law you were unaware of until this moment or until you've experienced that. None of this is magical. None of it is woowoo. None of it is super even complex. It is simply natural law that has not been explained to the masses whether intentionally or not intentionally but doesn't matter right we don't want to get lost in tumi like a people kept this from me no once you learn it start using it and watch what begins to happen and like I said we've had so many clients like this just it just for every single one it's amazing like let's pick wow $4,000 just came through for me we had a client um not that long ago who was $500 in the red so they were in basically $500 negative500 within a couple months, a few months, they were making consistently 33,000 a month consistently. Not just in one month in their business. And I'm going to tell you right now, he didn't work harder. He didn't hustle and grind his way to that. He started getting into through me. We helped him get to Through Me. We helped him do what I'm talking about here. He became more magnetic and then he took the opportunities when they came in, which is an important part of this, which we'll get into when we go over the practical side of this. Right now, if you want to learn more about this, um I have two ways in which you can work with me. If you really want to get this uh more what this client does, it's more of like a small group um kind of uh one-on-one kind of stuff. We do it for three to four months. It's not intense in the sense of it's overwhelming, but like we really really dive into this uh give you the template, you get coaching, all that kind of stuff. That's down below. Or if you would rather do it at a more at your own pace kind of way, I have a monthly one uh that is a much more affordable one. But again, you know, whichever tier you think works for you, you can check both of those down below. One is called Max it, the other is called Mold Your Reality. So, you can learn more about those if you wish down below, uh, where you're going to learn all this at a more high level.

Now, again, when you're doing this, it's easier and more effortless. And again, a lot of people falter at this like, come on, it can't be easy and effortless is well, the reason is because you've just been experiencing these two. And everything feels hard when you're in to me or by me. Everything feels like suffering. So the idea that things can become more easy and effortless seems foreign. But I promise you it's the case. You did not come here to struggle. You did not come here to grind yourself against the dirt. You did not be you did not You're not a soul in a body that came here to suffer. Right? You're a soul in a body that came here to experience. Yes, to learn. Yes, to grow, but also to experience, to enjoy, to play in the sandbox we call life. And when you play in the sandbox, you might as well stack the deck in your favor and have life happen through you rather than life happen by me or life happen to me. Right? So you become so much more magnetic. Keep in mind many of you have heard me talk about this and we can't get into the science or data in this video but I have in others and ultimately understanding that this outer world that you exist in this again this thing I'm referring to as a sandbox, a matrix, a game, a movie, whatever we want to call it. Doesn't matter what word or definition that's human created that we put on it. But this thing we're playing in called the physical world is one not as physical as you think, but two it deres from the inner world of energy. The ego connects to the physical world. That's why when you're stuck in to me and by me, you're looking at all of your outside circumstances. And if you're in TUMI, victimizing yourself, blaming them. You're looking at them and they're not how you think they should be and you're so hyper obsessed with the outside, the physical that you're blaming or blaming yourself usually blaming something outside of you. Sometimes you could blame yourself in this too, but not from a level of taking responsibility which you have to be embodime at the very least to get to. And so the ego is much more physical and physical based. You're giving your attention more to the physical. But the physical follows the energetic or what we call the inner, the non-physical. And it is your heart that connects to the energetic. And so understand that the inner is what's giving birth to the outer. And I will give another video that explains this at the end. So if you're like, what? You're telling me that the outer world is not really physical and it comes from something called the inner. It comes from energy, comes from frequency, comes from vibration. In fact, just to show you, this is not coming out my butt. you know, one of the most prominent scientists of the last 150 years named Max Plank. Uh you may or may not have heard of him, but he essentially know is known as the father of quantum mechanics, which is one of the most advanced levels of science we have uh today. And he is quoted as saying um you know I don't I've sometimes had get it verbatim but not always but essentially saying that um matter is derivative uh of consciousness or derives from consciousness and that consciousness is primary meaning everything is essentially consciousness and it gives birth to what we call physical matter. And so at the core of physical matter is really consciousness and we can you know uh transfer the word energy in there frequency vibration. We're all pointing at the same thing there. So the essence of everything is energy. The physical world comes from energy. And so what you are doing energetically inwardly or from this place creates the outer world. That's why when you're in through me and you're operating now with life, the inner world, the non-physical, and you're working with it, you become more mic magnetic and you attract better and more favorable things into your physical because the outer world is taking its cues from the inner. It is following it. And this has been known not just scientifically for hundreds of years, but by certain um peoples, by certain um societies for thousands of years and maybe beyond that. Hermetic wisdom can be dated back as far as ancient Egypt and it knew about it right from Hermes Tryagistus was aware that our reality is not a physical reality. They talked about it in the first principle of hermetic wisdom in mentalism. The all is mind. Everything is mental. You know that there wasn't necessarily too much subtext going on there. The all all is mind. Everything is mental. mental thought energy right is what is creating the outer again we won't go into that in too much more detail because I already have and I don't want this to be too long but just keep that in mind allow that seed to you know germinate a little bit and again I will give you some more stuff to look at if you want to explore that deeper but understand ego equals more physical but the heart equals more energetic this is what's creating should actually highlight that energy and energetic and so the more you coming from through me, the more you are tapping into the energetic, the more you are focusing on the ego or to me and by me, the more you're tapping into physicality. The problem with tapping into physicality too much is you can't create anything new. This works with the known, this works with the unknown. Trying to basically take the physical to reconfigure the physical is like trying to take two stones and whack them together to create the thing that you want. rather than learning how to create things through the energetic which is giving birth to the physical.

So now we're going to go over some things that are going to help you to stop trying to prove defend and conquer and start drawing these things to you from the powerful place of through me. And again, this is just such a total game changer. So let's jump into the practicality of it all.

All right, so I'm going to give you a few practical things and keep it very simple so you can start doing this right away. It's not going to be complex, but to give you some ideas and things you can do and things you can work with to get this to work, which is going to help elevate you to through me. Now, the first thing I'm going to say, I didn't write it down here, but it's also be gentle with yourself. When we get into a super seriousness, in fact, it will be a part of what we talk about. Um, that's when we launch ourselves into to me and by me. When we get a little too serious about this, we hold ourselves to this impossible standard and put all this pressure on ourselves that eventually has to pop. This is what lowers us. This is what creates a lower frequency and puts us more in the ego and physical. Um the ego loves to create problems that then it itself will solve. So a lot of the issues and challenges we have are usually created by ourselves because the ego likes to solve problems. And so one of the things I want you to start attempting to do and invite you to start doing is to be gentle with yourself with all of this. And what that means is if you feel like you're doing it wrong sometimes, relax. It's okay. If you feel like you're not sticking with it and you've fallen off it, that's normal. Relax. It's okay. You know, I fall off this stuff all of the time and then I recover. It's perfectly okay. But if I was to beat myself up every time it happens, I will just launch myself back into me and by me and be there most of the time. One thing to recognize with to me, by me, and through me, the idea isn't you need to be in through me all of the time. We just want to start moving more into it from a place of living verse visiting. So the thing is almost all of you probably all of you watching this have visited or vacationed to through me at some point in time where you just had a moment of massive clarity where life seemed to happen through you everything became clear you knew exactly what to do. We've all had this moment in in one case you know the state of flow is a good example of this when you get into a flow state you're usually more tapped into that kind of place. You're not really thinking too much. You're not analyzing too much. You're just going you're going with the flow. you're going you have all this energy at your expo um at your disposal and what would it be like if you could access that just more often right or that was your main way of operation kind of that and rest like an eb and flow when you're not resting it's mainly flow and uh yeah an eb and exactly an eb and a flow when you're resting and then flowing and then you're resting and then you're flowing right and so what we're ultimately looking to do is live more from through me and visit to me and by me so you're still going to experience to me and by me I experience to me and by me. But the idea is, can I live more from through me versus living from to me and by me, which is what most people are doing. So relax. If you think 100% of the time you need to be in through me or whatever else it is, that just puts so much pressure on yourself and does something we're going to go over here. And in fact, we'll start on this since we're already talking about it. And one of the best ways to help you com catapult yourself up the levels of consciousness is to do what's called lowering the importance or lower the importance or lower the significance. When you put all of this importance on something, when you put all this potential on or excess potential on something, all this seriousness on something, you actually repel whatever it is. Again, this is what puts us into a hustle and grind mode. This is what that causes us to beat ourselves up. If we look at the work of reality transerving, which is an amazing body of work, it talks about the law of balance and harmony. When you raise importance towards something, life has to take it away from you. You know, you've probably heard of this idea. When you're attached to something, it kind of gets repelled. And when you're detached, it starts coming in. It's the same idea. When you raise the importance, that's when you get into this mode where you feel like you need to prove, you need to defend, you need to conquer, because you've created all of this energy and idea around why you must do this thing when it's not actually true. And again, most likely isn't coming from you, but what someone's else told you, you know, what a parent told you, what a teacher told you, or whatever else. It's like, yeah, you got to do this thing. You got to make all this money and then you'll be loved, right? Or you got to do this athletically and then you'll be worthy. when none of that is true. Right?

Another thing to take a look at is when we're talking about ego, it comes from this place of feel great when and what this means is when we're coming from to me or by me essentially underneath that all what we are saying at our core as a foundation is I will feel great when something happens right and by me when I get the accomplishment right I'll feel worthy I'll feel loved etc To me, it's like, oh, when something magical happens, to me is again a state you really want to elevate yourself out of. To me is more, hey, when things just magically change, which they will not again because you're the one creating. But when things magically change, then I'll feel better. When my financial situation just magically changes, then I'll feel good. Then I'll feel better. Then I'll feel joy. Right? By me, you know, once I've accomplished a thing, then I'll feel that. But for any of you who've been in by me long enough, and I've been in by me in phases in my life in the past, you accomplish that thing, and you probably will. You feel good for a moment and then you're right back on the hamster wheel again, not feeling good and suffering your way to another high of feeling good or visiting the higher levels of consciousness briefly. Even in tumi, you'll visit higher levels of consciousness at some point where you'll get a moment of clarity or you might get a small wind that comes in, right? But it's not a great way to design your life. And so we don't want to feel great when we want to feel great now. You don't need a reason to feel good. That is something we've been tricked into since we were kids. That you need to do something to feel good. Now understand when I say a feel good, we're not talking about pleasure. Go back to the higher or the the consciousness scale. We're talking about anything that's at courage or above. You do not need an excuse to feel joy. You do not need an excuse to feel peace. You do not need an excuse to feel gratitude. You do not need an excuse to feel love. You do not need an excuse to feel willingness or acceptance or worthy. These are all things available to you and inside of you that you can access, but we have been tricked into believing that you need to do something in order to be worthy of love or worthy of peace or worthy of joy. When when you're in through me, you can actually feel these emotions as you do anything that you're doing because you're in alignment with your true self and your heart. Now, so a lot of people, for example, believe they have to suffer while they work. But there is a completely different reality where you enjoy it while you work. I am currently working right now as I create this video and share this wisdom or experience or whatever we want to call it with you and hopefully help some of you to start seeing things a bit differently and thus changing certain parts of your life. This is technically work. I'm not suffering right now. I'll tell you I am not not enjoying myself. I am not like in these lower conscious emotions. I thoroughly enjoy doing this. And there are other people too who thoroughly enjoy what they're doing. For me, this is what my heart has led me to doing, which is why I do it. For others, it might be something completely different. And for you, there will be something for you as well as you keep exercising this. And you don't even need to know what it is in this moment because the more you are in through me, the more that will be revealed to you. I didn't know it right away either, but the more I engaged in through me, again, the river with the whole power its back led me to, oh, actually this thing, I started doing it. Wow, this feels amazing. this feels so in line, this feels, you know, etc., etc., and then more things start to connect that show you, oh yeah, this is it. So, we feel great. Now, if we feel great when, again, it's ego, it's I got to prove myself, etc. Because you got to prove yourself to feel good. You have to defend yourself. You have to conquer to feel good, right? Feel accomplishment, feel loved, and feel maybe what you weren't given when you were a kid. But you have the power to give it to yourself. And so, feel good. Now, it's going to tie into this one as well, but lower the importance and you will notice this elevate. Right? When we raise the importance, we have to prove ourselves. As a mentor of mine would say, lower the importance and a solution will present itself. Why? Because when you lower the importance, you automatically raise your consciousness. When you raise your consciousness, remember the previous things we were going over, it increases your energy and your magnetism. And solutions that were not available at the frequency you were on when you raise the importance start becoming available when you lower it. Right? And so one of the best mantras to have ideas to keep in mind and things to do is to lower the importance. Now, how do you lower the importance? Again, feel great. Now, create a list of things you know help you feel good. And it can be simple things. Sing, dance, play with a pet, go out for a walk, get some sunshine, exercise, take a nice bath. Not always so simple, but you can have a variety of different things, right? Get down and do some push-ups, do some jumping jacks. What it doesn't matter what it is, whatever it is for you, listen to some music that you really enjoy and helps you feel good. There are so many things that we can do to help us feel good now without a seeming reason like it finally accomplished a thing. If you do that, you'll be waiting a long time to feel good and you'll be waiting a long time to get through me. In fact, you'll just be visiting it. But the more you feel great now, the more you're going to start living from this place, which is where all of this starts to unfold. And when you notice that you are raising the importance, you feel like you have a point to prove, etc., etc., I would recommend going to feel great now because you will start acting and behaving from whatever frequency you are on. Right?

Then we get to this next one which is focus on the frequency. This is so crucial because remember the outer follows the inner. So, if you're not focused on the frequency and you're focused on the physical, a few things happen. One, because you're focused on the physical and you don't like it, you lower your frequency. And again, you cut off your ability to create because creation comes from the inner. So, we want to focus on our frequency. Again, feel great now is one way to do it. And we're going to go over something else that can really help. One thing I've been doing a lot of recently is just focusing on my breathing. And there are some other techniques I've been learning recently with some coaching I've been doing and then a few other things. It's very easy to start lowering the importance and raise your frequency. And this is one thing you can do with me. I'm not going to do the whole thing with you, but if you just take about five to 10 diaphragmatic breaths. So the diaphragm is kind of right where your belly is kind of like below your belly button slightly. And you just breathe into that. So you can kind of hold your hand there. I don't know if you can see it for your And you just breathe. I mean really slowly like really bring that breath up. and then down. So if I do one for you, it'll just me collapse the the air in my lungs right now. So I'll do one. Now that takes five 10 seconds. Do that five to 10 times. When you feel that you're in to me or by me, just do that. When you feel like you're overthinking and that's putting you into me or by me. When you feel like your frequency is going down or you're putting too much on the outer, connect to your breath. It's a great way to connect to energy and to connect to that inner space five to 10 times. That's one thing you can add to the feel great. Now, now what I also want to give you is to have a goal that resonates. One of the reasons that people fall into by me, I would say to me, but people in TUMI typically don't have goals. Again, they're not taking control of their destiny. Typically, they're just letting the winds of life throw them wherever, which again is going to be a negative place because you're creating the winds of life, right? It's following your cues. The winds are following what you're doing inwardly to create the outer, which again we've explained in other videos. So, when you're in buy me and you're creating goals, a lot of people are creating goals based on what they think they should create or what others think they should create, right? Not what they truly want. So having a goal that resonates what we call a DCA is crucial because throughout the day you can reconnect to that goal. You can reconnect to that energy. Now I've gone over how to create a DCA. Essentially the way you do this is again you need to have something that excites you from that deeper place. But it also has to be something you believe. Now the reason we do that is because although we want to go deeper beyond our mind, we also don't want our mind sabotaging us. So, we choose something that hits what's called the sweet spot, right? So, it hits the sweet spot. The sweet spot is it's big enough to excite you, but small enough not to be unbelievable. And if you do that and you focus on that, you're going to start feeling good. You're going to start noticing your intuition kick in. And again, what I recommend you do then is to follow through. Like I mentioned with that client who went from negative 500 uh in the red to 33,000 a month in his business consistently, he took the opportunities that came his way. When you lower the importance and raise your frequency, opportunities or solutions will present themselves. And when you have a DCA, opportunities will present themselves. Then you must follow through. Now, like I mentioned, if you're confused by some of what I've talked about today, I'd go watch this video next where we explain why is it the outer world follows the inner. What are some of these deeper laws that are in play in your life? Because a better understanding of that will help you with all this and just help you to create more intentionally from that through me.