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And so if you're ending up with the wrong crowd, if you continually get betrayed and exploited, you need to be more careful about who you choose to spend your time with.
And then you ask yourself the very logical question, how do I find the right people? The question is, what are the signals within you that induce you to gravitate towards these wrong people? Because you certainly know who the wrong people are, right? And so then what is it that made you wind up there? What were you chasing? and then try moving in the opposite direction. And it's really about introspection. What is going on within me?
This is hard for people who have narcissistic conditioning. A really good treatment for narcissistic personality disorder is something called mentalization-based therapy. And what mentalization is, this is something that people with narcissism really struggle with is when they look at other people, they don't understand that someone not understand is not the right word. Their brain is not able to calculate that someone else's behavior is driven by all kinds of internal things, right? All they see is the injury to them.
So if you wear this dress and then I say you're wearing this dress to make me feel bad, this is an action that induces a feeling within me. And what what narcissists lack like literally their brain has difficulty making this calculation is that this action was done because you wanted this result. Since this resulted in this, this is the same as the why. This is why you did it. I feel this way. Therefore, you did it because these reasons this is all they have awareness of. They don't have awareness that this person has feelings, desires, insecurities that lead to this action. They have no vision of this. Right? It's not about you. There are other things involved.