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Hey, I just want to like talk to like all my single moms because [snorts] it's just getting to the point where I'm just so [ __ ] hurt. And I just realized like us women, I feel like sometimes we are really dumb as like we're dumb [snorts] and it be to the point [snorts] where sometimes we be laying lie on like little boy like that. But it's just eating me up because it's like my son don't got no [ __ ] daddy. My [snorts] son don't really got nobody stepping for him beside his mom. You know what I'm saying?
And see me like it hurt so bad because I grew [clears throat] up with my father. You know what I'm saying? Like even [snorts] though we moved out of state away from my father, like I would still go see my dad during the summer [snorts] and then come back for the winter for school season and that with my mom. And I have a good relationship with my dad. Like I talk to my dad every day on the phone. So it just hurt because it hurt for me to know that like my son is not going to have that. You know what I'm saying?
And it's all over petty boy petty ass which [snorts] I don't even know what it's really about. Maybe cuz too busy with they ass gay as >> all right. So that tells me everything I need to know and I am going to look at the rest of the video. But it sounds like she bitter. It sounds like she bitter. And let me tell you something. I never take somebody's word at face value when it's another person that's involved in it. So for [clears throat] example, if you see that somebody is arguing about a situation, I know that it's another point of view, right? I always want to want to ask the question of how did you get yourself in this situation in the first place? What is the other person thinking? Did you create a situation that's, you know, not conducive for the child? Did you get into an argument? what's really going on. Because when people don't actually tell you the details, but then they start telling you how they feel about somebody and then they start to relate it back to their own situation, you're just emotional. You're emotional. And I don't see any accountability. You know what I'm saying?
You had to get all the way to the point to where you actually had a child. You had to meet the person, get on the phone, um, build a relationship, hopefully pull your pants down, let them bust you down, and then not have a condom. And you saying all of this, while at the same time, you said that you had a father in your life, and this father participated in your growth. Now, you may still have come from a broken home, but it doesn't mean that your father is not playing a role in your life. And I would like to like to think that if people have parents and fathers in their lives that participate in whatever it is that they got growing in going in and they growth, I would like to think that these people are highly disappointing to their parents because anytime even today anytime that I think of doing something and I always think about how it can come back to the people that's around me, right? I always think about whether or not it's going to disappoint my parents if I would make my father proud because he's put so much into me and he raised me to be a certain way. So when people pick and choose to associate themselves with somebody, I'm not just going to put it on the other person. Yep, the person got to be held accountable for their actions too, but I'm not just going to put it all on the other person. There's a lot of self accountability that needs to be had in these conversations.
I just want to work on myself. >> So much so dramatic. >> I want to work on my healing. I done been through so much stuff. Like you can look at me and see like >> she zoom in. >> She don't look like she been through [ __ ] No, I've been through a lot of [ __ ] actually. [snorts] Um I don't know. I really don't know my words. I'm really trying to express, but it's just it's just hurting me because [snorts] not knowing that my son is not going to have a [ __ ] father >> as he passed away. >> Hurts me because like I said again, I had my father in my life, you know. So, it's totally different. You know, you want your kids to have a good relationship with their parents. You know, you want the best for your kids. So, it's just eating me up because [snorts] >> I know it's going to be things, certain things that I can't really help my son with that a man should, you know, help him with. and he's not going to have that father figure like, okay, yeah, you know, I can always find a new man, help me take care of my son and be that good father figure and teach my son [ __ ] and good [snorts] role model, good example for my son. >> That's crazy. >> But >> being [snorts] a step saying I can go and find a step baby daddy to finish another man's save game is insane. That is crazy. There look and and nobody gives a f about him. She just saying, "Yo, I can go and find another sucker. There's no benefit to it. There's no growth. There's no opportunity. There's no reason why he should be in that situation in the first place." No, listen. I can find another man to be able to take care of my child and that's just it. That's crazy. That is absolutely insane to think that a person um is willing to put somebody else at a disadvantage while at the same time still having an opportunity to be able to participate in their child's father's life and and make it amicable. Don't want to work on nothing. Just going to put somebody else in that situation.
I don't know. Like you know that [ __ ] take time [snorts] and you got to find the right man. You know it's not just something you can >> none of that before. None of this before you actually got pregnant. >> You feel me? For like I could count on my fingers how many times I've had a break from my son. My son is 5 months old. I've had a break from my child. Two times. >> Oh, buckle up, buttercup. You got another 29 and a half years to go. Yeah, cuz it don't just stop at 18. Unless you're just a super neglectful parent. Buckle up. >> Five months of living. And y'all know postpartum is a [ __ ] So sometimes I can't take all that crying. Sometimes I just be want to go out, have a good time. Can't >> want to be in the street. [snorts] >> You know what I'm saying? >> Mhm. >> Like it just be a lot. Like you know, you can't just trust everybody with your baby. So, it' be hard like finding somebody to watch him or something like that. >> Five months. >> I've never had anybody watch my baby beside like my best friend and her sister or his father. So, >> his father? I thought you just said that he's not participatory in the life. What are you talking about? >> It just be like I don't know. But >> I really just come on here to like express how I feel for real. It's just crazy. But I know I'm be okay because I'm a strong woman. >> God can't get Don't God don't give you anything that you can't handle. >> God did. God did. God did this. [laughter] God did. >> It's It's all going to be okay. To all my single moms out there, keep y'all head up. None of it is self babies, >> you know. Don't let these men think they getting away with anything. Go put a [ __ ] on child support. Go do what you do. >> Mhm. >> Go be the baddest [ __ ] the best mother you can be. >> That's what got you in this situation in the first place. Listen y'all, it's always better to marry before you carry and vet through the person to make sure that they are going to be a phenomenal, phenomenal father and mother before you open up your legs to them. Ain't nobody wearing no rubbers. You had to skip that step. You had to skip the birth control step. You had to skip all of these steps and you went and had a child. And now you complaining five months into your journey, but this is what you signed up for. This is exactly what you signed up for. Man, I don't I again, I don't understand it. It doesn't make sense to me. I don't know how these people do it. But one thing that I will do is always give credit to the content creators because that's what we do. Make sure you tap into the Patreon link is in the description. Teach Hanley 40% off your first order, 20% off a life. I love you. I appreciate you. Be careful out in these streets. You might end up with a kid.