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If you want a guy to do nice things for you, encourage him. Act gracious and grateful. This is the advice that women need to hear.
He lives in a world where he doesn't know that you have to vacuum under the cushions of a couch. His mirror never has toothpaste splashes on it. He doesn't have to worry about giving the children their vitamins. How amazing that must be. Is there nothing that he does that you don't appreciate? I'm sure there's a list.
Way too many trials of men hurting women and not enough women hurting men.
Do you hear it? The goal here is to hurt men.
If a man asks you, "What do you bring to the table?" Ask him, "What are you lacking that you need me to provide?" Is the assumption here that you should bring nothing to the table?
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Number one is a formerly ungrateful wife who learned her lesson. The text says, "What not to do if you want a man to do nice things for you." Nothing like a woman with regret. Let's play it.
If you want a guy to do nice things for you, let me give you a little bit of advice of what not to do for the younger ladies. When I moved in with my ex-husband, he came home from work one evening with a dozen red roses. And instead of being like, "Wow, how amazing. That's so sweet." There was no reason. He was just being really sweet. And my self reacted with, "Why'd you get me red roses? You know, I don't like roses. Um, peonies are my favorite flower." Lo and behold, he never got me flowers again. And rightfully so.
If you want a guy to do nice things for you, and even if you receive something that is not your taste, you don't like it, he should know that you don't prefer those. Encourage him. Act gracious and grateful. You can make soft suggestions of things that you like, like over time, but don't do that. Don't do that. You'll, you'll, you'll never get that thing again. Mark my words.
Okay. So, and these videos are the most important videos, actually. They're not, they're few and far between. Um, but it's so powerful when it happens coming from a woman. This is the advice that women need to hear, right? Not, "Oh, keep treating him like you're the prize." That's not helpful to anyone, especially to those women who then get, you know, wind up alone because no one's putting up with your, no one of value is putting up with your, um...
But her, notice how she says ex-husband. So, I'm guessing that her behavior, much like this instance that she's sharing over time, was not helpful to that relationship. And I'm guessing that eventually that guy made a decision, or maybe it just crumbled, or maybe she left, or I'm not sure what happened there, but it sounds like there was a pattern of lack of graciousness that she's willing to acknowledge to her credit, right?
People make mistakes. I do believe, actually, that people can change and that people can grow and people can learn. I do believe that. I believe that those people have such a powerful role to play when they do learn on any topic, whether it's dating or anything, to then share that message of like, "Hey, I effed up. I didn't, I, I, I did this thing that was not great, and here's why you shouldn't do it." Right? This is a perfect example of that.
So, she got the dozen red roses and she was kind of a about it. Like, "Oh, why roses, right? I don't like roses. My other, this is my other favorite flower. Why would you, you don't know me at all, right? Does he not know me?" Like all that trippy stuff. And the guy never bought her flowers again, rightfully so. She says, she says, in her words, rightfully so.
So, women, be grateful. Be gracious. You know, maybe it's not the exact flower that you love. Maybe you love calla lilies or you love tulips or whatever it is. And she even says you can make soft suggestions about that. Like, yeah, maybe in the course of conversation you could. Or you're on a walk and you say, not forced and weird and and creepy, but if you're on a walk and you see white tulips and you're like, "Oh my god, white tulips are my favorite flower, right?" Great. You shared that. And you know what? Maybe he'll remember it and that's great. And maybe he won't. And he gets you something else. And he still gets you something that's, you know, "Wow, I want to get something for her." And you should still be appreciative.
Stop expecting perfection from your man when you're not bringing perfection to the table, right? No one is perfect. You're not perfect and he's not perfect. But it sounds like in many of these videos you're expecting him to be perfect while acknowledging that you're imperfect, right? It doesn't work like that. So, good on her as someone who learned her lesson for sharing that lesson.
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Okay, this is a little older clip, but I had to cover it. We have another ungrateful wife. Little bit of a different take here. Number two, you're not going to believe this.
The other day, my husband was looking at our 2-year-old and he said, "Your nails are so short. They're always so short." And then he looked over at me and said, "How come her nails don't grow? Does that mean she has like a vitamin deficiency?" Keep in mind, she's two. And what this means is he has never cut or filed her nails in over 2 years.
So I started thinking, "Wow, he doesn't know that I do that. I wonder if he knows how her butt gets clean. I wonder if he has any idea why her teeth are always white. There must be so many things he doesn't know or doesn't have to worry about. How amazing that must be. If I could change places with anyone in this world, I think it would be my husband. What a privileged man."
In his world, the mini trash cans empty themselves. His mirror never has toothpaste splashes on it. Little by little, his house becomes more aesthetically pleasing, and he has no idea how or why. He doesn't have to worry about giving the children their vitamins. He lives in a world where he doesn't know that you have to vacuum under the cushions of a couch. Tag your husband if he's one of the elite and knows these things.
Okay. What? She sounds like the bad witch in a Disney cartoon. Can you imagine being married to the bad witch in a Disney cartoon?
Now, the comment from the husband, and can you imagine? Let's just tag your husband. She took this video. That's her husband and her kid, supposedly. She took that video to humiliate him, posted this video to humiliate him, and is now telling you to tag your husband and humiliate.
How long till we get the video? "My husband left me shortly after I posted this video," crying. How long? Really? We show those too. The before and after, right? And you know what? He'd be so right to put you in your place for this because how disrespectful and obnoxious and awful of you. Ugh. You turned my stomach.
Um, now, is it a silly comment for the guy to make? Now, if my husband said to me, "Oh, you know, my son's name is Harley. Harley's nails are always short. Like, do they not grow?" That would be a dumb comment, right? I would just be like, "Babe, I cut them, Denzo. I cut them. Of course." And he'd be like, "Oh, right. You cut them." Okay, that would be it. It would be like a funny moment.
Now, my husband wouldn't make a comment like that. I'd be more inclined to make a ditzy comment like that, to be perfectly honest, not about nails but about something else, 'cause I've got a bit of ditz in me, which I'm kind of proud of, and I, you know, I relish in. But, um, regardless, that could have just been like a funny nothing.
And listen, ladies, if you're so unappreciated, why don't you just sit down and say one day, this is what I would do: "Hey, you know, I just want to let you know some of the things that I do around that. I know you're busy, and I, it just, I want to make sure that you know and that you appreciate these things. It would mean so much to me if I knew that you cared about these little things that I do. Here's some of the stuff, and maybe you don't care about some of it," but like how you can have a polite, kind conversation about it, right? Without being an to him.
And then she's like making it like, "Oh, is there nothing that he does that you don't appreciate?" I'm sure there's a list of things that he does that you assume. Wives will just assume that a guy will, you know, come around and fix stuff that's broken, or, "Oh, here, this is broken." You just kind of, and he fixes it, or assume that he'll go to work every day and bring home enough money so that you can put gas in your car. Assume there's so many things that you could, it's easy to assume, right?
So, maybe just sit back and use that moment instead of attacking to say, "Wow, I kind of don't appreciate some of the things he does, and he maybe doesn't appreciate some of the things I do. Maybe we should sit down and just make sure we are doing that every day for each other." Would have been such a great private moment, not a public moment to post in a video to get an applause like a nasty, ugh, ingrate, just horrible. I mean, can you, I cannot even imagine being this disrespectful, but it could have been a nice moment to like say, you know what, this is an important part of a marriage, too. I want to make sure we appreciate each other. Let's thank you, God, universe, for like shining this light in a way that could be helpful to us all. Mm- not her. Too busy making a video with a nasty witch voice, right? Unbelievable. Unbelievable.
Okay, number three. The text says, "Good job, ladies." Um, and it says, "Text to getting circled by some girls in a car blasting the Jaws theme song."
Okay, so this guy's on a motorcycle, if I recall, and he's getting circled by women who are playing the Jaws theme song because, I don't know, are they just out on a Friday night and this is the best thing they have to do? Regardless, her commentary on it, I think, is interesting. I saw the start of it. I'll see the rest with you live now. Go ahead.
To the guy who was just followed by a car full of women, and then whenever he pulled over to the side, they continued to circle him playing the Jaws soundtrack. This is what I needed today. Needed to be reminded that they need to be scared. Hell, I'll just settle for them being confused. This is a reminder for all of us to step up and clock in. Okay? Make these men scared. They have been traumatizing us and our ancestors for as long as we've literally been walking around on two feet. More crazy, unhinged, and creative, the better.
Him saying that this is the book talk girlies. No, baby. This is all of us. Now, we're talking a level of commitment that honestly we all need to take notes because they didn't circle him once, two, not thrice. Four times they circled this man. And honestly, I would not be surprised if they followed him home. They're making sure that he got home safe. Okay? But if he was scared while he did it, I'm not sorry about it.
Honestly, I feel like men are just lucky that we have a sense of humor, and they really don't appreciate us until we take that sense of humor to a level where they're like, "Wait, is she legitimately psycho?" And maybe that's where they've pushed us. Okay. Way too many trials of men hurting women and not enough women hurting men. Booktop talk girlies or not. Good job, ladies.
Not enough women hurting men. They want to hurt, like, actively want to hurt you. Again, imagine a video of a guy being like, "Not enough men hurting women." That would be taken down in like 4 seconds. And it's, it's crazy what these women get away with on social. It's, it's unforgivable.
Honey, do you really think that the guy was scared by a bunch of women circling him and blasting the Jaws theme song? Do you really think he was? He was probably like, "What the f are these like loser women? Like, don't they have anything else to do?" Like, you think he was frightened now? Did he think you were like a psychotic mess? Sure. I mean, that's clear anyway, right? He would just be like, "Oh, what a bunch of freaks." He's not going to be scared. No grown man is gonna be scared by that. They're just gonna be like, "What a bunch of losers." Like, holy hell.
But notice that what her message is, is that men need to be scared and need to be confused and need to be all these things because for, for years, our ancestors were abused by men. And so the message is to be crazy and be unhinged.
Can you imagine telling women, "Be crazy"? Listen, you're crazy. You're unhinged as a woman. Guys are not. Maybe they'll sleep with you for a night if you're really good-looking. You shouldn't do that, guys, but some of y'all do. They're not picking you. They're not bringing crazy and unhinged home to mom. They're not good quality guys who have options are not marrying crazy and unhinged. Honey, are you alone? I'm curious. Do you have a man? It doesn't sound like it. Oof. Man alive.
Can you imagine, though? The, the goal here is to hurt men. Do you hear it? "I'm gonna hurt you because your ancestors hurt me." It's a very sinister, dark, evil kind of twisted message. And you will notice a common trend among a lot of these modern women that they're seething with resentment, right? Seething with resentment, anger. They're just like bubbling up. There's no peace there.
And so I will remind you men, if you choose them, you're not getting any peace from them. There's no peace in them. That's not the energy coming out of their gut, if you know what I mean. So that's not what's coming at you, which is, I think, why a lot of guys are just like, "I'm not even going to bother. Why would I? I'd rather be alone than deal with that." In that case, it's, you know, you sort of start to understand the logic.
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Last clip of the day is, uh, I think Brian Atlas posted this one. Number four. Let's do it.
If a man asks you, "What do you bring to the table?" The infamous question. Ask him, "What are you lacking that you need me to provide?"
Okay, first of all, I don't need to see you eat and chew. Does anyone else just go like, just like this? Seriously, like, why, honey, did we need to see that? "What are you lacking that you need me to provide?"
Um, so, is the assumption here that you should bring nothing to the table? Because the whole point is that men and women are supposed to complement each other. If he can't look to you to provide anything at all, at all, then why, what are you there for? Why would he have you there, right?
So, in the same way that you look to him to provide things, like what women say all the time: financial stability, you know, um, "I want him to protect me if something's going on that's shady. I want him to be the, the primary breadwinner. He needs to make X amount dollars, blah, blah, blah. I want him to be a good dad. I want him to be fit. I want him to be, you know, all these things," right? I want him to be, you know, whatever your, your list is.
Shouldn't he be able to say, "I want a feminine woman. I want a woman who's going to be loyal. I want a woman who's going to be, you know, devoted to me. I want a woman who's going to be, want to be a mom. I want it." So, that's by nature. Men and women are different, right?
And he should be looking to you for things that he's not supposed to be doing, and in some cases, that he can't do. Like, he can't be a mom, right? And you should be able to look to him for things that you shouldn't be doing, don't want to do, and things that you, in some ways, can't do in the same way that a man can do, right? Like, protect a home with your, you know, don't talk to me about, "Yes, guns are equalizers." We can have that whole conversation. I'm talking about your bare hands, honey. Right? So that's the whole point. You kind of missed the point, honey.
So, yes, there are things that he should be able to look to you for, and things that you should be able to look to him for. All you told me in this video is that you basically bring nothing to the table and you're not willing to acknowledge that you should be bringing something. Yeah. Man alive.
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