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If you've ever been cheated on, you know that gut-wrenching feeling that comes with it. The thing you don't know is that the signs that she's a cheater were probably there all along. Today, I want to talk to you guys about five types of women who will look you in the eye, smile, tell you they love you, and then cheat on you. And if you stick around till the end, I'll tell you one thing that all cheaters have in common that might just surprise you. This is life 2.0. Let's talk about it.
But first, I'd really like to hear from you guys in the comments. If you've been cheated on, drop a comment saying yes. And if you want to, tell your story. And if you've never been cheated on, say no. And explain why you think that happened. For me, I've been cheated on a couple times. Two of the most important relationships in my life. My first real love, if you can call it that, after the fact, and then my wife. So, let's get into it.
When I was in college, I had a wonderful girlfriend from high school into college for like two years. And as all things do, this relationship came to an end. And I was having that breakup talk with her, not because she had cheated, or at least not that I knew that she had cheated, but because it had been 2 years, and you know, everything comes to an end. So, we decided we're going to go our own ways this way, guys. Come on. For whatever reason during that conversation, she decided that she wanted to reveal the fact that she had cheated and that she actually had already lined up a new boyfriend. I was learning about hypergamy early on, guys. I learned about it early. Well, the irony is she cheated on him with me a few weeks later cuz we got together and hooked up again. Actually, a couple times.
So yeah, this kind of cheater is very unique. This is the insecure cheater. She's looking for validation, and she's looking for validation everywhere that she can get it. She wants approval. She wants men in particular to think highly of her, to think that she's a a good, sweet, loving girl. And she does enjoy sex. And that makes it really really easy for her to lead with sex in relationships and to use sex to help um fill her need to feel needed. Good girls, very sweet. Um but uh you can't trust them as far as you can throw them. Those are the uh the validation seekers.
The next kind of cheater are the accidental cheaters. These are women who have no clear boundaries in life. And so they don't fully understand the ramifications of their decision-making process. And this is the kind of cheater that my ex-wife was. Um, she left our home telling me and our girls that she just needed a break, just need to get some time, some space to think things through. Got herself a little apartment on the other side of town and uh it was her intention to come back after a month or two and just sort of rekindle our relationship. That's that's how it was left. Well, that's not what happened. She accidentally found herself in the arms of her ex-boyfriend from 20 plus years before. Yeah. And this guy was a known bad guy. He was a drug addict and an alcoholic and had all kinds of issues. Had all kinds of issues. But somehow after 20 years, what are the chances, right? I mean, what are the chances that they would show up together? Now, he obviously was working it. I have no no doubt about that that he had been working it the whole time. um she is kind of a ditz kind of an airhead, you know, and I can see how she would find herself in that situation and how she would because of her lack of boundaries, because of her lack of a clear north star to live by, she would find herself in a situation where it seemed okay to fool around with him, to have sex with him. Yeah, that accidental stuff really is um a tough one to weed out because you don't know what someone's boundaries are until they're pressed to the limit, until they actually get to that place where they have to make a clear decision about what's right and wrong for them under those circumstances. And unfortunately for us men with women, we don't push them to that point. We don't it's hard to test them at that level. Anyway, my wife failed that test miserably and she paid a heavy heavy price for it.
If any of this is sounding familiar to you or it feels like something that you can identify with, please hit that that like button and share this video with someone that you know who might benefit from it. Because we men, we kind of float around out there thinking the best things about women. We're projecting all kinds of positive stuff on them. Meanwhile, we're learning the hard way about the truth, about the dark side of their personalities.
All right, number three. This is the free spirit. Oh my god, I have had so much fun with free spirit girls, I can't even begin to tell you. The free spirit is the girl that will follow a rock band around for the summer. You know what I mean? She's just out there experimenting with life. You'll find her at Burning Man taking every kind of hallucinogenic drug she can get, dancing topless in the desert, waking up at dawn, you know, watching the sunrise, doing all this like, you know, living her best life stuff. I mean, she is definitely that free spirit. You can never pin her down. You might think you're together, and I've had this happen so many times when you're with a girl, a woman, whatever, and you think she's yours. Do you think you have a relationship? Like you haven't stated anything. Like you haven't made anything official, like there's never been any conversation like, "Yeah, we're committed." But you just had the assumption that because you're sleeping together in the same bed all the time, you're spending all your time with her. You're doing all these adventures that there's some kind of a a commitment. Well, you know, let me tell you the story about the glazed donut. The way I came up with glazed donut as a way to describe women, beautiful, sexy, fun women is um I was h I was having a thing with this woman, this young woman and uh I was hanging out with one of my buddies and we're drinking some beers. We're talking and I'm telling him about how great in bed she is and how much fun I'm having and how and how she's got all these quirky things like she's got a shower before and all that stuff. And he says he Yeah, I know, man. She's great. She's like a glazed donut. I'm like, "What? What do you mean?" She's like a great donut. Yeah. I mean, I was sleeping with her last night. She's hot. I really had a great time with her. And I was like, "Holy this is a good guy." You know, and I'm not going to let this little relationship thing come between us. But it was a wakeup call to me in that moment that she was never mine. Do you know what I mean? I was fooling myself. I was projecting into that relationship that she was my girlfriend and she was not. She was just using me for a good time and taking her places and spending money on her and um being a part of her life adventure all the while. She was just experimenting with stuff that I had no idea about. So the free spirit, she's not yours. She belongs to the population. She's a community girl. She will cheat on you in a heartbeat. And she doesn't think it's cheating. She thinks she's just out there living her life. So yeah, you want to stay away from those girls.
All right, now we're getting into the dark side. Number four, the strategic betrayer. This girl, this woman, she doesn't cheat by accident. She doesn't cheat because she's an airhead. She doesn't cheat because she's a free spirit. No, she cheats on purpose. She cheats to advance her cause, whatever that cause may be. She is the primo um hypergamy girl. She's going to use her sexuality to advance her career, to advance her lifestyle, to advance whatever it is that she needs. Sex is a commodity and she's going to trade in it. She's going to use it to her advantage at every turn. Um, she will use sex with you in order to get whatever she needs from you. And then once she's done, when she's gotten whatever she needs, she's squeezed every drop of whatever you have to give out of you, she's going to move on to the next guy. And she's going to do it unapologetically. She is not emotionally attached at all. Now, she may act like it. She's watched romantic comedies after all. They've all grown up on the Disney movies, so they know what to say and how to act. But trust me, this woman is um your type A personality on steroids, and she's going to use that sexuality to get whatever she needs. She is not yours. She never was. She never can be. She doesn't belong to anyone because she belongs to herself. And her sexuality might as well just be uh in her purse, you know? and she'll pull it out like a credit card anytime she needs it to get what she wants. So, be very wary of that that type of um predator cuz they're out there and they will do you in quickly.
And then finally, number five, this is the worst of the group. This is the vengeful romantic. She doesn't see sex as a um it's like a credit card. No, she sees it more like uh a sword. She will use it to get her revenge. Um she will use it to harm you and she won't you'll know that she's doing it because she's not just going to fool around with some random guy. She's not going to cheat with some guy she, you know, meets on the side. No, she's going to cheat with people that you know, you know, like she's going to go after your brother, your best friend, your boss at work. She's going to go and have sex with men that is designed to cause you specifically the most possible pain. This woman is dark triad to the extreme. She has no moral compunction about using her sexuality to destroy your life. And if your kids and your family are collateral damage, then just so be it. She will take you all down. She has no problem doing it. So, watch out for this one. Um, she is a a a monster and there's no no two ways about it. She will she will do you in quickly.
So, here's what I promised you in the beginning. They all do have one thing in common and that is that they are all broken people. And as broken people, they tend to cause destruction wherever they go. and they are destroying themselves more than anyone else. I'm a big believer in karma and I've seen it act its power out on these people. I've seen it happen with my ex-girlfriend from way back when and with my ex-wife. And I can tell you with my ex-girlfriend, you know, she'd been married a couple times, divorced a couple times. Her life has not gone the way that she had intended. She was a nice, sweet girl on one level, but her um need for external validation did her in. And I'm sure that it still does on some level because she has not aged well. You know what I mean? And then with my ex-wife, I could not have dreamt up the kind of pain that she has inflicted upon herself as a result of the way she acted in our relationship. There is no way I could have dreamt up a punishment so severe and so painful and so debilitating that it would be as cause as much suffering as what she has done to herself. She has without question suffered more than I could have imagined. That's karma plain and simple. Just internal punishment. I don't know where it comes from. I don't know if it's just the guilt, the shame, whatever it may be that causes that to happen happens. And I see it happen all the time.
Here's the bottom line, guys. Winners don't cheat. Cheaters don't win. It's plain and simple. If this video has helped you identify some red flags, maybe in your own relationship or helped you achieve some level of closure with some relationship in the past, please like and subscribe. If you know someone who's in a relationship with someone who identifies as one of these characteristics and you see it and he doesn't, share this video with him. You may just save him a lifetime of pain and suffering. Anyway, till next time, stay healthy and if you can stay single.