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Are there any men left out there in this entire universe that prefers a woman in her 40s?
Oh, hell no. I'm 40, single, and no kids. For a long time, I thought that meant I failed at life.
The thing that I feared about turning 40, it's actually going to happen. I have spent the last seven years since my 33rd birthday fearing that I would turn 40 not being a wife or a mother.
Girl, maybe I am the problem. Maybe I am the problem.
If she's still fine in her 40s, that woman going to be fine forever.
What?
Let me tell you something I've learned about being a woman in her 40s. We're savage. All of my single friends that are 45 plus keep asking the question, why are men 45, 50, 55, 60 dating 30-year-olds? What are you guys doing? Can you please explain this to us?
Here's another little piece of life advice from a who's almost 50. I'm here to tell you right now, we don't care.
Let me tell Let me tell you, we don't care.
You know, I don't want to be a strong independent woman. I don't want to be a strong independent woman no more. No more. I am so sick of being told how strong I am because I'm not strong and I don't want to be strong.
This whole I'm a strong independent black woman and I don't need no man. I'm done with it.
I don't want to work. Okay. I don't want to be misspend. I don't want to be a boss babe. I don't want to have a business. I don't want to have a career. I don't want a job. I want nothing. I'm tired. I N D E P E. Like, no. I don't want to do that anymore. Okay. H E L L P M E me. Like, no. Give me the soft life. Come help me. Come save me. Come Come because I'm tired of this. I'm tired.
Swear if I could go back in time and tell the woman that stood up for our right to work. Shut up. I fell for the boss. The like I I could do everything by myself. That hyperindependent .
I don't want to be a hardworking woman. I don't know who signed us up to be independent and hardworking, but y'all can have it.
I don't want to be an independent woman no more. Okay, I'm tired.
Am I good at being independent? Yes. Do I want to be? No.
I'm 31 now and I still don't have kids. I still don't have a family. I legit woke up, realized that I've swayed all of my goals. I have my career. I have my house. I have the car. I have everything else. And I don't want it anymore.
I think we know at this point we're strong. We've got to be independent. Of course, I can take care of myself now. I want to be taken care of.
As often as I talk about how powerful women are, how independent, strong. I don't want to be a powerful independent woman. And what I really want is a family. At 32 and a couple more months left till I'm 33, I realize that my priorities are changing and now I want to be a housewife.
Never lower your standards for a man. Why should I lower my standards when I know exactly what I can get, what I need, and what I want?
You should try to date a regular guy. Why would I do that? Be real. My standards are not too high. They're just my standards and if you can't match them, then you're not for me.
I mean, I didn't think I was asking for too much, but like I would love to have somebody that's like over 6 foot, dark skin, beard, no kids, house, own car, good credit, washboard, abs, be able to pick me up fine as hell, pretty smile, good hygiene, pretty teeth, big D and a big wallet, and generous. Also emotionally intelligent, educated, and loyal. I still have faith. He's out there somewhere. I'm not going to lower my standards. And I am not I'm not going to give up faith.
I don't want Okay. I don't want a struggle. I don't want a settle. I want amazing.
I'm 30 and beginning to think that this whole dying alone thing isn't going to be like a running joke. It's going to be reality. It is so hard sometimes watching so many of your friends fall in love and find their person and get pregnant. Especially as I'm moving into my 30s. I feel like I'm watching everybody else live out their dream and wondering when my dream is going to happen for me.
I'm just someone out here who's trying to find someone. I just sometimes feel like the love I so desperately want to give and to receive is not meant for me.
I'm struggling. I'm struggling. This is for all of the single ladies that are struggling between staying strong, being independent, and then also just wanting it. I'm not going to lie, don't tell the feminists, but I would rather stay home and cook and clean.
Here y'all are at 45, 50 talking about um where the good men at? Uh, they were back then, 20 years ago. You said he lame. You said he was boring. I'm 40 and I'm single and I live in a van now, so it's probably going to stay that way.
I'm 32 years old. That means I've hit the wall 2 years ago and my life has been amazing.
I'm 42 and that means half of my life is over.
I'm not okay being single. I don't want to be single and I get depressed.
As a person who has been single for me personally, my whole life, I'm 53.
I am I'm tired. I'm tired of doing it myself.
I get my feelings hurt. I don't want to be a hookup.
Three failed relationships since my marriage had ended. Um, and I have really missed kind of having someone to talk to.
Currently, I don't date. And it's purely for the reason that I am exhausted.
I am done with all of these games. I'm done with men. Why is it so hard to find your person?
God, am I lonely sometimes?
He broke up with me because he was like, I'm never going to be the guy who posts you on Instagram or who buys you flowers, which I thought was stupid. And then now I hear that he has a new girlfriend and they're traveling around Europe together and he posts her on Instagram. He refused to ever post me. Now a year later, he can date someone and like happily be posting her even though I don't even want him anymore. It's like the principle of things that makes me salty.
If you are single in your 30s and 40s, the problem isn't that we're meeting tons of awful men. The problem is we're simply not meeting men anywhere.
Dating in 2025 is so hard. The hardest part about it are the men. I said it. I dated a man for 9 months. Yes, he lived in a neighboring city 3 hours away. We saw each other weekly. We talked all the time. We did a lot of things together. We did some traveling together and I find out the other day he's MARRIED.
and you'll need a little blue pill to get it up and your bald head.
I am baffled the fact that I'm single. I am the full package. Like let's face it.
See, they've rejected so many men. This why you can never feel bad for them. Don't have any sympathy. Don't have any remorse. There's a trail of men. dozens of them that they've went on dates with. They said, "You know what? I'm just not feeling the spark. This not going to work out." Or or you know, I'm just not feeling it. And they move on to the next. They have dumped. They have used they have financially extorted men out of their money. Listen, these women deserve what they're getting. It's like they're going to a grocery store and said, "Man, look at all these items and everything, man. Man, I'm hungry." And they come out say, "I'm still hungry." That's how it is when it comes to dating their women. They they know that they can be picky as they want to be. Imagine you going to a Walmart or Target or or grocery store and you like, man, I I got to get something to eat. I ain't ate in days. And you look around, uh, I don't want that. Oh, well, I'm leaving. This is what they do.
We're over 40. I'm 47 now. Like, I just want to go and enjoy the next 50 years with someone.
A term that I keep hearing band-aid about on here is hitting the wall. Several men have said that I have hit the wall.
I am 30 years old. I'm unemployed. I am living off the very end of my savings.
Women don't like nice guys. I work with women all day and I hear them complaining about toxic men. And then when a guy is nice to them, they just always talk about how he's just too thirsty. How is he too thirsty? Because he's into you. And then you want to complain about the men that are talking to multiple other women and are emotionally unavailable and don't give you time of the day.
Okay, I turned 40 this year and I've never been in love. I've never been in a relationship and I've had never no one ever ask me out on a date.
I often do videos talking about the fact that I'm 39, single, and happy. The worst thing about being single is finances.
At least she's admitting it. This is why a lot of women are single because they want to be paid to be in relationship. They want you to sponsor them. They want you to take care of all their finances. So the older they get, they're like, "Okay, I ain't dating for love no more. I'm dating for security and resources." All they're looking for is a comeup. Like I said, guys, you are their security blanket. You are their retirement plan.
Have you seen a man on social media, on TikTok really crying about, "Man, I'm single, man." No. Because men, we have other hobbies. These women need you. They need you to survive.
I have to pay for everything myself. There is no one to share a single bill with.
SOS, I need a man. Like literally right now, I need a man. I bought a house by myself, which is really, really cool. So proud of myself. The part that nobody tells you about buying a house while you're a single woman is that now I get to maintain a house by myself.
Congratulations. You played yourself.
I'm going on an ice cream date today. That's when you know you've hit absolutely rock bottom. Like I'm going on a ice cream date today. I'm sorry. What?
For starters, she need to stop eating ice cream. She weigh at least 225, right? Man, these chicks are entitled. They just think they deserve everything. This is why dudes are single, man. Is ask yourself, is it really worth it? See, a date is supposed to be a woman getting to know you, see if you guys vibe, see if you guys click and connect, and then y'all go from there. But they just want to come out the gate and get free dinners. They want you to give them money. They They just think that they're just better than you. I've said this before in a previous video. You are subhuman to the modern woman. You are a no count to them. You don't mean much of anything. You're there to entertain them and pay for their life. And then they might give you some bedroom action when they feel like it. This is how they think.
Um, I used to go on nice ass dinner dates and I'm accepting this ice cream date because of the fact that you hit the wall. That's why you accepted it. Notice I said I used to go on fancy dates. told you they've had that good treatment in the past, but they went on those fancy nice dates with those guys and then they just got rid of them because they always thought the grass was going to be green on the other side.
That I want to be open-minded. I'm realizing I think I don't want to like sit down have an ice cream with you. I'm 29 years old. I don't need to be having ice cream.
I'm 30 and I'm single. And something that I quickly had to learn while dating at my 30s is that 30 or plus year old men would much rather date women that are on their early 20s than women that are 30 or plus years old.
Hey men, do you want to know how to get with women? Always give to her. Never take from her.
That's it.
Oh, hell no.
What do you bring to the table?
Everything. I got two kids. You know what I mean? So I everything. If you're willing to be provide for my kids and everything.
Oh, hell no. Everything like that.
My kids, my life, my mental health.
She brings nothing but baggage, debt, trauma, and kids from another man. And it's probably about other different baby daddies. It ain't just about one. This is what they think, man. They just think that them just showing up. But you have to perform. See, we have the burden of performance. We have to produce. We have to say, "Hey, these are the tangible things that I bring to a relationship, to a woman." But these women are like, "Well, uh, I bring everything. I just bring me. I I just show up. That's it."
Everything like everything. Everything you want to know about me, I'll bring to the table for sure.
I do not accept a coffee or a walk as a possible date option. And neither should you. First of all, I'm not a dog that needs to be walked. Second, I have an espresso machine at home. Works fabulous. We're not doing drinks either. You're going to try to get me drunk and take me back home. No, we are doing dinner. You're going to pick me up. We're going to come to the restaurant. We're going to see your table manners. We're going to see
talking to you like you a dog. Like you're a little kid. Think about that. She's telling you what you going to do for her. You better not Man, let these women fade off, man. Let them let them go. Let them suffer. This is what's out there. And y'all think y'all might think, "Oh, she really attractive." No. This is pounds and pounds of makeup and probably some lip injections.
See what you order. We're going to see, do you hold your chopsticks correctly? We're just going to, you know, study you a bit. I'm incredibly happy because I just don't want to settle. I know the kind of relationship that I want and so I'm willing to hold out for that relationship.
Not for me.
That wall hits you, ladies, it's going to hit hard and it's going to hurt and you're going to be bitter and you're going to hate Kevin Samuels. You're going to hate Andrew Tay. You're going to hate Ramas. You're going to hate hate Michael Sartine. You're going to hate Black Ice. You're going to hate Glenn Lawrence. You're going to hate Pearl. You're going to hate Fresh and Fit. You're going to all You're going to hate us. You're going to say the same thing that that everybody all No, we told you.
I'm 51 years old and not ashamed to admit it. Read that caption below, guys. Do you ever realize how alone you really are?
[sighs]
And it sucks. I'm tired of being depressed. [gasps] I'm tired of doing it all alone and can't really tell anybody what actually going on because then I'm going to be a psycho. [snorts] I'm a single woman in her 40s. Go looking for love. Um, no. I'm going to need Mr. Wright to teleport into my living room. Thanks.
Use this one affirmation to become rich in 2023. Promise you I get paid to exist. I get paid to exist. Think about that. This is their mindset. They just want to get paid. What man has ever has a man ever thought about that? I just said get paid. I came out of the womb and I get paid to exist. This is how modern women think and this is why they're alone. Unrealistic expectations, delusion, entitlement, and think that they're better than men. They just get paid to be alive. As long as they have a pulse, long as their heart is beating, some man should pay for them.
I've never officially been on a date with someone. I've never had a partner. I've never had a boyfriend.
Hi guys. Come spend the day with me as a non-rust fund baby. [gasps]
What the ?
Is it embarrassing being a single 26-year-old woman living alone um with no plans on a Friday night? Yeah, a little bit.
I've come to the conclusion that in order for a man to even enter my life in any capacity, like even as a friend, you will have to genuinely get on your knees and start barking.
This is a joke, right? No person could actually expect another person to engage in a humiliation ritual just to get their attention, right?
Um, if not, I don't want to hear it. I genuinely, and I'm not saying people are like dying to talk to me, like men are not dying to talk to me, but if you are even thinking about it, get on the floor. Get on the floor. Get on your knees. Bark. Bark. If you're not going to do that, shut up and get away from me.
Right. Okay. You know, I could make several comments, even a joke or two, about a man barking at a woman to get her attention, but I'm not going to do that. I'm going to take the high road. But frankly, I can remember when jokes used to be funny and rage bait, well, it used to be at least somewhat believable. But now, this is what we've got. If the men are the ones that have to fight and die to defend the country, the men are the ones that build and maintain all the infrastructure, right? Like none of this stuff in the studio is built or maintained by women.
Get ready with me while I give you a little update on my dating love life situation. It's pretty non-existent.
So, I just got played by the third guy in a row. The first one was 41 years old. Second one was 30. And this last one was 32. [laughter] I like I'm gonna go for the older guys. They're not as big of . Well, I'm over for three on that theory. So,