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Women, those tattoos, even just one tattoo, is ugly. Stop thinking it's cute. Stop thinking it's empowerment to get tattoos, cuz it's not, okay?
If you're a woman and you have tattoos, I just want you to imagine a beautiful European piece of architecture, historical, beautiful. The Roman Catholic Church, how about that? And then just imagine a bunch of graffiti, just graffitied all on top of that. If you're a woman and you have tattoos, that's basically what you are. You were once something beautiful. You were once this beautiful creation uh embodying life. You had so much potential, and now you've got scribbles on your skin, permanent marks. And to me, it just looks like graffiti.
Now, if you've watched any other of my videos, you know I have tattoos. I have shammingly marked my body when I was younger. I'm only 23 now. Uh but when I was 17, I got my first tattoo. And that's just address that in the beginning of the video, because I I don't want to come across as a hypocrite. Although, if you are someone watching this video, I'm sure there'll be plenty people that they're not going to hear out what I have to say, and that's totally fine, because quite honestly, I would have a hard time listening to that as well.
So, before I go on to my matured opinions, and I think thinking in the right frame of mind as far as tattoos go for women, I'll talk about what led me to get mine, and what led me to change my mind, and what happened for me to start seeing the reality of it. And the whole point of this video, I want to preface this before anything, is that if one woman, if one young lady, or if one older woman with tattoos can hear this video, and it can cause her to change her mind, or it can prevent a young girl or any woman from getting a tattoo. That's the point I'm trying to make here, okay? I have done this to myself. I know the experience that I have now having these disgusting marks on my body. And I'm here to save you from doing that to yourself, okay?
So, when I was sitting down to make this video, I was really thinking about why did I get tattoos? Typically, I'm going to sit here and and say it. Typically, women will get tattoos seeking attention. That's that's pretty much what it is. I don't care what you have to argue about. That's typically the reason that women will get tattoos or piercings or, you know, do anything to their appearance, you know, fillers, Botox, augmentations, BBL, whatever it may be. It's for attention. You can just sit there and say, "No, it's to feel better about myself." Or, "I want to remind myself of the chapters of my life with of my life with this tattoo." But in reality, that's really not the reason and you're only fooling yourself. You're not fooling anybody else.
So, here's why I think, in my self-analysis, that I chose to get tattoos. So, I grew up home-schooled. I mentioned that before. And my childhood was really just, you know, going to church and staying home and school. And I would I had a couple of other friends, but they were also home-schooled and go to church. Wasn't very socialized. And I am grateful for that now looking back. But, the moment I had a chance at freedom was 15 years old. And that's when I got my first job, all right? So, I got my first job and this was my real experience in the world. This was my first true experience and opportunity to observe the world and the people in the world and how they act and what they dress like, who they engaged with, what they did just in general. So, I was a very hard worker at the time my parents raised me to be and I got my first job at 15 like I just mentioned. I worked incredibly hard, especially for a girl working there and I look back at it it's like ridiculous, you know, how hard I was working and what I was trying to prove, but I was trying to prove myself to the managers at that job because I wanted to be in a leadership role. I wanted to be the youngest woman at that job in a leadership role. I felt like it would make my parents proud. I just thought it was what I was supposed to do. That's just the way that I was wired at that time. And I remember when I first started thinking about I want tattoos, it really was coming from a place of wanting respect. Now, looking back, it probably coupled with wanting attention as well, but I do remember getting my first tattoos because I thought, "Okay, it's going to make me appear more grown-up to my authority figures and they're going to give me more responsibility because they're going to look at me as a more grown-up person rather than a 15-year-old girl working a fast-food job." Ridiculous. Absolutely ridiculous. This is a great example of why women shouldn't have the authority to make big permanent decisions like that because that is a completely stupid mindset to have and I'm owning up to that. This is no excuse. No excuse, just my experience, just where I'm coming from with this. Just trying to tell y'all my story a little bit.
So, I had also played high school basketball and a little bit of college basketball. And in my surroundings, when you play sports as a girl, you see a lot of other good athletes with tattoos. So, I guess I associated, you know, being respectable with tattoos, which is again ridiculous because being respectable as a woman has nothing to do with tattoos and that's why I'm making this video to clear up any confusion for all different types of women. So, yeah, I I got my tattoos and I think I was seeking respect. I was seeking validation. Seeking external validation, but the problem was I was seeking external validation and external respect from the wrong people, from the bottom of the barrel people. And I asked myself, why was I doing this? Because I wasn't raised that way. Nothing happened in my life to cause me to end up in this position of seeking respect from the bottom of the barrel people. So, I really wanted to self-analyze and figure out why. So, the only conclusion I could really come up with was I had never really had experience with anybody outside of church and my house. So, the first job I had, you know, it's a fast food job. Who works at fast food places? I'm sure a good person here and there, but majority of them are typical bottom of the barrel people. And even like I had mentioned before in sports, the typical respectable authority figure in sports is usually a male athletic coach. So, a lot of them have tattoos and things like that. And so, I remember it wasn't just with tattoos, it was just in the way that I presented myself growing up. It was more tough and less feminine. And the reason for that I still think was just to try and gain respect and to separate the typical treatment of women in sports and job atmospheres, what I thought it was, from me. I wanted big girl responsibilities. And I wanted big girl roles. And all of that is just screwed up in and of itself. That's another reason women shouldn't even be in those types of environments because it poisons them. Whole other video. >> [snorts] >> And I'm grateful that I'm not in that work environment. I'm grateful that I got myself out of that environment and away from those types of people. Because a lot of people, they don't make it away. They fall into that system and they become a part that passes it on to the next.
Tattoos on women do not equal respect from the right people. If anything, it does the opposite. Now, I am rightfully so judged for my appearance. Now, your worth isn't in your body because that's typically what feminists, OnlyFans models think about themselves, that their worth is in their body. So, they, you know, my body, my choice, blah blah blah, empowerment, all that malarkey. Your worth is not in your body. It's a slippery slope to say that tattoos devalue you as a woman, but in a way they do. In a way tattoos do devalue you as a woman because whether you like it or not, human beings are wired to judge upon impression, first impression, which is your appearance. If you are not kept, if you're unkept, if you look, you know, tired, if you don't take care of your hair, your skin, your body, these things are picked up on whether or not someone else thinks about it or not, they're picking up on it subconsciously. And so, you throw tattoos, piercings, whatever it may be, hair dye, blue hair dye, you throw all that stuff in the mix. Those are subtle clues about the type of person you are. Tattoos on a woman never sends a positive signal to a good person or to a good guy. So, if you're a woman trying to find a husband, and you think tattoos are going to attract him, it might attract somebody, but it's not a good man or a good husband. If anything, the more tattoos you have, the more promiscuous you look. It signals to a man that you are promiscuous, you're impulsive, you don't have control of your emotions, you don't have control of your impulsivity. So, the signaling that tattoos give to other people is negative.
My tattoos are embarrassing, and I'm ashamed of them. If you're a woman that has tattoos, you should definitely be ashamed and embarrassed of it, too. It is a mistake you made, and it's extremely hard to undo it. So, instead of saving up your money for your next lip filler appointment or your next Botox appointment, or even your next hair appointment, You should be saving up your money for tattoo removal. It's extremely expensive. So, if you're a woman who has tattoos, or you're a young woman who doesn't have tattoos, just take this as a warning, you're going to want them removed. If you have any sense of self-respect later on in life, if you are surrounding yourself with the right group of people, you're going to start being ashamed of those tattoos. It's never going to be something you're going to be happy with. If you want to be a respectable and classy woman, you need to stay far away from that needle.
Not to mention, tattoos are a form of self-mutilation. In the eyes of the Lord, I believe tattoos are a form of self-mutilation, especially especially for women. Because he created us to be like flowers, soft, feminine creatures. Our duty is just to create life. That is it. That is our main goal in life is to create life. Why are we sitting here spending time and effort doodling on ourselves stupid things that don't matter. It's ridiculous. It's mockery in the eyes of the Lord. It's mockery to him. We are destroying his beautiful creation. You know, I haven't gotten tattooed in like 5 years, I think it is. That was the last time I got a tattoo. And I'm grateful that I came to this realization now, because the process to undo these stupid, careless actions that I've done is going to be so long, so expensive. It's just a typical example of what happens when a woman is allowed too much freedom. Things fall apart. We are not creatures built to have the authority over ourselves this much. I mean, that's why we are we are we belong to our fathers in the house, and then when we get married, we get passed on to the husbands. We always need some type of figure, an authority. I really think that women are so fragile, even having a job as young as I did was probably not the best idea, because I was impressionable. I was young. >> [snorts] >> I was innocent in a way. And when I went out into the world, all of this darkness and just worldliness started consuming my mind and I could started seeing it and I started confusing worldliness for respectableness, which is a big mistake feminists make and a lot of them don't come out of it. So, take my words seriously, hear what I'm telling you. And if you're thinking about getting a tattoo, rethink that decision. And if you have tattoos, rethink that next appointment you have for beauty and start saving up your money to get those tattoos removed off of your body if you ever want to be a member of society with any ounce of respect to your name. Because it's extremely hard to earn respect and keep respect when you're a tattooed woman. There's a saying that you wouldn't put a bumper sticker on a Bentley. And this saying could not be more true. I keep saying this over and over again, but I am completely embarrassed and ashamed of my tattoos and I just don't feel like myself walking around showing them. I cover them up a lot. I don't want people to see them. Even becoming a parent made me realize the disgustingness of my tattoos even more than I was already beginning to realize it. Because I don't want my kids growing up thinking that's acceptable, especially daughters. I don't want my daughters growing up thinking it's okay or it's not a big deal to get tattoos because yes, it is. It is a big deal. You should not be allowing your children near needle. You should not be allowing your children near ink. You should not be encouraging it by any means whatsoever. And it's a slippery slope. Just having those conversations, you know, if my child shows interest, oh, I want a tattoo like you. It's a It's like, no, you don't. Mommy made a mistake. Do not do this. That That I've had that conversation already. Like, it's a detriment that that even has to be a conversation because I shouldn't have made those decisions when I was young. I shouldn't have had the authority to make those decisions, but it is like 100% my fault because I did it anyway. Even though I had good parents telling me not to, I decided to do it anyway. It's just not worth it. You are almost certainly going to regret any tattoo you have. And when you're an lady, it's going to look like a blob. You're going to look disgusting with all these blobs of inks on your skin. I'm going to look disgusting if I don't get these things removed soon. And it's not that easy. You might think it's that easy. You might think, "Oh, I'm going to get a tattoo and if I don't like it later, I'll get it removed." Okay, well, let's go into the toxicity of it. It's not just a physical thing or a mental thing or a external judgment thing. It's also a health thing. There's so much research coming out now about how toxic tattoo ink is for you. So, when you are tattooing your body, you are literally injecting heavy toxic metals into your lymphatic system, into your bloodstream. Stay away from it. If you don't stay away from it, you are just for lack of better words, an idiot. If a tattoo wasn't worth enough, removal is almost even worse if you don't know how to take care of yourself through the process. It's not that simple. It's not that easy. And I'll be quite honest, even though I am a woman with tattoos, uh when I see another woman with tattoos, it's just automatically you think negative things about them. You think you do judge because how someone looks and the decisions that they've made tells a lot about that person. And how can you expect any good man to want you when you weren't even happy with how you were and you felt the need to alter that? It even ties back into another video I made about the people you hang out with influence you in what you do and that's why it's so important to hang out with the right people. And when I look back, when I was getting tattoos, I had the worst friends. I was in the worst work environments. It's so powerful more than you think, especially as a woman who has a weak mind because all women have weak minds. It's not something we're we're not born with strong minds. We are inherently weak mind. It's not up for debate. That's just a fact about women. So, now that I have completely rejected that life and rejected those people and set boundaries and gotten away from those types of people and those types of behaviors, that's when I started to almost detox in a way and come back to reality of what is true. And when I start to imagine the future circles I want and the family I want to build and the places I want to be, if I just picture that in my mind, not one woman has a tattoo showing on her body. And when I really imagine that, it causes even further repulsion against tattoos and against my tattoos. But just take my advice. Don't learn the hard way like me. Listen to your parents. Don't get tattoos. Listen to my advice. Don't get tattoos. Save up your money. Get them removed. This should be on the top of your list. Get them removed. Even if you already have a husband and you say he likes your tattoos, get them removed because if you have children, those children look up to you as an example. And no child should see their mom with a tattoo. That is just a signal, a red flag. It's an embarrassment to your family. It's an embarrassment to your children when their friends' family doesn't feel safe letting their child come hang out with you at your household because you have tattoos and you look trashy with them. A tattoo does not just mark your skin permanently, but it also marks the version of you that just couldn't wait. The version of you that was too impulsive to think clearly. It marks your weak mind. Marcus Aurelius wrote that the only thing we have control over is our mind, not external events. A tattoo is what happens when you get those things reversed and temporary feelings become a permanent scar on your body. Self-control as a young woman in this world is more important than you think. Epictetus even said it himself that no man is free unless he is the master of himself. You must control your mind. You must control your impulsivity. You must control these things because there are things you cannot undo or that are extremely hard to undo. One day your daughter will ask you why you did it. Have your answer ready.