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Say some men refrain from giving out that reality, so they are actually to blame for the entitlement. You actually should [music] feel disrespected if a woman feels like she could just give you vagina and you be happy. That is ridiculous. You are worth more than that and if you don't, you deserve if you don't feel that way, you deserve what you get.
So, So Willie asked the question about entitlement and understanding how men acquire their wealth and if the if they've been with women that didn't necessarily care to ask them or how they could help them maintain it or take initiative like Sham was talking about and every man on the panel has had that particular experience if not one time, multiple times. So we can understand what it what you may think about what you think your friends may do when they're with men, but based on just men that you have on the panel, this is something that happens normally in dating.
Interesting. >> [clears throat] >> It's so far between Oh, go ahead. Go ahead, Sham. Do you think that that's um So again, I think it goes back to the beginning of the conversation. Do you think that that's just the women that that may be the most attractive women or the may you know, like that incentive entitlement to some people who act like that? No, there's plenty. There's plenty of folks that have entitlement.
So remember when you when you answered Willie's question, basically what you were alluding to is taking initiative. Doing things without being asked. And that is something that is a rarity for many men to experience. In fact, when we do experience it, it's like uh like that meme that's like, "Oh my god." Like it's a it's a crazy thing. Like um if somebody's if a man is working in the yard and a woman brings him a drink, he's extremely thankful for that not just because of the drink, but because it was something that had nothing to do with her and she was thoughtful enough to do something for him. Um the same and excuse me for the vulgarity, but if a man returns home and he's able to sit down and receive service from his woman orally, it's a it's a service that he ain't got to do nothing. He ain't got to do nothing but sit there. She thought enough about him to say, "Hey, come on, sit on down here. Let me handle that." That's That's what y'all saying there's a lot going a lot of that going on before you fit in six in a sandwich.
Yeah, but I think the >> But But a sandwich is the same thing. A sandwich The sandwich The sandwich is the arbiter of initiative. That's what we're talking about. Yeah. >> Like it goes along with Men don't get hungry. Men don't normally receive acts of service just without saying nothing. And the issue The issue typically is that there's so few of those interactions to your point, Sham. Most dudes are sleeping on women's couches that when they meet a dude that's got his own couch or a few couches and a few rooms, got square footage and things of that nature, they're so blown away at the fact that he not a bum that they're working on extraction and the experience of the fact that they actually got somebody who's worth a damn. And [clears throat] that's typically why they don't kick into the whole initiative like you showcase. That's a That's a rare trait. Most women are not looking to actually give, especially if they feel or believe you have so much, what do they potentially need to give? Not understanding that the gesture is is significant, especially if you're dealing with someone who has means or whatever it may be. Your characteristic is priceless. The gesture and the consistency consideration is priceless. That's what we typically pay attention to.
So like there's an acronym called AIR, which is what I was speaking to, right? Which most women tend to lack and that's accountability, initiative. You know what the R stands for? Responsibility. Responsibility? No. Well, it could be That would be That probably would have been a better one than the [ __ ] that made this acronym. But most women just don't have they like they can't give a man AIR. There's nothing in them that makes them want to do that. Like even for the guy that finishes the race, the guy that's done all the work, the guy that's got the money, got the fame, he's got the clout, got everything that you want look for in a man, even that man isn't given AIR because there's a sense of entitlement that you're like, "Okay, because I I'm entitled to this simply because I want it." And that's what a lot of women, I would say all most if not all, think about in some way, shape, form, or fashion. If not in dating, in their careers. If not in their careers, in then their friendships. Like they have a sense of entitlement just because they want it. And the thing is like what I say that look at your where you are right now, you have what you deserve because life always give you what you work for. If when you do the work, you're going to get the thing. And women that say like, you know, there's no good men, it's probably because you got a good woman. Like if you do the work, you get the thing. It's just unavoidable.
If you were a teacher, right? And I took you 10 years ago when I 12 years ago when I started on my entrepreneurial journey, if me and you walked hand in hand, step by step, did the exact same thing, you'd be exactly where I am right now. Or before that, if I was with you, walked hand in hand, did the exact same thing, we'd both be in education right now because there is no copyright on success. There is no patent on it. It's not trademarked. If you do the same thing that somebody else has done, you will likely get the identical if not very similar result. When women are dating, they don't do that. They just grow up, "I'm pretty." Okay. "I should have a man. Oh, wait. Now I'm 30 and I'm still pretty and don't have a man. Okay, I'm going to buy some titties now. [ __ ] Got titties, didn't touch my face, don't have a man." So now they get their face done when they're [ __ ] 40 and don't have a man, but got a pretty face and titties, so they start leveraging that to get the other attention they can get from men even though it's not their commitment. And then after that, they're like, "Yeah, I'm tired of this man. I need I need to find me a I need to find me a Trev. Guy that's ran a race and run it. He came in first place. I'm I'm deserving him because I want him. I deserve him because I let all these other non-race-running [ __ ] [ __ ] who passing out water with me [ __ ] have access to me and waste my best years, but I'm going to go get his where he's in his best and he's worked for everything. He's worked for better. I'm going to go get him and force him to settle for me because of my entitlement and that's what's not fair.
It's It's crazy how so many women have successful men and still don't take the initiative to do anything to make his life better other than keep his nuts empty. Because the worst thing to y'all for y'all is for us to cheat on y'all cuz now if we cheat on y'all, like your feelings hurt and it's not because your feelings are really hurt. It's not just that. You know that we might find somebody who will give us that AIR and that two-hand twist who will give us that AIR and the peace that we asked for because y'all aren't doing it because you simply just lazy and entitled. >> [laughter] >> That's actually very accurate. Um and that's one of the things that I started to focus on lately where >> [sighs] >> you have to >> I just Sorry. I got a question when you're done. Okay. Uh all right. So be mindful of what people are attracted to you for. I think that's extremely important. If you figure out that the only thing that you offer is for JJ as a woman, you're going to be in trouble because and there's a new 25-year-old every day, right? There's actually thousands of them new 25-year-olds every day. So you have to understand that your competition there and you it's not enough. You have to offer more than that for value because that's too available for men who are desirable and that is the primary weapon. It's not a secondary. That's the primary weapon that women who are scouting for those particular men are going to use against them. So you just got to understand that. And the one thing that they have and you're that they have that's an advantage to you is is new. If you offer other value, it it's really difficult to make a man leave you. Like you'd have to make him leave you. Men typically aren't >> [snorts] >> disloyal like that. If we are being satisfied, our needs being met, and the it's the bad thing about it is the reason why men's needs aren't met is because women choose not to do it. The reason why women's needs aren't met is because women have not successfully articulated what it is they actually want. And men can't figure it out. And apparently women can't even figure it out.
My only pushback to My only pushback to that, Trev, is that I do honestly believe that it's our job as men to to to make women aware of what we demand. And maybe the men on this panel ain't got no issue with that, but most dudes actually operate in a lot of fear and thinking that they can't actually request or demand and then be able to stand on it. That's at least what I observe. A lot of women don't get trained or prepped in what it is to be in a relationship because you allow the bar of her being in a relationship to be so low. You don't require nothing from her. And I think that's men's fault in mass. Um I don't have that problem. I know you don't have that problem. But a lot of dudes have that problem. I've I've had that problem when I was in my 20s. Yeah, learning had nothing but those types of problems, right? I I wasn't one of those guys where everybody was like, you know, I hadn't had my coat pulled like, you know, a lot of youngsters and [ __ ] like that. I had to learn [ __ ] the hard way on the fly. And it was a shock to the system, many shocks. But, you know, I'm the type of dude when I bump my head, I duck the next time. So, that's just me. But, yeah, there was a lot of growing pains. Fortunately, I was able to be analytical about it and not so hardheaded and understand and and have enough humility to understand where I went wrong with it. Cuz if I didn't have that, then the same shit's going to keep happening. And even though it may not be anything nefarious on my end, it could actually be on their end. But, after the same things keeps happening to you, at some point you got to be like, all right, how do I protect myself? Should I get robbed from walking down the street wearing a fat ass chain? No. If I continue to walk with a fat ass chain and I know I'm in a neighborhood and I get robbed, should I have some type of responsibility for that? Yeah. You know they rob they jacking out here. What are we doing? Why you got the bling on? Tuck your [ __ ] in. Simple as that.
Um we we definitely do a poor job as we refrain from actually giving out reality. If we were to actually let it be known that if you are only offering me vagina, I'm not only disgusted, I'm disrespected because I'm worth actual value. Our sex is an equal exchange. And if you don't like sex with me, then we shouldn't be engaging anyway. So, if for whatever holiday you decide to just get naked for me, I should be feeling disrespected as I should receive more because I'm going to give more. I should expect more. But, many men Well, let's just say some men refrain from giving out that reality. So, they're actually to blame for the entitlement. You actually should feel disrespected if a woman feels like she could just give you vagina and you be happy. That is ridiculous. You are worth more than that. And if you don't, you deserve If you don't feel that way, you deserve what you get. So, I feel bad now. Oh, [ __ ] I feel bad. I feel like I deserve that three [ __ ] in a [ __ ] situation. No. No. No. No. No. No. Listen, I got a question. I don't know what to What? So, I keep hearing like okay, hear me out. Men say that sex is an even exchange, okay? I don't agree with that and let me tell you why. Not because you don't both enjoy it. I think that sex for you, the value of it is very different than sex from her. And what I'm saying is sh- So, just like we sit here and we shame women for having sex, right? It devalues you. It literally devalues her. It brings value to you, but it devalues her the more she has sex with somebody who's not her husband. So, it's not an even exchange.
Well, you see what variable you had to throw in there? I'm sorry. Go ahead. What were you saying? You see what variable you had to apply to that? Sure, you tell me. You tell me which one are you talking about? >> a man that's not her husband, right? Now, we're Obviously, when I'm when I was referring to it, it's in two people that are agreeing to lay down with each other, not necessarily outside of the bounds of that and talking about their reputation. Now, reputationally, it is not an equal exchange. But, inside the bounds of the relationship in the bedroom, that's an equal exchange for those two people. >> We can agree with that. What I'm saying to you is in the totality of having sex, like everything that comes along with sex, it's not an even exchange. Do you understand what I'm saying?
Shan, Shan, I understand what you're saying and I'm I'm going to be honest about it and many men will disagree with this part of it. But, when you understand the angle that I'm coming from, maybe you might have a different take on it, right? And I understand why you say the value is different. When you minus the very few people who are at the top who have access to women, then your thought process makes complete sense. And I'll tell you this, even with those particular men, um the same way that men expect women to understand that we feel differently about sex, right? And you can't get mad at us for wanting you for sex and it's actually a biological imperative. So, for for both, but men a lot more and you can tell based on the actions that men take to get sex versus the actions that women take to get sex. The manipulation that women can use and how they are able to weaponize sex and men are not able to weaponize sex, when it to be um exponential to whatever degree the sex industry when you're talking about women versus the drops in a bucket compared to men, then absolutely, we can't necessarily call it an equal exchange. And my final point with that is that just biologically, I might have explained it on the panel before, but women should be compared to a solar panel where they need an outside source of energy being the sun. They can hold that energy, hold that energy and release it when they feel like it. Um man would be more compared to a steam engine, whereas if he does not purge that energy that is constantly being built, it will be a rupture. So, when you understand that and for the same reasons that we don't allow women to shame us for wanting sex way more than you, we have to take that same logic and realize that, yes, we've we've made it more valuable. For the exceptional few, it doesn't matter because the dating market is so lopsided that those men won't realize it. The desirable men will be delusional about it because that's not their world and you can't manipulate a man with sex because all the women are trying to smash this guy. So, it's not even a reality to him. He's allowed to be delusional because he's built himself to a lifestyle where he it's it is delusional, but not for him. So, everybody else, that's the reality. Sex is a mutual exchange. Like it's it's not it's not like it's a one-sided transaction. It's like when two people both contribute, they both benefit from it. They both have agency, they both have boundaries, they both derive pleasure. Like it's a connection they both build. It's no it's no heavier on one side just because the man has to do a lot to earn the the ability to have sex and a woman is supposed to, you know, give it away. It's just it's equally it's equally valuable. All you have to do is keep it. So, to technically speaking, if you think about it uh more, it's probably more so on the guy's side because we don't we have to do [ __ ] to get sex. Y'all just have to wake up in the morning and say yes. So, for us, we put more work into getting it, we put more work in during sex, and then we're the ones have to maintain the ability to be someone you want to sleep with. All you have to do is say okay.
>> disagree with that. No, no, no. That goes into the the entire It's just a different point of the the the Right? And the reason why And the reason why you have to do all of that work is because she knows the consequences of having sex with you. Like you have to be worth the consequences that come along with that. He may not call me back. We may not emotional. He you know, he could be used These are all things Believe it or not, these are things that women think We have the same thoughts, too. Damn, bro. I told you I was talking all that [ __ ] I nailed it in 16 minutes. All right. Let me ask this. Two quick Two quick questions, right? Two quick questions, right? If women, y'all ain't even going to want to answer this question, but I'm just going to say. We'll ask We'll answer the questions for both men and women. Do you think men would keep Do you think men would keep women around minus mick loving? Do you think women would keep men around? No. Minus the same thing. No and yes. I think that women would keep men around without loving. You mean sex? Y'all crazy as Yeah, they they have sexless marriages. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. Yeah, but they can't choose. They've already chosen. You can't >> She helped us understand. She helped us. Right. I'm being honest. I don't care who I'm helping. I'm just having a conversation. >> You think So, you think Answer the questions directly cuz not everybody's going to remember the order. Would men keep women around and would men and would women keep men around? >> Without sex, I don't think men would keep women around. How However, I do think women would keep >> I don't think either one. And and that's why that's how you know that sex is probably more important is is more valuable for us, if anything, because y'all will keep us around without sex. We wouldn't keep you around without sex. Yeah. >> Right. You are more valuable than your sex. So so that proves your that proves your point, Willie, but it also proves my point that the value is that high when you're willing to deal with the species that you probably don't even like [laughter] because of sex.