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About 87% of black women in America are mothers compared to the 54% of black men who report being fathers. Now, this difference right here, because a lot of you are confused because you don't, cuz you're slow. This difference right here means that more black women are becoming parents than black men. Not just in number of children, but in the likelihood of parenthood overall.
A lot of you are like, "Well, that don't make no sense. That don't make no sense because a lot of black women are having black children." Let's break it down. Research and reality shows among black women, a large share have multiple children by multiple different men. Too often we hear black women complaining about black men not being fathers, black men not showing up, black men not being in their kids' line. And and this right here becomes the indictment of the men alone. But if fewer black men are fathers than black women are mothers, it's not simply a matter of black men just not showing up.
Now, we have to discuss who are these black men you guys are having kids by. Oh, see, now that's the caveat. And I've been saying this for a long time. I've been having this conversation for a long time. I've been communicating this for a long time. When I say that the majority of women are having sex with a minority of the men, you can't then come back and say, "Well, you know, it's the men's fault." No, it is the men that you deal with fault. It's the guys that you decide to have children with out of wedlock.
If he already has a baby mama, multiple baby mamas in a lot of instances, and then he gets with you and he says that, "Yo, I want to make you a baby mama or I want you to have my child." It seems like something would go off in your head and say, "You know what? This probably isn't a good idea or I probably shouldn't even be in this situation to have this conversation with him in the first place because you need to go and take care of your children. You need to go back and take care of your children's mother. You need to go and participate in your children's lives. Why would he treat you any better than he treated the women that he had before you?"
And so women choose because remember they have freedom. They advocated for it. They can vote. They determine who it is as the president of the United States of America back in 2020. Even though I feel like the election was stolen, uh, they continue to go out there and crash out and be crazy and then they get with guys that's not going to take care of them and they continue to do the same thing over and over again and then they complain about their children's father and then it becomes all of our fault even though the majority of guys that I know, anecdotal experience, the majority of guys that I know are participatory in their children's lives and they don't operate from a single broken family home and they are actually really good guys and they take care of business and they go to work every day and a lot of them don't even have children. But it becomes all of our fault, the toxicity that you guys decide to put yourselves into because you have the freedom to do so.
Let's go a step further. When guys then say, "Well, you know what? I don't even really want to have children or I choose not to be in a relationship because I don't want to even be in the position to to have to make that decision because what I'm seeing out here is very difficult. I don't see a lot of people that's in my age group or people that are available that are not broken that are not single mothers that you know are in a bad position." And then the criticism comes on that side and they say, "Well, what's wrong with a single mother?" What do you mean what's wrong? I would never advocate for a guy to go and play player number two. I would never advocate for a guy to be a single baby daddy. I would never advocate for a dude to play another man's save game.
And so when then I say, "Well, guys, listen. If you are a man with no children and you worked your ass off, why would I give you advice and say that you should get with her regardless of how good she look, regardless of what her socioeconomic status is, regardless of how she feels about life and what she's communicating on social media? Why would I tell you that you should go and be a crash dummy or or a baby stepdaddy crash dummy and get with a woman that's a single mother?" Now, that's not to say that all single mothers are bad. I want to be very clear. That's not to communicate that all single mothers are crash dummies or anything like that, right? But what I am saying is you can have preferences, too. And you should not be shamed into doing something that you don't want to do just because somebody feels some type of way about it.
And this woman is spot on. She's giving you the statistics. She's basically telling you that the math ain't math. And if there are more of y'all and more of y'all also have children, especially out of wedlock or you are a single parent, then the men overwhelmingly and it's not even close. It's a huge gap, then the math tells you that they are all dealing with the same dudes that's having children by all of the same women and that it's really not the problem with the men. Now, that doesn't mean that it absolves the guys from responsibility. You don't mean the guys that are doing this type of thing shouldn't be held accountable, but life holds them accountable. They go to go to jail. They don't pay child support. All of this stuff, right? You still need to be participatory in your children's life. But we have enough data in the statistics to make a smart decision to determine, hey, you should do this or you shouldn't do this or you should do this or you shouldn't do this or we can lean back from examples and say this conversation.
Whenever a guy jumps up or they ask for a coaching call or they jump on the panel or they say, "Oh man, it's my baby motherfucker." We hold him accountable. Hey man, what's wrong with you? I'm not going to sit here and say that you can get away with that. When we tell women to choose better, you should have chose better. Why are you having children out of wedlock? What was you doing? How did you get finessed? Why are you in this situation in the first place? You know what I'm saying? So, when we have these conversations and we we we get outside and we say these things, you have to really take accountability and responsibility for the people that you are choosing. And when guys have been saying that for years, everybody act like it was taboo for us to say that. To say, "Hey, take responsibility for the guys that you're choosing."
Choosing the bottom of the barrel and then getting upset because he is not an A1 father. Sounds like a personal problem. A lot of these men that you guys are having kids by also have like three to five to six to seven, eight, nine, ten, eleven. I've seen on social media other baby mamas. You guys are all literally recycling the same [ __ ] and then getting upset because he's not a decent father. [ __ ] He wasn't a father to the last baby he had. So, what made you think you going to be a father to yours?
Statistical snapshot data shows that a high proportion of black women have multiple children with multiple different men. If one woman has a child by one, two, three, four, five men, the chances of these men being in these kids' life is very thin. Just like a man who has a baby, especially in the West, has a baby by two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, eleven, twelve women. The chances of him being in all these kids' life are very thin. Again, let's think about the kids here. However, when a relatively small pool of men share paternity with many women, the chances of involved fatherhood is very slim. And I'm I hate this whole narrative in the black community that black men are horrible fathers when statistically they're not. Black men fail. Black families, black women are just so so so victim-minded and so they're just the biggest victims in the black community. When the data proves something completely different, more black women are becoming mothers than black men. You guys are also becoming mothers to the same exact [ __ ]. And the type of [ __ ] and the quality of [ __ ] that you got to become mothers by are horrible. But these are the black men who are failing the black family. You failed the black family first when you decided to lay down and give a baby to that [ __ ]. You failed the black family when you did not require commitment before a child. You failed the black family when you did not assess whether this was a quality man before you gave him a baby. I literally see you wankers on TikTok bragging about being a sixth and seventh baby mama. One girl says she the eleventh baby mama. Didn't know he had. How in the [ __ ] you didn't know this man had ten other baby mamas and you ended up? You mean to tell me you had a baby by a [ __ ] who was able to hide ten other baby mamas? Y'all be getting pregnant by men y'all met yesterday. But the black man is failing black families. No, [ __ ] your weak ass coochie is.
I agree. And and I know that she got a little bit more incendiary towards the end, but but in reality, in reality, the truth is is that there are a lot of people that are pretending like they are victims and they are not victims. They chose the person that they that they being with. They go into the degenerate situations that they're in. Um, then they try to play victim like it's not their fault when it absolutely is their fault. They are participatory in the degeneracy and they are what they attract. So you can't come on social media and then complain and say, "Oh man, listen, I don't like this or this is what's wrong or this and that, so on and so forth." You can't do that. You can't play victim later and then try to act like, "Oh man, no, no, no, no. You no, that's not how it works."
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