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I've spent the last 15 years consistently dating women in long-term relationships, in short-term relationships, multiple at one time, flying them in and out like a terminal. And I'm going to give you 10 brutal truths that you have to understand when it comes to women in dating because nobody else is going to teach you these things. And everything else you read and hear typically on the internet leads you to failure because the truth is not pretty. The truth is ugly. But the truth will set you free. And not only will the truth set you free, but it's also going to help you treat women in a more aligned, congruent way with nature, with what they actually want. So, not only will your dating life get better, women will desire you more, but your relationships will actually get stronger cuz you understand women better. And after dating celebrities, public figures, small town girls, bigtown girls, every situation in between, I'm going to boil this down to you in this one video.
Number one, everything you're afraid to do when it comes to women, women are actually begging you do. For example, when I started dating, I obviously was a nicer guy, incredibly naive. I had my first couple girlfriends in like the eighth grade. I gave them the benefit of the doubt. And because I had feelings attached, and because I cared about the outcome, I was afraid and fearful to do bold things, to do things that are unconventional, to do things that might be perceived as wrong. The problem is everything I was fearing of doing, putting them in their place, telling them no, ignoring them cuz I didn't want to offend them, that's what women actually want. And you don't understand this until you have a girl that you don't give a [ __ ] about and you do things to kind of ward her off and you're not afraid at all and she wants you more. And I started to say to myself, what on earth is going on? I don't give a [ __ ] I'm bolder. I'm saying things I don't give a [ __ ] I mean, like, I'm doing everything I can to basically get this girl off my back. And she likes me more. And that's when I came to realize something. Everything that men are afraid to do as it pertains to women, women truly desire. Because when men act in such a way that is so bold, it signals on a subconscious level to her that you are incredibly masculine. And masculinity is having so much certainty and courage in who you are, in what you do, that you don't care about the repercussions. You don't care about the outcome because you're so secure in yourself. You don't give a [ __ ] That's why they love it. Everything you're afraid to do, they're begging for. Take the risk.
Number two, if you never make women feel fear, she will never respect you. Women operate in such a fascinating manner as it pertains to emotions and psychology. They've been very hardwired to seek power in men because power in men means survival. Back in the day, they couldn't hunt. They couldn't protect. They were taken care of completely by men. And so, if they didn't find that guy that had tons of power to do that or could do that, they died. So, it's a survival mechanism to find a guy that resembles the most powerful man humanly possible because that means survival. What did all of these men instill? They had tons of abundance. And because of that, because they held this woman's survival, in literally the palm of their hand, whether they ate or didn't eat, they felt constant fear of him axing her off, telling her she doesn't want him anymore. And so as a result, that fear element is actually what will trigger in a woman's mind that you have power. And if there is so much comfort created in whatever relationship you're in, whether it's long or short, there's all comfort and no fear, she will start to think you don't have any power. As a result, she will go to a guy that makes her feel a bit of fear. It is necessary for a woman to feel fear in order to feel deep, deep desire.
Number three, acting annoyed or unimpressed of a woman actually turns them on. When I would treat women in a way where I was not impressed at all and their existence kind of annoyed me and I would just tolerate them, I would look in real time and see how into me they got every single time I was impressed by women's looks, especially growing up in high school. Every single time I was impressed, they would not like me. Every single time. Every single time I thought it showed, she's really attractive. God, she's really hot. I was impressed. They did not like me. Every single time I was like, "You're whatever. Not like whatever. You're kind of annoying me. Like, go away." They chased me like a [ __ ] Because it is that detachment to outcome. It is that position of leverage, position of power, and exuding in your behavior that makes women beg for you. And so, you have to have discipline and control your behavior. I don't care if you're talking to a supermodel. You have to look at her in the eyes and really really show with your energy you're okay. You're just okay. Because anytime they feel with your presence, with your energy, with your texting, with how you're talking to them that you're impressed, it's over.
Number four, competition is the greatest aphrodesiac. If you want to motivate a woman, make her compete subtly and indirectly. And I learned this in one of my very first long-term relationships. I was in college. To be honest, I was cheating like a [ __ ] And when I was doing this, she would try so hard to win my love. She would try so hard and was so into me. It was unbelievable. And I know it was because of the competition aspect. And I'm not advocating go cheat and all this stuff, but there's a lesson here. And you can do this indirectly without the cheating. You can do this subtly. But competition always has to be there. It can never leave. And I know this for a fact because we broke up, got back together, I stopped cheating. The effort stopped. She wasn't as turned on for me when I wasn't having multiple women in circulation. It is always the competition factor. And you can do this subtly in the beginning, indirectly by how you're interacting with other women, by what you insinuate. But you need to sprinkle in competition because that is such a driving force of stimulating desire. Because women hate all other women deep down. They they hate each other. They want to take all the guys from all the women. This drives them. This is how they're hardwired. Give it to them. They want this. They want the competition. They want to take you from other women. And if they don't feel like they're doing that, then they won't like you. Point blank simple.
Number five, if you are not tyrannical, you're guaranteed to lose with women. Women will test you forever. I don't care how long you've been seeing her, short, medium, long, you're going to get tested all the time. And they are going to see how far they can push you. And the only way to win, and what I mean by win is maintain the dynamic, keep her in love with you, keep her obsessed, is to be tyrannical. Is to look her in the eyes and say, "I will blow this entire thing to smithetheriness. I will nuke us into orbit. I'm not giving you what you want." It's a hard no. When you get ultimatums doing that, and what makes it so challenging is because you fall in love, you get feelings, you get softer, you start caring for this person, and then they do it. And so, it's very challenging. Obviously, if a stranger walked up to you on the street and gave you an ultimatum, it'd be pretty damn easy to tell them no. When it's your girl and you don't want to go back to dating because you don't have that many options and you're in scarcity and you love her and she does things for you and she gives you an ultimatum, that's when it's challenging. But from firsthand experience, if you are not a tyrant in every single instance this happens and slam your foot down and tell them no, you're [ __ ] And the reason being is it will never stop. And if you're not a tyrant, one, they won't respect you deep down. Two, they will start to identify that they can get their way. They can't persuade you. They can't push you. And they'll keep moving the goalpost. And the more you do it, the less they respect you. So, of course, inevitably, it just simply ends. It ends with you having no power. But if you're a tyrant and you put your foot down, they'll get pissed in the moment. Sure, whatever. One, they'll never leave. Two, they'll respect you a thousand times more.
Number six, creating inner magnetism will always supersede pickup lines or copy and paste text. A lot of guys when they want to get great with women, they want to cut the line of the work. They want a shortcut. They try to use AI. They try to copy and paste pickup lines, copy and paste text. You're avoiding the actual work that moves the needle. Nothing nothing will make up for a lack of charisma and certainty and energy and aura and presence and magnetism. The reason being is women are very energetic creatures. They're very emotional creatures. They can feel your energy and your presence and how you carry yourself through the phone and in person. And the only way to transcend your magnetism, your energy, your charisma, your aura is through inner work. There's no other way. Doing things to transcend your identity, your image of self, your subconscious mind. If you don't do any of these things, you will never win. I've been doing self-development, personal development, inner work for six, seven years now. And the reason this has such an insane effect with women is because it comes out in every single behavior you do, your confidence, your certainty, your aura, your charisma, your magnetism comes out in how your words land, how you look them in the eye, how you slam them down, how you put your foot down, your nonverbal communication. You think a line can make up for that? That's 95% of how they feel towards you. The words are five, maybe 10%. If you don't do the inner work, you will never win. It's that simple. They're energetic creatures. Master energy, master seduction.
Number seven, women will always hate you for prioritizing them. What I've noticed is over the years, women deep, deep down truly know they're inferior. They know it. They try to put a mask on. They try to fake it. They know it. And they know they want a guy that is a winner. Guys that are winners never put women number one in their life forever. You might have seasons where you do it to get good, right? You might have six months to a year where you're like, I'm focusing on women to really master the game. But overall, they can never be number one in your life above purpose, above career, above yourself. Because this signals to her that you are not a winner and you're not powerful because they know on a deep level that winners prioritize winning in life. And that winning in life means to women that you're powerful, that you have abundance, there's competition because other women want you, etc., etc., etc. They start to get anxiety when you prioritize them because it makes them feel like you're taking your eye off the ball of protection and providing, which means they're going to die. They don't want to be prioritized. They want to be taken care of in certain emotional ways, which you do by never prioritizing them. Every single time I've been hyperfocused on one girl or just dating in general, it's gone to [ __ ] because they can feel the eagerness. They can feel that you're prioritizing a woman, which in turn means you're not above them. If you were truly above them, which is what all women want, you would be indifferent. You would not care that much. And it comes out in your behavior.
Number eight, women hope that with everything they ask of you, you tell them no. Every single time women ask you a question, it is for you to tell them no. That's what they want. They want to hear no all the time. The problem is guys are too nice. They want to be gentlemen. They want to make their girl happy by giving them what they want. You have it backwards because women don't operate in a linear logical way. They operate on an emotional logically backwards way which is telling them no increases desire because they look to you for structure. They look to you for purpose. You are the man. They look to you to lead them. If you tell them yes to things they bring up to you and ask of you. They are leading you. They're giving you the structure for them. This goes against nature. This isn't what they want. You have to tell them no all the goddamn time. I I tell all my girls no is your favorite word. I hypnotize them. You love it when I tell you no. And then I'll tickle them and then it triggers in their neuroplasticity of their brain humor and laughter and being playful with the word no. So I I literally train them like Pavlov's dogs, but they need it because of the reasons I just outlined. If you tell them yes to make them happy, they will resent you for it.
Number nine, women only want guys that resemble their fathers or a father-like figure. A big misconception men have about women is that we are equals. We're both adults. This is fundamentally incorrect and it's one of the biggest reasons why you suck with women. Maybe don't suck, but you get the point. Women are not men and we're entirely different. You really should view women like a different species, like a child adult hybrid. That's really what they are. Their body is matured. They look like adults. They can communicate at a better rate than a child. But on an emotional and psychological desire level, they resemble children. They don't resemble adults and they really really need a guy that can give them the level of structure and discernment and leadership that a father gives a child. And if you fall into the trap of equality and not having this upper hierarchy position and top-down position with women, they won't desire you. They won't respect you. They won't want you because you're going against nature. They want to be down here. They want you to be up here. This is what they want. When you treat them like an equal and you're really considerate and you loop them into, you know, decisions and you never tell them no and you never reprimand them and you never give them structure, they're going to leave because fundamentally this is not what they need.
Number 10, forgetting and I'm going to give you one more bonus one. Actually, I'm going to give you 11, so stick around. Number 10, forgetting women exists makes them want to [ __ ] you. This is one of the craziest things I've probably discovered through my years of dating experience. Every single time I would forget a girl exists and I would forget to respond or I would talk to her again and I forgot we talked before, their desire for me to [ __ ] them, like literally like primal sexual desire went through the roof. Went through the roof. The reason being is I'm triggering so much abundance and leverage on a subconscious level in their mind that I possess because I am so powerful and I have so much abundance that I forgot they existed. And as hardcore as that sounds, what that triggers in women is a feeling that I am so desirable because of what I just outlined. And so when you forget women exist, and you can do this, you can practice this, right? Take a girl you're talking to, forget she exists for a week, come back, whatever. What? And literally, you can do this by like responding like, "Oh, [ __ ] Forgot forgot about you for a second." Whatever. Right? You can just playfully do this. What you're going to see is they'll respond right away. They'll start chasing you. They'll start wanting you because you're triggering something. So deep. You see, everything I told you is reverse engineering women because once you understand emotions and psychology and human behavior of women, you just reverse engineer everything. There's tons of patterns. When you do this, you're pressing the trigger of I am powerful and I don't need you. Therefore, in their mind, they need you. This is how women operate. Forgetting them is one of the biggest turnons in human history. If you run into a girl that you've met before, act like you didn't meet her. I'm not kidding. You see her at a bar, you see her out and about, she says hi to you. Oh, yeah. Where did we meet again? What's your name again? Watch. It's insane.
Number 11, my bonus one. Do not go after status slash the really, really, really hot girl is typically not worth it. So, after years of experience, what you'll what you go through as you ascend your dating life and your dating skills is you want to check boxes, right? It's like bucket list things. It's like when you start to get money, you're like, "Okay, apartment, car, trip, yacht, right?" Like you have this you have this bucket list. You have this checklist of things your ego wants to accomplish. It's the same with women. And so that could be like I want a mil. I want a famous girl. I want to be Eskimos with a celebrity. I want a model. I want a runway model. Right? Like you have all these ego checklist things, these ego bucket list things that you want to become. I want a threesome. I want halfway open relationship. Whatever. Right? You have all of these things. As somebody that has I don't know if this is a good thing or a bad thing. Checked every single one of my boxes. They're all checked. I have nothing left when it comes to women to check that I truly want to do. Everything is checked outside of family in the future, which isn't even a it's just like an inevitability. What I can tell you is the biggest ones that I can share to you are definitely not worth it. Okay, number one, the really, really, really attractive girl, like the Instagram 10. Why? Number one, without making this an entirely new video, let me just clearly explain to you that these women come with strings. These women come with expectations. These women come with a molded and distorted perception of reality. And typically speaking, you're competing with the world. And this goes into my next point, which is like 11.5, which is also do not go after fame or status. Because I had that in my mind as my next bucket list thing like four years ago. It's like I want to like famous girls next and date a famous girl. Okay? I almost married her. Do not do it. Okay? The really hot girl and the famous girl, you have to understand they're not like real people, okay? They all wear a mask. Every girl wears a mask, but the masks they wear are like 30 masks. You don't know who they truly are cuz they curate everything for persona. Because even if a girl's really hot, but she's on Instagram, you have to understand, they're being so hardwired for fleeting dopamine that they're going to curate personas. It's not worth it. It's not worth competing with the world. It's not worth the maintenance and upkeep these girls demand. I mean, I would I was happy to walk away of any of them, but you get the point. When you go into a restaurant with a genuine 10 and everyone's staring at you, like, trust me, you want to do this a couple times, but like it gets [ __ ] old. And everyone's staring at you and the girls are complimenting her. Imagine her ego. Imagine her ego. When you go anywhere, everybody looks at her and the girls are like, "You're so beautiful telling me I'm so lucky." And [ __ ] like that. Well, I don't think they told me that, but they they definitely said like, "You're so beautiful. Oh my god. Oh my god." Imagine that. Every every time you leave the house, imagine this girl's [ __ ] perception of her image and what she thinks she deserves and all this [ __ ] The ultimatums that come with it, the size of the ring they want, the trips they want. This is unfortunately going to be their ego because this is how they're treated. So, is it worth it? No. No, it's not. Even with amazing frame, even when you humble them all the time, even when you threaten to leave, whatever, you can man and I and I manage them. Just imagine it's not [ __ ] worth it. You have the Tates in their DMs, Tristan Tate and your girl's DMs. It's not worth it. For what? It's not [ __ ] worth it. And plus, their character, especially with that level of notoriety or or uh fame, clout, it's never never ideal. As somebody that's checked every box, I'm imploring you. I know your ego wants to do it. I know your ego would love to say you're doing it. I know your ego would love to [ __ ] a girl that you know millions of men want to [ __ ] I get it. It's not worth it. Okay? You're still probably going to try and do it. I get it cuz your ego is strong. But this is just Uncle Jay, okay? Uncle the real game trying to give you genuine advice to maximize your experience on Earth. If you want me to teach you every single secret I know over the course of the last 15 years and make you a master with women in dating in your dating life, click the links below. I'll see you in the next video.