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Hey, happy new year. I don't know where you're listening from right now. Maybe [music] your kitchen is still half quiet. Maybe there's a cup of coffee cooling down. Maybe you're still in bed with that [music] soft, strange feeling that comes after midnight when the fireworks are gone. And it's [music] just you again. January 1st, 2026. [music] Can I tell you something gently?
I know a lot of people make this day loud. Goals, hustle, a brand new you. And I'm not [music] against any of that. I just I worry we turn the first day of the year into a courtroom. Like you're on trial for everything [music] you didn't finish. But I don't see you that way. I see someone who made it through a year that asked a lot. A year that was noisy online, in the world, even inside our own heads. [music] And still you're here breathing, trying, showing up for your life in whatever way you could. [music] That matters. And I think God notices the quiet kind of endurance. The kind nobody [music] claps for. So instead of pushing you, I want to stand beside you for a moment. No pressure, no performance, just a presence. Because here's the truth I keep coming back to. You don't have to reinvent yourself [music] today. You just have to begin again softly.
Have you ever carried a dream so long it started to feel like [music] a secret? Like you didn't even tell people anymore? Cuz you were tired of explaining and tired of being disappointed. Yeah, [music] I know that feeling. Sometimes we don't postpone our dreams because we're lazy. We postpone them because we're afraid the dream will cost us something. Our comfort, our relationship, our identity, even the version of us that other [music] people expect. And I don't want to overwhelm you, but I need [music] to say this. The perfect moment isn't coming. Not because you don't deserve it, because life doesn't work that way. The stars don't line up. The fear doesn't [music] fully disappear. People might not understand. They might even shrug at the thing that makes your heart light up. And it hurts. I know. But a dream doesn't need everyone's permission. It just needs your first honest step. Not a giant leap, not a dramatic announcement, just one small act that proves to your own soul, I'm still here. I still care. I haven't given up on myself. Maybe that step is writing the first paragraph. [music] Maybe it's taking a 10-minute walk because your body has been begging you for kindness. Maybe it's making the appointment you've been avoiding. Maybe it's finally [music] cleaning out the drawer where you hide the things you don't want to face. Maybe it's saying no for the first time without [music] apologizing for having a boundary. Just one. Because momentum is a quiet miracle. >> [music] >> It builds in the background and little by little it changes what you believe you're capable of. [music] So let me ask you just between us, what's one thing you've been postponing [music] that you still secretly want? You don't have to explain the whole story. You don't have to be brave in a loud way. [music] Just name it. I'll be here with you quietly and willingly.
Can I stay with you a little longer? Because there's this moment that happens every new year when the calendar flips and suddenly we feel like we're supposed to [music] become someone different overnight. And if you're anything like me, that pressure can make you freeze. You [music] start thinking, if I can't do it perfectly, why start it all? If I can't do the whole plan, why do the first step? I think that's one of the quiet tricks fear uses. [music] It dresses up like high standards, but underneath it's just fear of disappointment. [music] And I don't want fear to take another year from you. So, let me say this softly. You don't need confidence [music] to begin. You need consent. Just permission from you. To you permission to be a beginner again, [music] permission to be imperfect, permission to take the smallest step without turning it into a performance. Cuz the truth is, most real changes don't happen on the [music] days we feel powerful. They happen on ordinary days when no one is watching. When you're tired and you [music] still choose one small act of respect for your own life, that's where momentum is born. I think people misunderstand momentum. They think it's loud, like fireworks, but momentum is usually quiet. It's you [music] filling a glass of water and actually drinking it. It's you putting your shoes by the door the night before. It's you writing [music] two honest sentences when you wanted to write none. It's you not sending the text that would reopen the wound. [music] It's you turning off the noise for 10 minutes and letting your nervous system breathe that counts. And if you've been through a lot, if you've spent years being the strong one, the reliable one, the one who holds it together, then the small things aren't small at all. They're you choosing yourself without asking permission from the world. I don't know if this makes sense, but I think God honors that. Not the polished version of you, [music] the honest one. The one who says, "Okay, I'm scared, but I'm still going to take one step." [music]
And so, here's something you can try today just as a gentle experiment. [music] Pick a goal that matters to you and shrink it until it feels almost too easy. If you want to read more, don't promise [music] a whole book. Read one page. If you want to move your body, don't promise an hour. Walk to the end of the street and back. If you want to get healthier, don't redesign your life. [music] Just choose one simple meal that feels kind to you. If you want peace, don't solve every relationship. Just make one boundary, one. Because [music] starting small isn't settling. Starting small is choosing sustainability. And I want [music] that for you. I want your dreams to survive you being human. Let me share a quiet line I've held on to. [music] "If it's worth doing, it's worth doing badly at first." I hope that lands gently. And maybe tonight when the day gets quiet again, you can do one tiny thing [music] that future you will recognize as love. Not grand love, just real love. If you feel like sharing, tell me one tiny start you can do today. Even if [music] it's almost embarrassingly small. I'll read it like a prayer.
You know what's hard about a new year? It's not just starting. [music] It's letting go. Because a lot of us, we don't hold on to things because [music] they feel good. We hold on because they feel familiar. Even the habits that hurt us. Even the relationships that keep us small. Even the roles we never chose but somehow [music] became responsible for. And I want to say this carefully because I respect how much you've [music] carried. Sometimes the thing draining you isn't your job. [music] It isn't your age. It isn't even your motivation. Sometimes it's the quiet weight of what you keep tolerating. The conversation you keep avoiding. The standard you keep lowering for how [music] you deserve to be treated. The way you keep saying it's fine when it's not fine. [music] And I'm not judging you. I get it. Letting go can feel like loss. Even when what you're releasing [music] is pain. Because pain, we know, can feel safer than the unknown. [music] But can I say something? I've been holding inside. Your peace is not a luxury. It's a responsibility. [music] Not to anyone else, first to you. And I think that's one of the most hopeful things about January first. It gives you a clean moment to ask, [music] "What am I done carrying?" Not in anger, not in drama, just [music] in truth. Maybe you're done carrying guilt that isn't yours. Maybe you're done carrying someone else's bad mood like it's your job to fix it. Maybe you're done carrying a version of yourself that performs for love. And I know boundaries can feel cold when you've been taught to be easygoing, [music] to be nice, to be the one who doesn't make waves. But boundaries aren't walls. They're doors. They're the simple loving sentence [music] that says, "This is what I can do, and this is what I can't." They don't have to be loud to be real. Sometimes a boundary is just you not answering right away. You taking a breath before you agree. You saying, "Let me think about it." Instead of giving your life away out of habit, and if someone gets angry when you set a boundary, I want you to hear this. Their anger is information. It doesn't mean you're wrong. It means [music] the old access is changing. And change always makes noise at first. I think a lot of women, especially women who have loved deeply, served deeply, [music] endured deeply, get punished for choosing themselves. People call it selfish. But I don't [music] see it that way. I see it as wisdom. I see it as God quietly restoring what you've been pouring out for too long.
So, here's a gentle practice for today. Just one you can try. Think of one thing that keeps burning your hands. Something you keep holding even though it hurts. And then ask yourself very softly. What would it look like to loosen my grip just a little? Not abandon your whole life. Not blow everything [music] up. Just loosen. Maybe it's deleting the app that steals your peace. Maybe it's unfollowing the account that makes you feel behind. Maybe it's not rereading that old message that reopens the same wound. Maybe [music] it's not going back into the same argument where nobody listens. Or maybe it's one honest sentence you've been afraid to say. "I can't do that anymore." "I need time." "I'm not available for that." [music] "I love you and I'm choosing what's healthy for me." I don't know if you've ever needed someone [music] to give you permission to protect your peace. But if you do, consider this permission. And I'm proud of you already for even listening, because letting go isn't giving up. Letting go is making [music] space. And what's coming in 2026, it deserves space. If you want, [music] tell me one thing you're releasing this year. Just one word or one [music] short sentence. No explanation needed. Just a quiet [music] commitment. I'll hold it with you.
Thank you for staying with me. I know [music] this kind of conversation can feel um intimate in [music] a strange way, like we're talking about the parts of life people usually rush past. [music] So, let me shift us gently into something hopeful. Because once you start releasing what drains you, something beautiful happens. You get room to invest [music] in yourself again. Not in the new year, new body, fix everything way. I mean, in the holy human way. [music] The way you'd care for someone you love. And I hope this is okay to say, but I think a lot of women have been taught to treat [music] themselves like the last item on the list. You're the one who remembers everyone else's needs. You're the one who checks in. You're the one who adapts. And somewhere along the way, you start living like your own needs are optional. But you're not optional. Your health is not optional. Your rest is not optional. Your joy is not optional. And uh [music] it's not not selfish to finally say, "I'm going to take care of me." It's mature love.
So when I say invest in yourself, I don't mean money. I mean attention. Because attention is where your life goes. Whatever you consistently give your attention to becomes your reality. So what if 2026 is the year you give your attention back to you? Not obsessively, [music] not self-centered, just respectfully. Let me offer you a few gentle forms of investment that actually last, especially in a world that feels louder every year. [music] One, invest in your nervous system. I know people don't talk about this enough, but it matters. If your body is constantly bracing, always waiting for the next bad message, the next conflict, [music] the next demand, then even good things will feel hard. So maybe today your growth looks like calm. 10 [music] minutes with no phone, a slow walk, a warm shower, music [music] that makes your chest soften, sitting in your car for a moment before you go inside, just breathing. That's not laziness. That's healing, too. Invest in your body like it's your home. I'm not talking about punishment or shame. [music] I'm talking about kindness, water, sleep, a simple stretch in [music] the morning, a meal that doesn't make you feel heavy with regret. [music] And if you've been hard on yourself for years, can you try one new sentence? "My body has carried me through everything. I'm going to treat it like a friend." [music] Even if you don't fully believe it yet, say it anyway. Sometimes the heart follows the mouth. Three, invest in your mind with better inputs. This is a big one in 2026 [music] because we live inside feeds now. And some feeds are poison. They make you [music] anxious. They make you compare. They make you feel behind. So maybe your investment this year is choosing what you allow into your mind. [music] Less outrage, less doom, less noise that turns [music] your spirit into a clenched fist, more things that make you feel steady, more stories that restore [music] your faith in people, more voices that speak with tenderness. If you've been feeling overwhelmed lately, it's not because you're weak. It's because you're human and you've been absorbing too much. Four, invest [music] in your spirit in a way that feels true. I'm not here to preach at you, but I will say this. I think God often meets us [music] in quiet routines. A small prayer before you start your day, a gratitude [music] list you don't show anyone, a verse, a line, a simple [music] thank you whispered while you wash dishes. Some blessings arrive softly. And I think your life has already been full of quiet blessings, [music] especially the ones that kept you alive when nobody knew how close you were to breaking. So yes, [music] invest in yourself, but do it gently. Do it like you're rebuilding trust with your own heart. Because if you've been let down by people, by timing, by life, sometimes you stop [music] trusting yourself, too. You stop believing you'll follow through. So don't [music] make huge promises today. Make small ones you can keep. And every time you keep one, [music] you restore something sacred inside you.
Can I give you a simple practice for this year? Pick one anchor habit. Just one. [music] Something so small you can do it on your worst day. One glass of water in the morning. 5 minutes of walking, 2 minutes of prayer, writing one honest sentence, turning off your phone at one specific time each night. One anchor because when your day has an anchor, [music] you stop drifting. And I want you to feel steady again, not perfect, [music] steady. If you want to share, tell me what your anchor habit might be for [music] 2026. And if you don't know yet, that's okay. Just stay close. We're not rushing. Okay?
This [music] part matters because even if you start small, even if you take care of yourself, there's still one thing that can quietly undo your progress. The people around you. Not because people are bad, but because proximity is powerful. Who you spend time with shapes what you believe is normal. And I think a lot of good-hearted women have been living with a kind of emotional jet lag. Always adjusting to someone else's mood, someone else's needs, someone else's chaos. So, let me say this gently. In 2026, choose your people like you're choosing your peace. Not everyone gets the same access to you. Not everyone deserves front row seats to [music] your life. And I know that can sound harsh, but it's not harsh. [music] It's honest. Because you can't build a hopeful year in an environment that keeps pulling you back into survival mode. You can't heal while you're constantly being reopened. [music] So here's a question you can ask quietly, privately, with no guilt. "Who makes me feel safe to be myself?" Not impressed, [music] not useful, not needed, just myself. The real you. The one who doesn't have to earn love by being convenient. The one who can exhale. Those are your people. [music] And if you don't have many, I want you to hear this clearly. That doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. It just means you're ready for better. [music] Sometimes God clears the room before he sends the right kind of company. And uh I don't know what you believe about timing, but I've seen this happen in quiet ways. [music] A new friend comes in slowly. A kind neighbor. A woman at work who's steady. A community you didn't expect. A conversation that feels like water after a long drought. It starts small. And then one day you realize you're not alone the way you [music] used to be.
But can I say something else? It's not just about who you choose. [music] It's also about what you choose to do when fear shows up. Because fear will show up, even in a hopeful year, especially in a hopeful year, because hope asks you to risk disappointment again. So, if you've been waiting for fear to [music] disappear before you try something new, I need to tell you this softly. Fear is not a stop sign. Fear is a compass. It points to what matters. And most of the time, the thing you're scared to do isn't dangerous. [music] It's just new. It's just unfamiliar. It's just you stepping out of the role that kept you small. So, what if 2026 is the year you do one brave thing a week? [music] Not huge, not dramatic. One brave thing. Make the call. Apply for the thing. Ask the question. Tell the truth kindly. [music] Go to the class alone. Say, "I need help." Say, "I'm not okay," without apologizing. [music] One brave thing. Because courage isn't a personality trait. It's a [music] practice. And the more you practice it, the less fear gets to run your life. I'll tell you something honest about me. I've had seasons where I look calm on the outside, but inside I was negotiating with myself all day. Don't say too much. Don't need too much. Don't hope too much. Because hoping felt risky. But I learned something. [music] When you stop hoping, you don't stop hurting. You just stop living. [music] And you, you deserve to live. Not just function, not just survive life.
So here's a gentle invitation for today. Write down two names. [music] One name, someone who makes you feel steady. Someone safe. Another name, someone who drains you, someone [music] whose presence makes your body tense. You don't have to cut anyone off dramatically, but you can adjust access. You can spend more time with the steady one. You can create distance from the draining one. [music] That's not cruelty. That's wisdom. And then choose one brave thing [music] for this week. Just one. If you want to share it in the comments, keep it simple. "In 2026, I'm brave enough to do something." [music] I'll read it and quietly root for you because I believe in the version of you that's about to step forward. Not loud, not flashy, just real.
So, it's January 1st, 2026. [music] And if you've stayed with me this far, I just want to say thank you. I know I'm just a voice in your day, but I don't take this lightly because the first day of a new year can feel tender. Hopeful, yes, [music] but also tender, like the heart is open again. And that can be scary. So before we go, I want to leave you with something that [music] feels simple enough to carry. Not a massive resolution, an intention. [music] Because resolutions can feel like contracts. Intentions feel like a direction. And direction [music] is kinder. So here's an intention you can borrow if it fits you. "In [music] 2026, I will choose what brings me peace. I will start small and I will stay consistent. >> [music] >> I will release what drains me. I will care for myself like someone I love. I will step [music] toward what matters even when I'm afraid. And I will let God meet me in the quiet." That's enough. [music] And if you only remember one sentence, let it be this. "You are not behind." [music] "You are not too late." "You are not invisible to heaven." Some of the most beautiful things in life arrive after a long wait. >> [music] >> Not because you were being punished, but because you were being prepared. I don't pretend to know all the plans of God, but I do believe this. Grace is real. And grace often looks like [music] another chance, another morning, another beginning, even after everything. So [music] if this past year humbled you, if it tired you, if it disappointed you, let the new year be gentle with you. You don't have to sprint into 2026. You can walk. You can breathe. You can heal as you go. [music]
And listen, if today is a hard day for you, if you woke up to silence or grief or the [music] ache of missing someone, please hear me. You don't have to fake joy. Hope isn't pretending you're okay. [music] Hope is choosing one small light and turning toward it. Even if your hands are shaking, even if your eyes are tired, even if all you can manage is, "God, help [music] me." That counts. That's a prayer. And I think God honors honest prayers more than perfect ones.
Before I let you go, can I give you one last gentle practice for today? Just for today, write down three things. One, one thing you're grateful for, even if it's small. A warm blanket, a safe home, a friend who texted. [music] Your own resilience. Two, one thing you're releasing. One burden you're setting [music] down. A grudge, a guilt, a habit, a fear, a story that's been hurting you. Three, one thing. Your beginning, your tiny start, your anchor habit, your brave step, your quiet return to yourself. [music] Three lines, that's it. And if you want to share one of those in the comments, [music] just one, because sometimes when we name a thing out loud, it becomes real. [music] It becomes a commitment the heart can feel. And I'll be here reading quietly like a friend [music] sitting nearby.
One more thing before you go. Please be careful out there. If anyone in the comments or [music] messages pretends to be me or asks you for money, gift cards, private chats, or personal [music] information, it's a scam. It's not love. It's not [music] kindness. Real connection never asks you to pay for attention. So protect your heart, protect your [music] peace, report and block those accounts. Okay? And now I'll let you step [music] into your day. I hope your morning feels soft. I hope your body feels safe. I hope your year feels [music] like a slow return to yourself. Thank you for letting me talk to you like this. I'm here quietly and willingly.