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Imagine, for a moment, that there is a product that everyone is encouraged to buy. Those who did not qualify to buy it fought for the right to buy this product. This product is so popular that everybody seems to want it. Yet, once purchased, this product has terrible negative side effects. It causes people to lose their health, their mental health, and their wealth. I mean, at enormous rates. It causes more emotional and psychological pain than any other product in the world. You would think that people would want to perfect this product. You would think that they would retool it, that they would recall it, they would find some way to make this thing work for everybody. It's so popular. Why wouldn't they want to do that?
Well, today, that's what we're going to talk about. Because, as you may have guessed, that product is marriage. And that product has not been working for a very long time. Yet, for some reason, we still keep getting served it up to us all the time. In fact, I would argue that life 1.0's algorithm climaxes, if you will, in that marriage. So today, let's talk about what's really going on with marriage because it obviously doesn't fit with human nature. It obviously is serving someone else. It's obviously an important piece of our social structure. Let's talk about it. This is life 2.0.
For those of you who are new here, let me give you a quick rundown of what life 1.0 is. Life 1.0 is the algorithm that we all follow blindly, like lemmings off a cliff, throughout our entire lives. From the time that we're born, through all of your schooling and training, to your career, to finally getting married, buying a house, having kids, all life 1.0. It's predictable. We all do it. We're all encouraged to do it. There's an author, like NYU, um, who's a sociologist, and he wrote this book called, I think, "Going Solo." And he talks about how in government and society, there are over 1,000 financial benefits to being married versus being single. So, you can see that this algorithm is not accidental. This is something that is being encouraged. In fact, being single is penalized. So, all of the energy, all the forces of nature that we live in, in our little fishbowls here, all the water in our fishbowl is telling us that we need to pair up. We need to get married. We need to sign a contract. We need to enter into a legal agreement with another human being, allegedly for the rest of our lives, and, uh, and raise families. So, why is that? Why is that happening?
Now, to be fair, archaeologists and anthropologists tell us that pair bonding has been going on for a very long time. Long before there was marriage, men and women were getting together. Before that, we were polyamorous. Yes, it was polygamy. Yes, we loved everybody. Sort of like a bonobo, you know. There was community, uh, fertilization, and there was community child-rearing. Um, then came pair bonding. And then, once we started settling down and working the land and becoming civilized, well, it became necessary to enter into marriage. Part of that was to make sure kids were being raised, but part of it also, a big part of it, was, um, as a point of negotiation between tribals, tribal clans, or, you know, um, rival clans. We needed to create peaceful agreements. We needed to trade land. We needed to, um, establish relationships with our neighbors. And at the same time, it was really good to, you know, mix up the gene pool a little bit. So, rather than, you know, marrying your cousin, you're better off if you married the cute girl from across the field. You know what I mean?
Anyway, so marriage was commerce. It was not romance. Marriage was a way of, uh, negotiating politics, and it was a way to, uh, create relationships with your, with your rivals, and, you know, sign peace treaties and things like that. It was not about romantic love. It was about raising children. It was about establishing families. It was about division of labor. That's what marriage was. It was a work contract, really. I mean, she promised to have children and raise them, and you promised to feed her. Basically, provide and protect. That was the deal.
So, let's talk about the 50%, um, divorce rate. And we use that as a measure of success when we talk about marriage. And that's bad. There's no question about it. But statistics show that it's far worse than probably most people are willing to admit. Only about 20% of people who are married claim to be in a happy marriage, that they are fulfilled in their relationship, that they feel good about the person they're married to, and they have a bright sense of the future. The vast majority of people are staying in bad relationships because of the pressure to do so, because of the economic pressures, the social pressures, even the familiar pressures, because you're trying to, you know, put on a charade for the kids, whatever. But the vast majority of people who are remaining in marriage, who are not getting divorced, are unhappy. So, even when we go back to our initial question about the product that is destroying 50% of the purchasers' lives, really, we're talking about 80%. So, the numbers are much worse than, than what we have, um, been told. 80% of the people who enter into this institution of marriage are unhappy, or they get their lives completely turned upside down and experience emotional and financial devastation that puts them in therapy and causes all kinds of havoc in their lives.
Yet, there is not a single politician that I have found that has even mentioned the words "marriage reform." No one talks about marriage reform. It's clearly an institution that does not serve us. Why is that? Why is it that we have not been talking about marriage reform for the last 30 years? That's what I want to talk about next. It's been my experience that whenever something doesn't seem to make sense, like there's some disconnect, like there's not a natural rhythm that goes with it, there's something that is clearly wrong, chances are somebody is benefiting from it. And to figure out who's benefiting from it, you just need to look at the money. Follow the money. Who benefits from marriage? Why is marriage so critically important to the state? And why, despite all the emotional and financial carnage that it causes, do we, here in a representative government, not have any of our representatives talking about marriage reform?
Well, quite simply, it's about money and it's about control. Money is the lifeblood here in the West and in the United States. We are the home of money. We are the premier capitalist economy in the world. And it is critical that that money keeps moving because if that money stops moving, the whole system comes crashing down. And the marriage industry and everything about getting married drives an enormous part of our economy. Um, weddings alone cost more than a car. You know, the, uh, honeymoon, um, buying a house, um, going to Home Depot and doing all those home repairs. Um, why do you think they subsidized house buying so much? I mean, why did they make it such a big deal that they were going to let you write off the, the interest on your, your loan, um, on your taxes? Everything is built around you finding someone else and then tying yourself to a long-term debt, basically enslaving you to a job, which we'll get to in a second, and then reproducing yourselves and telling you it's the apex of your, of your life. Like this is the, this is it. This is what you're here to do. This is your whole purpose in life is this. Then, when things start going badly, and you know there are storm clouds on the horizon, well, you're going to start buying books. You're going to start going to therapy. You're going to start, you know, um, buying a BMW through a midlife crisis. You know, you're going to buy maybe a second home. Maybe start going on vacations. You need to do something to heal this relationship, you know? So, you're going to try to spend money at it, throw money at it. Well, you, it becomes one of those rationales where it's like, there's, it's so important to you to maintain this relationship that you'll do anything. You'll spend any amount, any amount is justifiable to save your marriage, and you'll do it. You will do it. And the government is expecting you to do it. They depend on it. They need you to have marital discourse. They need you to have a problem. They need for things to go wrong.
The only thing better than marriage for the economy is divorce. I'm telling you, divorce is more than just a wealth distribution program. Oh yeah. No, no. It's way better than that. It's like a, a government tax. It's like a payback program, you know? I mean, you are just pumping money into the economy at an enormous rate. When you're emotionally screwed up, you know, there's so many different ways that we express it, you know. I mean, obviously, there are lots of people who fall into the trap of drugs and alcohol, and but man, we Americans, you know, if we're responsible, we're not going to get high. We're not going to get drunk. No, we are going to get fat. Yeah. We're going to eat our way through this whole problem. We're going to order the double pepperoni, double cheese, extra large special with a 2-liter bottle of Coke. That's how we're getting through this, this marital, you know, discourse. It's how we're going to get through it. We're going to eat our way through it. And if that doesn't work, well, then we'll find other things to distract us. Like I said, we'll buy ourselves a fancy car. That'll help. That's got to make me feel better, you know? Um, we'll take a trip to Europe. That's got to make us feel better, right? We got to spend $10,000 on a trip to Europe. That'll make us feel better. It's all about trying to get that, that feeling back, that dopamine, that serotonin, that oxytocin. Trying to get those hormones flowing again so we can feel good about the person that we're with.
Obviously, we have made this enormous commitment to this person, this woman. We've made this huge commitment, provide and protect. We want to be there. We want to do it. We want to be the one that's there doing it. The problem is that we've got this third party that is now in our relationship. This state that is sort of like the creep that hangs around in the shadows and watches everything, you know, and it's, uh, observing the collapse of your relationship. And it's observing, and encouraging you to go out and spend money to try to fix it and do everything that you can because, in the event that you fail, oh, that creep comes out of the shadows, man. That creep comes out of the shadows and starts doing some division. Starts dividing up. You get some, she gets some. So now the economy takes another, um, gets another good hit of, uh, of juice because now instead of having one house, you're going to have two houses. The only thing better than one house for the economy is two houses. And now you both are going to be, um, slaves to the state.
So, you can see here that the algorithm that presses you into marriage is not by mistake. There's an enormous financial stake for our economy to keep people getting married, but it goes way beyond that. Um, yeah, it goes, it gets much more insidious, much more, much less benign. I would say it gets, it gets evil here in a minute. A functioning state needs to have a population that is predictable and dependable. You got to have it. If you don't have a predictable and dependable population, you might have anarchy on your hands. You might have a problem. You cannot grow a healthy economy without predictability and dependability out of your, uh, your population.
So, how do you get predictability and dependability? Well, marriage really does a, a number on people because as soon as you go down that path, you sign that contract, you become predictable. They have algorithms that can predict how soon you're going to buy a house and all the money you're going to put into that, the savings you're going to put into that, the home repairs, the net value of what it is for a young couple to buy a house is enormous for the economy. But it also makes you a slave to debt. Woo. This is where it gets fun. Yeah. Because now you got a mortgage. Oh yeah. That's 30 years. Not walking away from that. You know, you walk away from that. Yeah. And they got this other penalty. This whole credit thing, you know, this credit report that will limit your ability to enjoy your life. We're going to take away your ability to borrow money. We're going to take away your ability to get credit cards. Hell, we might even take away your ability to get a good job because your credit report's bad. So, there's this huge threat that if you don't, um, pay that mortgage and pay all your bills associated with that, like the electric bill, the gas bill, and the, you know, you, you know, all the other things that go along with it, maintain the property, then, yeah, now you've got the society coming down with lots and lots of penalties.
So, we've got you boxed in now because you bought a house, and now you're going to buy cars. You're going to add on to it, you know? Oh, and there's going to come a time when you're not going to have the money to make one of those home repairs. So, guess what? You're going to get a credit card from Home Depot or something. You're going to have a Visa card. You're going to be, you know, getting mileage on your credit card so you can take a vacation. So, you get the out of this nut job life that you're living. Um, but yeah, now you are a slave to the state. You are now predictable because we know exactly what you're going to do. And you're dependable because we know when you're going to do it. You're going to have a job, and you're going to need to keep a job because you need to maintain the financial responsibilities that you've taken on. You're in this marriage, you've got these kids, you've got this house, you've got these cars. It's all about maintaining the state. It has nothing to do with your happiness, your fulfillment, your joy in life. No, marriage has nothing to do with those things. That's, that's the magic of it. We think that's it.
And I, you know, if I were a conspiracy theorist, I would say that Disney is being paid by the government, you know, and all these movie theaters coming out with all these, um, these, you know, these production companies with all these romantic comedies trying to convince us, like the Hallmark Channel has got to be a CIA operation. It's got to be. It's got to be CIA behind that. They're just feeding people with this idea, this romantic that, uh, this is what life is going to be like. You're just going to live in this, this misty haze of love and joy and happiness. I sound so cynical. I am sorry, but it's true. But it's true. Come on. You know it's true.
So, life 1.0 teaches us that we need to get married to fulfill our life's mission. Life 2.0, you know, which is where I am at now, is that enlightening. It's like, "Oh, wait. That was all a big sham. That was a scam. I was fooled by that. They sucked me in. I was, I was right there. I was Mr. Blue Pill. They could have gotten me a t-shirt that said, 'Mr. Blue Pill America.' You know, I am buying in." And if she's sad or upset, man, I am throwing money at it, man. We had nannies. We went on enormous vacations. We had wonderful, wonderful trips. Yeah. We, we did it all. But none of that worked. I paid a lot. The economy benefited. USA, you got yours, Uncle Sam. You definitely got yours.
But in life 2.0, you come to terms with the truth. And the truth is that you will not find happiness or joy in a marriage. You can bring happiness and joy to a marriage, but you will not find it there. Do you see what I'm saying? Like, if you're unhappy or you're looking for yourself, you're trying to figure out who you are. Yeah. Marriage is not going to teach you that. Marriage is not going to, not going to give you that. You need to know that before you even get started. And you better be happy going into this thing because it's going to challenge the hell out of you. Like, if you decide you're going to go down that path and you're going to suck it up with life 1.0, you're going to write the check for life 1.0. Um, yeah, don't be looking for happiness. Don't be looking for joy because marriage is a slog. Marriage and raising kids, man, that's hard ass work. And being in a full-time relationship with someone who's going to be your lover, your friend, your co-worker, your boss, your employee, your everything. If you're going to have this multifunctional Swiss Army knife of a human being in your life, well, you're going to have to maintain that. That's not coming easy. I'm telling you, you're going to have to put a lot of energy into how you develop a relationship with that person. And I would argue that most people won't put in that energy, number one. But primarily, most people don't even realize they need to put that kind of energy into it. Most people are clueless that that's what it's going to take. I mean, this whole dating thing has just been about going out to dinner and getting laid, you know, so it's got to work out just fine, right? Right. Yeah.
So, as you can tell, I am having a lot of fun with this topic. But it's serious. And I'm telling you, the state does benefit from marriage and from divorce. And that's the reason why you're not going to hear any politicians talking about marriage reform because marriage may not work for you or your wife or your kids, but it will work for the state. It absolutely works for the state. And if we reform it into something where, for example, we have terms of marriage, like you have a 10-year marriage term or something along those lines, um, well, that makes it too easy for people to get out, you know? That makes it too easy. Debo, come here, pal. Um, yeah, there's no advantage to the state. And also, if you're on a 10-year term, why do you want to buy a house? You know, why do you want to invest a lot of money in this thing? You're not going to, you're going to be, um, maintaining your independence to a certain degree. You're going to see the need for you to be financially independent because marriage also creates a little bit of a social safety net for society because when you've got a second person there, especially if you're a woman and you decide you want to leave your job or start a new career or whatever, well, you've got someone there who's going to pay the bills, who's going to keep you under, under a roof. You know, you don't need the, the state to step in and to pay those bills. You're not going to end up on welfare or whatever. So, there's a lot of advantages to the state. There's a lot of advantages to the economy.
But what we need to start deciding for ourselves as individuals is, what are the advantages to me? What are the advantages to my life? How do I gain from this? I don't mind paying in. I don't mind paying my taxes. And, you know, if the state benefits from my having a relationship with somebody, I'm okay with that. But I don't want to pay twice. I don't want to pay going in and coming out. And so we need some kind of marriage reform that addresses divorce and addresses the way these relationships dissolve because we're living to be close to 100 years old now. You know, by the time I die, I would imagine that the average lifespan is going to be in close to 90 years old. So, the next generation and the generation after that, you know, there's no telling how long they're going to live. How long are you going to stay married? Like, if you get married when you're like 30, you're going to stay married for 80 years? Really? Really? Like, who can you live with for 80 years? Much less like even 50 years. Hell, even 20 years is hard to do. I consider my 22-year marriage a success. I lived with someone. I didn't kill her for 22 years. She didn't kill me. We survived. We walked out under our own power. So, yeah, it was a success.
Anyway, I'm just rambling now. Anyway, the purpose of this video is to get you to start thinking, who really benefits from marriage? Is this something that I really want, or is this something I've been brainwashed into since the day I was born? Is this the way society is guiding me? Is this the water in the fishbowl that no one sees and it is pushing us in a direction that we believe is our free will, but really is not? We have been directed and pushed and cajoled to go this way and to make these commitments and to spend this money and to take these risks with our entire lives. Remember, 80% 80% failure rate by anyone's standard is not acceptable. And if this was, like I said, the education system, and 80% of kids were failing, you know, they were all dropping out of school at an 80% rate, yeah, there'd be some changes. There'd be some school education reform. I guarantee it. You know, if the military was failing at 80%, you know, we were losing wars at an 80% rate. Maybe it's 100%. I don't know. But if we were losing wars and like planes were falling out of the sky at an 80% rate, there'd be some changes. There'd be some changes. But with marriage, yeah, the devastation is, is a little more subtle. You know, not that it's any less bad, but it's just not quite as visible. So, they don't, uh, there's no change. Plus, they just benefit too much from it.
All right, you guys. That's all I got for you today. I'm going to stop rambling now. If you like this video, please share it with someone. Maybe they'll find it interesting, humorous, get a laugh out of it. Maybe it'll scare them. Anyway, please like and subscribe. Until next time, stay healthy, and if you can, stay single.