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You got to have strong boundaries. You cannot allow someone to cross your boundaries repeatedly. If you are allowing someone to cross your boundaries, then you are basically telling them that you don't have any self-respect. And if you don't have self-respect, why should they respect you?
And then finally, you must be able to say no. You have got to be able to put that, you know, your foot on the ground and say, "Absolutely not. That is not happening in my life under any circumstances, period." And then you've got to stand by your no.
Now, you can do it pleasantly. You don't have to be an, you know, you don't have to be some kind of a tyrant. But you do need to have those three characteristics.