If You Understand THIS, He’ll Never Leave

Men crave women who understand this. If you'd like to learn key principles of attraction, of devotion, of polarity, what makes a relationship really work, really work well, like a well-oiled engine, like a well-oiled machine, then this is the video for you. So you can stop a man pulling away, losing interest, and not prioritizing you and have him actually chase and adore you.

So, hi. I'm Brody Boyd with Magnetize Your Man. And for over 20 years combined with my wife, Antia, we've been helping thousands of successful women all over the world to get a loving, long-term committed relationship.

So, let's go ahead and dive into the training I have for you here and the special goodies we're going to go into. So, the first one we have here is actually a video. So, let's go ahead and watch this together and then I will explain what's actually going on here.

"Want gifts and for you to plan dates? Talk to him in a manly voice." "Okay, I'll do that." "What you like, girl? Like, start role-playing 'cause he wants to be the woman. Tell him to go find him a man. Gift him a wig and some lipstick. That's what you need to pray. He's going to be all excited to open his gift. He'll be like, 'What you get? What is this? This a joke?' 'No, you a joke, sir. Get out of here with that. You're going to be like all excited, think some woman bought him a gift, planning a date, take him to the spa and give him a wig.'"

"Yeah, this is getting out of hand. I have a wig on hand. I always got an extra wig somewhere. Don't, don't play with me. Got to switch up all of a sudden or if I don't have my wig on that day and I need to switch my wig, I got backup. Always have a backup. Sprinkle, sprinkle."

All right. So, if you're not new here, you get this. We talk about it all the time. Feminine energy is about receiving. Masculine energy is about giving. So, if your man wants to receive from you, if he wants you to buy him a gift, buy him a gift for his birthday, please. "I would love it, baby, if you could treat me to something. If you could treat me to a lunch. If you could treat me to dinner, if you could buy me some new clothes." "Um, yeah, let me take care of you, baby girl. Let me buy that for you."

So, it's reversed, right? He's in his feminine. This is the, this is the language of a broken man. A man who doesn't get it. A man who is detached from his masculine core.

Now, here's the thing. Every man has a masculine core. Every woman has a feminine core. So, if your man is talking like a woman, if he's trying to get you to provide for him and be the mommy for him, he's broken. He's lost his connection to his masculine. Or maybe it was never there for whatever reason, from trauma from childhood where his message that he got was that he needed to be more like a woman, that it was bad to be a man. And unfortunately, a lot of men are getting that message these days, that it's not good to be a man. "Men are toxic masculine. Men need to sit down and listen while the women are speaking." "Let me speak." So, he's, he's getting told, "You got to sit down, sir. You, you need to listen and learn." And unfortunately, a lot of men, men are not stepping up. Then they are taking that as truth and they are staying in their feminization and living in an unhealthy way because they're disconnected from their masculine. They're disconnected from the way God made them. God created them. Male and female, he made them.

So, now, the thing to look at here and recognize is if you're attracting men like this, if you're attracting men who want you to provide for them and pay for things for them, what are you putting off? What's the mirror, the mirror that you're looking at? What's the polar opposite energy you're putting off that's attracting these kinds of men into your world? And likely, it's because subtly or in a big way, you are putting out masculine energy. You are putting out mommy energy and enabling these men, doing favors for them, helping them, trying to meet their needs, trying to make them happy, babying them, treating them like a child. So, how are they going to behave? They're going to behave like children, right?

And so, we just got to look at this because the lens of polarity is so powerful for relationships because it shows opposite energies attract. And if you're attracting a certain type of man, a certain type of energy, then you're somehow a match for that. We got to look at that. We got to uncover it so that you can be fully connected again to your healthy feminine and heal your wounds that are getting in the way. So that not only will you attract healthy masculine men into your life, but even the man you're interested in right now is going to start stepping up and going to start treating you like his princess, treating you like his baby girl, treating you like his queen because that's the energy you're putting off. That is who you are. You're a high-value, queenly, feminine woman. And of course, you deserve then all you're going to get from that is a healthy masculine man taking care of you through the law of polarity. The more feminine you become, the more healthy masculine you're going to attract from men.

So, let's get to the next. We'll mix it up between some, uh, some of these here. So, the next little juicy nugget I have for you here is as a man. So, this is a meme I found. "As a man, even if your wife has her own income, still give her a monthly allowance. It's not about necessity, but about making her feel loved, valued, and cared for. Try it and watch how she glows differently."

Now, this is not good. I do not endorse this message. You know why? Because it's not complete here. Yes, a man should manage the finances. Let's say you're in a situation where you're making more money than the man. You're making a lot more money than him potentially, let's say, which is more and more common these days. In fact, I've seen some statistics that this is the case now that women on average, more women are making more money than the average man. So, in the US, at least. So, um, this is a challenge, right? This is a big challenge for polarity because how can you be the woman? How can you be taken care of? How can you be cherished and adored and be the baby girl and he could be stepping up as the man, as your hero, as your king if you're making all the money and he's not?

Well, this is one way you can shift it. Let him take over the finances. Now, I'm not saying to do this with a man who you just met, obviously, but if you're in a, if you're married to a man, especially if obviously if you're married to a man, this should be the case. He's handling the finances. He's paying the bills. He's, he's, he's getting it done so you don't have to think about it. Yeah, you may be working. You may be doing things in your career that you enjoy, per perhaps maybe you don't enjoy, but you're at least bringing in some money. Okay, great. Keep doing that. But let him handle that. Let him handle the joint pool that you're coming into.

Now, you might be afraid of this and say, "Well, what, whoa, whoa, whoa. What if he's bad with money? I'm much better than he is. I mean, I made the money. I know about finance and logistics and investing and whatnot." Well, that's where the opportunity is. That's the opportunity to get the healthy polarity back in your world because you're showing him that you trust him. You're giving him that power, that control, you may say. And with great power comes great responsibility. You're giving him the responsibility. And now he has to learn. He has to learn to step up to actually handle the finances. And yes, he can set budgets. He can give you allowance. He can give himself allowance, whatever needs to happen, pay the bills, um, handle things, taxes, whatnot. And again, this is, this is a man you trust. So, you could even do this potentially with a man you're engaged to or even if you've been in a relationship for a long period of time, just tell him, "I can't do it anymore. I don't want to do it anymore. Could you handle the finances, babe? I would love if you handle the finances for us. Like, I trust that you got it." And if he keeps trying to come back to you like, "Babe, I don't know what to do or what should I hear." Just say, "I trust you, babe. I know you'll figure it out. I know you'll get, I know you've got it." And that's it. Just like, don't refuse to take it up again. Let him handle it. And if he messes up, sure, he'll probably mess up a couple times, but he'll get better and better. And you'll share your feelings with that, of course, and he'll learn. And he's, and if he's a healthy masculine man, he's becoming more healthy because of you, because of the law of polarity, because you're becoming a more connected feminine woman. And he's going to feel more connected to his masculine. He's going to start learning. He's going to start feeling more like a king, like your king. He's going to do better. And then he'll probably also start making more money in his life because of those responsibilities.

So, it's a key to look for if this isn't the case in your relationship and you want it to be like, let it go. Let it, let it go to him. Lots of things. Everything you can delegate to him, not just finances. Let's start delegating. You got too much on your shoulders already. Let him handle it. Let him be your hero. Ask for help. Say, "Babe, I would love if you could help me with this." No, don't, don't call him babe. Sorry, I messed that up. Call him, call him daddy or my king or my leash. Call him something else. Don't call him baby. A woman should never call her man baby in a healthy polarized relationship because of course, what is a baby? A baby is being taken care of by the mommy or the daddy, right? You can be the baby. You can be the honey. You could be, uh, the princess, right? Let him be the man. Let him be the hero. Let him be, um, your boss, whatever you might say. And you can find some sexy names for that as well. It's very important, actually, this language. I'll go into more trainings about it. But it's important to give him that title and give him those responsibilities so that you shift back into healthy clarity. He's going to learn. He's going to step up and all of a sudden, you have the weight off your shoulders. You're taken care of. He's got it handled. He feels great. You feel great. And now you have a happy, incredible relationship. The way God designed it and the way we're, it's built into our DNA. This is the way it's built into our DNA. Why men and women are designed differently. This is the big way it shows up. So, let it, let it flow that way.

If you're not with the right man who can't handle it, eventually, if he just can't make it happen, you got to get out of the relationship. That's why we have our 90-day challenge. The Magnetic Feminine 90-day challenge is after a period of 90 days, if he hasn't stepped up using everything we'll teach you, you know, in our coaching communities and with us helping you personally, if he still hasn't stepped up into that and you're not feeling completely committed to, cherished, adored, desired by him, then he's a broken man and you're going to have to be willing to walk away. So, that's a big piece.

All right. And speaking of that, let's go into the next video here that is actually exactly on that topic as well.

"What is this? It's a bill. Ew. Get it away from me, Michael." "What do you mean? It's, it has your name on it." "So what? You take care of it." "You, I'm a stay-at-home mom." "No, babe. Michael." "$356. I don't want to know. I don't want to know. I don't want to know. I don't want to know. Please." "You don't want to pay it? What an insult. Since I married you, you never made me pay a bill. And now, while I'm pregnant, you're giving me a bill to pay." "Okay. How about if I give you my credit card and you pay it?" "Michael, I don't know how to do it. I swear I forgot. I don't know. You spoiled me too much. I don't know how to deal with it. You forgot how to pay a bill." "Ew, the idea of a bill, please. No. No. I don't want to deal with it." "Okay. You deal with it." "Okay. Not just the idea of like an envelope that I have to." "Okay. Okay. Uh-huh. I removed it from you." "Okay. I removed it away." "Oh, thank God you're filming this so your son can see how you cheated me while pregnant handing me a bill." "Michael, please. It's been almost 7 years." "Michael, please. You're affecting my aura." "Active." "Oh my god. I cannot breathe." "Okay. My bad. My bad. A lot of negativity. Okay. I'm sorry." "Get it away." "I'm just going to make it, you just make you just get used to it." "I don't want to get used to it. God forbid." "Oh my god. Don't put it in the universe. Put it away." "I'm going to have to handle all the bills like always." "Right. Like always. Never. I'm never going to handle ever a bill." "Okay. Yo, even saying the word bill, I cannot. B-I-L-L. I don't want to know." "Okay, I'm going to go clean." "Go at home." "Yes. Bills."

This should all be like kryptonite to a feminine woman. Like, run away. Don't deal with it. Give it up to him. It's his responsibility, right? If he's going to be your man, if he's going to be your hero, protector, provider, it's his, it's his world, right? Give it up to him. Even again, if you're making money, I don't know the situation with them. She sounds like she's a stay-at-home mom, which is beautiful. Uh, but even if you're making money, like, just give it to him. "I don't want to hear it. I don't want to think about it. I don't want to deal with it." "Okay, babe. Like, I would love if you can handle it. I can't. I can't." Throw your hands up. "I can't. Could you be my hero? Could you be my knight in shining armor and help me with it, babe? Please. Please, my king. Please, daddy, can you take care of it? I don't want to deal with this. I can't deal with this." Like, run away if you have to. Run away into the other room. Throw it, throw it onto his desk. Um, you know, you could make, you could be playful with it, too. Like in this, it's very playful. It's like it doesn't have to be like a big argument, right? Like, no, I'm not doing it. I mean, it hopefully it doesn't get to that point. And it usually won't. If you're using magnetic feminine communication and you share your feelings about this that we teach you, he'll understand the impact of you wanting to be taken care of, you wanting to be cherished, and he's not going to force that upon you. He's going to gladly take it on. You know why? Because he wants to make you happy. Because a masculine connected man who has any level of care for you and he's not deeply broken, his guiding light, his compass is going to be, I need to make my woman happy. How do I do this? And he's that's going to be his focus. And so this is a big area of that. And it's a masculine responsibility, like dealing with finances, making big decisions like that, handling logistics around the house, planning dates, um, prepping things, like all of that is masculine energy. Again, you can do it on your own. You're probably very capable at a lot of these things, but do you really want to? I mean, even if you want to, I would say as a practice, as a stretch for yourself, give it up and see. You give it almost as like a, a test to God and a test to the universe of saying, "Can I be held? Can I let go and be held?" And yes, again, you may not be held properly right away. Just like when you're learning how to dance, you may, you may say, "Can you lead me? Can you dance?" He may not know how to dance yet. He's still learning himself. But the more feminine you are and asking for that, it's like practice. He starts to learn the dance, the dance of your relationship. It's like learning a new language. You start, you have to speak that language if you want him to start learning that language also. You speak that language, he starts learning the language, he starts learning the dance, and all of a sudden, you're dancing and your life is easier and his life has more meaning in it because he gets to be the hero for somebody. Even if he's not, you know, running an empire or president of the country, he can have a great sense of purpose, leading you and leading your family and leading your community, your world that he has control over. He can manage that. He can be the king of his own kingdom. Like, uh, I think it was Napoleon Bonaparte who said, "Every man a king," right? Right. The idea is how can you inspire your man to be a king in your world?

All right, let's get to the next one here. "People who go silent when something upsets or hurts them are often experiencing a coping mechanism called emotional withdrawal. It's not that they have nothing to say. It's that their system learned that silence is safer than being misunderstood. Instead of expressing anger or frustration, they hold it in."

Now, the reason I brought up this meme that I found is because this is often the case. I'm not going to say it's the case every time, but there's a lot that is true here for most men. So, most men, their default response when you're disrespectful, when you are in masculine energy, when you're trying to control them or tell them what to do or mother them, is to shut down. Most men, especially most healthy men, I would say maybe not fully healthy but not deeply broken men, their default response when you become disrespectful or masculine or trying to shame or control them or push them or manipulate them is to shut down, to emotionally withdraw. Why? Because most men feel that if they were to speak up and they were to actually stop you, that it would turn into an argument, that it would turn into a fight, or at worst, that it would lead to more disrespect, more blame from you, more treating them like a child, etc. So, a lot of men would rather not get into it. They would rather not add fuel to the fire, and so they withdraw. They pull away, or like it says here, they're afraid of being misunderstood. And I don't know if fear is even the right word, but they're avoiding being misunderstood. They're avoiding having conflict. They're avoiding also potentially saying something mean to you or hurting you that they don't want to hurt you. They don't want to have an eye for an eye kind of fight going on with you. So, they just say, "I'm just not going to talk about it," or they'll walk out, or they'll stop texting you back, or they'll leave rather than fight with you, rather than say something hurtful, rather than be continually allow themselves to be subjected to disrespect or blaming, shaming, etc., control. So, they'll pull away. They'll withdraw. They'll, they'll put a wall up, an emotional wall, maybe a physical wall where they're like, "No."

And that's not necessarily the best response. I wouldn't, I wouldn't teach men how to do this, how to do that. What I would teach men, and I used to teach men for many years, is to set a healthy boundary and to say, "You can't talk to me like that." In fact, there was a moment with my wife when we were about three months in, no, it was probably more like four or five months into our dating when we, five months after we met each other, where we had some conflict. It was a misunderstanding. She thought she was going to be, we were going to be spending time together one night, but I didn't quite communicate to her properly and I wasn't able to spend the time with her that I, that she thought we were. And then she got really upset, and so she went and drove all the way from San Francisco to LA to go spend some time with her friends, um, for the weekend, basically, instead of like with me, and I was really upset about that. I felt disrespected. I felt, in a way, betrayed in a minor way. And so, we had a phone conversation and we talked about it, and I said, like, "You can't do this again." Like, I, I apologize for my part in it. I said, like, "You can't do this again. Like, this isn't okay." And but we talked about it, and we were in the fire together, and we worked it out, and I, I took my side. I apologized. I said, you know, "Next time, I'm going to be much more open and communicative with you and clear about the container, about the expectations," because also, broken expectations is one of the biggest causes of conflict in relationships. So, a lot of relationship health is about managing expectations, and that's the man's job, really. That's his job. He needs to manage expectations properly. That's part of leading well and leading you well and leading the relationship. But he's also setting healthy boundaries. He's putting up rules, you might say, of what's acceptable or not acceptable. You know, in our relationship, we don't talk to each other like that. In our relationship, this is how we do things. You know, we're communicating with each other. We're open with each other, and we're not being disrespectful. We're not being hurtful. We're not being physical with each other. I think it's physically abusive, you know, so the bad physical rather than the good physical. And so, these kinds of things, that's what you're looking for in a man.

But just to understand this, this can help you to get his psychology a bit more. What's going through a man's mind when he's pulling away potentially, why he's doing it, what he's, what he's thinking about, and maybe he's not even aware consciously of why he's doing it. So, then it, that helps you to understand, oh, so if I want him to be in the fire with me, I also have to be more vulnerable rather than disrespectful, rather than attacking him or controlling him. I need to be more vulnerable, share my feelings, and use what Brody and Antia taught me with magnetic feminine communication and magnetic feminine polarity and draw him back in so that he wants to open up. He doesn't pull away. In fact, he comes closer and grabs you and says, "Come near you," and gives you a hug and gives you a kiss and maybe more than that. So, it's very important.

All right, let's get to the next one here.

"Hard, honey. But you know what would make all the hard work 10 times easier? Me. If you would just trust me enough to handle things once in a while. But no, you don't. You have to do it all yourself. Your way. You got me screwing up before I even get a chance to come through for you. But if you just let me do something for you, I think that I would surprise you. I really do. I know I'd surprise you."

"Oh my goodness. Did I just have my mic muted that whole time? Oh no."

All right, sorry about that. So, whoops. What I was saying about this clip is I don't remember what movie this was or what it was called, but this is how a lot of men feel. His wording is what a lot of men feel and how these dynamics often play out where you may think as a woman because of your own wounding patterns, because of your own issues that you need to have everything on your shoulders. You need to do it all yourself. You don't want to burden him with your problems, with your issues, with your challenges. So, you hold it in, or even worse, you pretend to be all good, or what I call sometimes Miss Too Cool. Miss Too Cool for School, where you have it all handled. You're just fun girl. You're just happy girl all the time. You don't have any issues. You don't have any problems. And what happens is he can't step in. He can't be your hero because you're not giving him that chance. You're not allowing him to take on some of that burden in a respectful way without foisting it onto him or throwing it at him, but just saying, "Babe, can I please have some help with this? Can I have your advice? May I ask for help?" And letting him in to actually help you with things, to do things for you, to solve problems for you. Because then his hero is awakened inside of him. His masculine beast that is waiting to come out is getting unleashed in this process. Because what happens likely in this movie is the man was more in his feminine, the woman was more in her masculine. And he starts wanting to change that. He wants to be the hero. He wants to step up. He wants that responsibility, but she's not giving him a chance because of her own wounding, her own issues that she's stuck in masculine mode. And so they both need to shift, right? He needs to step up. The only way he can step up is if she starts offloading, if she starts opening up, letting her hair down, letting him in, asking for help, sharing her feelings, sharing some of her problems that he can step in in a respectful way and want to help her, be inspired to help her. And if she's not doing that, then they're stuck. And he can't really, like, what is he going to do? Force himself to take care of you? Like he's going to force his way in? Like most men won't do that. Most men need an opening from you. They need to know that you want to receive them. So that's why it's so important to learn magnetic feminine communication in the way that we teach it so that you can communicate to a man like a flower, a beautiful flower opening up and saying, "Hey, I would like some help here. Could you help me? Could you help me, my prince? Could you help me, my king? I would love it. I would have, I would feel so happy. I would feel so joyful if you could help me with this." And then appreciating him. Gratitude, gratitude, gratitude, gratitude when he does, when he does step up, and then he starts entering his healthy masculine, you start entering your healthy feminine. You get that polarity back. You get the chemistry and the attraction flowing again. The juices are flowing. And then again, it's like that well-oiled machine cranking down the road down the freeway.

Speaking of machines cranking down the freeway, let's get to our next one here. "It takes a special kind of woman to understand this life. It also takes a special." Sorry. Yeah. "It also takes a special kind of woman to never tell her man he has to quit racing."

So, the idea here is also recognizing that a man in his masculine, his top priority is actually not going to be you. It'll be you. You're going to be very high in his priorities. You'll basically be on the top two or three. And the only reason I would say two or three is because depending on how spiritual a man is, his very top priority may be God. Hopefully, it is because that's a healthy masculine man who's also taking spiritual leadership over the household and over you and being connected to a higher power. Secondly, will be his purpose. Because if these two things aren't existing first, then he's not going to be the man you need. He's not going to be able to take care of you in the way you need. It's just like what they say in the airplanes. You got to put your mask on first if you want to help anyone else. And he has to put his own mask first. Which means he has to be fully connected to his masculine purpose, his masculine power by committing to God and committing to his purpose first and foremost. And let's say a man's purpose is to do drag racing, or maybe he plays a sport professionally, or he's a musician, or he's a scientist, or he's writing a book, or he's on a book tour. Whatever he's doing, special ops, who knows? Whatever his passion is, his purpose is, it's different for every man. Do you support him in that? Do you want him to be that? Because sometimes women will get jealous of a man's purpose, or they'll get jealous of his connection to God and they'll say, "Well, the way you worship God, I want you to worship me like that," or "I want you to be that open with me." Or the way you get lit up, you know, racing your cars, I, I want you to be that lit up around me. Now, that's, that's not, that's not the way it works, though. However, because you think that it's competing, competing. You're competing with those things, but you're not competing with those things. What actually happens is the light is coming through. So, let's say there's this light. It's coming through from God to him, from him, into his purpose, and from all of that into you. So, it's all being channeled into you. But he needs those things in place first in order to give it to you, in order to be fully there. And, and also speaking in financial terms, for him to be a protector, provider, hero. It's a man is not meant to be alone, but he's also not meant to be sitting around doing nothing. Idle hands are the devil's workshop. So, your man needs to be doing something with his life. Even if it's something small, even if it's something that he's just really passionate about. Maybe he doesn't really care that much for his job where he's making the money, but he has a passion that really lights him up, a hobby. That's okay. Do you support him in those things? Assuming that they're healthy. Maybe, maybe he is doing something that's very dangerous or it's an addictive pattern. That's something you need to share your feelings around because he could be a broken man, especially if he's not also putting God first. But that's a great question for you as his woman. Do you support him in his mission? Do you support him in his goals?

I have another one here closely related to this last one. It says, "A woman that supports your passion is a woman worth keeping." Now, this one was actually designed more for men, but that's the same principle here. Look at it. Do you support your man in his purpose, or are you competing with him around that? Do you appreciate him for that? Do you understand that principle, that energetic principle that actually the energy is flowing to you? In a healthy relationship, the energy is flowing through to you. It's coming from God, his purpose, through him, into you. And that's the way it's meant to be because then he can be the hero because he's making a difference in the world, because his masculine energy is getting filled up. His cup is getting filled. His passions are getting filled in that sense. And then he can put that energy right back into you and penetrate you with that, with that gift. And then you get to experience it vicariously, or also in tandem if you're part of the same passion that he is. Maybe you have similar careers, like me and my wife, we do this together, and you guys are doing it in tandem. But supporting him in that is very powerful, and it's one of the things that men fall in love with because they realize they found their partner in crime, the Bonnie to his Clyde, and that's something that's not easily thrown away. That's something that's worth keeping in his life for the long haul.

All right, let's get to the next one here. And hopefully, I don't mute myself again at the end. [Music] Okay, we are back. We are back. Sorry for the interruption. Internet literally crashed in the middle of our live stream here. So, sorry about that. Okay. Anyways, what I was going to say with the last piece is we saw the crab protecting the other crab, right, in the video. That's what it feels like when a man is in his healthy masculine. He's protecting you against the forces of evil, whatever's coming into your relationship physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. He wants to protect you. He wants to make sure you're safe. Make sure you're happy. Make sure everything is good because that's becomes his priority in his life, one of his top priorities. So, it's a good visual to remember.

So, with that, I'm going to start answering some questions. A lot of questions came in here before we, uh, so go ahead and post your question below if you have it, your question or comment. And also, if you haven't yet, you want to make sure you master these principles. Take our free quiz, our free love quiz by going to magnetizeyou.com. Or you can click the link in the description or comments below to learn all about magnetic feminine polarity, magnetic feminine communication, and get the relationship you want with your man quickly.

All right, so let's start answering some of these that came in. Um, so Bloom said, "Isn't it difficult to not be in mommy energy when actually being a mom, having several kids, and being married for a long time?" Yes. So, that's a great question, Bloom. So, here's the thing. It's about shifting energies and shifting roles as best as you can because when you're taking care of kids, you're actually in masculine energy. What is masculine energy? Being the protector, provider, hero. And that's what you're being for your kids. And this is a thing a lot of women don't realize because they think mothering is feminine energy, which in some sense it is nurturing, loving, caring. I'd say it's more emotional. However, the act of being a mother is actually very masculine. And that's what you want your man to do for you. Actually, you want your man to be your protector, provider, hero. Take care of your needs, make you happy, like look out for you, check in with your feelings, make sure things are handled, etc., that you have everything you need, right? That's what a mommy does for kids, but that's also what a healthy masculine man does for his wife. And so, you got to understand the proper order of things. Proper order of things is he's taking care of you. You're taking care of the kids. And so, when you're with your man, you have to shift that energy. You have to shift from being mommy and being tempted to use that same energy with him, being the masculine with him. And instead of treating him like another child, you start to honor him. You start to respect him. You start to appreciate him. Be grateful for him. Be open to him. Be receptive. Revere him. And that awakens up awakens his healthy masculine to be that role for you, to be your protector, your provider, your hero. So you have to shift it. And it's, I'm not saying this is easy. But that's the opportunity here. That's where you can start to create the relationship you want by getting out of mommy energy with him or with any man, really, because it's a bad practice with any man to be treating them like you're the mommy and instead treat him like he's your hero. Treat him like he, him like he's your king, like he's a man and not your child. So that's the practice. And one thing that can help with this is having rituals around it. So, for example, when you're getting home from work, let your hair down. Change into a more feminine outfit. Maybe you have some, some feminine pajamas you wear that are nice or something that's a little more relaxed. And if it's just you and him, something sexy would be great. And so, that's an idea of physically shifting your costume to get you into the into the mood, into the mode of your feminine. When you're with him, reminding yourself, "Oh, I'm with my man. Now I get to relax. Now I'm in my feminine. I ask him for help. I share with him my needs and my desires respectfully by saying things like, I would love or could you help me with this or may I ask this?" And, and, and being that way with him, being in that more surrendered, submissive, receptive, open role with him outside of the kids. And that's why it's also helpful to have some boundaries with your kids where you and him can have time together, just the two of you, whether that's date nights or like what my parents used to do every time when they came home from work, they would have like an hour, sometimes two hours together in their room by themselves. I don't know what we're doing, what they were doing. We could all, I could imagine what they were doing in there. And, yeah, being with each other outside the kids. Now, of course, we were older. We were, this was maybe when I was, all the kids were older than like five. But, um, yeah, so you may need to figure it out. Get some help. But find that space where you can shift into your feminine and create that, that boundary for yourself that I'm no longer in mom mode. And maybe you have to tell yourself that affirmation. I'm no longer in mom mode. Now I'm in wifey mode. Now I'm in princess mode. Or now I'm in queen mode or feminine mode. Whatever works for you to mentally shift your state. And sometimes you have to do it with your body too, like physically letting your hair down. Maybe you do a stretch, do some deep breathing, drink some water, just something to physically change your state into the feminine receptivity so that you're not always being the mommy for everybody and and sacrificing yourself for everybody and not letting anybody pour into you, not having anybody be inspired to pour into you. And then when your kids get older, you could also start asking them for help. Especially the men, not maybe not your girls if you have girls, but any boys that you have, start helping them to get in their healthy masculine by asking them to help too. Asking them for helping you with solving problems, for advice, for tips, so they're inspired to healthy masculine. They start to contribute more around the house by you being respectful, respectful, and feminine in your family unit. And then everybody starts to treat you like the queen and treat you, um, the way you need to be treated. Although your daughters may still need some of your support, etc., but that's, that's for when they're older. Uh, more advanced tip.

All right, so Sally said, "Thanks so much and God richly bless you. God grants you long life to give us more advice." Thank you, Sally. I appreciate that. Um, yeah, so some people said my sound was off. Sorry about that. When I had, uh, this live stream had a couple glitches tonight. Hopefully not again. This will be the last time those glitches happen. Although I don't know why the internet went off, but at least now I know how to quickly fix it.

All right, so, um, uh, somebody said, let's see here. Um, all right, so Lisa said, "What if he drowns it all out and doesn't have a dream or passion or drive?" Yeah. So, if you're dealing with an addict, a man who's in his feminine, and even in an unhealthy feminine, which is an addictive pattern, if he's addicted to alcohol or drugs or video games or pornography or sex, whatever it might be, you are dealing with a broken man. Now, he may not be deeply broken, but he's broken in some, in some to some extent. And so, you just have to become aware of that. You be have you have to be very careful with that because it can become potentially abusive for you to remain in a situation like that. It's a form of abuse potentially, and it's a form of self-abuse when a man is not capable of being in his healthy masculine and therefore not capable of taking care of you. And we have to watch out for that. So, what I would highly recommend for you, Lisa, is to take our Magnetic Feminine 90-day challenge to go through it and for the next 90 days, go through our process and your magnetic feminine polarity and magnetic feminine communication, understanding those principles and what to do specifically. And we'll customize it for your situation with your guy and give you also some of the advanced guidelines around this dealing with a man who has addictive tendencies or doesn't have a purpose so that you can inspire him into his healthy masculine. And maybe he doesn't have a purpose in his life, but you know what? You could also be his purpose. You can be a small version or a big version potentially of his purpose where he can get meaning in his life by taking care of you, by making you happy, by stepping up for you, being your protector, provider, hero. So that's the mission, should you choose to accept it, is to fully step in your feminine. And the caveat is with our 90-day challenge that you're going to go deep into it. You're going to fully commit to the process and detach from the outcome for the next 90 days. And he will likely shift. You will be shocked often how he will step up and start committing, taking care of you, becoming more healthily connected to his masculine in his own life and desiring you, etc., loving you. And if he doesn't, if he's not stepping up over that period of time, if he hasn't shifted, then you're likely dealing, you know, you're likely dealing with a deeply broken man. And unfortunately, if you're dealing with a deeply broken man, you have to step away. You have to get out of that situation because it's not your job to change him. It's not your job to fix him. It's not your job to heal him. That would be you being in masculine energy, being his therapist, being his nurse, being his doctor, being his coach. We don't want to do that. That's all masculine. Feminine receives. The masculine gives. So, it's his job to give to you. It's your job to receive that gift fully and graciously. And that's really all you have to do with a masculine man. Your only responsibility is to be as feminine as you can be and using the advanced principles. And then you will be given everything you desire with from the right man. Now, this man may not be the right man. He may be broken. And in that case, you're going to have to step away as hard as it can be because it would be self-abuse and self-neglect for you to allow yourself to stay in a situation that is neglectful and abusive. So, we don't want that for you, Lisa. And that the beauty of that is it sets you up for him to realize, shoot, if I don't want to lose her, I do have to actually step up. I have to get to fix, I have to fix myself. I have to get some healing. I have to go to a recovery group or whatever it takes for him. Read some books to get out of his slump. And you can inspire him. The, the whole process we teach you how to share gratitude in the right way and appreciating him and lifting him up in a feminine way. How to share your feelings. How to allow him in to support you and do things for you and become strong in his masculine, but it's also his job to do that. All you can do is inspire him. You can be the light. You can inspire him, but you can't make him. You can lead the horse to water, which is you, but you can't make him drink. And you're not even leading him to water. You're being the water. You're being this delicious drink, this delicious, as my wife likes to say, be the drink. You're like this delicious cocktail. And that's all you could be is be the delicious cocktail. But it's up to him to drink. It's up to him to come and claim you and drink you in and claim and be your man. Um, but it's not your job to make him drink or make him do anything because if you try to make him, if you try to change him, if you try to force him, it's going to backfire and he's going to go more into his feminine energy or he's going to get argumentative or defensive or pull away and it's not going to lead to the promised land that you want.

To be at. So, hope that helps, Lisa. Um, Sharon said, "You're right." Thank you so much. Glad you liked this, Sharon. And so, what other questions do we have here today?

Um, Ann said, "Love being here. Thank you, Coach Brody, for adding value to our lives." You're welcome, Ann. I'm glad you like it. Glad this is helpful for you and that you were able to tune in today to this special training. And Mon said, "Thank you very much. This is great advice."

All right, I think we have some other questions here. Um Ann said, "Uh, you are changing my life, expressing gratitude for all that you do for me and us." Okay. Yeah. And that's the key also is to express gratitude to your man. So, like you're expressing gratitude to me. Now, whenever your man is providing for you, when he's doing things for you like this, maybe giving you advice, giving you tips, or actually solving problems, helping you with things, planning things, even the small things, let's say even things that you don't even necessarily like that much, but he did it for you. The fact that he did it for you, to show gratitude for that and to show appreciation for that, that he's putting his time and energy and effort in some way into you, that's going to that's a signal. That's a signal of respect. It's also a signal that he can win with you, that he can make you happy, and that also that he's awakening that inner hero within him, that masculine energy, that he's awakening it, and he's seeing the value. He's seeing the light at the end of the tunnel and saying, "Oh, I can actually be a hero for someone. I could actually help somebody. I can make her happy and I want to do more of that. It feels good to me to be appreciated. I want to do more of that and be there for her in other ways."

Mooney said, "I need the 90-day challenge." Yes, Mooney. We all need the 90-day challenge. And again, if you want to get that, click the link below, go to magnetizeyouman.com, take our free quiz, and that will lead you to our groups where you can get that challenge and we'll, uh, we'll help you in there and get you on the right track, get you connected, and we'd love to have you as part of our community in there, especially because there are a lot of amazing women in there. We just, we have proposals almost every week. We have like proposals. We have men stepping up, committing, and showing care for women, uh, doing things for them. So, it's really beautiful to see the transformations in there. So, would love to have you in there as well.

All right. So, and uh, Ka said, "Oh, oh, you see, you could go to our bio. If you don't see the link below, you can also click on our bio and there's a link in there." Um, all right. So, Ka said, "I'm single and getting to know several men. What's a good balance of being excited about the future and detaching from the outcome?"

Yeah, it's a great question, Ka. So the balance is exactly what you said. The balance is being excited about the process. So you may say the future, it's, it's, it's okay to be excited about the future, but what I'd rather have you be excited about is the process. The process of creating that future. So, in other words, who are you becoming? I want you to get excited about you. I want you to get excited about the woman that you are becoming, becoming more connected to who you really are, your feminine core, bypassing some of the wounds, some of the traumas, some of the bad experiences you've had in your life from your parents, from early experiences, abuse, or bad relationships. I want you to connect back to that pure part of you that was there from the moment you were born as God designed you and stitched you together in the womb. I want you to reconnect to that version of yourself. And that's the ultimate gold at the end of the tunnel. Uh, at the end of the rainbow and the light at the end of the tunnel is who you're becoming in this journey. And so I want you to get excited about that. I want you to get so excited about that that the man is like a side benefit. The man is just going to be inevitable. The man is like an afterthought. It's like an inevitability because you're becoming such a feminine, connected, queenly, high-value woman that of course any man's going to want to be with you. Any man's going to fall in love with you and desire you. Well, I won't say every man, but the right man is because of course there are broken men out there. And then there's other men you just don't share the same values with that you're just not meant to be with them. But the right men and the right man will fall in love with you. He will cherish you. He will devote and chase you energetically because of who you are, who you've become. And so that's what I want you to embrace is that putting that energy, that excitement into the process and into yourself of getting excited about the process and learning these things, applying these things that I'm teaching you, practicing magnetic feminine communication, practicing magnetic feminine play, going through the 90-day challenge, all these things that you can do that invest into yourself, which is the ultimate investment that you could ever make in your life is investing into yourself financially, emotionally, energetically, spiritually, in your own transformation, your own evolution, and spiritual growth and emotional, physical, mental growth to be that woman, that woman that is the light, the light on the lamppost, the city on the hill that you shine and you are the radiant force that a man can't be helped but be drawn to. You're shining like the the the flame to the moths, the sun to the planets, the rose to the honeybees. So that will help you. If you focus on that, you will naturally detach from the outcome more. And I recommend doing both. So you focus on the process, commit to the process of your own transformation here, your own growth, your own reconnection to your to your inner feminine soul. And then you detach from the outcome. You let go of caring the immediate results, what the immediate results might be, because ultimately you can't control him. You can't control most results that are out there, big results. You can't, you don't have that much control over it because there's a lot of variables in play. And the more you try to control him, the more you try to control the outcome, often times it becomes more elusive to you. All you can control is what you can control, which is yourself. And so, let's put the energy back into where it belongs, into yourself, rather than into him or into the imaginary future. Let's put the energy into the present, which is feminine energy. Because here's the other thing. If you're so focused on the future, you're in masculine energy. Masculine energy is focused on the future. Masculine energy is focused on planning and goal setting and achievement and strategy. Feminine energy is about being in the here right now in your feminine beingness because feminine energy is about being. Masculine energy is about doing. So we have to get you back into being. Who are you being that woman? Becoming that woman even more and being in the present moment and focusing on what you can do now, what you can control now. And let the cards fall where they may. Let the outcome be what they may. He may not text you back. He may say he loves you. He may propose to you. He may leave you. He may dump you. He may, he may be married to you for 10 years. We don't know. We don't know what's going to happen. All you can control. We can't control that. All you can control is yourself. And then he's going to be inspired by that. He's going to be magnetized. And it's a byproduct. It's an inevitable outcome. When you put that energy into yourself and you let go of the outcome, you, you, you detach from trying to control the immediate results, even the big results. All you focus on is what you're doing now, the process. Commit to the process. Detach from the outcome. And tell yourself that as many times as you need to for it to become your way of life because that's the feminine principle.

All right. Hope that was helpful. K. Yeah. And I hope I said your, your, your name right. All right.

So, Prophet Tess said, "He needs, he said he needs space to focus on school even though he's also a working adult." Um, he needs space to focus on school. Yeah, that's okay. I mean, if he's telling you he's setting a boundary and he needs space to focus on school while he's working, I mean, that's part of his mission, right? That's part of his purpose. So, to give him that space to actually honor him for pursuing his purpose, that's part of the feminine principle as well, showing him that you are a companion. You're not a competitor. But then, if you're concerned that he's using that as an excuse and he's actually not emotionally committed to you and he's investing in you in other ways, then that's a problem and we got to watch out for that, too. And so that's why you want to use the 90-day challenge and also start deeply embracing your feminine and using magnetic feminine communication because here's the thing, you want to support him in in his purpose and his mission. But also, you have feelings and you should as a woman. Your heart is the most precious thing about you. It's where the wellspring of life comes. It's where the light of your life comes from. And that's what a man ultimately wants is your heart. And that's what he falls in love with. So you also have to look out, watch over your heart above all else. And so what that means is if you have feelings of loneliness, if you have feelings of frustration or fear or anxiety, you need to share that with him. You need to have a magnetic feminine conversation, which we can help you with and customize that for you to talk with him about your feelings in an open, vulnerable, respectful way so that he understands and he gets it. And he may make some shifts on his own because now he's empathizing with you. Now he understands. He's going to want to, he's going to feel within himself that he wants to make a shift. And he says, "You know what? You're right, babe. I'm gonna make more time for you. I want to be more available and I'm gonna, you know, I can I can move some things around. Like, let's go on a date this Friday. What do you think?" And then so you'll, he'll make some adjustments hopefully, ideally, if you use what we teach you. Uh, and if he doesn't and if he keeps making excuses over time and you've had these conversations several times in several different ways, use some of the other things we teach you and he's still making excuses and he's still putting you on the side burner and not giving you the attention that you really want, then unfortunately he's probably broken or he just has no level of care for you. And that's not a healthy situation for you to stay in. And sometimes a man only realizes what he has once it's gone or once he believes he's losing you and then he starts to make some shifts and then he starts to change. But we can't control that. All you can control is you and your heart and what you're doing for you. And then he gets to witness that and he gets to step up or not. But that'll tell you about what kind of man you're dealing with. And then you'll know. And then if it's not him, it's going to be somebody better because of who you're becoming. Somebody even more healthily in his masculine is going to step up and want to take charge and lead you in his life and take care of you. So that's how it typically works.

Um, and then Mooney said, "That's exactly what I need to encourage him in a feminine way. Oh my god, you're speaking to me." Yeah, it's true, Mooney. You got to encourage him from your feminine, not by telling him what to do or trying to control him or change him or manipulate him, from your heart, from your feelings, from your vulnerability. The feminine approach.

All right. So, um, I'm going to answer one or two more questions here. Uh, Cisl said, "The man I'm involved with joined a sober house and getting help now. I'm not sure how much I should see how he's doing. Should I wait until he contacts me?"

Yeah, I love to see it. I'm glad that he's getting help. It sounds like he does care about you or he cares about himself enough, you know, as as in the Bible it says, "Husbands, love your wives as you love yourself." But that only works if he loves himself, too. He's taking care of himself so he can take care of you. So, uh, I like that he's getting help, he's getting support, and now, yeah, likely you should probably give him some space while he's going through that period of time. It may take him off his his path. I don't know how long he's going to be doing that for. Within reason, if you really care about this guy and supporting him in that and giving him the space for his transformation, which will hopefully make him a better man for you and cause him to be more powerful, stronger, healthier in his life and in the world. And that doesn't mean you you have to totally ignore him or not do anything or go no contact. At some point, yes, you can reach out to him and just see, but do it respectfully. Ask permission. So, say something like, uh, "Hey, babe." Or, "Hey, I I'm trying to find a better word for you to use uh on a more casual basis. Uh, you can say, "Hey, daddy." Or, "Hey." Hey, um, you just say, "Hi." Say, "Uh, hi. Hope you're doing well." May I ask if I would love to speak with you when you're next available? May I ask if we can have a phone call? Something like that. Um, hi my king. That's what that's a good one. So, hey my king. Hey. Hi my hero. That's a that's a good one too. Hi my hero. Hi my king. Hi daddy. Hi my boss. Hi boss. You say stuff like that. You can find a good one that works for you. Sometimes with these nicknames, you also have to find like a custom one that works well for both of you. something that lifts him up into his masculine. Don't call him babe. Don't call him honey. Call him something like hero, king, master, maybe depending on how sexual you also want it to get. Uh, so this would be something fun and some something like an inside joke between the two of you can come up with on your own. That would be good to have in any relationship. Lift him up into his masculine through a nickname. I I'll make a training about that as well. But anyways, so yeah, so you want to check in with him. Check in with him. Ask permission. to see if you if he if you can have a call with him. May ask if we can talk on the phone and see what he says. So you don't penetrate him energetically. You're not just calling him or just um saying like, "Let's talk on the phone telling him what to do." You're asking for what you want. You're asking respectfully. You're asking vulnerably. That's your feminine. And then he will he'll decide. Let him decide. Like give him that give him that masculine leadership ability to decide on his own if he wants to connect or not. But you can still put it out there. You can still ask. So, I'd recommend doing that depending on how long it's been. If you give it a couple days and he still hasn't contacted you, go for it. Why not? Worst thing is he says no. And detach from the outcome. That's okay. That doesn't mean he's breaking up with you. He he'll probably give you a reason why if he says no, or he may not respond. That's okay, too. Fill yourself up. Bring the energy back to yourself. Focus on your self-care, investing in yourself like you're doing here, your education, your your personal transformation, your growth. Get out in nature. Read a great book, get some sunlight, eat some healthy foods, go to the spa, get a massage, whatever it takes for you to fill yourself up rather than focusing on him. And then trust in the process and trust that he's going to come back around when he's ready. And then he's probably going to be fully giving to you in the way that you need because he's filled up now and he wants to.

All right, so let me just double check here. All right, I may get to uh there's a lot of questions that came in here. I'll see how many I can get to. Try one more here.

So, Luciana said, "I've been seeing a man for about three months. It was amazing in the beginning. He was planning dates. He wanted to see me often and we talked a lot. We both agreed to be exclusive in the second week of dating. He hasn't put a label on it. He has his own business and claims he has been super busy with work and we haven't been able to see each other. He seems to have slowed down with communication and on planning dates. He says he has the desire to know me and sees potential in a partnership with uh here's the other part. I have done all that but he says that we need quality time to get to know each other but the lack of time is making it difficult. He is super sweet and is a man of God." Sorry, your your first message got, oh, sorry, that's not the right one here. Your first message got cut off a little bit, Luciana. Um, yeah. So, he sees potential in a partnership with you. So, the crux of the issue for you is that he hasn't put a label on it and he claims he's super busy and haven't been able to see each other and he seems to have slowed down with communication, etc. So, I would have a conversation with him about this. Like all this that you told me, you can also tell him in the right way and you should tell him. And that's what a that's what a magnetic feminine conversation is all about where you bring up your feelings as far as how does this all make you feel? That's the first thing. How does this all make you feel? Do you feel sadness? Do you feel frustration? Do you feel loneliness? Do you feel anger? Anxiety? And those are feelings you want to share with him so he understands because he may not actually know how you're feeling and what's actually going on. And so for him to empathize and to do it in the right way, using magnetic feminine communication, asking permission, sharing your feelings vulnerably and um asking for help when he tell when he asks you about it, telling him what the problem is, telling him basically exactly what you told me, the facts. The facts are um, you know, we've been dating for three months and um you've told me that you have your own business and you're super busy and you have the desire to know me and uh I've also noticed that we haven't really seen each other in the last week or two, whatever is true for you or we haven't spoken much. And I'm telling myself a story that maybe uh maybe you're not wanting to connect right now or maybe you no longer want to spend time together or there's something that you that is getting in the way of that and I don't know what to do. I'm curious if if you have any thoughts on that or can I ask if you have any thoughts on that. So you're asking him for help with with all that, giving it up to him to solve the problem, but he has to know clearly what the problem is. And so it's helpful for you to get to the root of what is actually the problem for you, the biggest problem, the big rock we might say, and then to share that with him in a respectful way. But I would highly recommend getting coaching for this because it's a delicate situation, Luciana. I wouldn't want you to have the conversation being too untrained with it. So you can let us script it out for you and customize it for you so you know exactly what to say and how to approach it and also get some deeper fundamental understandings of what the dynamics are in your relationship so you can really embrace the 90 ch 90-day challenge fully to get the relationship you want with him because it is also these these situations these conversations they're sensitive. They can sometimes go sideways uh not handled in the right way. They could sometimes turn into breakup conversations or turn into arguments or turn into him pulling away more. So, it's careful. You got to be careful how you handle them because a lot of women are unknowingly approaching these kind of situations and conversations from their masculine energy where they're either penetrating him and telling him what to do or subtly trying to manipulate him or they are being the doormat and they're not saying anything. So, a lot of women, they won't even speak up at all. They just they just sweep it under the rug and pretend everything's good and oh, it's okay. I don't need to say anything. I'm just going to keep holding on to hope that he's going to change one of these days and that things are going to get better, but I'm not going to like I don't want to make him uncomfortable. I don't want to risk upsetting him or losing him. And that's what a low-value woman would do. That's what a woman who doesn't value herself would do is she would keep her mouth shut and not say anything. You got to be willing to speak up. That's part of being the queen. But you got to do it in the right way. You got to do it in a respectful, vulnerable way if you want to get what you actually want with that. So, in order to do that, again, take our free quiz. That's where it all starts. Go to magnetizeyou.com or you can click on the link in the description or comments below or go to our bio and you can click on the link in there and we'll help you to get the exact strategies you need, customize it for you. Join our community and get on track becoming the woman you're meant to be and having the loving long-term committed relationship you've always desired in your life because it is totally possible and we see it every day and it just takes a little bit of tweaks and investing into yourself in the right way to make it happen. So, we would love to see you there. Would love to help you there in a deeper way. Much love. Hope this was helpful today and I look forward to talking to you again in our next live training or video very soon. Take care everyone. Much love. I'll tell.