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There's no way to succeed here. And I'm exhausted.
[clears throat]
Just feel so alone after divorce. It feels like there's no one in this world who's out there thinking about me at this time, you know? I'm just trying to go through this life and I'm all alone and
[snorts]
I don't have friends. I don't have family and I
I am bleeding money. I just want to be happy again.
[laughter]
Gentlemen, she had a plan and it was not a bad one. Her husband was dying. He felt guilty about it. She knew Nevada family law. She moved quickly, got the house, got the debt-free exit, signed the papers, handed the man back to his parents, and went home clean. The only thing she did not account for was that he didn't die on schedule. Welcome back. Today we're watching the fully self-documented collapse of a woman who ran an airtight play on a terminally ill man, and then posted the consequences every single week. She did not hide this. She turned the camera on and uploaded it. Pull up a chair.
Long story short, in March of 2025, my husband and I had been separated for 9 months. And then he was diagnosed with terminal cancer. I decided to get back with him and be his primary caregiver so that my kids could have him as long as possible until he died. I started to do a deep dive on our finances because I knew that I was going to be the only person financially supporting our family of five. And I also knew that the medical bills were going to start rolling in and we were going to be in a massive amount of medical debt. But as I was going into his finances, I discovered that he spent $50,000. That's 80% of his annual salary on strippers in a 5-month time period during our separation. And in case you didn't do the math, that's $10,000 a month on strippers. Given how much he'd taken from our children's future, there was no way that I can continue to stand by that man and take care of him through cancer. So, I got a quick divorce from him and gave him back to his parents to take care of. Nevada is a 50/50 state, so I would have been half responsible for his debt. But we stipulated in the divorce that he took responsibility for all of the debt he created, and that's how I was able to break free from it. Knowing that he was terminally ill and also probably feeling a little bit guilty and remorseful, he left me the family home to live in with my kids. There was a stipulation that if I ever sold the home while he was still alive, he would get 50% of the equity. Now that his remorse is waning and his parents
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are in his ear making him feel less guilty for the things that he's done, his father hired a lawyer and they're now arguing all of the points in the original divorce.
She got a quick divorce. The man is on borrowed time. She is on a deadline. Different deadlines. She moved faster. She gave him back to his parents. Now, I have returned a lot of things in my life. Bad shoes, a blender that didn't work, a gift I changed my mind about. Never a husband. Never a dying husband. To his parents.
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Like she called the number on the back of the box and someone picked up and said, "Bring him in. We'll take it from here." Now, the strippers. Let's talk about when. During the separation, which she started. Meaning during the period when she had already left this man, by law, by every available definition, and by basic human understanding, he was a single man living alone, abandoned by his wife. His wife walked out, he went to strip clubs. Gentlemen, I have heard worse responses to abandonment. But here is what she is actually telling us. She left him, came back specifically after the cancer diagnosis, walked directly into his finances, found out how he spent his nights while she was gone, and presented that to the internet as the moral reason she could not care for a dying man. She left him, investigated what he did after she left, then used it to justify leaving again, faster this time, with a lawyer. And we still have not answered the real question. How does she know? They are separated, separate lives, separate finances.
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She arrives claiming to be his caregiver, and one of the first things she does is get deep inside his bank statements. That is not caregiving. That is forensic accounting with a casserole dish. And then she tells us the house, the debt split, all of it was only possible because he was terminally ill and feeling guilty. She didn't just notice the guilt, she priced her entire exit off of it. She thought that was a fixed rate. Turns out guilt is variable.
I just need to vent about how difficult it can be to do almost anything with your contentious
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co-parent. We had a parent-teacher conference today for one of our kiddos, and just like being in the same room as him um makes me tense. Like I just wish that we could part ways forever. Um unfortunately, our wagons are hitched because we had these kids together, but uh Does anybody else go through this? Just the normal life things with your kids and your co-parent, and you just wish that you could kiss them goodbye for freaking ever?
She already said goodbye. The courts just keep bringing him back.
Just feel so alone after divorce. It feels like there's no one in this world who's out there thinking about me at this time, you know. I'm just trying to go through this life and I'm all alone and
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I don't have friends, I don't have family and I I don't know how people get through this. Is anyone post-divorce just struggling hard this holiday season? I am finding it so difficult to find the joy and provide it for my kids. I am trying very, very hard. Some of you know that my ex-husband is in Colorado for multiple myeloma
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treatment and I have been a full-time single mom for a few months now and I'm just tired. He was supposed to be back already and he's not really giving us play-by-play updates. He's just updating us on the day he's supposed to be back, I won't be back and the uncertainty is so hard. And on top of that, he has me wrapped up in court and uh and legal stuff and I am bleeding money. So, the holiday season is very sparse this year and it's not going to be like the ones the kids have had in the past. And that makes me feel guilty. But, I just need a break. I need something good to happen. Every day I struggle at some point of the day just to put one foot in front of the other. And I'm so depressed and sometimes I have suicidal ideation and I know this is all chemical. It's all up here. Um and I'm working with my psychiatrist and my therapist and my meds are being adjusted constantly, but I just I just want to be happy again and I know that's an inside job. I know it's a choice, but
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my brain chemistry right now is not there.
This
[crying]
is what you mean.
I hope you're doing okay this holiday season, whatever you're pushing through.
Everybody chose him. The man she returned to his parents, currently in Colorado on chemotherapy, everybody chose him. No friends, no family, not even the holiday season showed up for her. She says he is not giving play-by-play updates from Colorado. The uncertainty is hard. Brothers, that is a treatment cycle. He is not ghosting her. He is on a drip. One of them has a more legitimate reason to be tired right now. I will let you decide which one. Here's what I keep coming back to, brothers. She did not do this because she was reckless. She ran the numbers and they made sense. The law was on her side. The guilt was working. The timing was right. Men do the math, too. We just usually don't film what comes next. So, the question is not whether the plan was wrong. The question is, what exactly did she think she was buying? Because whatever it was,
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she has been uploading evidence every week that she does not have it.
[sighs and gasps]
There is so much mental and emotional load that goes along with being full-time single mom.
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And right now I'm just in survival mode. There's just so much to think about all the time. And the kids have to grow up so much faster than they would have if all of this wasn't happening.
[clears throat]
Recently,
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there was a picnic at school during school hours.
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Why do we have to have picnics during school?
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The kids would be fine if they never had a picnic at school. But, I'm a full-time working mom and I don't have time to take off for the picnic. And it would hurt my heart thinking about my kids being one of the few without a parent there. And I don't have a lot of time to take off and I can't be taking off for damn picnics. And I worked hard with my supervisors to be able to flex my day and even that was a problem. And I had to get the meals and remember the blanket and be there in time for multiple
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different sessions because they can't all come out at the same time. It
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just feels like there's so many decisions when you're alone. And it feels like no matter which decision you make, something is going to fail.
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You are not going to give your full self to something or anything. There's no way to succeed here.
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And I'm exhausted.
Hi guys, it's been a while. I wanted to update you on the status of my divorce. If you've been around here, then you remember that my ex-husband filed a motion to the
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court to set aside our divorce decree last fall. We had that hearing and the judge ruled in my favor that we would not set the divorce aside. I got to enjoy the peace and quiet after that for a few weeks until I received another motion stating that he appealed the decision to the Supreme Court. And that's where we're at now. The options are to settle outside of court and now he's even being more unreasonable than the first time around or we take this all the way just to the Supreme Court where they could remand the original decision, in other words, overturn it or keep it. If they remand it, then we may have to go back to District Court and have a trial um for the actual divorce. In other words,
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the court has to hear the divorce from the very beginning and basically make all of the um all of the decisions.
She gave this man terminal cancer, a one-way trip back to his parents, and the legal bill for his own strip club visits. He took it to the Supreme Court. She did not give him much, but she gave him a reason to stay alive long enough to appeal. Most people cannot get through a parking ticket dispute without giving up. This man is fighting for his house from a chemotherapy chair in another state. That is not bitterness. That is a man who is very clear about what happened to him. Here is the question the comment section is going to go to war over. She says 50,000 on strippers ended the marriage. Clean story. He spent it during their separation, she found it, she left. Justified. But think about the sequence carefully. She left during the separation. She came back specifically when he got diagnosed. She audited the finances after the return. Then she found the receipts. The question is not whether the strippers were wrong. The question is if he had spent that money and stayed perfectly healthy, does she ever come back? Or was a dying man with a guilty conscience just easier to negotiate with. Drop it in the comments.