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How does one become a ladies' man? Well, a simple, you know what, and it's super simple. I don't think there are any tricks, and there are any hacks to it.
If you were to ask men the same question. If you wanted to give a woman advice on how to get attention from all the high-value men in the world, the answer would be: be a virtuous, super beautiful, 10-out-of-10 high-value woman.
So, I don't think it's a trick cuz I don't try to get women. I feel like I try to become the best version of myself I can be, and then women will naturally come to you. And that's as simple as that. And I know it sounds easy. It's actually the hardest answer in the world because it's the answer no one wants to hear. Try to be the best version of yourself. It's as simple as that. Work out in the gym, read something, learn something, become interesting, you know, become wealthy. Of course, cuz the wealth comes with a fun lifestyle. Women love fun. Yes. That's why they like fast cars. That's why they like when you take nice vacations, cuz women love fun. And when you're that guy, you'll be surprised how easy it is.
Is if you're sitting there lonely, if you're truly lonely and you can't get any women, I can't teach you anything. Cuz if you had the basics, you wouldn't be lonely. It's not actually the outside perception you have. I will walk around the city occasionally if I just finished training in sweatpants and, you know, sneakers or whatever. And I know people know me, but let's even talk 3-4 years ago when maybe I wasn't so well-known, but I was still dressing very well in my in in my free time. Uh, it's it's how you feel in and of yourself.
You know, if I saw a beautiful woman sitting there at the mall sipping a coffee and I was dressed in, you know, my beard was all messy. I had a hood up, and I was in like sweatpants. The confidence you you haven't maximized your own confidence if if you know what I'm saying. When when you're dressed really, really well. You just had a fresh haircut, you know, you feel like a different person. So, it's how it makes you feel first and foremost, like you could do anything. You put on a good suit. It's the same reason. I mean, this and this is universal across human nature. This isn't something specific to men. It's exactly it's specific to women as well. It's every single person in the world. Women will do their makeup and do their hair and put on a nice dress, and then their personality you you'll know when you hang out with them seems different. They're more full of their confidence. They're more their their natural self. But definitely, it's perception as well. People take you more seriously. People are more likely to stop and listen to what you have to say. You know, if you're dressed like a homeless person and you try and disturb someone when they're walking past you, they think you want a dollar. People are much more likely to listen to what you have to say. And also makes you more memorable. Also makes you more memorable.
A lot of guys don't dress up. Keep in mind cuz you go for a job interview, you have to understand even if you just bought your basic kind of shirt from a store and some pants and some shoes and you think you're dressed nice. That's like the standard-issue job interview uniform. You know the guy who's doing the job interview, I know it's special to you. I know you've prepared. I know you think, "Oh [ __ ] I really need to get this job." He's seen 40 people today, 50 people today. Who was the guy in the really nice suit? That stands out, you know? So also, it burns you into people's minds and memories much more. Yeah. When people say when people say the word Tristan Tate, oh yeah, he always wears nice suits.
And let me tell you something. When you are dressed very well, you aren't in a place, you become the place. You become part of the ambiance of the place. Let's say you take the fanciest restaurant you could think of. Imagine a very fancy restaurant, right? And you walk in there and everyone's in beach shorts and Crocs and baseball t-shirts. It ruins the ambiance of the restaurant. So, you're also doing your part to add to the aesthetics of a nice location. So, if you go somewhere like Monaco to the casino, you can't get in wearing a baseball shirt and Crocs. They won't let you in. Doesn't matter how much money you have. But you go there, dress like me or I'd probably dress better than this. If I went to the casino, I'd be bow-tied up and everything. You I'm adding to the aesthetic of the place by just being a man in a $30,000 tuxedo standing by the bar sipping drinks. I'm adding to the place. Whereas, if you go somewhere looking like a bum, like looking like a bum, you're subtracting from the aesthetics of a beautiful place. And you can get a really you can get a good suit for $340-$500 if you got a Hugo Boss or something, but you can get much cheaper than that. And if it fits you well and you're in decent shape and if and if you're in decent shape, that's the key. If you got to be in shape, if you It's like t-shirts. It's like t-shirts. You wear a plain black t-shirt and you're in good shape versus wearing a Versace t-shirt that cost 900 bucks, but you're fat as [ __ ]
But you know what's the most important? Yeah. Don't be a geek cuz it's the man inside the suit. It's the man inside the suit. You give me a t-shirt and shorts and you put some of these dorks who hate on me in a $25,000 suit and watch who gets the women. Watch who gets the business contract. Watch who will pass any job interview. Me and my shorts. So, rule number one, don't be a geek.
Women are always interested in learning new stuff. Women are always interested in hearing new things that they find interesting. And it always depends on the vehicle of delivery. Yes. You know, it's the vehicle of delivery. If if you're a little nerd who be like, "Oh, well, women should like me. I know lots of stuff. I read lots of books." Yeah, but you're a little dork with a pencil neck. Women aren't interested in even sitting down next to you, let alone listening to anything that comes out of your mouth. If they think, I might want to sleep with this guy. Cuz you have to understand before dates, before dates, especially when it's your third, fourth, fifth date, the decision to sleep with you, go to bed with you, give you what you're after, is already made usually by women before you go. So, you just have to go out and freestyle it. If you're sitting there saying interesting stuff that she doesn't know, will she remember it? No. Will she talk about it with her friends? No. but they find things they don't know incredibly interesting. So yeah, become an interesting guy when you're not looking for something serious, which none of you young people really should be. Have fun. I got one more question.
And when you're trying to have fun, don't ask what you don't want to know. Like girls lie and girls aren't honest. So if you're 21, the girl you're dating or the girls you're trying to hook up with or whatever aren't probably going to be the girls that you marry. Yeah. You know, if you meet a girl and you think, "Oh, this is suspicious. Why is her handbag so expensive?" Blah, blah. Maybe just hang out, eat dinner with her, have fun with her, and when it when it ends, it ends. Maybe don't try to be, "Hey, what are you actually really doing?" You're 21. Shut up. Once, she doesn't have to explain herself to you. But two, you're not in the position where you can offer something so serious. It's only when you finally establish yourself and you're looking for those girls that you perhaps, you know, want to settle down with, want to get married with, want to start a family with, where you need to be analyzing her past. So, that's a game to play for the older dudes, I feel, rather than you youngsters. A lot of guys are like 19. Oh, oh, what? How do I find a good girl? Maybe just, you know, become a millionaire and find one when you're 28. Maybe maybe just shut the [ __ ] up about finding a good girl. If she'll sleep with you when you're 19, maybe that's good enough for now.
I think the the simple advice is accountability and self-reflection. What I would like you to do after watching this wonderful show, go to your bedroom, take off your shirt, strip down to your underwear, look at yourself in the mirror, pause, speak to yourself for 10 minutes. Think if I didn't have this nice house and I wasn't stood here in this particular house with the Lamborghini outside and I wasn't this rich, what about me would women want? And if the answer is nothing, then you're only going to attract the women who are into your money and your money only. Because I've got loads of money and I understand that women enjoy my company. They like being around me. They like listening to me. So, if you have nothing but money, then that's what you're going to get. The girls who are after your money. You have to up your game in every single way and stop throwing the money around. And then you'll meet the m the girls who like you because you're strong and fit, who like you because you're smart, who like you because you're charming, who like you because you dress well, who like you because I don't know, maybe you you have you have class, you have etiquette, you have poise, you take them to things that they don't know. You take them to the opera instead of this club. You'll find those special girls when you are a man that those kind of girls will want. But let me tell you something. Most women I know are smarter than the millionaire streamers, the the clowns who who talk nonsense and and do [ __ ] Most women I know are smarter. So you take someone smarter than you who's after your money. She's going to get it. You know what? I'm actually quite a good specimen of man. I'm good-looking enough. I'm strong enough. I'm fit enough. I'm interesting enough. Yeah, I could see why women like me. If you can genuinely reflect in that way and you're honest to yourself and you're right, then you should be meeting good women. So, of course, they get the girls who are just after their money. I don't blame the girls. Everyone's going to complain about gold diggers. You're a skinny little pencil-neck dweeb with nothing interesting to say. You're not manly. You're not physically attractive. You don't speak well. What else should they want? What else should they want? They don't feel protected around you. They don't feel safe with you. Of course, they want the money. It honestly doesn't bother me like it bothers you because I think this is a dog-eat-dog world and I think if you're going to make yourself a target because the answer to their problem, they think the answer to their problem is more clout, more money, I don't know, maybe the good girl's going to come along. The answer to their problem is 3 years of hard work that they're not going to do.
Yo, warriors, it's time to wake the hell up. I'm about to drop a truth bomb that will shake you to your core, TopG Style. You're sitting there dreaming of Lamborghinis, mansions, and a life most people can only imagine. But you're not doing the work. You know the answer. 3 years of relentless grind, outworking everyone else is the only way to get there. But you're not going to do it. You're going to scroll TikTok, play video games, and hope for a cheat code. Let me tell you something. There's no magic spell, no shortcut, no your time will come fairy tale. You either compete like a lion or you're the lame gazelle getting eaten. Let's break this down. And if you're ready to stop being prey and start being a predator, smash that subscribe button and let's build a legacy. The world's a jungle and it doesn't care about your feelings. I don't get mad when a lion picks off the weakest gazelle. That's just nature. Same goes for life. If you're limping through, half-assing it, you're going to get taken out. I see young guys getting played by girls, losing money, crying about it. Good. Learn from it. Bad examples teach you just as much as good ones. You got finessed. Cool. Now you know how to spot a snake. But what breaks my heart is seeing solid dudes, hardworking, honorable men get crushed by bad divorces or breakups. Guys who gave their all, tried to be the best version of themselves only to get burned. That's rough. But even then, I don't feel sorry for them. Why? Because they knew the rules. They knew the game. If you're not sharp, if you're not out competing everyone else, the jungle doesn't care.
Let me paint a picture. When I was 19, I was broke. Sleeping in a roach-infested apartment, working a job that barely paid the bills. I'd see my boys stressing over rent, my parents scraping by while other dudes were driving Ferraris, living in penthouses. It hit me. There's only so much wealth out there. Only so many Lambos, Rolexes, private jets, beautiful women, caviar, whatever you're chasing. The world's got a finite supply and 8 billion people are fighting for it. You think you're going to get yours by chilling, by scrolling Instagram for 5 hours, working your 9 to 5, then crashing on the couch with Netflix? Nah, bro. You already know the answer. Everyone does. You're not dumb. You're just lazy. I get it. People hit me up all the time, especially Andrew, because he's a beast in the ring. Yo, Andrew, how do I become a kickboxer? Is there a gym near you? Bro, why aren't you there right now? Why weren't you there yesterday? You don't need me to tell you to train. You don't need a secret formula. You need to get off your ass and outwork everyone else. That's it. There's no hocus pocus, no cheat code. When I was coming up, I was glued to my hustle, laptop, phone, 18-hour days. Andrew was the same. We didn't come from money. We didn't have connections. We had grit. And that's why we're here, living a life most can't even dream of. If I could go back to my younger self, broke and hungry, I'd slap him on the back and say, "Keep grinding, kid. You're going to make it."
But the world's full of terrible advice, and it's designed to keep you soft. You see it everywhere on Instagram, TikTok, those cheesy motivational quotes. Some flowers take longer to bloom. Don't worry, your time will come. Your ship's going to sail in. Are you kidding me? That's the worst garbage I've ever heard. It's poison. You're 21, stuck in a dead-end job, fresh off a breakup, barely making rent, and you see that crap online. Oh, my time's coming. The internet said so. Bro, wake up. There's no magical moment where life hands you a million bucks. If you buy into that, you deserve to stay pregnant. Panic mode is where you need to be. Life sucks. Good. Girlfriend left you. Rent's overdue. Perfect. Let that light a fire under you. Panic, hustle, succeed. That's the only mode that works. I remember being 23, working two jobs, training at night, barely sleeping. My girl at the time dumped me cuz I was too focused on work. I was broke, tired, and pissed. One night, I saw this quote online. Don't worry, your time will come. I also threw my phone. That's when I snapped. I said, "Screw this. I'm not waiting for some fairy tale." I doubled down on sales, studied investments, networked like my life depended on it. Two years later, I was making six figures driving a car that turned heads. Not because my time came, but because I made it happen. Panic mode. Hustle mode. That's the vibe. If you're ready to snap out of the fairy tale, hit that subscribe button and let's get to work.
Now, let's talk about happiness, cuz the world's got this wrong, too. People say happiness is the goal. Like, you're supposed to wake up chasing warm fuzzies. No, man. For men, happiness isn't about you. It's about the people you love. My mission: make my kids smile. Make my mom proud. Make any woman in my life feel safe and cherished. Hell, I even try to lift up my boys cuz men don't have each other's backs like they used to. I do what I enjoy. Racing cars, training, building my empire. But I don't wake up thinking, "How can I be happy today?" I wake up thinking, "How can I make their lives better?" That's what drives me. That's what makes me a man. Some call me old school cuz I believe in providing and taking care of my family the traditional way. They'll say, "You just want your woman to be a slave." Slave, bro, I'm the one working 18-hour days, 7 days a week. I'm the one grinding, serving, making sure everyone's good. My girl might cook a meal, change a diaper, but I'm out here slaving for the people I love. And you know what? They give it back. My daughter's smile, my mom's pride, my woman's loyalty. That's worth more than any paycheck. That's what fuels me. That's what makes it all worth it.
And let's talk about revenge, cuz success is the ultimate flex. I've had people screw me over, stolen money, broken hearts, you name it. Do I sit around plotting revenge? Nah. That's like holding a burning rock, waiting to throw it. It hurts you more than them. Let it go. But here's the thing. When you succeed, when you build something massive, that is revenge. Not because you're trying to rub it in their face, but because you're living proof they couldn't stop you. I had a business partner once who betrayed me, took half my earnings and laughed about it. I could have fought him, sued him, wasted my energy. Instead, I worked harder, built a bigger empire. Now I'm driving cars he can't even rent, living a life he'll never touch. That's revenge. Success is revenge.
Here's the cold, hard truth. You're not going to get what you want by wishing. There's only so much to go around. Money, status, resources, and the world's not handing it out. You've got to take it. Outwork everyone. Outsmart everyone. Be the guy who's up at 5:00 a.m. while others are snoring. Be the guy who's learning, growing, fighting every day. Don't fall for the your time will come trap. Your time is now. Panic mode, hustle mode, build mode. That's how you win. I've seen it over and over. Guys who know the answer, work hard, stay focused, out-compete, but they don't do it. They're waiting for a shortcut, a secret, a miracle. I had a friend, good dude, smart, but he spent his 20s chasing balance. He'd work his 9 to 5, then spend nights gaming, drinking, scrolling. He'd say, "I'll get serious later." Later came, and he's 35. Still in the same apartment, same job, same excuses. Meanwhile, I was grinding, failing, getting back up. Now I'm living a life he can't even comprehend. Not because I'm smarter, but because I didn't wait. I competed. I fought. You want to be a kickboxer? Get in the gym. Want to be rich? Learn the game: sales, investments, hustle. Want to be respected? Be the guy who shows up every damn day, no excuses. The world's not complicated. It's action and reaction. You move, things move; you sit, nothing changes. And if you're sitting there hoping for a better future for your kids, your family, your community, but you're not acting, you're failing them. Speak up. Work hard. Build something. Even if it's just talking truth to whoever will listen. That's a start. But don't just hope and pray. That's for cowards. This is your moment, warriors. Stop waiting for your time. Stop buying the lies. You know the answer. Three years of relentless grind. Outwork everyone. Out-compete everyone. Be the lion, not the gazelle. Success isn't just money. It's the smiles on your kids' faces, the pride in your mom's eyes, the legacy you leave behind. That's what makes you a man. So get up, get moving, and don't stop until you're living the life you were born for. Panic mode, hustle mode, win mode. If you're ready to be a top G, hit subscribe and let's make it happen.