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Welcome to High Value Blueprint, the epicenter of bold insights and unapologetic truths. Today, we're diving into a Kevin Samuels moment that has the entire timeline buzzing. Let's break it down, challenge the narrative, and uncover the real dynamics driving this conversation. Get ready for a deep dive into the truth behind the headlines. No filters, no fluff.
"Hey, Miss iPhone. How are you doing?"
"Hello. Am I on?"
"Yeah. Uh, what's your first name?"
"Chanel."
"Chanel, how old are you?"
"37."
"All right. Would you like more Martin and Ketta or would you like Will and Jada? How would you like your marriage to be?"
"Neither."
[clears throat]
"Those that's not an option. But"
[laughter]
"I mean, I have my own idea how I want my marriage to be."
"Mhm. That's not the question I asked."
"Okay. Um,"
"Why do y'all think y'all can just come up here and do what the hell you want to though? I mean, that's not even I mean, where that work at?"
"I Everybody else, but it's like neither. Can you answer my question before you give me what you want?"
"Yes."
[gasps] [snorts]
"Martin,"
"Which way is which way is a Which way? Which way has a history of working?"
"Um, Will and Jada."
"I'm just being honest."
"How many children you got?"
"Two."
"FROM THE STREETS. I'M A [ __ ] FROM THE STREETS. I GET THAT MONEY. I GET THAT MONEY. [ __ ] GIVE ME WHAT YOU GOT. I GOT THAT MONEY."
"MY CUP is empty. May I"
"I don't understand why you say that uh Will and Ja got more of a history working. Please. So, did that look like it was So, you say that looks like it had more history working. Please explain why. Inquiring minds would love to know."
"Well, because you know"
"Mhm."
"obviously he's a protector. M"
[clears throat]
"and um they're swingers. So both of them were cheating."
"Mhm. Yeah. So where Okay. So you say that Will and Jada and marriages like that have had a longer track record or history of working than Martin and Ketta. Make it make sense."
"I mean come on now. All of these relationships are garbage,"
"including yours."
"Well, I'm single right now."
"Well, you got two kids, so you had at least two relationships."
"Um, I had one relationship. I have my my kids are teenagers. So, um,"
"same father."
"Yes, same father."
"Was that relationship garbage, too?"
"Uh, at the beginning it was it was great. It was great, but like towards the end it got a little rocky."
[laughter]
"This is almost too easy. So, you got your own ideas on how you want to do. How should marriage work in your opinion?"
"Well, um, two both people should be committed to each other, you know. Um, and I know you say that men should be able to cheat, right?"
"Go ahead."
"So, if he's going to cheat, I mean, I don't see nothing wrong with a man because, you know, men's been cheating forever. So, I mean, what's I don't see no big problem with it, you know. So,"
[clears throat]
"Okay. Still trying to understand how it's supposed to work. They should be committed to each other."
"As long as if if he's going to cheat and have his way and as long as he taking care of the household, I mean, what's the big idea? What's the problem? Everybody should be happy."
"That was Martin and Ketta. J Jada and wasn't they swingers or whatever? I really don't see I really don't know how their relationship was."
"You think you think Ketta Scott King was out swinging or having an affair?"
"No. Was she?"
"See, I want you guys to understand this. Like when I do these focus groups in particular, I ask women questions and about relationships. And it is saddening to realize how little thought women today put into relationships. Y'all just expect this [ __ ] to happen. You just expect I just asked you, you know, how is our marriage or relationship supposed to work out? You're 36 with two kids and I couldn't"
"37 I can't even get 30 seconds worth of talk out of you. You was just they're supposed to be committed to one another and then work some words."
"Mhm. That's no thought. That's no thought. There's no serious thought about a religion. It's just supposed to work. And what I'm trying to get everybody to understand is if the women of the comm you're dealing with they've never thought about a relationship in practical terms, even if they thought about it like in terms of a job, they put more thought into getting a damn job than a husband. And then you wonder why relationships are garbage. Trash in, trash out."
"I mean, relationships don't have to be garbage."
"They're they're garbage. As long as the women are lacadasical, lazy, and don't take it seriously. That's how I mean, because men can only deal with women. And if women aren't you ask a woman what she wants from a man, it's a long laundry list. And ask the average woman, 'What you bring?' It's me. And don't think about it to the point to where All right. At what age do you think women should really start seriously putting pen to paper and putting serious deep thought into long range mate planning?"
"What age? Um about 25."
"Have you done that?"
"No. I'm gonna be honest."
"Then then why you say 25 and you 30 ain't"
[laughter]
"done it? because I want to see other women, you know, that, you know, since I made mistakes, I would like to see other women do it the right way."
"It ain't no other woman's responsibility for you to get yourself together so you don't go around talking about relationships is trash. This is my problem. This is why I ask. I want women who think like you. No one listen. I want women who think relationships like you do to shut up. And let me tell you why I want you to shut the French toast up. Because you women who think like you who have not put long-term mate planning, pen to paper, deep thought, we don't we shouldn't have to hear any of your opinions because they're not based in any seriousness. And all it does is puts more toxicity and confusion into the into the marketplace. The women who were serious would be better off not hearing your unfounded, unquestioned opinion based on nothing but just opinion. That's what you got these 24 year old girls. They listen to y'all who in your mid30s and 40s and they never ask, 'Well, ma'am, have you ever really put some real thought about this?' No, I'm just telling you how I feel right now. Young women are listening to y'all. Kevin, you you're right. I mean, I'm not disagreeing with you. You're right. But I'm just being honest. I mean, what you want me to lie?"
"Well, no. What I what I want is for you"
"Mhm."
"to do what you need to do. You say you got two kids."
"Yes."
"All right. And you say that women should start putting thought to this about 25. Did you never How did you come up with 25?"
"Well, cuz when they 25, you know, they didn't probably had they fun during their, you know, 20."
"But why did you do Why haven't you done it at 37? What are you waiting on?"
"I mean, I'm dating. I'm dating."
"Okay. I don't care if you're dating. I asked about the long-term deep thought planning. Why haven't you done that yet? At 37 with two children, why are you going on the next me as date if you haven't thought about what comes next? What you're do what you're dating for?"
"I I'm dating for a marriage, Kevin. But you haven't put any thought or plans into Okay, you're they date based on feelings. They don't plan. And that's what I've just shown, ma'am. You're dating with no goal. I mean, you're dating with hoping for this to work. Where's your plan that you said the 25year-old, where is that when you go out on the next date? Where"
[clears throat]
"is it? You said where now?"
"Where is it? Where's your plan?"
"What is my plan for my next date?"
"Yeah, because you because you cuz you say you're dating. Okay, cool. But where is this thought out concept of what a marriage or relationship should be?"
"Well, my rel my relationship I would like for it to be like um I would like a provider man."
"Why?"
"because it just feel more comfortable. Like"
"how old is your youngest child?"
"Uh 17."
"Why should you need a provider male at 37 with he why why should a provider man needs to pay for young kids? Why does he need to pay for for"
"you don't have to pay for I mean he don't have to pay for my son."
"That's the point. So why okay a provider male. You need a provider male to take care of you. A provider male. Would it be better for if Okay. For the black community, if we got a limited supply of provider males, right?"
"Okay. Would it be better for those men to get with young childless women and make families or women your age with kids?"
"It would be better for them to get with a younger woman. Yes, it would. So why why would you why why would you selfishly need a provider male if you're not providing kids?"
"I can have kids."
"Lord have mercy Jesus. Selfish. Like I said last night at the focus group. Ladies, modern women are selfish because ma'am, you're too old. You've already had your kids. Not your turn. You get what's left. You get what's left. You get what's left after the provider males get with the young women that give them free wombs, open wombs, no trauma, no drama. Those people can go off and build the community. And then the other women who have no kids can get with the other men. Then women like you who've already decided to have children with other men and got trauma and drama and everything else. You can get"
"trauma,"
"trauma and drama and whatever. You can get what you can get what's left. But we need to keep our better quality men with a better chance of having better families. And if it was the opposite, I'd say we need to give our younger women to men who are going to be provider males. It's better for everybody, man, because you've already had your kids. You've already had your life."
"Can I Can I say something, please?"
"Yes."
"So, I supposed to settle for a uh regular type dude."
"How tall are you?"
"I am 5'3."
"Dress size?"
"I am a medium."
"Dress size number"
"um age 10."
"How much did you weigh the last time you weighed yourself?"
"157."
[clears throat]
"Fresh face out of the shower. Just your natural face. On a scale from 1 to 10, what would you rank yourself?"
"My natural face."
"What? Okay. Fresh face out of the shower. Your natural face. You can't use seven. What would you rank yourself? 1 to 10."
"A six."
"Okay. A six is right above average. The five is average, right? You're 5 foot three, 100 dress size 10. So that's above average weight. 5' 3, you should be roughly a dress size four. 46 125 lbs. Even if I believe you're 157, 160, you're almost 33 lb. 33% over your ideal target weight"
"and you have listen. If you're if you're average to cute looking, if you're below average health from a weight standpoint and you have two children overall, does that make you below average, average, or above average? Factor all those things in together. average."
"So why should you get anything up then? Why should you get above average? What do you mean settle for? You should get what you are."
"I see me I see millionaires with average women all the time."
"They don't have big chest tattoos either. And two other kids. Man, I'm just saying. Okay. I want to No, no. I mean, let's be honest. Let's be honest. Why should an average woman say she's settling for an average man?"
"Nothing wrong with Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait."
"No, no. You said so I should just settle. No, you said that. Listen, listen. You said so I should just settle for an average guy. And I'm like, you're an average woman. Why should you not"
"I would be I would be settling. I mean, he could I mean, nothing."
"Why would Why would Okay. Why would you be settling and he wouldn't? So, what would he be doing? Would he be upgrading?"
"He don't got no money. So if he don't have no money,"
"you ain't fine enough for no money."
"I'm not fine enough for money."
"No,"
"you're fine. You You said you're six, ma'am. You said you're six. You don't get money."
"You get second shift at the plant."
"Did you go to college?"
"No, I didn't. Okay, ma'am. So,"
"I have my own business though."
"Congratulations. [clears throat] Don't care, ma'am. You got two children and you said you are six. I give you Okay. 56. You your numbers together would be average. So, why? So, an average man would be upgrading to get you."
"Look, I didn't say."
"I'm asking. I'm asking, ma'am, cuz I'm ma'am, we're just having a conversation. You said you'd be settling. So, by by extension, he would be"
"Okay. I guess we'll be settling for each other."
"Well, but no, but my my my issue is you said settling for him. That means you'd be getting something less than what you deserve. When we settle, we get less."
"I already have all everything that I need. If if he's not adding to me, then that will be settling, right?"
"Baby, I want you to understand what I asked you last night. I asked this question often times with black women. If you have to work as hard today or harder if you want children with a husband, would you rather have a husband or be single? And almost 100% of the time, black women would say, 'If I have to work as hard as I am today with a husband, I'd rather be single.' Because a husband is not just by being a man ain't enough. He's supposed to make her life easier. That is why I have no problem telling women to die alone. It is not our job to make women's lives easier. It's our job to protect, provide, but that's not necessarily easy. It's harder. Relationships are hard. So, ma'am, you got all the things you need except somebody to share life with. And the man who can meet your standards, okay? Can he meet other women's standards? Yeah."
"Okay. Then why should he not get the best? If he can meet your highest standard, he can meet another one another woman's standard. And all I'm saying is if why should a man have to settle for a woman with two kids cuz you got a business?"
"They don't have Kevin, they don't have to settle for me."
"But my But you said you be settling for him."
"Okay. Just like you, Kevin. You say that high value men are supposed men are supposed to have money, right? That's what you say."
"So if they don't have money, that means their value is low, right?"
"No."
"And you go off women."
"No, no, no, no. If you want to know no high, okay, high value men, that's completely different component. That's less than 10% of men."
[clears throat]
"And high value men get high value women. Women who are in high demand,"
"right?"
"That's not your category. Because I got kids, right?"
"You're not ma'am. Ma'am. Yes. Are you Would you say that you're a woman that's uh in high demand or most wanted?"
"I could be. I mean, yeah, I could be. I mean,"
"you could be. So, okay. So, so listen listen by myself."
"Hold on. Hold on. Hold on. Ma'am, you're 37 with two children. Where in the world do women who are average to above average look, average to cute, who are a little overweight with two kids, where are these women in high demand?"
"Kevin, I'm working on myself. So if I"
"No, ma'am. I asked a very specific question. It's not No, because I You're working on yourself. That's fine, but that doesn't mean you're in high demand. I can get there. Can I"
"and see?"
"So,"
"you mean to tell me if I don't if I can lose 20 pounds"
"and"
"80 years ago 80 years ago would a woman in your position even without the children 80 years ago would a woman in your position be with the with the top 10% man?"
"You said 80"
"80 years ago. 80 years ago will she be with a man in the top 10% of all men. 80 years ago."
"Yeah."
"No, they're only there are limited amount of these men to go around. Ma'am, just want you guys to understand, especially in the black community, you're an average woman by any stretch of the imagination. And I think that's being fair. Average at best is more likely to term. Average at best would be pretty fair."
"Why would But why would But listen,"
"I'm listening."
"But the issue is, so I got to settle for an average man. That's not settling. That's getting what you can afford to buy on the sexual marketplace."
"Okay. So, if I wanted a high value man, what do I do?"
"Be reincarnated. You can't get one. Let me be honest. You can't. You're 37 with two kids. If they're less than 10% of the men, why would he pick you over a woman with no children?"
"But Kevin, I talk to pretty good high volume. I go on dates with high caliber men."
"Yes. They will go on dates with you. They will talk to you. They'll have sex with you."
"We talk about marriage. We talk about marriage. I want you to understand this is what the issue is because I talked about this for a year and a half because men will deal with you. What man of value who is a high value man recognized by other men of value? What man that fits in that category is seriously vetting you to be a wife today?"
"I'm talking to someone now. I'm in I'm been dating this guy now who's a high pretty high value and we we've been talking."
"How old is he?"
"He's 51."
"Uhhuh. What makes him high value?"
"He own his own uh"
[clears throat]
"car dealership"
"and"
"he has multiple businesses."
"Uhhuh. Uh he own houses. Like he's doing he's doing pretty good for himself. He probably not rich, but"
"ma'am, being high value is more than just money."
"He got a good head on his shoulders. He got a good personality. He take care of himself. He work out. He don't even look like he"
"Jesus Christ, man. I'm trying to be I'm trying to be reasonable, but it's more than just money. And I'm saying a man like Okay, why would a man How can I say this without sounding rude? Kevin, just"
"I'm trying to Why would a man who has this going on and what state are you in?"
"I am in Cleveland, Ohio."
"Okay, I didn't I just said state, but anyway, why would a man who's choose a woman like that? Okay, if you say he's high value to me to when I talk about high value, it's not just money. It's it's over a period of time. It's what you do. It's also men of value must recognize you as a peer or a potential peer. You got to have a network of highv value men and others and you must be useful to others in a group. So you look you judge a man not just on his money by his network by other men who say yeah that's a man of value. He's a mover and shaker most eligible. Okay ma'am but these men don't settle."
"They don't settle. They don't get women who are they don't they don't they don't there there are men on on YouTube right now saying I don't know what I'm talking about by about being high value. But here's one thing that they do agree with me on. They don't take a woman with children. They don't I've had men who vehemently disagree with me on a lot of things. They don't listen to me, but unanimously we don't take another man's children because that's not even in our in their mindset. They don't. So you ladies can call it what you want. And I'm thinking if How long have y'all been dating? Um, two weeks now."
"I"
[clears throat]
"said seriously considering you to be a wife in two weeks. Ma'am,"
"we just been I said we've been talking about it,"
"ma'am. That's what I'm saying. Ma'am, I said what? I said, what man of value is recognized by other men of value is seriously vetting you to be a wife? And you said this, man. You ain't known with this dude for two weeks."
"FROM THE STREETS. I'M A [ __ ] FROM THE STREETS. I GET THAT MONEY. THE ONLY REASON I'M PUSHING this hard, man, is because I get I really get it triggers it triggers me when I hear average women talking about settling for average men. And I'll be honest,"
"why do it trigger you?"
"Because you'd be lucky to get an average man. He would be settling for you. He would be settling for you to have to deal with you two children from somebody else. Yes, ma'am. That's why because"
"nothing. No, you asked. Let me finish. He'd be settling for you because you"
"cuz I got two children"
"amongst other things. Yes."
"I I mean I'm a good person to get along with. So"
"that maybe that maybe you could be you could be a perfectly lovely person but there are other women who are perfectly lovely people who are childless and more physically appealing. That's fine. Like I mean"
"so that means so man by definition. See that's the thing. The kind of men you ladies talk about you want they are rare. They are for every one for every man that falls into your category there thousands of women that mourn him."
"Mhm. He can only have one wife. That's why"
"you telling he gonna have a lot of wine. I mean"
"no no no. He gonna have a lot. He gonna have a lot of He gonna have a lot of He gonna cheat a lot but he gonna have one wife. You can only marry one person. It's called It's called All right, that's enough. That's enough. That's enough. No, that's enough. You can only have one wife. Don't No, no, no, no. That's all. You can only have one wife. No. Nope. You've had You sat there and and I'm And why did you marry your your baby daddy?"
"Apart."
"This is Huh?"
"We grew apart."
[laughter]
"Jesus, don't say you grew. She grew. Softball. Softball. Softball. You grew apart. Was that before after the second child?"
"The second child we we was getting into arguments and stuff. So"
"Uhhuh. So. And how long were y'all together?"
"We was together since we was teenagers."
"See, that's the problem. That's another problem, man. You get no higher than your baby daddy? Cuz men look at a woman and then she look at her children because men say, 'I'm I'm not going to go raise another lesser man's child.' That's what happens."
"You think all men think like that?"
"You think I got a million subscribers on each platform because I don't know what I'm talking about? You think I can do this night in night out and people coign? Ma'am, y'all would be better off to realize that more men think like this because the results show they do. That's You're almost like a mirror copy of average at best. The video that's that that sparked a lot of this. She only had one kid. You got two."
"Yes."
"You trying to make it seem like I'm like I'm Are you trying to"
"I'm saying I'm making it seem No, I want you to understand that how we came in is the same thing that she said. I would you saying I would have to settle for an average man and I talk I This is a men's platform. What do you think he was saying to all the men that are average men when you say that you will be settling for them? 50% of men are average or below. You don't have a problem offending them."
"No, I don't want to offend nobody. What is"
"when you say you settle? Okay, ma'am. If I said I settled for you, would you would that make you feel good? A lot of people settle."
"If I said I settle for don't see when a when a woman doesn't answer a question directly, she's attempting to be deceptive."
"Yes, I'll be mad. Yeah, I'll be mad."
"Right. Thank you. So, don't play with me. So, when you say you're going to settle for an average man, you don't mind offending them. So, I have no problem telling you why I think it's crazy for an average woman. Average. You say"
[clears throat]
"you're five, a six, I'll give you a six. 56. Okay, fine. But all the other things, man, put you below average. Where can I want you listen? Let's take Let's take it away from you and me. Let's take it away from you and me and looks and everything else because it's too personal. Okay, let's let's do this. Okay, let's let's reset the table. Okay. Where would it make sense for a high school graduate who graduated with a C, a 2.0, a C? A 2.0, right?"
"Mhm. Would it make sense somebody like that demanding to get into Harvard, Princeton, MIT, Stanford?"
"No."
"Would they be settling for junior college?"
"No."
"You're Jo College 2.0. But the way you talk and women like yourself talk is like you deserve to get into Princeton, Harvard, MIT, Stanford when you're a 2.0 going to junior college."
"Can I say something?"
"Sure. I mean, and understand people go to junior college and get associates decide to go to junior college and go to a four-year. And it would be far better in the world for women who are average to get with an average man because an average man provides a woman options. But I don't want you get with an average man and feel like you're settling. You need to treat that man with respect because a man is worth more than a goddamn paycheck."
"I would never. I mean, if I'm in a relationship with somebody, why would I disrespect them?"
"I'm talking about women in general. And well, you disrespected them by saying settling. That's why. That's disrespectful. That's disrespectful. Saying I'm settling is a condescending, disrespectful tone. Just like you say, you would feel some kind of way if I said I settled for you. But my grandmother settled for my my grandmother had a sixth grade education. My grandfather had a fourth grade education. She settled for him and gave us a family, a legacy that we are still trying to measure up to. We are not doing nearly as well as the people who had less education and more hard more harsh circumstances in the black community before us. We are not good stewards of our leg of their legacy. And part of the reason is because our women are so out of line. You think you're settling or should get more and you can't get more. There are only a handful of these men, but the rest of the rest of women get men who roughly around their area. Yes, it's okay to want something better. It's okay to graduate with a 2.0 and want to get into Princeton or want better, but you got to be realistic and pick. Now, again, everybody who thinks I'm being a little harsh or whatever, she's 37 with two kids and still hasn't putting together any real thought about what a marriage or relationship should be. But y'all focus on my tone and my delivery and this and that. And all I'm sitting here trying to do is tell women like you, ma'am,"
"that you would be well, life is better with somebody on your level. And understand something. Let me say this and I'll let you speak. If I put you with a high value man, you were his wife and you went around these places, do you feel like you would fit in a room with these women, their wives?"
"Yes. Yes. Cuz I'm very I'm classy. I'm not a ratchet type woman. I'm"
"say you're ratchet."
"I know how to speak. I know how to drink from a glass. I mean,"
"ma'am, they would look ma'am, they would look at your chest tattoo and and rule you out."
"I could cover that with makeup, Kevin. I wouldn't I wouldn't even have this type of"
"Okay. Okay. Okay. And see, that's and that's another thing. I've had so many women who were married to these kind of men say, 'These women have no idea how snarky and how how vicious these women can be.' And I got this when I was young."
"It doesn't matter, ma'am. You got it. And you still got two kids out of wedlock, ma'am. They're going to All a woman would have to do is like, 'Oh, hey, how you"
[laughter]
"doing? Hey, hey, Roger. Here's your here's your wife. Uh, hey, uh, Miss Cleveland. Hey, how you doing?' So, Roger. Yeah. He's a VP of marketing. Uh-huh. And And where'd you graduate from college? Uh, what? Ohio. O state. Michigan. B. Oh. Oh, you didn't gradu Oh, you didn't graduate from college. Okay. All right. Uh, Mr. I'm just tell Okay, never mind. They don't get it. They don't get it. They don't get it. They don't get it."
"I thought, can I say something? You said you say something. Go ahead."
"I thought you said like college and all of that type of stuff didn't matter."
"I said to men it doesn't matter. [clears throat] But I'm thought I asked you being in the room with their wives. When you're in with the soccer moms and the 4 club and the junior league and all these other women, oh, women size you up. They're looking at everything about you. And you know how women can be. And if you don't, let me tell you, these women, they look at everything."
"But I I I"
"All right. Never mind. Never mind. It's enough. Enough. It's enough. It's enough."
"Can I You said at the end of the day, no. You don't get a high value men want something for their value. You may be a perfectly lovely woman, but they're limited in supply. And if you had as many options as he does, would you settle for a man like you? Would you settle for a woman like you? Would you do that? If you had as many options as men as he has in women, would you settle for you?"
"Yes, I would."
"Of course you would. Outside of your mind. That's why I have no problem. That's why I have no problem staying staying on on code because shame, insults, guilt, they need to be right there, they gonna keep going and keep going and keep going and keep going and keep going and keep going. Keep going. Average at best meet average at worst. Nothing's been learned. They all think that women, yeah, that's her, but I'm special. No, you're not special. Let's slow this down and really look at what's happening here because this is a perfect example of why so many people are stuck in the same dating loop year after year. She's 37 years old, two kids, single, and the first red flag isn't even what she wants. It's the fact that she's dating with no clear goal. That alone tells you everything. At that age with children involved, dating without intention isn't freedom. It's avoidance. It's drifting. And drifting always has a cost. Now, she says she wants a provider. Man, cool. That's not the issue. Wanting provision isn't delusion by itself. The problem is wanting a provider while offering no structure, no direction, and no plan. Men who provide don't just look at desire. They look at risk. and two kids plus no long-term vision is high risk. Then she ranks herself a six. I'll give her credit for at least not calling herself a 10 like most people do. But here's the uncomfortable truth. Being average is not an insult. Staying average while demanding above average outcomes is the problem. Average looks, overweight, two kids, and dating casually, that doesn't line up with a provider man's priorities. It just doesn't. And what really stands out is the selfishness disguised as self-love. Everything is about what she wants, what she deserves, what she's not willing to compromise on. But there's very little reflection on what a man would actually gain by committing to her situation. Relationships don't run on entitlement. They run on mutual value. This is where the delusion creeps in. She's living like time is unlimited. Like the dating market pauses for feelings. Like men with options are lining up to sign long-term responsibility with no clear return. That's not how reality works, especially not at 37. And here's the part people don't want to hear. When you have children, you don't get to date aimlessly anymore. Every decision affects more than just you. A provider-minded man thinks legacy, stability, peace, not chaos, confusion, or emotional indecision. This isn't about attacking her. It's about telling the truth because the longer someone stays in this mindset, the harder the landing is when reality finally hits. Dating without a goal at this stage isn't empowerment. It's procrastination dressed up as confidence. And Kevin wasn't being cruel. He was being honest. Because if she doesn't get serious now, the market will make the decision for her later. And the market doesn't care about feelings. That's the reality."