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Alrighty all, welcome back to the channel. Today we're watching a video from Casey Xander called "Women Plan Their Exit and Backup Man in the Relationship Behind Your Back." Let's jump straight into it. As always, go and support Casey's channel, links in the video description. Let's jump in.
So, there's a concept here that I really have to address with everybody watching, and that would be teaching and explaining how women plan their exit and how women move on to the next man. Okay? And why a lot of times if you're dating a woman, you will even consider this as cheating, but she'll most likely never see it that way because she's operating through her own emotions. Today I'm going to really be showing you how women plan their exit strategy and why they plan this a lot of times months in advance and even how a lot of times what will happen is she may be lining up backup options along the way, um, behind your back or there's men from the past that either it didn't work out for a little bit of time or things fizzled out, but there's always that connection.
Okay, this is really important to understand because what you have to understand is when you're dating a woman today, you essentially are the current representation or the masculine ideal that's in front of her at this time. But in the past, there has been other masculine ideals or masculine presence that has been in her life that has potentially impacted her a certain way. Therefore, she views things differently. So, why would...
All right, let's talk about this for a little bit. I'm going to go on a bit of a tangent here and then we'll continue to play this video. And this is, this is a topic that a lot of guys really grapple with and struggle to grapple with and understand until it happens to them. So, guys will watch content like this and say, "Nah, not my girl. Won't happen to me. She wouldn't do that to me. That only happens to guys who can't keep their woman happy." Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. It's only burnt out guys who, you know, couldn't keep a woman and that's why they're saying stuff like this. But not me, because I've got a massive [ __ ] and I smash the absolute back out of my misses every day and she's happy.
I can tell you right now, guys, the moment a woman switches off on you, you should be able to tell. A lot of guys ignore it and put their head in the sand, but essentially they're going to stop treating you with respect. Uh, it will start off slowly. They'll start nitpicking you more than usual. Now, women nitpick all the time, and I'm also talking about it when you're living with a woman. This is from the perspective of living with someone who is viewing you as second fiddle or not even second fiddle, 10th fiddle. You might have had an argument and she switched off on you and that was it. She's decided in her mind there and then at that particular point that she's going to start planning for the exit. And generally what they do is they'll try and wear you down into the ground until the point where you cut the cord. You're seen as the bad guy. And if you don't, then eventually that's when guys say she just up and left because you weren't going to do it. But that has been coming for six months, 12 months, 18 months. The nagging's been there. You've been getting criticized for small things all the time. You can't put the washing back out of the dishwasher in the right place. The, the, you've put the cups and bowls in the wrong slot or when you wash things in, in the, uh, in the sink, uh, you've left a little, uh, little bit of food in the, uh, in the drain. She'll pick you up and pull you apart on any little thing. And I'm only giving you a few little examples, but guys who have been through this, you'll exactly know what I'm talking about. You didn't put the clothes in the, in the basket. You left your, uh, your socks on the ground. You had a busy day at work. You kicked your shoes off. You kicked your socks off next to your shoes. You didn't put them in the basket. You're going to get pulled up and arraigned on that. You're not helping out enough with everything. It doesn't matter what it is. You could be doing everything, but one little thing that you don't do that you're going to pick you up on it. This comes from a place of dissatisfaction to the point where you're just going to be put through misery by a thousand cuts. So that's when you should know when someone's on your back always seemingly unhappy that it's the start of the end.
When women aren't happy, they'll say those words, "I'm not happy." Or they won't even tell you. You won't know, but they'll be telling their friends, then their social networks, even people at work about it. Everyone else will know before you experience the rug pull. That's the brutal thing about female nature is for the most part, they're not very good at telling you exactly what it is that is bothering them and giving a guy an opportunity to act on it. They'll tell you other superficial things and you'll be trying to work on those. Uh, you'll be trying to steer the ship back into more calm waters and you're confused because you're doing all these things that she said she wanted you to do and you can't work out why she's still miserable and is getting worse. It can be, oh, you're going out with your friends too much, so you stop doing that. Or you, you're too stressed and serious about money, so you try and, you know, take, take the foot off the budgeting and be a bit more fun. Still not happy about it. It doesn't matter what it is, guys. It isn't the true cause. Isn't the true thing that's upset her. A lot of the times, this will happen after you've had some sort of big blow up and you haven't been able to resolve it. And that just lingers and festers and they start looking for other options. And it might not be right away, but all it takes is one guy to weasel their way in, start giving her the feels, and that's when she'll completely switch off on you. And just like Casey said, women have options coming at them all the time. There are guys from the past, even if it didn't work out, uh, that might be the one in their mind that got away and they, they got with you thinking that you might be a better option. You've turned out to disappoint her somehow. She's going to start trolling back through other guys that she's known and start trying to reinitiate contact. Now, it might not be sexual straight off the bat, but a lot of time it's going to go that way over time. She'll start trying to speak to guys that she had flings with, um, who she hooked up with, or who she couldn't lock down before you came along, trying to see if, you know, do they have girlfriends now? Is there a chance there to rekindle something? I know it sounds like something you don't want to hear, but that's, that's how this whole light switch effect happens. It's really nasty, actually. And I think that's why a lot of guys don't come back from really big, uh, pivotable breakups with women in their lives, especially when you've been married or living together and you've invested in them. Uh, when they've been very treacherous or seen to be very treacherous and ruthless with them. It's a very hard thing. I don't think any woman would truly understand the impact of the actions, um, that they do to men and how that is a long-lasting effect that hangs around for a long time.
Now, I'll talk about one other thing before I get going again. Now, I know I'm sort of ranting and carrying on here, but that's why you're here. When a guy goes through a horrible divorce or bad breakup, that will stick around and linger with him for years, especially if it was not something that he wanted and he didn't see it coming and he was shocked. Uh, he was discarded, abandoned, and she's gone and run off to another guy very, very quickly. The dating apps are full of women like that. And those are the kinds of women that I pull apart on this channel, my other Gman Speaks TV channel. I'm not saying every woman does it, but a lot do. What they'll do is they'll, they could be married for 10 years, 15 years, living with a guy, sleeping next to the guy, knowing in that last 12 months that they're planning for the exit. They're already, uh, speaking to their friends who might have been divorced, asking them for tips. They're speaking to solicitors, lawyers, attorneys, whatever you want to call them, working out how things might fall in their favor if they initiate. Like, they're doing a lot of planning here. And you, uh, or not you guys, all us guys who have been through it, when you get whacked with it, it is completely life-changing. It turns your whole life upside down. And it's the whole safe world theory is shattered. And that's why men really struggle to come back from it. And it's not because they hate women. Uh, it's not because they don't want to have girlfriends and move on. It's because somebody that was that close to you could treat you so badly, could be so treacherous when you've done nothing wrong. Most of the time the guy's done nothing wrong. You might be working a lot. You might be trying to save money and you're not maybe not being that fun because you want to pay the mortgage down. You don't want to go on holidays and all that sort of [ __ ] that women want to do two and three times a year and spend all your money. Stuff like that. That'll be seen in their eyes as enough to completely check out of the relationship. So all the promises that they've made, they just go, they disappear. And the guy is going, "Hang on, we promised each other we're going to be here for the long term. Good times and bad. You said you wanted to build with me. You wanted to build a relationship and build wealth together and have a house and all that." But when it comes down to it, once they start getting that feeling like they can get a better deal somewhere else, that's when they start doing [ __ ] like this. And that's one thing that's a real bitter pill for men to swallow. And that's what leads a lot of them to start engaging with this content because they're looking for answers. And you start Googling, why did my wife do this or why did my girlfriend do that? And you start finding channels like this and others. As they say, the red pill is given. You don't take it. It is jammed down your throat or it's shoved up your ass or whichever way you want to say. Women exit, how women exit, why the relationship a lot of times is purely just her emotional security or her emotional safety. I'm going to be explaining all of this to you.
Okay. What will typically happen in the beginning when you start dating a woman is she's going to get a test of your value. So, the more she dates you, okay, the longer she dates you, she's seeing essentially how much value you bring to the table. And by default, she's able to extract some of that value just by being associated with you. If you have a cool life, she gets to be part of a cool life. Now, there's other forms of value. Maybe she feels safe around you. Maybe she feels like you have a calming presence. Maybe she feels like you're the man of her dreams. Whatever the case may be, these emotions that she feels is largely rooted in words. Okay? And these emotions can change at any time. So this is what you have to understand if you're dating a woman is if any of you have had past girlfriends, past relationships, if any of you have been married before, you will have a woman who will swear up and down how much she loves you in the beginning. Say how much she could, uh, want to be with you forever. Say everything to you that would signal that this woman is fully committed to me. And then there's a switch. You'll actually watch that switch. Maybe all of a sudden the couple starts disagreeing or arguing about certain things or maybe the conversation even went too logical. This is a huge mistake a lot of men will make in relationships is once you get comfortable with the woman, instead of keeping the dynamic centered in not even necessarily a flirtatious vibe, but just the right type of sentences and conversation where she's happy and excited and bubbly. That takes work. Okay?
That, that's work. That's why I say to guys, 95% of them aren't worth it. Because once you get through that honeymoon phase, that's what he's talking about. The honeymoon phase where you guys are both head over heels for each other, right? All the emotions are there. You'll overlook all these things about her. She'll overlook all these things about you. There'll be a lot of sex going on. She'll be putting in the best performances you've ever had. She'll be telling you all the things that men want to hear. Oh, I really want to, you know, I'm going to be there for you no matter what. It's me and you. Even if you were a worm, I would love you. And all this sort of dumb [ __ ]. They'll say, "I want to build with you. I'm here for the good times and the bad." They'll get you on the hook to go and start looking for houses.
Okay, I'll talk, I'll tell you about another big thing that doesn't get talked about a lot. Women sucking guys into taking on huge amounts of debt. Well, joint debt, but women really don't feel the impacts of the debt. The men, the men really share the take the whole weight of that burden in my opinion because we're the responsible ones. You'll take a whole bunch of debt out to buy a property that is overextending you, but they've fallen in love with it and they'll talk you with it. They'll say, "Oh, we'll have a family in this house. It'll be our forever home. We'll slowly do it up. You'll get promoted in your job. I'll get promoted in my job." And you're like, "Oh, you know that. You know what? That actually sounds pretty good." You know, yeah. Yeah, you're thinking, "Yeah, if we could just do this together, we will absolutely destroy life. We will, we will knock it out of the park. Only in a few years we can really knock down a big chunk of this debt." She'll be saying, "Yeah, I'm going to, I'm going to save. You know, we can live off your wage and we'll bank mine and all this sort of stuff." Then you get the house that might last a month or two and then boom, they can't hack it. They can't hack the discipline. The discipline of saving, grinding, like men have to do their whole lives. And they start getting disgruntled and thinking this isn't what you signed up for when she got married and wanted to have the house and everything. And then the guy gets smacked with a bloody separation or then subsequent divorce. Has to go through the family divorce court, lose everything that he put on the line, all the money he invested to make that reality happen for her, the one that she pressured him into. The guy generally has to go into more debt to either buy her out or has to sell the place to pay her out. Biggest scam of all time in my opinion. That's why I'm very cynical about it because most women will say things out of emotion. They might mean it at that, at that point in time. I think they most of them absolutely do mean it. But when it comes to committing and grinding and and being honorable with a promise for a long period of time, even when it's something they don't want to do or it's difficult, well, they back out of that contract very, very quickly or they rewrite the terms of it and make it hard for the guy. So then he lives a life of misery.
Another really good example of this is what I'm trying to get to. Say you're a guy, um, you're really big into saving money. A lot of guys are, I'm not going to say all guys are, a lot of guys are really good with money. I would say the minority of women are good with money. So, the average guy is going to be out there grinding away, working in jobs, trying to get promotions in jobs that are stressful, that he doesn't really want to do, that he wouldn't do if he didn't have all these financial commitments. He'll be stressed. He'll be thinking of ways to cut corners, cut back on bills. And then, what do you know? The Ms sees that one of your friends, uh, that one of their wives or one of their friends' husbands took him out, uh, for a holiday somewhere and it cost them $30,000 to Paris for two weeks and then she wants to do that. Well, why can't we do that? We can afford it. And that's when the pain starts. And so then you got someone you're living with who then starts to get disgruntled, angry, dissatisfied with life, sees you as the reason for that and you pay for that. You're treading water constantly trying to keep her happy and you can't. And then guys like, "I did everything I could. I sacrificed everything and she still left me." It's a story of many men's lives.
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Takes work as a man. And you know what I'm talking about. Anybody watching this, do not act like you don't know what I'm talking about. You know that you have to use energy and emphasis and effort to create the right vibe and dynamics. So, there's that happy, healthy, cohesive vibe. The second you enter into that fully male state where you're completely logical or completely rational, women just don't like it. You will notice this the more you date. Women by default naturally are just turned off by how a man thinks and actually speaks and operates. Women just don't like it.
Because you know what? It's seen as not fun. Uh, it's seen as boring. And that's just to add to the point that I was talking about with the finances. And that's where a lot of guys get frustrated with their women and end up throwing all their money into a black hole trying to keep them happy. As I said, women will make big promises about finances. You know, we, we'll combine, you know, you're a lawyer and I'm an accountant and, uh, we've got great salaries and futures. Let's, let's really build up. And you're like, "Oh, okay. You know, that sounds pretty good, guys." You get sucked into it. You get joint bank accounts. You get big mortgages, cars. Then she's going to want to get the house remodeled. Doesn't need to be remodeled, but she wants to get the nice bathroom. She wants to get the nice kitchen because one of her friends got their house done. It looks fantastic. Wants to whack. Oh, it's only an extra couple of hundred,000. We'll, we'll put that onto the mortgage. We'll extend our mortgage and borrow more to do that because that's our forever home. And then once she starts getting bored, you're being a bit too logical, like, "Oh, you know, we just took that extra $200,000 of debt on to do the kitchen and the bathroom. Look, we, we can't go for a holiday for the next couple of years. We're going to have to really wind it back." Oh, well, I don't want to live my life like that. Blah, blah, blah. People are saying, "Gee, man, G, that sounds like really out there." How many women do that? A lot. A lot of women use men up for money. People say, "Well, you're married. They're not using them up." Well, at the end of the day, they are because most of the time, the money that's saved in a relationship is the man's doing, and women generally spend all theirs or put very little contribution into the finances. Not going to say, "Oh, I'm going to say very high proportion. It makes them feel bad." Or they'll say that it's too harsh. Or they'll say that despite it being true, it makes them feel bad, so they don't want to hear it. And women will gravitate their whole life towards men who give them soft words and soft feelings and create this illusion or this dynamic that the whole world is, uh, sunshine and puppy dogs and chocolate chip, um, kisses and, um, cookies and candy is the vibe or the presence that's created.
Okay. So, what I'm talking about is just, just think about everything that he said because he, he's talking the truth here. So, think about all the effort that needs to be involved with getting with the wrong woman. He's talking about the wrong woman. I'm going to say a lot of people and a lot of guys out there latch on to the first woman they can get that shows them all this attention. But, as I said, there are always conditions involved, i.e. getting the house, getting him a nice car, all that sort of thing. They're with you for something which makes their life better and elevates their life. So guys are putting in all this effort, all this [ __ ] to try and keep this [ __ ] from hitting the rocks and eventually you can't, you can't steer it away. It's going to hit the rocks and sink. And what happens? As I said, they cash out. And what is one thing that guys get really upset about? Yes, the breakup, it can be very upsetting, but that is only a short-term thing. Six, 12 months, you generally get over it. Over it enough to function and and maybe move on with your life with somebody else. But what stops men from moving on is getting their whole life destroyed. That's the thing that isn't talked about enough. And yes, in these sorts of channels it is, but in the mainstream it isn't. And if you say anything about it, you're a winger or you're not a real man or whatever it might be. I can understand why guys do it once. They get sucked into it. All the programming and all that sort of stuff that we as men, uh, our minds are filled with from when we're little boys. I can understand why guys get sucked into it once. You do it more than once after you've had a horrible experience. That's when I start questioning the decision-making and self-preservation skills. And I'm also saying if you go to a break, I'm not saying don't go out with women. Don't have girlfriends. Don't get into anything. What I'm saying is don't rush into getting married again within bloody two years. Blah. The longer you're in a relationship or the longer you date a woman for, you run the risk of not being able to keep that up all the time. Okay, think about it. When you first go on a date with a woman, you're in that state. You're bringing that right energy. You hold that together for 90 minutes, maybe two hours. Later on down the road, maybe you see her once a week. You're still pretty good at it. But when you start dating for two months, three months, six months, two years, five years, however long, the more...
No, that's the easy part. The dating part's the easy part. That's what I say to guys. Guys say it's so hard to get a girlfriend. The dating market's [ __ ]. And that is not a lie. That is very true. Think about keeping a woman happy for a very long period of time when they have nothing to lose by blowing it up and leaving when they're not happy. Think about the difficulty and stress involved in that. Especially once you do see it going downhill and you're stuck in it and you can even see it happening in front of your eyes, but you put your head in the sand thinking, "Oh, she's just having a bad time. She'll come good soon." And they don't. That's, that's relationships on hard mode is cohabitation and especially marriage and taking on huge debts and not being able to have an easy way out for yourself. You have no leverage. You've handed it over. You got nothing. A lot of guys living the life of towing the line and women will say, "Well, if you don't do that, I'll divorce you." I [ __ ] you not. Women will say that to you or I'll break up with you. I'll leave you. There's one guy I know. I don't see him that much anymore, but he is a very well-to-do, owns a number of small businesses. And his wife said to him, "If you don't take me on two overseas holidays a year, I'm leaving you for someone else. I'm out the door." And he is completely beside himself with this woman to the point where even against his, I'm talking now, these aren't, these aren't small holidays. This is a guy of means. He's probably spending 100 grand on holidays a year to keep this woman happy. Think about that. That's what guys are doing. So that's the hard part, guys. Not dating them and getting them out for coffees and then out for, you know, two, three, four dates and on the hook for two months and then wanting to be a girlfriend. That's when I think a lot of guys see the value. You feel the achievement or you've gotten the girl. Now you haven't gotten the girl. You've gotten her temporarily. That's just the raw hard truth of the matter.
She sees you, the more you're going to run the risk of demonstrating certain thoughts, beliefs, characteristics that give her a different feeling than you gave in the beginning. Now, when that feeling is altered slowly, 1% at a time, she starts to lose faith or lose trust in your character. Even though you're the same man, she starts to view you differently. Okay? Now, as she views you differently, eventually you're going to notice a switch, and you're going to literally be looking into her eyes, and you will just see that she feels absolutely nothing for you. She might even start altering her character a little bit and saying things to you like, "Why do you got to be like that? Why do you have to act that way? I just don't want."
Another one is, "Why do you always say that? Why do you always say things like that?" And, and it would be for just about no reason. You could even just be joking about something. Well, why you always got to say things like that back? But back, you know, two years before you were the funniest guy in the world. As I said, it doesn't matter what it is. Once they start shutting down, they'll find a reason not to like you. It's very same, very similar to the dating apps and, you know, those other videos that I make about women getting the ick. Your wife can get the ick. And I hate saying that word, but that's what they call it. They'll get turned off on you. They'll find a reason. They'll be out with their girlfriends having coffee, right? Their, their girlfriends will be bragging about their husbands or their ex-husbands and then she'll start feeding the negativity. They'll start poking her, "Oh, come on, tell us about Gman or tell us about John Smith." And she's like, "Oh, you know, yeah, he doesn't do this and he doesn't do that and blah, blah, blah. He's boring. All he cares about is work and saving for the future. He's too responsible. He's not smashing my box in every day of the week because he's working 18 hours a day and stressed." I don't miss those days. Like, I've been there. I've been, I've lived with women. I've been married. I've been a serial data womanizer. I've been out of the dating market and had breaks. I can tell you now the most stress-free existence is when you've seen all this, experienced it, you're on the other side of it, and you don't have any financial or legal entanglements of women and you know the moment they play up or they start carrying on to make your life hard, you can just get rid of them and [ __ ] them off. That is the most stress-free place to be. A very stressful place to be is to be a man who is completely bent over a barrel, who's going to face life destruction. And so you go along with the flow, put up with bad attitudes, etc. for long periods of time. You just do it because you know what's coming is, is bad. So you're trying to avoid it. As they say, it's the whole cheaper to keep her mentality.
Want to talk right now? You're going to notice little things. Okay? And then one day, what will happen is there's a complete switch. And when that complete switch has happened where she feels nothing towards you, she won't kiss you, she won't hug you. She definitely doesn't want to be romantic in bed with you. It's completely gone. It's completely over. What has now happened is there has been a prolonged period of probably a couple months or a few months where her heart and her mind and her emotional investment is now centered on a different man. That's what's happened. Her heart, her mind, her emotions are now centered on a different man.
I want to talk about this too because I know I keep stopping. Go watch his original video because I'm not going to get through the whole thing. I'll probably have a few more minutes of ranting and I'll call it there. One of the biggest eye-openers for me is me asking women why they left their boyfriends or husbands when they've been in long-term relationships and are back on the market. And they'll say, "Oh, we just became roommates. I didn't find him attractive anymore." And I'm like, I like to ask questions. I like to learn why. They can't tell you why. Oh, you know, he might have let himself go a bit or he was just really high-strung or he just wasn't fun. Just really surface-level stuff that they blow a whole relationship and life up on, especially when they have kids. A lot of women, and I'm talking about the age range that I was experiencing in was like around 35 when I was really out there again and really my eyes were just wide open. You got women out there who got six-month-old and one-month-old kids, sorry, one-year-old kids, and they've just recently blown up a family. They're straight back out on the dating market looking for the next guy, trying to sell themselves as a prize and begging the absolute [ __ ] out of a dude whose life they've just ruined. It's sickening. And, and the more you see that, the less, the less you'll ever pedestalize. You won't even pedestalize them ever again. You'll see them for what they are, which is a massive risk and liability and drain on your wallet, your mental health, your physical health. If you let them be, most guys let them right in to the point where you got no leverage. They just drain you like a vampire, draining your life force. And eventually they'll discard you. Might not be in five years, might not be in 10 years, be 25 years. You see a lot of BS getting divorced, 50, 60, lives bloody destroyed. Wives cleaning them out. And then those wives at 50 and 60, they're out on the dating apps, too. They're not 35-year-olds. They're 60-year-olds. They're out there doing it. Women of all ages are doing it. It's bloody mental. I know guys around that age range. I know guys in their 60s who tell me that, yeah, nothing changes. The body gets older, but the maturity stays the same. They're not any more well put together. And they've, they've, they've been through the trenches and, you know, divorced several guys or or blown up several long-term relationships and put many guys through the, uh, the wood chipper. They know how to do it. They have no issue doing it. They don't even realize they're doing it. They just do it. They lose women. Women completely see you next Tuesday when they've lost respect for a man. They don't give a [ __ ] about you. As I said, they'll throw you on the street and they'll try and take the last $2 out of your pocket when you're lying there just about to die and you're calling up the triple 0. You're having a heart attack and you're lying on the driveway and you're holding the phone up about to put it to your ear and it says, you know, emergency, emergency, what's your, what do you need? And she [ __ ] kicks the phone out of your hand. Bang. Kicks it across the street. [ __ ] off, idiot. You're done. Oh, I know I'm joking around there, guys, but that's they're cold and ruthless for a reason. It's built into them because they need to be able to switch up and latch on to different men to get that security that they're looking for and programmed to hunt out. That's why I say don't hate women. Just understand them. It's, if, if a dog, if you drop some meat on the floor and your dog eats it, you know, your steak off the table when you're trimming the fat off it and you drop it off the cutting board and your dog runs away with it, you can't get mad at the dog. It's been a dog. It's just knowing what women are all about and making very measured decisions who you let into your life. And most of us don't. A lot of guys learn once, some guys never learn, right? You might experience it once and you learn. That's why I make these videos every day because I know there's a lot of you guys who watch it every day just for a reminder. And while I'm, while I'm saying, I'm not saying don't see women, stay off women. I'm saying don't marry them. Don't marry them fast. Don't move them into your house after six months. Give them a good old road test for three to five years. See how long they stack up after that amount of time.
I'm going to leave it there. I'm ranting a bit here. Go watch Casey's video. Uh, see you in the next one, guys. Also, let me know, is the microphone any good? I got a new one. My other one's been playing up a bit. I've gotten a bit of feedback from you guys. I've gotten a new one. Let me know how it sounds.