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With both hands. And I want you to grip it tight so like I can't get away. Okay. Real tight. And then come here so they can see you. Hang. Hang on real tight. No, don't let it go. Squeeze a little tighter. That's it. Oh, that's really tight. That's good. Now there's no blood flow. It's perfect. Hang on tight.
Now I'm going to show you a metaphor. Henry is fear. I'm going for my goal. Don't let me go. And I try to go for my goal. And what's happening? Something inside is pulling me back. It's fear. Now I got a couple choices. I can try to ignore it. Will that help? >> Yes or no? >> I can try and fight with him. Now, I'm bigger than he is, but on that angle, hang on there. Could he break my arm even without meaning to? Please don't do that. But grab it tight. He could break my wrist easily. But watch, there's another option. I can fight him, right? Try to win. Maybe I win for the moment, but not long term because the fear will come back.
But watch this, Henry. Take me someplace. Take me some Come on. Take me someplace. Come on. Take me some I mean aggressively. Take me someplace. That's it. Come on, Tony. Take me someplace. Take me someplace. That's it. Take me someplace. Why is he tired? Cuz when he went to take me someplace, instead of fighting it or ignore it, I just went with him. If you watch, all he did was stay with his tempo. Wherever he goes, I'm going to go with him. There it is. And what does it become? What does it become? You saw it happen. What did it become? >> A dance. And guess what? Your fear will wear out. Watch. Hang tight.
I'll show you a more specific example. Fear attacks me inside. I fight it. I can break my wrist. I ignore it. It's going to take me. But what if instead I go, don't let go. What if I go like this? I go, I agree with you. It is a little scary. And let's go this way. Don't let go. This is a move in martial arts called Aikido. In Aikido, you don't hurt your attacker. When they attack you, you go, "Ah, energy I can use." If I fight him, it's different. But if I align with him, the more he hangs on, the more control I have. I can take him where I want to go now.