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Have you ever been pissed off by the fact that everybody around you misinterprets you? Why is there so much confusion every time we communicate with someone? Do you wish things were easy? What if we all could read thoughts by looking into eyes? It'd save a lot of energy, right? Unfortunately, it's not going to happen anytime soon. But there is a way to assess human behavior based on personality. By the end of this video, you will understand how to handle people who are difficult to deal with and be ready to face any situation with confidence.
Alrighty, so without further ado, let's dive right in. Lesson number one: What you say is different from what is understood. You know why it's so hard to make someone understand anything properly? Whenever you say something to any person, it passes through so many mental filters that the person has. Things become even more challenging when the other person doesn't understand your language correctly. It's like there is an imaginary wall between you and the other person that your message has to pass through. It's easy to jump to the conclusion that everybody around you is an idiot, but saying other people are idiots is not a great idea. Or is it? The author suggests that we change our mindset first. Instead of changing the other person, we think other people are idiots as we don't understand their standpoint. If your message isn't optimized according to the person you are talking to, it won't get heard in a way you intend it to get heard. Does this mean you have to become an expert in reading human behaviors? Well, not really. The author says that once you know a person's personality type, you can guess how the other person thinks and even predict how he will act in a specific situation. But before we discuss further, let me make this clear: You can't be 100% sure about a person's behavior. Personality type is only a tiny aspect, and it can change with time and situation. Often, behavioral experts feel that they have figured out everything about it, but they forget that people can change. Human behavior is far too complex than we think it is. People act weirdly and irrationally all the time, so don't expect that you will be able to predict a person's future accurately by guessing a person's personality.
Lesson number two: You are a red if you are bold and dominant. The author discusses four types of human behaviors: red, yellow, green, and blue. We will briefly discuss each of them throughout this book summary. If you see someone who loves taking action and always wants to win, it's a red. People with this behavior don't shy away from doing challenging tasks. If you have a red colleague, he will always be the first mover in everything you do together. Reds don't care about relationships too much; they are task-oriented. So if you are not goal-driven, you will have a hard time dealing with them. Reds are full of energy and enthusiasm. To the red people, goals are more important than anything else. They are time-conscious; they want to be the fastest and the best of all. You can figure out a red by judging his confidence. Most reds exhibit confidence as they have great pride in themselves. They don't need other people's opinions to do anything. As soon as they get something in their mind and believe that it's right, they do it. Reds always stand out from the competition as they are fearless and always ready to do things others are afraid of. The problem with reds is that they don't give a damn about what other people think. That's why red people don't have many friends. If a red thinks you're illogical, he won't think twice and say it right away, as he is not afraid of your opinion. It might be challenging to deal with a red person if you are shy. A red sees shyness as weakness. Reds are action-takers; they don't waste time analyzing the details before making bold moves. Most reds are serious about their pride and have a strong ego. Be ready to face anger if you hurt a red person's ego; they tend to get aggressive sometimes. People fear reds and find it challenging to have conversations with them, but regardless of this fact, reds may become great leaders because of their strength to focus on the goals and move forward. Red people can be motivating as they are enthusiastic about new adventures. Some might think that red people are foolish as they jump in without thinking, but if you ask a red about it, he will say, "Where is the adventure? If you waste time thinking."
Lesson number three: You are a yellow if you talk too much. Yellows are the type of people you would want to have company with. They are funny, creative, and enjoy talking so much. Yellows are the best if you feel alone and want to talk. These are the people who love to give advice; they have so many stories to tell and so many jokes to crack. They are full of exciting ideas. Hire a yellow if you have reached your limit while brainstorming on a project. Yellows give more priority to relationships; they want to have as many friends as they can. They want to be happy and love to keep others around them happy. But this doesn't mean that yellows are ideal; they have their flaws. For example, yellows waste more time talking than doing work. If you assign them a job, they will spend more time discussing it. In comparison, if you give the same task to a red, he will jump right in. Yellows are also not very productive; they lack focus. The author says that this is the reason they keep hopping from one job to another. Such people are never entirely focused on anything. Although yellows help improve the work environment and keep the spirit high, they may also prevent other people from doing their work. It's difficult for yellows to work with serious people. Yellows seek fun and enjoyment more than anything else. Some might even get offended and wonder, "When will they stop talking?" Yellows speak more than they listen, and no surprise, they are bad listeners. Don't rely on a yellow if the task requires listening with patience. They don't like boredom, but as we know, high-income skills require patience, which yellows don't have. Also, yellows hate feedback; it's hard to make them listen. They care so much about how they look in the eyes of their friends. This is the opposite of what a red does. A yellow may get sad if people around him are not talking comfortably with him. To him, opinions matter a lot.
Lesson number four: You are a green if you love stability in your life over anything else. So far, we have discussed red and yellow, but the interesting thing is that they are not very common. The author says that most of the population consists of green. There is a reason why 92 percent of people who set New Year goals never achieve them. Although change is a part of life, most people don't like to change. You can't expect different results without changing your actions, right? A green is someone who loves stability; they avoid any conflicts or risks. Don't expect a green to do a job that involves any kind of risk. These people drive only when the sky is clear and there's less traffic on the road. In other words, they go to great lengths to ensure their safety. There's nothing wrong with safety and stability; we all need that, right? But the problem starts when you go to great lengths. The truth is, we live in uncertain times; you can't expect certainty in every situation. Greens are neither introverts nor extroverts, but they avoid standing out from the competition, unlike reds, and they don't talk too much; they speak only when it's necessary. The best part is greens are loyal. The author says that you can rely on them for doing mundane tasks. If you have to assign a project to a green, make sure you describe the job in detail. Remember, greens want to have a sense of stability all the time; they don't do things that are out of their daily routine. They think, "Who knows what dangers are waiting for me? It's better to play safe." This habit of playing safe might make them look cowardly in other people's eyes. Greens care about what other people think of them, but they prefer to hide among the crowd to avoid future conflicts. Naturally, there are risks involved when you stand out from the crowd. What if you make a wrong decision? Greens are indecisive and seek social proof to minimize risks, and usually, the lower the risk, the lower the reward.
Lesson number five: You are a blue if you are an introvert and analytical. Blues don't talk much, unlike yellows. If you prefer to sit alone in a corner and love to analyze people and events around you, congrats, you are a blue. Since most blues are introverts, they have more time to analyze the details. They are good at remembering facts with minor details that any average person may forget. Have you seen the guys in your college who take notes very diligently and even attend extra classes that every student finds boring? Well, that's a blue for you. Most blues don't feel comfortable around people and are not very social. If you want to talk to a blue, make sure you do your homework. They don't like to discuss funny stuff that yellows find interesting; they are rather interested in digging deeper and knowing more. But remember, blue people are introverts, so they talk less. Blues are not looking to build better relationships. This doesn't mean that they are bad at relationships; it's just that they're more concerned about the information and data. Most university toppers are blue. If you want to complete a project that involves a lot of research and analysis, a blue is a perfect fit for that. In comparison, a red may be the first one to jump in, but usually, reds aren't as good and thoughtful as blues. When a red is pushing to complete this type of job, the blue will thoroughly analyze all of the possible solutions. Although blues have supreme analytical abilities, they might offend people as they are not very social and don't know much about carrying friendly conversations. Also, blue people love to do everything systematically; they prefer order, like greens. The difference is that blues are perfectionists. "Good enough" is not enough for them; they would rather spend extra time to bring perfection to their work. The problem here is nothing is perfect. This obsession with perfection sometimes prevents blues from finishing a job and moving on. It doesn't look like a big issue, but when you are working in a group where more than two people are involved, it's necessary to focus on the critical aspects and sometimes ignore not-so-critical aspects. By the way, if you don't have time to read books, I highly recommend you to visit wizbuzzcout.com and sign up for a weekly newsletter to stay updated and get access to 100-plus detailed book summaries on business, finance, marketing, psychology, and personal growth. This is one of the fastest and easiest ways to skyrocket your knowledge.
Lesson number six: No color is perfect, so learn how to adapt. The author makes it clear that no color is perfect. You may like a particular color based on your mindset and beliefs, but remember, humans are complicated. You can't define a person with a single personality. Dividing behaviors into colors only gives you a rough idea about a person. Maybe now you realize why some people get along and why some people don't. If you are a red and the other person is also red, chances are you two will understand each other well. Ideally, it makes sense, but remember, reds have a strong ego. Two people with strong egos don't get along; they are bound to have conflict sooner or later. The author found that reds have temperament issues; they lose their temper fast if they see someone irritating. The point is, you can't put people in a box and say this is how they will behave. What you can do is learn and adapt. Have a rough idea about what color a person is and then adapt yourself based on the behavior of a person. The key is to know your behavior first. Ask yourself, "What is my color? Blue, red, yellow, or green?" Usually, people tend to have a mix of two or three colors, so identify every time you meet a person and act accordingly. Now you tell me which color are you? Let me know in the comments below. Also, if you are new here, don't forget to smash that subscribe button and the bell icon to never miss any future video. Now a quick question: Do you know how to win any negotiation and get other people to say yes? Watch this video to learn more. [Music]