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"Pearl, You've Changed?" How I got Here

Pearl11:09

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What up, guys? Welcome to my coffee talks. Today, I'm in a ranting mood. So, I think I'm just gonna rant.

Um, even though I just made a coffee talk before this, and I was thinking about how some of my old friends from black YouTube, they had kind of asked me what happened to me because some of my rhetoric around black people has changed. Now, for those of you that don't know, I grew up in all white area and I really never had any qualms about race. I never cared about it, never thought about it. In fact, my mother used to say that if there was a black girl on my volleyball team or basketball team, it would usually be about 10 white people, one black girl. I was always friends with her. And I think it's cuz I have a similar sense of humor to black people. I don't know why, but I've always enjoyed them like at parties and I think they're funny, right? I think they're funny. I think they're entertaining. And I I genuinely have a positive disposition towards them. And that really has been my life, you know?

Um, I had a black boyfriend when I was younger and I didn't care or see race. And I think most white people were kind of raised like this, like we don't care. We don't really see race until we have to. And that happened to me. So this person um said, "I don't know what's gotten into you. I know you're not racist." And I'm like, "I'm not racist." However, I have some observations, you know.

So what happened was I I grew up in this white area. Um, I went and I worked in sales in a completely white office. never cared, never thought about it much. Um, if I had a black boyfriend or dated someone that was black, usually he grew up around white people. So, anyways, I end up moving to England. In England, immigration has made that city not white at all. I lived in a Muslim area. I lived I spent a lot of time in an African area and I lived in a pretty African area. Um because I lived in the east London and east London um like west is more British, east is and that's where my volleyball was. So that's that's where I played. So I got to know other cultures and when I was in London I had a almost 100% black staff. So um if you're in entertainment, everyone knows entertainment that's got a lot of black people in it. It's kind of like personal training got like I'm into athletics. a lot of black people in athletics, you know, it would kind of be like saying Asians do math, white people are engineers, you know, there's just some tropes, right? And I ended up employing 100% black people. And this was a mistake um because almost every s not every single one. It's not every black person that betrays you, but the things that happened um when I did that just would never have happened in a white area. And the cope with black people, they say white people commit crime, too. And I'm going to go into what happened. I say no. I grew up in a white area for 20 years. None of this happened. I had a camera stolen. I was extorted for money. I had a bunch of black people that I gave opportunities to. Like I one guy, he was my co-host for like a year and a half. Doubled his subscribers. Doubled them. He had like 50,000 subs. And when he joined my channel and we co-hosted the show, his subscriber count went up by double. He ended up calling me a a racist colonizer and accused me like of trying to take footage of black people and hold it over their heads. Now, I'll explain what happened and it was just incredible.

So, I've never been a big drinker because I'm too into fitness. And I threw this whiteboard party. I love I I had a birthday party and um at my parties I tell people you can give a presentation on anything. I think this is a fun party game. You should do it if you want. And um you know sometimes the whiteboard presentations got a little like out there sexual whatever. But they're kind of funny, right? Like I did a presentation. I said I'm always on the side of the women, but men do cap about things. And today I want to talk about the things you men cap about. And I'm like money. none of you are making as much money, you know. And I and I kind of went on. Another guy said, "The types of girl you have in your rotation, your number one draft pick, runner up, but there's something wrong with her. Girl you only see once a month." That's how I kind of came up with, you know, if you want to see how serious a guy is about you, you got to see how often he's seeing you, depending on if he has the time, right? Because some men just um they have the time to see you every day and see another [ __ ] every day. It just depends on, you know. So anyways, anyways, so he accused me of like setting up this whole party and like basically trying to get footage of black people and hold it over people's heads, right? And it was just incredible because he took footage from the party and used it in this like YouTube video he made about me and it got a ton of views and there was just so many black people I gave opportunities to that they just kept [ __ ] it up. another girl, I would let her come on my show all the time, also called me a racist. And before this, I didn't care. I didn't see race. Um, I then went on a black um owned YouTube network and I had a black girl scream at me and the company never paid me, right? And it it was just like over and over again. Um, another black guy that worked for me was smoking weed on the job and telling my other editors to do less work so he wouldn't look bad. I had an editor have a mental breakdown because he was doing the work of all the black people that worked for me. And um it it it was just incredible um how I would give black people opportunity after opportunity after opportunity and they would just it's like something about black culture where they feel as though if you're willing to be taken like women kind of have this too. Women feel like if you're willing to buy a stranger drinks at the bar that you deserve to be taken advantage of. If you're willing to buy her dinner, you deserve it. And it's very similar to the way black people do. If you're willing to pay me when I'm doing a bad job, um I like that's your fault. And to some degree, they're kind of right. Right. They do teach you not to be suckers. But the one thing about black c or about white culture is we're taught to give people the benefit of the doubt. And we're taught to assume the best. And we're taught to um not steal, not cheat people. Like I have a contractor um I probably I don't know if I should say that, but I'll just say I put him in a position where he has a lot of trust um to like I don't I don't want to say too much, but he's in a position that I have to put a lot of trust in him. And I'm not even the slightest bit worried he'd take advantage of it because he's an older white guy and they just and it's just incredible how we constantly talk and we [ __ ] on white men um in society. Like I've heard this anti-white rhetoric for like 20 years. And just my experience from being in different cultures is that white people do the best with the most trust that you give them. Like a white guy could have the key the lot like the key to your house and he would never steal it or do something with it. Now there's exceptions. Obviously there's white people that commit white collar crimes. This isn't always and it's not always with black people, right? We got to look at people as individuals. However, as a group, um, I've just never had the same problem with white people that I've had with black people. When it comes to stealing, um, when it comes to trying to overcharge you, taking advantage, like I I've just never really had those issues ever. So, I don't know. This is just my

So what tends to happen is white people are kind of reacting the same way women are making men react where women have just taken advantage of men's kindness too much. They've um they've taken the free dinners, they've taken the money, they've taken the kindness, they've taken this, this this where the white men, they're the men in general, right? They're like, "I got nothing more to give. I I've given you it all." And I kind of got to that point with black people where I'm like, you know, I've given so many of you opportunities to come on my channel. Um I've run a bunch of your channels and you know the the lack of gratitude. It's just um incredible. And this isn't all obviously like I had black people that worked for me that were amazing and awesome and I would I would only say good things about. But um it's not all, but it's enough of them where white people get kind of bitter. Um and I would say it's the same thing with men and women where it's like a lot of the patterns that you see with women. Um white people are kind of going through the same thing where we're just sick of um we're just sick of being so nice and being taken advantage of. Um, you know, you got to you got to think about it from my position. This guy, I I brought him on my channel. I paid him for a year. Um, and I invited him to my personal birthday party and in repayment he called me a colonizer. Um, a different person did very similar things, stole a camera from me, right? And the list just goes on and on and on and on. And like um there's just a point where white people aren't going to fight. We just walk away. We say, "Well, uh I guess I'm going to live in a white area and I'm going to be more discerning in the future." Because you can't keep, you know, you can't call people suckers for getting taken advantage of and then be surprised when we walk away.

So anyways, um that's just my observations. This will be my coffee talk tomorrow. And if you have different observations, that's totally fine. I'm not here to tell anybody what to think or how to feel. So if you have different observations, let me know in the comments. Um and I could also talk about some of the positives of black culture. I know white people like to pretend there's none. I actually do think there are some positives that, you know, they do better. So, um, anyways, different video, different day. If you want that, I'll I'll give it.