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So, today I wanted to talk a little bit about, um, what I've been seeing going on. Um, and this is kind of jarring a little. Uh, this particular story, and shout out to Professor Carol Tone Jones who sent this to me. Um, it's, it, you, you pretty much got to see it to believe it. So, as usual, this is a, this is about a 19-minute clip or video, but I'm going to be playing, playing it on one and a half speed. So, let's check out what it's dealing with.
Happening now, Xavier Davis is in court to be sentenced. Davis is the man who pleaded guilty. There you see. To killing a couple and their little girl back in 2021 in a murder-for-hire plot. This is video from that scene back in 2021. The couple's 10-year-old daughter was also shot in the arm. During the attack, the child tells police she played dead before [music] locking the door and calling her grandmother. A 1-year-old boy was also inside at the time but was not hurt. Davis, who was 28 at the time, admitted to killing a family after being hired by a woman, Alexis [music] Williams, who was having an affair with the mother. Williams remains in jail on capital murder charges. [music] Our Cathy Hernandez is in the courtroom and will provide us updates as this case unfolds.
A woman in another part of Houston is [music] watching a family die. She's holding a phone. She isn't there in person. She made sure of that. On the other end of that call, a man in black is moving through an apartment with a silver revolver. A father, >> [music] >> a mother, a 6-year-old. All dead in under a minute. A 10-year-old shot in the arm lying still on the floor next to her 1-year-old [music] brother listening for footsteps. The woman holding the phone is the person who set all of this up. She used to date the mother. She used to sleep in that apartment. She'd been to that kitchen. A week earlier, the mother ended things and went back to her husband. So, she paid a childhood friend, picked up her phone, and tuned in. A few weeks later, she put on something nice and went to their funeral. Sat in a pew, looked appropriately sad. This is the case of Donyavia Lagway, Gregory Carhee, their daughter Harmony, and the woman who wanted a front row seat.
To understand how a family ended up dead in their own living room, you have to start with who they were before any of this. Donyavia Lagway was 29, [music] mother of four. She had just learned she was pregnant with her fifth. She lived with her husband, Gregory Carhee, [music] at the Tutoral Place Apartments off Fondren Road in Southwest Houston. The two of them had been through a rough patch. She'd been seeing someone else, and when that ended, she came home. By the summer of 2021, >> [music] >> they were trying again. The someone else was Alexis Williams. Williams and Donyavia had met around 2017. The relationship lasted a few years.
Okay, just to be clear, that is the woman in question, right? So, that's the woman who was the side piece that the wife was with for a little while and decided to go back to her husband. So, this is the woman that set up the entire situation, right? And it's interesting because we talk about intimate partner homicide, we're comfortable talking about it when it comes to heterosexual couples, especially if the man is the aggressor. We don't have a whole lot to say when it's a woman that's the aggressor, and she's doing so out of frustration, you know, at, uh, her, uh, female ex-lover going back to her husband, her man, whatever it may be, right? And when you look at the, the data around intimate partner violence, uh, in, um, lesbian couples, it makes sense. I mean, they tend to have the highest rates of intimate partner violence, but again, there's no, uh, large-scale conversation about that, right? 'Cuz, you know, the rule of thumb in the era of feminization is you can't criticize women. So, when women have the highest rates of abuse in relationships, we got to be quiet about it and redirect the conversation to heterosexual relationships. And let's continue.
It was real enough that Williams was spending nights at the apartment Donyavia shared with her family. Real enough that she knew the layout. Real enough to know what [music] was inside it. About a week before everything happened, Donyeavia ended it. Most people, when a relationship ends, [music] sit with it, cry, block the number, eat something they shouldn't, move on eventually. [music] Williams went a different direction. She reached out to a man she'd known since they were kids, Xavier Davis, 28 years old, freshly out of prison, no job, no car, no money. The kind of person whose life is fragile enough that the wrong phone call can tip it over. Williams made that call. [music] Prosecutors would later describe two different motives for the same crime. For Davis, it was money. Williams told him there was cash inside the apartment, several thousand dollars by her account, and whatever he found, he could keep. For Williams, it was personal.
On June 30th, 2021, the two of them spent part of the day together at a strip club. At some point in the afternoon, they split up. [music] Williams went one way. Davis went to find a car. He didn't buy one. He didn't borrow one. About an hour before the shooting, near the 10,000 block of Larkwood, he walked up to the owner of a Jeep Compass and [music] pointed a gun at him. He took the Jeep. He drove it across town. The texts between him and Williams kept coming all day. Long ones, back and forth. By 10:30 that night, the Jeep was parked outside the Tutoro Place [music] Apartments. Inside, Donyeavia was in the living room with Gregory and three of her children. Their 8-year-old son was out for the night with his uncle. Harmony, six, was on the couch. >> [music] >> Lyric, 10, was nearby. The 1-year-old was on the floor. A man in all black walked up to the door. He raised the phone in his hand so the woman on the other end could see. Then he knocked. Donyeavia opened the door. She didn't recognize the man on the other side. He was dressed head to toe in black. He [music] had a phone in one hand, a silver Smith & Wesson revolver in the other. He forced his way in. >> [music] >> The family was in the living room, Gregory, Donyeavia, Harmony on the couch, Lyric nearby, the 1-year-old on the floor. The first thing Davis did was grab the baby by the hair and throw him across the room. Then he turned the gun on Gregory. He shot Gregory in the head. Then Donyeavia. Both of them died in front of their children. Then he turned the gun on the two girls. Both of them had their hands raised. He shot Harmony in the head. She died on the couch. He shot Lyric. The bullet hit the bone in her forearm and stopped there. >> [music] >> The force knocked her down. She stayed down. She kept her body between Davis and her 1-year-old brother. She didn't move. She didn't make a sound. She just listened. He killed three people and one of them was a 6-year-old child. 6 years old. He had no mercy for us. 6 years old. The baby, she's 6.
While she lay there, Davis ransacked the apartment looking for money. He took whatever he could find. The phone in his hand, the one with Williams on the other end, captured all of it. When he was done, he left. Lyric waited. She listened for the door to close. >> [music] >> She listened for footsteps. She listened until she was sure. Then she got up. She had a bullet in her arm. Her parents and her sister [music] were dead in the room around her. She picked up her baby brother. She walked to the door. She locked it. She picked up a phone and FaceTimed her grandmother. She was 10 years old. While that was happening, Davis was driving. He still had the Jeep he carjacked earlier that night and he needed it gone. So, he pulled into a gas station, walked up to the counter, and bought a box of matches with the money he had just taken from a dead family. He got a single dollar back in change. He drove the Jeep out to an open [music] field. He set it on fire. He left the matches there. He left a gas can there. And, [music] small detail, he left a cell phone there, too. A cell phone full of photos of him, registered to his mother. Right, because that was going to throw off investigators.
By morning, the apartment on Fondren was full of police. A 10-year-old girl was at the hospital. Three bodies were on their way to the medical examiner. And across town in a field, a burned-out Jeep with a melted gas can next to it had been called in. Detectives connected the two scenes within hours. A Jeep Compass had been seen leaving Fondren that night. >> [music] >> The matches at the burn site matched a brand sold at a nearby gas station. The station surveillance camera caught a man at the counter paying cash, walking out with a dollar in change. Then the anonymous tip [music] came in. Someone called police, said they knew who did it, gave a name, Xavier Davis. Said he was at his girlfriend's apartment on West Fuqua Street. >> [music] >> When officers showed up, Davis ran. They caught him. In his pockets, $3,000 in cash. Inside the apartment, the silver Smith & Wesson revolver and two hollow-point bullets with red polymer tips. >> [music] >> The same kind pulled from the heads of the people he had killed. He was arrested in early July 2021, >> [music] >> 28 years old, just out of prison weeks before the murders. The case looked closed. It wasn't.
Investigators kept saying [music] from the beginning that they didn't think Davis had acted alone. The level of planning was wrong for one person. The shooter did.
Now, this is where it gets a little interesting because, uh, when we talk over here about, uh, pit bulling, about, in other words, we, we talk about the act of a woman initiating violence against usually another black man by invoking a black man. >> [snorts] >> Um, it's difficult to find this out in the data. It's [music] difficult to see how often this happens 'cuz essentially what you're talking about is assassination, right? But it usually gets logged as, you know, assault or murder or something of that nature because it's one man killing another man. Right? And so, if there's a woman that instigates this, that hires somebody, something of that nature, it kind of gets swept under the rug and often unproved because there's no available data usually for this kind of thing to stick. And we believe it actually happens far more than people think. Honestly. But as long as it can't be proved, it gets dismissed and the conversation remains about black men killing other black men. But, um, this is a situation where the police decided to go further and investigate, you know, contrary to what we might imagine in a regular situation where they may not even question if the person was hired, uh, or something of that nature. Let's continue.
Didn't know the family. Someone had pointed him at that specific door on that specific [music] night with the promise of a specific amount of cash inside. And there was the phone. Davis had been on a video call during the murders. [music] They could see it. They could time it. They could see who he had been calling. It would take detectives months to crack that second phone [music] and months more to sort through what was on it. Long text messages between two people on the day of the crime, photos, encrypted data. When they were finally done, they had a name they had already suspected, Alexis Williams. The arrest came in March 2022, 8 months after the murders. Alexis Williams was 29. She walked into a Harris County courtroom and was told she'd been charged with three counts of capital murder. >> [music] >> She only spoke once during the bond hearing. "Alexis Williams."
>> "29-year-old Alexis Williams faced a judge tonight for the first time. She's charged with three counts of capital murder, accused of setting up a plot that left a mother, a father, and a child [music] dead. Mother of four broke things off with Williams and returned to her husband, which allegedly angered Williams to the point of murder. If that's the consequence of bailing this defendant, nobody in Harris County is safe." >> Bail hearing, her bond was denied. She was not a legitimate government, although she coordinated the entire, um, event, it appears. Eight months. That's how long Williams had been free between the night of the killings and the morning [music] of her arrest. Eight months of going about her life. Eight months of not being a suspect, at least not officially. Eight months, somewhere in the middle of which she had attended the funerals of the people she had paid someone to kill.
Now, this is, you know, this is the kind of thing you hear about when you hear about, uh, serial killers, right? People who will kill folks and go to the funerals or, uh, kidnap and kill somebody and show up at the search where everybody's looking for the person. This is that it's strange how you can see that kind of behavior.
And so, an interesting question to ask might be, are, is there a category for the type of women who kill by proxy? Right? And are rarely held accountable for it, they're rarely caught for their acts, but actually have made this a regular thing in some fashion, whether through manipulation, whether through payment and assassination.
Um, you know, I've talked about this before, Warren Farrell in his book The Myth of Male Power, most particularly the earlier version in the 1980s, talked about women who initiate, uh, assassinations. And he said it's class-based in terms of how they do it. That they do it is just a, it, it, it's, it's a regular occurrence. He said it's, it's par for the course, but when he talked about class, he said they do it in different ways. He said poor women will often use sex to manipulate men into killing someone else. Like a, like a wife who wants to get an insurance payout from her husband's death, uh, she may use sex to get another man to commit the act of murder, and she'll collect the payment. Whereas wealthier women will tend to use money. They'll pay for an assassin, a professional, to do something of this nature.
Now, in this case, you have a little bit of a mix of thing. Now, they don't suggest that the woman in question who initiated all this was having sex with the gentleman who committed the act, but they do suggest that if she didn't pay him out of pocket, she definitely let him know that there would be plenty of cash there, and he left with $3,000 in cash. And this is apparently someone that didn't have a pot to piss in. This is someone who had a prison sentence, had a record, and didn't have anything. So, he was quite desperate, uh, all the more stoking the flames for him, him wanting to jump in on this endeavor. But again, this is something she coordinated, she put together. And it's, it's a strange occurrence that she's being held accountable for it, but it is nonetheless the case. Right?
But I'm just raising the question. If we were to talk about, 'cuz we noticed this when we started to talk about grape in black male studies, we noticed that when we actually started to control for how, when women and men function differently, there were, were different styles of aggression and, and, and violation that we could talk about in relationship to how women and men function differently. And it's not to say the concepts that came about were exclusive to women, but they were clearly initiated by women's approach to violence, right? So, if you talk about, um, you know, uh, what is it, um, Oh goodness, what's the term? Um, when you're, Ooh, hold on. Let me pull this up because now I'm not going to be able to forget about it, but it's, it's important to the conversation because it speaks to how we commit various acts of aggression. And, uh, I just gave this on a quiz the other day, but since my semester's over, um, I'm just, I'm a little out of it. Uh, damn it. Whenever I leave Facebook up, that's what all this pinging happens. I apologize.
All right, made to penetrate. Excuse me for that. Made to penetrate. Right? So, that's a category of sexual violation that doesn't, it isn't exclusive to women, but I think the very idea of it is, is inspired by studying how women aggress differently than men. In the same fashion, if we're talking about serial killing, but we're talking about a style of serial killing that might be a result of, um, proxy, where you're, you're hiring or manipulating, uh, someone else to commit the act for you. That, that may not be exclusive to women, but it's definitely, uh, aggressing in a more, more consistent capacity, right? To violently take out someone that they have an aggression toward, but they don't have to, to commit the act themselves. [music]
Anyway, here we go. She had known this family. She had slept in that apartment. [music] The woman she had dated was in one of the caskets. The 6-year-old she had probably held was in another. >> [music] >> And she went.
Xavier Davis didn't make it to a jury verdict. He didn't even make it through opening statements. On the morning of March 24th, 2025, almost 4 years after [music] the murders, a Harris County courtroom was packed for the first day of his capital murder trial. Prosecutors were ready. The defense was ready. The jury was seated. The judge was seated. Family members of the victims were in the gallery. And Davis stood up and pleaded guilty. Three counts of capital murder. The second the words left his mouth, the trial collapsed into a single question. Would he live or would he die? Texas hadn't put a Harris County defendant on death row since 2022. The state was asking for that to change.
His own defense team didn't argue that he hadn't done it. They couldn't. They argued that Williams had pushed him into it. >> [music] >> They called her a hideous human being. They said Davis had just gotten out of prison. No job, no car, no money. They said there are forces that can act on a person and make them do things other people wouldn't. The jury sat through 10 days of state testimony. Lyric, older now but still a child, [music] took the stand and told them what she had seen. After 4 hours of deliberation, the jury came back unanimous on [music] every question. Yes, he would always be a danger. No, there were not enough mitigating factors [music] to spare him. The sentence was death. Davis is appealing.
Alexis Williams is still waiting on her own trial. She has pleaded not guilty. She is being held without bond at the Harris County Jail. The Carhi children who survived are being raised by their grandmothers. >> [music] >> Lyric had several surgeries to repair the damage from her wound. She testified against the man who shot her family. She is, by every account, an extraordinary kid. Her brothers, >> [music] >> the 8-year-old who was at his uncle's house that night, and the 1-year-old who survived because she stayed between him and the gun, >> [music] >> are growing up alongside her. Danyevia would have been 34 this year. Gregory would have been 40. Harmony never made it past 6. Alexis Williams is in a cell at the Harris County Jail waiting on a jury that hasn't been picked yet. And the 10-year-old girl who lay still on the floor while a man with a gun walked past her. The one who got up, locked the door, picked up her baby brother, and called for help. She [music] is still here. The bullet stopped at the bone. The bone held. She is still here.
Xavier Davis massacred a family. At the start of the trial, Xavier Davis told jurors he did it, entering a guilty plea. Davis will now die for his heinous crime. After weeks of testimony, the jury has sentenced Davis to death for gunning down an entire family, including two little girls >> inside their own Southwest Houston apartment.
>> [music] >> "We just haven't really got everything, so it's emotional. What are your thoughts regarding somebody who could do that to?" >> "I'm sorry. Are you okay?" A knock at the family's front door on June 30th, 2021 ended or changed many lives. It was Davis at the door, and he soon did the unthinkable, demanding money, then shooting a father, Gregory Carhi Sr., a mother, Danyevia Lagway, and their two little girls, 6-year-old Harmony and a 10-year-old who survived. [music]
>> "He executed a 6-year-old. He left a 10-year-old for dead. He took away all the money that he had down the drain. Xavier Davis took that pistol and he put it to Xavier's head. Pulled the trigger one time, killing him. Next, he turned that same pistol on Donelia. Put the gun to her head. He pulled the trigger, killing her."
Now, notice how easily they, they can create this narrative and reinforce it. Now, I'm not saying that they're wrong. Obviously, he did the murders. There's no question about that. I'm not absolving him of that. I'm not suggesting that there should be no accountability or responsibility. He's already getting the death, gotten the death sentence. So, that is what it is. And I'm not refuting that it shouldn't be that. But, notice how much difficulty they seem to have with including the woman who initiated all of this in this [music] narrative, right? The, the wheels have already been greased for black men to be a part of this when they commit heinous acts. There's no question about that. But, notice how you haven't heard a word in all of this. Now, obviously, this particular case is about him. But, even the narrator of the video has taken a long pause to focus on this component of it. And that's, you know, that is what it is. But, again, I'm just pointing out the extent to which it seems that people have almost a kind of cognitive dissonance when it comes to, you know, women who are involved and have initiated violence on this scale even by proxy. Right? Here we go.
Anyway, then the defendant turned and pointed the gun to her. Age six years old. Pointed at her head. And he pulled the trigger once. Remember I said her hands were up by her head? The bullet went through her arm and into [music] her brain, killing her.
The now 14-year-old survivor testified saying before the bullets rang out, her infant brother, who couldn't even walk yet, was crawling and began to cry. Through tears, she told jurors [music] Davis picked the baby up by his hair, dangled him in the air, and shoved the gun in the baby's side. The baby was not shot, neither was, was couple's 9-year-old son who wasn't home at the time. The little girl says she soon cradled her head in her arms as Davis opened fire on her family. [music]
"It's hard for us because those children have to go on. They have, they live a different life now, now that their parents are gone. They live a, a much different life and, um, >> [music] >> they're hurting. This is a bad childhood. Similar to Xavier Davis's, it's a bad childhood, but I just pray that she doesn't allow this [music] to determine, you know, her future."
>> "Yeah." Defense attorneys told jurors to look no further than Davis's childhood to know why he would commit such a monstrous act. According to the defense, Davis joined a gang at 11 years old and lived with little food or supervision. At 13, Davis would begin his life of crime incarcerated for trying to rob a man at a McDonald's, then getting into a shootout. He was released at 19. Two months later, he was back behind bars for an armed robbery at a barbershop. After that, a violent home invasion. He served 8 years in prison. Five months after he got out, in June 2021, Davis shot four members of the Carhee family.
>> "And now he's in front of you for the sentence that he has earned. At just 32 years old, Davis has been locked up longer than he was ever free."
"There are a lot of children that has the same type of background, but, um, they've done something with their lives. So, I don't have sympathy for the adult, but for, for him being a child, yes, I do."
"Do you feel like he's just evil?" "Uh, yes. Yes, very much. 'Cuz we've all came from, you know, some type of background. [music] And it's up to you if you want to be, you know, a victim of it. I just wish it wouldn't have happened. Things would just be so, you know, so different. You know, it, it, it caused a lot of strain on our family."
"When you look at a senseless and brutal [music] killing like this one, the question has to be raised, what could possibly sufficiently mitigate that? It's not that there [music] isn't any mitigation. Life itself is mitigating. We all go through hard and difficult things. And so, it's not about whether or not there is mitigation. It's about whether or not [music] that mitigation is sufficient to warrant a sentence of life over death. And how do you sufficiently mitigate the [music] execution-style killing of a little girl in front of her parents?"
"Life would be a slap on the wrist 'cuz he's, he's used to being in jail. So, I really feel like that would be a slap on the wrist. So, the death penalty is what he deserves."
Hey, see? So, there's, there's no problem whatsoever suggesting that he should get the death penalty. But notice how you didn't even hear, uh, the woman's name for the rest of the entire video after that. That's how smoothly she kind of disappeared. We do not know how to properly account for women that either initiate violence or participated in it and, and a, and, and a to a large degree. We know how to do it for men. There's no problem there. They pull the switch, easily done. The public, you know, rallies around it. It is what it is. When women are involved, there are question marks, there are pauses, there are silences, there are lapses in coverage, and definitely when it comes to international news, there's a serious downplay in, uh, mentioning her involvement. Right? 'Cuz I didn't hear, I haven't heard this case on a large scale. Maybe some of you have. You let me know. But as one gentleman on my Facebook page pointed out, and this is, uh, shout out to D. Schwartz, uh, Schwartz says, "I wonder if they even include cases such as this in the female female DV stats. She needs to be sitting right next to him when they hit the switch or give the injection. Connect these veins so they don't have to spend extra on the chemicals." In other words, he has no problem with her being held accountable to the same degree of the killer himself because she initiated the killing. Right? And will that be the public perception? We don't know.
Now, I want to clarify something else. I've talked on this channel before about pit bulling, about blue leashing, and there are, you know, uh, some of the terms we've developed around that. And this one, believe it or not, is kind of a gray area. Because really, it's, it's a, it's a lesbian woman who is punishing a previous relationship partner, a lesbian, another lesbian woman, but she's doing so by assassinating husband and children alongside the lesbian woman. So, there's some gray area here. And even though this is not completely a case of the new concept I'm going to share with you, it is partially such. So, at least I can use this to make you aware of it.
Now, this is pit bulling as we've talked about before. We even have merchandise on this to help popularize the idea so people can more readily identify it, right? It is the act of a black female using a black male like an attack dog, usually on another black male, not primarily out of fear or danger, but as a means of control, discipline, or retaliation, weaponizing chivalry while keeping him on a leash. Right?
And it can reach the point of assassination. You know, it's not just about control or, or, or trying to manipulate, it can result in assassination, death. So, pit bulling is at play on one level or another here because you have a black woman sending a black man to not just kill a family, but most particularly to kill the husband. Right? It is a black man on black man dynamic, but as I said in the definition here, it's not primarily out of fear or danger, but as a means of control, um, discipline, or retaliation. And this was an act of retaliation. She was angry that she had gotten, the relationship was cut off. You know, she, the woman left her, and so she was retaliating.
But keep in mind, there's also another concept that this is kind of overshadowing as well. This is black leashing. Shout out to Charles Merchant who came up with this concept and I want to say September 24, it might have been that long ago. Um, but I never actually formally introduced it. I was kind of waiting on a case to do it, and I wasn't looking for a case, although I'm sure I could find one, but I just decided since this one was, you know, close enough I'd at least introduce the concept.
So, black leashing is the act of a black woman calling for criminal or illegal resources such as outside the law actors, threats, street level violence, setups, or assassination level coercion to control, punish, or keep a black man on a leash. Now, keep in mind this can also result in assassination. It doesn't have to be left at the, the level of attempts to control, it can lead to death just like pit bulling.
And inasmuch as pit bulling is a part of what happened here, you know, if you get into the weeds on the details, pit bulling doesn't really involve being paid. Usually you're talking about family members, boyfriends, spouses, you know, that are called into action by a black woman to assassinate someone else or to, you know, as I read with the definition of pit bulling, attack them for one reason or another. It's usually familial, you know, socially based, familially based. Black leasing is different. Black leasing is different.
But black leasing involves, um, bringing in, um, somebody who's a known criminal or, or, you know, involved in some kind of illegal endeavor, might be a gang member or whatnot, and using that person to attack someone else. It's usually a black woman that's calling for a criminal, uh, engagement, but she's usually referencing a black man involved in criminality to some degree as a, in an attempt to control, punish, um, or, you know, assassinate a black male, right? So, instead of using the state, where you're talking about the law, where you're talking about courts, where you're talking about police, and that's blue leasing. Black leasing involves criminality. Right? So, she calls a gang member on you. If she calls a mob boss, if she calls any type of criminal, uh, resource, illegal resource as a way of either attempting to control you out of retaliation, anger, or as a form of assassination, this is what we refer to as black leasing.
Now, the key component here is that sometimes it can be a family member that happens to be involved in, in criminal endeavors, right? So, you can see pit bulling and black leashing kind of overlap a little bit. But, if she's paying a criminal, that leans us more into black leashing. Right? Now, she, they said at the very beginning, I don't recall if they said if she actually paid him, but they did say she let him know that there would be thousands of dollars on the premises that he could keep if he engaged in that. And when they found him, he had $3,000 in cash in his pocket. Right? So, like I said, it, it, this, this kind of, uh, you know, it, it kind of blurs the lines between pit bulling and black leashing, but at least wanted you to know. So, if you run into any other cases where this is more what you see, uh, feel free to let me know. We could talk about it along those lines.
But, I just wanted to kind of share those different things because I think we need to really be clear about what kinds of things we've been witnessing. And these things, the things I'm telling you about are not new. These are things that, you know, we've seen our great grandparents or we may, may not have, may not have seen it, but our great grandparents may have been involved in at different points in time. Right? Pit bulling, blue leashing, black leashing, none of these things are new. But, as long as they're things we've always seen, but never named, they just tend to happen and we just tend to ignore them.
Really, when you look at the rise of feminism, black feminism in particular, they started to name things that we had always seen. Right? Particularly in regard to intimate partner violence or what they used to call domestic violence. And so, once they named it, all of a sudden you had all these cases of men beating women that became all the rage. And everybody said, "Oh my god, these men are monsters." Well, all right. I'm not saying those, those cases didn't take place. I'm saying that the way that the, the definition was framed, the only phenomena we paid attention to were, was men aggressing against women because that's how the, the context, that's how the concept, excuse me, was framed. But, once you start to talk about bidirectionality, once you start to point out the various ways that women aggress against men, you know, like made to penetrate, you start to be able to create new ways of framing phenomena. Right? So, then we can have a conversation about blue leashing, we can have conversation about pit bulling, and you can, and, and you'll actually see more occurrences of it because it's always happened. It's just been unnamed. Right?
So, anyway, hope this was, uh, useful to you. I look forward to hearing your thoughts about this, and if you have any experiences to bring to bear on any of these concepts, please share them in the comment section. I will holler at y'all later. Peace.