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Now I'm going to say it right here and right now. Our society has a big problem. This your baby. This your baby. And that's what I'm going to say when I see him. I'm going to say, "This your baby." Hell, single motherhood is now becoming the new norm. Something is in the air. And by that, I mean legs. Because why is everybody making a pregnancy announcement this week? Did you know that the US has the highest rate of children being born in single-parent homes? That means one in three kids are most likely being raised by a single mother. Now, America, come on. That is a damn shame.
Hey guys, welcome back to Chrissy Comments where we sit in my living room and talk about the foolishness and debauchery of our world. Now, today we are going to be discussing the topic of single motherhood in America. Okay, pop culture likes to call it "baby mama culture." And I think that's a fair and accurate assessment, as we have countless numbers of women having, uh, these dusty babies with no commitment and no marriage. I did a video on this previously and, um, to say the least, yes, I think we all can agree that we have a baby mama culture issue, and we have this which is perpetuating a single motherhood issue. Baby, every summer. Don't get me wrong, I blame both parties, okay? Uh, I blame women for, uh, giving our bodies to F boys, okay? Constantly giving our bodies to F boys that don't give a damn about us. Um, you'll hear me say that a lot. And then also, I blame men who continuously fail to reach their potential, economically, whether that's emotionally, economically, uh, uh, scholarly. I mean, they fail to reach their potential, and this is perpetuating this single mother, the, the, the rising single motherhood rate.
So, the topic of single motherhood and baby mama culture is under scrutiny right now in response to Disney star Sky Jackson announcing that she is pregnant. "One month, two months, three months. Flop. Hit the baby mama when I'm stepping through the door. Yeah, I'm pregnant, but I got an ill flow. Trying to make some money, buy some Huggies from the store." We see her with this big baby bump, and everyone is like, "Girl, what happened?" Like, one, you're so young. You were the face of Disney, and you're also pregnant to some dusty con man. I don't know, he's straight out of jail. Um, and it was very disheartening to see, just because we had hoped so much more for her. Um, and I have to say, the, the names that have been under scrutiny, especially around this topic, have been like, uh, Sky Jackson, uh, H.E.R., Bailey, okay? Another face of Disney, our, our, our mermaid princess. Um, and also another person like, uh, Keke Palmer. H.E.R. Bailey and DDG called it quits less than one year after welcoming their son. How is motherhood and fatherhood treating you? Wonderful. I love our baby so much. One year since Keke and ex-boyfriend Darius Jackson's relationship came crashing down and ended up in court with allegations of domestic violence and a custody battle over now 20-month-old son, Leo.
So, when we see these women who are announcing their pregnancies, it's happening, happening quite frequently. You do start to wonder, like, what is perpetuating this constant, uh, image of single mothers? Um, and why, why do we think that this will not have serious consequences on society, culture, and today's youth that are looking at these, uh, notable stars now bearing children technically on their own? Now, I know the elephant in the room, uh, people get a little bit upset when sometimes I use examples of Black people or Black women in general, and they'll go, "Oh my gosh, there's other single, single mothers and baby mother Ms." Yes, you are right. Um, but I hate to break it to you, Black women are really leading the charge in the single motherhood rate right now. 47% of single mothers are Black. That is staggering. And Latinos don't fall too far behind with 25% of Latino women being single mothers. But what kills me is that that is, those numbers are very alarming compared to white women, who only hold 13% of single motherhood. Now, I don't know about you, but to me, that is a dead ringer that there is something wrong with our culture. And when I say "our," I mean like Black culture, right? And Hispanics, y'all might want to look at yourselves and say something's wrong with your culture too, because why do we have such an alarming, a higher rate of single mothers than our white counterparts? And I'm not trying to make this a race issue, these are just these statistics and facts about it. And I say this all to say that unfortunately, the minority groups are leading the charge in single motherhood, and that worries me.
I grew up in a single-parent household with my mom, and I had seven other siblings. My mom was on government assistance for a while, uh, to be able to help feed us and things. This is generational poverty. People are often born into poverty, and it's been poverty that their mother, their grandmother, etc., has experienced. For a family of four, it's defined as making less than $26,000 a year. More than 38 million Americans live in poverty. For Black Americans, it's one in every five, higher than Latinos, Asian Americans, and more than double the rate of white Americans. Blacks and Hispanics need to take this seriously because we are the ones who are always talking about how we have economic, uh, disparities and that sometimes we have an unfair start in a white society. Well, how do you think you're going to get a good start when you're already starting off on the wrong foot by having kids in a single-parent home? Because the numbers don't lie. Children born in a single-parent home most likely will have economic disparities compared to children born in two-parent homes. So the math is not mathing when we're crying about having economic hardships at a disparaging rate compared to white people in America, but yet we are perpetuating the economic hardship for ourselves. Like, seriously, why are we giving our families a disadvantage? That disadvantage is knowingly putting your child in a single-parent home, whether that be with a mother or father. And with Black women at 47%, that shows a huge cultural break between Black men and Black women, and we're putting our homes and children at a disadvantage by doing that. So we can't sit up here and blame the man, you know, for all of our struggles. Well, we can control the children we reproduce and how we reproduce them and what world we produce them in.
So, in a previous video that I did, and I was talking about baby mama culture as well, I had people in the comments who were a little offended that I was calling certain women baby mamas. And, you know, they were like, "My friend has three kids and divorced, and I would never call her a baby mama." And I'm like, "Yeah, okay, I know that. All right. My mom too, she had two kids, ended up divorcing. I don't sit and call her a baby mama." Um, I'm, I'm not talking about that. And we are very clear that there is a triad of reasons of why women end up in single motherhood. Okay? That could be the death of a spouse, um, or the number one of the reasons is divorce. Okay? Yes, people get married, have families, and the relationship doesn't work out, and you end up in a divorce, and now you are a single mother. That happens all too often, and the divorce rates are even more, are way higher than they used to be in past decades. Um, so I'm, I'm very, uh, uh, I'm very sensitive and aware of that fact. But I'm not talking about those people. I, I'm more so talking about the, the glamorization that we see in pop culture and social media, like a Kylie Jenner, who I will get into in a second, and a Keke Palmer, and a Sky Jackson, and a H.E.R. Bailey, which is like, y'all just think this, y'all just think this is cool to be displaying, especially to young fans or to a younger generation in society. And I say that because you are a celebrity, you are a known public figure, your actions are looked at closely and scrutinized. So people are like, "Why y'all act like y'all going to have them kids?" You know, why do you judge them so hard? No one's judging them or acting like I'm going to raise their kids. I'm just saying, listen, you chose to be in the limelight, so yeah, you will be under fire for some of your actions that you do. One of those actions are that we are seeing that it is just becoming normal for these women to have kids outside of marriage and with no commitment and just having these babies on their goddamn own. And my problem is that it is being glamorized in media. You know, you have a Sexy Red who made a song about being a baby mama. It's in our music. It's in, it's in rap music, it's in R&B music. Scott, what's her name? Um, Summer Walker, literally her last two albums was about being a baby mama. Jesus. And we wonder why Black women have the highest baby motherhood rate because I don't know, one of our favorite R&B singers sits and talks about, "You didn't pick up your kids." I mean, like, come on. I don't know what's wrong with me. You're young, so what that mean? Pop this, pop it, pop it. Severely. Just wrap it up, right? Because, you know, with popping it, Mhm, comes gift money and inspiration for new music. Yeah. And maybe if you're feeling frisky, a bundle of joy. Oh, so you, you pop it if you want to. We have The Shade Room, who always highlights all of the IG girls who had a baby by some athlete or some rapper, like a Ari Fletcher and, uh, uh, Jada Waah, and all of her, all of their sisters having their babies and kids and living the lime life, having their bust-down weaves and riding Renges and Ferraris and iced-out wrists and living their best life, living this glamorous, uh, uh, beautiful life. And then sometimes put the kid in the camera and then talk about how they got gifted a really expensive gift or a new bag from some guy that they're dating. So yeah, it looks really glamorous to go get pregnant by a rich dude, even if they're not committed to you, even if they're cheating on you. All right, our culture has made that acceptable. It has made it normal. It's made it glamorous.
Single mothers often are usually struggling. Okay? They, sometimes they are barely scraping by. They have to deal with juggling work and child care simultaneously, which often puts an extreme burden on the mother, on her mental health, leading into depression, anxiety. It's taking her out of the home because she has to go work and provide for her and her children on her own. And her being out of the home will lead to issues with the children in the home. Children are often left behind because their mom has to go out and work or has other priorities. Now, because there's not another parent in the home, these children often have low self-esteem. They feel abandoned because their parent, their mom or their parent, is not in the home. That will lead to, uh, uh, behavioral issues in school. They go under the radar, and they also are more likely to engage in criminal activity. These are just the facts. These are statistics. These are statistics of single mothers and the children that they raise compared to women who raise their children in a two-parent household. What are the differences and outcomes for kids growing up in a single-parent versus a two-parent household? If a kid only lives in a household with, you know, a one parent or an unmarried mother, which is mostly the case, there's a, you know, there's a chance of living in poverty are five times higher. It's not surprising that kids from married parent households live in households with more income. Okay, income is a big part of the reason why these kids do better. Why? Because their parents can spend more on housing in better neighborhoods. They get access to better schools. We see that, you know, these parents spend more on their kids and enriching activities and educational activities. They basically have more opportunities. And another thing, single mothers actually heavily rely on government assistance, needing, uh, uh, free child care or SNAP benefits, which can lead a burden on taxpayers. So this leads a lot to argue that single motherhood is not just a social problem, but an economic one. And that is why I'm saying America really needs to look closely at this and start reeling this back from our culture as from being a norm in our culture because the financial strength on communities and the economy as a whole is undeniable.
So, in conclusion, single motherhood is a very complex situation. Um, I, I really, my concern are that Blacks and Latinos are holding first and second place for this, and I really want, um, our communities to really take a step back and to see, like, okay, what is causing this? Um, you know, why aren't our men thriving to provide financially and emotionally for our families? Why aren't our women taking, um, who they're giving their body to seriously, or, uh, taking seriously on how to plan to not be pregnant? You know, um, maybe some family planning. What are the, um, economic disadvantages or the educational disadvantages on what is, what is making our communities the face of single motherhood and baby mama culture? That is definitely worrisome. But all in all, I think all races across the board, um, our entire society as Americans, we should be worried that we are really leaning away from traditional family values and leaning more towards, you know, higher divorce or really just not getting married altogether because it is creating, um, an upside-down dynamic in the home, which will have challenges for children, which ultimately will have challenges for society. So guys, please let me know in the comments below what do you think about the prevalence of single motherhood in our society? Do you think that it's actually that it's being perpetuated or promoted, um, or do you think that we are just overanalyzing and need to leave people alone and what they do with their lives and their bodies? So guys, thank you for listening to me rant and rave about the foolishness and debauchery of our world, and I will see you all on the next video. Bye.